Does Money Change How We Raise Kids?

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louisville ky

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Nj shore

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Durban…that’s in South Africa though…

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[@mariannetfinches]

When I was about 14 I remember asking my parents why I'd never been grounded. Their response - why would we want you in the house when we're mad at you?! 😂

[@sallysson]

😂

[@stereophonicsmom]

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[@MisssKayy]

They were low-key wishing you got kidnapped.😂

[@Soulful-me5787]

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[@NedInYaHead]

Mine knew goddamn well I desperately needed the social connection. I practically grounded myself 😵

[@DJCashEel]

When I was a kid, we were real fuckin poor too but my parents had been abused as kids, so when it came to punishments, they didn't want to hit us, but we needed Something So my mom would lecture us for like 3 hours and it was torture. More effective than any smack I would have gotten lmao

[@Marychelle]

I used to threaten to put my kid in the back seat of the car, turn the radio off, and drive and talk to him for an hour. It worked

[@gnocchidokey]

this is the way

[@cheesecurd100s]

Sometime i think emotional abuse is worse than a smack on the bottom

[@LitterBoxCleaner]

Oh god, just beat me. That shame lecture was worse.

[@DJCashEel]

@@LitterBoxCleaner YEAH because at least I could then fuck off to my room and go to sleep or something but nooooo it's now 8pm and my whole evening is fucking ruined

[@Leslie-wb8cb]

I was hit as a child. I call it hitting, not spanking, because my mom used implements. I remember the last time she laid a hand on me, because I was 16. She slapped me so hard my head bounced off the kitchen cabinet behind me. And I was an A+ follow all the rules kid- I didn't cause problems. I didn't spank my child because I couldn't imagine hitting someone I loved. I think twice he got spanked because of a dangerous thing. And that was like, a swat on the diapered butt to get his attention. Since he's 15 now, I realize that he approaches situations in a non-violent way. It doesn't even occur to him to touch someone else without their consent-- even positive touching. (That's also from school.) But my first mental responses to things tend to be anger, or lashing out, or wanting to physically hurt them. I've had to really reel myself in as I've grown with him in our family.

[@hdb28091]

I didn't have it that bad but you're right - it takes work to break those thought patterns.

[@jonilacentra2225]

Wow sorry for your Mom doing that to you. Prayers up for you. Amazing you broke the chain abuse.🎉

[@lizbluth]

The world needs more people like you who are self-reflective and pause before reacting instead of giving in to conditioned responses that hurt or traumatize others

[@clumsyzombie3144]

Same, friend, same. Everything you said was like 100% with me.

[@KT-88_]

Omg same

[@rightwrightwriter]

My grandmother got dementia and during her final months she regressed back to thinking that she was a child. She was truly terrified of me because she thought that I was her mother who whooped her. What’s worse is that she was the one who whipped me when I was a kid. I remember having to go find my own willow switch when she found my Pokémon cards (religious household and thought that all playing cards were gambling.) Consoling her during that dementia-fueled fear was painful for me. So, y’all can’t convince me that this shit doesn’t stick with you. She was scared of me because she thought she was going to be physically punished for something by her mother. I’m talking cowering, shaking, piss yourself kind of fear more than 80 years later. Can’t convince me that spanking is a good idea.

[@OriontheLad]

You know, we do research this sort of stuff. There is not a single reputable bit of research that shows that spanking is a healthy or good thing for a child. People who spank are just mad in a moment and are looking to take it out through violence. What you are doing is abuse. I’m not going to coddle your abusive ass and give you excuses. Stop being pieces of shit, stop beating your children. Grow up and be adults.

[@latronqui]

That must've been a really intense experience with your grandmother! It makes me want to give you a maternal hug.

[@mlayton1904]

Thanks for sharing.

[@Trammiliin_nr2]

I'm 40 and a few years ago I discovered that I'm avoiding repair shops and other men-dominated places where I could come across 55-65-year-old bearded skinny and wrinkled men. When I took my driving exam, my main concern was that all the examiners were middle-aged men. I even choose doctors who are either young or female. I have this unconscious and rather irrational fear of communicating with older men, especially if they have a beard and wrinkled skin. My father was 15 years older than my mother, 45 when I was born. And he was skinny and bearded and violent. When someone is saying they got spanked and turned out okay, I wonder if they turned out okay due to the spanking or despite the spanking.

[@More13Feen]

​@@OriontheLadhurting kids as a form of "raising them" is always a reactionary thing out of anger or stress or just lack of resources and selfreflection OR brainwashing through highdemand religions or similar.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

I wish my parents didn't hit or scream at me as a kid, because what I never learned from spanking is conflict resolution and communication. I'm firmly against spanking for that reason, and some other ones. I was very bad at handling complicated emotions through my adulthood, and I'm still trying to learn better. I'm learning that people who love me won't hurt me. And that respect means talking out solutions, not hitting them or denying them affection until they act how you want. So imo, don't give your child stuff to heal from.

[@abc123-t7o]

Exactly. So well said. Don't give your children pain to heal from.

[@abc123-t7o]

Hitting a child to stop them from hitting other children makes less than zero sense. It's actually worse.

[@vannahloveforever]

Agreed. It truly did shape me as a person and what I allowed to happen to me by strangers because of how much parents treated me. I knew even as a kid that I didnt need to get beatings or screamed at...my parents just preferred to do that to avoid having to actually talk/teach/understand me

[@abc123-t7o]

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[@embreis2257]

completely prohibiting corporal punishment of children by law is relatively new. the first country was Sweden in 1979, but places like France followed only in 2019, South Korea in 2021, Scotland in 2020 and Wales in 2022. the US is not on that list, neither is Canada, Italy, Australia or England.

[@m3rrys0ngstr3ss]

"There's a thin line between a spanking and a beating" - and per my mom that's exactly why she did her best to avoid corporal punishment with me and my sister. It's not even that we were angelic kids or anything, but my mom knows herself and that her anger is intense, and she never wanted to introduce a physical element to it. She could still be intense, mind you, but we never feared for our physical well-being.

[@tracyt666]

I couldn't spank because i wanted it too much. 😂

[@debidallacosta5736]

My child just walked in and asked if I was ok. I was laughing so hard and loud, they could hear me down on the street. I think you broke my intestines. Thank you for that!

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Your name is crazy.. it's my name Debi and my sister's name Dalla ... wow..

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[@damnitfinni]

I can’t believe I live in the year of our lord 2024 where Josh Johnson shares his content for free 😭😭😭 Thank you but also I hope you take plenty of rest when you need it!

[@Stevestevestevestevestevesteve]

You do realize he makes money off of KZbin and doing his shows and the ads on KZbin as well not just the views

[@ophiuchus_kin]

Still, you need videos to be high traffic and long engagement to drive decent profits on KZbin and it's an affordable option for people that can't go to comedy shows or pay for streaming services to get easy options

[@dior6555]

@@Stevestevestevestevestevestevejust bc he make money from the vids doesn’t mean it’s not for free, it just means it’s for profit.

[@Stevestevestevestevestevesteve]

@@dior6555 yeah he does it for profit exactly

[@Scarshadow666]

@@ophiuchus_kin Very true! Though it should also be mentioned that more and more content creators have been turning to Patreon, since it's been getting harder and harder to make a profit off just YT videos. Part of the issue is that it's not just viewer traffic and engagement anymore - it's also if content creators can churn out lots of videos back to back quickly and consistently without stopping, and to follow what's trending with the algorithm - which has sadly been a toxic buisness since it's been well-known to negatively affected a lot of creators' mental health, and one of many reasons why a lot of content creators quit.

[@alexkehoepwj]

Parents that hit: "Im your parent, not your friend " Same parents when I move out and never want to be around them again: 😱

[@MrBrock314]

Wait till you have kids and then you'll sympathize a lot more with them.

[@joythought]

​​​@@MrBrock314 as a father of three, I understand why my father would come home and see my mother was upset and then he would walk around to the kids and beat us without worrying to understand why she was upset. I understand the rage he felt. But I handle my rage in every moment every day: that's my responsibility and it is my responsibility for it to never sneak out in my actions or my words. The more I'm tired or distracted or frustrated, the more I need to take a breath and lean in and say "Hey how are you going?" and be present to what they say. Anything less is laziness or cowardice. It isn't easy to deal with other people's feelings and needs.

[@Ghostofanopossum]

My parents deserve no sympathy for actively choosing to stay ignorant to my needs. If they wanted sympathy for me then they should’ve shown understanding when I told them I mentally check out the second a spanking is threatened. They didn’t and now I moved out and only speak to them on my terms and never theirs. If a parent hits their kid and their kid doesn’t talk to em anymore then then maybe they’ll finally understand that their actions have consequences

[@WhiteWolf-lm7gj]

​@@MrBrock314 Only one of us chose to be in this situation

[@GeninGeo]

@@joythought 'I understand why my father would come home and see my mother was upset and then he would walk around to the kids and beat us without worrying to understand why she was upset.' I dont ever see a reason for this you should always figure out what happened this is the same thing as a police who shows up arrests some one with no charges and jails them. You dont know if they were called you dont know who was the culprit you just showed up to deal out a punishment. Not every feeling is valid nor is every feeling something you should jump to act on. It is as you said in the end laziness

[@sarahbooth174]

I love how he has the intelligence and compassion to tell a funny story and deep dive on the social issues behind it all while making us laugh and we making us think. He's a wonderful comic and mind.

[@jamestk656]

Age old argument. Most of us from older generations were spanked so since everyone is different, we all took something different out of the experience and have differing opinions today. Maybe some people got spanked into submission but I was in the camp of fighting back. I distinctly remember times of me thinking that I'm going to get back at them one day and I never forgot it. To this day, I have to tamp down my first reaction of wanting to beat someone I don't like. I also don't talk to my parents and they've never met my kids. I don't want my kids to be like me so I've never spanked them. The way I see it, I want them to respect me to the point that me being disappointed in them hurts more than me hitting them.

