Do rich people have a secret dress code? (Stealth Wealth, Quiet Luxury & Poverty Chic)

[@nikkil764]

I knew a very wealthy old money family that mailed formal evening clothes between family members to save money. A single gown might be worn ten times in a season by different family members in different cities. It’s might not fit each wearer perfectly but they religiously avoided gaining weight so they could wear “the dress”. If someone had to purchase a new item, they considered whether it would travel well.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

One of my favorite books mentions formal dresses being passed down generations. I suspect one keeps one's money by not spending money. Thank you watching🥰

[@EughhBrothereughh]

@@teresachaotic.corner i understand passing the dress down to your daughter, granddaughter, and etc but passing it like a blunt around your family of so many people yikes. Its so gross 🤣😭

[@username00009]

@@EughhBrothereughhformal wear would be dry cleaned. Nothing will survive those dry cleaning chemicals.

[@5naf6]

​@@EughhBrothereughhbro it can be cleaned. Nothing gross about it.

[@ninawestlake14]

I don't necesarrily want to dress like the rich, it is however something i just happen to like. Nice clean cuts, quality and solid colors. This way of dressing never goes out of style and no one notices you wearing the same dress twice a week etc. Love your analysis btw.

[@ecc7440]

I completely agree! I have always leaned towards the solid earth tone colored clothes that have a clean cut. They stay in fashion longer, are more versatile and so much easier to mix and match! I actually find it distasteful- a put off if you will and feel as though the rich are mocking the lower class when they dress “poor”.

[@bobfeller604]

MY CPA told me he has some clients who are beyond loaded $$$ and they dress in flannel shirts, jeans from Walmart, and drive Toyotas. It's straight out of one of my favorite books...The Millionaire Next Door.

[@thenopedetective]

Not sure if this comes up in the video, but another issue with the quiet luxury look is that it is very whitewashed. It's not luxury from any other culture but north american and very targeted towards white people and neutrals. It's a very north american sort of image. Kind of beside the topic of how "tacky" items are often those considered to be worn more often by people of colour (like, actually wearing colour or more statement jewelry, even if authentic).

[@km987]

My friend works for an actual billionaire who grew up poor. He invites people to dinner and serves crappy spaghetti bolognese he made himself. He had his ex wife arrested for taking a Nespresso machine from their house when they separated. He shops in the local supermarket and doesn’t wear anything obviously luxurious. But he also has a huge fancy yacht with permanent staff, the best penthouse in a ultra luxury beachfront apartment, a country house with a working farm and livery stables, and 50 vintage cars.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

Sometimes when someone grows up poor and becomes rich, it's hard to kick the scarcity mindset where you can't stop hoarding wealth (wealth can be taken away at any moment). The gumption it takes to go from rags to riches is a dog eats dog mentality that degrades one's generosity if left unchecked. He might serve his homemade spaghetti because he thinks he's a great cook. Now that he's a billionaire, no one is going to tell him otherwise. His divorce might have been very ugly and the Nespresso machine was the straw that broke the camel's back. Of course, he does sound generous when it comes to himself;) Petty onto others, generous to oneself: a modern day Scrooge. I can character study this guy all day! Thank you for watching🥰

[@TheFoxisintheHouse]

Q He arrested his ex-wife for taking a Nespresso machine. What a loser!!! 😂 He absolutely 💯 deserved the divorce! He's an ASSHOLE. He's a terrible party host! I bet his ex 🤣 has great taste and he just wouldn't pony up the dough. I offer luxury foods at my parties 🥳 I don't charge my guests, and there's an abundance of foods. I wear clean white new dress shirt 👔 to important meetings. OFF the store shelves, never worn or washed. I am classy and people know it. They've come to know my style. I get flack if I deviate quality! 😂 My relatives get ❤ spoiled both by quality time spent with me, and gifts 🎁. No, I am not a cheapskate when I have the means to be generous! I am very frugal when money 💰 is tight. Q❤

[@lrbolotin1227]

He sounds like a jerk.

[@BetsyRoberts-u8e]

I discovered thrifting and estate sales in the 90's and would continue that even if I won hundreds of millions of dollars in the lottery. It's the thrill of the hunt. I once found 2 cashmere coats -in my size - and snapped them up. This was in 1991 and I still have them and wear them.

[@mizzbee7406]

Also, side note... I have thrifted the North face. I have thrifted a $200-$500 piece of clothing for $7, $12, $20... It's ridiculous to criticize someone buying quality clothing either way, but luckily we have ways to make it more affordable.

[@CrepuscularQueen]

I don’t know if she was a teacher or what she was doing, but I saw a lady a couple of years ago wearing all Gucci attire with a brief case in hand while I passed her in the hallway. I felt so incredibly bad for her because it looked tacky as hell. She probably paid a pretty penny for it to be such a crusty look. My math teacher, on the other hand, who taught financial literacy classes, never has paid interest on a credit card, wears her old clothes routinely and is nothing but competent and kind (awarded best teacher of the year several times). I suspect she is a millionaire or pretty close to it. I don’t think she has old money from generations, but she has education.

