Easily, The Narcissist's Most Maddening Gaslighting Tactic

Narcissists take great delight in throwing you off course. They perpetuate conflict even as they accuse you of being the problem. Dr. Les Carter clearly identifies the single most exasperating tactic they use, then discusses how to steer clear of their efforts to bring out the worst in you.
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[@claycooper9955]

My father used to attack my character and say hurtful things to me every day (literally) after school. One of his favorite responses if I became upset was "You're so sensitive! You need to be less sensitive!". I'm sure people here can relate.

[@brucefriedman1]

Whoever invents narcissist repellent should win the Nobel Peace Prize.

[@roxymovie3938]

The long-term effects of triangulation can be devastating, impacting your ability to form healthy relationships and trust others.

[@mariehughey5390]

I had trouble identifying gaslighting because it was how I was raised. But once you see and understand, you can’t unsee it.

[@carefulcarpenter]

"They make you crazy; then blame you for being crazy."

[@visitorcat9153]

The narc also knows if you get away from them, and go no contact, you will be able to think more clearly, and recognize their deceitful ways. As long as you maintain contact with them you stay in a fog-like state of mind.

[@user-rj2id7zu8l]

The awful part is after years of confusion I now realize I should have walked away a long time ago😞

[@amandaliverpool3374]

My ex hubby used to do whater he could to irritate me. Then, when I snapped back, which was hard to do, I was being a 'mad woman' 🙄

[@kmarie7051theNarcissist]

Gaslighting is all a reminder of how easily we can be fooled and how shaky the truth can feel in a world full of manipulation and deceit.

[@yukio_saito]

I walk away from anyone who falsely accuses others of being the problem. 🚶‍♂💨💨🚩

[@alicecoleman5532]

Accusations by a narcissist is nothing more than confessions...

[@Dosser810]

Throwing it back to you, pretending that they don't know what you're talking about, muddying the waters.... classic tactics 😢

[@PamelaMeinke]

My tactic is silence and detachment. It let's their behavior stand on its own. They want things to be so chaotic that you don't have time to think or process how dysfunctional their behavior is. I let them do whatever it us that they're going to do, and I remove myself from the situation. Thank you so much for your videos they have been a lifeline for me. ❤

[@4Rascals321]

How to walk away from a narcissist - 2 words (walk away )quietly, and try to avoid them to the day they die. It is called grey rocking.

[@obscurum6]

Cultivate INDIFFERENCE towards them. And not just on the outside, really let go of giving a sh*it about anything they say or do.

[@la6136]

This is exactly how my narcissistic mother loves to gaslight. I have learned to just ignore her and walk away from the conversation. When I point out her hypocrisy she just starts screaming STOP like toddler because she can not handle any kind of criticism at all. Talking to these people is a waste of energy. Just ignore them and leave. Don't even respond.

[@828findadventure]

I love when they get you all upset and after the conversation ends ask you why you are so angry. Then they proceed to tell everyone in the room how angry you are to get the greatest amount of attention and supply without telling them the root cause. It's maddening.

[@HoneyBadger323]

1. They drive you Nuts. 2. Then call you Crazy. 3.Then blame You for it. 4. Then tell you how to feel about it.

[@billkingston4402]

My dad is impossible to talk to, he can not have a conversation without twisting it against you

[@dnwitte]

"This is how it's going to be now? Any time I say something you don't like you're going to walk away?" All. The. Time.