divorce

The reason why i left: I was in a marriage with an extremely insecure, toxic, controlling, sociopathic, lying, and suffocating groomer with a loveless and destructive marriage.
Though I was constantly gaslit with the words ‘I never said that’, this is how I experienced things and what I heard, it’s how I heard and perceived my environment and situations and circumstances.
My ex lies to everyone in church, our community, extended family members, and our city people that I was cheating on him with group orgies which is not the case nor true at all, saying I showed him videos of it which I don’t have since it didn’t happen, and telling everyone that there’s footage of me walking around in my underwear with these people in a non existent situation????????? He took his imaginations and made that the apparent and seeming truth and told everyone weird things leading to gossip and defamation. I don’t even have the money to sue him because he had taken all the money I made and also taken money I’ve used as living expenses and left me with over $20,000 of debt. I’m still in a difficult situation because of him but I’m glad I left a very sick person. I’m working hard now to get myself on my feet and continue working hard in what I have in front of me.
Thank you for watching and for being here. I love you.

[@NameePark]

Edit: Thank you for encouraging me to start a GoFundMe, I summed the courage to ask for any help for my legal fees and school tuition. Anything helps, thank you so much for your love and support ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 gofund.me/68f3906f He broke my heart and fixed my vision. Thanks for watching. Sending hugs and kisses.

[@mewybee]

i love you nami!

[@carolineboves4043]

Ive been a subscriber FOR YEARS!!! I cant believe you guys divorced!! Ive been absent for a while, I hope you and the kids get over this (i know you will)... Just get up, brush off the dust and keep it moving girl!!!! We are MOTHERS!!! We dont have the option to sit down and cry... we dont fail, we LEARN and keep it moving!!! Hugs and kisses to you and the kidos!!!😘😘🤗🤗😘😘😘😘😘

[@sadiautumn]

Your going be okay we're all here for you

[@TheLychie]

I'm so sorry girl. I will be praying for you. I pray God's comfort, peace, and His miraculous joy to return and supercede you and your life. Keep Jesus in the center. I believe God will do his justice

[@MrsChangalang]

Im sorry you are going through all this Nami you dont deserve all of that.

[@bichen-up-ur]

he’s holding your kids over your head. he’s STILL manipulating you and punishing you for “embarrassing” him. please don’t give in.

[@MrsChangalang]

Oh definitely snd i wouldn't be suprise if he poison the kids and have them turn on her. This happened to a friend. When she left her abusive husband he managed to take full custody of the kids and talked badly about her and now her kids dont want nothing to do with her and their oldest kid is 13

[@YashKumar-c1x]

​@@MrsChangalang you have to understand mam for court to give primary custody to father the mom needs to be a really bad person probably drugist or something. So don't act like we are stupid. Courts don't give primary custody to father so easily as mother is default primary custodial parent. So she must have doing really bad.

[@marial.5284]

He’s not a great dad if he’s doing this to the mother of his children.

[@lobotomisa]

THIS!!!

[@토끼쭈]

YOU SAID IT SO PERFECT!!!

[@ElijahWatts-ji9yx]

What a stupid comment

[@saism4570]

57:53 Girl you are 29 years old...you are so young with your entire life still ahead of you. Why tf would you go back to such a nasty relationship that you shouldn't even have been in to begin with. Please get some sane people around you that will actually care about you and give you good advice. Do not go back.

[@andytoughcookie9233]

I never really liked him, I felt like he used religion to groom you, sorry if it's insensitive to say this but that's how I always felt about him

[@Chellojello]

This!

[@andytoughcookie9233]

​​​@@Chellojello I knew this would eventually happen but it's so sad to know she suffered through it, still I'm glad she got out

[@fleef3790]

That's exactly how i felt since I started watching Namee's videos.

[@francupcake]

I felt the same way, he took advantage of her, she was a young girl not in the best situation and he took advantage of that. My ex that I was with for 6 years did the same.

[@bichen-up-ur]

not only that he just flat out groomed her.

[@Savi357]

Wait, if you guys started dating at 14, he was 19 😮 that to me is wild. As a 19 year old i have want nothing to do with a minor.

[@yudollia]

Yup I always remembered this about them. Makes my stomach turn. Like he had no other options so in desperation he turned to a child of 14 yrs.

[@Mimi-mq2wj]

WHAT

[@yoli683]

Like this stuff used to get “romanticized” in movies (see Cher in Clueless.) In reality it’s not ok (criminal really)

[@szszszsz95395]

19 yr old is a boy😂😂😂😂😂😂 They have the maturity of a teenager, and 19 is the last year of being a teenager.

[@MK-ko4dc]

@@szszszsz95395 Regardless he was still considered a legal adult and shouldn't have been dating a minor. Hope that helps!

[@nooorah2434]

Whaaaaaaat girl, i follow u since the debut of your channel and I’m seeing the title rn in shock hope you’re okay and the kids too

[@saism4570]

This is why I felt so disgusted at everyone that defended your marriage. You were a minor, age of consent is an iffy topic. However an adult man chasing minors is the BIGGEST red flag. He wants to manipulate and control. You were groomed into this.

[@bre9328]

Right, but if you point it out, mfs would attack you.

