Q&A: Family, Science & Enneagrams!

[@ccbrey7707]

I LOVE HOW JILL IS SO COMFORTABLE TO DISAGREE. I often feel in the church the women are hushed and their words are the mans words. You can totally see it’s on display that Jill has her own thoughts, opinions, and even disagrees with Derrick AND ITS OKAY. Love this couple and the work they have done!

[@FluentWithHayley]

Yes this makes me so happy! There is absolutely no need to stir the pot or disrespect your husband, BUT, I think often things are labeled in those categories that don't actually fit. Aka, having an opinion and disagreeing with your husband! And also, having a boundary of when and where to have conversations. That's so so important (especially for survivors)

[@VioletJoy]

Yes, but she does regularly interrupt and talk over Derrick, which is not cool.

[@piama18]

I noticed that and it is not cool.

[@kg4176-k6o]

I don't know what church you've been to that doesn't allow women to speak/express their opinions! My pastor's wife will call him out from the front row if he says the wrong thing!

[@VioletJoy]

@@kg4176-k6o It tends to be the fundamental sects of religion that follow the patriarchal ways.

[@jessicadawson8883]

Jill is on the ultimate glow up. I really admire the woman she has grown to become.

[@NocturnalStones]

I just honestly would love to just chill with Jill. She seems so chill. Jill, keep doing you girl.

[@LifeWithMrsB]

Yes! Down to earth is a strong vibe I get from her :)

[@NocturnalStones]

@@LifeWithMrsB Exactly!

[@LeslieKnope4Pres]

Chill with Jill. I’d love to listen to that podcast! Haha

[@tiffanymitchellsetliff5915]

Yes! Me too! Jill is chill, she was a super woman rocking Mama hippy chick in a former life!

[@Zoe10411]

Chill with Jill... What a great name for a podcast or KZbin series!!

[@tlh7717]

I like how Derrick doesn't want to be persuaded towards an opinion and or so called fact or give his opinion without doing the research first. Shows wisdom on his behalf that he can't comment his views until he digs deeper into the subject. Very cool.

[@piama18]

I like this too. I don’t think he is coming off as arrogant at all.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

Wh at research has h e done?

[@emmajensen6548]

Derick saying “If you want to go away to be an engineer” talking about daughters made me so happy 🥰

[@victoriamorgan7046]

It’s SO healthy that you can guys can agree to disagree. Seriously, that’s a sign of a healthy couple where both parties are being heard and considered. I’m seriously proud of you guys in how you’ve invested in your relationship!

[@26tina59]

It’s so great that you guys can agree to disagree. It’s part of a healthy relationship! Nourish that independence in thought while still being able to work as a team.

[@piama18]

Just don’t talk over him.. let him what he is saying. I think this goes both ways to having good communication.

[@Mollipoprocks]

While I don’t share your religious views, I just want to say I’m amazed by how much Jill has grown. It’s a relief to hear her exercise her voice independently of Derrick, to realize that spouses don’t always need to agree, and really have agency over herself and that one can have that autonomy and still have a healthy, happy marriage. In fact, Jill is probably a better partner now because of her personal growth. I would love to know if Jill has plans to go to college at all to pursue any personal passion?

[@CarolineDoes]

I think this might be the healthiest marriage to come out of the Duggar family.

[@ilikeyoutube836]

Oh definitely. They're the only ones who aren't blindly following in her parents footsteps

[@sarahsullivan9985]

Jinger and Jeremy seem to have a healthy marriage too.

[@CarolineDoes]

@@sarahsullivan9985 your kidding right? He talks for her and over her all the time she looks scared to voice her opinion

[@TheDavisSixPack1]

Yes! Stay far away from the Bill Gothard principles!

[@cawilliams355]

No doubt!!

[@stephmedeiros]

I love that they don’t want to raise a future daughter to be solely dependent on finding a man to provide for her. 💪🏼

[@nancyfarkas3592]

Whats wrong with with that? I find what she said insulting. Stay at home mom's shoul d not be made to feel l ikje they are useless or dependent on a man either. The woman who stays home to cars for her child is doing an important job

[@MandieTerrier]

I agree, being a SAHM isn't bad, but she should have some type of education. So that she will be OK if her husband dies or becomes unable to work. Derick knows this from experience with his mom

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@MandieTerrier omg she does!!!! Homeschool IS an education. You don't need college. It's nice and all but necessary

[@nancyfarkas3592]

Funny because neither Derek nor his wife work!!!!

