Do You Need Therapy? How to Know If You Need to See a Therapist

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[@PleaseNThankYou]

I wish my son would agree to speak to someone.it's driving me crazy! My whole household is mentally ill and since my daughter moved back home with the grandkids,it's gotten much worse. Now my son, mentally ill since young childhood, is back. I'm the only one who admits a problem and Jim the only one with insurance.you said there is counseling for those who have loved ones in crisis. What should i look for in credentialing and experience to he'll with this type of therapy. Thank you for your reply in advance...GigiQ

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

I've got videos on my course for what to do if they won't get help, how to encourage them to get help, and specific things you can do to help them.

[@wilbureastern1115]

my method is to simply oppose the present situation to an image of a peaceful family, where everyone coexists respecting and helping each other. It's their own choice if they wanna have one or the other for so many years of their life.

[@luckeystrike3541]

@@wilbureastern1115 that is pretty stupid, why whould anyone help someone if they dont benefit from it?

[@luckeystrike3541]

How do you know your son is mentally ill?

[@idontlikethewayshelooksatm341]

I hope my mom would let me go to therapy I'm tired

[@charlotteyulick8130]

i’m scared to ask my mom for a therapist because i feel like she won’t have enough money or she’ll think i’m broken and i don’t want her to know that i’m not happy

[@akshatyadav1115]

Talk to her. Tell her what has been going on. Money shouldn't be a problem, there are many free online therapist sites. It's all gonna be alright.

[@dalokasoka2393]

Same here i think i have ptsd and anxiety .. im scared too .. maybe im just gonna act weird and she will notice it ?¿

[@kirtiharwani7870]

@@akshatyadav1115 Could you please share free therepy sites?

[@seastm]

My mom doesn't take it serious when I say. She kinda likes to be just thinking that everything is okay. I have a breakdown almost every time when I need to go somewhere. In my high-school there is a very cool psychologist. And this is the only thing I want to go to school for. And she has been in our class and I liked it so much.

[@kimiriz9343]

Yes we go for therapy not only for ourselves but hoping when we benefit, can help people from our own family and many others who are willing to hear. We should not wait till it is too late. Everyone faces problems and some for a long time like mine over 40 years and have been trying hard to improve my own condition over the years before we came across Emma's and Anna's videos. Don't add onto our miseries by getting angry with us when we are not able to help you deal with your own problems by mocking. ridiculing, and making all kinds of demands. Blaming games add on to our problems. When our problems get worse, like having suicidal thoughts we would excommunicate toxic people from our life including those who blame us in time of their needs as we can't help them as we ourselves have to cope with many issues faced. We can do our part in some small ways but can't take too much pressures. We are grateful to Emma n Anna for their contributions in easing things by sharing generously with people like us.

[@Chirpingcherub]

Ok we’re all here for the same reason

[@thepingwinman7145]

Yes

[@whydrink1609]

Whats the reason becuse I had a betrayal with long lasting effects on my mental health and I am seeing if its worth it.

[@Chirpingcherub]

@@whydrink1609 my reason? I have flashbacks and stuff from being bullied when I was 12 in first year of high school (Scotland) a group of 6th years (18 year olds) threw firecrackers at me every day and chased me. I know that doesn’t even sound that bad but bare in mind I was 12 a female they were all 18 and makes there was also like 7 of them

[@whydrink1609]

@@Chirpingcherub ok I see, I guess ill tell the full thing then. When I was young I met a friend and had never had one before then 5 years passes, he started treating me like trash but I was too gullible to notice. Then I talked to the school about him and they did nothing, 1 year later he stole my phone which was special to me becuse I got it from my parents and he tried too sell my private information. Anyway I am not saying this to undermine your problems, but I was genuinely confused on the fact you were all there for the same reson and I am sorry if it came off as me being an ass.

[@Chirpingcherub]

Much Wo W no I meant like we all are a bit messed up lol

[@seastm]

I have been sure that I need a therapy for 2 years, I think this is something I've had always, I don't remember myself being normal, and I hope everything gets better, it's hard to believe in this but I'll try.

[@bharatirai527]

I too feel suicidal sometimes but not all the time,sometimes I feel fine.

[@martinvazquez4771]

Then that means your fine just talk to your parents also if that the case then your probably not suicidal

[@Mattrero]

@@martinvazquez4771 bruh no if ur suicidal its not constant

[@Mattrero]

Seek help please, “sometimes” is already way too much.