[@melissab2666]

Oh, yeah. I remember unfollowing/unsubscribing, finding out he was 19 while she was 14 when they first met. It was super disturbing, and at the time I was also underaged. I just was so mortified. I really hope she is doing better and knows his actions were not ok and does not take blame for him.

[@namuk00]

I’ve always felt weird about the age gap considering you were literally a MINOR. You were most definitely groomed and I’m so proud of you for having the courage/strength to leave that situation. I wish you and your kids the best, hoping things turn out well in the end 💗

[@Maya47745]

"An absent or missing mom is better than a dead mom" 100% good choice, Nami! 💕 My mom was also suffering and I thank God every day she didn't do what she wanted to do so bad and just found the strenght to leave my dad. Wish you a lot of good energy, it will get better. My mom is so happy now. Love you, Nami!

[@Maya47745]

1:42:34 If your best friend that knows you the best tells you this, it's because of mania. Is it possible they gave you antidepressants for your depression? This medication might have flipped you into mania. You need different meds that are stabilizers and not antidepressants. Please take care, Nami. Love you! 💕

[@bichen-up-ur]

ngl girl you driving and multi tasking was giving my anxiety 😭

[@artemis2375]

SAAAME

[@bliss2141]

Especially on the freeway. My heart was racing. I have the worst driving anxiety so it had me on edge a bit

[@diamcole]

Glad it's not just me! Genuinely terrifying.

[@SolunaV]

I was wondering if it's a partially self driving car??

[@royxriza4ever]

Probably a car with lane assist and self braking, so partially self driving.

[@bobturner5915]

So not only do you have to take care of 3 kids, run all your channels, do chores but also take care of your ex financially who didn’t work? Girl you should have left long ago!!!

[@vell2994]

He took care of the kids

[@hazeleyeslis]

i mean idk how helpful it is to tell her she should’ve left long ago…

[@Unordinary-lg4yt]

What’s the reason he can’t take of the kids and she works? “Girl” my behind

[@artsyhyd]

3 Kids at 29yo?! Gosh I was still partying at that age! 😆

[@sophialong7669]

Welcome to what men usually deal with in divorce

[@kat8034]

u weren't lowkey groomed u were groomed 😭

[@lamma746]

When you look back on her videos you can tell. Like the one where they discuss how they told her parents. Bruh, she was displaying signs of it when she wrote a long comment defending him in her comments. I'm so GLAD she divorced him.

[@kaiandshy]

​@@lamma746literally like finally

[@kennedy3682]

@@medraymedray5139 yes groomed, she got with him when she was 14 and he was 19. what does a college student have in common with a teen who just started high school?

[@troublesome1101]

OMG some women and accountability 🙄 she was an adult when she made the decision. Can we stop!@

[@kat8034]

@@troublesome1101 14 year olds are adults?

[@Rose_from_UK]

Don't spend 10 more years under his control. Report him

[@dolli4xo]

I've surprisingly been watching since i was 13 - you once even sent me a nami wristband that was white with blue writing and I was in poor living conditions due to an abusive household and it made me feel so seen. I'm 20 now and I still remember the happiness I felt from a creator i adored taking time out of their day to acknowledge me as a person. You probably won't even remember that but I am forever grateful for you as a person and if there's anyway I can now as an adult support you in return I am more then willing to. Sending so much love and support

[@marip9256]

this is genuinely cute and so human. Love it!

[@devdrowned]

his ideal type being newjeans is CRAZYYY

[@suzybwoo3550]

wtffff that’s crazy 😭

[@chibifrenchfry3056]

Literally kids 💀

[@MrsChangalang]

@@devdrowned what does new jeans means?

[@devdrowned]

they’re a kpop group with minors

[@therosiealejandra]

He's a sick man, pdf file

[@user-kx5en8dg7u]

i just read the description and HOLY SHIT??? just started the video and i can't believe he didn't even have a job for five years. you have been hustling since day one and you should be proud of yourself! i'm so glad that you are free of this man soon. i wish you a lifetime of healing and happiness. you have seemed so happy ever since you moved out and i hope it continues. not to be the kind of person who says "oh, i always knew it," but michael always gave me a weird vibe. i thought perhaps he was just a quiet person or shy on camera, but now it's obvious all these years he was unable to even pretend to like you... i'm so sorry and again i'm so happy you are moving on with your life❤

[@Kt-cn2rq]

That should be known when get custody of the kids. IF he has no job he shouldn't be able to have the kids.

[@Lupes_fiascos]

The fact that he is attracted to minors was enough for me... Im so sorry. That makes me nervous for your kids. ❤ Im glad you see the light 😊

[@jamesto8538]

Totally agree. I’m more worried for the kids. Narcissistic abuse. Be strong, hope everything works out.

[@nooorah2434]

WORK BY BEING YOUR MANAGER ???? like nami go cut your hair nami put some makeup wtf??? Hell no a manager without contract ????

[@bichen-up-ur]

terrible people turn to religion to cancel out their bad actions cough cough unfaithfulness and gr00ming

[@sidbaby5526]

i was cackling when you read about how he wants to be in love with another woman fully because it's like AS IFFFF someone else could ever love him!! you truly are the prize

[@yudollia]

Literally. Men like him dont realize, they do not have any other options!!

