Dr. Shawn T. SMITH (relationship gatekeeping, male depression, and ethical conduct)

[@gwills9337]

Sean was a pioneer in the men’s health movement, he took a lot of arrows so that psych hacks could come this far

[@justanothernick3984]

Slugging it out... Wonderful "blue-pilled" guest. That's all I'm going to say to keep the cordiality. And I'm kind of hoping to see a shift in the content but I'm guessing it's a) not that interesting to the regulars of the channel and b) part of the channel's fundamental experience of the relationship "game". Hope it wasn't that offensive of a remark. I might have to familiarize myself with this guy's material.

[@SelfImageStylist]

Couldn't you just find it on another channel?@@justanothernick3984

[@NickAndTech]

Having observed the "manosphere" for over 12 years I can say that "red-pilled" has lost most of its meaning. Many of the best-known PUAs, game evangelists and MGTOW advocates aren't people you should be taking any advice from. They've led thousands of men down hedonistic, nihilistic and self-destructive paths. This reasonable conversation between two professionals is a cut above what the vast majority of people are capable of and it'll be that much more useful for the young men that hear it.@@justanothernick3984

[@kenandrieling5885]

My dad was the perfect husband. a good provider and decent father and my mom's still talked about divorcing him. Even though they never did. He's been gone a long time but I feel sorry for him

[@ericjames7819]

That happens on a large scale throughout society and is an example of why women shouldn't have rights. They shouldn't have the right to divorce, or even decide who they marry.

[@Darknight526]

My condolences, may he Rest in Peace.

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

My mother said the same about my dad

[@Khan-rz8qi]

One of the biggest problems young men face is the increasing insurmountable standards they now have to reach in order to be considered an attractive prospect. Theres a big difference with young men giving up just out of laziness, verses young men giving up because they simply won’t be able to reach unrealistic standards in our modern day world. And honestly, there’s no solutions to this, you can’t just talk women into being more realistic, we already see how that’s working out. It’s one of those problems where men as a whole need to start evolving to find ways to make their lives more meaningful without the company of a woman. “Hope” isn’t going to help here fellas, the trends and stats are very clear about where we’re headed.💯

[@user-uc7qb1su4e]

And where do you think this is all heading?

[@Kreymore]

Hope is not a strategy. Economics drives people to engage in intimate relationships. The only solution for a man is to rise above all others and select his pick of the litter. Notice how I didn't say 'men' as all men have and will never get what they want in life.

[@Toiletclogga]

⁠everything we get in life is enough. I don’t need anything else to make me feel complete. God made my body a closed system for a reason. I’ve made it this far I can keep going.

[@user-uc7qb1su4e]

@@Toiletclogga your body isn’t a closed system, you need food, water and air

[@masterTigress96]

You allude to one of the important problems at hand that contribute to a bad mindset that a lot of guys develop over time. This is what I am referring to in your comment: "...make their lives more meaningful without the company of a woman" Men should do that anyway. You cannot outsource the responsibility for happiness to someone else, as you at the same time, give that same person the power to make you miserable. Only *you* are responsible for your own happiness and men need to create a "safe space" inside of this abyss that we call single hood. If you are comfortable being alone and by yourself, you will not be afraid to walk away or break up with a women. And the ability to walk away is one of the cornerstones of healthy and functional relationships. All mean should spend at least 4-5 years alone, in their own apartment, paid for by themselves, have their own car, go on holiday alone or with friends, and focus on learning to take care of yourself (and the house). This will put you in a much better position during the negotiations for a relationship, as you can take care of yourself, clean, cook, whatever. In other words: you don't need a mommy or a maid. Someone like that might make life easier, but it is not a necessity. You can then really drill down with not just the question "what do you bring to the table", but go much more in depth. A lot of guys just don't really know how to properly take care of themselves, due to the fact most parent(s) don't really bother to teach men (nor women it seems nowadays). Dedicate 4-5 years of your life on *you* and learning who you are, what you want in life and learn to live life without a girlfriend/wife/etc. I promise you, you will not die during the process, and by the end of the 5 years you will have emerged victorious with a new kind of confidence in your own abilities.