[@angienoexiste]

@@martinvazquez4771that’s such reductive comment to make, it’s not normal to feel suicidal, be it sometimes or always. it can be a symptom to a greater problem beneath the surface and you should treat it before it becomes a habit of “ rough pachs “ or even worsens and happens more often.

[@CaylynAdamko]

This was a really great video. Super comprehensive and as a long time therapy client, I still found this helpful.

[@juliannaokike4063]

Every good counselor has a counselor of their own to process their own view of the situation or problems that they have to sort out on each persons case or behalf.

[@karansidhpura1744]

Thank you so much! I am able to move on in life first slowly and then normally. Yet for once I will visit one to get answers to the questions which I could not get for a long time.

[@toddboothbee1361]

Poor because I need therapy, but too poor to get therapy.

[@felizitasschoel-zz5tz]

I’ve talked to my parents about how I feel and they’re going to help me find a therapist. It was a hard talk more than worth it though. I do know that what is going on has impacted on my life and is really hard to deal with so I’ll at least try and if in the end I’m just overreacting then that’s how it is I guess…

[@Godblessya1]

Can you pls guide me how to deal with procrastination that’s stuck with me for decades now?

[@seastm]

The worst thing is that I have cried at home many many many times, and my mom has seen me crying, I was telling her I needed a therapy but she told pray. Yes,okay, but than everything got bad the next day, ah, she thinks psychologists are crazy people or something, but I don't think she's certain about that. I have told about my mental problems some of my friends but if happens something that makes me anxious (in a weird way, cause for a healthy person it's okay) they won't understand me . They don't have to understand me, I think I wouldn't understand someone like me if I didn't have that kind of problems. But it hurts so bad...

[@Lisa-pe6dl]

Thank you, personal trainer for the brain and mind , life coping skills 😊

[@amina..22]

everyone in my school chat was telling me i need therapy so now im here

[@xbriannaxbananax]

This was so good and thorough!

[@cleverclovercreates3249]

My mom seems to think I should consider a therapist for my horrible anxiety but I think it’s too expensive. She says my parents can figure it out but I know it’s been extra hard for them lately with money. Also I think if I said to my dad I want a therapist he’d think I was being soooo dramatic and would just think it’s stupid. I don’t really give details on my anxiety to him, he never seems to take it too seriously. What should I do? And is online therapy good and what exactly is it?

[@faithcooper8935]

It is also hard to find a good therapist match when you move.

[@TheRindy84]

What about if the person is just the "identified patient"? everybody else agrees that you're the problem but they have played an active part in forming those problems either though direct action or neglect?

[@loissanchez7220]

Thank you! This is great video

[@anairizarry4792]

I get mad easly and I feel like I need a therapist

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Have you looked for one?

[@anairizarry4792]

@@TherapyinaNutshell no sadly but my mom has asked me if I need one

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

@@anairizarry4792 What's stopping you?

[@temmietaft2552]

This video was very helpful

[@daisyzea2386]

I guess, I am living under the sea or something. Cause, I tried to reach out for help through doctors because I have been suffering from panic disorder in a long term. Guess what they said, "Are you crazy? ", " Seeking therapy or psychological help is similar to destroy your family's reputation. " I have had two panic attacks, long term anxiety disorder with physical symptoms. Now sometimes, things look extremely hopeless in my eyes. Cause I don't know what to do.

[@seastm]

Omg, what did you do?

[@louern123]

For people who are not diagnosed, in the olden days, having friends to talk to was therapy. No one just wants to listen anymore. :(

[@PleaseNThankYou]

Sorry, many typos in that comment prior. Not Jim...I'm the only one with insurance. I hope you are listening out there wherever you are!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

I would recommend seeing a licensed marriage and family therapist, they will be able to help you with your own stress and challenges, in addition to being able to help you learn ways to respond to your family in a way that is helpful. It's pretty fascinating to me that when one person changes their interaction in a family, they invite change from the other and real healthy patterns can develop. I have an online course with over 50 videos on how to help family members with mental illness: it's only 9.99 but at some point I'll be selling it for $200, www.udemy.com/how-to-help-depression-and-anxiety/?couponCode=THERAPYNUT

[@jere478]

Almost everybody needs to see a therapist. Because all of us need that friend who Will say to us what we need to hear rather what we want to hear. Also therapist is better than that Honest friend because they can Navigate with you The complex mental issues you Have in your Life rather than just listen and react what you say. Also since therapists are conisdered very smart and held in high regard its easier for us to take their advice seriously rather than that one Honest friend (which is valuable If you Have one) giving us good advice but semi drunk we dont take it seriously. Also most of us end up hating that friend who is too Honest with us 😂. Autocorrect did some weird stuff and cant bother to fix since you get The idea.

