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[@TrueCrimeCentral]

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, please reach out: www.thehotline.org/

[@janetpattison8474]

While I was in an abusive relationship, I called the domestic violence hotline, and found total incompetence, and zero help. It was shocking to me that was reality, absolute ineptitude from a person who had NO clue how to help. Supervisors, and program managers and people on the board of directors should be testing the effectiveness of their own system all the time, and the calls should be recorded and reviewed. Having volunteers is NO excuse for a horribly run emergency system for people who desperately need competent staff to talk to.

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[@rubytuesday1316]

@@janetpattison8474 Thanks Janet! Same here! Worthless ! Every state of USA differs & Utah does nothing if there aren't babies involved. Vulnerable elder abuse is not acknowledged legally and "safety homes" are not covered under so called grants either. Men suffer tremendous abuse as courts favor the woman.

[@youknow6607]

I call bs from Johnny depp talk about gaslighting

[@marymcnamara1496]

@@janetpattison8474 iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii2r

[@Zihannya]

There needs to be a registry of domestic abusers just like there is for sexual offenders to protect the unsuspecting from getting involved with them.

[@rablasaid2839]

I agree 💯💯

[@abigailisvirtual3358]

People wouldn't be honest.If someone gets dumped they could just say they were abused when they weren't.

[@thebewitchinghour831]

That's a great idea!

[@AstoriaHeard]

YES!!! I’ve long thought this- with some careful consideration, it’s absolutely possible. Well needed, too.

[@krishnarao3768]

But how many people would go check up on someone they are in "love" with!

[@HumanimalChannel]

Tony, you're a Survivor, not a victim. Be proud of yourself, and its especially lovely of you to help others that are experiencing Domestic Abuse.

[@ladennayoung2939]

❤❤❤

[@joyful_tanya]

💜💜💜 DV survivors unite!

[@tracyhaverstick5672]

You're skipping a very important part. A victim of abuse needs to get counseling or psychological help to stop the cycle and truly become a survivor.

[@ythatesfacts]

​@tracyhaverstick5672 yeah except people who are abused don't always become abusers

[@tracyhaverstick5672]

@@ythatesfacts That wasn't what I was referring too.

[@jdesigns5945]

My heart just broke for him! That anyone would treat a person in such a horrible way it truly pathetic. He’s blessed to walk away and still be alive.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@youngbess1]

It is just not talked about, men who are victims of DV. It’s just not women who are victims 😊

[@youngbess1]

😊

[@mandiantonucci9088]

As an Abuser survivor thank you Maxine for helping Tony! ❤❤❤ We heal but never fully!

[@polarbearsrus6980]

Thanks for sharing, my son was married to a malignant narcissist. She completely changed after they got married, too. Tony is a hero for standing up. 🙂

[@EmiliaJay]

@polarbearsrus is your son safely away from her now? That’s never an easy thing to go through.

[@TheNarcFileShow]

Stay off these dating app because it's the narcissist play ground! Would love to hear from guy's on here who have gone through this?

[@IratePuffin]

@@GrandmaMouse1960 I was married to a malignant narcissist for 23 years and it nearly destroyed me. He’s a highly respected 7 figure a year professional. People who meet him think he’s a great guy. People admire him and aspire to be like him. He’s very skilled at keeping his true nature hidden. But he was best at gaslighting and manipulation. I know there have been movies about an abusive husband who convinces everyone that his wife is crazy while he plays the role of the caring husband. He gaslights everyone to the point he’s able to have her committed involuntarily and she has to fight to prove that he’s actually the crazy one, etc. That guy is my husband. Not literally, as in having me committed, but he’s that type of guy who is cunning and calculated and feels no guilt or shame when he blatantly lies and manipulates. By the time I left him, I felt abjectly worthless. Really, truly worthless. It’s the such a lonely and hopeless feeling and before I left I no longer cared if I woke up each morning or if I died in my sleep. I just couldn’t gaf about it. He’d successfully whittled down any confidence or independence I ever had to almost nothing. Then when I finally got the strength to leave, he did everything in his power to turn everyone against me and to leave me destitute. He didn’t succeed but not for lack of trying. I fought hard. Every day away from him was another step towards learning to be me again. Before I even left I found a therapist. I’d never had any kind of therapy but my primary concern was my kids and I went initially because I thought it might help me better navigate the divorce to cause them as little damage as possible. My feelings of worthlessness and uselessness were of concern too. I didn’t know if it would help any but figured it couldn’t hurt. I’m so glad that I did. Just having an educated neutral person to speak to about everything my ex had been doing to me was a massive weight off my shoulders. I had friends I vented to, of course, but having a professional validate that the things I described were definitely emotional abuse was like the sunny coming out on a rainy day. Sorry for the long post. I really just wanted to suggest that if your son isn’t in therapy or hasn’t considered it, I very much recommend it. People like our exes do damage to us in ways that we don’t even see sometimes. That damage doesn’t always heal with time and distance. I’ve been divorced for 6 years and I just married my current husband a few months ago. I know without a doubt that if I hadn’t dealt with what happened to me, I would’ve brought some of that baggage to my new marriage. I sincerely wish your son continued healing! Those of us have experienced this type of abuse know how deeply the scars go. It’s not easy but he got away from her, that’s the most important part.

[@dtschuor459]

It’s crazy. To see the photos, you would never know. They look happy and honestly in love. She’s just how much we can be misled by appearances

[@dtschuor459]

@@IratePuffin Yours is a story of courage and survival. I’m so glad you were able to see your way out and to recover. I wish you the best and hope you have a wonderful marriage this time around. May love be the driving energy for your new family 💜☮️

[@elizabethrose3667]

I am so sorry Tony . My husband was abused by his ex wife. She was always threatening suicide. She called him bad name every word for homosexuality you can think of. She pushed and pushed. He broke every dish in the house. She met someone online. Married him that lasted 5 years. I have been married to him since 2017. I have built him up again. Given him freedom to be himself. He was such an introvert. I coaxed him out of his shell. I am a happy extrovert. We laugh a lot. It’s joy to have a good person. I wish him the best.

