Having Panic Attacks Is NOT A Character Flaw (A Message From Jawbone)

[@zakk7545]

The “My parents just left and I don’t know where they are” always reminds me that these are children

[@claudiogutierrez2953]

I'm a teacher, one of my students is in a similar situation regarding her anxiety... When she said to Jawbone "My parents just left" I legit got teary-eyed...It hit to close to home...

[@TrunYosuke]

That part always makes me almost cry... not gonna lie and your point "They are children"...... GAH!

[@BradGreer]

It hits especially hard because Adaine had spent the most time justifiably hating her family. But that doesn't mean it's not scary for a kid if they just disappear.

[@soonamisapphire2425]

Yeah sometimes I forget to but just how she delivered that line sounded so heartbreaking she's just a kid and wants to know where her family is and it sucks that they aren't there and she needs them

[@Boi5219]

Yea Jesus they were all 14 at that point

[@tonimartinez320]

"You will no longer roll disadvantage to fear checks" why did this get to me most

[@Hey-Its-Dingo]

Simple, because it's a concrete, in game mechanical result of the help her character was able to get from Jawbone. (I haven't watched Fantasy High, so Idk all the PC's names yet)

[@migueeeelet]

@@Hey-Its-Dingo It's also a satisfying conclusion!

[@uhkingdom]

because the best part of DnD or table top rpgs in general is having a character you've made (which almost always will have a very real part of you in them) have the chance to grow and change, and if the DM is good enough and the moment feels poignant enough, to then have the DM state that your character now has a stat or ability change because of that interaction, then it becomes actually real because it'll affect the game as well. DnD is unofficial therapy for probably too many people, but well handled moments like this by an improv master like BLM can mean so much for more than just the person experiencing the moment.

[@logicaloverdrive8197]

@@Hey-Its-Dingo same energy as Kingston's support helping Pete get over his ex in Unsleeping City

[@Hey-Its-Dingo]

@@logicaloverdrive8197 I really loved that moment. 💖

[@ataruDev]

"You are not a coward, you have a goddamn medical condition" is one of the most simple and most comforting things I could hear about my anxiety

[@orangesoda4535]

I have celiac's disease

[@zitens66]

It loses something when he tells the border patrol bj backstory and being stabbed at an orgy.

[@DustyStarrs]

same.

[@simonw560]

@@orangesoda4535 You are not a coward Orange Soda, you're sick. You just need to avoid gluten. You gotta come and talk to me. This is my job, god d*** it. Now I was going to sell this [cauliflower pizza] to a hipster I know who stabbed me in the middle of an orgy. Alright, there is no shame in having to mentioned intense gluten sensitivity to a waiter. I'm sorry that your parents didn't teach this before. You are a good youtube commenter, you are not wrong for having IBS, you understand me? Now go ahead, take as long as you need in the bathroom.

[@jf2801]

​@@orangesoda4535 ​ Having celiac disease is not a character flaw. You're not a picky eater, you have a goddamn medical condition. [insert monologue about sucking off some dude in desperation here] Bread tries to kill you. Are you gonna let that stop you? Rice is gluten free. Now order some chinese and make that bread your bitch!

[@LynMusic]

"Do you understand me?" "No!" I love jawbone

[@jetvulcan2020]

That part had me on the ground laughing. What are you talking about you crazy wolf. he may give the best advice but his examples are just off the wall and I love them.

[@GZilla311]

@@JumpingTuna Yeah. I'm like "Look, I agree with you, Jawbone, but your examples make NO SENSE."

[@TehConqueror]

I feel like Brennan saw a PC put "panic attacks" on the Flaws section of their character sheet and was like "oh baby, no....."

[@hydrophobic5851]

3 years later, but I feel it could be used as a genuine flaw for a dnd character, just like any long term illness could. Morally its not a character flaw, just in terms of ingame character flaw

[@mitcharlotte672]

​@@hydrophobic5851 Absolutely, it's more of a mechanical hinder, just like in real life

[@orionsbonk]

the editors criminally trimmed out the ending of this scene- adaine goes to reenter the combat and asks jawbone, “you coming?” jawbone replies, “of course i am. i came here to fuck shit up -” face turning very solemn “- and help children.” amazing

[@deathbykonami5487]

Followed by Adaine flipping Kalvaxus the bird and expressing that she wasn't scared anymore

[@kevinwillems8720]

And now when I'm alone I try to sing Fuck Shit Up by Wingnut Dishwashers Union as Jawbone.

[@cremenxmch7879]

@@kevinwillems8720 I will tell right now that I completely get that reference so don't ever feel left out because of a somewhat niche artist my friend :D

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ytuser4562]

I frickin need to see that clip

[@WardNightstone]

"There is no shame in having a mental illness" Fuck me how many of us needed to hear that at Adine's age?

[@davidtucker9498]

On the flip side, many times simple character flaws are justified by saying that you just have a medical condition. Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, but neither should it be used as a crutch to excuse bad behavior. If you have a mental illness or a character flaw, in both cases you need to address the issue and deal with it.

