Dementia and Power of Attorney: Medical and Financial Power of Attorney for Dementia

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Dementia Careblazers

Dementia Careblazers

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Welcome to the place where I share dementia tips, strategies, and information for family members caring for a loved one with any type of dementia (such as Alzheimer's disease, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia, frontotemporal dementia, etc.)
Today’s video is all about Power of Attorney. Make sure to stay tuned to the end when I specifically answer basic POA questions from another Careblazer. Things you will learn in this video include:
What is a Power of Attorney
Should you or your loved one have a Power of Attorney
How does a power of attorney help and when can I use a power of attorney?
What’s the difference between a medical and financial power of attorney?
Can more than one person be a power of attorney?
As always, if you have a question about dementia, leave it in a comment below, or on my FB page, and I will try to do a future video answering your question. I really want to make Careblazers as helpful as possible to you so let me know what would be most helpful to you!
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In case you haven’t met me, my name is Natali Edmonds and I am a board certified geropsychologist. That means that I am a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with older adults. One day, while hiking a trail, I came up with the idea for Careblazers and I decided to see if posting videos online could provide help to the many other Careblazers in the world who don’t get to have help come directly to them in their homes. I hope that this work helps you in some way on your caregiving journey.
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@sherrybrown1811
@sherrybrown1811 3 жыл бұрын
I am 67 years old. I was diagnosed with dementia 4 years ago. I take 2 different meds everyday to try and get my dementia to slow down. So far I am maintaining just fine. I thank you so much for your videos, I learn from them too.
@prometheusali5056
@prometheusali5056 2 жыл бұрын
What are u taking? My mom has " mild" dementia
@johntaylor1359
@johntaylor1359 2 жыл бұрын
Wot meds?
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
Thats amazing! So happy for you. What is the medicatuon that you take?
@anadventure1298
@anadventure1298 2 жыл бұрын
How were you diagnosed? What dr diagnosed you?
@hoahang7961
@hoahang7961 2 жыл бұрын
What kind of medications you take? Can you tell?
@ungarlinski7965
@ungarlinski7965 3 жыл бұрын
My mother is 83 and I am 48. A couple of months ago I moved back home from out-of-state b/c for the past two years my Mom has been showing symptoms: repeating stories every 10 minutes, making up stories e.g. she was in 9/11, mixing up stories, acting paranoid about everyone, and short-term memory loss. She was writing me letters asking me if I am okay in prison and when will I be released, except I have never been to prison. She was hysterically calling and emailing and texting 4-5 times per day about having no money to have her taxes shredded and work done on her property and it sounded like it was an emergency. Yet at the same time she drove to the store everyday and paid her bills immediately. So I moved back to help out. And now not a peep about the taxes or getting the work done, and immediately when I pulled up was complaining about "all my stuff". Keep in mind she has always been a loving mother and had never said a bad word to me or ever even cursed. It also turns out that she pays for services and subscriptions she does not use either ever or not for a few years, and she can't remember anything about them or lies instead when asked. Anyway, four days ago all of a sudden she stormed out of the house and was gone for a few hours. When she got back she had a nasty scowl on her face and stayed that way for about 24 hours. I sat next to her to ask her if she was okay and she exploded cursing at me claiming I was trying to control her and to "get the fuck out of here" at the top of her lungs. I have never seen anything like it. It was frightening and I am somewhat scared to be here. I have been paying off her credit card since I've been here, doing work around the house, got her taxes shredded, etc., but she must think I am up to no good or something. I left home when I was 15 and had not been back until now or had too much contact with her. And now quite suddenly since the outburst she is nothing but mean to me and blames her credit card debt on me. It's downright bizarre this narrative she has. The credit card debt looks like it was various work-related items before retirement, car repair debt, and home repair debt. But when I listen closely to her stories it sounds like she thinks everyone has done her wrong and were criminals including all of the workmen she had hired to do various repairs over the years. I guess they were always hitting on her. Honestly, I think she has been financially irresponsible her entire life. Her parents paid for her college and paid for half the house and she never saved a dime but averaged about 50,000 USD per year. I find it very hard to have any real respect for her. Meanwhile I have been working remotely full time since the pandemic. Just wanted to get that out of me. Not sure what to do.
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
Hi curious on how things have gone this past yr. There really seems nowhere to turn.
@ungarlinski7965
@ungarlinski7965 2 жыл бұрын
@@SparkingLife111 It has been up and down. I have been adapting, but I have also decided not to live with her come 2023. It is irresponsible to myself. It feels like I am putting myself in a dangerous legal situation sometimes if I stay. Negative incidents: She has told people she has been kidnapped, that the exterminator has sexually assaulted her, that I am dead, that the doctor is trying to poison her, and so on. But each of the accusations is provably false. Unfortunately, based on accusations alone, people can get in a lot of trouble as you can imagine. If I am gone for more than an hour, she texts everyone with bizarre stories. It's like she falls apart. It's like you never know what she is going to say. On the positive side, I've seen how to navigate some of the strangeness a little at a time, and have grown less affected by her comments. I also see how friends, family, and businesses are blocking her phone number and telling her to stay away. I think this is a good thing b/c her twisting in the wind like this is establishing a history in case someone has any doubts. A part of me wanted to just get out and disappear from her life. We were not close and it's been 35 years since I've lived with her. But I also think doing so would accelerate her decline. I'm realizing that her negativity is really a symptom and is not normal at all. So now I think the best thing to do is to move away and help here move into an ALF even if against her will or else to call protective services or something. I have a consultation scheduled with an elder law attorney coming up. I am not interested in guardianship or an inheritance or anything. This is one of those things where it's like you are on your own. I had to get used to telling little lies to her everyday to keep things normal. I mean like just listening to her strange stories is like a lie it feels like. Anyway, thank you for asking. Oh, also, reading about other people's experiences with dementia/alz on forums has really helped. Especially about anosognosia, the denial of the disease.
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
@@ungarlinski7965 @Ungar Linski thank you for your reply sounds like it's been a very difficult year for you and I completely understand and I'm not surprised that's why I asked you how you were doing because I had a feeling it was crazy. What I'm going to suggest is to get your mother on medication called Vraylar. It has a black box warning but dont second guess it. When I laid out on the line everything I was dealing with to my mother's psychiatrist she said this was definitely the right choice of medication to put my mother on and I can tell you within a few days I noticed a change to where she became human again. The only issue with the med is she wasn't sleeping much maybe four and a half hours of sleep at night but believe it or not she was still human Sounds like your mother needs an antipsychotic and that's what this medicine is it's also for bipolar so chances are your mother was depressed her whole life and never medicated for it but that's just a guess I think a lot of people are I don't know if you deal with your mother's doctors but I would ask any and every doctor she has until somebody gives it to you my general practitioner said he prescribes Vraylar for people and I didn't know he could so maybe start with your mother's general practitioner, internist, her neurologist anybody let them know what you've been dealing with. She might need more then this medication because she sounds like she's really bad but I think it's a good first step I don't know if you can get her to go to the doctor but maybe make something up and say that insurance will drop her if she doesn't visit the doctor so many times a year or maybe the Elder Care lawyer can give you some advice. I think it's insane that we are put in this position and we have no Authority but we're given all the responsibilities and liabilities. All i know is you have been through an aweful year and please keep me updated I hope you get a break soon
@christinoneill9748
@christinoneill9748 2 жыл бұрын
Yup. Apparently I've also been to prison. It's so hard. I feel your pain.