[@stephanier.tinney343]

That’s awesome

[@jstandards766]

Best of luck to you bro. Can't make these tough choices for the health of your mentality and loved ones

[@karrifarrior5414]

That's straight up bullshit

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

I think we also fail to talk about how spanking is utilized. Most of the "studies" seem to lump any hitting for any reason into "spanking". But there's a HUGE difference between a quick swat being used a discipline tool with clear rules and in response to direct disobedience, but parent being fair and reasonable in those rule and when discipline is applied.... and just hitting a kid hard enough to leave bruises any time you're displeased with them. Any form of punishment can be abusive if it's dependent on the parents mood and not anything the kid is actually doing or if it's done in excessive amounts.

[@adhdunsupervised7800]

@@TheChristianPsychopathTHIS 100%

[@sionan7937]

If my boss smacked me after making a mistake or getting mouthy, I would quit and press charges. I dont see why it's acceptable when it's a small child weighing 45 lbs. I cant tell my kids "we dont hit people" and then turn around and hit them. All it does is say "we only hit people that cant fight back."

[@heyrobgray]

You spittin rn

[@9TeenNineD9]

I don’t hear enough people saying this on the topic. When you hit kids bc they’ve upset you, all you’ve done is teach them to take their frustration out physically on other people

[@bronzergoth7598]

young children don't grasp consequences in a concrete enough way that you can compare it to having a job. your boss can't pick you up and put you in time out either, but that's not abuse. however I agree that hitting a kid isn't morally ok, and even if it was, it doesn't work. I was spanked as a kid, and I loved it because it was over in 5 seconds then I could do whatever I wanted again, lol. kids respond to negative reinforcement that is clear and consistent. kneejerk reactions like yelling and slapping just erode trust

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

My parents never spanked us for mistakes. Spanking was reserved for when we had been given clear rules and a three count warning and continued to do a bad behavior. Used properly, I think spanking is a discipline tool. It is not a substitute for teaching your kids right from wrong. Kids should not be penalized for being angry because it's not wrong to feel anger, but they should understand they still need to responsibility for how they express that anger. With my nephew we tried not to do spanking, but he hit a point around 4/5 where he would ignore warnings and rush into situations where he could legitimately get hurt. He had trouble connecting the abstract idea of "running into a street could get you hit by a car" or "running off at the mall could get you lost/abducted". We decided to incorporate spanking with a three count not for mistakes but for openly ignoring rules/instructions. Pretty soon we only had to count and he'd stop and listen and actually spanking almost never happened. We would still talk to him about why something was a bad idea, but you don't always have time to argue with a 4 year old when they don't really get concepts like bacteria, molestation, or death. I think its great if parents have a kid who listens and behaves without needing to use spanking. But it's better than letting the kids hurt themselves in a more permanent way. Authority has a directional flow to it. There's almost no situation where you can shoot a cop with no consequence, but there are many situations where a cop can shoot you without consequence. You can't throw a cop in jail, but they can put you in jail. Parent/child is not a peer situation. It should have rules and the rules should be clear. My nephew should not be allowed to hit others because he's angry, and I should not spank just because I'm angry... But there are times when it's appropriate for my nephew to hit. If a stranger tries to abduct him, I want him to hit and yell. Talking about there being a time and place for some actions is part of the process. You can quit your job. You can not fire your boss. But your boss is also operating under the rules of a higher authority. You can press charges because the law is over your boss, and they can send him to jail for breaking that law, which a far less pleasant experience than a spanking.

[@savvivixen8490]

​@@bronzergoth7598 I believe "time-out" in the workplace is called "suspension without pay"

[@melody_shmelody]

The adult man that “deserves it” definitely was hit as a child. I taught middle school and it was insane to see the transition between a kid who was spanked and a teenager who was big enough to say “naw we aren’t doing that anymore.” They didn’t learn any other way to resolve a problem other than aggression. So I would posit that the world would be a better place and those men would be less obnoxious if they Hadn’t been spanked. If they’d had adults in their life who taught them how to remain calm, resolve conflict, and channel feelings in a healthy way.

[@hellyan35867]

Totally agree

[@amarilloprimavera2240]

My high school bully was severely abused by his dad and his dad even tried to run him over with his car. That's why it's called the cycle of violence.

[@all4ourking1]

Lol

[@all4ourking1]

I bet you weren't spanked and are just convinced you know what you are talking about despite the fact that this hypothetical person doesn't exist or have a personal history.

[@calliopeshif7581]

@@all4ourking1 What a weird assumption. It seems like you have a particular worldview, and refuse to accept examples that fall outside of that worldview.

[@joshk.6246]

I'm in awe how Josh J. can weave a coherent storyline, thoughtful questions, and comedy into this epic tapestry. Truly a GOAT.

[@offtarget1758]

💯🎯🎯

[@Charlene-b2k]

Yeah I love him

[@danielkadiri2378]

Yea he very intelligent and that one of the main reasons I watch him. Am currently in uni and can tell he his very intelligent with how he can create a story and carry the audience along with it.

[@linneausmsiska1184]

Reminds me of dave chappelle a little

[@hazelnyangaya8624]

I was literally about to type the same thing! Honestly this is one of his best performances, he is a true artist in his craft... I think we're witnessing one of history's greats in the making

[@TwoCatsInLondon]

I was spanked a handful of times as a child. I wouldn't otherwise call my parents actively abusive (their traumas and struggles with mental health did impact me but that's not something they actively did to me, I suppose). I think the spanking was more an expression of their frustration and being at the end of their rope. I am autistic. I was an autistic child. The spankings were for me behaving the way an autistic child behaves. I could not bring myself to eat specific foods without becoming physically ill, and I could not stand to be in large, social gatherings with a lot of strangers. I couldn't help these things. They didn't know it at the time, but did that make it right for them to hit me for it? The spankings didn't necessarily lead to all of the mental and physical health issues I suffered since and afterwards, but I suppose learning as a four year old that there are painful physical consequences for being the way I was, I started trying really hard not to be myself. So, maybe before spanking your child, even if you think you're being gentle, maybe consider there might be another reason they're acting up. They're probably not doing it to punish you personally. I wasn't.

[@erinmac4750]

Well said! As someone with ADHD and on the spectrum, I can totally relate. I didn't know about either until I had my oldest son. He had difficulties out the gate, severe colic lasting longer than 6 months, would cry so hard he'd throw up, then he trouble with emotional regulation and impulsive behavior. When he was having a rough time in pre-school, I had him evaluated. We decided to start treatment with medication, which made a huge difference. That's when we also realized that I was ADHD, too. Things like my inability to have a routine and changing plans on the fly weren't helping either of us. It was a good thing that I had vowed not to do things the way my parents had, or I imagine that my son's could've ended up quite different. I hope that you are in a better space in your life. These can be ongoing struggles, but we need to keep our voices there advocating for change and support.

[@sharonyoxall7553]

Before communication, behaviour is communication - positive interpretation of behaviour that ranges from inconvenient to dangerous is hard to always do, but especially if no one ever made you aware of the possibilities. You say something important here👏👏👏👏

[@MrBrock314]

They can't be held responsible for a condition they didn't know you had. That's like blaming your parents for raising you as a meat eater even though it's bad for the environment. Not in their wheelhouse.

[@TwoCatsInLondon]

@@MrBrock314 I’m not blaming them for not knowing at that time that I am autistic. I am saying that regardless of their intentions, which I believe to have been the best, their actions had consequences. Every action has consequences, whether good, bad, mixed or neither. The consequences of being spanked as a child, too young to understand why, were that I learned that who I was wasn’t right, and that my personal boundaries didn’t matter. I still love both my parents, but these are facts.

[@joythought]

​​@@MrBrock314 wow you're making a lot of comments on this video but none of the comments have been attuned to what's being said. Instead every comment you make seems to be defensive and aimed at rationalising the actions of the perpetrators. Not sure why you have to keep on doing that? Guilty conscience?

[@GSBarlev]

Why is that final line so wholesome? Hilarious 💯 but also, like, clearly the dude is making a point about power, responsibility and agency, and I love it.

[@meganjohnson9540]

Josh is brilliant, right?!

[@OtakuD50]

13:27 Describing a widow's peak as "doing a little bit of Vegeta action" was wild.

[@Koribaby1]

I screamed. 😂

[@bunnydimples1283]

I don’t get that expression. Can you explain it?

[@z.t.9491]

@@bunnydimples1283vegeta is an anime character from dragon ball who has a lets just say a very deep hairline.

[@abstract5249]

@@z.t.9491 Vegeta is an alien and his hairline is in a galaxy far far away.

[@bunnydimples1283]

@@z.t.9491 Oh ok, thx for the explanation👍

[@psycthom]

Relief to see that most of the comments here are good - in NZ we had our moment when the so called "anti-smacking bill" occurred in the 00s (in reality it was removing "reasonable force against your child" as a defense against criminal assault) but its so disturbing the number of people who are just desperate to hit their own children

[@cyndybradfieldcreateakinde2522]

@@psycthom As a teacher when they took away paddling those kids were out of control. Thank my P.E. teacher backed me with rounds of medicine ball.

[@calliopeshif7581]

@@cyndybradfieldcreateakinde2522 Genuinely absurd perspective. If any such problem existed, it was because adults who were used to physical punishment lacked other conflict resolution techniques.

[@Ant424]

No one is desperate to hit their children 😭

[@MelodyLee19]

It’s interesting talking to people who had a parent that went straight to violence as punishment if they messed up as kids. Like, if they messed up at school, didn’t do a chore correctly or at all, broke something, or did anything that their parent or parents perceived as wrong/bad, they’d get hit first thing. Even if they HAD stuff to take away, the first step their parents took when “disciplining” them was hitting them. Which usually lead to them acting out at school, and then that was communicated to their parents, who beat them as punishment for acting out at school because they were being abused, and the cycle continues. I’ve heard a lot of people who were abused like that as kids talk about how their takeaway from that was “hitting my kid won’t help them learn how to do better/ fix this mistake they made, I should to respond to them making mistakes or messing up in some way by doing the opposite of what my parent(s) did to me.”

