Empower Yourself: Don’t Miss “How Narcissists Rob You Of You”

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Surviving Narcissism

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@BaraSchmidt Ай бұрын

In their search for supply we are targeted and consumed to satisfy their selfish needs. No! Just No! Stay Healthy!

@aaronkwolfe Ай бұрын

… and I’m glad to see you in the comments, Bara. 😊

@Mr8t0 Ай бұрын

Yes Bara & their appetite is insatiable. They are trying to fill their empty void (waste of space). They end up devouring themselves, a lost child’s fate.

@KarmasKamin Ай бұрын

@@Mr8t0 How can they end up devouring themselves, can you explain n say more?!

@amandaliverpool3374 Ай бұрын

They even give you an empty stare!!!

@anne-marieluckhurst2563 Ай бұрын

Need to reclaim my life back

@darrynreid4500 Ай бұрын

"I'm who you must look to for detailed instruction on how to live. Also, I'm always the victim and everything is someone else's fault because big, big very special feelings I cannot control and don't understand."

@jo1681 Ай бұрын

Took a break from narcissism content, came back for Gus

@sueg2658 Ай бұрын

Love Gus too.

@Victoria-c4n Ай бұрын

I too frequently take breaks from NPD. Always ❤️ GUS!

@morningteawithE Ай бұрын

Love little Gus, too! He always steals the show 😊❤

@ravensthatflywiththenightm7319 Ай бұрын

These last few days I wonder if it's already too late for me. It was only recently I learned that a lot of people I interacted with since my childhood were narcissists, and I had pondered for weeks how much I had changed because of interactions with these people. I worry if I'm ever gonna get back my old self, after everything I've been through. I'm not as creative as I was 10 years ago. And I'm definitely not as confident as I was 10 years ago.

@peggyerickson2549 Ай бұрын

It is Never too late!! Sorry u had these bad interactions. Team Healthy wins!!

@surlif Ай бұрын

I sure wondered about the same thing two years ago. It seemed so hopeless and there seemed to be no reason at 72 years old. I can say that I am glad I kept plugging along to find out what it is like to be me again. I still must work at it because decades of narc abuse takes time to overcome. The grief of my lost life was rough. But still, I am glad I kept trying and am still trying to move ahead. Good luck!!

@waywardstitch8604 Ай бұрын

Narcs compel us to abandon ourselves. I did it unconsciously and was very far gone when I realized my mistake. It was a long hard journey to find and embrace myself again, but sooo worth it. I hope you can find yourself again too. My advice would be to take it slow, allow for mis-steps, be kind to yourself at every turn. Never-ever give up on yourself. Best wishes! 💞

@stephenpaul3289 Ай бұрын

Hi your not alone I seem to have been a Narc Magnet, since Childhood but thanks to Dr C I have become aware of what to look for and not get into the snare of Narcs I come in contact with in the future. Hang in there. Healthy hugs Ex Narc Victim

@alonzomosley7 Ай бұрын

Sam

@CowichanValleyRD Ай бұрын

Dr. Carter your gentle, calm manner and very sweet Gus help me take in very painful truths.

@jamaalhorton2343 Ай бұрын

Doc I’m convinced 99 percent of the people I meet are narcissistic! I feel like Steve Brody on that Bugs Bunny episode!

@waywardstitch8604 Ай бұрын

I found that making progress in the healing work makes me much less appealing to narcs.👍🏼

@jamaalhorton2343 Ай бұрын

@@waywardstitch8604 it’s like I have narc magnetic field! I’m a quiet guy and they just walk over and start talking! I can’t escape! I’m trapped! I have NEVER met another non narc!

