Dr. Brené Brown: The Two Most Dangerous Words in Your Vocabulary | SuperSoul Sunday | OWN

Dr. Brené Brown started her research on vulnerability, worthiness and shame six months before September 11, 2001, and says our culture has been marked by deep fear since then. That fear, she says, has now shifted from external events to the fear that we as individuals are simply not enough. Watch to find out why, Dr. Brown says, those two words lead us to shut down emotionally and spiritually. For more on #supersoulsunday, visit WatchOWN.tv/SSS
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Dr. Brené Brown: The Two Most Dangerous Words in Your Vocabulary | SuperSoul Sunday | OWN
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[@annsherman6261]

"Vulnerability is the birthplace of everything we're hungry for." So good.

[@LisaKuhle]

mind blown!! wow!! "there is no creativity and joy without failure."

[@aliwahid9863]

Profound. Maybe that's why our society is collectively stagnant and caught up in things that don't make us progress as human race

[@maxinerice3956]

I agree be brave

[@BM8NY]

AHHHHHHH

[@christinehunziker2957]

@@aliwahid9863 !q!q++

[@SheaSoutherland1]

I'm so happy i stumbled upon Brene Brown. I love this lady so much!!!!!! She's so damn relatable and inspirational!

[@eileenmacdougall8945]

Shea, I so agree !

[@annamarie4104]

Am here to say a big thank you to Chief Dr azeez and his great spirits for saving my relationship. No one would have believe that I and my ex will ever come back together again lovers. But this great spell caster united us in just 15hours. Chief Dr azeez is truly a real and honest online spell caster. Contact him now on his email okundalayeazeez@gmail. com or [phone]

[@FatimaT714]

Exactlyyy. I'm so glad I stumbled upon her too. Her Netflix seminar called "A Call to Courage" was the first time I watched her speak, and she sparked something within me that nothing else did. She's truly amazing.

[@Leonorachi]

About the comments criticizing Oprah and Brene: Can we please stop the critical culture? This is what this is all about, and why we have so much shame. We are always in critical mode. I just want to say this as a plea for change. Thank you for your comments, and I know people are going to jump on me and say IM criticizing, but I just want to find a way and wish there was some way I could express that our primary mode in this culture is criticism of everything around us, and this is why so many people are in shame, awkward, and needing therapy to be vulnerable. We're all human, even Oprah, celebrities, and everyone. In fact they have so much courage for showing up in front of the world and expressing their creative work. Lets give each other space to be vulnerable with acceptance and love, and change our culture by changing our words.

[@petesheehan6927]

+Leonora Dechtiar Well said!

[@martelldave7169]

amen

[@Yellow-Rose]

Leonora Dechtiar I agree, but do you know what TL;DR is? Just a tip.

[@ShadowsMasquerade]

Exactly, thank you!

[@jenniferfree1847]

Yesssss!

[@boipelopolite6803]

Gosh It took me my whole life to 'really' know that I'm enough ❤️🙏🏾

[@ttmatm1825]

boipelo polite , congratulations that is so awesome. I'm still working on it. 😊

[@niclasnorby]

How did you come to this realization? Really curious as I would like to travel the same road.

[@themarch9446]

Good for you & yes you are enough my beautiful queen. Wish more women could be like you.

[@freshstrt3140]

Considering how young you look, I'd say it hasn't taken you all that long :) it appears as tho you are quite ahead of the game! 💕

[@annamarie4104]

bAm here to say a big thank you to Chief Dr azeez and his great spirits for saving my relationship. No one would have believe that I and my ex will ever come back together again lovers. But this great spell caster united us in just 15hours. Chief Dr azeez is truly a real and honest online spell caster. Contact him now on his email okundalayeazeez@gmail. com or [phone]

[@WHATTHEBUCKSHOW]

An act of courage is an act of story telling!

[@leratomakena2417]

I don't 'get' this. How. Just curious.

[@Suzy-Pie]

BuckHollywood Me either. 😕

[@radiccs]

lerato makena You have to have the courage to share who you truly are to the world; live your life everyday be being authentic without the fear of being judged or excluded. You need to let go of both your defenses and pretenses so that the world sees you for you. That's courage: telling your real story one page at a time.

