Dr. Jordan Peterson Explains The Dangerous Effects of Porn

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

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[@masterflex27]

Women watch porn too, most of them are cam girls, using didos .

[@laturista1000]

lol 0:54 tell the truth!! 90% of us lie everyday about everything. So asking a woman to be honest is a pretty tall order. good luck with that!

[@GoldenEraZen]

❤🙏

[@gloriouscontent3538]

@@laturista1000 For your purposes it might be a tall order, but Peterson talks about his wife who is the mother of his children. Be the one that chases the 10%.

[@pattylyons9645]

​@Slay Bae so men never lie, right ? I've known many who have, both to me and other people.

[@nadineskye7050]

I truly believe that porn will be considered the cigarettes of our generation. To think that only 30 years ago, a curious kid only had Playboy magazines, a VHS tape or two. Today, they have access to the entire internet - All the fetish, extreme, rough, degrading videos, things that adults of previous generations may have never seen in their lifetimes. And they will have viewed all of it before they hit puberty. Before they have taken Sex Ed in school.

[@1st_b]

I think social media will be. The harm it can do is even less obvious which makes it even more dangerous.

[@RA-pb4gl]

That’s a scary reality!

[@RedDevilStudio]

@UCic1aavMrytIlYPT3AJ3Ldw but there getting regular exposure to porn anyway. The last music vid, advert etc. You don’t have to open your computer, you just have to walk outside.

[@ljthirtyfiver]

You can go on to Twitter for porn and not even need an Account. It’s honestly mind blowing how easy it is to see this corruption at a young age

[@jamesondaweeb8448]

Sex Ed doesn’t even teach the dangers of porn, a lot of parents don’t, and neither does the internet. If u look up whether masturbation and pornography is bad online you will hear it’s not.

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

I’ve read a study saying if a man stops watching porn in 60-90 days the brain reboots itself to not need that constant dopamine stimulation and you have a great chance of quitting permanently. Amazing to think a porn free life can be ours in just a couple of months

[@casualtake1497]

even passing No Nut November already hard for me, but 90 days? damnnn

[@arturogotti3790]

No, 90 days doesnt cure you. It takes 1.5-2 years

[@hearthwithin]

@@arturogotti3790 he clearly said reboots to a point that our brain wouldn't need constant stimulation. I missed the word where he mention cure in 60-90 days

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

@@arturogotti3790 not cured per say but after 90 days the addictive need will drop greatly and you are at a much higher chance of quitting permanently

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

@@casualtake1497 no one said it was easy but it beats the alternative. Just one day at a time

[@SmashBrosBrawl]

Quitting porn is the greatest decision i have ever made.

[@nadinegomez8858]

Porn is literally ruining our society

[@quellindilley8465]

I keep trying to quit, but than I keep ending up in the same place. As soon as I flee from have intercourse with a woman. I turn to porn , but right there after I feel disgusted by myself. I hate myself and think nothing good can come from my life.

[@nadinegomez8858]

@@quellindilley8465 watch FightTheNewDrug’s videos

[@purpose6113]

@@nadinegomez8858 100%

[@robertladiges4272]

Any tips for someone trying to kick the habit? Asking for a friend😁

[@aimingmind807]

"The ultimate question of Man is not who we are, but who we could be." - Jordan Peterson

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Amen

[@rafirahmani8718]

For all men battling pornography I noticed the hardest part is when we are a month or two in abstaining then we get a random urge and we lie to ourselves that we have good balance and it’s been a month already which is what ultimately makes us give in and start from scratch, at least for me so fight off the urge by all means.

[@iisha67iiksa10]

That random urge is what keeps destroying me over and over again I feel like I'm trapped in a loop of addiction that never ends. I hope one day I break that loop.

[@JKevinWeng]

@@iisha67iiksa10 how has it been so far?

[@iisha67iiksa10]

@@JKevinWeng Well I'm still fighting I've never reached 90 days but I'm planning to, I'm currently 13 days nofap

[@jamperTotal]

I'm basically an "addict" since age 11 (22 now) and I really feel and see the consequences of abusing my reward system for that long. A thing that motivates me is that even if you stay clean for 2-3 days (which is an incredible achievement for my standards) and relapse, there is still a lasting benefit from not giving your brain that senseless pleasure like overall better mood, being more social. So you don't start from zero, but it's also important to make sure not to "stabilize" your addict mind by jacking off 3 times in a row, which is easier said than done

[@GareBear420]

Exactly and it makes sense. It's the same with any other addiction. You don't see former meth addicts that just occasionally smoke meth every now and then because they don't exist. You can insert any type of addiction, but my point is that our brains will try to rationalize and justify ANY reason to get that "kick" again. I made this mistake a lot with porn/masturbation and the only way to beat it is to abstain 100%. You have to be aware of yourself and these thoughts when they come and actively shut them down. Without that you'll be in an endless loop of relapsing, I can tell you from experience.

[@Sammiein]

Such a shame that people don't want to hear or know the truth. I've lost a few "so called" friends by telling them truth, even when it was done in the utmost loving way. The truth separates friend from foe. Friends are people who care about you and will call you out on your S***. That's how we become better.

[@noahidewarrior5838]

Facts, but many don't seem to talk about the women who have embraced getting naked online. They should also be considered pedophiles in my opinion. The mental damage that can happen to young boys by having an Instagram is INSANE.

[@aetreus88]

@@noahidewarrior5838 I think u replied to the wrong comment

[@greatnessembodied]

"The truth sounds like hate to people that hate the truth".

[@noahidewarrior5838]

@@aetreus88 nah, I just wanted to make sure that women understand that THEY also have the power to help young boys become men. This is why modesty was preached among almost every culture, so the young boys would focus on their purpose and not become hypersexual animals. Women need to know that the way the dress in public damages young boys up to the age of 11.

[@moatasemkassab4517]

@@noahidewarrior5838 "They should also be considered pedophiles in my opinion." Although I agree with most of your response, this part is a bit far-fetched.