[@DParkerNunya]

At Adaine's age? I'm 20 years old watching this at 3 in the morning and sobbing because I've never heard that. At 14? It might have genuinely changed my life and my entire outlook of myself.

[@ziwuri]

@@davidtucker9498 You say that like it isn't almost always people with mental illnesses getting told to 'get over it'. Obviously working on a character flaw and treating a mental illness are two entirely different things.

[@gwen9939]

@@davidtucker9498 This just sounds like you want to retain your ability to judge people based on deficiencies you think should be in their power to control. If someone has executive dysfunction - regardless if they're able to get an official diagnosis or not - it does not make them lazy. If someone has an addiction they are not failing as a person to not deal with that. Sometimes you can't "deal with it". Sometimes "dealing with it" is just living with it, and you don't really possess the right to moralize people on if they should be on meds or not. Sure, you can be a horrible person and have a mental illness, and you can be horrible because of an untreated mental illness, but I feel like that's not what you're talking about. You're not talking about someone who chooses not to take their bipolar meds and go on a racist rant. You're saying that people with mental illnesses will use their diagnosis as a get out of jail free card for bad behavior, or as an excuse to not improve at certain things like organizing, discipline, showing up on time, being more sociable, proper etiquette stuff, and that's just so far from reality I don't think you've even as much as met a person who was open about their mental illness to you. We all need to work on our character flaws as you said, and having ableist biases where you assume broad strokes trends being applicable to the vast group of people with mental illnesses is also a character flaw.

[@UpsideDown.Bat42]

I know I did. My parents never understood it and never took the time to understand it. Anytime I had a panic attack they would get frustrated and be kinda cold about it even though they were trying to help me. It usually ended up in them going "Do you need to go to the hospital" or "Well I guess we're taking you to the hospital then" when I couldn't stop my panic attack. I'm 21 now and had no idea how much I needed to hear this until I started sobbing.

[@Blasted2Oblivion]

"I want to underline that dosage is important. You need to listen to your doctor but right now there's a dragon who's come back to end the world." If ever there was a reason to ignore dosage, that would be it.

[@mleliew1]

Somebody tell Caleb Widogast that he needs to find himself a werewolf counsellor ASAP

[@lemnlyme]

YUP.

[@jetvulcan2020]

now that's the cross over I would love to see role played out Caleb meets Jawbone

[@stevencooper1103]

I needed that, lol.

[@cutlery9831]

Oh god, yes, yes, yes. Perfect.

[@Clorgisclorg]

Yeah that's not going to really help him. His problems are internalized self-loathing that he doesn't want to get rid of; because getting rid of it would mean letting go of what happened. Can't really hug it away.

[@SuperGreenSmartie]

It's just so fascinating how Jawbone manages to be both an excellent role model and complete dysfunctional mess at the same time. Incredible stuff from this character.

[@jessicafrost7579]

Real talk, everyone working in mental health is at least a bit of a dysfunctional mess. You work in that field because you understand what it's like.

[@devinftf]

Stretching in his tightly whiteys and drinking from a milk carton while he waves goodbye to the bad kids.

[@ShadowAtronach666]

As a person with panic disorder I'm glad this happened it makes me cry every time everyone needs a jawbone in their life

[@themadhacker9376]

would you like a hug? :3

[@ShadowAtronach666]

@@themadhacker9376 yes I always love hugs

[@xanter4672]

I watched this episode before having a panic attack and was like that's cute. Watching it after makes me straight up cry

[@alexryll9237]

Well yes you wouldn’t be able to properly chew without one

[@rogueartificer]

@ShadowAtronach everyone needs brennan in their life

[@SymonOnua]

I feel like Brennan saw she was crying and decided to throw in some funny stuff to cheer her up. Such a great DM. 😭

[@Kylersdomain]

He's the best DM I've ever seen :,(

[@ingecruzvonmcbronwyn-san5098]

There is probably some performative aspect because they are making a show, but absolutely. Think of the history. Brennan and Siobhan lived in the same building in NYC and met there, they've known each other a long time now, and he for SURE tried to throw in some goofy comedy for her and the rest of the players to help distract from what looks like a very real emotional moment between friends who deeply care about each other. Its damn beautiful and a great example of what roleplaying can do.

[@whitevii1533]

Its... she's... they're acting...

[@sinfulbehaviors2004]

@@whitevii1533 You can still do DnD and have it be too heavy.

[@hotelmario510]

@@whitevii1533 That is not acting. Come on now.

[@bryanguzman8611]

Can we stop and talk about how God Damn inclusive and just goddamm great of a human brennan is. Growing up no one told me my panic attacks are not my fault till I was in college I was told to grow up and stop making scenes

[@swordswaltzing]

exactly!!! I had been taught that my panic attacks were me being dramatic and a drama queen and begging for attention when I had a goddamn mental illness and i didn’t learn to cope with them until a few months ago

[@OriginalCreatorSama]

Mom told me i just needed to be stronger and get over it, even though when my mom had panic attacks i was supposed to coddle and help her. I knew that sounded wrong so i figured out how to deal with them by myself..... but I shouldn't have had to. I loved hearing this!! This is so great and I'm so happy that this is now available for everyone to hear!!!