[@Hello0x0]

​@yudollia the worse thing is women have 100x more options yet we always suppress them for family 🙄 thats why I hate when people say marry ugly guy because they dont cheat, how is a teen mom worse than a deadbeat pdf? I can tell if she could pick again she would want a better father

[@sophialong7669]

@@Hello0x0 Never give an ugly guy the time of day. Gives them egos and makes them think they can do better. Nothing hurts more than being cheated on by someone you dated down for

[@andytoughcookie9233]

Saying he wouldn't do it again knowing that you gave birth to his children is insane, not only because that will obviously hurt you but because it looks like he doesn't love his children, I'm getting angrier by the minute

[@sherlynescobar129]

I’ve been a silent follower for years, I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time. Sending you the best vibes and hope everything gets better🩷

[@scrollingxyz]

Firstly, I had a jumpscare when I saw your husband years ago, he was punching way above his league. Secondly, the audacity of that man. Glad you're free.

[@georgepierre3594]

lol, honestly she can do better. That guy is under-average for a korean men.

[@anitafan264]

imma be honest....i heard the ages and did the calculation and I already knew this man was a bright flashing red flag...

[@Srn_sjk]

I have cried so many times watching this. I always thought your relationship dynamic was a bit off from his part and after seeing you in person last year and seeing it personally, I could really see his controlling nature. You always had to ask permission and you never did anything without consulting it and getting consent. You are someone that is so sweet, online and personally I don’t know how he could say such horrible things about you. Having spent that many years just because of his ideology, keeping you in a cage while changing everything that makes you who you are. I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that to realize how much you are worth and that you had a choice in your life. The choice to live. Truly truly live. I am forever grateful to have met you, forever grateful that you exist, forever grateful that you are choosing yourself, for choosing to live. You are so strong and I am so proud of you and how far you’ve come. I hope to see you again in the future and just hug you 🫂 I wish nothing but the best for you and your kids. I hope the day will come where you can be with them without any restrictions. I love you Namee, always take care and live happily 💖 sending you all the love I can from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷

[@mariabe4triz]

Namiiii! I did not skip the ads! If you set up a gofundme, I know many of us are more than happy to donate!!!

[@han6061]

I think she works now in a hair salon! I saw itnon her insta

[@han6061]

I mean sp on brand of her what else she gonne do😂😂

[@NameePark]

Thank you for encouraging me to start a GoFundMe, I summed the courage to ask for any help for my legal fees and school tuition. Anything helps, thank you so much for your love and support 😭😭❤️‍🩹 gofund.me/68f3906f

[@nunereclipsereborn]

​@@NameeParkA goddess walks among us

[@ivorysiren22]

Tbh I never really cared for him- something always seemed off with him anytime he'd pop up in a video. I wish you the absolute best and I hope everything works out for you.

[@UnrulyMisfit]

Omg!! Im so sorry this is happening. I’m glad you left!!! Stay strong. You’re so smart, brave, and talented. Your doors will continue to open. Sending you so much love from NYC💖

[@elizabethfarrell23]

Genuinely wondered what you ever saw in him, you're handsomely beautiful, and he looks and acts like something that crawled out from under a rock.. I don't think for a second he can like himself enough to appreciate a solid outgoing person like you.

[@KO-wn6ut]

This is honestly so heartbreaking “he liked me when i was 14 and 15, but got tired of me” :/

[@ayannaaki]

Hi Namee. I've been a silent follower for many years and I'm so so proud of you for getting out of the toxic and damaging situation you were in and taking back control of your life, finding new hobbies and new experiences. You are doing so so well and you're stronger than you think. Sending you all the love ❤❤❤❤

[@xo1537]

You should definitely take this down. He could absolutely use this against you in court. He sounds like the type of person to do that and you seem really emotional right now. I understand that you need somebody to talk to you but posting this on the Internet for the entire world to see isn’t the place to be doing this. Once this content is out here. It’s out there. I would definitely recommend finding some therapy and processing your trauma from this abusive marriage there and begin healing. Find support within your local community, people online don’t know you and we never will.

[@xo1537]

Like you just admitted to domestic violence on video. I mean, I do believe in retroactive abuse 100% but you gotta be careful when you’re emotional and making videos and posting them on the Internet. I’m sending a lot of positive energy and I hope that you heal but heed my advice

[@sos-t4m]

​@@xo1537If your life's???

[@jassngyh]

I agree with you but dont think she will listen to you

[@xo1537]

@@jassngyh one can only hope

[@portiarose6914]

i’ve been watching you for years. it feels like i honestly grew up with you in a way. i remember thinking when i was younger that your relationship was beautiful and i loved the family you created. now that i’m older i can really see how problematic the dynamic was starting with the fact you guys had a 5 year age difference…not saying age gaps are a problem. but a 35 year old and 40 year old is an entirely different dynamic than a 14 year old and a 19 year old. 😬 wishing you and your kids nothing but the best in your new journey💛💛

[@natsukimomoi334]

I'm not surprised i always got bad vibe from him, he always looked like a groomed to me with the age gap since the begining.