[@MandieTerrier]

@@nancyfarkas3592 Jill is a social media influencer. Their KZbin is monetized. Their Family Blog and Jill's Instagram are monetized. They sometimes have Paid Promotions or are sponsored. Derick has posted that he works for a restaurant meal delivery service. I think it's Grubb Hubb? I have a friend that makes $100-200 a night. She does Grubb Hubb as a side hustle. It's not the traditional 9-5 but they are jobs.

[@cherylw445]

People, please, I think its important to remember that the Duggars are still Jill's family. She may have chosen to separate herself and her family from them, she MIGHT have some very strong negative feelings surrounding her family, but they are still her family, and in the end when its all said and done you can be sure negative; rude; distasteful, nasty comments against her family from strangers who know nothing about the soul of the family are very hurtful to her. Please respect her dignity and allow her to find closure and peace without further negativity.

[@MandieTerrier]

I so agree with this. I also strongly disagree with the person calling Jill trash. Since she has seperated herself from her family. We have no idea why she has taken such drastic measures? I am sure it must be more than a disagreement.

[@BickyToya]

YES!

[@landrieadams9510]

How is Josh allowed over at the big house but there's restrictions for Jill and Derrick!?!?

[@NocturnalStones]

I f'en hate Josh.

[@mienafriggstad3360]

Josh is allowed to because he has repeatedly to God, his wife, his parents and his church; his church is also Jim Bob's. Josh has brought himself under the spiritual and physical supervision of Jim Bob and Jim Bobs church. Unlike Jill and Derek who refuse to submit any longer to Jim Bob and his church. Jill and Derek now attend a different church then any Duggars. Aldo if you don't know; Josh, Anna and kids literally live next door to the Duggar Big house; on the same gated property.

[@debs9278]

Q&A question: Jill, is there any rumor/stereotype/assumption about your family that you would most like to dispel? What would you want us to know?

[@zabdi1924]

@@mienafriggstad3360 wow imagine having restrictions on visiting your family because you attend different churches so sad

[@tay7756]

Her parents are bat crazy!

[@kathyk4504]

TLC should’ve focused their time and resources into benefiting the victims of Josh’s assault. This must be a particularly difficult and confusing time for Jill, discovering the abuser she forgave (or was forced to forgive) so many years ago took this dark path. I pray she’s okay. I’m grateful that Derick and Jill have had the strength and courage to speak out against injustices against them.

[@wildflower008]

Jill, as a mother with children of your own, what is your current opinion of the “buddy system” your parents practiced when you were young?

[@jennifergeorge7280]

Oooh good question

[@joyreinhardt5183]

Love how you guys have set boundaries with Jill’s family. Toxic parents hate not being able to control their children and it’s hard to resist caving to their demands. Proud of you Jilly!

[@bmcgovern8572]

Jill will you be furthering your education?

[@sarabrown2663]

“We don’t want 30 year old kids living in our basement” Shade to the Duggar’s😂

[@lizziedssg8643]

Good one! 😁😄😆

[@heatheroneill926]

While I do not agree with either of you on pretty much anything when it comes to certain topics, I can appreciate the growth you both have shown over these past few years. I wish you all the best in continuing your journey. You both, especially Jill, have been through so much. And I feel terrible that in the middle of this growth, you are being thrust back into a part of your life that you've tried so hard to heal from. Please just keep supporting one another in this healthy manner. XOXO

[@montyollie]

Someone posted this as a reply to another comment, but I think the Dillards are more likely to see it if it is it's own thread: Q&A question: Jill, is there any rumor/stereotype/assumption about your family that you would most like to dispel? What would you want us to know?