[@susannahmitchell5558]

You are preaching to the choir, sister. I grew up with anxiety and Aspergers and was bullied a lot. 4th grade was rough, I sometimes cried from people bullying me and what did my teachers say: Stop crying. Big kids don’t cry. Those words still haunt me to this day. My mom and dad have always helped me through it, teaching me how to balance it. Hell, my Aspergers is what makes me such a creative person, and out of box thinker.

[@theWeaverofTales]

@@susannahmitchell5558 hey I don't want to be rude or antagonistic or anything, just wanted to note as another person with autism that a lot of us really prefer to avoid the use of the term "Asperger's"! The guy it's associated with was a truly terrible person so for the past few decades autistic folks have been trying to remove the connection to him. You're of course free to use whatever term makes you most comfortable, but I thought it was important to note that it's not a term accepted by everyone in the autistic community :')

[@kamronthompson1499]

@@theWeaverofTales thanks i did not know that. i wont use asburgers anymore.

[@SuperREG10]

She really cried in that moment...This campaign wad amazing and this moment was so special

[@lukastheanimal]

I'm not sure how much this is Jawbone talking to Adaine and Siobhan being a brilliant actress vs Brennan talking to Siobhan and there just being raw emotions. Doesn't matter, it makes me cry and feel better everytime.

[@christianschoff2490]

Siobhan is one of the most amazing actresses I've ever seen. She really tugs the heartstrings here.

[@corsaircaruso471]

I fucking cry every time I watch this scene.

[@daphneglasurus7886]

Siobhan says she’s a bad actor because she always just legitimately feels these things like they’re real

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@daphneglasurus7886If she can do that and still act I think that makes her the best actress

[@JakeTakesTheCakes]

You can tell 100% Jawbone becoming a guidance counselor wasn't planned at all but it just works so perfectly. I love when players make more interesting characters than the DM does. DM's like "This dude's just a goon" but the players latch on and suddenly he's got crazy depth

[@FatalHog]

I mean, it only takes a surface idea of someone for people to enjoy him or hate them. Its the DM's job sometimes to utilize that to their advantage.

[@milpy1257]

Hey, isn't that just real life? I mean, people feel like random NPCs until you talk to them. Is that just me? No? Yes?

[@guitarDrummerwill]

man it's great because they didn't even latch on. it was after a fight and riz just spat out that the school needed a guidance cousiur so brennan just ran with it and gave this former low life a purpose in life.

[@VanNessy97]

DM: And here I made a one-off character you'll never see again Party: We want them DM: ... excuse me? Party: Give Me The Trash Child

[@charityquill4965]

DM kinda sealed the deal when he mentioned jawbone getting excited about having enough money to get his dog to the vet. confirmed jawbone as a big ol softie and got the whole party emotionally attached lol

[@freyjathehealer5559]

That moment where she says “I’m glad you’re our guidance counsellor” makes me emotional everytime

[@skoffs]

kinda feel like that was actually her as a player talking to her DM, channeling her as a teen talking to the guidance councilor she wish she had back when she needed one

[@TheTwentySevenClub]

I love how Jawbone is unquestionably a criminal and does/has done weird shit, but is also one of the most pure people ever.

[@Necro_Hexual]

Definition of chaotic good

[@marissaolin4276]

Jawbone’s way of helping here is a great guide if you want to help friends. Bring up mental health and ask directly. Hug them. Help them focus on the current moment instead of fear, and maybe ramble a bit so they’re thinking about something other than anxieties. Make sure they know it’s just bad brain chemicals, and it’s not who they are. Give them a short term goal so they have something to get them through that day, and make sure they follow through. Assure them that the long term is going to be okay too, and make sure they know you’ll be there for them then.

[@speedy22222]

All good advice but I will caution against the "hug them" part -- *ask* them if they want to be hugged. Sometimes when you're having a panic attack, the stimulus of physical contact is too much and can make things worse. Some people want to be held, others need a dark room, distance and patience whilst their body comes down off the flood of adrenaline.

[@hostile_prof]

@@speedy22222 true, personally if I get touched while I'm having a panic attack it triggers a very intense fight response, and I'm so wrapped up in the attack that I can't differentiate between someone trying to help or hurt, so definitely ask before

[@ianforsure]

Yeah, when I wasnt medicated and had major panic attacks, it really depended on the situation for me. If I was in public I with a friend I would ask them to hold my hand or some sort of contact to keep me grounded, but if I was at home, I would just need to lay in bed and focus on a youtube video or something to get my mind focused on something else, it really depended on the situation.

[@kashiichan]

@@zvign7554 ...and you can heal the poison damage!

