Don't Make This MISTAKE When You Want To Change Your Life

[@MandyJRoss]

If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗

[@blw4089]

Thank you so much

[@SkarXOX]

Thank you!! 🤍

[@larryshipper8070]

Thank you I wish the same for you! ❤

[@lapetitemorte415]

Beautiful comment! ❤

[@lifewithsha4783]

Thank you 😊 I hope this for you as well

[@SF-pm1ov]

‘You were born as you and you will die as you… this is your journey-nobody needs to approve it.’ This. New mantra. Thank you!

[@g.1260]

Well put. Thank you!

[@anonymousnation5235]

Same. And it's surprising how my social circle is automatically cleansing itself and I'm becoming more confident in myself.

[@lapetitemorte415]

I changed for me. He didn’t like the changed me….he left….and that is ok by me. Magical to know I am happier within myself. Still on the journey, but no looking back. Thank you for all the videos. ❤

[@debbiewinsatlife4799]

quietly and systematically changed my mindset about myself and once on solid ground about my own worth, got out of an almost 20 year toxic marriage at 65 years old. It took many years to quiet the voices in my head saying I deserved the narcissistic alcoholic I was married to. Free to be me now and celebrate me on the daily.

[@rachellerockel]

Well done ❤

[@andycristiana1043]

I'm married to an alcoholic (narcissist?) as well. I love him, but am joyfully unattached. I'm in my joy and peace and enjoy life on my own terms. If he doesn't approve (like it), he knows where the door is. Since I stopped the codependency, everything quieted down so much. I focus on my children and myself and enjoy the happy days (sober days) with my husband.

[@MyBestLife1]

*Do it FOR YOU & WITH (only) YOU in mind.* 👌🏾 Great points, thanks for this advice when it comes to changing our loves. 💚🌺

[@PushPastParalysis]

This is a sign from the universe that the changes I’m making and about to make are right for me. Thank you. 🙏

[@mikepiccolo32]

No not really

[@IndigoHazelnut]

I agree a 💯%.. If we are still operating in a space of 'how do I get this person to see me in a new light.. We are still trying to control the external therefore we are still operating from a masculine energy. Embracing our Feminine energy comes with a lot of surrender As always, thank you Margarita ❤

[@deecee9878]

Your videos are fire! It's all about validating ourselves and changing ourselves for us first in order to live a happier more fufilling life. When you change and you operate from a different mindset, everything around you changes without you having to say a word.Thank you so much💜

[@rachellerockel]

Yes, I’m experiencing this now and it’s kinda magical ❤

[@anafbri04]

Bingo! When you are ready to change you set the boundaries without caring how others will feel about it. The mind set is I don’t do this anymore because is not good for me, however they take it their problem not mine. I stop trying to control how people perceive me, it’s not my job.

[@ofkgjsl]

I‘ve never come across anyone to look so close to Scarlett Johansson like you. It surprised me even more that you said you were insecure about your looks. Love your videos, they feel so soothing to my soul

[@andycristiana1043]

Maybe also a young Helen Mirret?

[@lydiahanoucha7271]

This video came in divine timing... God is really speaking through you 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️

[@ThuNguyen-cy5ei]

same here!

[@ursula4045]

Less than 60 seconds in and I was already sold on this message! Right on time for me... just subscribed to the podcast. Your content is really getting me through this break up! THANK YOU!!!!!!

[@Jol0506]

❤❤❤ so true!! His actions, words, communication... it was all about HIM. I see that now! He won't support me like I support him, only supporting his dreams, his choices, ... but never about mine! Or at least when he doesn't need to do anything, everything is fine... now I'm healing at this is SO unattractive!! My whole life resolved around him, he was the center of my wordl... and me? Ugh please add value to my life or get going. I still kind of love him, but he ain't the man for me right now. I chose myself and I am so glad I stopped obsessing and controlling over another human being

[@stardustNine]

Your videos on these personal philosophy, self improvement, and attachment style topics are my absolute favorite! They are helping me so much in my journey of healing and transformation so thanks a million, you're amazing!💖✨

[@PrasanshaAcharya-gf8bp]

Wise words "Don't announce your change cause it nullifies the change" 💯

[@glittergirl2547]

100% needed this reminder since I’ve started this work I have slipped in and out of doing it for me and doing it for him. Thank you!