[@ciaraf4158]

Jill I’m so glad that you are protecting your peace

[@user-ll1iz4wq6k]

It’s nice to see Jill speaking her own opinions and not afraid to disagree w Derrick! ...we’re all human and should be able to think for ourselves

[@O_e_O_e_O]

Gosh, Derrick seems like such a genuinely good guy! I love how he's a good Christian but also open to learning the science behind things like the age of the Earth! That's wonderful. I hope Jill can join him learning too. She seems a little hardheaded and stubborn about it. Reminds me of JB. But hopefully Derricks kindness, patience, and willingness to learn will eventually wear off on her. Maybe one day their kids will know God and have a great relationship with Him and still be able to learn science and facts. I think you should be able to have both.

[@debs9278]

Jill, is there any particular rumor/stereotype/assumption about your family that bugs you the most? What would you want us to know to “set the record straight”?

[@nmikloiche]

I think Derek’s summation on raising children to be independent (perhaps better termed as self-sufficient) particularly girls,was refreshing. I liked his framing of dependence/independence in the theological broad sense is more about ones spiritual and emotional dependence on God and to each other.

[@LisaR2392]

Oh boy is Katie Joy going to have a field day with this one!! I love you guys though... all the way back to the first episode on tv many many years ago!! So glad you are finding your way Jilly and becoming a healthy independent thinking yet still Christian couple!! So proud of you for standing your ground on a healthy marriage and life!! God bless yall!!

[@deeanna8448]

That's exactly what I was thinking! Thst line about not having a 30year old kid living nom the basement is going to get interpreted as a direct attack on Jana.

[@cmcgalrd]

Who? Is that the crystal ball crazy lady? People still watch her? 😆

[@LisaR2392]

@@cmcgalrd lol 😂 yes!

[@stefaniemedina14]

I have been a fan of your family for many many years. I am so proud of you Jill for speaking up for yourself and prioritizing your own mental health. Happy you have a supportive and kind husband who is gently allowing you to process everything you have been through.

[@nashvilletljc5904]

Jill- you should take a paralegal class, either online or at the community college. My hubby just past the bar & got sworn in, & I’m gonna be his paralegal. Ya’ll can have ur own practice. With both ur kids being in school soon, u should look into it. I’m really looking forward to it.

[@JoyNoelle.]

EXCELLENT IDEA!!

[@SaraSmilesandCreates]

I’ve known many married couples that have done this

[@laurieperkins7636]

I’m just curious if your precious little boys ever ask about your family? It seems like being Derrick’s mother, brother, his wife, baby , etc that they might wonder about your side. And I totally admire and respect you, your family and sticking with your beliefs . Side note, off topic, did you change your makeup or something? You just have seemed to change your look a bit and you look absolutely beautiful!

[@rachelnapoli5868]

Your example of being an engineer before becoming a stay-at-home mom is exactly what my mom did! She went back to work as an engineer when my siblings and I were older. Too funny, and I also agree with the point of that example from seeing my mom feeling valued in both of those roles.

[@amymohonmcanally2330]

My daughter is about to graduate from Texas A&M with an engineering degree and do just this!

[@VALPw-n8d]

I wish they had their own reality show!! They are so relatable. I love them!!

[@thecatlady6]

They would be great but, as with all reality shows, there's not much reality. And, the channel (TLC or whoever) controls a huge part of their lives. I think their KZbin vids are great -- more real and, most important, they control it.

[@abbywebb2822]

Yes!!!!

[@anyuangel]

They live pretty mundane lives, the only thing that makes 19KAC/counting on worth viewing is the Duggar’s extreme views on Christianity and how they live their lives but the Dillard’s would be pretty boring imo

[@samanthaelswick2406]

I have a few questions. 1. Which sibling are you closest with at this stage of life? 2. How long do you think a couple should court before considering marriage? 3. Jill, what's the one thing that you enjoy now that you've married and have your own home that you maybe weren't allowed to while living with your parents? 4. Will you have the buddy system with your own kids?