[@esobelisk3110]

@3ryanmanthe warts were a part of that guy’s body, too. that doesn’t make them a character flaw. a mental illness is an *illness,* and it can be treated. it’s not your fault that your brain is like that. sure, everything else that goes on in our brains is also “just” chemicals and electric signals, but that doesn’t mean it’s all under your control. look. you wouldn’t say someone’s seizures reflect on their character because they’re capable of moving their muscles on purpose. if you want to heal, you need to give yourself the patience and grace you would give to anyone with a condition that’s out of their control, because i can tell you based on personal experience that blaming yourself does jack shit. you can’t treat an illness if you refuse to treat it like an illness. take care of yourself dude.

[@tes-quick]

I just loved it when adaine could finally say ‘20’ for her fear check roll it was such a powerful moment

[@cyansy]

Wait what episode please

[@Sara_Hohman]

@@cyansy it was either episode 16 or 17 that this scene happened.

[@elliottkane1519]

“Panic attacks are not a character flaw” my favorite quote

[@alicepersson9568]

That ending "you will no longer roll disadvantage on fear checks" is so NOT what this is about or emotional in any way but its the part that always makes me the most emotional for some stupid reason

[@AnxietyRat]

It's a shame because that's NOT how anxiety works IRL. But it's still an interesting mechanic in the game. But not realistic whatsoever.

[@alicepersson9568]

@@AnxietyRat in my experience dealing with anxiety, i do get scared more than other people i know. Like if the fire alarm goes off in school or something, most of my friends are pretty calm, meanwhile im there hella scared hyperventilating, even though i know its probably not actually fire in the school. Doesnt anxiety mean feeling fear easier or overthinking things? Thats just my experience though.

[@AnxietyRat]

@@alicepersson9568 it means your fight/fight/freeze/fawn part of your brain get activated when there is no danger. It's usually is only activated during danger. But our brain activates it when there isn't a need to. So kinda but not really... people who have anxiety often overthink it's symptom of anxiety. . But yeah it is 100% brain chemistry.

[@DParkerNunya]

It's because it's a sign that there has been progress. After a conversation (technically) from a counselor, and then with proper (eh close enough) medication, she makes progress. And losing the disadvantage is proof that things CAN get better, which is something that I, and apparently you as well, really needed to hear.

[@crstph]

i think its that, the dice represent the randomness of life. adaine having to make panic attack rolls and having disadvantage on fear checks represents that in reality it would be out of her control that she gets affected by these things, but mental illness does just make things harder. however, its not always a life sentence. sometimes there are also things that can concretely make things easier, too.

[@CosmicNebula444]

It's stuff like that that makes me love DnD, Fantasy High especially. Jawbone was just a lackey bodyguard, created to make conflict. But look where he is now, an integral part of this world's story, a close friend to everyone in the party. It's beautiful to see these kinds of relationships being formed where they otherwise wouldn't if just one thing was done differently. To many more exciting things to come for both the intrepid heroes, as well as their beloved GM.

[@blazerheata6479]

I love love love this comment, although Jawbone wasn't the bodyguard; he was in lower in the importance list of random enemy who bit and scratched Adaine in the pit! Which makes their interaction so much more amazing knowing how they met was Jawbone in a deranged state attacking Adaine, apologizing, then they give him a chance and now he's here at the end of the battle giving his all and supporting the group- most importantly, Adaine!

[@beatrixthegreat1138]

Jawbone is so wrong yet he’s so right

[@lexingtonbrython1897]

I've found that people on the wrong side of the law often are closer to being good people

[@oliverworley5162]

@@lexingtonbrython1897 I've found that it's totally irrelivent where you are in regard to the law. There are plenty of good people who follow the law to the letter and there are plenty of bad who do the same. Laws aren't their to dictate morality, they dictate the difference between freedom and safety. Where you lay on that spectrum doesn't align with where you lay on the other

[@donutreactions]

@@oliverworley5162 Doesn't matter where you are in regard to the law, as long as you aren't enforcing it.

[@oliverworley5162]

@@donutreactions I disagree, their are plenty of law enforcement officers who are good people. It's the bare few who are the power abusive types and even then they often get challange and punished. We obviously have the few cases in the media where such instances are at the forefront of this debate but that doesn't account for everything

[@donutreactions]

@@oliverworley5162 I don't know how you sleep at night supporting the murder of innocent people.

[@cobaltblu4196]

you can tell that this moment meant so much to Siobhan, you can see a clear difference after Brennan says "you are not wrong for having panic attacks" in the acting. you can hear it too. this moment really messes me up. as someone with a panic disorder ""you are not wrong for having panic attacks" really resonated with me thank you Brennan

[@urktheturtle2988]

Jawbone is an amazing character, he is an older man who never got a break in life... and when someone finally gave him a chance, he became someone amazing and important. I love you jawbone v _ v

[@chiroptera626]

Not only that, but he's doing everything he can to make sure the kids get that chance 😭

[@Arktober-Ghost]

This scene is amazing and powerful-but Siobhans acting, for me, is especially moving. The real genuine pain in her voice at "my parents left and I dont know where they are" really makes me cry a lot. Makes you remember how young these intrepid heroes are.