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

To me that's abuse rather than discipline. Making mistakes is just human and should not be punished. I would never spank a kid of crying either. That who "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" attitude is abusive. We were spanked, but only for continued rule breaking after a warning, not every time we made a mistake or the parents got angry. It's very different.

[@fishy000]

@@TheChristianPsychopath My mom used to do the "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" routine when I was a child. She'd get in my face and scream at the top of her lungs. To like, an eight-year-old. She spanked me often, and it always hurt. I was terrified of her. And I never really did anything bad intentionally. I was a kid with untreated ADHD. I didn't like cleaning my room. I didn't want to choose my clothes for school the night before because I wanted to choose what I wanted to wear *that day*. I was forgetful and struggled to focus on homework because she insisted I only do it at the kitchen table while she watched daytime talk shows in the next room which was fully visible and audible to me from where I was sitting and incredibly distracting. The irony is that I got my ADHD from my mom. She's much more forgetful than me, misplaces her things all the time, has abysmal time management skills, and is late to just about everything (often making me late as well in the process). Struggling to still maintain a relationship with her even now that I'm an adult. She rarely acknowledges that she ever did such things, but even when she does admit that she "wasn't perfect" she always excuses herself by saying something like "I have always done the best that I can, and I always have your best interests at heart". Yeah okay, but your best sucked and the road to Hell is paved with the very best of intentions. What now?

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

@@fishy000 Yeah, if your kid is terrified of you, that's a red flag. It's why I wished we would have more nuanced discussion about these topics. It's not as simple as spank/don't spank. My nephew is probably undiagnosed bipolar with blood sugar issues, complicated with PTSD from a housefire that hit around the time of the pandemic, so I know it can be hard to weigh what's a disorder issue vs. typical kid pushing boundaries. His mother likewise is undiagnosed bipolar and realizing that in my 20s explained a lot about her behavior. (I was in my 30s before recognizing my mom likely was as well, though she masks much better.) There are some things we understand better and find terms for as psychology and child development studies improve, and the sort of challenges we prepare kids for change. I'm definitely not as strict with my nephew as my parents were with me, but he had a lot of challenges and stresses that I didn't have. He's a teenager now. When he starts getting mean mouthy, I know that's when I need to be extra calm and remind him to eat and not engage until he's eaten something. Then we talked through where he may have crossed a line. I tend to be his dumping ground, because I'm not sensitive, but I don't want him to get in the habit of talking that way to other people. When he was little we had to have several talks about being bipolar and that emotions were often from hormones and not because things were really that bad. I tried to make it clear to him that is was ok to feel his feelings, we just needed to find healthy ways to express those feelings.

[@MrBrock314]

Yeah, that's a weird response in my experience. I got spanked many times as a child and never acted out in school. To me, it was no different than being grounded or having to sit in a corner. Just different discipline options.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

@@MrBrock314 I think it natural to avoid spanking if your parents were excessive with it or took a belt to you everytime you got a bad grade. Much harder to know where an appropriate line is if restraint and consistency aren't modeled.

[@tinamuller4800]

This is so strange to me as a European person. In my country every form of physical punishment is forbidden and will be pursued by the state. Of course there are still people who do it- but there is no societal agreement, that there can be circumstances where beating your children are be ok. We don’t even have a word for spanking as in “beating we think is ok because it’s done by a parent”. The way it is talked about in the US today is just linke conversations we had here in the 70s or 80s. I wonder why that is.

[@kefinkamed]

Being a European has nothing to do with it. I'm also from Europe and while we have fully functional laws against abuse, there is no way a parent would be prosecuted for spanking a misbehaving child.

[@mokc913]

I've heard some psychologists differentiate how there may be times when a kid needs to be grabbed to prevent them from hurting themselves or others, but there's a difference when the parent is intentionally trying to instill fear. The second is never, ever ok! Kids need to feel safe with their parents ❤

[@latronqui]

Yes, I come from a country where it's still considered normal to hit children and not to do it is a growing trend, but not enforced by the law. But now I'm married to someone from a country where it has been forbidden for quite some time and that's where we live now. And it's interesting because we are both very convinced that physical punishment is not the way to go, but for me it feels more of a choice that I'm making and for him it's way more unimaginable, he didn't have to make that choice, do you know what I mean? I still have conversations about it sometimes with people back home in which I try to convince them but I try to be diplomatic. To him they are criminals 😅

[@Tawleyn]

Because about 10 years ago (give or take) the US was 30-40 years behind the rest of the world in terms of kindness and general empathy toward other people, let alone your own children. Unfortunately we aren't 30-40 years behind any more. 10 years later and we're more like 60-70 years behind now.

[@More13Feen]

Same here! Its not even illigal where if life, but ppl will rarely admit tobding it. You woukd never get a room of parents to freely admit to it here. My dad was born in 1964 and got spanked twice in his life once by a very overwhelmed young mum dealing with war trauma for sonething silly and how I knew her she propably felt super bad about it. And the 2. Time from his dad cuz he through a fist full of peooles in his face. The only pol I ever met who where phisicaly abused as a form of child raring where ppl who grew up with crazy religious parents. Its not acepted here at all.

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[@madhatter7287]

I feel like three wacks and you're done any more than that is abuse

[@keetasingletary]

​@@madhatter7287I make a point not to hit my kids if it made me laugh or if it really pissed me off. Which really is everything they do so they didn't get spanked 😆

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I couldn't make this Omaha show. So glad to see you uploaded part of it! Thank you.

[@nicolasnamed]

I always go by the mantra of "If they're too young to understand why they're being spanked, they shouldn't be spanked. And if they're old enough to understand why they're being spanked, they can otherwise be reasoned with in punishment." Though I do get the points Josh is making about how it's nuanced and the intentions aren't always abusive. I only got spanked once as a child I think by my dad but might've been a grandparent (and my mom was actually really upset when I told her because she didn't know it happened) and it was really scary for me personally, I don't remember how traumatic it was in the moment but I know it absolutely did SOME shit to me and instilled some odd preconceptions I then had about affection and punishment. A lot of kinks actually do relate to some kind of childhood insecurity or trauma, it's not that we want our parents in a Freudian way but rather a chance to re-create the trauma and overcome it and feel safe and loved instead of scared and wrong. I think I felt pretty humilated and scared after getting spanked, and honestly kinda violated (for reference I am a trans man and didn't realize/come out until 15, so I experienced this while still living as a little girl), because it went against a lot of the values I'd otherwise been raised to have. Which is probably why it only happened once, MAYBE twice? Anyway don't hit your kids, because there's a difference between teaching them and controlling them. And the more you try to control them with authoritarian means, the less you'll be able to reach them as they get older. I know the world can be a dangerous place and kids are prone to unconcious actions based on inexperience. But there's better ways to teach them the world is dangerous then being the direct danger in their lives.

[@nicked_fenyx]

Your initial point is *so* important, and doesn't get talked about often enough. Too many people excuse corporal punishment of young children by saying they're too young to understand reason. But if that's the case, they're also *far* too young to understand something as complex as an adult causing them physical pain out of love vs anger (and that's assuming a "best case" scenario where the adult truly isn't angry). Once a child is old enough to understand basic cause and effect reasoning, there are loads of non-physical consequences adults can implement, starting with time outs (one minute per year in the child's age is a good rule of thumb) and allowing the child to experience safe natural consequences for their actions. Literally the only time I could see a light (*very* light) pop on the bottom being okay is if you have a very young child who is about to get into or cause serious danger for themself or someone else and you need to stop them in their tracks, but even then it seems simply picking up the child or grabbing them by the hand would be a better solution. I also get what you mean about feeling physically violated. I'm a fellow trans man who experienced the opposite of what you described in general when it came to how my parents raised me. My childhood included quite literally every form of abuse imaginable, some of it at life threateningly severe levels and in ways that are used as literal torture methods by unscrupulous military personnel. I'm mostly okay now, after loads of therapy, but my spouse still hears me crying out in the middle of PTSD nightmares at night, and I will always have to battle / think through certain deeply ingrained responses to various negative stimuli. I grew up feeling a sense of physical violation on a regular basis. My body was never truly my own, and I had no right to say no if an adult decided to cause me pain. All of that was compounded by feelings of gender dysphoria and certain body parts feeling "wrong" as far back as I can remember, but even outside of that, I simply had no rights. And that sucked. It's so very important to teach children that their bodies belong to them alone, and that nobody - not even a parent - has the right to touch them without their consent. That goes for positive touching (hugs, etc) as well. Quite a few countries are making significant progress towards this being the norm, but the US sadly lags far behind. Here's hoping things change for the better sooner rather than later - for all our sakes.

[@nopetynopeimonaboat]

I do want to say that abuse gets dismissed a lot when the “intent isn’t abuse.” I had a professional (therapist) tell me my mom abusing me wasn’t abuse because she had to have the intention to “abuse,” which doesn’t make sense, because abusive parents often view said abuse as “discipline.” Hurting your kid is hurting your kid, no matter what you use to try to justify it, or label it as. If you did it, you intended to do it.

[@ivyrose779]

@@nopetynopeimonaboat I’m a therapist and that is absolutely ridiculous! Even the worst parents aren’t usually waking up with the goal of being bad parents. Intent doesn’t matter, abuse is abuse.

[@nopetynopeimonaboat]

@@ivyrose779 Didn’t expect a therapist to send me a healing statement during my late night Stardew run, but it’s a welcome surprise. Thanks :))

[@avataraarow]

Regardless of how anyone feels about the subject, “make some noise if you spank your kids” is one of the funniest things I’ve heard on stage😂

[@lizzykayOT7]

Hitting/ spanking hardly ever comes from a healthy place. It's either anger and frustration. People call hitting dogs abuse, why would hitting children be okay? Children learn behaviours, they don't need violence to show them they're wrong. In cases with violent kids, using violence against them often makes the problem worse.