@TLC26
@TLC26 Жыл бұрын
Dont take it personal sounds like some of the dimentia characteristics.
@paulfresco8919
@paulfresco8919 4 жыл бұрын
Me and my sisters journey with dementia with my mom ended this week We flew blind through it it nice to no there are people like you out there helping people deal with it it is a over powering task
@randygreen007
@randygreen007 3 жыл бұрын
My condolences for your loss. I hope there were some happy moments along the way. Sometimes there aren’t. 💔
@HealthyLife4Me
@HealthyLife4Me Жыл бұрын
😢
@katelynn58
@katelynn58 2 жыл бұрын
I live in Florida and I have an Unlimited POA for medical and financial that was set up when my mother was first diagnosed. However, while she or my father were still able to make their own reasonable decisions, that took precedent over my ability to step over their wishes, which of course, I would never do. As my mothers dementia progressed and my father was no longer comfortable making her health decisions, I would discuss with him the options and we would come to an agreement. Now that my father has passed, my mother since diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and living with me, the Unlimited POA has been priceless in caring for her estate and her health. The POA’s were the most important thing we did to assure them of the care they wanted.
@nonawolf7495
@nonawolf7495 3 ай бұрын
Being DPOA for my 87 year old mother has been the most draining challenge of my life. Now that dementia stripped away her veneer of civility, she is just the angry, deceitful, abusive person she has always been. There are times when I toy with the idea of renouncing the DPOA, and letting her flounder till the state steps in. May God grant me patience... I don't know who much longer I can stand this.
@kathyputnam84
@kathyputnam84 3 ай бұрын
I “feel your pain”, because it is emotionally, mentally, and physically painful AND extremely exhausting to be subjected to such treatment your entire life. I am POA for my 88 year old mother with Alzheimer’s who was emotionally immature and had to get married to my emotionally immature father, and they proceeded to raise 3 emotionally immature daughters. I was the lucky one because I found AA and the program worked for me. I gradually learned to face my character defects, unlike my parents and siblings, so it helped me “grow up” enough (I struggle with “adulting” constantly) to have compassion for her even though I have hated her narcissistic behavior. It took me quite a while to figure that out because she was a covert narcissist in public. I’m just sharing that because it’s what has kept me personally from giving up when I wanted to hand her over to her other two daughters who have absolutely no compassion for her. Remembering this has also helped me tremendously: “Pain is pain, no matter how it stacks up against another’s. And everyone deserves to feel their feelings.” So no matter what you decide to do, have self compassion first! I don’t know where your mother is on the “continuum” of dementia but it’s actually gotten easier for me because the beginning of the last stage of Alzheimer’s has changed my mother into a sweet, loving, happier (95% of the time) person whom I finally love being around. I don’t know if that’s common or not, but I am sending positive vibes your way in the hope that would happen for you ASAP. You deserve love and peace!
@nonawolf7495
@nonawolf7495 3 ай бұрын
@@kathyputnam84 Thank you for those kind words, my friend. You are right - pain should be treated with compassion. Your mother is very lucky to have you. ❤
@aseedforyourthought6913
@aseedforyourthought6913 3 ай бұрын
I'm in the same situation with my grandpa ,I'm scared all he has promised to me will be changed but at same time I'm about to throw it all away
@yd7901
@yd7901 2 ай бұрын
My father was arrested for pulling a knife on my mother, he has dementia and he is angry, deceitful and abusive I don't know what to do.
@lindagriffin268
@lindagriffin268 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so much for your diligence and informative simple to understand format. Your videos have been sanity saving. May God bless you richly
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Linda. It warms my heart to know that my videos are helpful. Wishing you and your loved one all the best!
@LRB9498
@LRB9498 4 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful! I really appreciate these videos! I actually have a PhD in behavioral neuroscience, so while I understand a lot of the science behind the disease, navigating the legal and medical landscape has been a challenge. My mom has dementia and it's been rough on the family.
@bestiecrowley1534
@bestiecrowley1534 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks 👍 wish I knew more about what to expect for the future? 🤔
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
@@bestiecrowley1534 me too. Ive yet to hear anything that doesnt make my hair fall out in clumps.
@rosie7715
@rosie7715 Жыл бұрын
@@SparkingLife111 Me to
@MrArdytube
@MrArdytube 6 жыл бұрын
As Natali mentioned, it is important to start early! One reason that I delayed was because I was thinking “it is not yet time to do this,Mom is still competent”. This attitude overlooks what you can and SHOULD do even while your loved one is competent:research. We can start contacting banks etc pro-actively “just to find out what they will require”. In case it is awkward to ask your loved one to sign these papers because it is “too soon”... you might be able to collaborate with a doctor to counsel the loved on the importance of addressing these issues BEFOREHAND since there is seldom an objectively decisive moment. The doctor will seldom raise this issue unless you specifically ask for help on this issue
@MrCheeto7
@MrCheeto7 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr Natali. We are getting a lot out of your channel and videos.
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you. That really means a lot. :)
@nenitagonzales8458
@nenitagonzales8458 3 жыл бұрын
@@DementiaCareblazers u7
@lesleyjoymcclure1772
@lesleyjoymcclure1772 Жыл бұрын
Perhaps the regulations are different in the US from Canada. My brother and I are both medical and financial power of attorneys for my parents. My Dad passed away in 2020 but my Mom is still with us. When Dad fell and broke his hip and had to go into a care home, he was 99 at the time, both my brother and I had to sign to necessary documents. Our cousin is the lawyer who drew up these papers. He has been the family lawyer for many years and we trust him completely that they are correct and legal. There was never any question from the care home that we were both power of attorneys and there has never been any questions from my parents financial institution that we are both financial power of attorney. My mom is 100 and has been living with my husband and I for 2 1/2 years. She has moderate dementia. It’s very challenging as I am 72 with more physical health problems than she has. We take it one day at a time and pray that we will be given discernment in all our decisions. Thank you.
@daveobrien645
@daveobrien645 3 жыл бұрын
Your chart at 1:40 states your Financial POA can make "Medical" decisions about your finances, whereas "Financial" decisions seems more appropriate and fits with the rest of your message. No reply necessary. Very helpful, thank you.
@rogerroger5649
@rogerroger5649 4 жыл бұрын
Just an FYI that we just found out. My wife is POA for her father who is getting into the advance stages and after visiting the doctor we were told that she could be held responsible and even sued if something happen because he was not supervised as needed. If he was to walk out into the street and get run over or do something that causes harm to others then we could lose everything we own. I know this is an older video and I have no reason to believe the doctor doesn't know about these things but, I would really like to hear another opinion or someone else's advice. Thank you
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
Is that true? I wouldnt be suprised at this point.
@elainegoad9777
@elainegoad9777 2 жыл бұрын
I had to put locks on doors with no door knob, screw windows shut, locked chain around fridge, hide things prior to getting him accepted into long term care.
@LOVELOVE-du5ut
@LOVELOVE-du5ut 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this great support and help. I'm taking a crash course as a caregiver...what a shock this all is....