[@ThePuntingDiva]

I'm agnostic. I believe the Earth is much older than probably either of you do. But I so appreciate that you read literature and form your own opinions!! It's very refreshing. Thank you for this ❤️

[@debwiley3914]

I'm so glad you want your children to have an education and be prepared to earn a living. Derrick had a great point that a widow might not have as much of a choice about working if her husband died. Good to see you thinking about humans being responsible for earning their own living.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

Homeschool is educating your kids. Some people don't get it

[@debwiley3914]

@@nancyfarkas3592 There's homeschooling that is excellent, and homeschooling that is barely adequate. From what I've seen of the Duggar variety, I'm guessing it is the barely adequate type. EVERYONE needs as much and as varied an education as possible to be able to be employable in case of a life-changing event. That means that even women get an education to do the type of work they are called to do. Maybe even especially women get an education to do the type of work they need to do. After all, men tend to die young and leave widows and orphans - who is going to pay the bills at that point?

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@debwiley3914 from what you have seen? You have seen nothing to prove crap. My sister's ki ds were homeschooled andc are great. The digger girls can build, cook and clean and do so much more. So shut your face about stuff you know nothing about. Hom schooled kids still have to take state tests and so on. I doubt they are as stupid as you make them out to b e. Get a life lady

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@debwiley3914 men tend to die young? B ased on WHAT exactly? You are an idiot

[@nancyfarkas3592]

You are GUESSING their hom school is "barely adequate"? Based on WHAT exactly? Oh right NOTHING!!!!

[@montyollie]

It's so refreshing to see you guys be so honest. I love that you do this for your fans. I also love that you showcased that it's OKAY to agree to disagree on stuff like old/young earth creationism. It isn't going to break the marriage up, so don't focus on it. You are well within your rights to have your own opinions. I love that you talked about a wife potentially losing her husband young and therefore not being completely dependent as that's never discussed in fundie circles and it's important. See: the Mills family in Wyoming

[@Arh870]

I’m seeing so much growth from both of you and it makes me so happy for you both. It’s nice to see Jill thinking for herself and Derrick supporting her when she has a differing opinion.

[@aileenhoop5810]

Discussions! My husband and I enjoy discussing varying opinions regarding the earth. After 25+ years, countless documentary watching, reading, and researching, we’ve decided there are just some things we don’t have an answer to satisfy both of us. Makes for good and interesting conversations though! 😄

[@frithar]

It's totally okay for Derrick to explain what he believes. Just as it's okay for Jill to tell hers. Both of you should be free to speak it without being interrupted.

[@locks4u2c]

Same thing I said

[@sowforeternity2716]

Exactly

[@missmorgan52]

I hope one day you keep studying science!! I am a former Christian raised to believe the earth was only a few thousand years old. Im now an athiest, and I promise we are not "evil" like most Christians think we are.

[@leem200]

Take all the time you need to build your family, it is difficult to be where you are at. I been distance from my family for last 3 yrs. I am way older then you and trust me I miss what I always wanted but I have to respect myself enough to not be caught up in things. Hope things will eventually work out for you and extended family. All are good people. Just differences and expectations can differ greatly. Pray for you to have peace over all of it.

[@niniandsunny1353]

Amen! So hard being separated from family. Everyone needs to respect one another on their views.

[@babewhowalks]

Not so good, when Daddy doesnt share the check, it should all be devied up, equally

[@landrieadams9510]

Love that you have blossomed into your own person and done what you feel is best for your family!

[@MagdaBing]

I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU SAID STRIPPER IN FRONT OF JILL LOL. Feels like the twilight zone! Seriously though, you guys are so sweet together and I love how real you guys are!

[@babewhowalks]

She talks about sex and birth control, has books about sex on her night stand, drinks wine, on occasion, why would the word “stripper”, bother her

[@TexasbyStorm]

You know they are married and probably talk about many things that would make you blush. It's silly to think just because people are Christians they don't talk about things that happen in the world.

[@alliesteph6274]

You can’t believe he said the word stripper in front of someone he has sex with?

[@MagdaBing]

@@TexasbyStorm it's just a joke lol. Having watched their show for so many years, you never thought any of them would utter the word "stripper". That's all!

[@chloesheppard5044]

You definitely did not have to answer questions associated with past/present trauma, but I admire you for being willing to share that with us. My biggest hope for you is that God continues to work through yourself and Derick in whatever you’re facing with family. That’s a vulnerable subject to open up about and I think it’s incredible that you’re both able to talk about it on this platform. May God bless your sweet family!