[@nickwallette6201]

A thwap on the hind with a rolled-up newspaper used to be pretty standard obedience training. As much as we like to think we've "evolved" and all that, when a mama needs to discipline her own pups, she _will_ nip at them. It's not meant to be an attack, it just gets their attention, and it's effective. But it doesn't take much to be effective. Any more than that has crossed over into something else.

[@rafsandomierz5313]

@@nickwallette6201 The training can also be inforced by non violent means which means that no life form knows how to rise their children. They just go by the means of laziness than anything else. Just because something is natural doesn't mean it's always a good thing, can't use a a square to put it in triangle shaped hole. It simply won't work no matter how much force you use. If you fix nature you fix the problems listed.

[@ivyrose779]

@@nickwallette6201 A dog communicating with a dog is much different than a human communicating with a dog. And, even then, if you watch closely they don’t hurt the puppies. It looks scary and there’s a lot of noise but they’re not actually biting or hurting them. Like you said, it’s to get their attention. People spanking their kids to hurt them as a punishment crosses into the something else.

[@UJB123]

Not necessarily .... humans are animals too. Every man knows with a teenage boy there's going to be an Alpha male "incident" ... and there can only be one in the house. 😉 Also, these kids whose moms don't give them the lioness "nip" from time to time are turning into little monsters. Hopefully, they see the error of poor parenting before they run into someone who goes by, "I'm not your mother, I don't love you", and wipes up the dirt with their behinds so to speak.

[@catman6089]

Both myself and my older brother were spanked and hit as kids. I was just a much more introverted and chill kid so i never really did anything to get in trouble unless my brother was the one getting me in trouble. My brother was much more prone to being bad and thus got hit more. By boomer logic, I should be a bratty spoiled demon with no respect or common sense, and my brother should be a perfect angel with respect and manners. But guess which one of us is being sentenced later this month for shooting at someone during a road rage incident

[@missoats8731]

That's exactly the type of outcome that everyone who doesn't ignore psychology would expect. Very sorry you had to grow up in an abusive household and your family member still suffer from it.

[@OneAdam12Adam]

I was following your logic and about to agree with you until you wrote: "by boomer logic..." Broad generalizations are not effective or convincing. They make you sound uneducated, even bigoted.

[@kathymisuraca5047]

Wrong. I was beaten and I wouldn't physically hurt anyone ever and the rage remains

[@MrBrock314]

That goes more to the argument that some children are worse than others....

[@kathymisuraca5047]

@@MrBrock314 hitting never accomplished a positive outcome

[@viy2959]

I think one aspect that sometimes gets left out here is how much you can do without punishment being a factor at all. I'm not saying it works for every kid but there is a lot that can be done through natural consequences and boundaries and respect. Gentle parenting doesn't work for every kid but I think parents can incorporate a lot of it. And getting out of the mindset of needing to "punish," can help a lot with that.

[@joythought]

💯.

[@BoBo-n4v]

"what about the kids that got spanked and turned out fine , are we not gonna acknowledge that it works ? " 👀

[@viy2959]

@@BoBo-n4v Science shows that it doesn't. It is /at best/ neutral. Kids who turned out fine turned out fine in spite of it. And adults who insist they turned out fine usually didn't... Especially if they think it is okay to hit kids.

[@hala6052]

This! 👏

[@Findmy_Way-Home]

@@viy2959 Those ppl (like my mother) end up in nursing homes. If you saw me “spanking” a senior citizen acting like a child, ppl would throw me in prison. In my opinion, I see no difference when it comes to a child unless they assault someone else. You don’t prey on the “weak”.

[@iTankSometimes]

"Had it coming sooner than today" priceless line

[@pablosonic892]

Okay, after discovering this man who was always popping up in our KZbin shorts feed, I started watching him on the regular and growing to becoming a super fan at not only his talent, but insane level of prolificness. He seems to crank out new material, like straight up long set-pieces, virtually overnight. So, I finally got fanatical about his process and wanted to study all his work and did the deep dive going down the Josh rabbit hole. Best marathon session ever btw. Watching Johnson periodically is a joy it and of itself, but committing to him like a work retreat seminar is like a lost weekend at comedy Shangra-la. Pure bliss. One of the big take aways I noticed about his style and how he structures a set is he has an intuitive deep level natural born understanding of how to tell a story. Like my friends and I once took a screenwriting course and it got into how to structure a story and particularly a movie narrative because that has a more strict set of rules you must adhere to in order to tell a great, audience engaging story and one of the big golden rules is no matter what, the first five minutes and the last five minutes of your movie are the most important part of your script. No matter what, grab your audiences attention immediately with something memorable that blows their mind to earn their trust right off the bat. By the flip side of the coin, how you end your movie is everything because that's the last impression your audience will have of your story and if you, again, pull out all the stops, and deliver a banger of an ending that blows everybody's mind hole, you will inspire confidence in your story telling skills and gain audience trust and loyalty and a fan following of your work. Then our teacher said that if you can also have your story come around full circle back on itself to make a well rounded big picture greater point that ties your story all together in a circular narrative way, all the better and if you can also end your movie on a rug pull of a plot twist leaving them with story you subverted their expectations, not in a cheap way, but earned and holds up on rewatch and scrutiny, that's like a magic trick that the audience will rewatch again and again to see how you pulled it off which builds a huge commercial following and your brand will blow up. Because people genuinely appreciate being fooled if you put in the work and your story adds up start to finish with no plot holes and bs short cuts. We all love a certain poetry to our comedy, action films, etc. In the stand up world, Josh is the stand up equivalent of an Aaron Sorkin. Sorkin is a legendary Hollywood screenwriter who wrote A Few Good Men, An American President, Moneyball, The West Wing. He is well respected for being basically a populist intelligent, exceptional dialogue writing, witty, clever, plot genius movie scribe who always nails the ending and has the audience leaving the theatre buzzing at the crowd pleasing storytelling they've just been beholden to. Because you usually learn something on a deeper level to which is why his stuff usually lasts and ages extremely well. Josh does this with his stand up sets. Each chunk of material is like a mini summer blockbuster tent pole crowd favorite Marvel movie that hits all the beats of great storytelling. He always opens, seemingly causual and laid back, but always hits immediately with an intriguing idea and premise, that grabs our attention, usually without fail by the throat where there is a collective audience gasp of universal recognition at something relevant in the zeitgeist and current events, but also taps into what we all as a people collectively get and understand on a gut level from our everyday lives, that's hardwired into each and everyone of us in our lizard brain base DNA. Right there, he connects with his audience and establishes himself the people's comic. This is not easy to do and pull off. Josh makes this look effortless. He has a real gift to come off genuine and real in the most artificial harshest environment possible: a comedy stage and makes it look like breathing he does it so matter of factually. But make no mistake: it's a skill set and he's a freakin sith lord. Jesus. Freakin Emperor he so ruthlessly efficient at it. But he knows pace, will instantly slow the proceedings to a cool easy going jazz tempo usually for the middle section. If a screenplay is told in three acts and first act you set up characters and story and third act you tie in altogether, wrap up your story and character arcs and preferably bring it home in a poetic plot twisty full-circle big finish way, the second middle act is the meat of the storytelling where you burn the most calories; do the most labor-inducing juggling by way of building out the world your telling and universe building that has to maintain audience interest after your first act initial grand big splash entrance. Josh has the crowd right where he wants them and is a master of his craft because the tricky mid section of his sets, he can slow the pace and mood down to long beats of total silence and borderline uncomfortable pauses if the material is edgy and dark, and most times, it is. Josh don't take no easy street comedically ever really. And the audience is always hanging on to every word with breathless anticipation. He owns our ass. Every. GD. Time. Comedy jedi master of the dark yuk yuk arts, my friend. But his main secret weapon is his consistent ability to bring home incredible endings to his long sets with these epic, oh sh*t seemingly out of nowhere script flips to finish the story with an amazing dramatic brush stroke flurry of artistic brilliance that leaves one gobsmacked and jaw all out on the floor at how he got us there and accomplished his sleigh of hand black magic comedic sorcery. It hit me finally on his recent Eric Adams mayor of NY set and SPOILER how at the end he tied it back to his earlier sets about P Diddy and how a year earlier Adams gave Diddy the key to the city which now Josh is just playing four dimensional chess at this point, like doing Inception level of comedy just to amuse himself as a comedy writing exercise, paying off earlier comedy routines from months ago that were self contained but retconning his own earlier work's continuity, expanding its universe into a broader scope and larger cosmos of sh*t going on, just cause, I don't know, he was bored for 15 minutes waiting in line at a Starbucks? Leaving the subway platform finishing his falafel? Who the hell knows why, but he does this so routinely and ridiculously easy seeming which it is not that its like converting oxygen to dioxide back to oxygen again for Johnson; just as mindlessly automatic and instinctive to do as breathing for this man. But Josh knows how to end his story. He sticks the landing like an Olympic athlete gymnast off the beam, but if they were injected with super solider serum, born an X:Men, with antamanium exoskeleton and vibranium comedic timing, y'know, full MCU beast mode master of his craft baller. It makes me immensely curious Josh's creative process and how he creates the magic. What is his routine? Is it a strict discipline or does he get a general idea and run with it playing fast and loose with it going with just a general outline but fills in the the middle portion, the meat and potatoes of the act, as he goes, right there, on the spot, off the cuff or when the muse hits him; does he get the ending first, inspiration strikes for Josh using the climax of said story as his jumping off point, then working his way back? Or is the inspiration different every time? What I'm saying is I'm a huge fan of this comedy whisperer and his brilliant work and want to see a documentary on his behind the scenes process how it all comes together and his origin story. Its the only time I've ever wanted to make a documentary just to satisfy my own curiosity about the artist and get it out into the world. He's an original. He's got a voice. And he's a man of the people whose absolutely having his moment. He's a comedy deconstructionist who's so meta he seems to be breaking the fourth wall of life as part of his act. For laughs. He Deadpool if Wade Wilson decided to just be an insult comic and do crowd work. Straight up assassin. Only Josh respects his audience and the work. He's too good to be a regular person. There's only one reasonable explanation for his high level of comedy kung-fu. I think it's pretty clear. It's official. He's a mutant who went to Professor Xavier's Catholic school of the gifted. It's so obvious now.

