Ditch porn for the perfect partner. (Quit Porn w/Dr. Trish Leigh)

[@zacharyhall689]

While I haven't really been successful with quitting up until the three digit mark, I've been getting consistently higher in terms of gaps between relapses. 1. One thing that I realize as of now is that a huge factor of porn addiction is wanting multiple partners, or wanting as many as possible. The average consumer doesn't watch one video with the same people. They usually watch multiple videos with different people in each video. Before the internet, the average person did not become sexually stimulated to multiple people, let alone other people having sex. This is why we're seeing a slow rejection in society towards monogamy and vanilla sex. People are becoming slowly desensitized to ideas that they can't see, hear, smell, taste or touch. 2. Porn consumption in general, like it or not, contributes to the facilitation of sex crimes and degeneracy, regardless of age, sex, race, etc. In porn, we do not see the people having sex as human, in the same way men do not see hookers as human, whether they solicit or not. This is not good for the consumer, nor the people in it, and everyone in between. This is part of how porn goes against the idea of love, and I doubt it ends there. I just wanted to share my thoughts on this, and thanks for doing what you're doing. I think a common theme of these past years is that we can't trust the rich, we have to stick together and advocate for each other regardless of whatever agendas (including the porn industry) are against us and using us.

[@FulcrumK]

Day 263. Unfortunately, I stopped believing in a "perfect partner" years ago. 😉

[@Machi74005]

It's not an option for some of us for a variety of reasons.

[@mackmoore9044]

Keep looking. I recently found mine on Eharmony!

[@sunriseeternity300]

Happy 20th Anniversery Ms. Trish Leigh.

[@ajramirez77]

Hey Dr! I wanted to say thank you for your many wonderful videos. You really helped me get away from the screen and find productive outlets. You even helped me fix my relationship by helping me quit porn and my gf seeing the effort I put in to change and better myself. I'm currently on day 46 nofap, and I'm happy to say that I'm free from porn. I feel like a new man!

[@kitllekatle1237]

Be carefful still. Unfortunately it can be difficult to get away from this forever.

[@zeal4god402]

YAYYYYYYY KEEP STRIVING

[@marcincoolodziejczyk]

the part about pillars of emotional intelligence - GREAT!! than You sooo much for explaining this in such a simple and powerful way :)

[@Garbs9430]

This is so true. It explains things I’ve observed about myself and others that I never understood before. Thank you!

[@axsmn8085]

You are doing a great service 😱😱

[@Borat_Kazakh]

What are the 4 habits of an online sexual relationships coach? 1) Ability to oversimplify a very complicated issue, such as there are certain men who can't find partners because of problematic female-attraction traits, 2) even as a female who probably has had more than one boyfriend, she does not understand what women are attracted to in men, 3) not be able to admit that men are skewed on a range of 1 to 10 in terms of physical attractiveness, charisma, confidence, and charm, 4) and to understand that online porn is just a giant extension of playboy, Penthouse, Hustler and many other pre-internet sources of porn which many married men secretly bought because they were tired of boring, no longer attractive wives.

[@mi8345]

Honestly, I used to be on an emotional intelligence level of 10. Then I met my now husband who's been addicted to porn for over 4 decades. I didn't know about it until 6 weeks ago. Over the period of 6 years of marriage with lies and deceit I am still at a high emotional intelligence level but my emotional strength level is approximately at -10. I'm praying that my husband will level up on his journey to recovery...

[@zeal4god402]

You two need to find a pastor, counselor, therapist, coach a.s.a.p. Get proactive more than reactive

[@mi8345]

@@zeal4god402 I do 🙏 I am working on my own recovery. It's challenging with someone that can only bare being around when I'm happy... it doesn't leave much room for my anger and pain, I get I need to channel that elsewhere...

[@zeal4god402]

@@mi8345 You can't make him do what he doesn't want to do. Work on yourself, you at least talk to a professional and fight for your marriage!

[@mi8345]

@@zeal4god402 what makes you believe that I am making him do things he doesn't want to do?

[@zeal4god402]

@@mi8345 If your on the intensive road to recovery and wholeness, you can't take him along if he doesn't want to, but I pray he will join you. Being angry 😠 and emotionally-exhausting around him is only adding fuel to the fire, so what can you do to douse the fire? Explore those ways and gradually implement those ways, not because you will always feel like it, but because it is right. I acknowledge you have been deeply hurt, but remember to overcome evil with good.