[@chromiedoodles]

Thanks for another video update! Love the candid content. I love that you respect your own and each others' opinions and don't apologize for being a person in progress as we all are. I think you guys are rockin' life, as my grammy would say, "Just keep on, keepin' on!" :)

[@BrandyH-eh9up]

I love how you guys have come into your own and even if you were raised a certain way, you have learned to think on your own and what is best for your own family and marriage.

[@borntoshop404]

Jill you are glowing, you look great! Also, derricks hair looks good!

[@kara2594]

It’s amazing how mature you have became. Even the comment section has grew mature with you. Sending love to you.

[@loiserwin5991]

Congratulations Derrick. Just saw a video you graduated Law School. Very proud of you and your family and where you and Jill are now. Hugs to your family 💐🌹🌸🏵🌼

[@lostinwonderland6873]

Im so happy for Jill and Derrick he is a stand up man, defending his family and supporting his wife no matter what she is doing, @ 1:15 sometimes you have to cut family out for your own mental health I had to do that after one to many times I was getting hurt and I became someone I wasnt I could not enjoy anything always on pin's and needle's when they came around and now they started putting my kids in a bad spot that is when I said nope you can be as toxic as you want with me but you mess with my kids and thats it, so ive had not seen or spoken to my mom or sister going on about a year but we had been not speaking for 4 before and this time I needed to put my mental well being first and that includes cutting out your own family, I got a good advice from my uncle and he said you do not worry about no one outside in your own home, behind those closed door's they are the only one's that matter and to hell with everyone else if they are not good to you. Jill seems so much happier now and they way she is able to have 2 adorable boy's that are able to be normal boys playing and going to school getting a PROPER EDUCATION. I wish them nothing but the best and I know their own little family has a great future ahead of them, do not feel bad JIll you are doing what is best for you. Keep going girl you got this

[@laurenbanuelos6324]

i didn’t know all the things that went down with jill and her family until now...what a queen. so glad she’s living her life on her own terms with her little fam / doing whatever the heck she wants and distancing herself from her toxic fam. still don’t like the way derick used transphobic and homophobic statements in the past but they’re great parents.

[@avaisapenguin]

I hope he changed

[@LisaR2392]

I think it's clear how they view Jana's situation.

[@frejagabriella3075]

?

[@katkymat3]

They do not want a 30 year old child living with them

[@OK-hi5ym]

I think what they were saying is more like their daughter will not be forced to live at home until she gets married and if she doesn’t get married she never moves out. They won’t raise their daughter to think her only escape/chance at “freedom” is by having a man save them by marrying them. I don’t know if it was a direct shot at Jana or just the beliefs Jill’s parents follow

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@OK-hi5ym jana is NOT forced to live at home. She has said as much

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@Heather LM who says t hey are not taught how to be free thinkers? Again you base those off what? 30 minutes edited footage? You don't know the Duggars. Their adult children appear to think just fine for themselves. There is nothing wrong with being a wife and stay at home mom and shame on you for assuming there is something wrong with that. My sister stayed home and raised 7 children. She can certainly think for herself. She CHOSE motherhood. So did the Duggars girls. How dare you

[@jm9009]

You all are very courageous to answer some very invasive questions. Thank you both for sharing your lives with us💕 God bless you & your sweet kids💗

[@j55555g]

Totally agree about whether a son or a daughter help them figure out a career path. Even Michele (Jills mom) has her Real Estate license, so why not help your children find some kind of degree, certificate, or employment history that will help them in the future too? It breaks my heart when I see young married women with 5 kids and then their husband tragically passes away. Besides the heartbreak of the loss etc now she will have to figure out how to be the provider with no employment history etc. Something I really admire about the Bates family is that most of their children have careers in all different fields not just midwifery. Some of their daughters are hair stylist, teachers, realtors, nurses, etc. Whatever they CHOOSE to do whether it be a SAHM, a working mom, if their husbands lost their job, if they want to save up for a house, etc. They have SOMETHING to help out their family or stand on their own 2 feet. I am a SAHM but I have a business degree, past employment history, and a real estate license. If I need to start working again I can do what I need to do to help out my family. Right now I’m helping my family by staying home in the future that may change if it doesn’t that’s okay if it does I’m prepared. 🤱🏻 👩🏻‍💼