[@Olga-ee8do]

Yup no matter how innocent he looked physically and on the outside, I always got a weird vibe from him. The tone of voice was oddly condescending as well. Like stfu. Stop acting holier than thou. You’re a HS dropout, dusty. Bye.

[@xEPICxNESS]

You were young and hopeful and never anticipated this at the time. It’s not a failure or a mistake that this marriage ended, you gained beautiful children and now are a grown woman who is so so capable of being a wonderful single mother instead of relying on someone who doesn’t make you feel reassured, respected or validated. He essentially raised you into being his “perfect wife” and relied on your youth, dependence and naivety instead of seeing you as an equal partner. Now you are an adult woman and he didn’t like the independent person you have become. We all love and believe in you Namee!

[@yudollia]

Everyday the true nature of men is revealed to the collective feminine. I am grateful for this video. Im 23

[@annoyedcactus]

i was wondering why this was on my rec and remembered i used to watch you yeaaaars ago because of your hair videos,,,, im sorry that happened and glad you left, sending love and support!!

[@msbaguette]

Namee, do not ever feel badly for being YOU. You deserve to be with someone who loves you for exactly who you are, including flaws, quirks and everything. And for the record, i LOVE people who are extra af. Those are my favourite kind of people!! Don't ever change who you are ❤❤❤ I've been watching your channel for years and I just wish I could give you a big hug

[@iam_inwonderland1037]

from the moment i knew about how old you two were when you got together and when you got pregnant i knew something was wrong... so much abuse, i am so sorry to hear this Namee

[@diet-soda]

I think I remember watching a video from years ago and I think he said something like, if you hadn’t had kids, then he wouldn’t still be in the relationship with you? And I remember thinking that was such a toxic thing to say

[@MsAlixia]

In that sense I feel marriage/christian marriage is damaging in some sense, is a cage, you can see the outside, but you don't feel like you are able to leave until is messy, like MESSY. That's why as I'm still believing in God I don't want to marry again, I want to feel like I can leave whenever I want and same for my future partner/s.

[@MsAlixia]

Also, did we marry the same guy? (No, because M is at least a good parent)

[@MsAlixia]

So he is confessing he was unfaithful to you and looking for/to another woman and you are the cheater?

[@SinnaJayne]

Please drive safely & consider others on the road. Filming & applying makeup while driving is really dangerous & careless.

[@NameePark]

Thank you for your care. I use auto drive feature on my car but will be more aware of my driving safety

[@SinnaJayne]

@@NameePark❤ Your health and safety matter to us!

[@nikotrbl]

nami, i've been subscribed to your channel since i was about 15. i loved your videos & personality, it makes me sick that someone would treat you the way your ex treated you. it makes me disgusted he called you hard to love. i always felt something was off with him, even in your past videos. your age difference from him in the beginning is extremely telling. i'm 22 now, making my way back to your videos because of this whole thing. i hope you're doing better away from him & i pray you can get everything settled with your kids soon. im glad you got away. much love nami, you have so much support from all of us. stay strong. i know it can get so so hard mentally, but you are so strong.

[@Jessi-44]

Watching you tell your story is cathartic to me. I was “courted” by a 22 year old when I was 17 and even now at 29, I wonder what could’ve happened had I went a long with it. I also briefly dated an 18 at 17 who (I didn’t know at the time) was a convicted child r-word ist. Christian church culture and religious trauma are a cycle that is really, really tough to break and like you said, when you feel like you’re trapped, you forget that you can just get up and leave. There really is something that needs to be said about how normalised pedophiliac tendencies are in church culture. I’m really pleased that you have broken through the trap and that you’re finally healing. ❤❤❤

[@karlagarcia-nk2ni]

This is so heartbreaking I can't believe you endured this for years :( And what's so cruel is that you were a child who was groomed and now working through your trauma, and your abuser is using that against you to take your kids. I am so sorry. I too would be driven mad in your situation. But you're holding on so well, and you have a great support system like family and friends to help you stay grounded- and ofc your kids! You're a great mom and they're blessed to have such a resilient person in their lives :)

[@Matchalemoncake12345]

You need to report him and get custody of the kids. It's better that they live without him because he has very unhealthy views and will continue to influence your kids through raising them.

[@LUHOLIFE]

"You have the power to just leave" - That is a powerful line everyone needs to know. Not just personal relationships, but even mentally or those stuck.

[@ROXELL]

I finally have the courage to do so.Figuring out how to be independent is the hard part for me

[@virginiachoe2309]

hey please, coming from the bottom of my heart… please delete this video and call a lawyer… don’t lose any more than you need to from this person.

[@AlexisBii]

This, please. A good and dutiful lawyer can help her get out of this situation. It's not hopeless. I hope she knows this ❤‍🩹 It's not over

[@aidandise]

I used to watch you years ago and I never really commented, but I just wish you all the best and hope better people can come into your life and support you like you deserve, much love and stay strong

[@rttnmlk9013]

It’s not uncommon in high, stressful and extremely emotional abusive relationships that the one being abused will sometimes lash out physically because they feel as if they are against a wall and it is a form of fight or flight.

[@VolumePerfection]

You admitting to be physically violent and him doing it for self-defense online is a bad look for you on a legal stand point. I get you are being open, but be careful.