[@sebastianguerrerobarragan3118]

Self-awareness Self-management Social-awareness Relationship-management

[@zeal4god402]

I honed in on those tips too

[@Kikklarios]

Thank you for letting me in on these sekrets.

[@Janadu]

In one of your prior videos you indicated that you had videos or programs that addressed the betrayal trauma we partners experience when we find out about the porn addiction. I have searched but can't locate it. Could you please post the link here? Thank you. I'm really struggling right now.

[@GameW200]

Conflict is needed in relationships game Changer

[@Streetfightingman420]

Damn , sounds like porn has made me into an immature narcissist. So much irritable inappropriate behavior and reactions over the years . I need reset .

[@cesarcandanozah7150]

Keep on preaching Doc.

[@nivakumari4280]

Hi doc, day 42 and not a single sign of life, this resonates. kinda dazed and it’s hard being upbeat. I am at 3 on emotional health.

[@reikoleci4303]

Dont quit. You must be on flatline. Mine was days 30-50 then it got better. Dont quit bro its your brain re wiring

[@nivakumari4280]

@@reikoleci4303 thanks bro !

[@patrickstogsdill74]

She is so true on "likes attract likes."

[@satsport1680]

Great work ma Sha Allah

[@bouamimohammed6186]

Thnx Dr god blesses you

[@johnsantos3392]

Fantastic video

[@WavyRonnie]

Smart woman great energy

[@satsport1680]

First view and comment

[@jacksonmowell3859]

Wow Dr. Trish Leigh has been married as long as LeBron James has been playing in the NBA.

[@norwayisthebestway7677]

Bro this is good

[@Tacoman1967]

I've gotten better but it's still lingering.

[@hossload9989]

Doctor you are so beautiful.

[@GavinBrown-v3u]

"Go out and attract the most amazing partner ever" ? Your silly theories don't address real life issues at all. YOU could go out and attract no end of potential partners. The world is very different for ordinary lonely old men who experience nothing but rejection. No one wants my "true authentic self" !

[@juansajche5020]

But The the partner is already perfect 😮

[@jb894]

Forever alone lol

[@hrvatskinoahid1048]

God bless you.

[@thomas4857]

My perfect partner would have to be one whom I'm submissive to as always

[@RaySelwood]

For someone with two phd's you seem extraordinarily nieave...

[@carveyhoffman6516]

Perfect partner what a joke that dosent exist along with soul mate and true love. Not on this planet anyway.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Watch the video…. It dispels the notion of perfect.

[@carveyhoffman6516]

@@DrTrishLeigh Been single and happy for over twenty years. No disrespect but women and relationships aren't worth the trouble. Far more time to do what I enjoy. Was in a eight year relationship was cheated on then she tried to destroy me. Used lies and law enforcement to make my life hell. Never again besides being with her for eight years I learned to live without sex so can't miss what you never received.

[@grantpenton1850]

Quite a few women want a partner without a libido... in fact, my previous 'GF' responded to my half-joking line 'I have a non-medicated naturally functioning libido' with "well that could be an issue because I don't want any of that". I had lots of female friends in my 20s and early 30s who accepted me because I could be trusted to keep my sexuality to myself if I wasn't truly asexual. I've stated in past profiles my willingness to accept asexual relationships with the right woman... but am again willing to consider that these are not emotionally mature women and that aversion to even a hug indicates an unprocessed trauma- although there is such a high proportion of available women with profiles who indicate that they would rather maybe indulge in their own self-indulgence habits while denying that they have any interest in sex.

[@Mklpfn]

😂 Like the toxic people who spend time and effort to make everyone think they feel true Love And behind, 🧐 everything ends on a uneccesary fighting Can spect for any different situation 😒

[@fettmaneiii4439]

Great way to put it, on a scale like that! oh man.. haha that part when you said "what can I do now to help you to feel better" triggered me. I remember my ex gf said that to me when I was very emotional, and she was not. All I wanted from her was an emotional reaction in that moment and she pulled out that emotionless cut and dry "what can i do to make you feel better"... i couldnt handle it lol. When you are feeling THAT bad, trying to tell someone what to do to help you hurts more sometimes, because that means that they are not taking action to help you from their own sense of care for you.