[@missionlifemotion413]

“The Tactical Guide To Women” should be really be required reading for all men.

[@brianmeen2158]

Dr Shawn Smith is fantastic. I hope he becomes a regular on this show

[@josron6088]

Every relationship I had while dating was a one-way Street. You are expected to do things for them they would never do for you and it wasn't about us it was always about them. I'm not blameless. Maybe I'm making bad decisions who I date but everybody seems to be pretty much the same.

[@timetraveler_0]

Most girls got issues they aren't ever aware of. It's really hard to break their patterns in mid-late 20s.

[@GhostlyNomad130]

You gotta pay to play! Forreal tho, Woman sure are stingy with their resources. They will often Only pay if they are punching up so to speak. 10/10, 9/10 guys get that sort of treatment. The rest of us have to pay For A CHANCE

[@Obliv69]

you provide, they receive. the only time they give a little is when theyre about to ask for more from you

[@thecurrentmoment]

women act differently for men they really are in love with aka the man they chose to make babies with (on an instinctive level), so for every other guy they seem to play games, etc. That's my take anyway. In saying that, women are still women and a lot of them don't really get what men need in a relationship, even if they are in love

[@Monkeypoop533]

Women are the receivers in the relationship, both metaphorically and literally.

[@jtrealfunny]

I like the guests focus on or attention to the subtler aspects of all this relationship stuff. And the perspective on depression sounded very true based on my personal experience (I could view it as a realistic and honest response to my felt situation and my perceived possibilities rather than a condition that needed to be cured or treated). For me what's most important are the feelings so if flirting can become fun, if I can make eye contact and give and honest heart felt smile, or have a conversation and just enjoy an meaningless interaction with an attractive woman, then things can develop and evolve into greater connection. And I did go through that process of giving up, accepting and actually getting comfortable without romantic relationship and then being able to pursue it from a place of confidence and security. Also if you focus on fun and good feelings, well, they can't take that away from you.

[@Lili-vn5cq]

I watched/listened the whole interview. I didn’t want them to end

[@iGhostr]

Here are the timestamps: 0:00 - relationships between men and women 5:32 - how dogs skew the dating market 19:58 - what women experience during pregnancy 28:17 - how relationships could effect the future of robotics 56:43 - why women after 30 choose to shout at bigger sized turtles 1:15:09 - what to seek in a relationship if you are square faced 1:20:32 - why men are better at dominating their environment just by farting (demo) 1:34:00 - closing words

[@colasfalon6470]

Brilliant.

[@niallcurran7894]

Guys, epic discussion. As an older guy just turned 40 and living in Ireland (similar in many ways) my life is beginning to turn out the way I've envisioned. I was also a late bloomer in some respects, not in height or capacity to attract dates, but in purpose and drive. It's truly amazing the transformation that occurs in one's 30's which is such great wisdom to impart on younger men as ye have discussed. Having a connection to the world as opposed to society specifically and after trying lots of different things, confidence through competency makes a man and this fills in the relationship gaps. Thank you both, great work fellas.

[@MBheli621]

Watch how both of them sit in silence before answering a question. They take in what has been said, think and then reply. “Be impeccable with your word”

[@Monkeypoop533]

Loved this! Wonderful to hear other thinking individuals who dialog without being negative. I just wish they were more channels on raising kids. I suppose a strong base…

[@filthycasual9381]

31:46 - 51:40 was great for explaining depression as it occurs in young men.

[@DC-1773]

Yes! I've been following content in this area for years and this is the first time I've heard about why young men are depressed. Good stuff.

[@anisenkrill6179]

Dr Terraban never heard of Thomas Sowell. My mind is blown.

[@SelfImageStylist]

and Dr. Smith never saw 12 Angry Men so it's a tie, lol

[@ericjames7819]

He's interested in the world of emotions, not reason.