[@jcdomecq8124]

LGBTQ Ted talk

[@themarch9446]

Truth

[@iPodhumanify]

I could watch these Brene Brown clips 10 times a day! They keep me real and hold me up

[@annamarie4104]

Am here to say a big thank you to Chief Dr azeez and his great spirits for saving my relationship. No one would have believe that I and my ex will ever come back together again lovers. But this great spell caster united us in just 15hours. Chief Dr azeez is truly a real and honest online spell caster. Contact him now on his email okundalayeazeez@gmail. com or [phone]

[@blackangel163]

FAIL, First Attempt At Learning. Amen Sisters!

[@btheobsous4619]

God bless U Oprah for these shows

[@pastephinetaylor5615]

I'm thankful that Oprah and Brené open up enough to share freely their insight along with and through their vulnerabilities. If you're reading this: thank you. I appreciate you in my life and in the lives of others.

[@912third]

Dr, Brene Brown, you spoke about the very thing that I have recognized as being prevalent today. It is the "Scarcity Principle". There's not enough. That is the general consensus I have noticed in my interactions with people and what people say on TV. And it is especially strong in the Tea Party. And the Tea Party's scarcity principle is built on fear and that transfers to many people. So the fear is real to them. An example of this is the;newscast about how people in Texas reacted when the government brought in women and children from Central America to house them while they decide what can be done. It was almost a riot. Those people were scared because they thought there wasn't enough. Enough food, enough space, enough clothing, etc. But I believe in the abundance principle.I have faith (and I do not profess to be a Christian) that there is plenty. You have to make a leap of faith. You must open your heart and let it all in. No one can be excluded. Somehow we have to turn people around to the abundance of life Didn't Jesus feed 12 tribes with a few fish and loaves? I imagine that not all of those tribes liked each other. But because of the abundance faith Jesus had all ate and all were peaceful. He did not waste any time thinking about what he should do. He just did it. My question is how do we prove to people that abundance works? How do we get them to not be afraid of absolutely everything? Terrified people are dangerous people because they believe there is not enough for them and their families. This is the cause of so many wars from real war as in Afghanistan to people fighting over who gets the last seat on the bus. How can we start an organization of abundance? Thanks, Dr. Em Crosby

[@marydfoleydavis]

thank God..literally...sets us free from everyone and everything..

[@2dasimmons]

HALLELUYAH!

[@jamiegudmestad-noaafederal2804]

I love how these two women connect. One of them assigns names and meaning to her process (research) and the other just seems to talk to ppl and ask critical questions. But they are both trying to accomplish the same goal, which is what's important.

[@PsulOrtiz]

And what goal is that? Selling books?

[@auzziekeyz6214]

We need to bring her back in 2019 full of insight and knowledge ,

[@kleversonjdsr7986]

theyre both amazing! And Oprah is so lovely

[@markoembarko9045]

It's interesting how since 9/11 and the escalation of fear in society, how all these catastrophic events are now taking place around the world. Our thoughts manifest out into the world and create our reality. Your thoughts are your reality! With that being said, with people holding that fear, mentally, physically, or both, it is no wonder such things are happening. Let's hold the sacred space of loving all that is. Create loving thoughts, reshaping them from fearful to lovingly pure. A throught with no judgment of oneself or outside of oneself is a loving thought. Let's just exist and be with that which was created specifically for us. This earth, our mission is love. Love to all of you. I appreciate your soul... ♥ Aleisha R

[@MichelleB2b]

Aleisha Reppucci What a lovely sentiment, thank you. Your suggestions are fierce and effective...

[@markoembarko9045]

Thank you for being a part of the change. Namaste ♡

[@LisaGindi]

I wish we could in a Renaissance period and let my art company and others I love and promote ( like Robin Antar, William Hernandez, and Kortez Robinson) flourish..... Maybe then the people could just be critical of my art, which I can handle.

[@LadyTy12]

Ally Sha Beautifully put love and light to your radiant energy!

[@Yellow-Rose]

I cannot begin to tell you how invaluable and beneficial this video is! It is exactly what I need to hear right now as I am shifting careers, and also finally coming into my own awakening. Thank you so much, Oprah, and for bringing Dr. Brown to me as well.

[@Nerthus9]

It is true that we are scared of vulnerability and openness, that we carry a lot of shame and feelings of not being enough. But really, the reason for that is the ego, the idea that "we are and ought to be somebody". If we are nobody or another way to put it, if we are universals, there is no somebody to protect and thus no feeling of vulnerability. Life becomes a flow of experiences, witnessed and never condemned.

[@beershebagiwu3527]

This definitely deeper in 2020💔😔

[@jattprime2927]

Omg i burst into tears with this....

[@loveishappiness7330]

Love her...passion and courage. And remarkable work. Wish there were more people working to get to the heart of things that really matter.