[@phillipcotton833]

The brain is truly powerful. Imagine....subconsciously training it to adapt to pleasuring yourself watching porn as being ACTUAL SEX,& then when when the time comes for the "real deal" your brain doesn't compute. THAT....is the ultimate act of self betrayal. Porn addiction is REAL!!!!!

[@BudFuddlacker]

ED

[@JackHagar]

So fucking true, was addicted to porn for years before I experienced sex for this first time and when it happened it felt so strange, like I was confused as to why I wasn’t really enjoying it all that much, physically it felt inferior to masturbating and overall less exciting because I was locked into a single view of the action. It took me many sessions until I finally started to adapt and enjoy it

[@phillipcotton833]

@@JackHagar Right!!! Like, the actual flesh of a woman took 2nd place to self pleasure. As crazy as that sounds that's one of the results of the addiction. It literally replaces what's natural with a lie.

[@thedragonofechigo7878]

@@JackHagar problem is, no one is taught about sex and then porn comes in and fills your head with unrealistic scenarios and then it develops to become enjoyable overtime to where having sex in real life seems unlikely because maybe one will lose interest in ever engaging in it due to possibly feeling "small" down there or being told they can't please a woman properly or something which could be embarrassing.

[@johnames6430]

I've gone limp during the real thing, it's sad. To get real sex and be good at it you have to give up the fake sex. But you don't know when you will get the real thing so you get by on the fake stuff. When it comes time to perform you have to finish yourself off or you might just go limp sometimes.

[@scaggly9239]

You did it Hafeez! I cant imagine the joy you felt when you learned Dr. Peterson agreed to be on the podcast. Congratulations.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you!!

[@breidacv3383]

I think it depends on the porn. I’m 22 and my first orgasm was to porn around 18 years old. I enjoy the homemade porn more than anything else. Also, I’m attracting to literally any woman. I can find something I like about you as a woman physically. That’s the easy part, but what really puts the icing on the cake is your voice/personality. I’m attracted to the soul inside of woman. Weird I know but that’s just me.

[@alauen]

@@breidacv3383 lol

[@artmynk8999]

@@breidacv3383 lol

[@laflame5806]

@@breidacv3383 lol

[@ESPAngel217]

I quit porn 3 months ago and last week came back to it. It was due to a mental breakdown I just had. I knew something was wrong with me because I hadn't had the need or urge of coming back to it ever since the day I quit. I started thinking about what was wrong, found it and spent the time getting to fix it. Now I'm back on track. What I want to say is that having setbacks is totally normal in life. Don't feel ashamed, just try to get back on your feet and keep on walking. Take care everybody

[@diariodeunartista]

I needed this, thank you

[@mohamedsankhon2078]

Thank you

[@konstantinnaumow505]

Thank you for your words :)

[@stiffupperlip4]

Thank you

[@tiberseptim6648]

And what was the reason to relapse? How to find it?

[@keida197]

This isn’t an addiction to be proud of. Pornography dulls your emotions. It affects your sex drive and wholly affects your day to day life. It’s a cancer to the brain. A virus that doesn’t get better but can steadily get worse. I’ve been an addict since childhood. For YEARS I’ve tried to quit. The struggle just to stop thinking about it is beyond comprehension. It warps your visual of people and it can warp you as a person. I know the feeling of self disgust all too well. It is hard to see the good in yourself when after all is said and done, you think how you’ve not only taken advantage of images of other people doing obscene explicit things, but it makes you feel like total garbage. I am not proud of it. It’s a self destructive force. I’ve heard the side where people have said it helps. I don’t see it. They’re fooling themselves. It’s a horrible horrible addiction. Makes me sick to my stomach to know such a stain has been with me the majority of my lifetime.

[@Ghoulhix]

Damn

[@leonabug619]

Addiction is our brain trying to make us feel better. Sex, porn, drugs, shopping, gambling, these are all addictions but they come from the same place of us trying to not feel pain. The reason why drug addicts relapse and why any addict relapses is bcuz we're always focused on the addiction itself. But our addiction is the SYMPTOM of something else. We have to do soul searching and therapy and figure out the CAUSE, which is some sort of trauma we suffered. Usually during childhood. I

[@artemisk.2334]

I was into reading pornography it has been a very difficult journey for me to stop but the holy spirit was and is patient he has helped me stop it at first for days then weeks then months and now after 3 to 4 years i can say i am not addicted anymore. But what helped me is replace porn pleasure with the pleasure and feeling God gives when you draw near him

[@Gloriagal78]

@@artemisk.2334 Amen

[@dontexroddy5012]

God Bless You On Your Journey. I to am on that journey starting today. I’m in so much of what I’ve allowed in my life that has greatly effected myself and family.

[@acd1168]

I have never gotten away with a lie. It always comes back to haunt me. He is telling the truth.

[@mediacenterman8583]

This seems like a lie! I told my Mom that my brother kept on taking my trading cards [he only took one] to get more. Worked a charm! There are exaggerations and there are utter falsehoods!

[@acd1168]

@@mediacenterman8583 I have never gotten away with a lie. There was a lie I told 3 years ago and it came back to haunt me. 3 YEARS!

[@emberdragon4248]

When you say it came back to haunt you, do you refer to external consequences of the lie, or internal consequences such as guilt for telling the lie?

[@acd1168]

@@emberdragon4248 Both

[@RedDevilStudio]

Its interesting how the definition of 'porn' has changed. A considerable amount of adverts, movies these days would be classed as 'porn' only a few decades back. You dont need to open your computer to be stimulated, you can just walk outside.

[@enochabraham688]

The entertainment industry has been heavily pornographied, especially in the music industry. I'd wager at least 70% of American pop music is sexualized to an explicit extreme, with the artists themselves standing as caricaturized sex objects.

[@RedDevilStudio]

@@enochabraham688 Exactly! But that's not considered 'porn', but art or empowerment. I would make a case thats its nigh on impossible to these days to not be exposed to.some form of 'porn'on a daily basis.