[@PlanetOfTheApes999]

Sowell has thoroughly psychopathic views on most things.

[@dvkdvkful]

@@PlanetOfTheApes999 Translation from commie-speak: Sowell isn't basing his thinking on feelingzes that make him (or you) feel most self-"enlightened" and virtuous with himself, but on facts

[@PlanetOfTheApes999]

@@dvkdvkful Yep, anyone who disagrees with you on anything must be a Communist Antichrist Devilspawn. If you were alive 500 years ago, you'd be burning witches at the stake.

[@darbyohara]

Shawn is one of the first psychologists I ever heard in the men’s side. His book “the tactical guide to women” is excellent

[@monicamccready3921]

You are to be commended for your frankness about being an entrepreneur. Sometimes I look back at how hard it was for years, how I almost quit more than once, and how I can't believe how much I have succeeded by sheer tenacity over the years. There are no guarantees, that's for sure. Congratulations to you!

[@gsftom]

I am in my 50s. I’ve had many good and some bad experiences. It’s interesting to listen to u guys and learn abt relationships. Seems like there is a lot to do and not do. Interesting stuff. Still weighing whether or not I want another woman 🙂. Definitely a mixed bag.

[@joekarnitis3962]

Thanks!

[@mikes257]

Great discussion. Thanks for telling us about his new book! And good luck on your own! I look forward to reading them.

[@mattwells5022]

Shawn T Smith is the number 1 speaker on male relationships and how to improve them there is nobody as grounded experienced and fair.

[@WinglessRain]

It's never been easier to excel once you find someone you want to hit on. But then again, it's never been harder to find someone to hit on, or areas/activities where people gather.

[@SelfImageStylist]

The algorithm brought me here, lol. I'm a woman in my 60's married 34+ years and still trying to figure out the male psyche. Your video gave me a fresh retrospective on some marital conflicts from my husband's POV. Some of the motives assigned to women didn't quite fit, given my age probably, but I can see myself coming back to try on a different lens when triggered, if only to jostle the certainty of my own POV. I'd love to see a video where you engage dialectically with an intelligent, open-minded woman amenable to these ideas.

[@DavidDiaz-he6ei]

This is an excellent channel for men and woman. You’re in the right place.

[@georgetsagaris4470]

Women of the kind you described are few and far between these days.

[@smater332000]

Pointless. A woman will not rationally grasp this discussion, as a woman is unable to be rational in most areas and entirely emotional in terms of relationships. See how you still dont understand your husband after decades of marriage, into old age? Case closed.

[@TheirIAre]

​@@georgetsagaris4470yep

[@TheirIAre]

You have a refreshing perspective. I don't hear enough of this type of Human humility from the female side enough. Usually it's mostly just absolute righteousness and entitlement and no self accountability at all. But thank you for reminding me it's not always the case. Sadly my experience has shown me mostly just the toxic righteous traits.

[@WillyWanka]

Proud to say I've been here and saw the value in this channel from early on

[@rotorfix]

If only I had discovered a channel like this 20 years ago. 😂 Everything I hear in these vids aligns almost perfectly with my experience. If only these insights were required High School curriculum for every male. I suspect in such a case we’d eventually see a correlated reduction in male depression, domestic violence, and the Incel class.

[@tedknudstrup6101]

Oh Man! I really enjoyed this dialogue from two of my favorite guys. On the riff of what do guys want? I have a phrase, “don’t make your partner’s life suck.”:-) On the employment or work? “Never work for someone where you need their permission to succeed.” Orion stated that values but in longer verbiage. Excellent video, thank you want to listen again to soak in a little more.

[@DannRecio]

Shawn T. Smith is the bro 🔥

[@ScottKlajicPHD]

Orion--yes. All that stuff about being "unhappy" leads to dead bedroom, which then results in cheating, hence the divorce. I was actually kind of surprised that Shawn oversimplified that dynamic to she just gets "fed up with it." This suggests that men just wake up one day and decide to stick it in some other woman with no context. I don't think I have ever seen it in my own practice. Its usually after years of begging for it and then he gets distracted by a woman in his environment who does not make him do so.