@jabrother
@jabrother 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for all the help you are a wonderful and sweet woman. My sister and I are going through all this right now so it was very pertinent! Thanks again for caring and for the great info sharing.
@intrusivethoughts7405
@intrusivethoughts7405 5 жыл бұрын
My grandma is in the hospital right now for the first time for hallucinations and confusion. She literally went from fine, living alone working in the garden to thinking shes on a dirt road in an accident. Its the craziest thing ive ever seen. Has anyone else seen such a rapid onset like this before?
@nonacee5065
@nonacee5065 5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes hallucinations coincide with infections like urinary tract but others begin following a mini stroke or TIA. I'm sure the hospital will find out which. All the best.
@chloechloe1783
@chloechloe1783 4 жыл бұрын
Dehydration if not drinking enough, water infection, also caused sometimes through not drinking enough. Definitely test for UTI but most hospitals check this first with any elderly person confused. Also look if her medication has been changed, some meds do nt mix with other meds it suit that person. X
@Catmoore60
@Catmoore60 3 жыл бұрын
Also it’s helpful to have a way to check whether the person suffering a sudden change of behavior is actually taking their meds. We got a multi day, multi time slot set of pill carriers for my mom. If she has forgotten (or sometimes refused) to take her meds, we can tell because they are still in the carrier for that day/time.
@Soilfoodwebwarrior
@Soilfoodwebwarrior 2 жыл бұрын
Make sure it not something nutritionally related. A vitamin b deficiency could cause severe symptoms such as these and elderly people tend to not eat well. 😕 Weight loss would be one obvious initial indication
@rhyfeddu
@rhyfeddu 2 жыл бұрын
My Mom has had extreme sudden acute delirium and hallucinations from UTI. Not always even severe ones. I know you posted this awhile ago and hope you found answers. I just want to reinforce others saying the same for people reading this thread in future. Infection, stress (cortisol), dehydration and (I just discovered with my mom) sugar has all caused increased, unusual confusion. It's just so easy to knock elderly dementia patients off balance it seems...
@rosemariekury9186
@rosemariekury9186 Жыл бұрын
Even if there’s no dementia yet involved power of attorney is important. A few years ago my husband had a severe stomach bleed and at first ( due to a stomach bypass) and a holiday weekend they couldn’t find where it was. Meanwhile he went into shock due to blood loss and wasn’t aware of where he was. He thought the doctor was a vet and refused to get surgery. It was very upsetting but due to the power of attorney I had they were able to proceed. They finally did an endoscopy and found a hidden bleeding ulcer they fixed. At this hospital they also have this on their files. He lost so much blood he may have died. I’m not sure they would have proceeded if they didn’t have this.
@C68M68L
@C68M68L 3 жыл бұрын
Extremely valuable information. Thank you!
@tedwilliford7218
@tedwilliford7218 3 жыл бұрын
another very important issue is that a durable power of attorney really does not have much effect as long as the individual who granted the POA still has the ability to say "No" when issues are being discussed. When this happens you must engage an attorney and petition the court for a general guardianship in which you ask the court to determine the individual in question is incapacitated and unable to make decisions, basically incompetent. the durable POA is incorporated into the petition and when guardianship is granted then the durable POA takes effect and the court's order will make reference to that document.
@leerindal8980
@leerindal8980 Жыл бұрын
That is not completely accurate from legal perspective. A Durable POA grants the named person (grantee) the legal authority to make certain designated decisions for the authorizing person (grantor). I am unfamiliar with any Court that requires the grantor to be deemed incompetent before the grantee can exercise the Durable POA on behalf of the grantor. I retired from practicing law for 3 decades, however, each state has its own statutory requirements so I am not stating that some jurisdictions MIGHT have different, or more stringent, requirements before using the Durable POA.
@loicybourque1684
@loicybourque1684 4 жыл бұрын
My brother is a disabled veteran in a wheelchair who has vascular dementia. He refuses to give any power of attorney to me. I had to put him in a NH at the beginning of the Corona Virus due to my being quarantined and he lived alone and I couldn’t take care of him. I’m 75 years old and he is 72. He is still legally married to a woman who hates him and they have not lived together for over:30 years!! Thank you
@cathyblock6197
@cathyblock6197 3 жыл бұрын
I have recently become legal guardian (Article 81) for my sister with dementia. This covers both POA and Health Care Proxy in New York State. So much still to do!
@dwilson4543
@dwilson4543 3 жыл бұрын
Im in texas can yu tell me how i should proceed
@alanfarias2923
@alanfarias2923 4 жыл бұрын
I happened to come across your videos, my Mom has dementia, not sure what level. She lives in Reno Nevada and we are trying to bring her home to Hawaii. With this Covid19 situation not sure when. I’ll have to figure out all of her finances with her Banks and transferring her accounts to a Bank or C.U. And yes your Videos has and will be a BIG HELP in bringing Mom home and caring for Her too. Thanks so so so much.
@emenikeiroanya6016
@emenikeiroanya6016 Жыл бұрын
difference between mental capacity act of law and power of attorney Dr continue with your good work You Guys doing great
@madelynnazario8361
@madelynnazario8361 6 жыл бұрын
In the state of Florida...a POA can't be done meanwhile a person has dementia. Im going through this. Legal guardianship is an expensive that I would have to pay from my pockets. Its difficult to help an elderly parent who didnt fix nor discuss what to do before an illness take over them. Laws need to be amended or added to help families in these type of situations. Believe me ive knocked doors. Its not easy.
@bluto212
@bluto212 Жыл бұрын
I feel for you. I'm experiencing the same thing. Even worse the broke abusive ex-husband showed up and is stealing her property.
@donnacopeland526
@donnacopeland526 3 жыл бұрын
I wish I had seen this group years ago. I've looked after my sister for the last 10 years. Within the last 6 months, I've had to put her into a nursing home. I still feel like I've failed her, but I was truly in a caregivers burn out. I feel she is in the later part now. She can hardly keep her head up, has to be fed, can't walk anymore, and is getting so skinny. I love her dearly, but think I've made the right decision for both her and I.
@emilycorwith1119
@emilycorwith1119 3 жыл бұрын
I'm my husband's caregiver and it's a rough rough road, particularly since I have my own health problem, so I fear I will not be able to take care of him forever. I hope I can know when to let go as you have!
@donnacopeland526
@donnacopeland526 3 жыл бұрын
@@emilycorwith1119 I wish I could have kept her home longer. Having said that, it truly was the best decision for both of us. The first 4 to 6 weeks were the hardest, but she is so much more alert now and quite happy. Don't forget, the professionals know so much more than we do, and know how to cope when things get rough. I go in 3 times a week, and feed her lunch, then we have a nice visit, and she tells me of all the relatives that have come to visit her. The fact that they have all passed on, makes no difference to me. I would rather chat with her about them, than put her through the heartache of reliving their passing. Listen to the doctors and don't feel bad. Remember if something happens to you, he will be alone. Go visit some of these places. They really are not as bad as some if the horror stories of many years ago.
@tedwilliford7218
@tedwilliford7218 3 жыл бұрын
many local hospitals now have sessions or classes that focus on caregiver issues such as "taking care of the caregiver". I have two family members with declining mental abilities and take care of one on a full-time basis. my sister takes care of the other. it is a hard thing for both of us to do. we talk about issues every week.