[@TheBigDynamo]

@@enochabraham688 that's the bullshit I just can't stand. After a while it makes pornography literally inescapable.

[@randomlygeneratedname7171]

@@TheBigDynamo There will be no nice solution to this issue.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you for sharing

[@rennite9266]

I think this is one of the hardest addiction to break free from. At least with drugs you run out of money so there's that aspect. But with something that's free and triggers for that addictions are literally everywhere it's almost near impossible to let it go.

[@GreenBroccoli100]

Pretty much, most men I've met said quitting or abstaining from porn is one of the hardest addictions to break because its so easily accessible and free. Then you have the other issue is where men are lonely and lack sexual partners.. that's why we are seeing an increase of pornography usage among young men.

[@seal_shepherd8148]

@VicariousVictor what's your point?

[@RimZeime]

@VicariousVictor You don't really know how it could be affecting you

[@dominusbalial835]

@VicariousVictor You seem very defensive about your masturbation habits lol

[@WickedHill]

So run out of money to pay your wifi or tell your mom to stop paying for it lmao

[@WalkingMiracle96]

This video has helped me reframe myself and be 100% honest. My life is so much better and I am "free". I have so much more power over myself and my actions. Honesty is freedom.

[@Kizarat]

I've abstained from watching porn and masturbation on and off for weeks or months at random times, and managed to quit for two years until I relapsed this August but stopped again somewhere around September or October after realizing just how boring masturbation is and how abnormal it is to watch other people copulate, but worst of all is learning that many of the women in these porn videos may very well be victims of sex trafficking (literally being raped for our entertainment). My addiction to porn has been rather effortless to put an end to, but the damage to my perception of women remains. There's a part of my mind that involuntarily tries to sexualize my thoughts about a woman I may think of and its disgusts me. I'm 24 now but deeply regret having been introduced to porn by peer influence at the early age of 13 and I'm sure my interactions with women could have turned out differently, especially with those who had an intimate interest in me. The side effects of watching pornography should never be downplayed or underestimated.

[@martinkojour8879]

Masturbation and pornography is not the same thing. Sex is natural in all us and if is really unnatural and bad to masturbate by yourself without watching porn? I dont think so😊😊

[@jonathanasdell9310]

21M, working on quitting right now. Stay strong man! I've experienced the same effect on my perceptions. Fingers crossed they adjust for us both over time

[@seanzy41]

God bless you for such a conscientious assessment of your experiences.

[@autumnwinter1261]

in the context of no fap, what does relapse mean?

[@Kizarat]

@@autumnwinter1261 When you give in to the temptation to watch porn and masturbate after you swore not to.

[@againstallevens8512]

As a cynical skeptical person, I did not have faith in Jordan Peterson's wisdom before. I do now. This man is wiser than most that have ever lived.

[@pikachudemsy9751]

Have faith in Jesus man Jordan is just a man he also makes mistakes

[@Rude_Boi]

Not wiser than King Solomon, or Jesus Christ Himself.

[@ChrrolloDI]

@@Rude_Boi Solomon discarded everything for women. I don't think he's fitting to ever be mentioned on a nofap/porn awareness video.

[@fredferd2649]

he is a religious nutcase.

[@ihkeseteeietos5722]

I agree. God might forgive you all before. But any man that have watched this and still watch porn even once more is a fool and will be sent straight to hell.

[@shanoomac]

One thing I’ve learned about porn addiction is our phones are the number 1 source to the addiction , the more time we spend away from our phones the less you’ll indulge in this activity

[@IK7.]

I am a current porn addict, have been watching extreme genres to max intensity for 3 years now. I fell very low and got trapped by porn because I had inferiority and poor self esteem issues prior, porn got ahold of those and has infested itself into my brain. Simultaneously, Im also battling multiple mental disorders which is a hell on its own, long story short, if anyone reads this, Quit porn forever and dont look back because if you do you will only go deeper in the rabbit hole of it. Lastly, I hope im able to quit it for good and rebuild my masculinity, character and self esteem.

[@alainpals]

Idk if you are accepting strange advises or not but i just throw my comment.. Go where you can be alone and stick your fingers to the soil and ask the world to remove you from this specific circle.. keep your intention in your mind, dont let the mind wander away, also avoid meditation states, and dont take your fingers out before your mind tells you to... try it, it may take time and be uncomfortable but you wont regret it. Empathizing with soil and nature in general is a very capable of changing things in our brains.

[@Enchantressse]

Sending love you can do it!❤️

[@tarunsingh7608]

Sir you may use parental settings in ur browser which will help you filter porn sites n u may pickup a physical hobby like jogging etc to kee you busy or military way Whenever u feel urge drop down n do 20 push-ups to rewire Brain n form new habbits

[@zachshelp]

I know the feeling. I made my channel for it, let me know if you need help

[@thepersonperson4332]

You got it man

[@aetreus88]

This just made me appreciate truthful people. I never really thought about how lying can warp a person's psyche

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Yes indeed

[@Imokay1695]

This is true

[@shinoslv]

Telling the truth is such an underrated rule. As a man who lost the one meaningful relationship I had because I lied numerous times you start to realize that not only are you going to be labeled as a liar by them and the trust can never be like it once was but now your words hold no value cause they’re guard will always be up around you

[@Kyle-fd4vc]

Matthew 5 : 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

[@Kyle-fd4vc]

@cake fart read the verse again , There is nothing wrong with looking , it is when we look with lust .

[@suleymansyah9079]

The bible is corrupted

[@Kyle-fd4vc]

@@suleymansyah9079 prove it , what part of the Bible is corrupted, Chapter and verse ?

[@marcuskennedy7357]

@@Kyle-fd4vc Corrupted not my words... But we both know there are questions to be had about the Bible being composed and the story/words contained

[@1st_b]

Tbf, you could say something similar about women's access to attention via social media. Like pornography has done for men, it has allowed them access to something they were never able to access in such a high quantity before.