[@melissarivera7477]

God bless therapists & psychiatrists

[@mewiekisa]

Also psychologists

[@Lyrawolfbane]

I hate therapy because it doesn’t help me. I’ve been in therapy for years and I’ve been judged every time and I’m always angry in therapy. I don’t understand why I’m in therapy when I never did anything wrong to anyone. Maybe I’ve made some mistakes but good people do bad things. I didn’t deserve the treatment I was given and therapy feels like prison. I’m stronger without it.

[@DynastyHeroes]

I want to solve my problems and get better but im skeptical if it will work i did online therapy and i dont think it helped.

[@edwardanderson1431]

How to find the right therapy, the rear therapy?

[@ellagrewell7675]

So I used to have a therapist but he sucked and he was rude. I got better because my mom helped me through it. It’s getting bad again kinda worse. Idk if my mom can help me on this one and Idk if I should ask for a therapist

[@akshatyadav1115]

Listen, try online therapy. It's way better. Believe me, hold back your emotions and go with my choice in this one. It will be all right. You will get better. Just, get help ; professional help is better. It might sound weird at first, but online therapy (especially Talkspace ) can be very effective.

[@seastm]

I haven't ever had a therapist. My mom helped and it's getting worse, too. 😪

[@freya6877]

I'm worried I don't actually need therapy and if i go I'm just going to bother them

[@Adelaideanegg]

I'm in high school and have no mental disorders or issues really. I sometimes find myself with emotions/problems that myself and my friends just can't figure out. It really helps, if you find the right therapist. I had to try a few.

[@juliannaokike4063]

If I went to therapy already and my siblings did not then they need to go seek help at the therapy office.

[@aurorasanford8512]

I cant do therapy because my family cant afford it

[@kitsicles111]

I am trying to get therapists my mom has insurance for, but so far no one has called us back! How long do I need to wait?

[@lo-fipirate3840]

I don’t want to go to a therapist cause I’m worried they’ll tell me I’m fine 🥲

[@melonfrog8470]

I’m 11 and something super traumatic happened and I started to become suicidal and the stress was unbearable, and I can’t stop thinking about what happened. My sister knows everything but me being suicidal and she thinks I need, and my mom knows nothing because being suicidal is embarrassing for me. So should I ask her if I can go to therapy?

[@martinvazquez4771]

Go to therapy please I will if you do 💖💖

[@melonfrog8470]

Okay

[@lilb9564]

As soon as you get thoughts like that you should go

[@Adelaideanegg]

It helped me a lot.

[@fazbearalice1168]

I hate my mom more. My mom fatshaming me Yell at me for anyting And in the 2021 she let me see a phsicologist even wen i say i dont want to

[@ruxx9146]

and somehow i still don't know if i need therapy

[@marinasplanetbackup3693]

Mom doesn't believe in therapy. Dad is physically here not mentally of emotionally here though.

[@seastm]

Same

[@visionary84]

My gym and making money is my.therapy

[@pineappledude8814]

im not going to therapy you fed

[@rayngryphon6793]

You say that you can improve the odds of success and yet you don't actually cite any numbers which means that you're not doing any real science. Then you refer to business which is also an area of numbers and you say that it will pay back on this so-called investment. How much money do you get back or are you just using figures of speech designed to promote a persuasive impact upon our vulnerable audience and how does one decide between the two?

[@BATSS55]

Do I need therapy? 1. I don’t shower 2. I don’t brush my teeth 3. I say I wanna kill myself 4. I talk to my picture on my phone 5. When I get my iPad taken away I become upset and saying negative words 6. I never wanna hang out with my parents 7. Begin to shy

[@martinvazquez4771]

You should go outside more and maybe just tell your mom I don't think you need theapry but that's not my place to tell you

[@Adelaideanegg]

Are you there? I have a couple of ideas.

[@BATSS55]

Lol I’m pretty werid

[@seastm]

You can try going outside alone. It can be more comfort

[@5k.JacobSS]

Thank you, after reading a fanfic someone sent me I haven't been the same since. Tbh its pretty fire also but its weird, also this comment is sponsered by pornhub.

[@raphaellavelasquez8144]

Need a therapist? No I've got enough people around to gaslight me.