[@MrRufusRToyota]

Her definition of courage is not just wrong it’s ridiculous.

[@CappySays]

I love the 'someone get the BELLS' response ... just this week I was led to initiate a 10 DAY RING A BELL or send a HANDWRITTEN note to someone, anyone ... it is changing the atmosphere we live in. I have been ringing bells now for 3 days!!!!!! I listen to this 2 1/2 year old video and Oprah says, " SOMEONE GET THE BELLS!!" You simply can't make this stuff up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

she is an awesome human being. I love her EQ responses to situations.

[@chosen1504]

Sorry but after reading all the critical coments about Oprah's ego I realized that the people who are doing the criticizing are so worried about someone els they probobly are not focusing on their own internal work that needs to be done.

[@Lucia-Sosa]

Denova Clarke both can we true. I think they are mad at her incongruence, since she consistently preaches authenticity.

[@Nonameforyoudangit]

@@Lucia-Sosa Yes!! Both can be true, sister.

[@erichbrough6097]

Radical denial can be super-comfy, as long as it can be kept up

[@alexandriap6132]

Well said sounds like deflecting to me too

[@mercwindow]

Lucia Sosa no I think perhaps you may be mad at her for that????? The fact that you use the word 'preach' is a dead giveaway. They are mad at her because of what is going on inside themselves. Each and every one of us is a work in progress and we should try not to project our own perception and expectation of perfection and disappointment onto others

[@Timthethespian89]

Brene Brown, speaking to my SOUL YALL

[@AfroSamurai1089]

This is such a "SUPER SOUL SUNDAYYYYYYYY!" clip. I loved every moment of it.

[@samora1050]

...listening in 2020!!

[@jenniferh5350]

Live a life offline and see the true difference 😁

[@pjpj3416]

I deleted all my social media platforms, and I feel so much better.

[@vivien0430]

@@pjpj3416 I know that feeling!! 😬💖

[@therockwhispers]

The humble shall be exalted 😇

[@KandisSJGroup]

It's interesting how we all take something different away from what she said. It just shows how different and amazing we all are:)

[@orlandoluisf.deleonjr.5280]

You are enough! You are SO enough! 💞

[@nathalieperez8093]

Courage the most important....Ego is the hustler it’s so true ....... failure is essential amazing 😍

[@adonaisegametsi2527]

i got the ahaa..too..this is such an amizing revelition..thank you

[@mifnp8887]

Brene' is so beautiful.

[@lizgichora6472]

I love this, beautifully said. thank you.

[@temmietaft2552]

I truly enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing.

[@beam8250]

Thanks Brene. 💓

[@thelaurels13]

Those last words “You got to be open enough to take the risk to fail” damn how my ears pricked up!! 🙏🏼

[@PsulOrtiz]

Dah, of coarse! When asked how his light bulb was coming along Edison said he knew of 10,000 different ways to NOT make it work! Did he fail? Of coarse not. He only would have failed if he had given up! If he hadn't tried! I learned that in grade school! And I know 'I might not be much but I'll share it with you, if you want!' Perhaps not the most romantic proposal, but it was true, honest, humble and it worked just fine! I was always enough--- for me! And I was the only person I needed to please! If someone wanted to join me in the journey threw life--- great! And if they didn't--- great! I wanted to have room for the person/people who said 'YES'!

[@alyb3366]

Something I have realized lately is that now when people do show vuneralbility or are able to display empathy with me I automatically think "fake!!" how can they do this with me? How are they able to show up like this? This can't be real. If it is why can't others do it too? I think accepting other empathy is hard work too.

[@LeslieKazadi]

yes! accepting empathy is an act of vulnerability!

[@randomnessiscool]

Whoa this was eye opening to me. I never understood why people called others fakers when they shared genuine feelings.

[@gaydarON]

@@randomnessiscool It's because, I think, they can't handle the shame, or they are judgmental. Or are afraid of their own vulnerability. It's just easier to name-call someone else.

[@psychsoul718]

I have enough because I AM enough, and THAT is abundance. Thank you Lord.

[@annamarie4104]

tAm here to say a big thank you to Chief Dr azeez and his great spirits for saving my relationship. No one would have believe that I and my ex will ever come back together again lovers. But this great spell caster united us in just 15hours. Chief Dr azeez is truly a real and honest online spell caster. Contact him now on his email okundalayeazeez@gmail. com or [phone]

[@missma7879]

I love these women. Thanks so much

[@maryannknox7158]

Vulnerability is Being Brave

[@fredlampkin6514]

Oprah is a favorite of mine period!

