"Do I Love My Partner or Not?"

[@brycek2033]

Despite being someone who has read, watched, or listened to many, many hours of discussion on OCD this is the VERY FIRST TIME I've heard someone discuss the numbness associated with OCD. I'd love to hear this discussed more because it's especially painful if you also compulsively asking your "why am I not feeling (x) in this situation?". Thank you so so very much. This video is bursting at the seams with useful information.

[@kirsty9330]

Just made this video after seeing your comment 👍

[@brycek2033]

@@kirsty9330I can't thank you enough!

[@mayararolim5779]

i felt into these patterns a while ago. at the time i really believe i didnt love him, my fear was to break up with him and find out months later that i actually love him and regret the choice i made. i confessed to him how i felt, and it wasnt pleasing... but i gave it time and turns out, i actually love him. i stopped obsessing about it like this... now that i'm learning about rocd, i realized it was the ocd talking

[@ReshiramMage1992]

All year I obsessed about how I felt about my partner and testing myself to see my reaction. It doesn’t work. It’s like I really don’t love him anymore…. 😭 I’ve been crying so much I can’t deal with anything anymore….

[@donnadrastata7349]

Did u ever love him? What did you end up doing?

[@emilyvu26]

I wish I tick off my to-do list as much as I tick the symptoms mentioned here. Thank you for making these videos!

[@TarmahoGaming]

i've been feeling this on and off along with the urge to leave or break up even though i don't want to! This is our third break... i love them, but my mind struggles to let those anxious thoughts, scenarios, and mental state go... it's at the point where i am feeling a numbness to my partner. but whenever i am around them i start to relax a little and the feelings are still there and genuine. it's been a tough situation... what can i do to surpass this? i genuinely don't want to lose them as they are the first person in my life after losing my ex and my step mother to show me genuine unconditional love. they want me happy.

[@nicolesantiagodominguez8826]

I hope you had an answer. I can see you are struggling because I am going through something similar even so I don’t know you or the situation. My partner and I been dating for 4 months and I say this is the ideal man for me he is everything I could ask for a partner(loving, caring, supportive, handsome, sexy, intelligent, etc) I love this man because his personality is everything for me and he has understand and research about rocd and chat with my therapist once. I can say the way I deal with this is to accept in the moment I don’t feel love for my partner right now even so that doesn’t mean I don’t love them but at the moment I am not feeling anything and is okay. I even practice CTB and ERP again this helps me(Not advising because I am not a therapist).This happened to me with someone I was dating in the beginning at the year and in many past relationships since I was 13 and I didn’t knew what it was until I found out. On the other side I didn’t love or like the person I was going out at the begging of this year because it was not for me and I try but their was not chemistry. So don’t be hard on yourself. You are not alone.

[@donnadrastata7349]

Do you SOMETIMES feel a deep love for him? Did you feel an initial attraction and draw to him at first??? I didn't feel love or attraction from the first date. He was a nice guy so I hoped it would grow. It's grown a little.... but I never feel deeply in love. Just trying to figure out if it's Rocd or there really is just a friendship here...after 2 yrs:(. I do do all the Rocd compulsions

[@fennellturtle]

​@donnadrastatcan i ask how it worked out?a7349

[@olivep7920]

Very helpful. Thank you!

[@melikapanahi8436]

it was very helpful. thank you so much❤

[@awakenedsouls3206]

What if i do not feel care in some situations in which normally, a girlfriend would do feel care? Is that the same too

[@carriecanfield218]

I dont fear breaking up....it actually causes tremendous relief when I do break up.

[@kirsty9330]

Perhaps your fear is more the discomfort of feeling like you are with the wrong person, this can be disputed also

[@carriecanfield218]

@@kirsty9330 I agree.