[@sharongarrett4356]

Dude, I could not read all that. It was a treatise. But I hope you feel good and got some feedback on it.

[@JoshJohnsonComedy]

Going to release something around Thanksgiving you might like then

[@SugarCrazedInsomniac]

i don't know why i sat down and read this entire thing, but you're right. his comedy is magnetic.

[@zoestaggs5605]

My parents never hit me and they always explained to me what I'd done wrong when they were upset with me. Honestly, I always felt like they were some of the only adults in my life as a child who genuinely respected me as a human being and yes, as an equal. They're the reason why as an adult, I get complimented on my ability to stand my ground, voice my needs, and make clear and firm my boundaries. I will say that as a kid, that stuff didn't always benefit me- other adults weren't always of the opinion that my expectation of reciprocal respect, wasn't disrespect- but its genuinely helped me in the adult world.

[@Saje3D]

I maintain spanking is lazy parenting. Full stop. You can’t teach a child to reason with force. And too many parents don’t know the line between force and abuse. I was bound and determined to break that cycle and I DID. A half hour to hour lecture from me was something no child wanted to experience any more often than necessary. You learn why I’m pissed, how pissed I am, a dozen alternatives that WON’T piss me off, and why it’s important. To me, at least. And you have no choice but to listen to the whole damn thing. My grown children use reason to solve their problems, not violence. Even with ADHD along for the ride in my eldest’s case.

[@erinmac4750]

Well done! I broke the cycle, too, but I dont think I had the lecture down nearly as well as you did. ✊

[@kefinkamed]

There's also another form of lazy parenting, and it's one practised too regularly these days. The one where parents don't give enough of a damn to discipline their kids in any way (regardless of method) and leave it to teachers, future coworkers, spouses, etc.

[@More13Feen]

"I don't hit my kids, I lecture!" 👏

[@kefinkamed]

@@More13Feen And if your kids actually listen all the time every time, I applaud your luck. Or your state of denial. I would not judge as I don´t know you. What I can say is that I have seen a lot of people who try to parent by lecturing with no results whatsoever. No method is fool-proof or universally applicable in every situation at every age. Lecturing a 2-year-old is probably just as effective as spanking a 16-year-old.

[@howdytherestranger2139]

Man, and I bet it’s extra effective for your eldest because ADHD/ADD will make it t o r t u r e lol. This random stranger is proud of you, and I hope your family continues to thrive and stays close. Much love!

[@deborahfrederick916]

The way you break it down, make it funny and make us think at the same time.

[@jenniferrandolph4115]

That's what I love about his comedy!💜

[@13Kr4zYAzN13]

In my experience, only great comedians have this trait No, there aren't that many. Not to Josh's level.

[@Tonyhouse1168]

I love this community that’s sprung up around Josh’s storytelling and humor. Takes a real one for us to rally around.

[@sub-jec-tiv]

He takes people along. That’s some Mark Twain shz

[@robinedwards8796]

JOSH, you keep selling out in Portland, OR. I tried to get tickets less than 48 hours after the email that yoh added the last two 4pm shows, and yoh were already sold out! We LOVE you here!!! More shows, please!!!! ☺

[@erinmac4750]

Oh, wow! My son's in Portland. I keep hoping he gets a chance to see Josh live. 🍀

[@arielifeoma]

I live in PDX and had to fly to DC to see him 😅

[@Winteramen]

"Get to it quick" *bonk* That timing was hilarious

[@WrenStanchen]

Dear Josh, I just saw you perform in Richmond, and I laughed until I choked. Your videos are helping me get through a very tough pregnancy. Thank you for shining a little light! 💐

[@lornaginetteharrison7168]

I find it weird how certain people who hit their kids boast "Well I was hit as a child and it didn’t do me any harm", when it clearly did; it turned them into someone who thinks it’s ok to hit their kids. They solve their problems with violence as long as they’re bigger and stronger than their victims.

[@steggopotamus]

A lot of the ones I know personally who specifically credit spanking for why they turned out "fine". have substance use issues. Which makes sense, spanking makes kids suppress their emotions and so do substances. A lot of people I know were spanked but that's not where they put the credit, and most of them are fine (or close enough) because they're able to acknowledge that maybe their patents weren't right and work through those feelings rather than suppressing them.

[@MazzieMay]

My parents had pretty strict conditions for us to wind up spanked. If us kids reached a point of misbehaving that we were warned “If you do that again, you will be spanked”, then it was about followthrough. We did it again, we were spanked But an even greater rule over that was, no spankings if our parents were angry. If they were visibly mad, spankings were off the table because they didn’t want use spanking to equate emotion with punishment That’s what taking away our music and games was for 😅😅

[@kathleengreer4639]

But that was part of Josh's point. What are the parents in very poor families supposed to do? What do they do if their kid doesn't have a phone or a bike or a video game or some wonderful toy that can be taken away? How do you deprive a child of something when they're already deprived of most everything to begin with? What other options for discipline does such a parent have? Grounding? How does a parent force the child to stay home when the parent is hardly ever home to begin with because they have to be out working two jobs?

[@hotarubinariko]

@@kathleengreer4639 There are other and better ways. Taking something away doesn't necessarily click for a kid on how that is connected to their behavior either (unless it directly is). It didn't for me. Emphasis on natural or connected consequences are more practical and easily understood by children along with communication. Explain to your kid why something isn't ok or is dangerous. All that said, that is still very probably out of the realm of possibility for a single parent working fulltime+ and very little time to spend with the kid. It may even be a way to maximize positive time with the kid, so I can understand, even if it's not ideal. All of that goes back to supporting families, parents, and people in general to make a certain standard of living universally accessible to people within our nation.

[@astralfluxaf]

@@kathleengreer4639sit in the corner. Take a time out. HAVE A CONVERSATION Kids are smarter than most adults- that’s why adults can’t communicate with them because the adult is stupid not the kid.

[@MrBrock314]

@@hotarubinariko Pain is a natural consequence so it fits your definition.

[@MrBrock314]

@@astralfluxaf That's not as true as people say it is. Small children do not understand abstract problems well at all. Concrete discipline is more effective at that age. What type of concrete discipline is up to you.

[@samkelisiwegama]

This is great! ❤ Watching all the way from Eswatini 🇸🇿 in Southern Africa.

[@annelousteau9799]

Wow

[@SusantheNerdy]

I agree that people with fewer resources have less time and energy to think of how to discipline a child without violence. Study after study though shows that spanking is at best neutral, but has real risk of causing harm to the child. And there are other forms of discipline that don't require you to harm a child. We know that we shouldn't hit dogs to train them, why would we hit children? Adults should not be violent to children.

[@dermaspaceSC]

So rich people don't abuse their kids? 🤔🤔 I do agree that people with fewer EMOTIONAL resources resort to violence and emotional abuse.

[@kefinkamed]

I've never seen a dog throw a tantrum, unlike my neighbour's son who screams his head off for no reason twice a day and kicks his mother.

[@profeseurchemical]

​@@kefinkameddogs throw tantrums

[@Aryasvitkona]

The study thing is kinda what Josh implies when he says that there's a very fine line between a spanking and a beating. I think spanking is usually abusive especially when used too early in the chain of punishment, but there is absolutely some things your kid can do where they need a spanking. I also think there's a not insignificant amount of people who weren't spanked ENOUGH as kids. Like Elon Musk for example, maybe if he was spanked a few more times he wouldn't be how he is. Sure maybe he still would, but I mean...

[@ThirrinDiamond]

@@Aryasvitkona Imagine if he turned out worse though /horrified

[@mazzame6480]

I always says there's a difference from a smack to a beating 😂😂😂 but my dad broke me nose+use to level long welts all over my body from Bamboo sticks+sweeping brushes😂😂😢😢 I'm doing the best with what I was taught+I was homeless at 15 where i ran away, my daughter is 17 in collage still at home+looking forward to an incredible future so I think I'm doing ok.❤😂😢

[@Koreviking]

You didn’t deserve being abused, though.

[@marianritter1980]

You broke the cycle! You're amazing! ❤

[@mazzame6480]

@@Koreviking I don't blame my dad anymore. I knows he had it alot worse than I did growing up. He tried his best he just didn't know better.

[@mazzame6480]

@@marianritter1980 thank you ♥️

[@Findmy_Way-Home]

@@mazzame6480You’re strong. I’m glad u came to that conclusion for yourself. Both of my parents passing is what gave me true peace. I don’t give my folks that much grace b/c you know how you’d like to be treated. How come u can’t do the same for ur child? I don’t mean this in a self pity way but my parents did not love me, they couldn’t. There are a lot of parents who show through their actions continuously that they don’t actually “love” their children. They’re pawns in a fantasy for a lot of ppl. One day I plan on being a part of an organization that takes these children away from those ppl, heal and raise them and put better ppl into the world.

[@Altorin]

not gonna lie. I would be looking at those people that "made some noise" twice there. I'm pretty sure someone "Wooo!"'d to "do you hit your kids?" that's some fucked up thing to Wooooo in public.

[@TheDeadKingsRaven]

Expected a few scattered and embarrassed claps but that reaction was depressing to hear.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

I think we should also keep in mind a lot of these shows happen at bars, and some people are just drunk. The "woo" was just likely someone thinking they were funny, not coming from a place of clear thought. We used spanking as sort of last resort tactic because of situations where my nephew could have gotten badly hurt by not listening. It wasn't our go-to or first choice. But keeping him alive had to take priority.

[@TasnimAhana-zz9pi]

Drunk people do dumb stuff.

[@0Voyd]

Absolutely. They think they 'turned out just fine', but if you think it's OK to hit children, then you're not fine!

[@erinmac4750]

​@@TasnimAhana-zz9pi Good explanation.

