Q&A: Courtship, Vaccinations & Thanksgiving!

[@lauraryan7460]

Can I just say, I have never seen a woman in this family speak so strongly, confidently, and openly and I am so proud to see how much you have grown since your days on 19KAC.

[@TexasbyStorm]

I agree. When Jinger was single she seemed much more outspoken. Now Jeremy speaks for her over and over. She has one line basic answers and he goes into depth for her. He seems to domineer their relationship. I'm certain he loves her and she loves him, but their dynamic isn't nearly as comfortable, at least on screen, as Jill and Derrick seem or even Jessa and Ben seem. I hope as time goes by that changes. She has lived away from the family her entire marriage and it seems their relationship is much more authoritarian. Maybe that's just for the show though and they are trying to portray Jinger as Mama Duggar take 2. I do love the dynamic of Jill and Derrick though. They have found a way to be a light to the world and not hiding that light under self righteous works that makes them a spectacle that distracts from the message of the cross.

[@lauraryan7460]

@Eden Grey nah man, Jessa is way too deep in the look aid to actually speak truly openly and honestly. Just the fact that Jill can criticize her parents shows that she has grown tremendously. She still has a long way to go but she is leaps and bounds more mature and more honest than Jessa

[@tiffprendergast]

@@TexasbyStorm yup

[@lightabounds77]

@@TexasbyStorm I think you make many assumptions about people you don’t know personally. Calling someone self righteous is wrong. You seem like the judge that can see into the hearts of Jeremy, Jinger etc. be careful, you might be the one that should examine their self....?

[@meredithmccrum5528]

I speak very openly and I'll say that all this family is babymakers,why janna can't date she's to busy taking care of the younger ones.

[@sharongreen6071]

Interesting...Jill, I see a strong woman who speaks her own mind, rather than deferring to her husband. You are comfortable disagreeing, even with a camera recording you. Something I never saw between your parents. Your partnership seems more equal, which, in the long run, is more respectful.

[@Rynn74]

I agree.

[@jen4him72]

I don't see her disagreeing at all. I see her adding her two cents. There is a difference. Also, for people in a Christian marriage, it is biblical to submit to our husbands. Not everything that God asks us to do is easy, but His plan & His way is always perfect. I have recently begun to follow a teaching about biblical submission for wives, it has changed my life and my marriage for the better. Knowing that I am following God's will is priceless. More so than human accolades or respect. Knowing I'm pleasing my God means everything. And if Michelle Duggar lives that same way, who are we to judge? If you don't agree with how a person lives, it's fortunate you don't have to live their life. 😉

[@Chickennoodlesoup4you]

They balance one another well too it’s nice to see.

[@TanyaJo]

I agree

[@rubygriffin2558]

Her mom and dad didn't have any conflict on the show that I can remember so we don't know if she was opinionated off of the camera. They showed the mom with her friends and she was full of life but she has a soft voice.

[@samanthaharsch3148]

I completely misjudged Jill from the show. She has grown so much as a person and I hope she feels happy and confident with herself.

[@SJH320]

Jill is so emotionally intelligent and I love how Derrick respects her.

[@dona62851]

I think they have grown into their own ideas of what life rules and guidelines should be based on their beliefs. In my opinion financial support should not be dependent on control.

[@sheteg1]

Exactly. When you see and learn more your ideals change. Her parents sheltered her too much from the real world. Say what you want about Derek, he has opened her scope to many other things. He is educated. Not that, that is the be all to end all. It surely helps.

[@samanthakwait8782]

I also think tlc portrays people in the ways they want to for a storyline that may not be totally accurate

[@nicolemartinez5041]

@@samanthakwait8782 A lot of people say that once they leave the spotlight

[@Chickennoodlesoup4you]

I’m just so proud of the couple and parents you both have become. You are such a beautiful person inside and out Jill.

[@MyArig]

I’m a liberal, agnostic, independent career woman. I want to be friends with the Dillard family. Jill is so happy it’s so obvious. I could really see myself being friends with her. We may not hold the same views and that’s ok. She has become such an awesome person.

[@bethanyg153]

She doesn’t seem agnostic

[@mimimary16]

@@bethanyg153 reread her comment and try again

[@MakotoKinoSailorJupiter2020]

@@bethanyg153 she didn’t say Jill is, she said she is.