[@thewingedporpoise]

it really made it click for me, that Adaine is just a kid with terrible neglectful parents, who never really was loved by them

[@peachypauper]

A actively drug dealing werewolf is a better school counselor than the ones I had. I didn't even *know* there was school counselors that do more than talk about your classes and college and shit till I saw it in a show and was like "wait... School counselors actually *talk* with you about your feelings? Wtf???"

[@hunniepie6380]

i’ve never had a school counselor that wasn’t a giant snitch. when u talk to them bear in mind there’s a possibility that what u say might get back to ur parents

[@NicknotNak]

It depends on the school counselors. I graduated last June and my old school counselor helped me out of my abusive household and helped me graduate and still checks in on me. My previous school counselor was irritated that I had to drop a class because I found it triggering.

[@tabathamoonstone8633]

Hi, storytime, I have autism, and every time I have a meltdown in a public place or can't hug my friends because it's too overwhelming to even try, I think of this clip. I'm not a coward or a bad person, I just have a medical condition, and hearing that fact out loud, even in a fictional show, meant the world to me. Thank you, D20. Keep doing what you're doing. I hope this comment gives the algorithm beast some good food.

[@idavis094]

This part honestly made me cry when I first watched it. I deal with high anxiety and have suffered from panic attacks (some of them happening one after another). So hearing Jawbone's speech really helped me understand that it really is just a mental illness and not a flaw I believed was a part of me.

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

I started having panic attacks when I was eight. I thought I was broken, but I wasn't, I was just a sick little girl going through a tough time. There's no shame in that.

[@roseswindler]

The acting in this is so dang good. Siobhan’s little nod when he asks Adaine if she has panic attacks has brought me to tears.

[@blairbird8022]

Jawbone is the true hero of this campaign.

[@justbeyondthecornerproduct3540]

Siobhán's acting is SO GOOD here! My heart breaks every time she says "My parents just left and I don't know where they are". My heart breaks. I can't get over it.

[@euangray313]

"You no longer roll disadvantage on fear checks" gotta love that Jawbones speech is gonna have a lifelong impact on Adaine

[@briantoller2186]

Brennan is genuinely a national treasure. And Jawbone is the best.

[@taraknoblock5725]

I’ve watched this clip probably like 28 times and it hits so hard every time. Jawbone has gotten me through at least 3 depressive episodes and is the reason I’m going back to therapy. Thank you Brennan, Siobhan, Ally, and everyone else involved in making this show for doing such an incredible job of handling hard but important topics. Mental health and LGBT+ topics are still kind of taboo and yet they affect many teens around the world. It’s great to see it incorporated so seamlessly into content because it truly helps normalize it. I love you all ❤️❤️❤️

[@rafaelcalmon2858]

It's been years since I saw this scene in the show and it still baffles me every time that Brennan can come up with this kind of dialogue on the spot. And I mean, this character is not even something he created for that. It's a good damn random enemy he put in an encounter in some really dirty dance club full of no-goods way back that, for some reason, the players just decided to have a conversation with. Jawbone literally went from being nameless enemy number X, only there for the players to beat the shit out of, to being one of the most endearing characters in the show.

[@andordimeny6130]

This scene. This scene is simply amazing. It's incredible how accurately some problems and insecurities about them were depicted in this show. I was laughing and crying simultaniously when I first saw this.

[@tiffthewitch6664]

No matter how goofy it is it still means a lot to someone with anxiety. It just feels good to hear this ❤

[@axls7024]

Brennan is a seriously great dm. It's a one on one moment, hella emotionally charged, but he still inserted something for the entire table while still keeping the focus on adaine.

[@cr820]

The delivery of "My parents just left and I don't know where they are," is one of the moments that moves me most in Freshman Year.

[@charlottehammond2499]

I love this whole scene but one of my favorite parts is when Brennen emphasizes that dosage is important and too listen to doctors. I love how he was thinking about the people watching this and wanted to make sure he was having a positive affect, and wanted to ensure they know dosage is important.

[@liamross340]

All the amazing wisdom characters in this series come out with it’s just incredible. And then you have to think that it all came from Brennan’s mind and he’s so wise and warm and kind and funny And he’s said he really wants to be a dad one day God damn those kids are gonna be lucky to have him

[@thewingedporpoise]

Brennan really would be a fantastic dad

[@kaycee1076]

Best bed time stories ever told, for a start!

[@hunterlarrison]

I’m a writer for stage, and I often get bogged down on how to most perfectly and elegantly express some feeling in dialogue. This series really reminds me that often times simple and straight forward speech is the best way to go. “It’s really bad.” “My parents just left and I don’t know where they are.” On paper, these would look like a place holder, bracketed, subtext line to be replaced later by something much more flowery. Trust your actors. Let them sell it. In reality, people in crisis really do just say what they mean. And when in the hands of a talented performer, a simple line can deliver everything it needs to.

[@onlyAerik]

Knowing a youngin' who has panic attacks, autism-induced or no, makes watching Siobahn here hurt because she does such a good job with her wardrobe, makeup, and acting chops, that she really looks like a teenager trying their best not to break down.