@tbone2859
@tbone2859 2 жыл бұрын
No one knows what it’s like to take care of a loved one who is no longer capable of taking care of themselves until they’ve done it. 10 years. That makes you a saint in my opinion
@michaelcowgill
@michaelcowgill Жыл бұрын
@@tbone2859 God bless. you.
@songoftheblackunicorn666
@songoftheblackunicorn666 Жыл бұрын
I am a nomad with two esas. I am attempting to do caregiving for my 94 year old Grandmother who has moderate dementia but still very bright ( we just think my esas are different species, microwave dinners need to be sealed in the box and cooked that way, we knowingly put large used sanitary pads in the washer and dryer and the list goes on). I have taken over getting her mail and paper at the highway, buying 85 percent of the groceries (my uncle does the rest he is 20 minutes away), washing dishes laundry and anything else that comes up. She and my uncle asked for me to come some time ago and I got here in July and my three birds one of which is an outdoor bird and stays outdoors the other two stay outside to play and sleep with me upstairs at night) . Every two weeks she says I didn't agree to these animals usually just after I have just done all of the house work made coffee for her done her dry erase board with day of the week on it and medication check boxes and any appointments or visits on it . She seems to throw the biggest fits about me being here with Izzy and Shiloh and Finn outside when I have bought a weeks worth of groceries. She's Happy to get all of the things I took the trouble to get for her that she does really like and then within four to twelve hours later she jumps on me like a tone of bricks. Grandma has never been what you could call a "nice" person she has from what anyone who used to live with her says showed very pronounced indicators of npd. So you constantly have to figure out what you are in fact dealing with at every rough interaction and negotiate each incident. I was an ese school bus driver at one point for emotionally handicapped highschool, and I was temporarily around four other dementia patients so I'm not unfamiliar with some of this but being kicked out with 17 hours between me and Asheville NC and having to take down a ten by ten pen I hammered into hardpan that is up outside for Finn and Shiloh and Izzy during the day and takes three days to hammer in the posts is not reasonable when she says she wants us gone. How do I obtain the legal right to stay with my esas. I can just give her her space when she is mad until she calms down. But winter is coming and she can't do this herself anymore and I literally have to find a good home for Finn in the middle of nowhere if I leave. Paying her "rent" that my uncle then turns back into grocery money seems to be a good option but how do I legally do this. I know that I need to get esa paperwork on Izzy and Shiloh what we have been doing up until now is just living in the car from place to place and just going into places with companion animal policies like Lowe's and JoAnn s and parking on public lands but we cannot do below zero temps in upstate NY and our closest nomad group we are safe with is Asheville NC where we are outfitted to withstand the winter and two of the three birds would be welcome at the parks and other amenities we use. It should be noted that I also keep my animals clean and my animals are educated in everything from deep pressure to parrot and dog obedience commands and I am not one of " those" people who bring full-sized untrained and unsanitary pigs onto an airplane. I need my birds at night they make me feel safe when nothing in my life has. She has temporarily agreed to them. How do I deal with all of this. I have gotten rid of or stopped doing everything else I love. How do I get her to at least conceed that this is the end of the line for both her and me. She literally got herself kicked out of the hospital the last time she was there about 6 weeks before I got here. My uncle came to visit and they said hey can you just take her now when she was supposed to be under observation for the next day or so.we do have good moments too. The dementia sometimes actually cancels out the npd. And at least some of the time I figure out the right thing to say to where she is at ease and gives me a real smile and not a I have got control again smirk. She also has no sleep schedule so she tends to do rampages at night and sleep alot of the day. I know the sound of when she needs help and when she doesn't so I stay out of it when she doesn't. How do I do this. How do I protect myself and my birds
@treshao2413
@treshao2413 4 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I found you, I am my mothers Durable power of attorney for medical and Financial. She has just been Officially diagnosed with dementia and its recommended that she be in a home because she is not understanding her illness and falls and has been in and out of the hospital and rehab facilities numerous times over the last year. She is unable to walk or care for herself any longer and they will not let her just go home to an unsafe environment. (she lives alone) The problem is my older brother REFUSES to acknowledge that i am her power of attorney and has taken all of her financial records, i cant get her mail to pay any of her bills, he has everything from her drivers license, social, and about $2000 in cash, etc of hers that he refuses to return anything. Refuses to even talk to any of the family. I need her information to place her in a care facility and only have a matter of 2 weeks to do so. I don't know what to do. Im so frustrated with him and his denial that there is anything wrong with her. What is within my right to do if anything?
@randygreen007
@randygreen007 3 жыл бұрын
If he’s not taking proper care of her then get legal help ASAP but if he’s keeping her safe, nourished and healthy while being in her own home or another safe place then you should be grateful that he’s doing this for her. Of course I don’t have all those details but I’ve been the only one taking care of my mother for going on 9 years now and I have done it with no outside help.
@NYCisland
@NYCisland 3 жыл бұрын
That is elder abuse and he is stealing from his mother. You need to go to the police and find a lawyer. There are elder care lawyers that specialize in this. Don't wait until all her assets are gone. Change the locks on her house if you have to. Since you have financial PoA you can go to the bank and lock her accounts so no unauthorized withdrawals are made. Also, you are not responsible for her bills. You can pay them on her behalf from her funds, but do not use your own money to pay her bills. Yes, this could mean she loses the house and has to go bankrupt but do not ruin your financial life in the mean time. I am PoA for my sister who is in a nursing home and I stopped paying her credit card bills (she didn't own a house). It took a while, but eventually the lenders agreed to cancel the debt.
@Richson44
@Richson44 3 жыл бұрын
I clicked Thumbs up and Subscribe because your so clear and right to the point. Thank You
@jerryhansen5566
@jerryhansen5566 4 жыл бұрын
Important advice, thank you, Dr Natali. Most of your advice was "right on", but there are state differences and it's helpful to have legal advice. For instance, in CA, where I practice Elder Law, a Durable Power of Attorney (Financial) can have two personal representatives, even though that may not be a good idea, and Medical Powers of Attorney are called Advance Health Care Directives (AHCD). Although anyone can fill them out, it's helpful to have someone with experience guide you through the various choices in each document. In CA, for most people, it's important to have a Revocable Living Trust as well as an AHCD, in the event you become incapacitated. Without them, you may have to go to court to have a Conservator appointed--a painful process--and you may not get to choose your Conservator. Thanks for your ministry. You're providing a very valuable service.
@patrickreardon1209
@patrickreardon1209 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your thoughtful insight.
@sallyclay1974
@sallyclay1974 3 жыл бұрын
My sister passed away from Lewy Body Dementia after 7 years of suffering. My niece was Power Of Attorney. My sister was in her house in Ridgefield, CT, with round the clock care givers for the first 4 years. The last 3, were at an Assisted Living facility, in Darien, CT, called The Residence.
@kimberlybamford1072
@kimberlybamford1072 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Natalie for this information. I am right in the middle of this situation now.
@lindacastro5703
@lindacastro5703 4 жыл бұрын
I recently signed a ‘Health Care Proxy’ for my mom who has clear signs of dementia. A copy of the form was given to her health care provider. It this the same as POA for her medical care?