[@potlakomonageng103]

You are right, unlimited accessibility on both ends, but man porn is a super stimulant, it fries the brain's dopamine circuits to the max

[@So_Oneal]

Yup; they thrive off those Likes and it's worldwide attention from men they would have never knew existed

[@rebeccainspiringhope4357]

Interesting point!

[@enochabraham688]

I think excess access to a variety of resources that aren't earned through merit can lead to dysfunction on an individual and collective level.

[@theimage7030]

YES! This right here!

[@19Hollisterchick90]

I had an ex with a porn addiction that I was unaware of. We were together for years and he was my first, but after one I noticed he was a bit distant. I had a very high sex drive, but was only able to get it once a week if lucky and he never ejaculated. It made me very insecure although I was definitely attractive and in great shape. Finding out about the addiction was actually a relief because I realized I was not the issue. We ended for other reasons, though.

[@StrawberryDaquiris]

It's very damaging and terrible for self esteem. You can be the best looking woman on the planet and guys will always jerk off to other women

[@deeannb3735]

I had the same experience it's painful when the man you love doesn't want to have sex with because he would rather relieve himself watching porn instead heartbreaking 💔 😢

[@geeyawoo1]

I dealt with same thing, he compared me to the avatars; no longer appreciated me for who I was but how I looked. He commented he would buy me an entire wardrobe if I lost like 20 pounds to encourage changing the way I looked. He was critical and I felt not good enough. And then I realized that this had everything to do with him. That broke me, to know that I was only used primarily for sexual gratification and when I no longer served that purpose he looked elsewhere. I think we need to appreciate that as females, we deserve someone that loves us and appreciates us as human beings and not toys they can play with when they feel like it.

[@sarahp2707]

@@geeyawoo1 Agreed. Unfortunately, that's not what adolescent girls are learning. They're looking at porn to see what guys supposedly want half of the time, and that really, really scares me.

[@sarahodom7091]

There seems to be a connection between narcissism and just not wanting physical intimacy with a real person.

[@hibberish7498]

I agree with the lying thing. I lied and got away with it but those lies destroyed me mentally. I didn’t get caught but I got caught by my own self, by my own world that I created

[@yordanmalinov6419]

And that's exactly what he means. We can fool everyone, we can make it seem like we are the king of everything, but we can not run from ourselves. Deep down we know the truth and that's why we could never fool ourselves and we still get destroyed mentally, even if we manage to fool everyone around us. I think no man has ever not lied about something that has affected them mentally.

[@geeyawoo1]

Lying to others hurt, and I think lying to yourself causes ultimate suffering & irrevocable consequences to the extent they are normalized and you then live a life in that mental state and that becomes the new normal. Can’t change what you’ve unseen and said and they will need to live with that for the rest of their lives.

[@TheShredtube]

And th bet way to fix it is the correct thr damage your lies caused

[@hibberish7498]

@@TheShredtube i wish i could do that but is gone now

[@tempestniamhwoulfe6647]

I hate pornography, at least as it is now. I was trafficked as a young woman and I frequently feel that a lot of what is out there is likely part of that. The violence in some of what I have seen is disgusting. My partners throughout my life have always hidden it and lied about it, despite my initial attempts to accept it as what men do. In arguments I have been told that it is necessary for them to watch it to want to touch me, that I don't measure up to what they want or need. I have also found a former partner to be watching things I find morally repugnant and then wanting to use me as an outlet for that energy. Now I don't want a man to touch me if I even suspect he was watching porn beforehand. It makes me feel like a masturbation tool rather than a person. How do I move beyond that?

[@pineland_national7497]

If you are looking for a man who has never been in the clutches of porn addiction, then I am very sorry to tell you that you will likely never find one. I wish it was different, for both men and women’s sake. It is an exploitation that finds virtually all of us from a very young age, during a time in our lives when we simply don’t know any better. Some of us overcome it, some of us want to, some of us burry our heads in the sand, but at one point or another nearly all of us have been addicts.

[@pjpammyj4037]

What a story....Write a book about it, I appreciate your vulnerability. God bless your journey.

[@EdeYOlorDSZs]

Jordan Peterson is exactly the type of person that would meditate on the capacity of humans to commit atrocities. We need more people like him, It teaches something about the natural proclivities of us and what we are capable of (in a negative sense)

[@oumardiallo5445]

12:42

[@bybalex55]

I came here to understand the Dangerous effects of Porn and I left with life changing lessons from Dr. Peterson

[@MrGarysugarman]

"Deprivation helps." Boy, that line sure covers a whole lot.

[@errorambush]

I am also struggling to get off from porn addiction and it's really hard and i regret what i have done to my subconscious mind but May god give me strength and a way out .

[@ricardopaul8382]

"How can you adapt to reality when you falsify it?" - Dr Jordan Peterson

[@royalecrafts6252]

You create your own bubble reality

[@KyleB978-0]

This stuck out for me, a quote for the ages.

[@Thegraylady]

"It is lies that turn competence into tyranny." Oh my goodness. So much yes. You see this in every type of human authority. I was in an abusive marriage, and that is exactly what abusers do: they lie. On so many levels. It was Dr. Peterson's message of being strong and standing up and telling the truth that finally gave me the strength and assurance to do just that. I stood up to him (the abuser) and spoke the truth, and he attacked me, and I managed to get away and I ran away. I am still navigating the final results of that, but I can relate to SO MUCH of what he says. Whatever feminists believe Jordan Peterson is against true feminism (or, healthy feminism, i.e., giving woman respect and agency), he IS NOT.

[@thesurvivorssanctuary6561]

He's definitely not anti-feminist. I think a lot of lefties just demonize anyone the right likes, and I'm an uber-lefty. I just hate identity politics. I'm glad you got your life back miss, and I'm extremely proud of how you did it! That's wonderful, and I have to give you all the respect for doing it! Also, that: "lies and authority" thing is profound. That's why I'm an anticryptarian(Mmy most important political belief is that it should be illegal for politician's to lie).

