Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse, featuring Elizabeth Shaw

[@ttoettoe9324]

Hi Doc. I discovered your podcast today. I'm a Brit/Aussie who grew up with narcissistic parents who moved me from country to country as a kid. I spent 3 years in Texas. I didn't realise until today how healing it would be for me to hear a man with a proud, masculine Texas accent speaking about such vulnerable topics. I can't wait to listen to more of your shows. Gratefully, Terry, in France

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Hi Terry...glad you're on board. FYI, I've semi-retired to Waco, but I lived my entire adult life in Dallas. My mother's ancestors were from Bordeaux France.

[@ttoettoe9324]

@@SurvivingNarcissism haha wow that's awesome. I'm about two hours from Bordeaux. In Texas, I lived in the Houston suburbs

[@Ellenmaureensheehy]

I watch Elizabeth Shaw, and you as well on a regular basis. So happy to see her on your show.

[@sharynfoster3255]

Thanks for being here for those who run up against these two faced people.

[@darinsmith2458]

We are in the Golden Age of learning about Narcissism.. I like how you explained how the different forms of Narcissists will bait us..

[@markopolisbalhaus3806]

Narcissists take the rule bending to a whole new level. Thank you both for a great video.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Your guest was an absolute delight. Really enjoyed this episode!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, and I agree about Liz. She was delightful!

[@phantom6DOF]

@@SurvivingNarcissism I thought she was the actress , but then realized the actress has Shue as the last name

[@alecstuart5266]

Thank u Dr. C & Elizabeth for sharing insights about these crazy-making maniacs.

[@BaraSchmidt]

Defining for yourself the reality of the toxic situation is step one. Seeking support v toxic positivity is critically important. And finding your Healthy again. Stay Healthy!!

[@Ratgirl2]

I'm in the thick of it right humility is here I'm stronger than I thought. 😮😮

[@Hatbox948]

My nex was extremely verbally abusive. Oftentimes I felt like a kid getting in trouble from an evil step dad. Then he'd say I was mean. It's crazy making. I never called him names and basically did everything. Other than go to work he contributed nothing to home life, etc.

[@rossanderson5243]

Thank you Dr C and Elizabeth. Elizabeth has a very good understanding and she is very correct with her view about entitlement.

[@MayvenFunk]

My strength is in caring for others. Narcs hate me.

[@5smoothstonesproject740]

Which is worse physical abuse or emotional abuse? I know that the devil is behind them both. For me it’s the emotional abuse being in a 5 year manipulationship with a covert malignant religious narcissist.

[@christ-n-me]

@@5smoothstonesproject740 I’m

[@christ-n-me]

Mental and emotional can very quickly turn into physical😢

[@jackiehammond833]

I left after 42 years with a man in ministry~ so insane of me!!

[@julias.4980]

​@@jackiehammond833Forgive yourself. Stockholm Syndrome is very real. You are free now! 🕊️🙌

[@elcee7800]

@@jackiehammond833 The evangelicals to me are more showmanship than anything. They're grandiose.

[@donnawoodham868]

Y'all are the best .

[@kimberlysmith7625]

We've forgotten how to respect ourselves. Relying on external validation allows others to define us. Stop it. Respect yourself first.

[@lindabell2940]

Yes dear lady, bam, we thank you Doctor C, yes your guest, your team, thanks man, cool little Gus, plus Doctor C, his wife , cooks great

[@robynsettler6747]

Two people that I follow. This is great !

[@donnawoodham868]

I love you both terrific seeing you here together today I love the whole message what truth and what Freedom it is

[@bradmcewen]

Another fantastic collaboration Dr. C. . Elizabeth is one of my favorites. Both of you help people realize and not further traumatize like some earlier channels actual did. A few got outed as actual enablers of a well known dark tetrad. It definitely was intriguing back then. Thinking it will smooth out is now known as wishful thinking. So from here on out listening and still learning is cognitive maintenance. Pleasure to listen in.

[@MayvenFunk]

God knows they are the ones scared of me. Keep shining your bright light. 😊

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Thanks Dr.C and Elizabeth Shaw. By listening to her, she sounds as though she's from the North West of England? My neck of the woods. I will certain look her upon KZbin. I particularly like the part that she mentioned at the end about the signs we sort of ignore when we should really always trust our gut instinct. I found this collaboration very refreshing 😊

[@robertovss3237]

Looking forward to this live

[@lynnebucher6537]

My last BF hit all these bullet points. Turned into a nightmare. Got out 9 years ago, haven't dated since. Of course he switched back to Mr nice guy once I broke it off. I wasn't fooled!

[@KRT-e8v]

Very good content! I have come across Elizabeth Shaw's KZbin shorts before in the past. Very interesting and cool to hear more about the psychology behind narcissistic personality disorder.

[@HotSeat17]

Love you both! Lifesavers!!! ❤️❤️❤️🙏✝️

[@judystevens6039]

This is my son to a tee hes had a lot of women in the last 20yrs, hes now 61 with each one he has said im the best thing thats ever happened to you ,one woman found out that he was cheating on her with the one he has at present and she refused to leave the house .so he caused an argument and accidentally head butted her (but it was all her fault)she called the police and that got her out of his house ,he was charged with assault but because she became afraid of him the charges were dropped and then in moved the new one who has been with him now for five years in this time she has caused so much trouble he hasnt spoken to myself or his adult children for 2 yrs but eventually the hammer will drop and he will end up with nothing i enjoyed your talk today all so true

[@Arrtists]

Thank you to the both of you

[@demigaines5644]

Thank you So Very Much I'm Looking forward I'm A Victim Of Horrific Emotional And Psychological Abuse I'm Having Severe Stomach Issues IBS From The Abuse Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal Im Currently 2 Months No Contact.