[@tfaddict8254]

This is amazing.

[@kmariew2416]

Amazing thx you for understanding.

[@fitnessasphilanthropy515]

"There is a thin film of terror wrapped around us." Holy cow, that's true!

[@annamarie4104]

Am here to say a big thank you to Chief Dr azeez and his great spirits for saving my relationship. No one would have believe that I and my ex will ever come back together again lovers. But this great spell caster united us in just 15hours. Chief Dr azeez is truly a real and honest online spell caster. Contact him now on his email okundalayeazeez@gmail. com or [phone]

[@ajersongargar1157]

She’s so blooming... you can see it at her eyes

[@peachyic]

that's an Aha moment for the truth in sharing story. love it !!!

[@jcszot]

Nailed! Wow!

[@fbabka]

i love this woman instantly :)

[@carlosf3421]

Truth bombs upon truth bombs! Brene drops it like it’s hot! 🔥

[@samuelkodjoe1645]

thank you!

[@stephaniestanley8041]

She is wonderful

[@KandisSJGroup]

Heart Sharing

[@paulinewiggins4328]

Very informative and uplifting....

[@icaniwilliambonnie6149]

So so true

[@rebeccaz994]

fantastic!

[@mghio1]

Even more true today than 7 years ago

[@animus3328]

Amazing..

[@DV-dt9sq]

Awwww... I LOVE IT!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dennisstatwright4787]

This was so good. I love you two❤❤🌹🌹👍👍🌟🌟🙂🙂📸📸👋👋👏👏👑👑

[@joywimer4281]

Love this, ,❤️ love Brene'

[@spinozaslens]

Need to ring some bells! Ringing Kegelbell over here at triumphing over what is holding us back.

[@bhavna783]

Only one word fantastic😍

[@Florabela69]

Now we still not safe enough... Covid... good message! Fear is the new business

[@foxybrown779]

Great!!

[@Rawrecoverycouk]

Deep!

[@christinaschrammcoaching]

Superior content and delivered in such a heartfelt way. Dr. Brené Brown just really comes across as genuinely caring about people and making this world a better place. Lots of love and Success to both and thank you for sharing! Will google Dr. Brown :-) (I am making conscious effort lately to really share more appreciation for content that is shared for free on the web. It does take a lot of resources and a lot of people appreciate it. So, thank you!)

[@meghananton4754]

Awesome

[@jaytrump2537]

I got that your so everything thank you MA O you ROCK

[@angelanichols7450]

What do you do when you want to share your story with your whole heart, and there is no one there to hear it or care when you do? What happens when all the people who promised to be there for you are somehow stuck at there while you are here? I think the real problem is people expecting from people what can only be given by the highest power. Even knowing my spirit and soul are in the most growth they have ever been in, my body still longs for that physical hug and release that comes with it.

[@coppersense999]

Hope you get your hug. I'd send an invisible *heart hug* except that would be way corny ... Oh hold on ... oops. Ptf, no it seems IDC about corny, since I can feel my heart getting her hug happy game face on. This is bad, bad ... Oh! No no, no worries ha. NO way is that gonna happen! Sorry, but it would be totally awkward. Idk you and you don't know me, who knows I mite be crazy ... Hey! Well this is awkward. My crazy heart hugged you anyway. I apologize, she means well. Smh, come on heart that's enough let the nice lady go. Aren't you sweet, lil

[@TwinkleHonk88T]

I'd recommend watching 6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story. It may be that you long for a real listener. It may also be that you are looking to the wrong people. It really helped me open and see who I should be talking to and who I want to be heard by. These are not the same people.

[@tonbonthemon]

That person could be you! Listen to your suffering and wish yourself well-being - not in the sense that you long for it, but in the sense that you want to offer it to yourself, like a gift. Be kind and compassionate with yourself.

[@judydavie]

When I was in that situation, I saw a therapist for just a handful of visits, but long enough to tell my story and externalize it. Tremendous help.

[@sobrevida157]

One belief is to create art. Much of art is created when we have pain or joy and no audience for it, nobody around to listen, so we offer it to the world. So, maybe write a song or a story. Paint a picture. Maybe the release will be good for you and later, food for someone else. When they hear or see it, they will say, "Whew. I'm NOT alone." I know this probably doesn't offer much comfort, but. . maybe.