[@robertbrangan9617]

Gave it up two years ago and have never been happier. It's easier than you think. After a month or so the temptation is gone completely.

[@hairynipps2599]

Seriously ur speaking facts

[@Ash-of1yl]

Thank you bro. Im gonna join you

[@exdivorcelawyer]

Previously I perceived your manner as arrogant but the respect you show to Dr Peterson is exemplary and your questions drew gold.

[@snowman495]

He doesn't come off arrogant he comes off educated

[@snowman495]

@@dson4475 facts but she was probably listening with feelings and not logic and a open mind

[@billnguyen2898]

Anyone who speaks confidently about their opinions will come off as arrogant to someone, especially if that someone doesn’t fully agree with their opinion. Its hard for me to define where the line should be drawn between confidence and arrogance, so I understand where you are coming from. But overall, I’m happy to hear you saw something deeper than your initial impressions. That feels genuine.

[@stareAtWall]

@@snowman495 not in all videos?

[@exdivorcelawyer]

@@snowman495 the dictionary definition of arrogance is one who displays an offensive air of superiority..This relates to style not content. So being arrogant and educated are not mutually exclusive.

[@toyvania]

What a humble, intelligent, and wise man. Dr. Peterson, you rock!

[@throwsaparks9829]

How is this only 13 minutes long! So much wisdom!

[@travellerb6269]

The full podcast is on the roommates podcast

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Go watch the full episode

[@slimskinny]

It’s really bad for a woman as well. I met a woman who watched porn, and every conversation we had was about sex. Nothing about me or nothing about her it was just sex. It was a huge turn off to me.

[@mrconfusion87]

Some men would LOVE to have that kind of chick! 😝

[@MothTechSecurity]

That staying timid your entire life hit hard man. About to be 25 and am still afraid to talk to or approach women. I'm fairly attractive but being socially inept doesn't help. No friends and loneliness increases my likelihood of repeating this endless cycle, forever chained. I blame no one but myself, yet I wonder if I will one day overcome this great obstacle.

[@ethanmatuki2863]

I'm sure you will brother

[@lmendez3074]

I would suggest counseling. They can help you to look at things differently, maybe your perception of others or yourself needs to change. If you find a good one, they will help you just become a better version of yourself because it makes you more self aware but not in a bad way.

[@bolerilengshinners4010]

I stopped a day before I turned 21 I started at 14/15 My fear is growing old with this . 11 days in and I hope I can stop forever

[@zachshelp]

It’s fixable. I know the feeling so I made my channel for this very thing. Let me know if you need help

[@dbzclips6663]

Yup that's it you can make it.

[@jay_stack1270]

“You will pay, that’s hell” his words pierced my soul…..it scares me lol

[@juliovillagran4105]

Don't be scared. Life's too short.

[@thedragonofechigo7878]

You don't have a soul. Nobody does.

[@juliovillagran4105]

@@thedragonofechigo7878 According to Billy Joel 'you' ve got to have soul' but I think he means somethings else.

[@123Mathzak]

@@thedragonofechigo7878 Opinion.

[@Rude_Boi]

@@thedragonofechigo7878 Then you Don't exist, but you do. You have a body, and in that body is a spirit, and your very being is your soul.

[@adamzoubi96]

if you don't think jordan peterson is right, watch the video again. honesty is the most important rule in life

[@nadinegomez8858]

YES

[@Jason-se1ke]

Congrats on landing JP on the pod. And great interview overall. I felt like you asked all the right questions and the right amount of them.

[@Kayz_94]

Lying is one difficult thing. Imagine having to live and mantain a lie. It will drain you more than the consequences of the truth you were suppose to tell or show

[@epicipodmodz]

Couldn’t agree more with this

[@mandystop1077]

Totally agreed with you👍

[@TamikaTaylor-rl1im]

My boyfriend of 3 years is addicted to porn and watches it every single day while i am at work , we hardly have sex with each other since porn took over and if it feels robotic, cold and oftentimes aggressive like a one - man show, sooo sad! I talked to him about it and he got really angry 😮, i have decided to break up from him if hr does not stop watching porn because i find this situation disrespectful and unbearable 😢

[@Yogis406]

You are right, follow your instincts. You deserve so much better than that.

[@tyler42024]

To me it sounds like he cares more about porn that being intimate with you... That really sucks 😕😕😕

[@marietgagliardi]

You deserve better. He has a problem

[@levansegnaro4637]

I wonder if you gained weight

[@seizuregirlllll]

Leave leave leave leave.

[@jacobgraves8352]

I listened to all of this and starting today im going to try and stop. Good luck to anyone else out there dealing with any addictions

[@michaelamarie4288]

If you're serious about quitting and have not been able to stop, I recommend doing what all addicts are recommended: get in a support group. PAA (porn addicts anonymous) has online and/or over the phone meetings, and the no gap website has resources as well.

[@tonylg1663]

I’ve always been addicted to porn and every time I try to refrain myself, it gets painful for me to hold back because my brain keeps craving for it. But lately I realized the best solution to this is to keep yourself from think about it AT ALL and even avoiding pictures of attractive women in general. There’s no need to hold back if you can just avoid thinking about it in the first place.

[@bangbangninergang5133]

Well u see the everyday and at work

[@tonylg1663]

@@bangbangninergang5133 I know, ofc you will come across pictures, but if you keep yourself from focusing on those images and change your focus to something else it makes it easier. The key is to not think too hard about it and move on.

[@stonergee420]

Doesn’t work when you have dirty dream & wake up wet 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@wikingagresor]

Do some martial arts training, it will help with your self discipline.