[@kimalonzo3363]

That's great!!!

[@Fan-zx1lz]

It is great to hear what you did. Women like you are needed in this world.

[@damongirl66]

Being with you has helped to build him up again.

[@susannaengelbrektsson9801]

Lovely

[@elizabethrose3667]

@@damongirl66 me and God with the power of Jesus Christ! We have established a great relationship. I wish you wellness and peace. God bless.

[@marenawhite3322]

To hear the nastiness of his wife towards him is heart breaking. 😢 So many men suffer in silence when they are not weak or spineless. They are humans who need our help and support.❤

[@Fan-zx1lz]

Yes. Men also have feelings and men also should feel safe around the woman they are living with.

[@barneyronnie]

Sadly, if we defend ourselves, then we wind up in jail...😮

[@pearpo]

Never stoop to their level. Get away from them.

[@corinefranklin5426]

This made me cry.what a sweet man. I'm so sorry he endured this from someone the enemy used to harm him. But bravo, Tony! You lived through it, and are far better off than her!

[@deannag48]

Your voice is being heard. Thank you for sharing your story. I pray you are able to recover. Bless you🎈😊💕

[@RJelly-fi6hd]

I am so glad more men are coming forward with their stories. I love that this interview is giving advice on how to get out safely. It is very difficult to do. Moving out of state and NOT telling anyone where you moved to is the best way. It is difficult, but those abusers are very convincing to family members who will give your location away - unbeknownst to them.

[@V13-u1c]

He was definitely too sweet. She was too crazy! This was a very enlightening video!

[@Bella_Rose.2023]

That woman is evil to the core, through and through. No one should EVER have to go through abuse!!! Thankfully, you had a true friend to help get you out of that situation. I hope you have a happy peacful life from here on!!!

[@Broadtolove]

Hey Rose! Apologies for dropping this here I came across your KZbin channel and I would love to know you better. I'm guessing you must be an honest person, because I always found your comments to be so nice and respectful. If it's okay with you, I'd love to be friend but if it sounds odd or embarrassing in any way please don't embarrass me by replying. Have a wonderful day, and keep sharing!

[@Bella_Rose.2023]

@Broadtolove You will have to get to know me in my comments. Trying to pick someone up in a domestic abuse thread is assanine. You troll for women on youtube and send the same message to every woman. Look out ladies!!

[@Broadtolove]

@@Bella_Rose.2023 Sorry that was a mistake. my phone is acting up. I found you on Instagram, Can you please check IG

[@april4848]

She sounds demonic

[@NoLefTurnUnStoned.]

@@Broadtolove Stalker

[@gloriaeizquierdo3455]

Tony, you are a trooper, you survived this awful evil woman’s abuse and now helping others in the same situation. God bless you always! 🙏❤️

[@Plushybear09]

Thank you for your story. This was my life during my first marriage. I really appreciate you telling it as it was

[@hildachacon001]

That is so sad. Thank you to Tony for speaking out. We need to drop the stigma, a human is a human no matter what age, gender, race etc.

[@SuperSPatrick]

Such a nice man. How do these kind of women get these nice men and then they just do this to them. He is lucky he made it out alive.

[@wolf.eye._-]

When he said she'd name call him and keep him up all night doing it.. That hit home too. Abusers often deprive people of sleep as part of their psychological abuse. Speaking from experience here.. The person that did this to me used to come in the room I slept in at any/ all hours of the night to start his onslaught of verbal assaults. He would also constantly accuse me of cheating and has threatened to kill me a couple times. The anxiety it caused me when he'd do these things.. was so overwhelmingly bad. I have ptsd and have to deal w him still because we have a child together. And just like this poor guy being afraid to call police because she said she'd lie to them.. that's what happened to me; I finally looked in his phone and just like I already knew- he was talking to other ppl. When I confronted him about it we started arguing and then he called the police on me and lied to them, and I ended up being the one to go to jail because they believed him. It was so devastating.. Just insane.. hearing the one cop say "we take domestic violence very serious here" especially because he had just threatened to kill me the day before but instead of calling the police I called my dad- I was too afraid to call 911. Edit: this sort of abusive behavior didn't Really get revved up until After I had our baby and we finally got our own place (were living w family before). Once I'd given him what he wanted (a second chance to be a dad) and once we got away from family things started getting worse and worse.. its not as if these ppl are abusive like that from the start. Like this guy, his "wife" didn't get Really awful until After they were married. My heart goes out to this man. ❤ 😢

[@jenwaters6088]

Poor man wouldn't fight back because he knew that if he did the authorities would blame him and not her.

[@YahwehisGodandYeshuaisKingiamr]

I'm so glad your shedding more light on male victims of female abusers. As a woman I am very ashamed and upset that far too many women get away with abuse just because they're female..its not right. Women that abuse should be held just as accountable as men.

[@kimglover6968]

I think you're one of the bravest people in this world. The strength it took for you to get through it is amazing. I hope you live a full, happy, joyful life. Thank you for speaking out.

[@PetroicaRodinogaster264]

I have (Diagnosed) PTSD, anxiety and depression from the years of mental and physical abuse that I, my 3 siblings, and my mother endured, from my father. But…. He was a victim of his parents and the war and booze. Our life was miserable and unproductive and it has been an uphill battle to survive. But I will not give in as that makes his parents (who also mentally abused me) the winners. But in fairness they came from an era where care of children was not a priority. They knew no better. Life is complicated hard and a battle to the end for most of us. I have things to be grateful for…we were not sexually abused by anyone.

[@patriciastewart3546]

I so remember this sad story about Tony i was so pleased that he got out of this nasty horrible marriage,and so pleased that he found love again after all that,god bless you Tony you so deserves better from the Goldcost Australia

[@journalcrafting6311]

Tony I'm so glad you got out of it. I know it was a hard road. In my opinion she didn't get a harsher sentence, cause if the tables were turned she would have. We need to protect Men and Women of DV. I know I went through it myself for 5 Years. Hugs.