@waywardstitch8604 Ай бұрын

@@jamaalhorton2343 First, I want to assure you that non-narcs absolutely do exist. Yes, we're out here and we're looking for you too! 🙋🏽‍♀️ Also, I've often been a narc magnet so I do know how you feel. I used to notice how narcs bypassed others while making a bee-line straight for me. Narcs are very attracted to people who are quiet, polite, agreeable, accommodating, compliant, thoughtful, gracious and spacious. Narcs are attracted to us because we look like a good source of narcissistic "supply". And we look like we'll be easy to push around, unlikely to push back, inclined to put the needs of others ahead of our own needs, and easy to guilt-trip. Yes, I do look like all of that, but I'm not really the easy target they take me for. There was a time that I didn't mind hurting their feelings and their insults never landed. I just didn't care what they thought of me. But for a while I went through a very bad spell and my narc-dar went offline, and I lost the ability to trust myself. That's when more and more narcs were interested in me. Now I'm far into the healing process and noticed that narcs have mostly lost interest in me. At the beginning of my healing I realized I felt unsafe and was constantly on the lookout for danger. But I realized that meant I was giving off the unsafe nervous vibes and narcs were picking up on that. Narcs were still walking over to me too, while I was wishing they would just leave already. But I realized that my body language was inviting them to stay. So I purposely started looking bored, disinterested, continued reading a book, journaling, refusing to answer their data-gathering questions about me, picking at my nails, or walking away while they were right in the middle of a sentence. If they complained that I was being rude I often responded with, "yep, and it's good you figured that out so you know to get away from me." It was a long slow process but little-by-little I began to notice a change. Now I have a small gang of lovely non-narcs and we meet once a week for coffee and/or lunch.🤗 I hope you can find a way to trust yourself, advocate for yourself, be kind to yourself, and make yourself your highest priority! 👍🏼💞✨️😊

@surlif Ай бұрын

I look forward to this seminar. I want to know more about how it all happened. How did a family of narcs just come along and rob me of me??

@nmc1859 Ай бұрын

Finally decided to stop responding to my narcissistic mother this Feb. No less than 3 mos later I now have to deal with a 'clinical coordinator' who is just as bad but obviously so 😢

@waywardstitch8604 Ай бұрын

Yes, that can be very discouraging. Orrr, you can look at it a different way... Perhaps she showed up so you can practice saying "no!" with your new narc skills?! 👍🏼 Hey, I got so much practice that I eventually became like an instant narc-repellant! Yay! 🤗

@nmc1859 Ай бұрын

@@waywardstitch8604its a relationship where she has power over what happens for me. (Kind of like boss). I am already writing dates, taking notes.

@rossanderson5243 Ай бұрын

Found out how much of data gathers they are. Boy, it’s like a poker game where they get to see your hand the moment you speak.

@gazoo7411 Ай бұрын

Nice shirt....St. Croix ? Looking forward to the webinar.. thanks 😊

@SurvivingNarcissism Ай бұрын

As a matter of fact...yes.

@gazoo7411 Ай бұрын

👍

@diane6920 Ай бұрын

,Are there more narcissists now? Or better identified? Do you consider it a "mental" illness? Genetic?

@nmc1859 Ай бұрын

Some say spiritual disorder Used to say character disorder. It is officially a personality disorder

@CowichanValleyRD Ай бұрын

I think both nature and nuture.

@leilagomulka5690 Ай бұрын

He must increase , I decrease - a very Godly quote…. I remember from my theological training. ( was it Luther ?

@Textemple Ай бұрын

It's in the book...but INCREASE Mather is buried practically in my backyard, just on the other side of the burying grounds wrought iron gates. (Wikipedia if you're curious)

@Textemple Ай бұрын

Forgive me, it's his father, Richard Mather, one of the first theological stalwarts in the colonies, of course, from England.

@SurvivingNarcissism Ай бұрын

Actually, John the Baptist said that.

@aaronkwolfe Ай бұрын

John 3:30 is proof text.

@v2wvictimtowarrior Ай бұрын

Very nice

@itm4173 Ай бұрын

Hi Dr. C. I’d like to register for your upcoming October workshop but don’t see the link. Sorry for being a dunce. Can you tell me where the link is on your this page? TY

@lishmahlishmah Ай бұрын

Hi. I'm an Italian dunce, living in Italy, and just learned from you this very useful word, thank you 😄 much needed As for the webinar: Go to the 2nd link you see in the description under this video; that's Surviving Narcissism website; Click the Menu on the left - above the HomePage; then Click the section "our webinars"; there you find "upcoming webinar How narcissists" etc. etc. Click on that. I'm doing another dr C webinar right now. So helpful !!

@SlobArt Ай бұрын

Press “more…”. It is listed there.

@lishmahlishmah Ай бұрын

Yes, for you and for everyone, like SlobArt says, press "more". The "register here" link has now been added. So, you don't need doing all the stuff I wrote in my previous message. ( >> However if you want other dr C webinars, follow what I wrote in that first reply)