[@jas2beinspired146]

Healing and detaching lately. It really brings peace. Thank you 🥺

[@DilCardyn]

It's essential to remember that change is not a one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person may not work for another. So, let's not compare our journeys to others'. Each of us has unique strengths and challenges, and that's what makes our stories special. I've learned from experience that having a support system is invaluable. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who encourage and motivate you can make a world of difference. Share your aspirations with family, friends, or even find communities online that share your interests.

[@ffijamletsjam]

Praying that a magic miracle of abundance happens to you very soon ❤

[@tinedot7]

This video came across my feed at the exact moment I needed to see it. Anxiously attached here, struggling. And doing the work for close to a year, and I still waiver. Because of your confidence, inspiration and videos, it gives me the strength and empowers me to change my life would become the person I want to become. I just need to believe it more and do it for myself.❤ thank you

[@purplelocs5411]

Another thing to note is that you can actually put the effort in and change. An yet that person will still see you and treat you the same. Every time a disagreement come up, they will bring up the past, never nothing current. They will never let you move on or forget. They will keep you in that same place in their minds. So eventually you will have to leave and start with someone new. Always change for you because you can not please everyone.

[@barbi1079]

I can’t explain how much you helped me with your explanations and advices. I will have you in my prayers and will always be thankful.

[@sarahr4231]

Love you queen 💞 Your videos add positivity to my day! I feel encouraged and ready to THRIVE, not just survive. Thanks for everything ❤️

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

I'm so glad!

[@mikepiccolo32]

​@@Margarita.Nazarenkowhy do they call you queen?

[@bellakim9404]

There have been many trying to deliver this message, yet You made me feel this message was made just for me. Thank you for making me feel seen! 🥰

[@YanaWanderlust.]

I started my journey of detaching myself from people and men just a month ago, and I definitely need this one video. Thanks Margarita.❤

[@justanotherviewer00]

It was my birthday yesterday and I want to change and be better. I dont know where to start but I'm glad this has been recommended

[@TheMisssy2]

I love your advice and I am using it on 2 people, my ex and my son, but mostly using it for myself & both those people can grow without me..I am the one that needs to GROW & I'm the one who has to stop trying to control everything & everyone around me, I have been breathing easier since watching your videos. Thank you.

[@valeriel.freniere795]

What she said at 8:32, the words, the message, everything… I replayed many times I needed this! Thank you so much Margarita! It’s divinely s’en and received ❤

[@lifewithsha4783]

Thank you your videos are helping me to identify whats wrong with me and how to journey to healing 😢❤

[@suziandchopstix]

Thank you for this ❤️ you have no idea how helpful you’ve been to me, I find myself repeating your videos over and over while I’m driving, showering, getting ready etc. it’s like an affirmation that reminds me to snap out of my head and brings me back to a more sane reality.

[@temakhosinkambule5893]

Because trying to change for them instead of self shows that there's still a 'pick me' syndrome issue lingering. Changing and bettering yourself for self is the true game changer.

[@jennie39105]

Loving what you put out there Margarita. You've really shifted so much within me. Would you put out something on how we can discern between when we're asking too much - I need more affection, words, actions- and when we really need to overcome on bc they're not stepping up. Thank you.

[@jessicaselenecenteno]

Indeed. I will never this time around.

[@sunlovr13]

Currently going through a suspicion of infedility that he's keeping from me.. im so confused when I should talk to him and how should I confront him, to make sure that he's going to actually say the truth, cheating involved or not. Because I just need some clarity right now so that I can also make a choice for myself and protect my own sanity and peace. Even though I still love him dearly (and we've not had such an issue like this for 3yrs being together), I have to choose myself and what I deserve if he can't value, respect, and love me anymore...