[@reemclaughlin4260]

OMG what a cutie when he was a little boy! I’m glad he’s a survivor. 🙏🏼♥️🕊

[@kimalonzo3363]

Ikr

[@Bebedollie]

Looks are so deceiving. You never know what people are going through or doing behind closed doors 💔

[@jananisethuraman2144]

Proud of Mr. Tony in choosing the right decision and nobody has to sacrifice themselves to a abusive partner whether it's male or female 👀

[@gl3913]

There is an episode in season 22 episode #15 entitled, What is done in the dark, that deals with the type of abuse that Tony went through. Hope that Tony can heal from his trauma and be able to live a very happy life.

[@blanchard5312]

This is so similar to the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard case.

[@robbrewer2036]

This woman should never be released.

[@MsBamafanatic]

This should have been titled, "Domestic Abuse Survivor Reveals the Horrifying Abuse BY His Wife".

[@gharrett2092]

This breaks my heart, but it’s good to know I’m not alone.

[@karinhaland-kinnapel9219]

God Bless you, Maxine💖with lots of Love and Happienes 🙌🏻🙏🏻💖😇💖🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@DopamineDecor]

Tracy should've gotten 6 years for the six years of hell she put Tony through.

[@catherinek9327]

That's a horrendous story! What a life!!

[@SweetT601]

I taught my son not to hit a woman unless she hit him. My motto is if you don’t want to get hit don’t hit!

[@janetpayne4078]

I feel so sorry for Tony he seems so nice and gentle.ive been in a 41yr abuse'marriage but finally left 12mths and starting to rebuild my life 🌻but abuse weather it be men or women everyone should tell someone verbal and mental abuse is so degrading to any human I'm so glad Tony got his freedom from this poor Tony best wishes to you Tony for the future 🩷

[@janetpayne4078]

Tony U did the right thing .I went to women's aid and they saved my life as I was so broken by the abuse it took weeks to get where I am and I'm finding myself and really glad U are too b very proud of your courage and truth it always wins ❤

[@rosalindamartinez8941]

It's important for victims to take responsibility for their lack of discernment and to heal. Otherwise they repeat the same mistakes. Tony had two prior failed marriages. The problem was not that Tony was "too nice." The problem was that he didn't have the self esteem to set proper boundaries. It's obvious that he never tried therapy or other modalities to heal. With the help of a therapist after his 2 divorcs, he would have known better than to let Tracy moved in after just 3 weeks. To marry in 6 months was also unhealthy. Tony needs more self awareness. I definitely think he's a victim, but he also needs to take responsibility for his healing.

[@barbarac2347]

Poor guy! He seems so sweet! So sorry he met such an evil woman.

[@motherofthreeb6337]

The problem is, he let her move in and married someone he really didn't know. A ref flag was not meeting her family and friends!

[@sophiashekinah9872]

There is so much that's fucked up about this, but the fact that he had the capacity to knock her out at any given moment and never did must be the reason she called him "weak". I suspect she was trying to provoke him to violence so she could then play victim. I have so much respect for this man! I wish he had left before 6 years of abuse and psychological damage had become a part of who he is, but he certainly showed his strength, honor and integrity by not responding in kind. That is something I was unable to do when in a similar situation.

[@lisaflesher]

My sister was abusive to her now ex husband. It was all a sick, twisted plan to get out of their marriage. He spent a year in jail for absolutely no reason. When he would call me from jail, we would talk about what she had planned and our conversations are what ultimately got him out of jail. He’s remarried now and she’s disowned.

[@samanthabloggins1775]

What a brave man to go public with his story!! I hope he has a great life now!

[@PamelaGlasgow-ll5ur]

Me too 🙏

[@iveliserojas612]

I feel sorry for this guy who gf who a KZbinr I guess beating her bf in the elevator and in the apt she stabbed him then she say she was defending herself it her defense attorney defense ridiculous also her parents are also in jail for taken he’s laptop she a beautiful women so even beautiful women are deadly it crazy cops laugh

[@trishsavery595]

My mother abused my father. Every night,my sister and I would hear her put him down over and over again....saying awful things to him. We tried to stop it but she ended up abusing us also. He ended up committing suicide when I was 12 and my sister was 6. He left a suicide note saying I hope you are happy now. It was very hard for us. We loved our dad. He was a good man. He did start drinking to deal with the abuse but he was still a good man. After he committed suicide, she started abusing us more. We ended up in foster care which I was thankful for. I still feel like there is some way I could have saved my father....to tell him "please just leave and take us with you." My sister and I still can't talk to our mom.

[@renewedhope7638]

Trish I’m so sorry you and your sister experienced so much trauma as children 💕 I hope you’ve been able to heal and live a life filled with love. May your father rest in eternal peace. 🙏🏻

[@trishsavery595]

@@renewedhope7638 Thank you so much. We are all we have now....each other. Thank you. I hope he does too.😔❤️

[@rolandoesteban9514]

Growing up with a father who verbally abused my mother, I cried reading your story. Luckily, father left us, and only then did we have peace. As adults, we forgave our father and looked for him. He died with us.

[@laurag1076]

😢

[@trishsavery595]

@@rolandoesteban9514 I'm so sorry.😔 I know how hard it is to grow up in that atmosphere as a child. I'm so glad that you were able to find peace and to also reconnect with your father. My sister and I have tried a few times to reconnect with our mother but she still has a lot of those abusive tendencies which makes it hard for us and brings up the trauma again. I have forgiven her but it is really hard to have her in my life because I feel like I turn into that scared little girl again.

[@MsBaztastic]

AS SOON AS, I mean IMMEDIATELY, after someone begins abusing you through words, actions or inactions, LEAVE. They don't get better; they're just getting started.