[@ericjames7819]

Anything that depends on a woman's emotions will lead to failure. That includes marriage. The institution of marriage depending on women being happy is doomed. The only way marriage (and even society) can function is to not depend on women's emotions. That means men having authority over women.

[@rickdeshon1708]

@@ericjames7819 Uggh....

[@ericjames7819]

@@rickdeshon1708 the way it has been, and worked, through 99.99% of human history.

[@ThorMaximus]

59:57 - Need to drop the “lower your standards” notion and apply the notion “to attract what you want, become that person that brings value that is wanted”

[@LittleMew133]

I think before filing for divorce, do a divorce mock trial. Like get separated for like a year, and see if you actually miss each other. Maybe it was other factors that led to the stress and hatred. My uncle and aunt separated but remained legally married, and they got back together. That was 20+ years ago; they are going to retire in a beach town this year.

[@cityzen206]

Reason why women initiate divorce is because they choose a partner emotionally. When the dopamine levels drop, they are more likely to jump ship. Men hold to their logical choice and serve out their duty.(generally) Question to ask is is it wise to ever choose a partner purely based on emotions.

[@roses6564]

Yes, it is. Because of your emotions are not that of an ameoba, they will indicate multi-dimensional compatibility - physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual - which is the foundation of lifelong happy relationships, above and beyond economics.

[@ericjames7819]

Yes, women make their decisions based upon emotion. That's why they ruin their own lives and it's why men need to have authority over women.

[@MaxBelousovGG]

Birth control also changes how a female perceives you

[@markdatheist9179]

@PsycHacks An overlooked huge issue at the beginning of the convo, is that women DEMAND excellence from their men, in a way men do not of their partners. Hence most men require experience in relationships to be succesful at relationships. Women do not. Femenine, respectful and caring is enough to keep 90% of dudes happy out there.

[@ericjames7819]

Women demand anything that appeals to their emotions. This is why what they want needs to be irrelevant in society.

[@TheirIAre]

​@@ericjames7819❤

[@TheirIAre]

❤

[@zrunner240Z]

100% you will hit ONE MILLION by Dec 31

[@BrendaVaughn-k8k]

I enjoyed this interview . Much more civil and balanced .

[@louisepotier2784]

Thank-you. 🙂

[@ffstretch]

Love this duo. Shawn is a OG

[@trainingarcboys109]

Best asker of questions

[@Appleloucious]

One Love! Always forward, never ever backward!! ☀☀☀ 💚💛❤ 🙏🏿🙏🙏🏼

[@Beiezle]

1:22:33 Practicing your moral code and standards with humility and flexibility vs. responding to your ego with self-righteousness and no compromise… 😮 And the role that higher moral structures play in guiding behaviour and habits. 🤯 So eye-opening how easy it is to mistake the two, especially in stressful or unsafe situations.

[@eddjohnson8898]

Hey Orian, can you make a video about how men can make more options for themselves, without being players?

[@rogerbritus9378]

Players create options by faking being high-value men. Non-players become actual high-value men by investing heavily in acquiring desirable traits, internal and external.

[@pazzodi3]

​@@rogerbritus9378I was a player for way over a decade.. I didn't fake anything.. I was playful, attentive, romantic, spontaneous, wild, exciting, great listener, incredible physique, beautiful vibrant young facial beauty.. i stopped being a player because its expensive, time consuming and many times one attracts women that are looking for an escape from reality, so one has to put a really good show for them. Now in days I approach women that I'm willing to invest in, I'm more careful on my selection, I don't care how physically attractive they are, if they drain me of life I walk away easily or ask them to pass me over. If you want to increase your options, first put yourself out there, second know what you're looking for in a woman, third place yourself in their shoes; what would women want in a man: emotionally, psychologically, skill sets, traits, habits, romantically, physically, fantasy, experiences. And fourth no matter how the interaction goes be grateful and considerate. Meaning be happy within yourself first, love your own company and you'll never think happiness is outside of you. Make yourself laugh, smile and peaceful. Then you'll attract wonderful women. Good luck mates

