EMDR Core Beliefs

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

The list of EMDR core beliefs is in the Transform Your Negative Core Beliefs PDF: awakenjoy.lpages.co/negative-core-beliefs-pdf/ Let me know what you think of the EMDR method and how it ties everything together...

[@ash_luscious]

I am smart enough I am good enough I am safe enough I am competent enough

[@PickettMusic]

Both of these, "Im not good enough' and 'Im not safe', are my core beliefs. Really helpful...thank you!

[@retrezgftrh]

I went through a messy divorce earlier this year. It was bad emotionally especially during the lockdowns. I was working with a psychoanalyst at the time. I felt I wasnlt getting better, so I self-administered some validated PTSD screening tests. These came up high. While I never had a formal disgnosis of PTSD/chronic trauma, I took some advice from psychoanalyst, read Shapiro's book, and came up with an approach similar to walking EMDR in the local forest. Amazing. I calmed me down and gave me insights that no amount of breathing or mindfulness or even running was able to. I'm still doing in about once per week. You can easily do it youself if you're comfortable reading medical/scientific research. In my experience having a therapist that you can check in with occasionally seemed worthwhile to me - to talk through the insights and discuss the individualised approach I'd come up with .

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and hope!

[@pamelaogorman4462]

Thank you so much 🎉❤

[@CarterSams]

You remind me of my own therapist a little, your warmth and calm way of relaying information, and it’s very comforting.

[@scotscub76]

This is so helpful thank you 😊

[@fitGURL67]

This was SO helpful for me as a newly trained EMDR therapist to learn how to "drill down" to get at the negative core beliefs!! So helpful!!!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

SO glad!!

[@dianabowen8774]

It's helped with understanding my internal protectors which makes sense to my feelings.

[@angelicunderstanding]

you're the best Barbara

[@HoneyWindbutton]

Wonderful helpful content. Thank you so much.

[@JessGuinan]

I'm just starting to actively get at the root of my issues from childhood and hadn't heard of EMDR but what a useful tool! I've had to address a number of issues since my estranged biological father passed 6 years ago and this will be so helpful! Thanks for all you do!

[@huntersadventuresfreeyourm7459]

I have been doing EMDR for over three years. I have PTSD but I absolutely loved your video. And I have notes to help me. Thank you so much.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

SO pleased this was helpful. I do hope the EMDR is helping you - it can be transformative, but sometimes it does take time!

[@kadaitherum7530]

What kind of progress you could make in those 3 years? Do you think it is effective?

[@martinapuetz9944]

Very clear language thank you Barbara! 😊

[@laurapfeifer749]

with inflation and being on disability and husband retired, it''s a matter of money. How can we pay for dental work, eyeglasses, medicare B, the large 1750 deductible for this so called free health care with we can't afford? Then pay for this therapy which Medicare doesn't cover anyway? We would lose our home, now that would be the biggest stressor we could face. So encouraging people to get into financial trouble by trying to pay a professional when most can't is not ethical. We have no choice but to do this at home on our own. We greatly appreciate the help and guidance you are sharing. Thanks.

[@323martyrstreet8]

Thank you so much Barbara... Your channel gives me hope for a brighter future.

[@sophiahoho8918]

Hello from Japan! I cannot thank you enough for sharing such valuable and comprehensive information on EDMR. It is the first time that anyone has explained EMDR to me in such an easy to understand manner. I especially liked your comment on not to go to the other opposite extreme about one's core beliefs but to add the adverb "enough" to the other concept, for example I am good "enough", or maybe you can say" I am not that defective a person as I think I am," and "I am fairly alright, after all." This way, my mind will not try to argue with me, as you said. This idea has been an eye-opener for me and I think it is extremely practical. I certainly would like to receive EMDR either self-administered or from a EDMR therapist or by the in-between EDMR program you mentioned. I have only begun watching your videos only several days ago and I am hooked. But I will remind myself not to rush and do things one day at a time. I joined the RoadMap to Joy and Authentic Confidence Course 2 days ago.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Welcome to the course! We will work on rewiring these core beliefs quite a bit in the program also! And I love that you mention the "enough" concept - so important!

[@nicolesavioz6601]

So good! Thank you!

[@glittereagle88]

Thank you for sharing the steps in a concrete way and staying on topic without a lot of other talk. I’ve found a lot of videos to not get to the point and the titles are misleading. This was very clear. 🎉

[@lucycp2881]

Very helpful, thank you

[@grahamfonteyne4792]

Thanks again for another extremely useful and well presented video Barbara. Mind blowing stuff to say the least!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Wow, thank you!😀❤

[@jonniemae818]

I have to salute you, really. Thank you.😊

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Thank you so much 😀

[@abdessamad.Dennoun]

thank you so much, very simple and detailed explanation

[@markhenseler272]

This truly helps me become a better person

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So glad to hear that!