[@gelliebeane6789]

Amen, Amen, Amen!!! That is so true! Don't stick around!

[@LeniDell]

EXACTLY. They’re at the start of seeing what you’ll tolerate. I’ve got what I refer to as my first husband my “practice” husband. lol practice referred to the lesson for what NOT to do. Oh he had a temper, and had a mouth on him BEFORE I married him. That said, NEVER was that directed at me. Never was it about me. That started immediately after I married him. I married in Church, in front of a few hundred people. There’s no divorce in my family. He thought I’d never divorce him. I left within a year. Nope. No BS sorries, no amount of excuses or “apology” gifts. I left. I filed for divorce and annulment. The first thing he said was “You said you’d never leave”. My answer? “You are a fraud”. He went on to marry a girl a decade younger than him, uneducated and from an abusive home. He got what he wanted. Someone to control. Sad.

[@jeannerountree952]

It can be difficult to leave. My husband started slowly as his personality was changing as he grew older. It’s difficult to decide when enough is enough. My marriage was suffering. I left after he attacked me physically.

[@rosiesingleton6480]

Yeah I found out the hard way 😢

[@christysikes6246]

You are Right on 😢 not stopping just getting started. Exactly

[@reinadegrillos]

In Mexico City, in the 60's, we had a neighbor that was abused by his wife. He was a small man and she was a huge lady, and in public she would hit him and insult him. We felt very sorry for him. They used to have a small shop and he was always polite and gave me discounts when I went to buy something for my mom on mother's day. We knew him as don Celestino. Here I remember him with my heart.

[@texastea5686]

🥺❤️

[@valerieoconnor4462]

Poor man 😢😢

[@reri6679]

What an absolute hero to get himself out of that situation! He should be so proud that he made it out, and that he is helping other men just by telling his story ❤

[@RebeccaLynnMusic]

Agreed!

[@debipsen9140]

I agree men are being abused. 😢

[@drakeridge9401]

Although I have a wonderful wife and have never been abused, I personally know 2 men who were abused by their wives and never reported it publicly. I’m sure there are many more out there.

[@nicolebrown1927]

I think Tony is more of a manly hero because he never hurt physically hurt her. Men are physically stronger than us so he could've hurt Tracy if he really wanted to but he never hurt her mentally or physically. That took a lot of physical strength on Tony's part.

[@wizzardofpaws2420]

This woman is a malignant narcissist. There's nothing you can do that will ever satisfy them or make them happy the only thing you can do is run as far as you can away from them

[@polarbearsrus6980]

Run, don't walk... they can't be fixed.

[@kazandraschellenger5505]

Or break every bone in their body. Anyone puts their hands on me it's a declaration of war.

[@peterlawrence6815]

Men are embarrassed. I know I have mentioned that men get beaten up by their wives. And they have la.ughed

[@meganr9280]

Definitely. She sounds like an awful parasite herself. I am sure she was abused as a child herself but that’s no excuse as an adult. You can face yourself and how you are and treat people right.

[@whiteraven69]

People do not understand how horrific a malignant and/or covert narcissistic personality can be.. They isolate, triangulate, blame, accuse and play the victim . In their minds it is everyone else who is at fault. Narcissistic personalities find the rescuers /co dependents and intitially love bomb them , after securing the person in their clutches the manipulation , demoralization and games begin. They become the source of supply (attention) for their sense of self ..bc they don’t have a foundation or a sense of self.

[@katmat2549]

It's so sad how kind people are preyed upon by such disgusting abusive creatures.

[@ryland6982]

He should put his shoulders back and his head up, and say, I made it. Please don't let the abuse define you.

[@christineribone9351]

@Ryland 69; Nonesense

[@sharonbrown6595]

And get therapy

[@lfbutterfly]

He’ll get there, in his own moments. We cannot be the ones to say for him to hold his shoulder straight.

[@christineribone9351]

@@lfbutterfly exactly. Ppl like that don't know the extent of turmoil the abuser has caused. They think there being helpful, but they don't understand the damage that's been inflicted.

[@carolkearns2193]

Ryland has a point.. have to start somewhere.. God bless him 🙏

[@mightymouse1005]

Abuse is NOT just physical abuse. There's mental, emotional, financial and religious

[@stardustgirl2904]

People are the ones that choose to be Evil and use God's the gospel to control people! God and Religion are good, some people aren't!

[@earnold1896]

Yep totally.

[@robinmccoy4671]

Absolutely!

[@nonyabeezwax8693]

My ex used all of this

[@laumay7364]

So what’s the difference between mental and emotional abuse? And financial abuse isn’t that just called fraud.

[@mightymouse1005]

Rushing a relationship is the number ONE red flag. You do NOT love or move in with someone in weeks or a couple months.

[@owl4260]

A friend of mine did, but she knew her boyfriend from her teenage years ;) They wanted to go all in to see if it worked or not. But in general, I think you're absolutely right - they want to bind people to them as quickly as possible so that they can exert the most control...

[@belindaroulston152]

She moved into his house, which should have been a sign of what she was up to. I'd never move in with someone that quickly.

[@lindayeager3126]

Looks aren't everything😂moved to Fast Tony !

[@ladennayoung2939]

It may or can be a red flag. It is not applicable to everyone or every situation. That's why it is imperative for people to get in relationship with God and get to know Him for yourself. And to choose to recognize His lead and choose to follow His voice, will, steps, and direction for themselves in JESUS' NAME. AMEN.

[@fainafaina1940]

This is 100% true!

[@ForestFairy_9]

My mother used to do that to my father, and then when he passed away, she did that to me. I know exactly how this man felt. Everything he described he went through, was exactly how my mother treated my father and I.