[@Richby31]

Love the video please keep going

[@colasfalon6470]

1:32 The possibility of divorce does not impact both sides equally. To pretend this is the case is quite sinister. In essence: There are consequences for unacceptable behavior by men in marriage. But what are the consequences for unacceptable behavior by women in marriage?

[@GhostlyNomad130]

He punishes her with his lack of Interest and attention. Men are not helpless victims of woman. They reward woman for bad behavior and wonder why they act badly....

[@Pride0FTh3Lion]

@@GhostlyNomad130 He’s talking about tangible consequences when it comes to divorce which Dr Smith pointed out. The obvious tangible consequences for men are alimony & child support. What are the tangible consequences for women?

[@blairdurward4324]

@@GhostlyNomad130elaborate? I may have done this myself inadvertently before, I thought I was respecting her space, but was told I was give of the wrong kind of attention.

[@MichaelAlberta]

Thank you.

[@TonganJedi]

I'm not even sure I want a relationship anymore. I've always thought it's what I want, but I'm rethinking all of it. I'm closing in on 50 and I like where my life is.

[@iCheetosbutter]

Dr.Shawn. Thank you!

[@LittleMew133]

"The odds of being attacked by a cat with a tank are low, but never zero." Many people with cheating spouses never suspected a thing. Comfort and failure are both located in unfound level of security and certainty.

[@xXrockmeXx]

Yes! Women do not enjoy breaking up their family. There are a lot of men with undiagnosed mental issues running around thinking they are doing A, but every one else sees that he is doing C. No matter how much you try to tell him, he still thinks he is right, and how long are women supposed to endure delusional behavior and attitude before leaving? We don't enjoy leaving someone we love. It fucking hurts

[@TheLinkedList]

Sounds like a tough situation! What was it you experienced, what were the man's mental issue(s)?

[@TheirIAre]

It absolutely goes both Ways. Women as a whole just seem to be unable to see that a majority of them are also absolutely toxic and gaslight etc. As a good hearted man who has tried many times to create an authentic loving relationship, I can assure you there are just as many delusional sick women who can't be bothered to have the most basic humility and acknowledge they are capable of shortcomings. It's sad to be so disillusioned by actual experience. I choose my solidarity out of self respect and a longing for peace and simplicity now.

[@vincentcampa]

This is the one I wanted to see

[@ScottKlajicPHD]

I was hoping you would do this live! Its good to see you both.

[@matthewnorris203]

Modeling is extremely important Also, Coach Corey Wayne teaches the stuff play-by-play really well.

[@darbyohara]

No he doesn’t

[@susanhaines7358]

I keep thinking how 100-150 years ago young men around 22 met a girl and got married and immediately was a family. Lived on their own amd worked hard alone. The hooligans and bar flys are what todays youth remind me of. No hustle just living life in a hedonistic way. I believe hedonism attracts hedonism. I am with Tucker getting married and having children forces you to grow up. Our culture today frowns on this but all the youth seem to do is party in their youth and now we are where we are.

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

Well actually you had both families nearby so you weren’t completely alone

[@caeaves]

This was great!

[@madness5693]

add timestamps

[@restingsmirkface]

1:09:14 - 1:09:46 well said

[@marguskiis7711]

Red pill crap

[@sandlerfrancois666]

This was great!

[@drmatthewhorkey]

I love the "12 angry men" reference!

[@7oddM]

Man. I needed this.

[@Sir_Viver]

Ordered both books. Thank you!

[@benthleydorcin6160]

OPTIMISTIC IS GREAT. YOU DESERVE IT SIR.