[@mdtrabalhos]

I very much agree with Margarita's words and I am thankful she is doing the work of educating, challenging and motivating people in suffering. The change from an emotional co-regulation style (co-dependency) to a self-regulation style (inter-dependency) is extremely painful as it challenges the very structure of the co-dependent self. It is a change that demands a confrontation with the fundamental fear of being utterly alone and unlovable (a fear with the intensity of a fundamental threat to psychological integrity, a threat to the Self, experienced like a danger of imminent death). I am not exagerating. The experience of threat to integrity of the Self makes the co-dependent rely on a emotion-to-action style of regulation (focus on emotion to organise one's actions). The change to a self-regulation style implicates a change in that style to its exact opposite, meaning, to a action-to-emotion style (focus on actions first so to organise ones emotions). The key word is "focus". The change is not about fixing ones emotions as ones emotions are like the weather, we can not change them. The goal is to practice "attention refocusing". Driving ones attention focus from emotion to actions. from emotion to action. It is extremely difficult but it can be done. And it's easily done when that focus (action before emotion) is practiced outside strong emotional dysregulation. If you are reading this from that place of pain and worry, be compassionate towards yourself but, also, be brave! You are stronger than you were made to believe.

[@OO-ct4hq]

BEEN WAITING FOR YOU BABEZ

[@redpearlss]

Gosh I'm falling in love with your energy

[@Esved_ibz13]

you are so wonderful Margarita I hope your messages will help a lot of us ❤

[@kpopobsessed2973]

I never comment on videos: but honestly you answered all the questions i wanted to know

[@kingagrad3436]

Hey Margarita, here is your new fan from Poland. Thank you for the video, cheers!

[@sharnehiggan6709]

Thank you for this I'm learning so much about myself and how my now ex has stopped me from progressing forward

[@That_dark_ranger]

It's you Vs you in this life

[@LoudzTou]

I really needed to listening to this . Especially in the right time.

[@shubhavida6961]

Thankyou for this video... on time. Now I leave it to God and time to tell

[@TheAvaRox]

When you start to change yourself for the better, and therefore not let certain people have access to you anymore, how do you navigate feeling guilty when you don't answer their messages/cut them off? I feel the need to give them the cold shoulder for my own well-being because I don't benefit from any of the conversations, but I always feel guilty after completely ignoring them and I overthink it. Sometimes its hard to see whether or not we are cutting good people out that truly love us, because our own biases and misinterpretations get in the way....

[@outerspace7079]

Perfect timing I have been wanting to do an “aura” glow up

[@francesca2317]

Absolutely savor your advice. Thank you. More please.

[@monicamejia6679]

Thanks for your kind words, bestie. Till next time, love you. Bye!

[@LL-dy8id]

Honestly such valuable advice! I adore you, thank you ❤

[@shanagirl33]

Love this. Thank you, Margarita! Love your videos🤍

[@Anonymouss_99]

I'm was sad, but when you said *How do I feel about my hair being down* that's make me smile, I love your little humor ❤😂

[@DarlingLove-ku3eu]

I’m ready for change, BUT!!! I hurt him in figuring it out. I was apologetic for that! But I don’t want a call back.

[@kristalreyes712]

This was for me and came at the right time! 😮😊 I've let go and moving on

[@JosefinaTorres-u5b]

Omg . I needed to hear this . Thank you for your help and videos..❤

[@karishmasahu849]

Exactly what I needed to hear on my birthday ❤

[@cosma-shivalorenzato7304]

this helped me so much right now, thank you for sharing this!

[@BonnieBeatsMusic]

FACTS ON FACTS!

[@ellythedreamerHQ]

Thank you so much for the lesson! The straps are lovely too!