[@sushifiggy]

I am so sorry to hear that for you sweetheart. My hope for you is that you find the true love of another human being so that you may feel truly loved! You deserve it, and God bless you 😊

[@barryduff5058]

I'm sorry you've had that background

[@karinhaland-kinnapel9219]

God Bless you💖 and your Sister💖 with lots of Love and Happienes 🙌🏻🙏🏻💞💞😇💞💞🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@ReviewsChannel-e4r]

Try having an oldest sibling who dismantles your family unit and emotional well being.

[@izolyator]

Hopefully you were able to separate from your mother forever and completely block her from her life even she would beg you to take her back

[@llddau]

My god she wasn’t even punished! A few months in prison for inflicting years and years of hell! That’s absolutely disgusting.

[@timothypotts3913]

Women

[@carolwells9409]

Agree. Needs to change

[@michellepalmer5283]

@@timothypotts3913 you think only women do this?

[@COMPUTER.SCIENCE.]

He decided to stay instead of divorcing, it's his choice, so he's not FREE of responsibilities in that aftermath!

[@EyeonthePrize247]

@@COMPUTER.SCIENCE. How ignorant can you be? Are you trying to justify her actions or something?

[@tck3041]

Tony seems like a lovely man. Many women would cherish a kind man like him. Many blessings to Tony and happiness always to follow.

[@sugwilliams6257]

Confusing as to why he didn't date his friend maybe she was married; I also question the fact that his two prior marriages weren't successful, he needs to self heal if course and counsel in choosing mates.

[@belindahutchinson5333]

The affects of years of abuse can last for a lifetime..it breaks you in many ways. The stigma of people not understanding or believing you is also hurtful in its own way. Which is just one reason people don’t get help. Thank you for speaking up. It takes courage

[@shirleyhunt8769]

Yes you sound as though you have experienced it as I have 😢

[@rjay7019]

I'm still dealing with it😢 I was married for 32 years to my abuser. We lived in my childhood home so it was hard for me to leave. We had 3 children, he passed away in 2009 but I still have issues that even moving away from there hasn't helped. I have trust issues and have a very difficult time making friends. It's a lonely life 💔

[@squishiehunter693]

I wish you the best.

[@patriciarowe6685]

​@@rjay7019 It is a very lonely life. I would rather be by myself instead of being abused. Wishing you the best ❤

[@rjay7019]

@Patricia Rowe Thank You I feel the same. It's as if I just don't trust people anymore.

[@carriesmith9943]

TRACY should be in a mental institution or prison! She is a menace to society!

[@brendafaithful8267]

The authorities know my husband has hurt people and put one woman in the hospital with serious injuries yet they do nothing.

[@VioletJoy]

​@@brendafaithful8267There may be more to the story. If you press charges and there is evidence, the authorities have to respond.

[@vaska1999]

​@@VioletJoy You have a touching faith in the police. 95% of reported rapes in the UK are never investigated. It's frightening, really, how little protection the police offer the abused.

[@kathleenritz32]

I agree! She is nuts!

[@mjanny6330]

@Vaska Tumir Rotterdam gives you all the answers.

[@debbiepolites5562]

What a horrible lady she is, so glad she went to jail. I am glad he's safe now 😊

[@lulugoulart5014]

Lady?

[@supernova11711]

He’s physically safe now but trust me when I tell you that it would have caused a life times worth of healing. It’s more complicated than remove the threat and all is well. The damage she caused is permanent.

[@ericb8413]

Her sentence was a joke. Put her away for 20 years.

[@ReviewsChannel-e4r]

I totally agree. I went thru far worse. It is indelibly life-altering. She'll try to seek him out.

[@ginaliggi3541]

I was in a relationship like that and did not even know it. When I finally realized I tried to make it work I got out but was stalked for a year. But eventually stopped. Im lucky

[@kiwigirljacks]

One of the saddest cases I ever saw on 48 Hours In Police Custody was of the man being absurd by his partner, eventually leading to his death. So heartbreaking. Men, please don’t suffer in silence. We believe you!!

[@DA-ib1ii]

She’s totally projecting everything she is on him when she berates him the way she does.

[@steffc8881]

Omg Tony you are absolutely amazing and how brave you. You have taken the abuse and and are helping helping soooo many others with your story ❤️ I’m so proud of you and you are not a victim but a warrior thank you so much for sharing your absolute nightmare of your life❤️

[@lindalanish9720]

What a handsome and quiet spoken man. You are quite a catch. Don't let anyone treat you like that again. You don't deserve so much better.

[@Emy53]

Happy this man spoke up...this women is extremely troubled. She's lucky it was Tony because an equally unhinged male would have killed her.

[@hlc5435]

13:42

[@klaird_h4727]

She only got 1 year after all of that?!!😳 She is probably out terrorizing some other poor person now...smdh

[@jolee3633]

This is bullshit if he had been the abuser I am sure he would have gotten a much stiffer prison sentence!

[@zukosmom3780]

That’s England for you. They are such cowards

[@chelseamiranda6651]

He is such a doll. I mean the absolute cutest smile ever! So happy he overcame such a horrible ordeal!

[@rayeanna2093]

My heart breaks for him. I’m also a survivor. I wish more men would speak out but unfortunately they don’t feel they will get any support. In my personal experience I have found that I gave my abusers more power with my silence than when I spoke out. I hope that we are moving forward in society where men will feel able to speak out against their abusers.

[@DandyLion.Wishes]

When Johnny Depp told the entire world, "I was an abused husband" it shattered the silence. Thank God he said ENOUGH so all men can step out of the hell of abuse.

[@jfionamoore4673]

Jonney Depp ahused himself too. He Is no saint. Amber was years younger than this drugged up drunk egotistical ass, coz he is famous doesn't exclude him from himself or past unreasonable conduct.

[@CkCmilliemoo]

I was about to say the same.

[@jowoodward1757]

Very true

[@cindyg-]

"Tell the world Johnny, tell the world! No one will believe you! .........but we did

[@argarman09]

​@Cindy oh boy did we. She honestly thought that the world would take her side just bc she's female. I'm ecstatic that we no longer live in that kind of world.