[@Hannahleigh_]

@@bethanyg153 go reread the comment carefully. She never said that

[@tierneemalinadeveaux4421]

@MyArig That will never happen

[@susanwalton7729]

I love this couple, Derrick is so much more likeable than as he was portrayed on the show. IMO 🌺 🇬🇧

[@shernellecyrus5133]

Yes I was thinking the same thing

[@mariannepiiksi5317]

i agree 👍

[@fiffihoneyblossom5891]

He gets alot of hate for being very opinionated about controversial subjects. But regardless of his opinions, he doesnt seem like he has anything but respect and love for people around him. He seems like the kind of person who can dissagree with you without judging you or villainising you for thinking different than him. Which is alot harder than youd think and a hole alot of religious people fall into, you are different therefor you are damned to hell.

[@MichiganHoney]

I think he’s just grown as a person.

[@oodles_of_noodles.]

Derick was going through a lot with his jaw surgery and other health issues and now we know about the TLC issues too so yes, I think he did come across poorly for a while but it’s understandable now why. I also think he and Jill have had a lot of time to grow, as we all have to throughout life and the change is showing in a positive light. I’d still love to see his comments about Jazz Jennings addressed though and to see that they hopefully have different views there now even if it’s something they don’t personally support. She is still owed an apology in my eyes, and apologies from me if there had been one and I’ve missed it.

[@nickcastaneda203]

Glad y’all are being so open about this stuff now.

[@megan7506]

Atheist here! Just wanted to let y’all know you have fans from all walks of life. You both seem like genuine, kind people. Have a great holiday season!

[@chocolatechipcookieface3668]

I want a atheist friend that wouldn’t mind teaching me their beliefs..🤗🤗🤗

[@anastasiamay2852]

Im athiest too. Jill is the cool duggar

[@MissLexiMarie]

Same here! I was raised rather fundamental Southern Baptist, granddaughter of a well-loved pastor. It's really heartening to see someone come from such a restrictive upbringing and make themselves better for it. If faith helps you do that and you're not hurting anyone, then by all means, you do you!

[@chocolatechipcookieface3668]

@@MissLexiMarie you atheist too?

[@chocolatechipcookieface3668]

Which one of my new friends willing to educate me on being a atheist??🧐🧐🧐🧐🤣🤣🤣

[@LittleBitOfLife]

I really enjoy these Q&A’s. You guys are very open and honest - both with each other, and with your viewers. I’m super proud of the progress you guys have made in your little family - you seem happy and healthy. God bless you guys!

[@AlbertaRose94]

Derrick definitely is open and honest, even before he left the show.

[@carolynt3184]

They sound so healthy together! I’m so happy for them.

[@SwimSweetie100]

I’m glad you cleared up that you were able to have private conversations without your family watching. The show made it look like there was always someone watching, and that always seemed off to me

[@alligator2213]

Same here. It always made me cringe.

[@ArtByAllie]

Here's a juicy question: I'm sure you both had your assumptions about sex before you got married, considering you were virgins. The unknown can send our minds spiralling. That being said, how have your views on sex as now two married adults changed compared to what your parents told you in your teens? Also, what was sex education like in your family? Having so many kids at so many ages, what is done by age or life event? Was there judgment instilled your parents or mentors that you were not of value if you had sex before marriage?

[@nickyninetoes]

Good question!!

[@thatsmyjam6065]

I would love to hear Jill and Derrick's thoughts on these questions.

[@KayyMarc]

I've always been curious as to if it's awkward to go from barely ever physically touching this person to kissing and having sex in 1 day. I feel like I would be uncomfortable moving so quick from only holding hands to sex.

[@ArtByAllie]

@@KayyMarc I aboslutely agree!

[@taryndancer29]

@@KayyMarc I have a feeling some of these religious couples wait a bit before having sex because as you basically said, it is a lot to go from first kiss to first time in one day.

[@jessicap6324]

Loved the banter between you both in this one. It seemed more genuine and relaxed than other videos. I didn’t have a conservative upbringing but Jill’s personality reminds me a lot of my own.

[@GrannyCompton]

This video seemed more real and y'all appeared more comfortable talking. I give you both applause for being open in dialogue about private matters and send prayers for you both.

[@shayvecc7849]

18:45 - keywords: FOUNDATION, RELATIONSHIP, ORGANIC... Such wisdom from you two. You were certainly raised well, and you are "recycling" that into your boys. (loved that analogy!) Thanks for sharing your ideas!