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

I think the number one thing must learn to control is their thirst. The second is their negative emotions.

[@nev634]

Hey Dr Shawn, I remember you when you had colour in your hair! Looking good my man. 👍

[@tbird12yt]

Punctilious. Learned a new word.

[@sami.1983]

Smh, still missing the point. The way these two lays this out is some kind of coping mechanism for men who are not high value men. Not sure why Orion want to sugar coat the truth to men. Women are INCREASINGLY filling the provider role of men which was UNIQUELY a male role for a millennia. If women are ( and rapidly at that) out providing and being equal to men in providing then men in ROMANTIC relationships with women , men are going to be disregarded and/or not needed. Providing is essential part of power and love for a woman. If a woman can fill your unique role then you're replacable. Most companies practice this in the real world. Orion needs to cut to the chase and stop obfuscting because it makes his audience feel better. It's the reason for why women initiate more divorces (70%) and why the sexless rate for men is near 33%. I'm not for or against anything but as women start out earning men (Goldman Sachs predicts in 10 years) the sexlessness for men will probably creep higher. Neither of them are interested in telling the brutal truth.

[@marguskiis7711]

Exactly

[@FearlessUntamed]

He's been pandering a lot in the last few months. I was quite suprised as some of the stuff he was saying in the interview.

[@croissants1280]

Hypergamy dictates that women dates across and up social hierarchy. If women are outperforming men financially the pool of men is small that have access to these women. Solution: 1. Find women who are lower than you socioeconomicallly. 2. Increase your value to you have more access. 3. Travel abroad to a sexual marketplace where your value gives you more access.

[@cainerollins]

It's probably the lack of relationships that will increase; sex will become available through other means. The thing is, these sexless men often pay for things that don't lead to sex but instead increase their desires for sex even more, either because they don't know how to, find it shameful, or because it's illegal and they don't want to get involved with the law. In any case, women will always outnumber high-value men, and they too will find other ways of getting/providing it. There'll be a ceiling where this sexlessness in men stops.

[@kayaogz]

What a duo!

[@carlosortegaart]

4:28 25:38 47:12 "i was a mechanic" 47:30 "i was an actor in nyc" 52:03

[@subjectowns]

What an awful time to be a young man. Thanks for the video, as always

[@InfinityOnHi]

it's a great time to be a young man, because we need difficulty to improve. however i can see how with such high difficulty margins a lot will fail.

[@subjectowns]

@@InfinityOnHi agree with you so far, and with such high margins of men failing its safe to say the model for which we raise our men in this country fails us.

[@InfinityOnHi]

@@subjectowns 100% agree, starting with the media they feed us and single motherhood lol

[@michaeldoe4805]

The world is the same as has been and will be in the future. Internet and social media and increased exposure to each other just exposed how it has been all along. At least now, you know what you are getting yourself into, otherwise the current times are not any different from past times nor it will be different from future...

[@subjectowns]

@@michaeldoe4805 agree with that somewhat as well except for our economy. It’s been flipped upside. Traditional routes of schooling, housing, working class people are priced out. Meanwhile our society can over value someone streaming video games or selling feet pictures. That part of the modern world is vastly different than times past. Now the skillless are paid and the skillful are the working class

[@v9b23j]

With regards to Dr. Smith's question "are you making the case that being an entrepreneur puts you in a position where it's easier to live by your moral code?" it's not always the case. I know some entrepreneurs who purport themselves to be upholding principles yet lack integrity, faced criticism by their stake holders. They responded by being defensive, not taking accountability, and blame shifting stake holders for their actions or lack thereof.

[@HustleHabit]

Looking forward to this collab

[@ravipeiris4388]

Great discussion ❤

[@elsa_nyc]

Fascinating discussion, especially about depression and our place in the world.

[@aygwm]

Regarding noticing other women… I just say “being with you does not make me blind” and laugh it off.

[@ericjames7819]

The real problem is pandering to women's emotions.