[@MrEd9574]

my 43 year old son and his two boys were treated inhumanly violent, spent all money on alcohol and gambling! he had to put cameras inside the house so he could prove she was the agressore. thank God she didn't want custody! now we help raise our grandkids!!

[@maidsua4208]

The road to being believed as a man is much longer. I wish your son and your grandchildren all the best, and that your son meets a person to be happy with.

[@sushifiggy]

Male or female, no one deserves to be bullied by their "one special person". It breaks my heart 😢

[@Fan-zx1lz]

Me Too feeling the same.

[@csnow1361]

I understand what this feels like. Abuse is horrible. I walked on eggshells for ten years in ahalf. In the end I almost turned into him. But I walked away instead. I'm free now just doing my best to free my mind from the abuse .stay free walk away don't put up with that bullshit no more !

[@barneyronnie]

My 'one special person' is myself.😊

[@BelindaGolding]

It's happened to me too. I left my ex husband almost 6 months ago

[@bethderrico5259]

Hey, Tony, it takes a huge set of bullocks to not strike back! You’re a true man. I wish you the best of luck!

[@hamsterdiving7593]

How about we change the title to "horrifying abuse *by* his wife". It makes it sound like he's the abuser

[@vbggnana1386]

Nobody proofreads and it drives me crazy.

[@ilicarriedoll2843]

Maxine is one true friend. She never stop being by Tony's side throughout everything. She too should be proud with herself. Tony is lucky to have her as a friend. And Tony is absoblutely brave for be able to reach out. Not many people have the courage to say "I need help"

[@april4848]

She's an angel!

[@missylou725]

And it's especially hard for men.

[@ReviewsChannel-e4r]

Too bad Maxine didn't recruit biker type bar patrons to catch up to her in a parking lot.

[@zxy78267]

Truly! He's very fortunate to have such a good friend.

[@Tubifia]

Omg, the anger and disgust I feel towards that woman when hearing the recordings...

[@nancygodsey8312]

It's like Johnny Depp and his domestic abuse from his then wife. He can't fix it and the only way to survive is to get out of it.

[@shirleyhunt8769]

Yes she is a malignant narcissist

[@CaliWeHo]

She sounds like a devil! 😢

[@gd8740]

Weren’t they re-enactments? That’s what it said on the video. You can’t trust just one side. Judge people after both sides are heard.

[@purelica]

@gd8740 The recordings were real because he secretly recorded her. It’s the acting (shadows behind doors) that was re-enacted.

[@MalBeats]

This really hits me hard. I'm going through abuse right now. I'm not as old as this guy and am getting out before it escalates any further. It started not so bad, a little name calling, some shoving here and there but it consistently escalated to the point my life has been threatened twice and I have had an sorts of things thrown at me and held above me menacingly. My experience has been it's very hard to accept that I am a victim,I don't really like that label but the more I see and hear the account of others the more I have come to understand that I am indeed in an abusive marriage and it is not my fault. I will not accept the guilt and manipulation anymore and if you are in a similar situation neither should you.

[@Weissguys6]

Reading this 8 months later, I pray you are somewhere safe now and on the path to healing.

[@nomeacaso4034]

You ok?

[@alisaphillips9517]

What a hero and such a strong man for speaking out. Meet should be able to ask for help. This matcho stigma is ridiculous.😊

[@willdiesel8431]

The so called "Macho" stigma has nothing to do with that red headed devil getting less time than a man would in the same position. Please 🤫 and atleast learn how to spell.

[@sarcasticallyrearranged]

It’s other men a lot of the time that’ll dismiss their male friends when abuse is mentioned. Most people don’t understand how difficult it is to escape from an abusive situation.

[@willdiesel8431]

@@sarcasticallyrearranged that's not exactly true. Sounds anecdotal.

[@Emy53]

Tony is lucky Tracy didn't kill him. His ex girlfriends probably didn't like his expansiveness. He appears weak to some women. Someone with Tracy's personality saw his weakness. I doubt he was ever strong.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

@@sarcasticallyrearranged Yes I can understand.

[@honeyboobaloo]

"The more upset i got, the more she enjoyed it" that is a classic trait of a narcissistic abuser..

[@susannaengelbrektsson9801]

Just like my ex boyfriend. The more i screeamed the wors he hit and kikked me.

[@jeanieW4332]

That is called psychopath.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

It sure is.

[@Alex-sr3ez]

@@jeanieW4332agreed, definitely a psychopath!

[@MorningDove]

The sweet little boy at the beginning of the video is the same kind and strong adult man at the end!!! Never, ever change, Tony ~ You deserve true happiness 😊

[@amber40494]

Well said

[@MorningDove]

@@amber40494 thank you 😊

[@mm-qj6cc]

In schools we need critical relationship theories. Ingrain the warnings and dangerous flags, to override the lovey, dovey feelings we all have, before the fog lifts.

[@einienj3281]

Exactly, relationship skills. How else will they learn, except by going through it.. many lives could be saved if people recognized red flags early on..

[@NachoAE360]

We actually were taught this at least in my high school, I graduated 10 years ago.

[@cindypattana6071]

I feel so bad for this man. He seems like such a nice guy. No one deserves this type of treatment.

[@interestinginfo6765]

Im so glad they showed pictures of her and aired audio. I hope it helps anyone that comes in contact with her in the future.

[@missylou725]

Absolutely. She needed to be exposed.

[@Elegant_Sausage]

Yep, since the punishment wasn't too great, the public shaming will pick up the slack. She's horrible

[@Bananastrawberrypancakessyrup1]

@@Elegant_Sausage I have no problem with cancel culture if it’s used for people like Tracy!!

[@bones5785]

The short recording of the verbal abuse is enough to give me PTSD. Years of that without this man retaliating is commendable. To me, it shows his chivalry and innate goodness.

[@ericb8413]

I got triggered listening also. Was raised with narc father screaming and cussing. Can’t stand to hear it now.