[@growinggracehomeschool]

2 questions: What does your relationship with your siblings look like now? Who are you closest with? Would you be willing to share Sam's birth story?

[@Amberrr_0080]

I was wondering these same questions

[@Susiegmc85]

Yes please answer this

[@abigailjohnston101]

Who’s Sam?

[@tracybell7904]

@@abigailjohnston101 their youngest son

[@patriciahunter1566]

I think one of the dumbest things I remember is when you (Jill), on your wedding day, told your dad that you and Derek were going to go pray, and your dad asked if you had a chaperone! I about fell out of my chair! Like literally, you are at the church getting ready to get married and your dad thought you needed a chaperone? What did he think you were going to do at that point? Go into a Sunday school room and go for it? Good grief!!

[@nickcastaneda203]

Yeah they’re pretty strict

[@clothyoriginal]

I thought that was a joke, no?

[@tbisurvivor1500]

Ikr! Even if they did kiss before saying I do it doesn't make them bad people. It may have not been the best choice for the beliefs they have, but nothing to feel guilty about.

[@nancycoy9510]

Patricia Hunter you are too funny!

[@gracecole1]

Maybe he was joking? Lol. The funniest thing I ever see Jim Bob do was go swimming in the Dead Sea in his jeans and flannel shirt, for modesty. He is a character. He does love his daughters though.

[@ginnyg2003]

Wait! I'm sorry! Did you just say that you said a fake goodbye and then doubled-back in Nepal? What? Thank you for your honesty now. That's super courageous and awesome! I know you were under pressure then to behave a certain way. I hope you never feel that pressure again. Keep sharing that truth!

[@leed3796]

I was on a "reality tv show" and they made us do things like this all the time. One of the people on the show had been dating for months but it was when the crew wasn't filming. So they went back and staged a first date, which was so awkward.

[@riannetaal384]

I was in shock too, hearing that part. Feel a bit mislead....

[@awells327]

I’m loving the behind the scene truths! I was waiting for more. Did her dad double back also or was there another chaperone that stayed in Nepal with her? I’m enjoying the the Q&A’s.

[@wickedbigpuffeduphai]

@@awells327 Her dad and she just stayed. The crew was going to leave so they filmed the goodbye a week ahead of time while the crew was still there. But Jill and Jim Bob actually stayed a week more.

[@amyspencer232]

Did jim bob stay when u did ur fake out and came back

[@msdbism]

23:07 GO JILL!! I love how young and fun and normal Jill is now! And how normal and healthy their relationship seems! So happy for her! 👏

[@tammyr6669]

I love hearing directly from this couple instead of the tabloids or from others that just want to show them in a different light than they live. Thank you!!

[@lizschuller6894]

Jill, your vocabulary has improved. It is so nice to actually hear your thoughts now without the filler words. Well done.

[@cupcake1406]

Jill says " um" and like" in every other sentence😂

[@abbymichelle8294]

As someone, who like most here, watched almost every episode of 19KAC, this is sooooo refreshing! I loved watching y'all grow up, and how you're family handled all the day to day. I can not tell you though, how awesome it is to hear your real life, non scripted, reality of what life is! The love between you and Derek is so clear. You are such an amazing young family! Blessings 💓

[@havalitsa]

When you're both talking about holdings hands during your courtship and Jill says "YES' , that's so real lol ! Love your little family !

[@holly4386]

I’ve ever been a big fan on 19KAC but I absolutely love how you and Derek have grown and blossomed together. You both feel so genuine and like you’re finding your own path while being open to learning and growing to new ideas or ways of life.

[@christinasmyth5674]

Derick is crazy about you Jill his eyes light up when he looks you’re way 💕

[@karenpierson9841]

Same goes for Jill

[@annsousa42]

I Love what Derrick said about changing your behavior for your future spouse. You don't have to keep doing something just because you messed up once. Very important message 👏

[@debwilson1935]

I am so happy that you’ve taken a step back from the Duggar clan. I know they’re your family, but you’re so much better now, and so much more fun and interesting to watch.

[@nuggetsofchiken]

@Annamae Feekill it’s not. It was becoming toxic for Jill. She deserves autonomy and the right to choose what’s best for her, and her family. Something she was never able to do.

[@debwilson1935]

@Annamae Feekill maybe for sensitive people like you. Jill knows what I mean I’m sure. If she’s offended, she can tell me. Bye.