[@amirayasin3147]

Sending so much love. This must have been so hard. Sending prayers to you and your kids. You're super brave for this. You are super strong, you have this!

[@dikkioon2818]

I’ve been here since the video where you cut your long hair and sold it. I originally followed you for your hair vidoes, but I’ve also been watching other videos of yours and I’ve been following the journey for a long time. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I send hugs and I hope you may heal from this. Remember that there will always be better days ahead. You’re never alone even if you might feel like it. ❤

[@umisoul]

I would say I’m a long time viewer and silent follower but I feel like after watching you all these years, I always had a weird feeling from your ex husband, especially the choices he made work wise and how many times you “volunteered” to do stuff when you didn’t have money yourselves. Of course your choices are your choices, and there’s nothing wrong with volunteering, everyone does things out of their heart but I always felt like he did it for the wrong reasons. I don’t know you guys in a personal level but I am really happy you’re speaking for yourself now and standing up for yourself. I do hope your kids are okay.

[@han6061]

I k ow eight now your saying they were working on like an old farm house helping a old couple😭😭 girl why wont you ask a lil money for that idk, maybe they saw it as also an activety for the kids and fun maybe it was pll they closely know

[@romer3144]

i admire your courage for sharing this. it’s amazing to see how far you’ve grown and found new strengths. wishing you success in all that you do, and the love and happiness that you deserve 💜

[@nevillegoddard-g3b]

i rarely leave comments, i think i've seen your videos randomly several months ago on TikTik. I have so much respect for you on how real you are on this video. He sounds like a Narcissist/abuser. I'm truly proud of you for seeking separation/divorce from him. He seems extremely jealous that you were creating a life outside him without his control that did not revolve around him 😂 extremely narcissistic behavior "self-center mentality". I'm not even surprised that he was using spiritual abuse "religion/God" as an extra tool to control you. A true God that exist would never want to place innocent people in such an unhappy/unhealthy life especially in marriages. Please don't ever take him back. I believe in you, you can do so much better. build up your career, save up money, get your mental health together. once you have everything together, you can seek full custody (keep track of documents for proof of abuse) and press legal action towards him for abusing /grooming you if you ever feel comfortable and ready. Never give your power away especially to him, you can achieve greater things, especially for your children. Sending 💕 rooting for you baby 😊

[@ks_youtube]

24:06 This is incredibly hurtful! I can't believe he had the audacity to treat you the way he did and then also say something so cruel to you, as his wife. I imagine the journey to heal from this abusive relationship will take some time but it is so necessary, and I am proud of you for taking the steps to move forward in a healthy way. Wishing you strength Namee! Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

[@rainypeach]

long time lurker/fan here. as much as it sucks that Namee’s sad and going through so much heartbreak, i’m so happy to see her love herself and put herself first. i never liked her ex. seeing Namee realize she was groomed and rightfully talking about her experiences is so empowering.

[@Eli_Arch]

When You told us how you met him I was so scared for you :( I didn't comment anything but I knew that you would see the truth of his Grooming someday. Getting out of a relationship like that is not easy. Stay strong!

[@ajCherryBlossoms]

i've followed you for years and have always admired how honest and open you are ! it seems like you are going through so much. we are the same age and i couldn't handle what you do. you are doing well because you are trying and pushing through. i'm sorry it's so hard but you're working on it and trying to come out to the other side. there's always something amazing ahead. sending love from arkansas, usa. you are incredible , honest, compassionate, and well spoken

[@Mumort1]

I watched the whole video. I always thought you looked sad but now you are free. Live your best life and be happy. He sounds sick to me and he used you for all he could. Be patient you will get your children but they have to make sure your stable in all areas of your life first. Get better, heal and prove to the ex how much better life is without his cruelty and lack of love & care. You made the right decision to leave for your sanity and peace of mind. Life has a funny way of putting us where we’re supposed to be. I look forward to watch your growth & love for yourself. I wish you nothing but happiness ❤️

[@jennysusannna]

I'm so sorry Namee..I always felt like there was something off with him, he never really interacted with you or pay much attention to you while he was in your videos. He didn't seem to care. I just thought he was shy to the camera or something. He didn't seem to give you the affection and support you needed. I'm so sorry Namee, please hold your head high and keep pushing through, you got this. I'm so proud of you for coming this far and believe me, better things are yet to come through your way

[@thegreathanachu]

Namee, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I just want you to know that you are so brave for doing this. With your skills, charisma, and drive, you’ll go very far. You’ll meet wonderful people in your life and you’ll look back at this time and be proud of your growth. Don’t stop being you!

[@XAFinalFantasyX]

Girl when he said he didn’t have a job but was a stay at home husband and you worked your ass off, I always got a weird vibe from that

[@MusiicRoolz]

"he did like me for 2 years" oh? "when i was 14/15" NO

[@tiredbritin]

Namee, I am happy that you were able to leave such a bad situation. I have been watching your videos since 2017, and you seem so much more free now.