[@drpibisback7680]

I was spanked as a kid, and at this point I can definitely say yeah, it fucked me up. I was a good kid, I didn't cause a lot of trouble - because I grew up absolutely goddamn terrified of getting in trouble. When I was in trouble I would hide. I still feel that fear on some level now at 23. I'm secretive with my parents, because on some deep gut level I know that bad things happen when they're upset. It doesn't matter if they actually would be upset, if I believe they would be upset then I'll take it to my grave. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

[@pikabiga]

Ne too. Did everything right and never got in trouble. Good grades, went to church, never partied. They don’t care, they’ll find a reason. You look at them wrong, wrong tone, didn’t answer fast enough, that’s a beating. It was never really for what I did, they were just taking it out on someone two times smaller than them. I’m still dealing with the repercussions of it, too. Consciously making that decision to quiet those memories and the trauma because NO I did not deserve that shit. Can’t imagine doing it to anyone else, much less a child. Truly barbaric

[@nessanova8596]

Apart from Josh blessing us with amazing content, he’s also building a great following. Been reading the comments and so many people share personal and sensitive stories (thank you for sharing!) and everyone is so respectful. I appreciate you all too.

[@madmyc6836]

I was physically abused as a child and it was extremely traumatic. I have never gotten over it and I beat my step dads ass for hitting me so I even got revenge and I will still never forgive him for the trauma that he gave me. I have struggled with substance abuse my whole life because of it. It is not about how you feel it’s about how your actions affect those that you love keep that in mind

[@KimPhoenixRising]

Thanks!

[@AliBreee]

1:52 I had a very similar experience. I got lost at a sleepover once, just inside the mansion. I was so disoriented I decided to camp out in the elevator until someone would eventually need to use it and find me.

[@commonsense571]

That sounds objectively terrifying!

[@mstreemoon8117]

Yes!!! I was in girl scouts and just went inside the troop leaders house to use the bathroom and couldn't find my way back out ...I can laugh about it now but OMG I was so embarrassed at the time.

[@hopeiswherethehomeis9606]

Psychological studies pretty much show it's never not bad. But at the same time… yeah, if you don't have the means and time to parent more gently through no fault of your own, I can see how it just happens.

[@mariannetfinches]

Yep, kids who get spanked are more likely to be violent. It's been illegal in my country for a couple of years, & I think that's a good thing. There's a social change in that direction However I definitely agree with Josh that some adults absolutely have it coming 😅

[@hopeiswherethehomeis9606]

​@@mariannetfinches It's unfortunate that spanking tends to create adults who have it coming, not stop them haha.

[@Dreamer12888]

As a kid I never spanking done "the right way". All kids I observed (and myself) being spanked were all hit out of anger. But I also agree with Josh. 'We've all met a guy that needed a beating'.

[@virtualshoppers6633]

@@mariannetfinchessorry disagree. Not illegal in my country!

[@b.marieglasgow1228]

In a society that condones police contact, this science rings hollow. Someone who loves you should be the first, if only to train your “diplomacy.”

[@CiCiKnight]

JJohnson, getting close to hitting the 'million man' .. lol ... Love it!!!

[@Kazja6]

I think he hits it before years end.

[@treeeva]

We need to keep sharing him!❤❤❤

[@MsNichasie]

All I can say is thank you for everything you do! I just left your state on disaster relief, and I’ve gotta say, I love the people in Louisiana. Y’all are amazing and hilarious. So, I open my laptop, and there you are in my KZbin suggestions-thank you for the laughs! It’s been a stressful, but beautiful time. My hotel had like six channels, I’m working 12 hours a day, seven days a week, and honestly, I look for that little bit of sunshine to keep me going. And then I found you! Your humor is so on point-intelligent, quick, a little satirical-and after some of the things I’ve seen on the job, it was exactly what I needed. You really helped me get through it. Thank you again, keep doing what you do!

[@JoshJohnsonComedy]

Wow this is so sweet. Thank you for all that you do friend. You’re amazing

[@MsNichasie]

@@JoshJohnsonComedy It’s my pleasure 😇

[@charlajacob3079]

Person from Omaha here! I absolute gutted I didn't get to see you, please come back!!!! Love you!

[@txjchacha1163]

I got spanked by family members 2x in my life. 1 bc I wasn't paying attention and almost got hit by a car, I think that was a frightened response from them 2nd was my phone died and I forgot to text where I was and came home late. This was in the 2000s when there's a slew of abductions in our city. They got scared and was looking for me for hours. I don't see those two times as abuse. More like extreme reaction. I agree that there's a line between spanking vs beating.

[@arche2460]

I can remember getting a spanking only once. My brother and I were playing with candles in my parent's bathroom. Less than a year previously, our house had burned down. We were in our new home after it happened. Yeah I.. can't really fault my dad for that one

[@meghan98]

I got spanked 2 times by my nana. It me was the exact thing you said! I tried running across the street and nearly hit and then got spanked. I defiantly see it as a fear thing, the other was when I told her to shut up. I never did either again, and spanking was not the first punishment always it’s situational

[@fuumiku]

Yeah too often spanking’s not educative as much as just a way for the parent to vent

[@jstandards766]

That's not spanking

[@SusantheNerdy]

It doesn't have to be abuse though to still be a poor form of discipline and bad form as a parent.

[@Balletcalvero]

Behavior therapist here. Spanking doesn't always lead to trauma, but it certainly doesn't help. Negative/positive reinforcement is the path to least resistance when raising children.

[@dk420x]

I was spanked as a kid if I did something I was told not to. It taught me right and wrong. I'm appreciative of my parents for doing that. I was also born in 88 so it was more accepted

[@ucanthandlethetruth6600]

That's not what the Holy Bible says... Some kids are rebellious, and they continue with rebellious behavior because some parents think that they know better than God does! Proverbs 13:24 says, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him." Discipline and Abuse are two very different things. ✌🏾❤️

[@Balletcalvero]

@@dk420x I'm glad it did not impact you negatively. Not all children have that same disposition, however.

[@Balletcalvero]

@@ucanthandlethetruth6600 fortunately, my education is rooted in science, not bible thumpery.

[@kylekillgannon]

​@@Balletcalveroso it's not universally wrong then.

[@deawinter]

I cannot tell you how much damage the message “sometimes the people you love will use violence and fear to control you and this is a manifestation of their love” did to my life. Don’t hit your kids.

[@Sciosa]

I was definitely from a Didn't Have Money family growing up-- whole family sleeping on my grandma's living room floor Poor-- so I get the "they didn't have that many other options" argument. But at the same time: the handful of times I was spanked, I remember vividly and specifically. They are some of the few memories of my childhood that I do remember vividly and specifically. And what I remember most about those moments is that I learned exactly one lesson, and it was to hate and fear my parents. My earliest memory, in fact, is watching my father chase my little brother around, shouting the house down, to catch him for a spanking, and hating him so much that I sincerely believe had I been capable of it in that moment, had I been more than a six or seven year old child, I would have killed him for it. There was very little violence in my house, but those occasional outbursts of it-- always spankings-- poisoned my love for my father especially from as far back as I can remember. We no longer have any contact. I don't even want anyone to tell me when he dies. That's not ABOUT being spanked as a child-- but it's one of many reasons that I don't feel anything for him. Because I don't remember ever loving him without fearing him, and hating him, and wishing he wasn't there to terrorize us. It doesn't matter what we did to "earn" the spankings, because it wasn't ever about teaching us anything. It was just about control. It was just about dominance. It was just about fear. Maybe it's different for every child, and every family. That wouldn't surprise me. But for the child that I was, in the family I got, it was formative in the very worst way.

[@annainspain5176]

Back in the 80s there was this thing where "good Christian parents" were using a wooden spoon to spank their kids. It seemed a lot worse to me than a hand spanking, because at least with your hand you can really tell how hard the spanks are.

[@missoats8731]

Crazy stuff. Kind of doesn't sound very christ-like to be violent towards little kids.

[@maryjack08]

My mother hit my brother so hard the wooden spoon broke

[@HalfFey]

huh...that probably explains why my mom primarily used a wooden spoon. damn. ok.

[@annainspain5176]

@@HalfFey I never could figure out why a wooden spoon was "better", except for that verse about "spare the rod and spoil the child" which is only the Elizabethan English translation anyway. I suppose to some people a wooden spoon is a good choice for a rod?

[@Extracredittttt]

My parents did this and it hurt a ton and scared me to death. Bad parenting move fs

[@mrsDenmark1]

I'm Danish, and here it is a criminal offence to spank/hit a child. There is no difference between a child or an adult, violence is a crime.

[@pilotnamealreadytaken6035]

Wow. I'm surprised. What about swatting a toddlers hand? 😢

[@astralfluxaf]

Wow that’s actually amazing!! My mom deserves life in prison and my dad deserves a year.

[@missoats8731]

Same in Germany. I'm seriously shocked that this is even a thing in the US. It's horrible.

[@psy4721]

You must not be poor.

[@jonnyblaze2692]

​@@pilotnamealreadytaken6035why do you have to swat the toddler's hand why can't you just gently grab the hand and redirect them? Teaching your kid to hit that early is not a good thing

[@sissyblake17]

Swatting, spanking, switching, popping, are just palatable ways of saying the same thing: you are *hitting* your kids. There’s too much evidence that suggests any amount of hitting kids does not lead to improved behavior. We collectively need to grow past and let go of the nostalgia of hitting.

[@kefinkamed]

I disagree. As a small child, I threw a tantrum and threw myself on the ground for not getting my way. My mom picked me up and spanked me right there in the shop - over the winter clothes (some kind of padded overalls), no pain whatsoever. I've never done it again, and I don't suffer from any form of PTSD because of it. Now, my neighbour's kid throws fits at least twice a day for no reason whatsoever, and often kicks his mother no matter how softly she explains to him why he shouldn't do that.

[@sissyblake17]

@@kefinkamedyou can disagree but your anecdote does not disprove the decades of research we have that shows that spanking is ineffective at best.