[@debwilson1935]

@@nuggetsofchiken exactly this, I meant now ill will towards anyone. I’m glad she’s realizing what happens in the real world and not the Duggar world. I almost called them a cult and changed my mind.

[@debwilson1935]

@Annamae Feekill what? You’re obnoxious. Go away,

[@mimijulene6307]

Jill I’m interested to know if you would like to pursue a career in nursing or maybe become a certified nurse midwife when the boys are both in school full time? I have been a pediatric nurse for 35 years, and I know you studied to be a lay midwife. Your personality and demeanor seem like they would work well in these fields if you’re interested. Proud of you both for speaking your truths and being honest and open with us on KZbin.

[@michelle3445]

I think she would make a fabulous nurse.

[@emmajensen6548]

I know the Duggars aren’t SUPER famous, but I’m wondering if she’s a little to well-known for a normal career.

[@cupcake1406]

She has to get a GED first

[@JenniferHill_zaankali]

Great dialogue! Also chuckled at the end with the call interruption concerning “extend your car warranty”. Good to know I’m not the only one getting a bazillion of those calls. 😂

[@CassGaff]

I respect it so much how open and honest y’all have become with us. I love hearing the truth. Love that you vaccinate too. My question for your next Q&A is: what were you taught about sex education growing up? We’re you nervous about your first sexual experience? Can you talk about what it was like for you? Did your younger, unmarried sisters ask what it was like or what to expect when they got to that point in their life? (I know this personal, not expecting you to get graphic. Whatever you’re comfortable with)

[@mghtymffn]

that is what i have been wanting to know for years

[@kayersof5941]

Now that you're a mom what are your thoughts on the ”Buddy system”

[@bevjo7158]

Jill you are so cute! You’ve grown up to be such an honest, loving wife and mother. God bless.

[@amyspencer232]

The way they portrayed derek was so bad hes so much more likeable than they let us to belive

[@jeniferlove3871]

I love the q&a they never diss their parents and often praise them for the good things... would be so easy to do the opposite. Much respect

[@ericas5171]

LMAO Jill really snapped on the "just friends" thing. I love it. We need to see that firecracker more often.

[@laurah865]

I just want to know if jill still plays piano, violin or harp and will Israel and Sam have any music training?

[@FluentWithHayley]

Oo I wanna know this too!

[@hannaliesel876]

Jill and Derick, I watched your wedding tape. It was so beautiful and precious. What God intended all marriages to be like is the kind you two have.

[@lizsloan300]

I am just now watching your Q&A's, you are both so real and down to earth. You are forging your own path in life, excepting the good things from your childhoods and changing the things that didn't work. Your children will be better because of this. Continue doing what you're doing because it works!

[@bethanneg1217]

I do remember the scene where Derick put his arm around Jill, and Jim Bob separated them.

[@Canadianbrunnette]

And tlc would not stop freaking playing it..🙈🥴

[@lizkt]

I was hoping they'd bring that scene up. Id like to know if it was staged

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@lizkt Because they were still courting. And they did not want them to do something they would regret. Putting your arm around a woman can lead to other things.

[@lizkt]

@@nancyfarkas3592 yeah I remember. I was just wondering if it really happened that way or if it was part of the show.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@lizkt well based on the fact that she said that they staged a lot of things I am thinking it didn't really happen.

[@oodles_of_noodles.]

I’m more and more proud of you Jill with every video I watch ( and obviously Derick too because I know your journey wouldn’t be progressing so well without his support ). Thank you for sharing this with us, I know it’s very private and probably not easy to do but I think you have the potential to help a lot of people here.

[@mary-catherineelizabeth7277]

Jill seems so intelligent, well spoken, and independent now and it's wonderful to see.

[@cupcake1406]

I don't think Jill is well spoken. She says "um" and " like" in every other sentence😂

[@abbysimpson4489]

What are your opinions on modesty? I know you’ve explained your reasons for wearing pants in previous videos, but was wondering if you could delve deeper into this topic?

[@stephanyalvarado6229]

Also, if they would let a possible future daughter wear pants while growing up? Just curious 🙂

[@francesbuckner4245]

I really enjoyed this QA session. It really seemed like y’all were comfortable being yourself and I love the playful banter.

[@tchock57]

Yall are adorable. Sweet family, love the fact he didn't know that it would have been expected to ask permission to hold your hand when you were dating. Love the surprised look on Derrick. Jill, your personality is strong and sweet, love that you are finding yourself and recycling beliefs that will be your own family values.