[@CHRONOTHEMANGAKA]

Hello, Could you make some videos about Animated Porn/Hentai addiction and the effect it has in the human brain?

[@zeal4god402]

Negative impact, and in many cases worse because they could easily manipulate and make the sex scenes extremely grotesque. In the past I thought watching that could help wean me off the real-life porn and for a time it did, until I found myself back in the real-life porn, especially when those real-life ads pop up

[@Machi74005]

Nice, but not an option for some of us.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

It IS an option for everyone… it should be the only option.

[@Machi74005]

@@DrTrishLeigh A life of celebacy should be a viable option for some and frankly your persistence with the notion that it isn't is waning in the credibility here and inother videos as well not to mention completely ignoring a multitude of circumstances people may find themselves in life.

[@rick-ry3kj]

The juice is not worth the squeeze, 50% of marriages end in the divorce.

[@patrickstogsdill74]

I think since ein not a virging I don't deserve that unicorn virgin partner EVER

[@Th0ughtZ_]

Trish, this has nothing to do with porn but could you share your dental routine? Your teeth are always so pearly white lol.

[@zeal4god402]

Those are thoughts of his 🤣

[@hollikrebs]

Why do people feel they have to have fake teeth. So many things are fake nowadays. One person gets fake then another then they all think they have to have fake.

[@thetruther954]

Trish and Rick:. I haven't said anything, but I guess it's just like Fox News. First you have six kids, today you have five. You recommend abstinence, then healthy sexuality. I guess it's how the game is played, but I have to believe you're helping me. I closed a chapter today with my Mom. I know so many people who are afraid for people to get a look at. My Aunt says I will " see more of her than I want". A professor in California says "people see that garbage and they don't come back". I guess I realized, that's me too. Marilyn, a noticable well endowed company counselor who first saw me in California, immediately sent me to a man when I read an angry letter to my grandmother, who was also well endowed. Carolyn, back in Michigan said I was not dangerous, yet when I innocently (subconsciously?) told her I had a room because I had worked all night and hadn't slept and wanted to rest before driving home, I could see her imagination kick in. I guess women can't stand when they are recognized that way. Not that it means something has to happen, I really don't understand it. And, it may be an excuse. It may be an excuse for her, it may be an excuse for me. I've just always wondered where the help was coming from? Somebody seems good at it.

[@thetruther954]

@@RickMartinKZbin That's great Rick, but I want friends, I want support. I told my friend Bill the other day that it was people like him who didn't want to look at themselves that are the problem. I told him I could try and put it a different way later. I had to say something. The CDC says the vaccines keep you from getting the virus, not just lessen the chance of death. The videos about micro blades in the vaccine are premature. We're not there yet. "People like you" must be very insulting. Do you find "word salad" works? John.

[@fredferd2649]

your grandmother, was well endowed.?!

[@thetruther954]

@@fredferd2649 Yes, she had a very large bosom and sometimes I think she was the only woman with true love for me. Even after my illness had blossomed in California (I went back home to Michigan 10 years after arriving in California), and I had said just vile, terrible things to her husband. He died, but on my way back to Michigan later, she would still look me in the eye. She still loved me. It was still there. I was still special. Her love was unwavering. Where else could I find that? But, her breasts? Yeah, back after losing my job at Lockheed and ending up with my first counselor ( a counselor a few months out of counseling school), we were talking about my grandparents and how supposedly, that fucked everybody up. I was going to write a letter to my grandparents saying I now understood things a little better, but mentioned “women and their big titties”. Marilyn, the counselor’s breasts were also well above average. The letter didn’t say grandmother, the letter didn’t say my counselor or Marilyn, just women with big titties. Well, that was enough for Marilyn to immediately get me out of there to spend a more serious amount of time with Jeff, whom you’ve probably heard me talk about. But, yeah, and what was really disappointing was when I found her walking through the halls of Lockheed a few months later because I liked Jeff and thought things were going well for me. But, she just coldly walked along, her arms crossed in front of her. Apparently I was now a stranger. She didn’t like me anymore. I wasn’t a “joy”. That story happens to me a lot. John.

[@thetruther954]

@@timothywade9618 You need a father. Do you think that is why you masturbate too much?

[@francescos7361]

Zero intelligence

[@zacharyhall689]

Uno reverse card 🔁