My Grandmother was My First Bully

This was a very difficult video to make, but I needed to acknowledge that my grandmother was my first bully. After my second therapy session, I realized that I needed to speak about some of the things my grandma used to say. Many of these things shaped my insecurities considerably. Anyway, thank you for listening. Share your thoughts in the comments below, click like, and subscribe to my channel if you haven't yet. I appreciate your support!
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[@TeraZilla5]

My God! No grandmother should ever be like that. :(

[@DonnyWinter]

Agreed. Hope you're doing well, my friend!

[@tiffanygray]

This broke my heart. Donny I'm really sorry she treated you that way. You don't have to feel guilty for being honest with yourself. She chose to be abusive toward you and project her own issues onto you. I am glad that your relationship with her got better over the years. But I'm still really sorry she put you through that. It's the worst when it's someone you love. I'm really proud of you for opening up about this and being able to be honest with yourself. You are an incredible person. I love you Donny.

[@DonnyWinter]

I love you too, Tiffany. Thank you for always being a pillar of strength in my life!

[@streamofawareness]

Donny, that was brave. One of the worst things about abuse is realizing it was abuse and that happy facade of what you thought the person was comes off in hindsight. It can be crushing and painful and realizing all those splinters you have under your nails are that carefully crafted image of them that you are tearing away is hard. Just remember that you are not the failure, they are. Your grandma was supposed to love and support you and she failed. Who the hell tells a child they’re going to die and go to hell? What a monster! Sorry...it’s true. And I know that hurts to see, but seeing it is a step in finding your power again.

[@DonnyWinter]

You're right. I love you, Cyndi. Thank you for empowering me to do this. You've known about this part of my past for a long time, and it feels good to finally voice it without feeling the shame I used to feel. ❤

[@streamofawareness]

Donny Winter Always remember that the shame of it doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to her. Put it where it belongs, on her. I love you too. 💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕

[@leoyokutan5378]

What everybody else said! Nobody should ever treat their child or grandchild like that. I’m so incredibly sorry you had to go through that. 😞 There is indeed no justifications that excuse her actions. You were not her object. Children are not objects. Trying to treat them as such is just horrific abuse. It hurts to realize such a reality, but it is a major step towards recovery. And I’m glad you have the strength, determination, and bravery to push through it all and bring these problems to the surface to resolve them. 💛

[@DonnyWinter]

I appreciate you, Igni. Thank you for your kind words. ❤

[@leoyokutan5378]

Donny Winter you’re welcome, Donny!😁

[@veganmama2598]

I am sorry she treated you like that. My first bully was my dad's 2nd wife. My long struggle with an eating disorder began when I was 10 thanks to her.

[@blueravenfire]

sorry to hear you had to go through this with your grandma. no family member should treat a child like that. but glad to hear you are slowly healing from her abuse with this conucling. i have been a similar relationship with my dad, as a grew older he would say hurtful things to me to make me feel like I'm worthless because i wasn't either doing enough or working hard enough for him. to this day he still does it. it's hard to get his words out of my head, but I'm trying my best to slowly heal like you are.

[@chichirinuriko20]

That is so true about family. My fist bully was my dad and although I forgave him, the scares from the abuse still hurts

[@0101iiiixxx]

Hi, I feel for you very much, because I had a very similar story in my life. My grandmother was very abusive and manipulative too, to me and my whole family (it's a long story). Some things you were talking about were like quotations from my childhood and my youth. This abuse caused a lot of damage in my emotional health. I'm also in therapy. I wish this bad childhood experience can be turn for something good for you and me. Lots of love and respect.

[@ThePenguinbabe]

My heart breaks for you and I cried throughout the entire video. I want to let you know that whenever your mind is in a bad neighborhood, know that you are enough and you are valid and you matter. You are a light in dark places where all other lights go out. Hugs.

[@greggriddle9552]

Thanks for sharing Donny! So sorry you had to experience such emotional trauma at a young age. You are so brave and insightful! Kudos to you for initiating the therapy that will help you to further heal!

[@SapphireZeev36]

Trauma is never easy. Takes humility and strength to share and say what you have here. I’m sorry that happened. Hang in there.

[@tolstoy431]

I AM so sorry to hear you have NEVER felt secure in front of your grandmother. BECAUSE of the ongoing bulling....I can,t even imagen how damaging this MUST be. .At that age this must be extremely harmfull....Good to talk about this. BECAUSE otherwise IT will eat you from the inside out....I have been bullied for years and years, not from family ,btw ,but nevertheless this will always sort of linger on .......Hugz from Hans

[@zanem-j1808]

Hey Donny I watched your video about the struggles with gay relationships, and im 23 myself and in my country I've only had struggles with guys not wanting committed relationships. I wanted to share the love and say your not the only one 💓 hope your feeling and doing alot better, take care 💛💚💙💜🧡❤

[@DonnyWinter]

I am doing much better, Zane. Thank you for the kind comment! I hope you're doing well too, and I have no doubt you'll find your special someone! ❤

[@taylothlorien]

Grandmas man...they will fuck you up! I have incredible scars from my maternal grandmother. It sounds like yours wasn’t a bully, she was an abuser, mental and physical. I think the word bully downplays what she did. Luckily she didn’t stop you from being the amazing guy I know today!

[@DonnyWinter]

I appreciate you. I knew you'd probably be able to relate to this video after our conversations. We've survived and transformed into pretty awesome people. ❤

[@BackstreetGlambert]

I second Tiffany's and Ari's comments.

[@zackarymario1335]

i subscribed

[@DonnyWinter]

Thanks friend!

[@zackarymario1335]

@@DonnyWinter i love your videos and i love you

[@imperfectmyst]

no one Deserves that BS *Hugs*