[@homemadeinternational9925]

Can you go more in detail about what “it depends” means in relation to the invites to the big house. What events have you not been invited to? What events have you been invited to that maybe you choose not to go to? Do you feel valued in your family? Do you feel that there are so many kids that your absence has no effect on your parents and that they don’t feel a true commitment to valuing you and incorporating you Derrick and the boys into the family unit. Do you feel like your parent’s love and the position you hold in the Duggar big house is directly related by how you conform to them and the way they are currently wanting you to live your life? Also, lol, does the dog still sleep outside.

[@wrenl2944]

Good to hear about the dog training. The trainer & vet are the best ppl to help. My info was based on their info-bc I wouldn’t have been able to do without them-. Personally, I think the two of you going out on your own and figuring out life away from family is a blessing. Everyone has their own way of doing things and believing! Go for it!!! Much love!

[@WhiteTulip22]

I'm glad you are raising your kids to be independent, because kids are different than their parents. I don't expect my kids to be just like me. They are their own person and they need to live their lives how they want. Keep on keeping on, kids.

[@sunny4jenny]

I find it refreshing how REAL you two are and keep your social media accts real! So many don’t.

[@818clong]

I am so glad you both spoke about your views regarding women's independence!!!

[@jayniekinser7259]

I like both of you. People in these comments are so critical.

[@benandmkful]

I was in a church for over 15 years that told me how to dress, act and what I believed. I left it to live my life on how God wants me to live and not man. Keep doing God's will for you life and you will be blessed! God Bless!

[@yoshithekid18]

Yep. I went to a church for years that became hateful to its members over a time. Accepting of them even though they were gay or trans and then there was a pastor change and everyone became hateful. The church I had known since a child became one that was all about image and I am now at a better relationship with God since I left.

[@shurrieweatherman468]

Jill, the public has always said that you and your 3 older sisters raised the younger siblings via “the buddy system”. Do you feel that is an accurate assumption?

[@LisaR2392]

I second this question!!

[@MandieTerrier]

I am not Jill, obviously. Michelle talks about the buddy system on 14 Kids and Pregnant Again. I don't know if that particular TLC show would still be available.

[@teresa_twin]

It's accurate.

[@bethanneg1217]

It has been outlined in the Duggar books and on the show multiple times.

[@shurrieweatherman468]

I’m a fan, I’ve watched all specials and series and am aware of the buddy system according to the Duggar’s view. I was hoping Jill might talk personally about it. Does she feel that she raised her siblings? Especially now as a mother herself, does she feel the buddy system was appropriate.

[@elizabethmesora2558]

I enjoy your channel. I was raised with very similar Christian values. Just an idea, the creation story in Genisis was first written to people who did not have the scientific knowledge that we do today so they were told a beautiful and simple story. The important thing is that God is our creator whither it took him six literal 24 hour periods or millions of years. It took me until I was about 75 years old to realize this. Keep growing. You are not finished yet.

[@stephaniewilder7181]

Love the Q&A my main question is do the kids get to still have relationship with grandparents even though you don’t really get to go to the big house?

[@kajunchronicles3001]

And cousins?

[@ginnyg2003]

Great video! I'm wondering about Jill's book, "Growing Up Duggar". Are there any parts of the book that you disagree with now or are you standing by it?

[@LittleBitOfLife]

Great question!

[@thecatlady6]

I second that!

[@LisaR2392]

I third that!

[@Courtez52]

Please answer this one:)

[@AmyintheMountains]

Excellent question!

[@Janna-vdP]

Glad to hear not going to the big house is your choise, and that you (sometimes) are still invited. Question: are you invited to weddings of Jill's syblings?

[@thomasrupp1637]

Jill, we think the videos are your successful light-bringing activity right now. Do them by yourself so you have something special to hold on to. Certified Nurse Midwife is an awesome career we suggest when you decide to pivot. You have a gift for midwifery. Thank you for sharing your life journey with us.