[@CalculusPhysics]

i don't think she was acting, i think she's genuinely touched by what was said

[@arranisnailo7795]

When Brennan said that he wants most of all to be a dad, I think he just decided to be a dad to literally everyone.

[@nicholasborkowski3589]

I remember him saying this but I can't remember where

[@jenna-elf]

I just watched this video after watching some old episodes of Game Changers and just learned that in Season 1, episode 2 "Lie Detector" (I know I'm necro'ing this comment 😅)

[@aboredguywithaninternetcon4663]

Honestly, you get those vibes from all of The Bad Kids' parents except for Adaine's and Kristen's

[@demonicduck6013]

This might be my favourite emotional moment of the whole season - I don't have anxiety, but I do have ADHD, and I'll often beat myself up for being lazy or stupid, even though I know it isn't as simple as that. Hearing Jawbone say 'you're not X, you're sick, you just need medicine' really got to me, and I'm sure many people with mental illnesses can relate to that feeling of blaming themselves for an error in their brain chemistry.

[@theimperviousfirecracker7934]

For some reason Jawbone shouting and cursing as he tries to cheer up Adine makes this moment way sweeter. It just shows that he cares so much.

[@matthewdebono1386]

This was the most heart felt and emotional moments in the whole series. As being a teenage male I have never teared up so bad from a roleplay thing like this speech. Brennan become a motivational speaker it might work out for you.

[@tesstucker3311]

I just saw a video of “things people never say in D&D” and one of the things was “I am your dungeon master, but also your therapist.” Whoever made that video has never seen Brennan Lee Mulligan. Jawbone, Annabelle Cheddar, Gorthalax, some season 2 Sandra Lynn…and I’m blanking on more but I know there are at least a dozen significant moments where Brennan goes full therapist for one of the PCs and I’m just like damn…that is the best fucking possible advice. Camp counselor for the win.

[@corsaircaruso471]

“My parents just left and I don’t know where they are.” I just wanted to put my arms around that poor child and tell her it wasn’t her fault, and it was going to be okay.

[@flodotstatix]

I posted this on the original video but: I deal with anxiety/panic attacks. My parents prevented me from getting medication. I've lost my therapist lately. Im gonna bounce back tho. I'm going to get medication as soon as I've moved out. I'm going to get another therapist. Thank you Jawbone for helping me see that I'm not a terrible person for dealing with this. Thank you for reminding me I'm not alone 💛

[@williamjenkins4913]

Just reminding you that your still not alone.

[@bast713]

💜

[@jamesmeehan7464]

I don't know if anyone from this will ever see this message. But I'm having a hard time with anxiety right now and this made me cry in a good way for the first time this week.

[@craigmerrick2507]

I know this was a year ago and you don't know me but I hope you're doing ok mate.

[@jamesmeehan7464]

@@craigmerrick2507 I'm doing much better, thanks for asking.

[@gLOLdos]

I wish this speech went on even longer. I want Jawbone to validate me while also telling me about all the fucked up stuff he did.

[@MegaNightmare4]

Why is Jawbone a 90s sitcom character, wherein he lives in a house with Sandra-Lin, Gilear, Tracker and the bad kids, and helps everyone through their teenage misadventures.

[@NeoInsomniac]

"My parents just left, and I don't know where they are..." Ow... Ow, ow, ow, OW. That punches me right in the chest. Every time.

[@hisspopfizz]

Just another reminder that anxiety is real, it's extremely real to all the people who believe there is something wrong with them because they have anxiety or get panic attacks. when someone gets a panic attack or anxiety attack it's scary, and we know it's just in our heads but saying that doesn't help, what we need is someone like jawbone to look us in the eye and tell us we are fine, there is nothing wrong with us and that it is not your fault.

[@maqunce564]

It is absolutely incredible how Brennan can weave a story so goddamn powerful that they make people cry in dnd. Absolute madman. Must be protected at all costs.

[@SecondBestArtMuseum]

"Have these anxiety meds and swallow ALL OF THEM. But dosage is important, so ask your doctor later."

[@manticorephoenix]

"Hey I get it, it's more fun when ya not supposed to, Jawbone!" -Jawbone

[@synthster7416]

He is NOT subtle

[@stevenboelke6661]

@@synthster7416 Honestly, that's one of the things that makes him a good counselor.

[@jaymaxwell8645]

I feel like if Brennan ever gave me a hug I'd fall into a sobbing mess from listening to his uplifting comments over the years.

[@blueturtle3623]

Thank you for this, I have a friend who gets them, like me. She doesn't have access to medication and her family kinda sucks. She is always saying "I dont know why im so anxious, and just start crying" and im like "The same reason my dad gets tired when his blood sugar drops. He has a medical condition and his body thinks its under attack." But I just sent her this video.

[@roulz100]

Favorite moment of the series

[@SoraKirin]

Ditto

[@sarahng5191]

Thanks Brennan. You have no idea how deeply comforting and therapeutic this is

[@Littlehickish]

the rapid fire world building that Brennan improvises while making a hilarious and somehow still touching and genuine pep talk aabout anxiety is... so insane?????