[@jamiethompson738]

Most people call the predating stage "talking," however, not everyone fits into the same box. I loved this video, it definitely seemed more organic to who you are as a couple

[@melissapichette8152]

Hi Jill! Just wondering if you had wanted to put something in your “approved courtship rules” like kissing, or frontal hugs would your parents have allowed that?

[@sortoffitness6645]

I highly doubt kissing would have been in there

[@Lily-bj2ne]

I would like to know more about filming on the show like did they make you rehearse some scenes over and over?

[@janinedaly8919]

Our family have been on a “reality” tv show and it is not reality at all it’s very fake and rehearsed doing things over and over it’s very “scripted”

[@BickyToya]

same+

[@designdoctor247]

Yes. Is "reality" TV really reality 🤔 like it was VERY interesting that u guys enjoyed Thanksgiving in Napal. I personally was so happy to hear this good bit of news

[@China-Clay]

@@janinedaly8919 what show did you do? Just curious!

[@MayimHastings]

@Amanda She refused to sign an NDA! We know Joy and Amy were basically forced by Jim Bob, but Jill refused and didn’t want to do the show anymore. That’s when JB ostracized Jill.

[@jerisharpe906]

I'm glad you have the morals you have. My husband & I were both virgins when we got married & We have never regretted it. My father always said if someone really loves you they won't ask that.

[@ohheytherelauren]

Also what about frontal hugs and kissing before marriage. Are you glad you kept those rules or do you think you could’ve modified them?

[@Nwenglandr]

I love watching how well you communicate, discuss, respect and love each other all while keeping humor in the picture. I know first hand how important this is and how many people could use this example. So happy for you both.

[@arinzykes5715]

You’re so awesome, Jill! Your conversations with Derek and the way you two interact is so cute! Also, Jill, you keep getting prettier! You’re so smart, strong, and humble too! Go you!

[@saraharchuleta1323]

Jill, I freaking love your personality. I feel like you guys have gotten a lot more comfortable in front of the camera. Thanks for being so open and answering the harder questions!

[@Kyto0047]

In the book, “Growing Up Duggar”, are there things you would change now about it since you have come into your own? And what would they be?

[@leapatterson2014]

Love you guys! Thank you for sharing and opening yourselves up to the world. I love seeing the growth in you Jill. Marrying Derrick was exactly what you needed to come into your own. I am excited you are already talking about your children going to college. Keep moving forward and God will certainly walk by your side.

[@ninawest8]

The positive change and confidence is astounding in you Jill. You sound so different...I don't want to sound disrespectful but you used to talk the same as your sisters, you were very guarded in everything you would say.You even enunciate your words differently that you did before.Im so proud of the woman you have become.Blessings to you and your family.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

Wow that is rude.

[@ninawest8]

@@nancyfarkas3592 But oh so true, she has said the same about herself and many many others have too.Jill has come so far, and with counseling from what her parents/Josh did to her. I am for the new "free" Jill. So have a blessed day✌

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@ninawest8 She has said no such thing about herself. But nice try. Jill is just fine. She has not had counselling! OMG.

[@ellasvlogs7133]

it’s so refreshing to see y’all opening up and being honest about what went on behind the scenes of the show

[@paigep1]

Loving all of your Q&As. You both are doing a great job at shining a light on the realities of your lives. Your videos are like home movies which make them so much more relatable.

[@NatalieHBerg]

I love you guys! I'm so impressed with how you've managed to find the good from how you were raised, but modify and interpret it in the way that makes sense and feels right to you. Much respect.

[@danielaguzman8826]

" is this kosher" 😂 I never knew Jill was this funny keep up the videos guys

[@mistyschoephoerster347]

Jill one of the hardest things we had to witness was your interview about Josh with Meghan Kelly. Has your relationship with Josh improved?

[@noerisgil754]

This is me assuming. But, I think that may be part of the falling out with her family. I (as Jill) would have given my parents an ultimatum: either him or I. As someone who has actually has had to do this in my family, I absolutely know it’s not easy but it’s for the safety and mental health of the “victim” They sent off Josh to a rehab center and then welcomed back in with open arms (it seems) I would’ve been PISSED out of my mind if my family didn’t give me the respect and the value I deserve.