[@MandieTerrier]

I think she would be an awesome Nurse or Nurse Midwife.

[@cynthiaburns5071]

I love how you answered some hard questions here! I am happy that Fenna (sp.) is doing well in her new home. Great that you rescued her! Thanks for sharing!

[@bacaworld7095]

Jill and Derick, keeping being a light to the world and to your family. I am so proud of you. You’re siblings (especially the younger ones) will need you to help them walk through and understand this trauma one day. Soon your family and your siblings will start to come to you and Derick for help and advise. God has put you in this place for a reason. ❤️ reminds me of Moses leading his people away from Egypt, first God had to separate Moses before he could lead anyone. You have a big role to play now and in the future. God bless

[@ekeegansmith]

Haha! I was an engineer for a number of years before I got married and now am a homeschool mom. I like your example!

[@samlafleur9587]

Jill used to not be allowed to dance. Do you dance now?

[@gracesmith5902]

I'm really loving these Q&As! I've been watching the Duggars for a very long time, and I grew up independent Baptist as well (I'm more non-denominational now) and it's really refreshing to see someone else form their own opinions.

[@iAmMadeOfSoup]

Can’t believe they haven’t been to the big house in a couple years 😳

[@joannelarcher6246]

Only because of covid they said ... in a year ... They all see each other social distancing...

[@jadewilllow4604]

But do they still keep in contact with her parents or no?

[@ladedalounge]

Thank you for sharing. I was raised Catholica but I am agnostic. My sister is Christian and introduced me to your family on a Thanksgiving - I watched every season and cried with you and watched you all grow up with your faith and dealing with today society norms. I wish all of you the best and I wish the best for Anna and Josh. I don't know if there is a God....but as a humanitarian I saw children being victimized....and forced to live this horror on the media. I felt sick. Children records should not be opened unless as an adult did something illegal. That is the law. I am sorry if I overshared my thoughts on your channel. If you read this, no problem if you delete. Your mental health is so important. BE SAFE!!!

[@bmazz4559]

You are such an adorable couple ❤️. The love and respect you have for each other really shows up in your videos. I’m finally getting to catch up with your family’s adventures and I’m loving it. The heat wave is keeping me inside more. Your beautiful boys are getting so big. Keep on being the beautiful couple that you are. Hugs to the four of you 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@gillianlachanski9598]

I truly hope that Jill goes to college to expand her world and experiences. And to hopefully be an example to her other sisters.

[@bmcgovern8572]

Thanks for being so honest - What is your plans with the law certificate??

[@mariannecstasy]

I’m so proud of you Jill ♥️ You’re such a brave woman. Derick you have Christ’s character for defending and uplifting your wife like this

[@Loriaborealis]

So proud of how you both have grown individually and as a couple.

[@chessyharris6200]

I am so sorry for the rift between you a your family. I believe once you are an adult living in your own house you have the right to live you life. I couldn't imagine not see my two sons. We may not always agree but they will always be welcome in our home. Love shouldn't have ifs attached love should be unconditional.

[@nlcsmvp96]

Derrick doesn't need "time to research." The scientists you believe in did the research a long time ago.

[@paypayITUP]

Not all scientists exactly agree on dating though.

[@cindyschuman4814]

I’m so happy to see you be open to learning about the world! Keep up the good work. Your children will soar with educated parents

[@pate1495]

Hi Jill, are there any siblings that you are close with right now or that share your opinions?

[@jessicacarnahan1096]

Thanks for sharing all this stuff!! It’s been super fun to watch you grow up into the amazing woman- wife and mom - your doing an amazing job y’all! Keep up all the hard work in therapy, it truly does help. I’m also a form believe that the hardship you walk together through during your marriage only strengthens the bond you have with your spouse- unfortunately I have a very toxic family and all the stones thrown only sealed our connection even more- funny how that works - 🥰. Much love from northwest Washington!!

[@julianapaulin9619]

Question for next Q&A: Were you encouraged to continue your education growing up? Such as community College, university, trade school or something beyond high school? I know the show touched on you taking mid wife courses and some of your brothers did flight school, but other than that was there a pathway encouraged for higher education?