[@anonymousse_A]

Nami hopefully you'll read this. This is for every one who needs it: 1. Please don't take your eyes off the road while you're driving, regardless whether or not you have cruise control, lane assist and etc. That's really unsafe for you and other people. Seen accidents happen because of this. (I was an ER nurse until a few years ago). 2. Marriage is like riding a 2-person canoe. If both of you don't paddle, you'll be going in circles. If one gets up, it'll tip over. So in this case, the fault isn't just your ex's or yours, it's both. I learned this when I got separated from my abusive ex. For sometime I thought it was just his problem/fault. Then over time when I started to step back and look back at the bigger picture, both of us were at fault. We had both contributed to the demise of our marriage. Sometimes we just need acceptance of what is and accountability for our actions. 3. A break up will always be hard and there's no going around it especially if it is necessary. You'll go through the stages of grief that is expected. For how long? It depends, it varies per person. That said, stay strong. It'll get better. I promise. Keep working on making yourself a better person (mind, body, soul) and the rest will follow. 4. Not sure what is happening behind the scenes but don't drag you're kids into it. Meaning: don't bad mouth each other to your kids regardless of your personal feelings. I never said anything bad about my ex to our son and I begged my ex to do the same in which thankfully he did (my son was 4 when we separated). Now my son at 18, thanked me for that. He thanked me for allowing him to grow healthy physically, mentally and emotionally. The burden of parents separating is heavy on the children in on itself, there is no benefit for parents to add negativity to that burden. It wasn't their fault that they were born, they didn't tell you to have s3x or conceive them so don't dump the blame or the negativity on them. 5. Yes you are at the anger stage and it is normal to feel angry at everything. Just don't linger there though. Go through it but don't hang out and stay in that stage forever. 6. Try to hold on to your faith, sometimes we just need to look at the bigger picture. My faith is what has kept me alive and not taking my life until today. Don't be a fanatic/religious-crazy person but don't throw it out the window either. In life, moderation is key. 7. Life is short. Try to make the most out of it (in moderation). Being too much or too little is bad. (Example: Too much fun that you become a nuisance or too little fun that you're life is absolutely boring and meaningless, being too loud or being too quiet, eating too much or eating too little and etc). Whatever it is, be happy, be safe, practice moderation in everything. Virtual hugs to everyone who needs it. 🫂

[@momona902]

Namiii 😭😭 I’m an old subscriber and I’m really sorry to hear about this news, but I’m really happy you are able to stand up for yourself and I know that you’re doing all the right things focusing on yourself, and I truely believe that you deserve so much better!

[@wanderlustdreamer2055]

you know what, I think most of us watching thought your relationship was not healthy. But the growth you have demonstrated is what matters and I am proud of you. You got this girl!

[@SpaceMonkiiBob]

Oh Namee, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m a long time watcher and I’m so sad you were in a toxic relationship . However even though everything seems like it’s going wrong, one day things will get better. Sending lots of love and strength during this transition ❤ We’re proud of you for leaving, you will persevere and one day you’ll be glad that you left 🖤

[@shairaabshire]

I remember watching your family and hair vlogs but I had to stop because there was something about your husband that made me feel uncomfortable. Ive always had a feeling you were groomed but I thought it was rude to assume that over your age gap. Im so happy that your finally prioritizing yourself and opening your eyes.

[@biinii_]

I’m a longtime viewer and I don’t usually comment on videos but i just wanted to send so much love and prayers for you Nami. As someone who was raised with fear tactic based religion and dealing with emotionally absent and controlling dynamics; I always felt more connected to you than most KZbinrs. From the beginning I already could tell that there was emotional/religious abuse involved in your relationship, and you were forced to grow up way too soon. It sounds like he was projecting a lot of his own insecurities onto you. Deconstructing the beliefs I was raised with and really seeking God for myself through the help of biblical resources that explained spirituality in proper depth helped me to realize what qualities people with genuine faith have vs the people who are manipulating God’s Word for their own benefit. I want you to know having questions and concerns about how you were brought up in religion is a good thing; people with genuine faith will take the time to listen to your feelings/experiences, not shut them out. Don’t let people who misrespresent Christianity discourage you from who God Himself really is; keep seeking out the immense love He has for you in His Word. Praying that you will be able to find true friends who can encourage you both emotionally and spiritually. Also praying that you both will to come to the best mutual agreement possible in this situation and you will be able to have more time with the kids. Rooting for you Nami, I admire your strength and courage in sharing this. I’m also happy to see you being able to build your own friendships and thriving in your passion for beauty and language. Always remember that you’re not alone 🙏💕

[@vell2994]

That's what happens when you're forced too fast to be an adult (by religion, by social pressures, by anything coming from the outside). You can't skip that process it's too important for each development. I hope you find peace and stability at this moment❤

[@iwouldloveawestieoneday1980]

I saw this had been uploaded 8 days ago and now I’m watching it. This was not what I expected Nami. I’m so sorry you went through this Nami. I’m so glad you got some help hopefully when it’s all over you can tell us everything you want us to now. He shouldn’t have your children though and I’m sorry you have fallen out with your Mum. He had a job as a social worker correct? And he started seeing you at 14/15 that’s alarming. I love your videos of you bleaching your hair they gave me so many ideas for my own hair but I was scared in case I damaged my hair as I have very fine hair.