[@chocolatechipcookieface3668]

@@noerisgil754 I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through may god bless you always.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😇😇😇

[@lynnesmith1959]

@@noerisgil754 I think so too, that this is part of the reason she had falling out with her family. When I was 15 my uncle inappropriately touched me through my clothing. I told my mom about it and she said well they're having problems. Of course they're having problems he has inappropriate actions with children. I felt as if she just wanted to sweep it under the rug and pretend like it never happened. This happened 40 years ago and my dad still doesn't even know about it because she told me that if he knew he would do great harm to my uncle.

[@Lily-bj2ne]

@@noerisgil754 I don’t think that’s what it was at all. They’ve always defended their parent’s actions in all this controversy with Josh and they said they forgave him and always speak positive about him.

[@jen4him72]

@@Lily-bj2ne finally, someone else who sees the truth, rather than their own preconceived ideas/ideals. Just because some of the folks here wouldn't be able to forgive their abuser, doesn't mean everyone is that way. Also, have you all forgotten that JOSH WAS A CHILD WHEN HE SEXUALLY ABUSED HIS SISTERS!!! That HAS to factor in! It's not like he was a grown man pedophile! Sheesh! He was a troubled/disturbed CHILD. A CHILD, PEOPLE! How do any of you Judgemental people know that Josh doesn't have a history of being sexually abused, huh? And was acting out? Do you even care about that? Men are far more likely to not tell when they've been sexually abused as a child. I'm NOT excusing what Josh did, whatsoever. I'm a victim of sexual abuse, by 14 different men, so I know what it's like to be victimized. I've also been the mother of a child who was involved with the criminal justice system due to my son offending on a couple of family members- WHILE HE WAS STILL A CHILD. We didn't know until he began intensive therapy & lie detector tests that he was raped by a neighbor at the age of 5, while I was at work and my mom was caring for him. Anyway, my point is, Y'all need to quit judging and thinking you know better than everyone else. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

[@darcygerhart8198]

What you call pre-dating I called talking

[@nx8481]

Same

[@kayleegoff141]

Same

[@annaj.primus5175]

"Talking stage," lool

[@tiffprendergast]

Yup

[@birdman9265]

I was always confused by the term "talking" pre-dating is a bit clunky, but "talking" is so confusing.

[@steecie3045]

Just popping in to say how proud I am of both of you!! Please know you are seen, heard and acknowledged. You have handled yourselves with such maturity and grace. When I saw Darrick sitting with Anna thus week and conversing with her, it was the first time I saw someone do what Jesus would do in a very, very long time. Please know it did not go unnoticed. Much love to your beautiful family. ❤

[@violetstar26]

Love your Q&A’s. Question for your next Q&A out of all you and your siblings who do you think had the “strictest” dating with a purpose rules for theirselves and who did you think had the most “lose” rules for theirselves.

[@tbisurvivor1500]

What is one thing that you did not like about having so many siblings? Aside from what happened to them as teenagers. I mean come can someone honestly say it was perfect growing up with such a large family?

[@michelle3445]

I’m not Jill but I think John David’s has been the most lax. Just my opinion from on the show.

[@OurSmallTownLife]

I love seeing your little family embracing what your own thoughts and opinions are. This is so important for anyone establishing their own family ideas. It's great to see you using two backgrounds to make your own foundation as a family.

[@ajl1995]

You guys are great people, thank you for being so candid and open with your fans. Happy holidays!

[@Itsme60804]

I love that you guys acknowledge that that you’re not yet entirely sure of how you would handle your children dating. The integrity in the initial statement regarding crossing that bridge when you get there tells me that you guys have your heads on straight and lead with love. Having experienced turmoil with the way my own father handled me dating for the first time in my senior year of high school, I will say that the most important thing you can give your children is a judgement free space so that they can feel comfortable coming to you about things. I definitely did not feel that with my Dad (raised by a single dad) as he could be overbearing at times. But I did appreciate my Aunt who took me on a drive to tell me that certain “urges” were natural and if I needed anything like birth control or advice I could come to her. I think she understood that I was 17 and needed to be prepared for adulthood. That talk alone opened the door to me realizing that I could make my own decisions and helped me to understand the responsibility behind them all in the same token. I guess y’all’s conversation really resonated with me. ❤️

[@ilikeyoutube836]

Very interesting to hear about the reality of things as opposed to the show's portrayal of things

[@msa2470]

I really appreciate how open and honest you have been. It’s really nice to learn about parenting for those of us who don’t have those models.