[@ilikeyoutube836]

Clearly not. None of them have attended universities. They might be taught that their religious beliefs are not factual. God forbid... I mean how can you pass college courses when you have no real knowledge of science outside the erroneous teachings of religious doctrine? No knowledge of literature outside the bible? No knowledge of accurate world history? Try telling a college professor that the world is only 6k years old, or that Noah's ark was actually a possible thing... Their kids would get laughed out of a real educational setting, and they don't want their kids learning of the realities that conflict with their religious "beliefs"

[@tyeshiajones1252]

If there was anything you could change about your upbringing what would it be?

[@LisaR2392]

I second that too!

[@InYourFaceNewYorker]

I'm very glad to hear that you're questioning. Keep learning and discovering! BTW here's something to think about: God is everywhere, right? Well, if he's everywhere, then how do you know that a day of creation is an Earth day? Maybe a day is billions of years? A "God day" perhaps? And maybe evolution is how God decided to make life? Lots of Christians believe that too! :)

[@wendyf1165]

This might be my favorite video from you guys ever! I love how you have come into your own Jill! May God bless your family 🥰

[@deeanna8448]

I'm SO glad you took advice and got some help with your dog! I'm sure you are all much happier now!

[@quinoasongs2507]

Good to hear from you. A lot of questions I have have been asked so I'll go with that. I'm sure you probably won't ever go into specifics about which siblings are more supportive of you and which ones aren't and why. It's a curiosity but I credit you for respecting their privacy like you hope they respect yours. 13 days till Easter; looking forward to whatever you do for Palm Sunday and Easter

[@rabbikopans]

I love that you can agree that the scripture is true but disagree about its literal meaning. That shows real spiritual maturity and a deeper relationship with God. (I’m a Jew and arguing about what Torah means while agreeing that it’s true is the basis of our entire religion.) Good stuff.

[@leslierobbins5835]

As another Jew on this channel - 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@humbleAndkind.]

Great q and a Dillards!🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏 I just absolutely love that you both can what my hubs(of almost 17 years and I call) debate with one and another.. and not it turn into an argument or disagree.. it is okay to have different opinions. I love your partnership your show us. Thank you for allowing us the honor of getting to know both better . What is each of your number ONE favorite candy

[@ajl1995]

Jill they make AMAZING oatmilk ice cream now that tastes like normal dairy ice cream, definitely worth checking out

[@racheliscool23]

I second this as a vegan

[@TheLightHouseLady]

This is the first video I have watched on your channel. Very impressed. It is so nice to see a young couple who truly believes in our LORD!

[@warropr69]

Jill: When Derick finishes law school, will you further your education? You used to be a doula. Have you ever thought of becoming a nurse or another profession?

[@bellestarr48]

.... BTW, you only need an AA, 2 + yearsto be an RN... I did mine in 3 1/2 years right after my sons started full daytime school... just saying, then you can on to an RN to BSN and do a RN midwife !!! Just saying

[@kasiemendenhall4690]

What are the restrictions with visiting the big house? Do your parents frown upon you wearing pants around the kids that still love at home? By the way! Love watching you grow in your marriage and your independence!!

[@babewhowalks]

She has not been there in two years, they dont care if they wear pants

[@niniandsunny1353]

You are right, Derek...some things will not be answered!

[@niniandsunny1353]

Derick*

[@truckerdaddy-akajohninqueb4793]

Ok, what if one of your children realizes they are gay. How will you respond?

[@Julia-lt4jp]

Thank you for making these Q&As! It’s great getting to know you guys

[@theroadnottaken7]

I loved this but really like the longer videos (though I know its more work). Y'alls dynamic is just adorable!

[@emilyhunneybun]

Q: who in the Duggar family are you each closest to? Love you guys & your channel. Sending love & God Bless x

[@laurawestenra]

The more I learn about the vastness of world and the universe the deeper my faith in God becomes. Science has only opened my eyes the miraculous complexity of every living thing on this Earth. Never fear learning more. If creation didn't happen exactly the way it says in the Bible, that doesn't negate the presence of God or the compassionate message of Christ. You guys are a lovely couple. 🕊️🤍