[@KyraMcKinney]

This was just what I needed! Also I love when you come up with the different guy names lol

[@TinaMarieBarnard]

Paul, Roger, Juan … I am now changing 🤣😂🤣 cracked me up. Thank you.

[@fakhrazarin6986]

You nailed it ❤

[@Raul-nv7rr]

Me myself and I creating an Avatar of who I want to be…sounds like the plan! 😊

[@Jenniferx0x]

Thank you girl 🙌🏼 also hair care routine 💯 🔥

[@abdalahalqalaf]

More videos like this please

[@user-sb4it1cg7k]

I think that even being an anxious attachment style affects your friendships too..correct me if I’m wrong

[@chumavaya6467]

Margarita you are fire 🔥

[@noamay]

Wow you changed a lot from earlier videos💜

[@lauragroh2487]

Well put.

[@premeyumlife443]

Thank u for this my lady. We really appreciate it.🙏🏼❤️😘😘😘Sandy

[@sarahestrella4456]

absolutely amazing!

[@kristina4395]

Super true... 💯 .. great nails this time

[@gummi775]

Takk fyrir vinkona 🧡

[@edytadelfel249]

Well, if you work on your self, your conciousnes expends and so is your frequency, so how are you gonna meet someone that doesn’t work on themselves. No can do!!!!! And when you vibe high very few qualify to be in your cicle otherwise you are wasting time. Bit blant but it's the truth!

[@destroyraiden]

I think there is some validity in telling the other person you're changing not in a look at me way but as an informative way so they know you're going ahead to make different life changes and they on their own accord will have to decide if they will change not as an ultimatum but as a come with you but on their own clock and time table you're making changes regardless of what they do or don't do. Cuz if you have people close to you and you're changing like a mid life crisis bit you & they don't know who you are or why you're doing it (as such a change can seem very random to the people outside of your skull) telling them kindly you're making life changes that you don't have a full report to hand to them now but you're going to make changes, you want them in your life but you're going to change and they may also change as a result of this, and so this will lessen tension and allow them to also change but the person who may want you in their life too can be told you're acting different cuz you've decided things, you still want them in your life but you'll change may give them room to change how they respond to you or show up in your life or they may make their own independent healing ways as a result of what you're doing as well. If you don't tell them they feel hurt, rejected, confused, who is this person? Where do I/we fit into this stranger's life? ect. and it makes more friction these people may've wanted to stay with you and grow in positive ways as well with you but without the communication they can't as they have no idea what is wrong is it them? you? Neither? They don't know and so they'll get hostile, pull away, or just keep poorly trying to understand what is going on.

[@RedRubyPhoenix-72]

I agree with you... he didn't delete me from social media the first couple times my anxiety stole the keys to the car and went joyriding.... I wondered why hasn't this guy ghosted me yet? They all kind of ghosting me... I thought it was cuz I kept picking narcissistic men or players... I wondered why I kept attracting the same type of man to realize... I started looking at my own unhealthy erratically obsessive behaviors which were very embarrassing... This week after another joyride with my anxiety... I finally hit the wall...Although he is an avoidant...filling my gas tank with the fuel it needed...I was the one behind the steering wheel... And I had my foot down on that pedal of anxiety... good Ole Codependency was right in the passenger seat cheering me on... I guess the point that I'm trying to make is he gave me space to change but I didn't know what to change... let alone how to change and I kept acting the same way... thought I was being played... feeling like I was the only victim... I realize now how the hell could anybody deal with the stress that I was putting on them...hell I'm causing my own heart complications because of my stress and anxiety...I wanted to be seen...I didn't expect him to answer every text I sent or even call me all the time...I wanted acknowledgement out of the bedroom...acknowledge that I meant more in a piece of ass...I found I was living by my emotions only...I think I tried to control every aspect... I became demanding enough when I can get the answers I wanted I realize now that I projected my fears instead of just going with the flow...I realized I was a very BIG part of the problem... SOMETHING HAD TO CHANGE.. change had to be something from my end... Something I had to do for me... Cuz I would repeat the cycle ALL over again with somebody else after chase him away....I wish that I would've realized this before my latest anxiety driven codependent joyride...I have to accept that it is something that I cannot go back & change...when he gave me that space...He still stuck on me by not ghosting me and gave me a chance but I didn't realize that that's what was happening...Communication definitely needed to be stronger between us...I truly believe we could've worked things out.... I don't know what healthy is...I grew up in a very abusively toxic narcissistic family....I thought every family was like mine...I thought we were normal I really did...HE STEPPED ASIDE & GAVE ME THAT CHANCE...Unfortunately I was too damn selfish & too damn stubborn to honestly see the hurt that I caused him when I pulled back...I'm sorry that I was over the top not valuing his emotions & ignoring efforts through his hurt and pain from a previous marriage...I feel horrible I think I'm the bad guy in this... Your comment here made me realize he was trying to help me I just was too bullheaded and stubborn in my own little world... I didn't take his thoughts and feelings into consideration and disrespected him... And the efforts he made... I'm so sorry that I did that to him... I apologize before but I don't think I understand what I was apologizing for until now... Thank you for your comment open my eyes... I don't even know what to say to him anymore... I've said sorry a million times... But now I know what I'm sorry for😔😔😔❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@petrooberholster1515]