@bestiecrowley1534
@bestiecrowley1534 3 жыл бұрын
Is there any medical tests/ evidence that can prove you have dementia. 👀 PLEASE
@debbiebanner717
@debbiebanner717 5 жыл бұрын
I wish I had seen this BEFORE I agreed to be POA. I would never have done so, if I knew then what I know now. Ardy Hagen is SO right!
@chloechloe1783
@chloechloe1783 4 жыл бұрын
Can I ask why? This is all hard to understand. I’m hank you in advance :0)
@NYCisland
@NYCisland 3 жыл бұрын
You can revoke a PoA at any time. Meaning the person who is named in the PoA can decide to cancel it just by writing a document in their words and sign it. Very easy.
@nu.wa.n
@nu.wa.n 4 жыл бұрын
Love your videos. They are so good at explaining concepts with clarity. I really appreciate the slides where you clearly explain confusing concepts.
@bestiecrowley1534
@bestiecrowley1534 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for answering me?
@ralphwaters8905
@ralphwaters8905 4 жыл бұрын
This is not my specific problem but I can envision it would be for many others. IF you did not get your loved one to prepare a DPoA when they were still of sound mind, I assume a spouse or relative could still be granted their DPoA by a court order. I would assume letters would be required by 2 physicians unrelated to the person that attest to their level of dementia. Can you perhaps add a few words about how this would work in most states?
@retroguy1976
@retroguy1976 6 жыл бұрын
its been a tough time my grandmother did not do a POA so I contacted a elder law firm for a guardianship. I did draw up poa papers but she was incontintent to sign it or understand it. so I have been paying for her bills for now out of my pocket and today I have to pay something on the nursing home because they need a payment im close to getting a guardianship I have signed the papers presented to the judge in NJ and have a court case next month to get it.
@michaeldamours1156
@michaeldamours1156 6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Natali, Thank you so much for posting this information. I am about to plunge into the legal signing this week for my parents and feel very "lost" on these issues. This really helps to clarify many issues you mentioned, primarily the financial POA. Bless you!
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 6 жыл бұрын
Hi Mike! I'm glad you found the video I made for you. Best of luck as you drudge through all the legal stuff. It can be confusing!
@dirtyzombie4928
@dirtyzombie4928 6 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to add a few things for people to watch out for as I learned. There is such a thing as non-durable power of attorny, which is temporary. Make sure you get DURABLE for BOTH MEDICAL and PHYSICAL. Also, getting POA requires that the person you are doing it for is of sound mind and body, that way people can't take and abuse elders and others who have lost cognitive functioning. If your person already has full blown dementia, they cannot legally consent to POA and you have to go thru a court process. Get POA immediately when your loved one is first showing signs, while they possess sufficient faculties to grant such authorization. Don't wait!
@ellendaniels3026
@ellendaniels3026 2 жыл бұрын
Get a Health Care Coordinator to help you with info...ins & outs of Assisted Living (some places accept Medicaid...many rules.) They can advocate for your loved ones about care center placement & funding, getting additional rehab when possible, which Medicare plan will be most helpful, Social Security rules & issues, & more. Mine had been an absolute Godsend.
@cole7203
@cole7203 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this important information. Your examples were clear and concise.
@lisacollins7441
@lisacollins7441 3 жыл бұрын
Hopefully, you are still answering questions! Great advise and expert knowledge of POA's. Wanted to know what to do if I already had a POA and, two days after mine, another family member talked my relative into letting them have a POA on her too. But, dementia kicked in because she forgot she just signed for one 2 days before. We've asked the other relative to destroy her paperwork because she said she didn't know "I" already had mine in place before hers but, don't think she will do it. Thks for your response.
@NYCisland
@NYCisland 3 жыл бұрын
That last one that is signed - and hopefully, notarized (though not always required) is the official PoA. A PoA can be revoked at any time by that person but it has to be done in writing.
@avrilcrisp30
@avrilcrisp30 6 жыл бұрын
As siblings we all have enduring POA but are divided. One thinks they can buy large items without any mention and parent concerned about having to pay for them. One thinks they can arrange carers without mention to the rest of us or mum wanting it the intervention. Two of us want mum to have choices maybe reduced options but she is not a fool. Its tough trying to convince an bossy sibling they are using their wishes as choices and not your parents wishes.
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 6 жыл бұрын
This is a very difficulty situation. I am so sorry that you are experiencing this and that your siblings are not all getting along. I hate to see how this disease sometimes tears families apart. Is there not one "primary POA" listed? Usually, there is one primary person to avoid these situations from occurring.
@cherylarmstrong1985
@cherylarmstrong1985 2 жыл бұрын
This is Cheryl A. I am learning a lot from your videos. Thank you, thank you for the wonderful answer to my question. What I type in, I read over it and it didn’t make sense so I’ll input it all over again I do not know what came up that gave you the impression that I didn’t want to subscribe to your KZbin channel so that’s why I’m making this comment to you again please understand we enjoy your feedback.
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful
@jebsmith323
@jebsmith323 Жыл бұрын
I have both healthcare power of attorney and healthcare power of attorney for my 89 year old mother. Thankfully, she set both of these up about 15 years and forgot about it. It would be very difficult to have her sign this over to me today.
@jeaniefarmer1502
@jeaniefarmer1502 4 жыл бұрын
My siblings are looking into medical poa and guardianship for my mom. My brother has durable poa. We are very afraid of what one brother will do if we do not take care of this. He had visited mom and refused to leave after destroying property at moms. We were told poa was not enough to make keep him from moving in if she allowed it. We hate more than anything to declare our incompetent.
@RonMontagueSWRR
@RonMontagueSWRR 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, you answered lot of things I wasn't sure of.
@sonyakayoftheusa2191
@sonyakayoftheusa2191 3 жыл бұрын
Very valuable information. I am an only child and we elected to split the medical and financial POA because it is too much for one person to handle.
@carolbiggs5336
@carolbiggs5336 5 жыл бұрын
This was extremely helpful information. The clarification that you added was needed - Thank you!
@louismark1242
@louismark1242 4 жыл бұрын
Carol Biggs ❤️
@AlwaysHappy494
@AlwaysHappy494 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, thanks for all your wonderful information. A question: My sister with "Alzheimers" first state, has an only son 50 yrs. and she doesn't want to sign any document to authorize her son for anything. What should he do? Thanks for your answer.
@madelynnazario8361
@madelynnazario8361 6 жыл бұрын
Peter Woodcock ...im going through the same thing with my dad. He is so stubborn. All his life..its his way or the highway. Well im doing my best...but he is withering away because of his stubbornness.
@04dram04
@04dram04 5 жыл бұрын
You have to think like him when persuading him. Think about what he would need to hear to convince him.
@chellejack3480
@chellejack3480 3 жыл бұрын
My dad has the same personality.
@vivianmahar8983
@vivianmahar8983 Жыл бұрын
Great easy to understand explanation - Thank You!
@PurpleChurchMouse
@PurpleChurchMouse 3 жыл бұрын
My parents had all of the correct paperwork done thru an attorney, yet my siblings still were able to come in to petition the court for total guardianship, taking away decision making for my other over my dad. Can't believe that was possible.