[@austinpowers1999]

I’m a multibillionaire and shop at Goodwill, SAM’s club, dress pretty crappy, and only leave a 15% tip. Rich people look down on me not realizing I have thousands of millions more than them.

[@uuvlv9605]

I think a billionaire is normally working 24/7 so unless they have meetings, I assume they just wear something that’s comfortable and they can sleep in.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

the billionaire 'uniform' eliminates decision fatigue

[@BetsyRoberts-u8e]

I have a good friend who grew up rich, and she told me her unclel (who had MORE money, btw) would wash Ziploc bags to reuse them, as well as reusing paper towels!

[@andyisdead]

Billionaires don't work. It's their employees who do.

[@username00009]

@@BetsyRoberts-u8eMillionaire Next Door is a good read. Most rich people are self-made. People who inherit wealth tend to fritter it away.

[@yingkouzen]

Look at bill gates, he is definitely generational old money 💵 his mum was a director in IBM in her heyday

[@heidismith3678]

Omg I have an amazing story about a rich person who pretended to be poor: back when I was in school, I went to CalArts, and there was a dude in the Fine Art department who dressed up everyday like a homeless person, he literally pushed around a grocery cart on campus with all of his crap in it, and he would say things like, " I don't want anyone to censor my art etc etc!!" Well, it turns out that his dad owned Sports Illustrated.... yeah.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

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[@factoriesandmachines]

Quiet luxury is a style choice.Actually,if you are average,you should purchase quiet luxury clothing.I learned this when I had my first job.I ended up with clothes that lasted me 10 years.I got rid of them because I wanted something new.Quality and clothes that can be worn and mixed around...Plain shoes you can wear to work and or on a date or even to brunch...flared jeans you can wear to work or with a plain white tee and coat...😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤Enjoyed your video

[@teresachaotic.corner]

🥰 thank you!❤️

[@Syriaaa1]

What are brands you would recommend?

[@BandrewScott]

The algorithm brought me here, but this was great. The discussion about the union leader getting criticized for wearing north face was fascinating because it shines a light on an interesting cultural behavior. Awesome work Teresa, thanks for sharing your analysis of this style.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

Makes you think, doesn't it? 🤔 thank you for watching! 🥰

[@kayallen7603]

This has always been happening. Neutrals, top quality fabrics, excellent fit. That's the "dress code".

[@evaliu7181]

Clothes are the outside of the inside of a person. If a person is kind and respects other people, then people would look past the clothes. Clean and neat, well proportioned, that's sufficient. Quiet luxury spells self-confidence, without any need to impress other people.

[@isaackellogg3493]

“Clothes are the outside of the inside of a person.”-GOLD!

[@haikaikokoni369_]

What should a billionaire dress like? What? Irrelevant. The real question is what type of personality does a PERSON have that reflects their chose of clothes - wealthy or not.

[@qtdeshina]

The algorithm also brought me here from a very similar video essay about how the wealthy (sort ofof) don’t buy luxury clothing and you did a fantastic job. I don’t even know which point was my favorite but I’m going to subscribe to your channel. I live in California and am a 29 year old children’s therapist right now and see this same aesthetic principle within schools and our agency’s management staff.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

🥰❤️thank you so much!

[@jilll934]

Somehow with all my luxury handbag videos I was sent here! Loved this deep dive into such an interesting and rarely discussed topic!

[@teresachaotic.corner]

thank you! ❤️ Ironically, I don't own any luxury handbags, but I watch all the videos and know all about them:)

[@vonwolly2]

Well I like Cosco T-shirts the large could be a little bit longer. Instead of buying a 600 and something dollars T-shirt. I can buy a six pack of T-shirts for twentysomething dollars. That money could go to something else like a charity. I like my hoodies from Walmart.You're very intelligent

[@MsArri81]

I Love your videos! I enjoy the randomness of them and yet the topics are quite interesting at the same time! Something my brain would ponder upon. 🧐❤😂

[@teresachaotic.corner]

Awww! thank you! 🥰I do enjoy stimulating everybody's brain cells🤣

[@_d0ser]

As an old money guy it's really weird seeing people want to emulate me, because in reality... we all just wear random polo shirts and slacks 90% of the time. Like a regular white-collar dad would wear to a parent-teacher conference.

[@asia_jo]

A few years back I wore nude designer sneakers and my boss said, “Wow, I must pay you too much.” I quickly reminded her my husband is an attorney.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

Love it! 😂

[@lrbolotin1227]

Awesome! 😂

[@pagehed]

Just found this channel. Can't get enough of it!!

[@teresachaotic.corner]

🥰 thank you! Happy you're here!

[@misssinister7936]

This cracks me up considering the rich rich are a .1percent

[@ryanwalters6184]

That why you go vintage.

[@annasaracinesca7514]

The ending!!!!!!!!! I love it. Hi from an Italian subscriber 👋

[@teresachaotic.corner]

🥰 thank you!!!