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

Yes, I wanted to beat her a** just hearing that little bit. There's no way I could have endured that. He is an extremely strong man.

[@ladennayoung2939]

It was just a lot. It was just way too much, scary, and overwhelming. I'm glad that he is okay. I hate that he went through that. God honestly allows everything to happen for a reason. Prayerfully, his story will help others to be able to get out of their situation in JESUS' NAME. AMEN.

[@jenniferbailey5914]

As a survivor of physical and emotional abuse I absolutely relate to these people and how, even though you survive, it changes you forever! I still trust no one and I don’t think I ever will!

[@anglophils645]

All you have to do to be happy, is to learn to trust in, and believe in, yourself. When you get your confidence and sense of self back, you'll begin to trust your instincts regarding others again. Start volunteering, it will bring you out of yourself, and you'll feel good about yourself for helping others.

[@JohnDavis-yz9nq]

This is not about a woman being abused. We don’t care about your abuse. This is about it happening to men.

[@olabeg]

you sound abusive.

[@patticanning5053]

Amen me too

[@CocoEmmet61]

​@@JohnDavis-yz9nq it's all the same to whomever the abuse happens too, this fact seems to be lost on you! As for your statement that WE don't care about this persons abuse, well speak for yourself because I for one do care about the abuse that's happened to any individual.

[@ASAMB12]

Kudos to Tony for making his story public. There are still plenty of people who do not want to understand that men can me abused by women, too.

[@nohandle62]

Never understood people who treat other people this way.

[@barbeegirl7196]

They are demonic evil spirits of Satan.Seeds of the devil himself .

[@MegaWakingup]

Sickening to listen to. Much respect to Tony for how he conducted himself and for reaching out. Hopefully, his experience will give other men permission to speak up and get out too. His ex deserved a much stiffer punishment. I hope she gets the help she needs so others don't suffer.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

She don't have any mental illness it is her nature to behave and conduct like that.

[@sunnyjoy229]

​@@Fan-zx1lz yes that is right. She has done these crimes knowing she is abusing her partner.

[@justme-dm7sb]

People at that far end of the narcissistic spectrum are beyond help. It IS their only personality. There is nothing in their minds to change. It simply isn't there.

[@justme-dm7sb]

@joanarc7963 ALL people have some form of narcissistic tendancies. If they didn't they would all be door mats. Most don't have enough to call them an actual narcissist. It is a spectum, for everyone.

[@ralex3697]

Yep and they target passive people like Tony

[@tobymahaney7219]

Hes lucky he got out alive, she wanted you dead.

[@mechellewinslow65]

My brother was abused by his wife and he was way taller and bigger then her but he never wanted to hurt her. He finally left her. Same thing happened to my brother when he called police, she started crying and said he hit her and he was arrested

[@maryvee4917]

I would of beat her ass if it was my brother.

[@joycebricker3814]

Yes my brother was arrested. She had a bruise that she probably got hitting the edge of the counter. In the photo they had to draw a line around it point with a pen. My brother was 6’3” she was less than 5 ft. If he’d ever hit her she’d have been in a hospital. He ask her for a divorce there youngest child was 16. Her friends told her if she went to the battered women’s shelter they’d get her a lawyer. He never hit her she hit him.

[@april4848]

That's BS and completely unfair when girls claim abuse and police just believe them. I feel bad for guys, if anyone ever touches my brother he won't need to lay a hand because I'll clean her clock!

[@darcybarwick6404]

Sounds like a narc

[@csnow1361]

Everyone has the right to express them selfs. This may be about men. Yet any one who has been abused can comprehend. The pain. And shame. Hearing this makes me feel more for abused men. .the cycle must be brocken in my life as well he tyrely wanted me to be like him fyck that I'm peaceful loving .I'm not a human monstro like him

[@mechellewinslow65]

I’m so glad he taped this stuff!

[@Broadtolove]

Hi Mechelle! I'm sorry to drop this here, but I was just surfing around your KZbin channel and I wanted to say hi. I'm guessing you must be a friendly person because your comments are always so nice and respectful. If it's okay with you, I'd love to be friends! If it sounds weird or embarrassing in any way, please don't embarrass me by replying. Have a great day!

[@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim]

@@Broadtolove catfish

[@Broadtolove]

@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim No

[@NoLefTurnUnStoned.]

@@Broadtolove Bit weird Maxwell🙄

[@msch7620]

You can see in his eyes that he is a kind man. My heart breaks for him.

[@DaVinci368]

I endured that same sort of abuse for the first 18 years of my life - but as a child there was no one to call. I’d been singled out as the one child who was hated by everyone from parents to siblings to extended family. Looking back now I understand that I became the family scapegoat and the place where everyone else could take out their violence, hatred and sexual fantasies. I’m deeply relieved to hear this fellow has a friend and that he managed to break free from his tormentor.

[@MsAdventure531]

I’m sorry for your pain. You deserved so much better during those first 18 years. I hope this comment finds you well. 🧸🙏🏼🌹

[@DaVinci368]

@@MsAdventure531 thank you. Your kindness is much appreciated.

[@ashtonstout7375]

I’m sorry your truly evil family abused you. Children are precious and they deserve to be adored and taken care of well. I hope you have chosen your own family and I hope you are deeply loved.

[@DaVinci368]

@@ashtonstout7375 thank you.💕

[@AuntyFabulous23]

Go find yourself a chosen family. People you choose...who adore you, who you adore. Love and light to you precious.

[@wc5436]

Seems like such a sweet and good looking guy. Hope he finds someone to love him the way he deserves. ❤

[@Fan-zx1lz]

I wish all the best for him. ❤️❤️

[@anitastanley8986]

With two failed Marriages he also had a problem.

[@cynthiaconway2114]

His friend likes him.

[@cherrytraveller5915]

@@anitastanley8986 that’s not fair. You are judging him on his failed marriages but you don’t know why those marriages failed.