@patrickflohe7427
@patrickflohe7427 3 жыл бұрын
Are you saying that your mother had decision-making authority over your father’s affairs, and that was taken-away? A Guardian ad Litem has to agree on who gets to have guardianship over someone. I’m dealing with a situation right now, or at least the aftermath of it.
@hildadeguevara2922
@hildadeguevara2922 3 жыл бұрын
Hi! Mrs a power of attorney can be revoke?someone that I know has violated the power of attorney my friend needs help
@BeMoreOfYourself1984
@BeMoreOfYourself1984 Жыл бұрын
So very helpful. Thank you for such a clear explanation. Much appreciated. ❣
@gregorygray8968
@gregorygray8968 3 жыл бұрын
So many things you're sharing are incredibly valuable to me now...so glad I 'tuned in' to your superb vide0/tutorial..
@VanessaStar1031
@VanessaStar1031 Жыл бұрын
YES!! VERY HELPFUL!!! Thank you
@cherylarmstrong1985
@cherylarmstrong1985 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you for touching bases on a breakdown of how things should work. As a sibling your insight has is a eye opener.
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@wantsome-zs5sq
@wantsome-zs5sq 3 жыл бұрын
My grandmother has dementia and I live with and take care of her. I cook I clean I do the shopping and more. My aunt has durable POA and I'm worried she's going to kick me out. I know it's not what my grandmother would want. My grandmother is still able to communicate and stuff. She makes her own cereal in the morning and showers on her own. But I have to make her other meals. As the day goes on she gets sun downers. Is there anything I can do to stop my aunt from completely taking over? She's on a power trip. If I get my grandmothers wishes recorded on my phone would it help my cause?
@pamelamarkley-thomas7867
@pamelamarkley-thomas7867 3 жыл бұрын
My daughter was named POA for my mother & Uncle who I lived with since birth and was raised by Uncle. Due to the fact of myself being Handicapped ,My daughter was appointed , but I wasn’t able to enter my mother & uncle home to get property of mine that my mother had kept for me for years. I’m not understanding how I wasn’t permitted to go in home and then the POA kept everything & sold the rest. Some of my things are in storage and I’m not sure we’re that building is located?? My mother is in nursing home with dementia & my uncle past recently. There’s no Will nothing signed on paper at all. I don’t know what to do?? Can I ask for any suggestions? I got pushed into the dark. I can’t afford a lawyer on Disability. Do you have any suggestions on what I can do. The POA has been at the attorney who drawed up the POA papers for my mother and uncle but the other papers that are in file were never signed. I’m afraid that something was done improper. I only wish for what was held on to for years to be given to me. Thanks for reading this. Confused I am
@nikolaylazarchuk868
@nikolaylazarchuk868 9 ай бұрын
To get power of attorney for someone with dementia, should I go to court to get it or what should I do?
@kimbice2205
@kimbice2205 9 ай бұрын
I was wondering the same
@lh98
@lh98 Жыл бұрын
If only more people in the financial world comprehended DPOA or POA in general. My elderly mother selected me to handle things for her as did my wife. Some banks know and understand these documents and some don’t at all. One bank associate asked a manager while I was waiting “he’s not an actual attorney, can he do these things?” and they started to call someone by phone until a manager walked in and explained it to them. The process at this bank took 2 weeks and a follow up by me. I spoke to my mother about putting these funds in her regular bank where they know both of us and they handle POA without issues and she agreed. Once cleared authorization at the not so intelligent bank I asked for a cashiers check and took it to the bank that respects them and their customers time. No more issues. I’ve had issues with my wife’s credit union too using POA and she’s about ready to leave there as well. They cite they are a small bank and can’t afford losses. We aren’t rich and what more protection than a legal notarized POA do you need? One bank no problems 2 other banks problems.... something tells me if I was a lawyer they wouldn’t bat an eye but normal Joe can’t do a transaction in a reasonable time. Education!
@heathermahon2281
@heathermahon2281 6 жыл бұрын
This has been very helpful. Fortunately all our paperwork is in order for me to be my husband's POA. I highly recommend everyone to do the same as it would literally be a nightmare for me if this wasn't done. My husband has vascular dementia and had to go into a nursing home. He is very angry and blames me for this. A friend of his has convinced him to contact a lawyer and has tried to remove me as the Executer and is trying to force me to sell our home, etc. It has been a nightmare, not only trying to deal with the stress of my husband's illness but the fear of having someone rip my home away from me. Do you have any advice as to how to respond when friends and family members act in this way? They think they are acting in his best interest but they're not and do not comprehend how seriously ill he is. It is a constant battle with this one particular friend .
@careip
@careip 6 жыл бұрын
I hope you have some answers!
@tawnteens
@tawnteens 5 жыл бұрын
I have a very similar situation. Family members who are not caring for the parent seem to distrust and backstab the caregiver
@SparkingLife111
@SparkingLife111 2 жыл бұрын
What ever happened. That sounds incredinly stressful
@martyleu1942
@martyleu1942 Жыл бұрын
Invite the friend to spend a day with your husband at the care centre. The whole day so they can witness meals etc. 😢
@gquinonesjr3881
@gquinonesjr3881 3 жыл бұрын
Just what was needed. Thank you. What is the cost of obtaining a POA?. I learned what to expect and help my beloved wife. Thank you?
@patrickflohe7427
@patrickflohe7427 3 жыл бұрын
I would see an attorney that specializes in guardianships, and learn what is required in your state. Once you know what is required, you’ll have a better idea about what the cost will be.
@sharoncrawford3042
@sharoncrawford3042 4 жыл бұрын
Im POA for my dad who has dementia. He would never allow me to have medical POA. But he did get me on a financial POA. He has been in the nursing home for a couple of months. He has cancer and refuses to do any treatment or even see a doctor. I believe he is in stage 7. So, Im taking care of all his financial affairs, but cannot force anything on the medical part.
@SandfordSmythe
@SandfordSmythe 3 жыл бұрын
Coercion will be difficult for many ambulatory and conscious people, even with POA.
@chrisburns1138
@chrisburns1138 3 жыл бұрын
My husband clearly has some sort of dementia going on and has been for quite a while. He refuses to believe there is anything wrong and will not see a doctor for it..At his last physical his doctor told me there is nothing he can do if my husband doesn’t ask for the help. So, we have been going along hoping he doesn’t have a major car accident and just living with these symptoms. It is frustrating and worrisome. It keeps me up at night while he sleeps like a baby. He can’t preform any executive functions, he can’t be relied on for almost anything. So, I have resigned myself to just dealing with it day by day. He is extremely happy and content in this delirium but I’d like to pull my hair out and are over burdened. My husband and I are only married four years. And there is no doubt I married him not realizing he came with this disease.
@ElizabethMartinov-f5w
@ElizabethMartinov-f5w 3 ай бұрын
Question... Currently have a POA for my mother. My sister was primary agent and I am secondary. My sister passed away and now bank says POA is invalid because two aeras were marked with an "x" and not initialed. This POA was completed in 2015 and I am afraid a new POA will not be successful. What do I do - get medical status letter and seek legal assistance?
@budsmith5
@budsmith5 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks 😊. I needed to know what to do. U gave lots of help
@l.baughman1445
@l.baughman1445 3 жыл бұрын
Note that in some states both medical and financial roles can be spelled out in a single complete document (DPOA a with a medical provision). Ask a qualified attorney in your location. Also in estate planning, I’ve been told about “Directives to Physicians” so ask about those also.