[@charlie9619]

i rewatch this every time my dyslexia starts kicking my ass again. i didnt get diagnosed until i was 17, and i grew up thinking i was just dumb. i found dimension 20 about a week after getting my diagnosis. Having trouble reading, or retrieving words when talking, is not a character flaw. I'm not stupid, I have a god damn medical condition. Thanks Jawbone, and thank you Brennan. 💚

[@beemaack]

Had a panic attack last week for the first time in like 10 years and it was so scary. It’s only a band-aid, but if you’re in a pinch I recommend touching soft fabric and really concentrating on how it feels to help ground you. You will be ok, I got you

[@devantequinn6109]

I'm not diagnosed with anxiety but I'm definitely an anxious person. Everyone I hear this it madness me wish I had a Jawbone in my life.

[@fillyreports]

Just had it heavily implied that my earlier panic attack was a personal failing of mine and uhhh this audio helped!

[@zacharystewart4394]

I have really bad panic attacks and watching this scene was so heartwarming and I was fully sobbing.

[@leeworley6727]

Hey man hopefully you get through it and come out of it stronger. Theres light at the end of the tunnel man trust me. I have managed to cut down on my panic attacks tremendously only getting them once every 5 months. A huge thing that helped me was just accepting them and understanding that I will have them and channeling all of the emotions and energy I get from panic attacks into a positive outlet. What helps me in the moment of a panic attack is focusing exclusively on breathing. Close your eyes take a breath and just feel the air go into your mouth and throat and fill up your lungs. As long as you can breathe you can live and as long as your alive theres no reason to panic. Another technique that helped me was playing chicken with my panic attacks. A major symptom I used to get was shortness of breathe felt like I was choking on my tongue so when I was really struggling with a panic attack I would challenge myself id say in my head "In the next ten seconds im gonna pass out from a lack of oxygen." Then I would count to 10. After doing that I would still be conscious and breathing so obviously this uncomfortable feeling couldnt kill me and wasnt causing any damage. You got it man hopefully your family and friends are there to support you through it.

[@giualonso]

Brennan is SUCH A GOOD GUY this makes me tear up every time!

[@mr.g.m.a9860]

So I watched this season when it came out and it hit me like a truck even back then as someone with mental illness. Now years latter I help run a organization online that helps kids with mental illness and in terrible living situations, and now this whole scene hits me like a freight train. I know none of the team will probably see this but I’ve shown so many kids parts of this scene. And it helps them so fucking much. God. I strive to be half the man jawbone is ever god damn day of work.

[@2eeky]

I love how this beautiful passionate message was sandwiched between the most rollercoaster Sex Drugs RocknRoll statements I've heard all year

[@izzyw2089]

The first time I watched this scene it hit me like a truck (but in a good way), and similarly when rewatching. As someone who's struggled with anxiety and panic attacks, and feelings of shame around having them, it was really meaningful. Thank you Brennan, Siobhan and all the team at Dimension 20.

[@small_howl]

I just got yelled by my parents for forgetting a chore, that I’m completely forgot about, and as I was cursing my adhd, randomly found this clip, and I literally started crying. I needed this.

[@msp654]

I'm trans, and I've been really struggling, trying to figure out who I want to be when I get older. Is it bad that the best role model I have rn is a fictional drug dealing werewolf?

[@lccm1026]

No. It is not. And good for you for coming into who you are as a person. Dont let anyone say otherwise.

[@jman4286]

WolfCat-Hybrid *EX-drug dealing werewolf lol

[@jetvulcan2020]

@@jman4286 he did say he was going to sell the pills but gives them to her instead.

[@jaredkidd1]

Good on you for putting the work in towards figuring yourself out

[@megarigged]

@@jetvulcan2020 therefore not selling them

[@dellanpickle]

Not anxiety or panic attacks, but I've had adhd all my life. I was different, but my parents never really saw that I had it. I've only recently gotten my diagnosis, and even more recently gotten my medication. Furthermore, I'd just gotten back into dnd, and therefore went to rewatch Fantasy High (I'd only gotten to episode 3 or so before), so all of that coalescing to me seeing this scene, and seeing Siobhans genuine reaction broke me. I feel seen, understood, and accepted, something I really don't get at home, like Adaine. And then add the fact that this I (mostly) improv, 10/10, amazing show, amazing people, just overall amazing.

[@steakknives]

I'm pretty sure Siobhan actually has an anxiety disorder in the same way Ally's character had a crisis of faith. I have no real evidence for any of this.

[@doctorworm420]

I think this is true Brennan mentioned it in an episode of Adventuring party, I believe Ally has talked about their upbringing on their podcast too. The only one I’m not sure about is whether Zac is also an adoptee like Grogug because something he said gave me that vibe.

[@druid_zephyrus]

also, to all y'all, in the comments, saying, "I wish I had a Jawbone..." You do. they are right here. Jawbone is as real as he needs to be, yes he cannot give you a physical furry hug, but that does not mean he can't give you a metaphoric one. Also, with the most powerful magical school, you never know. Just need a timeline split strong enough. CHRONOMANCY!!!