[@stefaniasmanio5857]

Dear Barbara Thank you so much for your constant support! Btw you look younger and younger momth after month…

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

LOL!! Better lighting and make-up, I think! And the meditation helps, btw!

[@smeemira8225]

Thank you, amazing video. So helpful!

[@jamesfrancis303]

Amazing video

[@jbar_85]

Virtual EMDR might be useful to me. I went to therapy in 2020 through early 2021. I resolved a core issue, thankfully, only to have another issue I created pop up and then my therapist stopped taking insurance and I changed careers thanks to his help, actually, but now I want to speak with someone again but I have bad Obamacare insurance. I think I’ll reach out to them to see if therapy is covered and how much. I never had to pay any copay to speak with my therapist. Which was nice! I think it was because I was diagnosed with clinical anxiety and it’s covered differently? Anyway, I’m glad I found your channel. 😊

[@daeclipse03]

Co-pays wouldn't changed based on your diagnosis. That was just how whatever insurance you had handled cost sharing with mental health benefits on your plan. Obama care unfortunately has really high deductibles on most plans so your going to have to pay most of your treatment out of pocket to meet the deductible. Hope your doing better.

[@TruthIsNot4Sale]

I listen to tonal bilateral stimulation and then think and say to myself positive affirmations to reprogram my mind

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Wonderful! I do like binaural beats...

[@rabianaqvi2529]

Thanks for your informative video. I wait for your videos so please keep making them.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So nice of you to let me know! I do plan to continue and have been more consistent recently, right? 😀❤

[@suzannekenley6503]

Is it possible to talk about driving anxiety no local and nigt

[@chilloften]

I love this topic.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Thanks for letting me know!

[@stephanieclark-castro6981]

Very helpful and informative

[@nib8796]

How long can this process take to change the negative beliefs?❤️

[@dothatvoodoo]

Do you think it is dangerous to do it on your own or perhaps just not as effective ?

[@Gothicforever1790]

I had trouble with emdr because I couldn’t find the main memory

[@eulasduff5651]

Every time I watch your videos, it seems like you get off topic, and I’m trying to find ways to help myself

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

hmmm... I might get off topic very occasionally, but usually my tangents are very related to the material... If a question comes up as you are watching, post it! If my style doesn't work for you, there are some other youtubers who cover these topics as well. Wishing you the best!

[@phyllisboyle1162]

Is this safe to do alone? I do eft but have agoraphobia and cPTSD my anxiety can get out of control sometimes when I hit a major core issue.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

I definitely think it is always worth trusting your instinct - if you feel you need to work with someone to go through this, then I would encourage that. In general, for people interested in doing self-help work, I don't believe this video is problematic. For actually doing EMDR, for someone with complex PTSD, I'd recommend working with a qualified therapist, and not trying EMDR on your own. Hope that is helpful. These videos may help as well: Find an EMDR therapist: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ipTCfoGXZ5pqpM0 EMDR for complex PTSD: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hKbbfqCJjsqUa7c Is Self-Administered EMDR a good idea for me? kzbin.info/www/bejne/m3a5iZuGgKx_nJI

[@princessalazne8402]

Hello Barbara. How can I have private therapy w you?

[@bondylaw]

Go to her website. You can sign up for 1 on 1 coaching there.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Hi: I no longer provide 1:1 therapy. Info on my coaching and programs is on my website www.awakenjoy.life

[@krash6951]

What about worthy enough

[@GaryG-e2f]

How get that pdf

[@indyradmama]

❤

[@hhunstad2011]

Doesn't everything boil down to I'm not good enough!?

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

For some people, yes... (and that might be a signal of your NCB!). But not everyone - sometimes people's core is "I'm in danger", or "I'm unlovable"... It is interesting how this can vary!

[@chuck3999]

Don't believe this EMDR non-sense. She's not approaching the issue starting with the very basics. One's boundaries in how they are formed early in childhood with our caregivers, is the first thing which needs to be addressed. This EMDR is a bunch of whoey. Don't believe it for a moment. It's all BS.

[@dianabowen8774]

It's transforming and I'm someone who trusts no one. I have cptsd brought up in a dangerous environment and thought it's others that are to blame. Now I'm my own enemy and with a therapist doing emdr plus ifs it's really transforming my perspective but it's slow and a very deep wound. Still working on self compassion good luck with finding something that works for you.i started by reading Pete Walker CPTSD surviving to thriving. There's some helpful tools for my lashing out or panic

[@TruthIsNot4Sale]

Tell that to completely dysfunctional veterans who now are fully functioning and have their life back ..is the number one helpful modality for ppl who have been severely traumatized

[@chuck3999]

@@TruthIsNot4Sale Very glad that it helped you. Unfortunately, it's not for everyone.

[@stephencaudill2422]

EMDR, a pseudoscience...

[@dmnb.3691]

HI BARBARA, I BETTERHELP IS A NIGHTMARE!!! BY ANY CHANCE DO YOU HAVE A PHONE NUMBER I CAN REACH OUT?