@goodkarma1903
@goodkarma1903 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for taking the time to to make this video. One question: I have a mother who i literally do everything for in living including healthcare, immigration paperwork etc. recently I filled out an application on her behalf and the immigration officer was asking for a proof of legal guardianship. All I have is POA for healthcare and POA titled for financial/property. On the poa for property We did added an additional line that the agent can make decisions with the immigration. I don’t know if they will accept that. I really need the poa for property because she’s negative $. But that’s only two type of poa I could get. is there such POA for a person who you do every little thing or should those POAs work? Thank you very much
@ElizabethMartinov-f5w
@ElizabethMartinov-f5w 3 ай бұрын
Question...Currently have a POA for my mother from 2015. Bank has told me it is invalid due to two sections marked with an "X" instead of initialed. Currently I don't believe my mother will be able to complete a new POA. What is my next step? I can obtain a letter of medical status but who to I go to for help...what type of legal representative do I need?
@janetchun4476
@janetchun4476 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I needed to know today! Thank you.
@aprilgill7000
@aprilgill7000 7 ай бұрын
Can someone with a durable power of attorney get a restraining order on a sibling who is taking advantage of the mom who suffers from dementia
@user-hj5fm8ix9j
@user-hj5fm8ix9j 3 ай бұрын
My mom was diagnosed with Dementia and my sister took apon herself to be appointed DPOA, and at the time it was done, she had just underwent eye surgery, having cataracts removed was not able to read the documents she said that herself it was a stack she has to sign
@rivermist80
@rivermist80 5 жыл бұрын
My dads wife and house repair attorney have recently convinced my dad I said something and I didn't. The wife got him convinced to change the poa which was me for over 25 years from before my Mom passed. I will be seeing an elderly law attorney as I understand the new poa is void with his history of dementia. It's never a good thing for a second wife to be jealous and hateful of you from the beginning. It's very painful to lose a parent this way.
@angelaharris1112
@angelaharris1112 5 ай бұрын
I so agree. My son is going to be mine. But as I'm the patient we must get it done now. Just so hard to catch up to him!
@cynthiasword4213
@cynthiasword4213 4 жыл бұрын
My Mom is in the midst of dementia. She has always been disagreeable to going to a Dr. Now she flat out refuses to talk about it. She is getting worse and my sister and I are thinking if a Dr. told her to not drive she might listen... Please could you go over this type of problem, she definitely doesn't think that she has anything wrong...
@danksinatra5977
@danksinatra5977 2 жыл бұрын
So can the police. They just took my mom's license..Early stage of dementia.
@adelheidwilkinson7545
@adelheidwilkinson7545 2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I found you! So helpful
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@Briggs412
@Briggs412 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. My mother has dementia and she argues with me a lot but i am just trying to help her. I have poa over her
@adrellwilliams4754
@adrellwilliams4754 3 ай бұрын
My mother didnt make a power of attorney , now she is suffering from dementia in a rehab. What should i do? She has a substantial net worth. Place of residence is New York.
@Latasha-rl8ch
@Latasha-rl8ch Жыл бұрын
Very helpful very informative thanks a lot
@trippymiracle1157
@trippymiracle1157 5 жыл бұрын
What if no POAs have been established before dementia gets too bad AND there is no family member/friend to serve as one anyway? (I can't commit to any official, legal responsibilities due to the nature of my own health condition which is beginning to spiral out of control due to the stress of discovering my father in a bad state after not seeing him due to toxic dynamics in the relationship for many years. Due to the conditions he was in when I visited August 2019, I took him with me not knowing what I was getting myself into OR that he had vascular dementia OR that I would not receive the guidance/support to get him what he needs despite my inability to commit in a legal way. I've expressed my challenges and concerns to every medical place we went - the first was a VA outpatient clinic, then VA ER with hospital stay, then the 20 day nursing home and now the nursing home where he somehow was able to sign his own Admission Agreement. Is that shady???? I will do anything from a moral position, but I can not commit legally. I am really getting sick. Please help. I live in Texas. AND I sought 2 free legal resources. One could not help. The other, at the VA, needed paper work that, at this point, I can not get. I am overcooked. I can not do this anymore. Do I just call Adult Protective Services?? If so, what should I expect? Will he be moved to a different facility? Will I be able to visit him? Thank you for any help.
@reginac5488
@reginac5488 6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Natalie, My sister with advanced FTD would not go to the Dr or accept any medical advice. Recently, she was hospitalized and is still in a psychiatric ward (attempting to introduce meds). I need to gain guardianship as she can no longer make sound decisions. My Sister has hallucinations, delusions and anger issues. I am told that is she does not agree to this, I may have to wage a lengthy legal battle. My sister is divorced, no children and usually resides with me. Of course, I will always do what is best for her. Can you please provide some insight, advice or examples from other cases? Thank you and thank you for all of your tremendous support.
@louismark1242
@louismark1242 4 жыл бұрын
Arizona Bound ❤️
@elainegoad9777
@elainegoad9777 2 жыл бұрын
There is a difference between Durable Power of Attorney and a Health Care Power of Attorney. Do a Living Will and no one can go against your wishes.
@lorifarion5274
@lorifarion5274 6 жыл бұрын
My mom has memory loss from ischemic small vessel disease. She was recently admitted to nursing home long-term care. We live in Michigan. There is no POA or DPOA. Nursing home requires a DPOA. At a recent meeting I told the social worker that I would like to be my mom's medical POA. I was told by the social worker that in order to be mom's medical advocate, I would have to be the DPOA. (my oldest sister threw her arms up, declared that "I am putting Lori in charge" and left the meeting.) She also told me that because my mom is now in a nursing home, they have the necessary paperwork for obtaining DPOA status and will guide me through the process and file the paperwork. I have no interest in my mom's financials, which involves her bank account where her social security check is deposited. She has no other income. The other financial will be the sale of the cooperative she lives in when it comes time for Medicaid application, which will be soon. My sister and brother are already designated on her HOA paperwork as far as selling in the event of mom's death. So my question here is, is it really so, that I have to have DPOA in order to be mom's medical advocate? I do not want to be involved in her financials, or with my siblings in that matter. Again, we are in Michigan.
@alfa5243
@alfa5243 2 жыл бұрын
My husband has vascular dementia. He resists the diagnosis and refuses to take any medication. When he doesn’t like a doctor he will just refuse to see them and makes an appointment to see a new doctor. I have tried to reason with him about his blood pressure meds and medications in general. I have given up discussions with him. If I can’t get corporation about the disease I can’t move forward.
@Wanday639
@Wanday639 3 жыл бұрын
Really good to know that a Durable Power of Attorney is needed for one with dementia! Is the Durable Power of Attorney the same as a Health Care Proxy? Also, does a Health Care Proxy signed at the office of the PCP hold weight in other locations with other doctors? Thank you!
@SStoll-dz1cp
@SStoll-dz1cp 3 жыл бұрын
Yes & no regarding the health proxy. Health proxy is a addition to your Will in case your incapacitated however does not require a notary. In the case of a POA the document has to be of the state & county you live in with All parties present with legal I.D. for signature verifications. Make copies for banks , doctors, insurance etc. You can take it a step further by having it published in a local paper so it cannot be contested later. Neither are no longer valid after death, unless health proxy is added in a living trust. You can no longer make after death decisions with a POA. That’s when the living will or trust kicks in.