[@lillyhill6093]

the best magic of all, as we know

[@mall0w.Ex3]

This year, this clip resurfaced. I have weekly or more panic attacks and this finally clicked. It's panic disorder, I can get diagnosed and maybe meds for this. It won't be easy but this has blown my mind. I remember thinking: 'Medical condition?...' After a long time of thinking it was normal, I was so confused. Brennan is an incredible DM and I'm so glad I rewatched Fantasy High

[@BradGreer]

Jawbone is a great guidance counselor because he uses his own personal experience to relate to kids in trouble. At first the tragicomic denial of Gilear's counseling experience made me think he would have been better and was just being played for laughs, but Jawbone really does have a lot to offer because he's been through it. Especially here: who would know better how it feels to be judged as lesser because of a medical condition than a man with lycanthropy who couldn't afford treatment?

[@theoneandonlymichaelmccormick]

What a wonderful, inspiring wolf man. We could all use somebody like Jawbone in our lives.

[@mr.alpaca382]

this moment helped me so much, it left me speechless. I have anxiety and panic attacks and I literally talked to my therapist about Fantasy High just to tell her what Jawbone said and how much it meant to me. I relate a lot to Adaine and I love her so much. probably no one is going to read this but I just wanted to share

[@AristophMarloque]

I know this comment is 2 years old, but I wanted to say that I read it and I hope you're doing well.

[@redpandamurphy]

Honestly, I love how the guy with the least experience of being a guidance counselor becomes one of the greatest ever. I love how he just has all these unfortunate experiences he grew up with and had, being failed by the world constantly, and yet he was given that one opportunity by someone to get their life back on track and now he uses his experience to tell the kids that it's ok to not be ok, and that everybody is just somebody else to learn more about. What's also great about this moment is that it was Adaine who originally asked him to become the counsellor and now he's returned the favour, helping Adaine get back into the fight. Sometimes the best actors are the ones who've been through it all. Bakers know how to be bakers, and recovering addicts know what it's like to be hurt by yourself. That's why he's so cool to me, because his own experiences help him help others.

[@z_movie_dan]

God I love Jawbone. From random monster to amazing guidance counselor.

[@izzyrebels1653]

6 people who disliked this need a Jawbone in their lives.

[@ytuser4562]

It’s the repeated “You understand me?” “NO” that gets me

[@icesharkk6399]

brennan lee mulligan is not just chaotic good. he's chaotic benevolent.

[@emilyaw3831]

I've got a couple anxiety disorders, and this scene makes me tear up every time I watch it (though the first time I was straight up bawling)

[@PolterGuySteve]

Just finished watching this season for the first time. This is single-handedly the funniest most touching moment I’ve ever seen from a DND type show.

[@t-r3y]

This part always makes me tear up. It reminds me of the moment I told my choir teacher (whom I consider my second mom) that I struggle with a severe anxiety disorder and just the way Jawbone says everything literally brings me back to the moment I felt the most supported I've ever felt in my whole adolescence. ((":

[@charlottecrosby9939]

Just gonna put it here: I get panic attacks and I watch this a lot and it makes me cry all the time so- uh, thanks Brennen

[@radiantirl8278]

I cry every single time I watch this scene. I’ve always hated myself for being a ‘coward’ due to my anxiety. This speech everything I never knew I needed to hear my whole life. I’m not a coward, I have a god damn medical condition.

[@centipedekid9824]

That medical condition being extreme cowardice

[@RaineyPuppeteers]

This gets me every single time. It's such a wonderful speech and it's so good for her but it just also hits you in the most vulnerable place and it's lovely.

[@zebracorn9184]

I love this comment because you would not expect it on a speech that starts with “I was at a truck stop bathroom sucking off a border patrol cause I was gonna sneak an iguana to my friend who had a cockfighting ring and I had to get it to him because the thing has been slit and stuffed full of drugs and sewn back together”

[@DeathnoteBB]

Now I wanna draw Adaine in a ripped and burnt prom dress, wielding a bow and arrow (just for the cool factor tbh) with the text around her reading “You no longer roll disadvantage on fear checks”

[@spadebuffalo]

i've dealt with anxiety and depression since i was a kid, and just knowing there are high schoolers watching this, assured that they can be okay and get support having what they have, makes me so happy thank you

[@lastprimaris7914]

Jawbone is the most caring character in this entire show Right there beside Gorgugs parents

[@StandAloneSoul]

"I'm sorry your parents didnt take care of this before" and "you're a good kid", in this context, and as a survivor of CSA, made me tear up a lot. Maybe one day I can become a gentle kind of DM who helps others to work through stuff.

[@dalgona4819]

Hearing Siobhan/Adaine say “My parents just left and I don’t know where they are” hurts me more than it should (and to think my parents are WITH ME! I can't imagine what it's like for kids who actually got abandoned)

[@ArcanaKnight]

"This is my JOB godd- it!" I love Brennan's delivery there.