[@ymmij388]

My narc ex is currently finishing up her Masters in Forensic Psychology. To me that is infinitely disturbing

[@mikeseitz2792]

Really enjoyed the conversation today!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@PixieCropCircleDuster]

Elizabeth is such a great teacher! I've been following her on Instagram for a while now. So glad to hear she's on KZbin! *Subscribed* Thanks Dr. Carter.

[@arxsyn]

Wow a few hours ago l was thinking about marriage and men using weaponized incompetentance. Then l came to this video and here we go!

[@bradmcewen]

I'm a dude and most dudes but not all, have complete Dunning Kruger mentalities. I call them Puffy Balls... all alpha and no sense. But in their state of mind they dont need it. I mean their almost robots led by cults who mislead them for profit and ....yep, politics.

[@claireh.7605]

Exactly this. My mom and uncle are narcs. Then I met a very skilled devious borderline criminal therapist who abused and brainwashed people for years. Had some patients stay with him for 20-30 years.

[@mancdec]

Control freak comes to mind as far as narcissists are concerned 😒

[@Ratgirl2]

Yes my finances were cut off today. I will prevail!! 👊👊👊

[@Sally-ih6ls]

Totally control

[@hurricaneaquatics]

How right she is. A lot of what my experience has been and people question why you stayed so long. It's a long, painful con.

[@sharonarquilla6200]

Elizabeth, I have been watching your Fakebook reels for a few months now and very happy to see you here with my fav Doc!! I think you are spot on and of course Dr. C..."you da man" ❤😊

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, Sharon!!

[@Spootiful]

Nice collab!

[@ChildoftheLIGHT]

Why did I have trouble following her dialogue??🤔

[@koma4050]

My advice to people who are starting a relationship with a someone they don’t fully know yet is to pay attention to their behaviour and don’t ignore any red flags. It could save you a lot of stress and painful experiences. Also it’s not uncommon for narcissists to be alcoholics and/or workaholics as they’re usually unable to resolve past traumatic experiences.

[@karenhope6986]

I just had to flee with my 5 small kids

[@Summer_Harvest]

🫂 Be safe

[@Ratgirl2]

So devastating be safe I'm out also a few days now third time is the charm. 😮😮

[@angelinasuazo5705]

Yes, at 14:46-14:47, the narcissist lies so much, that they begin to believe their own lies. (Just like Trump). I've known people like that too.

[@claireh.7605]

I was a naive autistic kid and my grandma baited me into getting involved in other people’s affairs and forcing them to change then acted like it was all my idea.

[@elcee7800]

I'm hoping you mean, Liz, by forensic psychology you mean dissecting their brains. 🤯🥵

[@tanyabell7748]

WOMDERFUL!❤ THANK U SOOO MUCH!❤ 😅WE'RE BOTH ON THE EDGE OF THE EARTH, NOVA SCOTIA😅

[@tanyabell7748]

Sam is the man!!

[@lishmahlishmah]

Great Elizabeth. I knew her already but a conversation with dr C has been a true gift. I'll leave here other dreams of mine... Hope dr C will check some of them. Bucket List From the school "psychologists and coaches with their dogs" 😁🐕 - dr Jay Reid, California - Ms Paula d'Arcy, coach, Ireland (the channel is named Narc Con) From the "school without dogs" 😁 - Dr Rebecca Mandeville. Recently she is also choosing a non youtube way, still she is very helpful for many of us survivors both for her past youtube videos and for all the other new social ways spreading great information. All of these people are survivors of narcissistic abuse or they come from very dysfunctional families or other abusive relationships. The coach from Ireland, she also talks about the spiritual aspects of narcissism. Last but not least, another professional. I recently listened to an interview to dr Tamara Russell, UK (researcher and therapist) > long story short, she teaches a "mindfulness done differently" for recovery and healing from aftermath of different conditions, not only for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Ok. I leave here this bucket list Anyhow, thank you dr C Thank you all Team Healthy

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Grazie, Lishmah!

[@lishmahlishmah]

@SurvivingNarcissism Grazie a te, dr C! 💚

[@atomisum6445]

I'm so tired of the defensiveness for no reason. She gets mad at me if she let's me down. Gives me bad news then gets pissed and cold because I'm disappointed. Wtf .I'm not allowed to have feelings let alone talk about them. They want a mindless robot to kiss their ass

[@QueenBNFHS88]

That part was hard to understand regarding their jealousy.

[@lucyLou-dt7do]

And accuse you of coercion!!

[@user-lz9wj4xs5j]

❤👍👏⭐️

[@RandallCarr-f7y]

These are great, but how about a series for the narcissist themselves... those that are hitting rock bottom and realizing a change needs to be made? There are very few resources for them, yet lots of resources easily found complaining and commiserating about how bad they are. Help the ones who can be helped by doing a series on self-awareness, empathy, shame, childhood traumas, asking forgiveness. You never know when you'll affect one person and get the snowball rolling toward a better life for them and all around them. (and yes, if you've tried in your own relationships and failed, RUN AWAY from the abuser!)

[@dianedeclare8541]

Most don't want to chang

[@Mea-d9r]

Most can’t and don’t want to change. It’s sad.

[@christinelamb1167]

This is a channel for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists can go find their own resources.

[@laurieg673]

Narcissists don't see they are Narcissists. They don't hit rock bottom like someone who is empathetic, and has the ability to look inward. They have frustrated meltdowns and are incapable of looking inward. At best, you might be able to teach them to be more covert, but you can't fix a narcissist.

[@bradmcewen]

You just joined KZbin today ?