[@cris471]

Great video, absolutely love it ! Greetings from Germany

[@teresachaotic.corner]

danke! 🥰

[@GRINDETHIKSMIXTAPESHOW]

its hard for alot of ppl to build wealth because they mistake wealth as the lavish life but its two different things , there are ppl to this day that live a lavish life but deep in the negative red , wealth really has no image its faceless

[@jantowse841]

So interesting. Thank you.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

thank you for watching🥰!

[@hebrewmama]

I have a baseball cap that I got from Walmart that looks JUST like that - $10

[@teresachaotic.corner]

Same! The good thing about stealth wealth/quiet luxury: it's easily achievable

[@kennethoneill4176]

With 100 million rich people around the world with much of that wealth hidden. Much of the reasons for stealth wealth are security issues. Geoarbitrage ,medical tourism. So savby wealthy person goes to India and gets the highest quality dental care at a fraction of the price. Then either get s suit s and other clothes tailored in India or goes to Thailand. Again paying a fraction of the price

[@skitterycash04]

Omg people are so aspirational these days. “Quiet luxury”, “how rich people dress”, “live like the 1%”, “old money”. Jesus Christ if you’re poor you’re poor, dressing as them does not make you like them. It’s so annoying.

[@GRINDETHIKSMIXTAPESHOW]

U just said an interesting word that I never heard before life style inflation

[@LolaJay_]

Great job -- new subbie here!

[@teresachaotic.corner]

thank you!🥰

[@carlg2882]

awesome take

[@teresachaotic.corner]

thank you!🥰

[@RCDiaz-Balart]

I know that I’m only a few minutes into this video and it’s eight months old, but I would like to advise that there’s a difference between rich and wealthy, then vast majority of people who dress up the most tend to be in the upper middle class to lower upper class the lower upper class is what you would refer to as rich anyone who makes under $300,000 a year is not wealthy if you talk to investors orhigh net worth advisors they only start to talk to people after they cross 10 million a year. It’s a very exclusive group and they can dress however they want the vast majority of people making under 300 K dress exactly the way you think suit tie because that’s what their job demands but on the weekends they look like everybody else. As you progress in the video, you asked, how do the old wealth distinguish themselves from new money or people just dressing like them, very easy because that lower Piana cap that you think is just blue is not, it is actually a weave that looks a lot like W pattern on the cap when you’re close to it so someone may be buy an offbrand cap and not realize that when seen in person those who know Lord will know that that is a fake cap because the pattern in the weave does not match it is not a herringbone wool pattern

[@daisysplayshop7932]

They sell Northface at Ross for $29.99. My daughters northface was $15 at ross

[@teresachaotic.corner]

The people getting all worked up over Northface being a splurge are just not good at bargain hunting. Gotta check Ross.

[@_Half-A-Beas.T333]

J Crew. Nuff said.

[@Syriaaa1]

Dude I had bought a knock off Tory Burch sandals from Rainbow and didn’t really want it 😂 I just don’t care!

[@gggusc11]

Nice content

[@chinaboss6683]

Im from first class high society and i spend most of my day in my underwear with my mistresses. 😎

[@teresachaotic.corner]

🤣

[@TheDowntownHermit-xj6rq]

There's an old fashioned word for this aesthetic: "Slumming"..

[@kofiofosu9051]

Jeans, t shirt and pick up truck

[@Woodland_moth]

❤❤❤

[@teresachaotic.corner]

❤️

[@yump]

1 minute in at least its clear the narrator of this long video is actually a real person and not ai (hopefully) text to speech

[@teresachaotic.corner]

"Not AI"... I'll take that as a compliment. 🥰 If I were AI, I'd give myself a less grating voice and do something about my lighting.

[@haikaikokoni369_]

Serving et reserving paper plates for guests? lol It's because the host doesn't want to use their service dishes to them! They're NOT part of the tribe, not because they're stingy lol

[@susanalperin]

Her impressive knowledge base is eclipsed by her cliche’ voice fry.

[@teresachaotic.corner]

what's a voice fry?

[@evelynzlon9492]

​@@teresachaotic.corner It's an unconscious and subtle purring/growling sound which is pretty standard amongst females in your age group. Somebody doesn't like you because you badmouthed the rich. I also find the growing global class divide formidable, but as someone with a B.A. in Economics, I can attest that grassroots popular uprisings are generally just a ploy to EXACERBATE this inequality. After the spirit of liberty wears off, the dry mechanics of supply and demand remains. The mass pursuit of upward mobility drives up the market values of already high-end homes, and vice-versa. The preexisting homeowners reap the results of this insidious transfer of wealth, deepening the divide and resulting in a kind of socioeconomic quicksand.

[@polynesia8733]

It would have been more appropriate for the union guy to wear a non labeled clothing item then a loud north face jacket.

[@JacquelynF-zt6wc]

Girl no my ex is 100 million rich they have very expensive furniture like 50,000 bed 20,000 tv like couch 30k Two farraris

[@JacquelynF-zt6wc]

Huge logos no just the fit you can tell!!!

[@computer-training-for-seniors]

Who gives a crap what you're wearing?

[@xeniadelsol]

Petty people, people who want to look like they are rich but they actually aren’t and people who are more on the poor side and resent people with money.