[@MrBrock314]

@@sissyblake17 The research is NOT conclusive that spanking doesn't work. It just suggests it COULD cause trauma. However, raising children is complicated and this doesn't take into account all the problems that can occur if a child is not disciplined well.

[@ElijahCem]

​@@MrBrock314 Discipline and assult are different things. You can discipline a child without hitting them.

[@jodyjojo1381]

😂my parents loved me. I got spankings

[@KattReen]

I think the view on spanking in general is a good way to gauge how mature the culture you come from is. When a society and culture comes into it's own across the board, that stuff is labeled abuse and outlawed. Immature doesn't necessarily mean worse, just that there is room to grow. Parenting is very hard, and a lot of parents are fearful that their kids won't learn if there's no "bad cop", so they end up being authoritarian rather than authoritative. I live in the first country to outlaw violence towards children(which IS what we're talking about here). For those of you thinking that there is genuinely is some reasonable middle ground here, I want you to entertain the idea for a moment that the same "corrective" methods used to be normal on wives as well, and before that was outlawed people were having similar conversations, with Rational Man on the street arguing that you're not a bad dude just because you corrected your wife, as you probably aren't causing any lasting harm if it's just very light and very rarely.

[@erinmac4750]

You're right, it's telling. If society in my country was more mature and parts of it more educated, then I firmly believe that a certain orange menace would've never sat in the Oval Office. May that maturity come soon.....

[@missoats8731]

Thank you! Great way of explaining it.

[@missoats8731]

@@erinmac4750 So I'm not the only one making that connection to Trump...

[@marielowgren7584]

You must be in Sweden! Outlawed since 1979, the first country to make it a law!

[@honorinewendyamilboudo7229]

Immature culture?😂

[@VoltasP]

"I do this because I love you" spankings are the most messed up psychologically. At best you're giving your kid one hell of a sadomasochism kink, they could also learn "it's ok for people who say they love me to hurt me when they're angry at me it's how they show they truly care", and at worst you're setting them up to be a domestic abuser because deep down in their heart they believe that if their loved one "isn't acting right" it's their duty as their loved one to hit them-- Typically until the abuser no longer feels angry about the behavior. It's never about hitting the kid until they learn, it's always about the abuser hitting until they feel satisfied.

[@septanine5936]

"it's never about hitting the kid until they learn, its always about the abuser hitting until they feel satisfied." what a line. as soneone who was spanked, this really resonates with me and puts things into perspective

[@VoltasP]

@@septanine5936 If it makes you feel any better, adults were ENCOURAGED to hit until they stopped feeling angry (aka "Until they learned their lesson" but because your parent didn't live inside your head that really just meant "until you start to feel kinda guilty") so it wasn't just your parent hitting you for the thrill of hitting you. They were told that this was the healthiest way to raise kids and if they didn't, you'd be a druggie dropout. Some parents were vastly more.... Let's say.... Enthusiastic.... About spanking as a method of correction, tho. I hope you're healing. ❤

[@joshburgess79]

Hey from one Josh to another, I'm always excited to see your new drops every week. You always have a well thought out, take on a situation and are able to make any of these topical subjects hilarious! Keep it up, man!

[@abhishetty2637]

Its seriously mind boggling that you come up with material with this speed and consistently

[@SuperDG333]

Most people don’t know the difference between spanking and beating especially when you’re growing up in poverty and a lack of education

[@haokarenhc]

What I truly love about you is how you can turn a real subject into comedy and have it mean something. One of the best clips I’ve seen about parenthood, and that’s without the comedian actually being a parent. Many comedians who are parents when they talk about parenthood it’s always about how much it sucks. But you not being a parent made a such thoughtful set, I’m in awe.

[@jackkazinsky290]

you don't want to spank kids because you don't want them to learn to solve problems physically. I am a poor single parent, I've never once done it, my kids are 15 and 23.

[@sharongarrett4356]

Awesome

[@Mallykins]

I got whipped a lot. I grew up in Ky in the 90’s and I got the belt, the switch, the hand, etc. I know now I’m Autistic. It didn’t help me, it hindered me. The person doing the punishing was a highly religious man, still is.

[@Spaztiq]

You have very quickly become one of my favorite comedians. Your story telling has me smiling the whole time. If you ever came to Calgary (Alberta, Canada), I'd do my best to see that show, for sure.

[@PureLight11]

Josh reminds me of a modern philosopher who artfully weaves his deep musings outward in comedy. Favorite weekend show since HBO made great ones like Sopranos. Thank you so much Josh!

[@Haystacks]

The problem is that when just "spanking" a kid, you are failing to teach them a valuable skill - how to self regulate around emotion and nervous system. Maybe they need to know not to do dangerous or bad things, but they also need to know what to do instead to deal with their aggression and energetic instincts. "If you do it, you're in trouble." is not a solution and generally only works a certain amount of the time.

[@kaedatiger]

I'm going with the research on this one. Violence teaches violence.

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

The problem with the "research" is it tends to be very binary. Spanks vs. not spanks with little definition of what that means or how it's applied. If you lump together all forms of hitting for any reason, then you're lumping in clear abuse victims with parents who reserved it as a discipline tool for specific circumstances. It bothers me because I was spanked but I had friends who were abused and our relationships with our parents and how that affected us was very different.

[@Stronglilmomma]

My sister, my kids, her kids, and I all had spankings. None of us fought in school. None of us fight as adults. They were sparingly used and little force was needed because none of us had much meat on our bones (genetics and sports, not starved). For the most part, yelling scared us enough.

[@BlackestLyrics]

@@Stronglilmomma Scum. Your parents abused you but that does not allow you to abuse your children.

[@Adronitis]

​@@TheChristianPsychopathyep, and it's gendered, too. My mom made it a point to be the only one to physically discipline us because she never wanted us to think it was ok for a man who loved us to hit us. It also helped that my dad couldn't hurt a fly if he wanted to, but it was an explicit lesson she taught us that protected us I think

[@TheChristianPsychopath]

@@Adronitis Eh, to me that sounds sexist. However, it may have made sense for your parents from their personal history. But my brother's a much gentler person than I am. So I worry more about him getting taken advantage of than myself. Both of my parents did spank us, but only in a clear discipline situation and we got a warning first. My dad has never raised a hand to my mom. He can be stubborn, but he's very protective of her and talked out any differences. And most of our contact with him was love and hugs and spending time with us positively.

[@pegm5937]

Guffawed. Out loud. St least 3 times. Josh doin' Josh and making my world a better place ❤

[@savoff477]

I just want to share my experience with this.. i will preface this with saying i was not raised percectly.. i was raised by a single mom and at some points in my childhood my nana helped as well.. the only time my mom hit me was when i was like 5 years old.. i hit her.. then she gave me a little bonk back.. it wasn’t crazy hard but it just showed me what it felt like to have been hit.. idk if that’s the reason, but i know to this day i do not hit people i do not like causing people pain… at all.. that being said.. it was the only time my mom ever physically hurt me.. for the most part she was just honest about what she saw.. what she was going through… why i should help with chores, why my education matters, why i should avoid substances at least until later in life, and why we need to work together to make our future generations more comfortable. From the time i was born.. my mom didn’t coddle me. She just spoke to me as if i was a peer.. that empowered me to be a better kid and a better person from the time i was out of the womb.. some people say i grew up way too fast, and honestly im fine with that.. it gave me the tools to realize how to not fuck up.. the one time someone truly beat me.. like an adult.. it fucked me up.. i stoll remember it and i was like 6-7 years old.. i couldn’t imagine the main for of discipline being like that.. it just makes someone scared or angry.. all of my friends who were beat.. ended up scared, angry, anxious by the time they hit middle school.. it will fuck up your kids mind if you are causing physical pain constantly to make them learn, and if the only way you teach your kids to change their way is physical violence.. you have some shit to learn reallly fucking quick..

[@chloewray7466]

My parents were spanked as children. Apparently they spanked me but I don’t remember it and they said they did it lightly like a tap to snap me out of something. The thing I do remember is them teaching me the consequences of my actions and explaining things in a fair way. It helped me learn empathy and I deeply respect them for it.

[@THEMARCKNIGHT89]

Its crazy how every set is different than the last. Josh is so prolific. Love this dude!

[@christopherdelaney6263]

Keep it going man. This is legit funny and hard f'n work. \m/, Big love, Josh !

[@rynnlemieux5339]

Saturdays are so much fun with Josh at noon!

[@ladiflippingda02]

So I'm currently in the process of getting my education [LATE AF] to be an adoption counselor. I chose this because in my childhood, I went foster home to foster home and my maternal grandma found me in the system in a random midwest state. She gave me a mother's love that I lacked. She didn't have the means to give me everything, but she did her best. She also spanked me, but not often and as much as I love her, it did affect me. In my research on spanking, it boils down to the message you give your child. Adults who are spanked carry that with them no matter what. They are more likely to be in abusive relationships, they are more likely to believe that someone who loves you is allowed to hit you. It also causes extreme fight or flight reactions in children, and they begin to react strongly to things or people they percieve as a threat. Spanked children have problems with aggression. The parents who spank may think they have it figured out, but it's actually the gateway to abuse. Literally, there are thousands of studies on this. I just want people to understand that while someone may think it's ok, it truly isn't. We, as adults, have the responsibility to educate our children. People who spank babies or toddlers because "they wouldn't understand if i explained it" are giving the EXACT reason why they shouldn't hit their child. This little child does NOT understand why you are hitting them. If they child is old enough to understand, then that's when you start explaining what they are doing wrong and how to handle their emotions. I know that it's hard, especially for families in poverty, I'm a single, disabled, mom to a 3yr old and I am constantly fighting with my mental health and trying to give my son the patience he deserves. But I don't think it's fair to use that as an excuse. It's not fair to the child, qnd it's not fair to the parent. We have to hold ourselves accountable and act like the adults we want our children to become. If science LITERALLY says that hitting children is bad for them, why are we excusing this behavior?