[@troyberg6248]

1:22:00 It's simpler for entrepreneurs to find a living serving the community receiving a routine reliable wage, for sure. The declared fact that over 80% of new businesses fail within the first year also testifies to the difficulties of an entrepreneurial life.

[@JLMcFarlin]

44:00 Most people in the military do in fact know what it takes to go from an E-6 to an E-5. Many do it as well! LOL

[@ArkansasBassMan]

Lol I caught that too. There are lots of things.....

[@sb75ification]

Shout out to Thomas Sowell!

[@DC-1773]

It's harder to speak up for what's right but unpopular when you have a family that's relying on you.

[@errorerror1337]

5:10 I like "we get good at what we practice" but how can we balance that with entering a relationship with a woman who hasn't had many, or who routinely cuts them off after a brief period? Seems like there's some tension between this view and finding a good woman who hasn't been "practicing" getting run through by every Chad out there.

[@garydrago]

The reason men are more understanding of the trade-offs is because they have to deal with them up front to get the benefits down the line. Women can get the benefits up front and deal with the trade-offs down the line, making it much easier to make the wrong decisions

[@sammyb1651]

1:20:29 Just on a point of order, you're confusing entrepreneurship with freelancing. Entrepreneurship creates something greater than the individual, so that the entrepreneur can step outside of the entity and the business can run without him. It creates opportunities for other people and the thing created can then be sold as a going concern. It has a life and purpose of it's own. Freelancers generate their own work in a way that looks similar to entrepreneurship but if they stop doing the work, by definition the work stops. They don't create value beyond themselves as an individual. They are the work. People use the term "entrepreneur" because it's sexier but I think Americans especially should have a real appreciation of what an entrepreneur is. It's what the success of the country is built on.

[@0000FFz]

Dudes too boomerized he doesn’t offer much value but kudos to Orion pushing back when he disagrees and still offers his own helpful insight.

[@PossiblyAzrael]

Boomerized Lmao. What a term.

[@rogerbritus9378]

​@@PossiblyAzraelA lot easier than genexercized or millenniumrized.

[@TheirIAre]

Or maybe you just blindly see through your own limited narrow self serving perspective. Actually, yes yes you most certainly do. Not impressive at all.

[@lonewolf18650]

Women will admit openly that tge most important thing to them is status looks and wealth and that they will ditch you if you cant provide

[@JAdams-jx5ek]

This was an excellent interview / collaboration. Thank you.

[@fps_spicy]

time stamps? 😭

[@rickyc46]

I love your channel and Dr. Shawn T Smith's book

[@tomyoung8563]

Who meets in the real world? It’s pretty much one cold shoulder after another

[@AlmaVasquezjr]

You throw parties, that how you meet people.

[@alexwelts2553]

Each culture and lineage has different things pertaining to relationships, obstacles, struggles, and hidden icebergs that can take the whole thing down if you aren't aware that what people say their history is, isn't necessarily what it actually is, and that cycle repeats again and again until it's right. The only way these relationship questions will be black and white is if you're in a relationship with your sibling who experienced the same generational cycles.

[@TalonDeKarrde]

🙏🏻

[@sammyb1651]

1:06:26 This was the most naive, low-resolution thinking I think I've heard on the subject. I was actually astonished to hear it coming from a person who is supposed to have studied intersexual relationships in depth. If women have a never ending laundry list of requirements in a mate....and men have very few requirements of a mate....who do you THINK is more likely going to be adjudged "at fault" for causing the end of a relationship? Women need more emotional labour, more attention, more resource investment and they place themselves (and their happiness) at the centre of a relationship. Quite simply there is a metric sh!t ton more things men can "get wrong" in the eyes of a woman to cause her to "not be happy" than vice versa. I was blown away by the ignorance of the basic premises this particular comment highlighted.

[@AnteLene]

I rolled my eyes so hard when he said that. Smith has some major blind spots because he doesn't actually do a full accounting of causal consequence.

[@josron6088]

Wow. Well said.