Amen sister!

[@GiePena]

When he doesn’t call me on his breaks I have the urge to call him. Should I call him or should I just let it be. Because we text all through the day. We have been in a long distance now for 5 months. I have to go back to my country. But we pray every night before we sleep. I get anxious tho when it takes time for him to respond. And then he would usually call on his breaks but not very time and when he doesn’t I feel bad😢

[@daryaqadernejad1231]

God bless you baby you 100 percent right

[@nicoleemon]

I am becoming her ❤

[@Billy33753]

Loved your video

[@malindateal14]

I love ❤️ this

[@alexismyers1856]

How do I make the intrusive thoughts stop that has them in mind with this change 😩 I want it to be for me and my brain keeps bringing him into the equation

[@martinkomplex5255]

ty

[@dannifeinstein5556]

🤯 wow that hit home

[@VKat]

Went from Roger to Juan 😂

[@TheSharpink]

Please Margarita I just wanna know where your necklaces are from? like very badly. I don't even think I'm able to absorb your content because I can't stop staring at your jewellery. Would love to know where they are from. Thanks

[@Flysi78]

Tru say need to change for me 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@shaoyan1]

الترجمة التلقائية لا تعمل فقط الانكليزية ما هو الحل ؟

[@everitadave]

Fasting changes personality, body and life. 3 days and voila!

[@Zfaith_fitness_detox]

I’m a Holistic Personal Trainer and Detoxification Specialist. Basically you have to detox from them! Then once you see yourself as God designed you, you’ll be free! Nobody makes you whole, except God Himself and you’re believing who you are in Him.

[@Karollavine]

Her face remained me of brienne of Tarth game of thrones they may have same European ancestry

[@zoraamazonia]

Wtf suddenly an ad for strips. Maybe you put it directly on top of your vid so we can play forward when not interested in your ad

[@arte1447]

Or maybe you just stop whining. It's her channel. That's how she makes money. You get her advice for free. She has the right to play her ads wherever she wants. Entitled brats...

[@tequilachanel7312]

Amen and amen 🙏🏾

[@hassantoufaily]

Hi

[@BenQotsa]

where is that accent from?

[@Flysi78]

👌 feels like u just spoke to me lol.

[@inininin9752]

I like you so much ❤

[@chilloften]

Yes! I never reach out backwards yet he is still on my mind 4 years later. I was so attracted. I like to be attracted. Anyway, thank you. I want to stop idealizing this person and have regrets & hopes.

[@rawfrequency1453]

Margarita, I am ready for the next steps in our relationship...may I have your hand in marriage? ;)

[@Swanselm]

Yes, fairy godmother. Show me the way.

[@angelacrowder6127]

❤