[@TheBigDynamo]

@@stonergee420 I don't think communities count wet dreams as relapsing. In fact, it might be a sign that abstaining is actually working and you're body isn't using to holding it all in

[@aronmurray4640]

My ex “50” is extremely addicted to porn. I am a natural attractive woman, but he insisted on pornography over me. I voiced my concern’s,and really tried to help him understand what he was doing was not only wrong for himself, but hurting me and our relationship. He would masturbate to porn and watch porn while we were trying to be intimate. He tried to convince me that was just part of who he was, and he was not going to change so I had to show him the door. I found it extremely damaging to my self-esteem, knowing that I could not compete with the instant gratification, overstimulated, selfishness! I truly find everything Jordan Patterson teaches, is extremely beneficial to all humanity! Thank you No comments, please…

[@markbenn1907]

If want to have a terrible life and destroy your relationships… indulge.

[@aetreus88]

That ending really hit different. What a great advice

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

You're welcome

[@sageofthesix9608]

I’ve lived a life of lies Shame guilt and depression and this addiction is the biggest reason why. I’m 23 and saw this in elementary. I don’t know how to be renewed

[@delmezoo9561]

God bless you, may peace be all around you for the content you make. A true youtube with 1000% integrity .

[@be5608]

I truly appreciate Mr Peterson's sagicious words. Cannot wait for the next episode!

[@kyleavorque5772]

Sasuga Peterson-sama

[@moatasemkassab4517]

Dr. Peterson's Sugondese words.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you!!

[@gregoriusrex1855]

Well done I had to google what that means

[@throwsaparks9829]

“Don’t substitute the false for the real.”

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Amen

[@TreBeez_FromThe_Sindacate]

I loved that whole segment on the truth. Dr Peterson hit the nail on the head. I believe that lying/doing deceitful/nefarious actions alters you at a core level for the worse. And you set your own standard for your soul while also attracting the energy you give off. Like Jordan says you dont really get away with anything 💯

[@danielhaile5484]

I got the answer I was looking for. Pastors and teachers could not answer me. Thanks Jordan Peterson.

[@onementality9781]

Try asking God next time if you want a original answer.

[@onementality9781]

When you stand on Truth and read your Bible daily you will better see what doesn't line up with The Word of God. Stay true to your creator

[@onementality9781]

@Angela that is possible but id still ask God to confirm this because people have the ability to lie, cheat, envy, rape, lust or just straight up sin and God doesn't. Think ill stick to asking Him.

[@xinonamiiumx]

@@onementality9781 yeah but not everyone understands,the complex definitions in the bible. I'd say KZbin first then when you understand how to understand complex topics. Then try to understand the bible.

[@spanishbballathlete3862]

The main problem is that when you consume so much porn, real sexual encounters are way less exciting and can even mess up your libido

[@Ishtarthemoon]

4.03 they decline AT FIRST. But then eventually increase when the data sample is expanded over a longer period. As pornography is addictive one needs more extreme images to get turned on, eventually one will want to act out such scenes, especially with younger users. The sexual violence statistics in juveniles committed against younger children are alarming and they are usually mimicing scenes they’ve witnessed in pornography. It’s a blight on our society: the damage it does is becoming clearer with each passing year.

[@moodrahkamite818]

Conversations that definitely need to be had. Keep it up. I'm subscribing.

[@noonespecial4171]

Yes, well, the more honest and true a woman is, the less she will be respected. To think something so beautiful is considered cheap and porn more valuable says a lot about men today.

[@JohnothanRuddyRomero]

I've been addicted to porn for 10 years But This is the year I will break my habit forever

[@melissasmuse]

You got this! 🙌

[@yazzijazzi5152]

Did you?

[@richardsoderkvist6383]

The thing that's so horrible about pornography is that it escalated becomesore graphic ore vile and depraved

[@moliereshakespeare3730]

we want to see Jordan Peterson and Kevin Samuels

[@jscheema375]

KS would make him cry

[@dagobaker]

i dont see how either really helps the bottom 80% of men struggling to get laid beyond .... b better.. lose weight... make more money

[@tanyatanya891]

@@jscheema375 I highly doubt that.

[@ZOI123-w4o]

JS Cheema KS wouldn’t even push back. He’d get obliterated.

[@angryox3102]

@@dagobaker KS has stopped giving advice to men and deleted most of those vids from his channel. He had some good stuff for men too.

[@plazdripp3161]

Anyone who thinks porn isn't an addiction (or can be) is lying to themselves. I was unfortunately exposed to it at a very young age and it's (unfortunately) been a main stay in my life since then. I've tried to quit it cold turkey so many times and it's caused alot of pain and suffering for me. I ultimately take full responsibility for it and don't blame anyone else, but this stuff is dangerous. I've also gone from watching softcore content to extreme hardcore stuff, which is pretty messed up. Furthermore, I've had sessions where I've literally watched it for 6 hours at a time and then done the same thing the next day. Furthermore, I started to move in to watching cam girls, which led me to spending I'd say around $3000 on these sites. Porn is a major problem, not only for me but for society as a whole. The quicker we recognise this and put it to a stop to it/censor it as best as possible, the better.

[@robertbrangan9617]

I'll bring it up to friends and they laugh at the idea that they're addicted to porn so I challenge them to give it up for a month to put it to the test. They never do. It's easier to live in denial

[@milomeredith1821]

Big cahoona move posting this brother thanks for the honesty

[@plazdripp3161]

@@milomeredith1821 all good dude, it's good for us all to understand how messed up porn really is.

[@katieandnick4113]

If you were exposed at a young age, your parents are to blame.

[@fredferd2649]

you are lying to yourself.

[@Banana_Cognac]

I lost a beautiful relationship, with the most amazing woman I have ever met, due to porn addiction/deviance. It's extremely detrimental. Been single 5.5 years, and it's still a struggle to break free. But I'm trying to be better everyday. That's all we can do.

[@tony2300]

Never give up brother. A relationship with Jesus Christ will change everything believe me.

[@TheHeady90]

"You violate your conscience, man, you will pay. That's Hell." Thanks for this.