[@miraculousjackson8467]

No BS Josh it tripped me out how, my mother was always mad when she came in from work or wherever she had been, then I realized and I learned, she was taking her anger out on me. That can mark a kid, full trauma 💯💯💯😊

[@fionnagrant6636]

The thing about spanking is that it is difficult to clarify whether the child is being hit too hard or to too often from the outside. It makes it so much and easier to hide abuse that is genuinely scarring and frightening for a child. It is also more difficult to be gentle when you are angry, and being ok with spanking makes it harder to draw a line. Also and i cannot stress this enough, with some kids, it definitely makes the situation worse immediately. It is always better if you can find another way. People used to talk about a "short sharp shock" interrupting bad behavior, but with some kids they just dig their toes in and hate you. Do you want your child to learn something, or do you want them to think you are just a complete bastard? Because that is the result for some kids. It is not something I would do with an adult to resolve something. It will not make them see your point of view.

[@fionnagrant6636]

I was spanked, and hit with a wooden spoon or my hair brush. A hair brush stings but doesn't leave a bruise or a mark hours later, which was part of the law where and when I grew up. Don't leave a mark. My brother's got the strap from dad's thick leather belt with it's huge brass buckle. When we we teenagers Dad would fight us, but he would try to get us to hit him first so he could say he didn't throw the first punch. I saw all four of my older brothers, who I idolised, roll around on the floor fighting my dad. Why weaken psychological boundaries against violence when it is so easy to be emotional and angry as a parent? Parenting is frustrating, providing for children is stressful and exhausting, let's not include the temptation to physically hurt our children out of rage.

[@Work2022-]

Thank you Let's take this hardworking young man to a million man! 💐💐👋👋

[@Whitleyshow]

Thanks josh. I have been watching you for a minute, and you are coming up with current funny jokes so so fast. Keep doing your passion im lovin it.😅

[@jenniferrandolph4115]

I so look forward to getting notifications for Josh! Sometimes I watch a few videos before bed. I sleep well afterwards, I tire myself out laughing. 🤣😂💜

[@The.Californians]

I love your physical comedy Josh! Funny as ever. Thanks for your service to all of us. You are like my comic emotional support dude. We can't get enough. ❤

[@sandrachildress5679]

Hilarious! I’m so proud for how far you have come. Hilarious, smart & so stinkin sweet! 💙

[@1337foxs]

All spanking does is train the child to associate negative behavior with being harmed. It doesn't actually teach right from wrong. One day they'll realize that they wont necessarily be harmed for doing it and they will continue to do it again unless they have matured through some other fashion. Pain compliance is worthless for continued change in behavior unless you actually mentally damage them with the level of pain you use.

[@KimPhoenixRising]

Thoughtful comedy and learning through others observations. Love Josh's thoughtfulness. UNIQUE.

[@bobbiejones]

As I’m drinking because it’s happy hour somewhere 😂 Josh, you have a way of talking about traumatic childhoods that make me laugh. As a survivor of child abuse, I appreciate your empathy and compassion for hard topics.

[@cinemaocd1752]

Bless you Josh for raising this difficult topic...this comment board is turning into a support group. If you're not convinced to quit spanking your kids by the weird case of the Dad Guy who keeps getting beat up for looking like people's abusive fathers, then read a few of the hundreds of comments of traumatized adults on here...

[@charleskeefer5869]

This set made me clap in my room by my self. Can't wait to see you in Houston man. Every single time.

[@arianam6430]

I was too smart for my own good, and my grandma encouraged my mom to spank me to set me straight when i was preschool age. My mom didnt think it wise, but listened anyway, and i got spanked- because i didn't do what my mother wanted. I took that info and went to preschool and started spanking other kids when they 'didn't do what i wanted them to do'. Spanking stopped real fast after that.

[@user-rz3nu3lm5r]

I do think spanking is inherently abusive but I don’t think every parent who spanked their kid is a monster. There’s a lot of abusive behavior that’s just super normalized in society unfortunately.

[@Dirt_McGirt_Osirus]

Personally I believe in the very rare spanking. I only got spanked a few times and they were all for very serious situations. The one that really sticks out to me was when I was a kid and I ran out into the street without looking and almost got hit by a car. My Mom grabbed me and spanked me right there. In hindsight I honestly think it was justified I did something incredibly stupid that could’ve killed me. I never did it again because I realized how serious it was. Now spanking a kid for doing something trivial like not picking up their toys or breaking a glass or something like that is totally wrong and abuse. I know people who were spanked wayyyyyyy too much and it fucks them up badly for pretty much ever. It either turns them into a rage filled asshole, or an empty meek scared shell of a person.

[@nola4484]

I grew up in a very physically and abusive home, with daily beatings from my dad. That shit taught me nothing, and all I got out of it was fear, anxiety, and an extremely painful and confusing love/hate relationship towards my dad. Like all children, all I wanted was his love and affection, and I would latch onto those very rare moments when he was nice to me like my life depended on it, and forgive all the abuse I received just prior. It left me with a lot of trauma and an inability to have healthy relationships until I finally, at the age of 28(!) recognized my pattern of falling for abusers. I have a child of my own now, and in 12 years I have never once laid a hand on them, but prioritized listening, understanding, and validating their fears and emotions. We're very close, and they're very well behaved, kind, loving, smart, and popular with their group of friends. I'm just trying to be the parent I wished my dad would have been, and while parenting can be hard af, this has been nothing but amazing.

[@user-rz3nu3lm5r]

⁠@@Dirt_McGirt_OsirusI get where you’re coming from, but honestly even in situations like that I don’t think spanking is justified. It’s basically telling your child that physical violence is an appropriate reaction to someone making a mistake. I would argue that even a serious mistake that puts your own life at risk doesn’t warrant someone being physically violent towards you. I’m glad you were able to take something positive away from it, but that’s not guaranteed for every child. What you experienced as an important life lesson could easily have been a lifelong trauma for someone else, and there’s really no way for a parent to predict how a child will internalize being spanked. I hope I’m making sense, and I don’t mean to discount your perspective, I really do see what you mean and I can see a grain of truth to it even though I disagree overall.

[@user-rz3nu3lm5r]

@@nola4484I’m really sorry you went through that, and I’m glad that you get to be the parent you needed now. ❤️

[@restonspolis3249]

​@@user-rz3nu3lm5r I'm curious, what solution do you suggest to make a kid stop running into the street without watching for cars? Imagine a kid who has done it repeatedly and got almost killed at least once.

[@marianritter1980]

Josh Johnson for President!!! Im so serious. This is the leadership we need. ❤

[@username1t1k]

Got spanked growing up and my grandparents house, a few times😂😂😂😂 but heres the kicker, we always got a talk afterwards to make sure we understood why it got rhat far. I particularly remember this other time i got beat for breaking the neighbours window, they sat me down afterwards and explained how theyre gonna have to buy a window pane and have someone fit it, and that theyre gonna have to use money that was meant for something else important at home. They further explained that if i was older and had money the punishment would be me buying and fitting it, but since i dont know how and obviously didnt have noney, a beating was the only way at that moment that they can get the incident to stick with me long enough to help for my concience. The fact that i knew and still know them as peaceful people and that the beating was never too much meant that i got to understand that they're not doing it for fun, but to discourage me doing stuff like that. Fast forward to me as an adult in my mid 20s now, i dont have kids but i babysit my little sis, and little cousins a lot, spanked my lil bro once years ago and never since.... What that did was let the other kids know that I'm not above it, but since i usually don't do that, the kids are happy and free around me and listen when i talk, but they also respect the boundaries given. And one of my cousins whos now in his late teens was talking to me about this and let me know that him fearing me forced him to not misbehave as a kid until he was old enough to understand why i discouraged misbehaving like that

[@MarissaK-uz7ce]

I fucking love your comedy sir! It’s brought me so much joy and understanding in these difficult times 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@mr.andersin8901]

Legend in the making. Gets better every set I see him do!

[@vornamenachname1572]

Yeyyy, I love these weekend uploads! Keep spoiling us Europeans.😁

[@Jennyonthehill7035]

As a young mother, back in the '90s, I was advised to give my toddler the odd smack when she was misbehaving terribly. "Animals cuff thier young. It's natural. You can't have you wrapped 'round her little finger like that... etc" So I gritted my teeth and did smack hand sometimes. What I noticed, though, is that the the threshold of provocation to smack got lower and lower. My irritability rose, and I was tempted to smack for non-dire situations. So, about 5 or 10 smacks in, I stopped. It was too horrible and I didn't like what i was becoming and her reaction of shock and confusion was heartbreaking. I've trained dogs and horses and you don't break their trust like that, and you assume that if they are "disobedient" it's because they're confused or overstimulated. As good trainers/care takers, we never, ever-ever lose our temper, even if it means abandoning the training session until we are calm and have thought the problem through properly. We should, at the very least, give our kids the same grace we give the family pet. My own mother wasn't a regular smacker but she did occasionally fly into rages, which I totally forgive, but I'd rather my own kids have as little as possible to forgive me for. My eldest is now a parent and is doing something along the lines of "gentle parenting" though she does have firm and reasonable boundaries. It's very interesting to watch - and inspiring. She's being very conscious of being the very best parent she can be. Sure, some of it makes my bitter old GenX heart roll it's eyes at some of it, but I never criticise - she's being the parent that I wanted to be out didn't know how. It's interesting to observe that the smacking in our family does seem to have an inverse correlation to the amount of money each generation has.

[@chriskukowski398]

YES YES! I've been trying to explain this to people forever! My mom didn't have anything to take away! I absolutely understand this!

[@professorjackalope]

Josh man your now all the way inside my head. How do you do this?! No other comics on your level! For real your a special human! Therapy and civics with a smile

[@caspenbee]

What a clean way to end a fight safely. You know he's not going to come back at you and he's not going to try to bring a charge either. I think I get his logic. Adult men? Yeah sometimes get too big for their britches. Kids on the other hand ultimately already know who's in charge.

[@playyourturntodieatvgperson]

bro changed his damage type from bludgeoning to emotional