[@sammyb1651]

@@AnteLene Not that it matters terribly (because I'm sure he's a successful author with good sales) but that one comment actually cost him a sale from me. I'd seen the recommendation for his book and was actually looking for something to read next week...so I was primed to buy...but when I heard that remark I just thought wow! It just struck me it would be a monumental waste of time bothering with it!

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

I LOVE your analysis. This is exactly what I’ve been preaching for people to wake up and see This doctor DOES NOT WANT to help men. He wants to trick them into playing a game that largely benefits a woman. That way, he keeps you watching his videos when it doesn’t work out. This doctor is so disingenuous. If men had more standards, the dating crisis would go away. If men stopped talking about loneliness and stopped giving power to women who have never earned it, this dating crisis would slowly but surely alleviate itself. But no, these men perpetuate it at other men’s expense. Glad to see I’m not the only one awake over here. I have to respect your analysis

[@0000FFz]

Yep total ignorance. Dude is a washed boomer.

[@jdsartre9520]

can someone summarize what he says about relationship gatekeeping?

[@themick6586]

One of the problems nowadays is that women are too materialistic, wanting things that are really not going to substantially increase their quality of life, like children and a supportive man can give them. They all want the big house and the Mercedes in the driveway. My parents had none of that but raised 5 kids and although not wealthy they had purpose in their life.

[@ericjames7819]

That's one small example of how women act based on their emotions. It's also why men need to have authority over women for them to not ruin the lives of both her and him.

[@susanhaines7358]

Excellent point

[@rayzerot]

​@@ericjames7819The men I know are just as materialistic as the women I know. Point of fact, the data shows that women are more likely to be savers then men

[@ericjames7819]

@@rayzerot "Savings" don't reflect responsible decision making. Women do 70-80% of all consumer spending while men do 20-30%. The ratios are the reverse for starting small businesses (which require savings to be spent). Women also receive more financial assistance from parents and the government.

[@missfromsunshinestate]

This 'masterpiece ' takes the cake. 😂 Women that often make more money than men these days are more materialistic, hah? And, being a full-time maid, sex by demand slave, and a surrogate for 5 kids should be 'every woman's dream', according to you? Jesus Christ! 😮

[@matthewnorris203]

Bring Henry Cloud on! His book “How to Get a Date Worth Keeping” is really good and talks about this stuff simply.

[@fps_spicy]

❤

[@trentvlak]

Dream team here. Which one of you is Batman and which one is Robin?

[@tym5583]

Why did Sean discontinue his stuff with Rich Cooper I always wondered that? Was so abruptly

[@Stevo_Reacts_To_The_Internet]

What noise would you be referring to?

[@rodneytaylor2054]

Wow, how can Orion not know about Thomas Sowell. At a minimum read "Social Justice Fallacies"

[@kstock00]

Really enjoy this, but bass is so high it's almost unintelligible during a car commute.

[@Obliv69]

27:20 respect and cooperation. the exact opposite of the disrespectful fast talking mouthy broads that want to dominate, like we see a lot of today

[@Chop_69]

Dr. Taraban, have you written any books?

[@DeltaTempest]

He's writing one now

[@marguskiis7711]

No

[@croissants1280]

Timestamps would be great!

[@troyberg6248]

1:15:00 1954 _Twelve Angry Men_ originally aired as a radio play.

[@SA-vz7qi]

1:04:11 Shaun is wrong here. The most common reason for divorce is irreconcilable differences in which "grown appart" is often the reason. Where often minor issues are blown up, also certain locations incentives women to make claims because the incentives are so strong. Incidentally cheating is getting roughly equal, but the cheating happens at different ages. Thermal issue is men and women approach issues differently but we have started denying this in our society. Now men get told the lie but learn quickly not to believe this. Women are told men are defective women who just need to be fixed, so they struggle to grasp that dealing with men is very different. Neither sex is well equipped to deal with the opposite, but women are at a greater disadvantage