[@scienceteam9254]

Dr. Peterson coming in clutch for our NNN runs. HOLD THE LINE BROTHERS

[@Tom-sr6hd]

5 days strong boy leshgo

[@scienceteam9254]

@@Tom-sr6hd lesgoooo

[@wilfigs9705]

Porn is unhealthy and very addictive

[@JimmyJaxJellyStax]

I think excess porn use depersonalizes real sex and possibly the individual themself. It's not just porn but also the rapid novelty of social media and the internet in general.

[@Ash-of1yl]

Im 17 Ive been addicted since 12. And I no longer feel like myself.

[@JimmyJaxJellyStax]

@@Ash-of1yl Best thing I've ever done to feel more like myself is getting more involved in local communities and traveling the world. Travel, especially to other countries, is a worthy goal and invests in the self.

[@Ash-of1yl]

@@JimmyJaxJellyStax Im not very social though anymore sadly. I was before the addiction but it feels very unnatural for me now. But traveling sounds good

[@Ghoulhix]

@@Ash-of1yl Same I need help immediately

[@theforeverpuddle8754]

Brilliant. Dr. Peterson is so right about never getting away with things. The chickens ALWAYS come home to roost.

[@jessiee1055]

This man “Roomates” talks about subjects people are sensitive and scared to talk about. He wants to spread truth! I love this content!

[@jkrystal11]

Your positivity is highly appreciated.

[@SAM-ft8xd]

He is so articulate, Dr Peterson. And his logical and intellectual explanations are cherry on top

[@greatfulthankful1716]

The truth shall set you free but you have to do the inside work.

[@fredferd2649]

Ha! Ha! inside work!

[@sarahs5340]

I’ve heard that 40% of the content on the internet is pornography. It’s shocking. That is an unbelievable amount of content.

[@Michael-ei5hg]

It cannot be underestimated how important this conversation is.

[@EVERYDAYFACTSUSA]

God bless dr. Peterson. I love the fact that he is so rational and intelligent while being humble and kind

[@Taisha12001]

Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

[@sjappiyah4071]

amen

[@Alexphutchison]

Yessir

[@Jnature27]

Yikes

[@bjornfinkelburgensteinski4629]

Amen. The beginning of wisdom is fear of the Lord, sound wisdom for those who practice it.

[@barathroy5607]

Amen

[@brotherskeeper2253]

You shall know The Truth and The TRUTH shall set us free

[@coal1987]

Everyone here’s a tip. It worked for me maybe it’ll work for someone else out there. When you get the urge, try to immediately see yourself in the third person shaking your head at yourself for how pathetic you look fantasizing about porn (degeneracy). It helped me snap my mind out of it. Now I’ve learned to live without it. The first time i saw porn… i was 13 years old😢😢😢. I’m 34 now. It should be illegal. Government should censor porn from everyone.

[@easywrighder1099]

What has to be stressed and brought in as absolutely crucial and important element in the issue of falling into addictions of any kind, and overcoming them, is the day-to-day, determent and deliberate building of a deep and intimate relationship with God as always present in our lives. The Love of God is unconditional beyond comprehension, and will heal and transform you entirely. Always appear before God exactly and totally completely sincerely as you are, to experience the grace. Conditions are man made. Shame is man made. God's love is far beyond that, and greater than anything imaginable. You will be healed. Trust. Believe. Hallelujah! 🕊

[@TreGC69]

Amen.

[@Ryko000]

Amen.

[@GT1Zero]

Amen sir.

[@SklSucks123]

Entirely unnecessary element. If it works for you, great.

[@Mati-mk5wd]

@@SklSucks123 you are so right man, i cant even express how much i hate these people who make beng religious a totally necessary thing in life, this is how church takes advantage from people who are in a shitty moment in life.

[@ifyourespondyourmad.2409]

I stopped on my 20th bday and so far it's gone good. It's only been a week. But I don't feel the desire to do it anymore. Now I'm starting to leave it to my imagination and its more enjoyable honestly.

[@mysteryjunkie9808]

Around the 11 day mark the urges come back hard so be prepared for that and power through it

[@TheBigDynamo]

@@mysteryjunkie9808 I'm with you man. It's definitely more difficult in the beginning but once you get passed that, it's like you get actually strength put into you. I'm going through it but I don't give up on it

[@gardenofeels6872]

Do you think it will help you in REAL relationships with real women?

[@ifyourespondyourmad.2409]

@@gardenofeels6872 it'll definitely make my experience more intence.

[@gl-gm1dz]

bro still going strong?

[@Fay1106]

It's not just men that watch porn a lot more women watch it then y'all think, and it's addicting for women as well, and a lot of women are not truly satisfied with their sex life and do not reach climax so they have to use porn to help themselves. At least with men they will always get to the end no matter what haha but not for women

[@picassojulien899]

I disagree about the men part. A lot of men watch prom to fulfill a desire they don’t get in the bed room also.

[@Ole-oj3ep]

@@picassojulien899 think he is talking abt climax

[@katrinaisalwayscorrect]

If you are married please stop using porn and hurting your lady by cheating on her like this. Digital prostitution is not a loophole, you commit to one woman or you don't deserve her being faithful to you.

[@rodan2852]

Sh will find an excuse anyway

[@believewithyourheart5627]

Pornography has just literally ruined our marriage..it’s done

[@katrinaisalwayscorrect]

@@believewithyourheart5627 I'm so sorry 😞 😔

[@Gloriagal78]

Couldn’t agree more

[@SuncoreMedia]

Porn is an instrument of propaganda designed to weaken our country and hurt the women.

[@tyler42024]

I agree!!! And the more women feel hurt the less they will want to be with men which will decline birth rates, this is all makes sense if you actually think about this!!

[@MojitoMatt]

The “Don’t Lie” rule is real deep. Don’t make yourself out to be someone you’re not. You have to confront who you truly are everyday. You are not what you say, but what you do.

[@royalecrafts6252]

He contradicts himself tho

[@mr.mayhem6755]

@@royalecrafts6252 How so?