[@strngenchantedgirl]

Watching this post pandemic that underlying subconscious anxiety has only gotten a million times worse. And our culture is full of rage which only increases more violence and increases our anxiety more. When will it stop?

[@petercannava3236]

I love some of her perspectives and she is stimulating but some are limited. For instance sharing details about others isnt always a betrayal. In fact it can be empathy as you cannot care for others unless you know what they are going through. The important factor is empathy and nonjudgmental feelings its not keeping secrets... but she has some good ideas.

[@justinbergeronlavigne9293]

Very good words. I got the Ah ha!

[@maxwellcooper2]

Good stuff

[@leilagomulka5690]

Wow.

[@lightningandthunder2861]

Ego is my hustler How many like u r on face book Never good enough, we r afraid there is a thin fear i m not liked enough i m not good enough That makes you shut down We need to be open enough to take the fear to fail ahhhhh 😍

[@Bebang60]

Just Wow!🙏👏👍🙌

[@summerlopez4176]

EGO.......Hustler I Love It 🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@kristenm.stanton8753]

I would argue that this feeling of "scarcity" we are experiencing, which Brené refers to - this insecurity and fear - on both a micro/personal level and a macro/political/national/tribal level is rooted in the fact that we are depleting the Earth's natural resources. Human habits are causing entire species to go extinct. Even if you ignore environmental issues, for whatever reason, they are still impacting you. If it's not our clean air, our healthy food, our fresh water - it's someone else's - other people's homes, animals' habitats. And we all feel it. It's either manifested in migration patterns as people get displaced due to climates change or wars over resources, or it's entire species getting wiped out. We cannot help but feel it, at least instinctively. As humans, we have the intellect and the capacity to live live in a more environmentally sustainable way. We all need to wake up and call this what it is. It's easy to get caught up in our own insecurities and issues. But if we start living in a way that's more in harmony with the rest of life on our planet, we will all feel better just for doing the right thing.

[@celinevartany7697]

Wow. I really resonate with this idea, and I think it relates to something else Brené has said about how we are all somehow linked spiritually and we feel each other's pain - or in this case - scarcity. Really interesting perspective!

[@aliciasaracino1233]

Its called the dreaded uncertanty of not knowing whats coming. Everyone feels it but not everyone aknowleges it or understands it.

[@cjverde49]

And that internalised fear is killing.

[@katherinewilson1176]

That’s BIG!!!

[@radikalradd]

i am so interested in 'enough'

[@mijabliss]

"Not Enough"

[@TheNexusSociety]

I love her definition of the ego. And the facebook likes is hilarious to me because I've noticed that and purposefully limited how many friends I add and how many videos I upload so that I don't mirror that addiction.

[@debkelley2108]

I don’t think you should ever do this until you really get to know somebody. Too awful because a lot of people will not accept you if you tell who you really are too soon in some relationships.

[@jfish032]

wise women

[@tintinmancol]

....true!

[@mikerowland2070]

These two women could run the world.

[@margarety5443]

I have been working different 12 step programs working on vulnerability, shame and authenticity for 3.5 years. But when I'm down in the "I'm not good enough...I'm not enough" bucket how and what do I need to be working on?

[@margodoty8213]

My daughter was born May 24th 2001 I've lived in fear ever since

[@silentgrove7670]

I wonder what she will internalize

[@AxiomRoyale]

Wow

[@muufasaii8266]

Never enough

[@mullinlinda60]

The key.

[@chrisgrace81]

Yes! Exactly --the fear after 9/11

[@TheGranti7a]

Ring the meditation bell... be still within. Notice...

[@thainshumba1859]

We need some bells to ring of this show 😂😅

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

When you look at it deeply enough you'll see how companies and organisations capitalise on it with subliminal messaging! If we can embrace ourselves with all our perceived flaws and imperfections and the ability to fully lean into and embrace life we wouldn't need all the external bs to become our comfort blanket and validate us because we'd be able to do that for ourselves.

[@JhonathanFree]

Come on OWN. Let us see the whole show. OPRAH can afford it.

[@MelodyJacksonPhD]

So what are the two most dangerous words? Listened to it twice and still don't know.

[@oliboli55]

Melody Jackson Not enough.

[@eyjafjallajukul1654]

Melody Jackson Not feeling that you have enough and believing you are a failure. Scarcity and Failure!

[@MelodyJacksonPhD]

Thanks for clarifying.... Much appreciated.

[@ebaamomani1221]

Thank you!

[@deborahlpollitt9463]

+Melody Jackson The words are "not enough". The ah-ha moment drove over them.