[@terrimillard7910]

I am loving watching these. (1) I so appreciate your honesty and candor (2) For anyone that doubts your love - I can see that it is very genuine. Sorry you are having issues with Jill's parent - but you are 100% doing the right thing by standing by and up for each other. But here is my question - I am sure your kids do not know the conflict with Jill's family but what is their relationship with their grandparents like now? Do they ask about them? DO they have any interaction with their cousins?

[@debbiea.1272]

You two are such a beautiful couple! You show equality between you, so much love, trust, and respect! What a fresh ray of light! ❤️

[@ElishaaLi]

Pre-dating is just called “talking” among teens now. Like “X and Y are talking” equates to they are potentially about to date soon

[@mermaid1717]

Since at least the 90s it's always been called "talking"

[@baileykatherine8509]

Add more ads! Ones we can’t skip! Would love to be able to support your family.

[@AmandaJ__]

From what I understand about KZbin, I believe that you can only allow ads as a creator, you can’t choose when or how many show or what kind. It’s too bad though! I agree I like to support creators too in this way

[@jennifergeorge7280]

@@AmandaJ__ no you can add them

[@AmandaJ__]

@@jennifergeorge7280 you're right!

[@stefrey08]

They spilled the tea! Love it! They are waaay more normal then we thought

[@demimariecolobro5179]

I love watching yalls channel, it really helps under stand things on the show more, I do still love the show and I love seeing y’all on here speaking feeling on subjects

[@abbieg3945]

Hi Jill , my question for the next one : have you had regret by not going to college or University yourself ? How about experiencing high school compared to home schooling

[@starchic9325]

Its so refreshing to see yall in this setting, thanks for being open and honest with us. Derick is so funny lol and i love Jill's confidence.

[@jdaasa2011]

This was such an interesting conversation to watch the two of you have. I really like that you know if you aren't approachable to your kids when they are getting to the dating stage, they won't approach you when they are dating. I have really enjoyed all your Q & A sessions. I think Derick has gotten a lot of bad press about your narrow views of the world, so it is fun to see him reacting with you, listening to you and conversing with you. Jill you have a strong sense of right and wrong, sometimes very different from people more in the mainstream, but I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

[@amandagray9871]

Good for you for not overloading your kids with vaccinations. My Mom said I got SCARY sick when they overloaded me with vaccines. My little sister too. And one of my sister’s friends had a seizure so bad she ended up so bad after the same vaccines she ended up with severe cerebral palsy. I got away with a grand mal seizure and with mild cognitive problems that I struggle with to this day. I was fortunate.

[@avypoo_1]

Omfg. U got sick= coincidence. Teams a skilled professional doctors did years of research to keep kids from getting measles and the flu, yet u still act like it's evil. Tell me the one bit of scientific evidence that vaccines are bad!!!

[@amandagray9871]

@@avypoo_1 no coincidence. They gave me five at once, and went home and had a massive grand mal seizure.

[@CWat223]

Love both of you! My questions are: Do you plan to say in Arkansas after Derek finished school and starts practicing law? Do you get any backlash from the family when you post these videos and are so transparent?

[@PromisedJubilee]

I found your commentary about level of parental involvement fascinating. My oldest is 11, so this is something I think about frequently, and this was helpful to have kind of a list of subjects to bring up as we talk this through. I appreciate it!

[@amyhammer2707]

Derek wins! It was such a serious video until his phone rang and his "they're calling about my extended car warranty" comment. 🤣

[@sherylhoward4831]

My favorite is the refinancing my home call. I live in an apartment.

[@breng5767]

Yes, those are called scam calls. NEVER send them money!

[@misschanandlerbong5918]

@@sherylhoward4831 😂😂😂

[@jlcollins7673]

The growth I have seen....it is just amazing. To sort of break away from.the very specific things that were ingrained into you for your entire existence....can be so difficult. I experienced a LOT of the same things. I COMPLETELY agree that the relationship/friendship you have with your children is sooooo important. My 3 children know they can come to me with ANYTHING....even if it will disappoint me. They know I am the very safest place... The rigid rules and expectations and lack of relationship with my mom, unfortunately for myself and my brothers, resulted in us rebelling....making choices we all regret. Keep evolving. Keep learning. You guys have come sooooo far and are just...doing a beautiful job....❤

[@katienowak]

“I don’t know about kindergarten relationships” hahaha

[@Jrl4799]

I was raised very differently than the two of you, but I did have parents who always said I could always make them the bad guy for anything which I think is super important and I’m glad you guys seem to feel the same way. It can be hard for young people to stand up on their own especially when they have peers pressuring them against what they believe. The ability to say, “My parents said no” definitely came in handy, even when my parents weren’t actually involved in the decision.