[@DeepakKumar-jt1jt]

Right but the question is how can those people move on and forget themselves and move on and make a beautiful life I felt the same way Now After feeling all this feeling I truly understand the cost of not listening to your conscience

[@onementality9781]

I took my gift away from myself by having sex before marriage. I'm like the kid who stole the only $100 bill from my dads wallet during the night and the next morning he went to give it to me but it was gone. Don't be like me and save your gift so you can truly enjoy it.

[@Babytoretto]

That was written amazingly

[@nickg5275]

It’s so hard to stop and i don’t even realize how long it’s been

[@Alessandro1983]

I think we, men, underestimate the dangers of porn addiction.

[@stevefinesse]

With any addiction the key to cutting it is finding something to replace it . It doesn’t have to be something bad . I used to masterbate not anymore bc I work very often , I work out and I’m very confident in myself to find a woman and do the dirty with her and if I’m single I know how to enjoy myself I keep myself busy so I never have time to masterbate . Find something else you enjoy just as much as whatever you’re addicted too or something that keeps you busy . I don’t smoke but if I did to quit smoking I would work out , or bike ride for a while go to a nice view have a nice lunch or dinner and enjoy the sunset that not only will tire me and give me a good time of rest but it will also take my mind off of whatever reason I’m smoking

[@withnail-and-i]

And yeah porn is nothing compared to most smokable substances (except for weed). Take it from a crackhead!

[@k-dot2427]

Until the elephant in the room is addressed it will only get worse

[@wesfin]

0:40, 5:38- honesty very key virtue to look for and reinforce through rewarding reaction (classical conditioning)

[@BIGGELATO]

Anything and everything we do at an extreme is an addiction and whenever you try quitting an addiction, you will go through withdrawals that will make you irritable, not pleasant to be around, it'll be hard, but it is possible. Quitting drugs, alcohol, porn, sugar, salt, medication, sweets, soda, ice cream; It's the reverse of building a habit, slowly quit little by little, day by day... It takes 90 days to successfully build a habit, it'll take you 90 days to also quit an addiction. There are stages you'll need to fight through, and each time you fight through those stages and succeed, the end/start get closer and closer. This is a rule for life, for anything and everything in life. I quit smoking in 2017, took about 3 months, little by little, with the aid of nicotine patches and support by haters that were surprised that, I, a heavy smoker that smoked the most in the group, was the one that was able to quit. People will be surprised because they don't expect it from you because you both come from the same place, and they hate to know you're doing better. They'll act friendly and supportive in front of you, but talk down on you and say things behind your back.

[@sebastianalegria3401]

As we live in a technological era, we all get information much faster especially, if it's about watching porn and a movie that portrays perfectly this issue is Shame, starring Michael Fassbender, which is about a s*x addict's life that when he realizes s*x becomes a sort of drug, he gets in trouble affecting his closest relative "sister". So, that's why it is important to talk about topics like this with people like Peterson.

[@basedrockstarr]

Sexual attraction becomes warped - The Coolidge Effect is what distinguishes PMO addiction from other addictions. - Stop watching porn, eliminate your triggers, and grow Don’t underestimate the utility of deprivation - Having the discipline to deprive yourself of what’s holding you back gives you the strength to move forward Porn makes you timid and weak Tell the truth (or at least don’t lie) - It’s crucial that you hold yourself accountable when overcoming an addiction - When you lie to others, you’re not just lying to them - you’re lying to yourself - If you violate your conscience you will pay

[@alexandertimoschuk8470]

Hate to follow a different path but the man/woman stuff Dr. Peterson went on about is not answering Roommates question. The question was "what is it with women today" I think that the answer provide "it must be you" was sidestepping the question. To my observation, I think a lot of men think that women are expecting things from a man that may or may not be fundamentally important. As Dr. Peterson stated there is the primal laws of attraction. In the past and somewhat still today men have always been the hunters. Today, in most societies the roll of women has changed and therefore their wants and need have also changed. It is not hard to think back and define what a husband did and what a wife's role was. Today there has not been a very good dialogue between the sexes in mapping out a future. For example, physical attraction is great, but are your values, culture, expectations, the same?? So let me say NO it is to YOU, it could very well be women in your area that have a common outlook. If you look at the evolution of Disney shows as an indicator of children expectations then compare Snow White with High School Musical. Is it normal to have two girls fight over one man?? Was that man a prince or just a cute boy??? I don't know if you know where I am going with this but Prince charming has to be cute as well as rich nowadays. So where to we put strong family values?? Where do we put being hard working??? Where do we put open minded??? Is that all below rich??? Is that all below six pack?? In short, the roll of women is evolving faster than that of men. And as a last comment, directly to Dr. Peterson, men complaining about their wives, is an old stereotype based on the concept that matriarchs of the family controlled the household and put order in there spouses lives in order. Living this pattern entitle men to complain about there wives which has nothing to about their love for them. (if that makes sense)

[@blackhawk0071292]

Prolonged Fasting is a reset button for almost all the systems.

[@aladyofleisure2401]

Kudos for talking about this because it's really ruining both men and women

[@_youmadbrah]

Only masculine women watch porn

[@thecraplordsell4575]

It’s ruining guys more

[@virginiastrother4098]

Yeap.

[@Leirothehero]

Literally quit a few weeks ago. Have truly never felt more alive.

[@Adrian_Estando]

JP is not perfect but I don’t trust anyone that has listened to him and as a result dislikes him. Thank you for posting this clip!

[@Samzz21]

You talk without thinking

[@Adrian_Estando]

@@Samzz21 - why don’t you explain exactly what you mean by that accusation. If you are able. “it’s easier to be critical than it is to be correct.” -

[@fla8623]

I am an extreme radical leftist but I agree.

[@lizarosa156]

Trust is safety with another being. That they won’t cause mental physical or spiritual harm to you or your loved ones. Safety for your pets and finances very important.