[@celinachungg]

Thank you for sharing this cause it helps so many people who are going through something like this. I was in a 4 year relationship that was so toxic. Everything you shared, I felt like it was exactly the same as what I experienced. I was so manipulated in the relationship. He would always guilt me and make me feel like I was always in the wrong. He always gaslighted me and make me feel like shit. I never had a voice in the relationship and every time I tried to leave, he'd threaten me or my family. Things ended with a restraining order cause of how severe the situation was. Long story short, things will always get better. Currently, I'm in a super happy relationship and it made me realize what a healthy relationship means. I believe things will get better for you! This is just a small speed bump in your journey. You got this!!

[@crabrangoonz8026]

Every couple of months your videos are recommended and it feels like a check in with an old friend. It's so clear to see how balanced and peaceful you've become, esp since the spring. Like your skin is glowing, your hair looks amazing and there's seems to be a major shift in your energy. We are SO freaking proud of you Namee. Ps-- I never liked your ex either! It was giving grooming, controlling weirdo since your teen mom days. The controlling parent to controlling partner pipeline is no joke. Thank you for holding on to yourself Namee. Your strength, resilience and inner light are truly an inspiration. Wishing you continued health, happiness and healing!

[@myvisualdiares]

Sending you love 🥰🥰 I feel like EVERYONE around me is separating..myself, my coworker, my supervisor, etc so I relate…hope you’re well nami

[@loen2629]

Dear Namee I was a viewer a long time ago and even moderated your channel for a while. As a child of divorced parents and a parent with narcissistic traits (which your ex also seem to possess) I always watched your videos to find comfort in your family unit. I was a very young teenager when I saw the videos of you and your ex husband talking about relationships and communication and found them to be very insightful. According to your and your ex's opinions and thoughts I had the impression your relationship was healthy and mature. Then after a while I started to notice a shift in my opinion, as I matured my perception of your relationship changed and I avoided this channel more and more because my feeling told me something about the energy was off. I could sense something my younger self had not been able to sense before. So I stopped watching this channel for years. I could never quite put my finger on it, but now I know why I had this feeling. I'm so sorry to hear this and I hope you will be able to find the happiness and the love you deserve. I always found your ex to be very reserved and emotionally distant, but turns out he was not only reserved online to strangers but also emotionally distant towards his own wife. Some people are very good at keeping a facade, talking like they are very morally correct and righteous. But behind the scenes they are not like they portray themselves to be. I recognize that very well now, but as a young person you are less inclined to believe that people older than you are not trustworthy. I sincerely wish you the strength to heal from the abuse and overcome the unfortunate situation with your children and your finances. I hope you learn that it is okay to take up space and make yourself heard even if for so long you were denied the right to express yourself.

[@scyt33]

same i didn't know why i stopped watching as well but now we all know

[@benieem3867]

namee i’m so sorry :( i’ve been watching you for so long and i’m wishing you and your kids all the best ❤

[@matw1x]

Thank you for sharing, but I wish we could hear his side as well. My parents divorced decades ago, and I resented my dad for a very long time because I only heard my mom's story. She made it seem like he was the most evil person in the world. That was until several years ago, I heard his story and realized the truth lies somewhere in between 2 opps. Both my mom and dad are good people who tried their best but struggled with reconciling their points of contention.

[@celine4743]

this shit is insane to me holy shit, it's so understandable you went through hell to get here. sending you all the support and love u can get ❤

[@Star-1.4.3]

The moment you said he had to approve your friends I said he didn’t choose your friends for you he chose them cause he found them to his attraction and that if he had the chance to leave you and or cheat on you it would be on of them also then you said he told you he wouldn’t do your marriage again and would divorce you proved my point

[@chibifrenchfry3056]

#istandwithnameepark Girl! Like everyone else here, I have been watching you since the beginning. I used to message you on ig! Who tf needs 6 computers? Is he the meme with girl owning the computers to email, comment, etc. He’s a pedo! No woman would want him and I hope no good karma to him! Sending love and support to you girl! Thanks for sharing your story!

[@AcidGlow]

Sometimes things don't work out with people. At least you tried but it just wasn't the right person. Time we spend can be a learning experience. ⏳

[@NameePark]

Thank you so much

[@d3monsn0wkitty]

Im so sorry you were going through all that! Much love and peace to you. You are strong. I’m so sorry though.

[@sumspingZ]

i’ve been a subscriber for a while though i haven’t been super active and seeing this shocked me. i’m sorry you have to go through this and wish you and the kids the best of luck. i’m glad you seem to have a good support system and are able to have fun with your friends, you seem very happy with them in the video. though the process may be long and difficult, it will be worth it to finally be free from him and be who you really are. i hope things continue to go up from here. do not give up. your children love you and are proud of you, they want to see you overcome this hardship ❤

[@SugaMoo]

Im so sorry you went through that, have been following your channel for years. I feel so seen with your description because almost a year ago I got out of a very toxic relationship where I was constantly in a survival state. Even after I finally broke up and left it he would lie about me to others and say I cheated on him just like how you experienced. Im glad Im not alone and I hope you can heal

[@therosiealejandra]

Sue him for statuatory

[@ladybaabaa3294]

Not yet, if ever. Once Namee is deemed stable and deemed safe to have her kids (either full or partial custody), if her ex does or says anything to sabotage that, THEN she can make a decision about pressing charges. And reveal the other stuff he said about younger girls, particularly considering one of their kids is a girl.