[@hannahrosa5485]

The best and most powerful day of my life was the day I physically left and went into hiding. I was hiding but I was free.

[@Broadtolove]

Hey Hanna! Apologies for dropping this here I came across your KZbin channel and I would love to know you better. I'm guessing you must be an honest person, because I always found your comments to be so nice and respectful. If it's okay with you, I'd love to be friend but if it sounds odd or embarrassing in any way please don't embarrass me by replying. Have a wonderful day, and keep sharing!

[@carltongirl95]

Tony well done for pursuing her abuse in court and speaking about it...speaking about what Tracey put you through will help you but it will also help other men to come forward as well...I'm glad she got sent to prison but it wasn't long enough and I hope she remains single for the rest of her life as well because she will do this again I'm sure...very informative video and extremely sad thankyou though for sharing...from me in Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺

[@lindapalmer870]

Hello from a fellow Aussie, Orange, N.S.W

[@carltongirl95]

@@lindapalmer870 hi there 💜

[@lylahdaniels]

👋🏽 from Queensland

[@carltongirl95]

@@lylahdaniels hi Lylah from a cool Melbourne lol

[@jewelsm.2346]

My heart hurts to know that anyone- especially someone like this gentle man- suffered so much emotionally & physically. Thank God he had that wonderful lady friend who was strong & held him accountable. Good for him too for sharing his story and helping others.

[@missrayelyn3045]

Tony, you are a lovely man. I'm very happy you escaped from the evil existence. Thank you for sharing your story and helping other survivors.

[@aubreyleonae4108]

Happened to me. I put up with it for 20 years, then I came home to see her physically abusing our 7 year old son. That made me leave. 6 years later she attacked her live in boyfriend who strangled her. My boy was 13. He barely remembers his mom. I'm thankful that the last time we saw her she was clean and living in a group home. That's where she met her murderer. I am still so conflicted as I know that she instigated the fight. . . I just don't know, I feel different on days.. I've been in therapy for severe PTSD ever since, going on 30 years now. My religion did not allow for divorce. I still feel shame though I know I shouldn't. I keep it a well guarded secret. Why did it take 20 years to leave ? Even after she shot at me I stayed. Since then I've become a very dominate person. I won't allow being intimidated. When it happens , and it does, I'm instantly triggered, ready and eager to take it all the way on the spot . . .all the way. Done some bad things to assholes. Very bad space to be in every day. Terrible survivors guilt, I was not there to save her that time. I had to choose, I chose to save my son.

[@lindamahrer7067]

You had no choice ...you saved your son.

[@aubreyleonae4108]

@@lindamahrer7067 thanks I've never regretted my choice. He just left from a visit. He's a wonderful husband and father. I'm so proud. We see each other every week.

[@mares3841]

Way to get yourself and your son free. I heard it once, "you can't take on someone else's 'karma' ... My mom used to say, "they'll get theirs but you won't be the one to give it to them." Thanks for sharing and helping others.

[@yamiletsoler3464]

God bless you so much.

[@peppercat8718]

You did the right thing, thank you for saving your son. You are his hero.

[@maemarcil149]

A man I knew very well was a victim of his wife’s abuse. Always covered in bruises,scratches. The very bad injuries he would say he fell down the basement stairs. He remained with her until she passed. He missed her terribly despite the abuse. I never understood that kind of love.

[@mightymouse1005]

Research Trauma Bond...its what keeps abused people in the relationship. A slow insidious degrading of everything that makes you human.

[@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim]

it’s not love but codependency.

[@megamoneyk]

They feel sorry for them.

[@deborahclouser3601]

He probably grew up in an abusive household. It's what is known, comfortable, and crazily enough feels like love.

[@beepboopbeep4801]

My uncle Jim was like this with my aunt Blanche. She was a whole beech but he loved her and stayed. We joked she would pass and he'd get a few years of peace before death.... they died within 24 hours of each other. Trauma responses mixed with "love" be crazy a.f.

[@shannonjefferson3439]

These abusive people boggle my mind. If their spouse is so horrible, then why stay with them? Everyone ask the victim why they don't just leave. No, why don't these abusers leave if they hate their mate so much? Weak, cowards. Hurting the people who love them, unconditionally.

[@JenniferKitchens123]

Because it’s a power trip. The abuser will not voluntarily give up their power source- the people or animals they abuse.

[@Sindrijo]

Narcissistic supply. They can only thrive be putting others down.

[@india1422]

Victims are groomed. you end up believing everything that is said to you. Also, leaving is the most dangerous time. Many abused people are killed in the time after leaving. Often with their children.

[@donatelalarosa9109]

This woman had a personality disorder. Borderline personality disoder.

[@robertaturk]

It’s like a fly in a spider web - being targeted move by move - up then down, up then down. They systematically break you down. Your soul and personhood gets smaller and smaller. They break your spirit, steel your money and do a smear campaign to destroy your relationships. The courts, lawyers and people like you side with the charming covert bully and when you leave you are left a broken bag lady. They have bled you dry and they leave you out to hang. Evil.

[@robinbrumbaugh9857]

It has to take a very strong person to take steps to have their abuser prosecuted. Lovely to hear him say he’s getting his confidence back little by little. God bless Tony and his supporters 🥰

[@kimcwhite6509]

Tony, you are a nice man and you never deserved such a horrible woman. I endured verbal abuse, but not that severe. It leaves one feeling hopeless, depressed snd trapped! I'm so sorry Tony. You seem like such a nice man. I just lost my son that died in his sleep. He was stressed out from his narcissistic ex wife. It wasn't all her fault, and he was just starting to come out of it slowly and ready to kick her to the curb. Please stay strong and get some counseling. You will overcome this. Epilepsy does not matter, nor your education to a good woman. She will love you for what you are. Take care💙

[@ileanamuntean7338]

What a sweet guy. He was very unlucky to be fooled by this monster.

[@jocelynsnowden9054]

She had to be a drunk also . They are the worst, and most abusive women .