[@waydownyonderhobbyfarm8316]

Like most commenters, I've watched the show from the very first special. I REALLY appreciate your candor and willingness to answer some hard questions. It's wonderful to see that you are both so grounded and open minded. Thanks for letting us "in" 💜💜

[@anav7063]

This is so healthy, communication is so key to a healthy relationship with your parents, I always felt comfortable talking about anything with my parents. I knew their expectations and respected them for it.

[@karikarisutherland7589]

Jill is your relationship with your parents better? Are you still banned from your siblings without parental supervision?

[@priscillavanleeuwen8983]

Banned why???

[@Patty-mt3le]

@@priscillavanleeuwen8983 They're not allowed to go to the big house without JBs permission. I think it has to do with leaving the show. From what read they never got paid for being on the show, the money goes to JB. I think that was ONE of the reasons they left . Jill still gets together with her siblings outside of the house. She has posted photos.

[@kristeemiorada2412]

@@Patty-mt3le I don’t know how he got away with it cause once they turn 18 they would have to have their own contracts.

[@litgirlablaze3432]

This is great advice! I don’t even have kids but I love the idea of writing your standards down before you start dating and get into “the heat of the moment” and make quick decisions you regret. Loved watching you on 19kids and counting but I enjoy getting to know your family on this KZbin channel even more!

[@iAmMadeOfSoup]

I have a question about your first kiss. Did you miss? Also do you regret getting pregnant less than a month after your wedding? This one might be more private- what was your wedding night like

[@ashlieleavelle]

Why do you care?

[@arosewillbloom]

@@ashlieleavelle why are we watching this video then? We can ask her questions.

[@ashlieleavelle]

@@arosewillbloom Why would you ask them questions about their wedding night? We know they waited until marriage. Are you so nosy you need details about the first time they lost their virginity? Just because we can all ask questions doesn't mean someone needs to be inappropriate. What happens in THEIR marriage bed in between Jil and Derick.....not subscribers.

[@iAmMadeOfSoup]

@@ashlieleavelle it’s a q&a she’s open to questions lady

[@ashlieleavelle]

@@iAmMadeOfSoup Then ask normal, appropriate questions. You don't ask a stranger intimate questions of their wedding night. You are highly inappropriate.

[@aishabutler7248]

I love seeing your guys relationship in a new way compared to seeing it on the show. I can see your natural bond and the sense of humour in your relationship. It’s so nice to see you from a true perspective.

[@Wickednell]

I never thought of delayed shots for kids. It makes sense to do it that way to know which one it is if your kid reacts to one of them.

[@annacbrown1986]

Look into "the vaccine friendly plan"

[@countryabc2069]

Thank you for this video. Being a parent of teens I have no idea what we’re doing, it’s one step at a time. I appreciate this conversation and that your not 100% sure of how things will go because that’s kind of how I feel parenting goes, never clear cut answers. Thanks again for this video

[@thatgirlhailey7890]

I just admire your little family and so happy to see you explore life and your love for christ.

[@teacupgirl1]

I have really been enjoying these question and answer videos. It’s lovely to see things from your point of view and seeing how you’ve both grown as a couple. It’s great to see how down to earth you are and I look forward to watching you all, boys included, thrive in the years to come 💖

[@cherylw445]

Amazing couple, love seeing them like this ... so real and down to earth, strong, sensible, sensitive.

[@beckyshealthandwellnessjou4600]

It is so nice that you both cleared up some things about how things were potrayed on the show vs real life. I love these Q and A. Thanks for sharing.

[@Investigativebean]

The gold hoop suits you so well! It looks so cute with the bohemian headband.

[@jenndpbudgets]

I love how open and honest you guys are about everything from the show and what you disagree with.

[@johannestrahanoski5985]

Do you regret the side hug until marriage? Or was that for the show?

[@ashleesimons981]

I loved your reuse, recycle, or reject!! We were at dinner the other night with our four children and we asked what’s one tradition you will keep with your family and one tradition you will throw out! It was such a fun conversation with our children now that they are teenagers, their answers surprised us! I thought all their answers were so good and thoughtful! Heaven know’s we aren’t perfect! 😊