[@almahi1773]

Namii i've been here for so many years with you, actually sine I was 15 to now when i'm 22. I am so sorry for everything you had to go through, yet happy for your very needed envinroment change. This seems like a very needed turn in your life, I really wish you the best and send you love. P.S Israeli food is really the best! Hope you had a good time

[@emijaykay]

I know you’re smiling and enjoying life as much as you can but I definitely can see a lot of pain behind your light smiles and laughter. I’ve always wanted to comment on your videos but have been a passive viewer… the fact that your ex seemed narcissistic and always tended to cut you off or correct your words or views… It always rubbed me the wrong way and triggered me because it reminded me of how my ex used to treat me. Of course, I didn’t want to comment on your loving family at the time- it wasn’t my place- but it’s such a relief to hear your experience and it makes sense. I know life is tough and hasn’t been the nicest to you… but know that you’re worth it. Please keep working on yourself-- finding you, finding your happiness- live FOR you. For the sake of your children and self, please stay away from him. Your children would be much happier with you being happy and enjoying your world rather than seeing you in a miserable state attempting to live with your ex FOR the sake of your children. It will be different. It will be hard. I know losing your lover, best friend, and someone who you thought you could FINALLY trust is hard to experience. But know that you are loved. You are worth it. Rooting for you. Tomorrow will be a better day. Trust that it will. 응원할께요 파이팅

[@tony6721]

OMGGG QUEEN NAMEEE!!! I’m so sorry to hear about everything going on, just know we are always here for you

[@SilverMoonChyld]

I’m really sorry Namee,lots of hugs for you I wish you the very best and hope you are doing better now if not that’s okay healing takes time

[@sw33tfr0styy]

I watched this a few times because I can resonate with you on some of this. I cried with you at the part when you realize this person you love did not love you as long as you did. I love him for 20 years and now thinking back, he probably loved me for a very short period during that 20 years. It was constant gaslighting, manipulation, and controlling. For the last few years, I had to google his behaviors to find out he’s a covert narcissist. Your ex is a covert narcissist meaning his public image in front of others has to be perfect with no flaws. However, behind closed doors, he’s very disgusting and nasty. I admire how strong you are getting out as I am unable too. I want to get there one day and leave. As of now, I cannot financially support myself as everything is so expensive. My parents are toxic as hell so I cannot surround myself with them. I literally have no one. No friends. Praying for great things going your way.

[@DropSpit]

Namee you are amazing!!!!! It may not feel like it right now but this is the best thing that could have happened!! You have realized how worthy you are and that you deserve to be treated well!! You don't ever have to go back to feeling miserable and trapped with that selfish ****. Praying for you to have your kids back!! Do everything in your power to get them back!!!! Get a lawyer/legal on your side and get your family involved in helping you. Your case worker / other government employees may or may not be on your side. Donated to your gofundme, don't give up

[@iFlyUp]

I am a silent view. I am so glad you left!!!! It was always weird to me with the age gap. Sending you lots of healing, hugs, and love!

[@nctoken8052]

God I been waiting for you to leave him! Ever since you uploaded your marriage story. I knew he groomed you but you seemed happy so I made an exception. Praying for you Namee ❤❤❤

[@drowningfish1348]

Noooooo Namee omg I am so sorry you lived through that. The gaslighting... bro I feel gaslit. Jackle and Hyde fr cuz he made himself seem like a nice person. All these emotions and feelings are justified. You were groomed and manipulated and hurt. You are doing the right thing. I hope you heal and you can get everything sorted with your children.

[@shirotsuru777]

From a follower of Jesus - I'm sorry for everything you went through Namee.. Using religion to control and manipulate people is evil. I'm only assuming its Christianity based, so forgive me if im wrong, but if it is, please know that, that is not Christianity at all. Saying you'd go to hell if you did something wrong or bad is a lie in the faith. We all sin, no one is perfect, that's why Jesus came to begin with, because he was the only one who was perfect, so that he could take on all sins for us. We only need to ask for forgiveness and try again. Christianity is a true relationship with Jesus, like having a best friend you can run to about anything with, its not a religion. To fully know God, read and follow his word, not people. I understand completely if you want nothing to do with the faith anymore, sadly religious abuse has ruined a lot of peoples lives and its heart-breaking to hear from others. I truly hope you heal from all of this, and find peace and joy again in your life. Sending love

[@itsIbara]

I support you Namee, first time i watch a video of you and i would love to follow you from now on because you're now a different person : you're gonna be YOU ! the suppressed YOU ! so go on and rock it I will follow you on this journey and send my support through the universe ♥. You are LOVED.

[@yung__ladyForLife]

This is your first video I watched. I am so sorry that you’re going through this. I wish you all the best with everything ❤ I’m glad you come to understand that this is toxic, gaslighting, grooming… etc I had been in the same situation. The toxicity of the relationship worn me out so much, I lost tons of weight and had shoulder pain. Only when I got out of it (It was crazy because you know toxic partners, they have a way to make sure it’s not gonna be easy for us) that I realized I was sleeping with the enemy/monster all along. Keep going with your life… good things are coming ❤