@Wanday639
@Wanday639 3 жыл бұрын
@@SStoll-dz1cp thank you for your reply.
@ЛюбовьЗахарова-й3и
@ЛюбовьЗахарова-й3и 3 жыл бұрын
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@oscardaone
@oscardaone 2 жыл бұрын
My mom is already unable to make decisions now. She never got power of attorney. I’m basically screwed at this point, but I’m technically still making decisions here and I worry about how to navigate this if she’s taken advantage of, especially with medical and financial.
@patriciaforest1498
@patriciaforest1498 Жыл бұрын
Hi I have a Aunt that has moderate dementia. I have a relative that has appointed herself as financial POA and is abusing the financials. How do I go about revoking the POA and what do I put in place of that to prevent said family member from coming back trying to do another POA?
@christyevershappily4eversafter
@christyevershappily4eversafter 5 күн бұрын
My mom is dragging her feet with appointing me as her health power of attorney. Her memory is starting to get bad really fast and although she hasn’t been diagnosed with dementia, her memory really concerns me and she’s 80. I keep talking to her about appointing me as her medical power of attorney and she keeps making excuses of why she’s not. Can you please tell me who makes the decisions for her if she doesn’t appoint a power of attorney. Because that may help her stop dragging her feet if she Realizes, that someone else will be making that kind of decision for her if I’m not. Because she knows that I care more about her well-being more than anyone else. Maybe she’ll get scared enough to finally do it. Is there anything else that I should know about the benefits of her, having a medical power of attorney, or the downside of not having a power of attorney for her health. So that I can explain those to her so that she can stop dragging her feet?
@Kentuckyrollinbolin
@Kentuckyrollinbolin 5 ай бұрын
My mother is 84 she named myself and my brother for both for both poa has been moved to memory care. I do not want to be poa of either. I am closer to facility and it’s hard enough to have to be there every other day. She was living in my home. Because of my medical issues she went into assisted living. She wondered from that place walked out in street 55 mph area luckily not hit but was moved to memory care immediately. Every time I go up there she has everything packed and ready to come back to my house. It’s a lot for me to handle. He rarely sees her but hopefully he will take care of poa issues cause it’s just too much for me.
@DennineNotJeanine
@DennineNotJeanine 6 ай бұрын
Hello, I just watched your video. Am I able to contact you? I have a question pertaining to one of the topics you spoke on, regarding a POA making decisions from day one.
@janicelewis1681
@janicelewis1681 Жыл бұрын
My 64 year old husband was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with FTD . I am lost as to what to do, where to turn etc… He wasn’t given any meds and we weren’t even told much so I’m up every night like tonight at 2 a:m searching for help. I do still work full time in just a few hours but no sleep anymore. I’m lost and scared. This was a total shock. My husband says he’s fine and there is nothing wrong, the doctor is crazy etc… I’ve asked him a few questions and he’s given me the answers then says but we don’t need this stuff I’m fine. Right now he’s in the mild stages. 1. Can you help me clear up a few things please? Do I need an attorney cause there’s no extra money for that? Can we just get the form notarized? I’m his wife so don’t I just have the power to say what’s what anyway? My husband wants me to make decisions over everything medical as well as financial. Also do you know much about this disease like are there meds to slow this down? Is there a way to tell how long he has? I just subscribed and thanks for your help.
@clydebermingham121
@clydebermingham121 28 күн бұрын
Is Health Proxy another term or name for Medical Power Of Attorney ?
@dinyarjalnawalla8181
@dinyarjalnawalla8181 2 жыл бұрын
In India I have fought and won a case where I got a Judgement in my clients favour by arguing before the Court that a Power of Attorney becomes void when a person becomes incapable of entering into a contractual relationship.
@nonacee5065
@nonacee5065 5 жыл бұрын
In Tasmania the enduring POA is financial decisions and the enduring guardianship is for medical decisions. We had to sign both papers. The guardianship came into effect straight away. The POA will only come into play once certified that someone is 'non compus mentus' by dr. My husband is moderate dementia and we're almost at the point to get dr to activate POA. I'm already making all the decisions.
@michellegraham7056
@michellegraham7056 3 жыл бұрын
How do I go about getting a power of attorney for my fiancee, who has was diagnosed with dementia three years ago, but just started having dementia experiences four months ago. I just found out four months ago that he has dementia, but a couple of his adult children knew he was diagnosed three years ago, but didn't tell me. My fiancee and I have been together for 31 years, and we have had the power of attorney discussion when he was able to understand the importance of it, but we never pursued it. He's in a nursing home now, but I'm concerned about his medical affairs since he is unable to make decisions now. I know what he would want before getting dementia. Please help me with advice. Thanks!
@shelleygreyrealtor
@shelleygreyrealtor 5 жыл бұрын
My father has dementia and I am his poa. He is still able to make decisions and handle his affairs so essentially nothing has changed. Eventually when his dementia progresses I want him to move in with me. We have talked about it and he has agreed. When he moves in we are going to need a bigger house. As his poa (durable poa) can I have him on the loan and also set aside money for my dad to help with costs of the new home? Will I need to have the poa amended to include payment? Would he need to update the will to include the additional real estate purchase assigning it to me since I will be paying the down payment and the majority of the mortgage and all other expenses? If he passes away before me would the new house be split between me and my brother if it is not specified in the will? My brother and I have not had a great relationship over the years and I just want to make sure I am covered legally. Please help.
@DementiaCareblazers
@DementiaCareblazers 5 жыл бұрын
Hi Shelley, you will want to consider getting a financial power of attorney as a medical power of attorney will likely not allow you to do what you are hoping.
@shelleygreyrealtor
@shelleygreyrealtor 5 жыл бұрын
@@DementiaCareblazers thank you so much for responding. I have medical and financial poa. I read somewhere that any payment made to a child from the parent for living expenses must be in writing. Is that true? Should we have my dad sign another document while he still has capacity?
@loradietmeyer4416
@loradietmeyer4416 Жыл бұрын
My husband, John has durable power of attorney for his sister, Maggie. She has been living in assisted living, but now she needs memory care and her husband, Larry is paying for her care, but he does not want to move her to memory care. What can be done about this? Can he be made to pay?
@pattyg.6533
@pattyg.6533 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you doctor for all your videos.
@marieradcliffe885
@marieradcliffe885 4 жыл бұрын
Very informative. Thank you
@rbeaver64
@rbeaver64 14 күн бұрын
I have a question: mom mom does have dementia and she has lost her ability to understand, can her dr sign a document giving me her medical power of attorney? I wished I knew about this sooner….
@christinoneill9748
@christinoneill9748 2 жыл бұрын
My mom is blind and has dementia I am her full time caregiver, POA, and medical proxy. I'm doing my best, but it's never good enuf. She is a severe fall risk having fallen and broken 7 bones in 2 years. She currently broke her ankle and hand.
@TLC26
@TLC26 Жыл бұрын
My brother and i have co-power of attorney and. Are co-executors. Our attorney didnt diferentiate between medical and financial POA. Wonder if it varies by state.
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