Enneagram Type 8s Explained - A Complete Guide

[@YouveGotaType]

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[@GlitterBunnyNL]

You brought this in the most relatable way. Thank you so much. I seem to be the healthy version based on your informative video. 😅😅😅 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🥰🥰🥰

[@terig8974]

This video had 88 like and 8 comments before I gave it a like and a comment. It was painful, but this channel deserves more views.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks Teri - hopefully painful in a helpful way 🙏 and I’m trying my best to grow it :) KZbin algorithm is a tricky mountain to climb.

[@buffooneryterminator3423]

​@@YouveGotaTypeYou'll get there man! 😊

[@stevenellis6691]

I will leave you at 69 likes in solidarity

[@TheCandiDavis]

I have sent your videos to 15 of my friends today. You explain it better than anyone I’ve heard. And I have listened to a ton of podcast and KZbin videos.

[@YouveGotaType]

You're the best! Thank you so much for spreading it around 🙌I'm so stoked you enjoyed it enough to share it with your friends! That's the best compliment I could hope for.

[@Julie-ot7me]

100% Agréé!!! ❤

[@cherylkeys1284]

I so appreciate how concise and to-the-point your presentation is. It also have great production value. Thanks so much.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much for the kind words! It always feels great when folks recognize the hard work I’ve put into these ;)

[@jamiebonsall430]

I've been a student of the Enneagram for seven years or so and this video was a great refresher. It brought me some clarity after a very "Eight" encounter I had with a loved one who is a type Eight. Thank you!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it was helpful & refreshing!

[@ssuareztepox]

Im a 8w9, a mix between ENFJ/INFJ-A 🥰 im still assertive but in a cautious way, and i see emotional intelligence as a perk and good quality to have.. that means being vulnerable is a challenge for me to grow as a person and get a positive reaction from the people around me, which makes me feel in control as well.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@natashamcfarlane5654]

Hey Personality twin! Im an ENFJ-A 8w9

[@user-.-.]

These are pure facts right here, says 8w9. Your content is golden, entertaining, not misleading (finally!), simply put, straight to the point… Keep it up! ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Love it! Thanks for dropping the kind words.

[@brandimcwhorter9050]

How am I just now finding these?! I know I commented on your Type 1 Reformer video but I just have to say again howTop-Notch your videos are. The presentation, your voice, your grasp / knowledge of the information, as well as the confidence in which you deliver it, makes these videos the best I've seen on the topic. I also thought your Personality Cocktails series was so unique and enjoyable as well. Very creative and severely under-appreciated by the KZbin algorithm. I'm sending links to these videos to everyone I can think of.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you're enjoying this series Brandi! I really appreciate the specificity of those compliments as I've worked very hard (and deleted more than a few other iterations of these videos) to get it right. I'm also happy to hear you stumbled upon the cocktails series because that was such a fun theme for me personally. Can't beat craft cocktails and enneagram chats for me personally. Huge thanks again for sharing these with your community! That's the only hope I have against the KZbin algorithm...

[@NoName_80808]

8 wing 7 here. I might add that the ‘endless energy’ is not endless! At some point, the intense control-freak ness has a cost on health and well-being. Predictably, this perpetuates the need for control and the longer we spend disintegrated in 5 anxiety, the harder it is to break the loop. Finding connection and being in the service of others on the other hand creates a flow that can replenish lost energy. Along with a good dose of discipline (in any form - art, martial arts, cooking, weeding the garden..) to temper the intensity. And a dog.

[@YouveGotaType]

Makes sense! And funny how many 8s love dogs...

[@uvrwinn]

So true. I got diagnosed with RA after years of working my ass off.

[@davids4332]

I recently did the test and found out I was an 8 wing 7 after reading up on it more it’s scary how accurate it is and how well it gets your personality down. This video was by far the best most detailed video I’ve seen describing 8s. It’s interesting to see that certain numbers tend to get along better and it helps you understand why you hate/dislike certain people around you. Definitely very interesting and it can be used to understand yourself more and grow from it. I also see people take the test and in denial of the results and when you read up on those numbers they typically find themselves in denial as well which is interesting because there denial just proves the number they got . Overall super interesting video. Thanks

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear you found your type and that this video helped fill in some details for you! I agree about some folks readily embracing their type and others being in denial about it because the enneagram touches on so many sensitive areas. I gotta say though, 8s are probably the most embracing of their type alongside 7s ; )

[@davids4332]

@@YouveGotaType agreed. I think a lot of people want to be 8s or 7s because 8s sounds like a cool Tony Stark or Harvey Spector (suits) type person and 7s are a in general a likable funny successful person which again a lot of people strive to be like or want to be like even if there not. Because of this it makes sense why I see more 8s and 7s happy abt there placing and some other numbers in more denial or claiming there 2 is really an 8. It’s extremely interesting to watch it unfold.

[@jadecoopermoore]

AS A TYPE 1 WITH A TYPE 8 BOYFRIEND I NOW UNDERSTAND WHY ARGUING FOR HIM IS FUN BUT IT FEELS LIKE STAB WOUNDS / PUNISHMENT TO MEEEEEEEEEEeEeEEeEeeE

[@YouveGotaType]

Lol the all caps. Glad it was helpful to watch 🙌

[@nadamrakovic2626]

Omg how do you survive eachother. I'm an 8 and i have a 1w2 friend, and bruh it's rough.

[@jadecoopermoore]

@@nadamrakovic2626 well, with friends i think it's a different dynamic. but in my relationship, i think it helps that we both share a 9 wing (8w9 and 1w9). but overall, i think it has to do with how comfortable you two are with communicating your communication styles/ being vulnerable to each other without blame. it's a little tricky w friends for me.. it's harder for me to express my needs to them than i am with my partner. it's just a diff relationship, but i'm working on it.

[@victorglaviano]

We thrive on it, not to hurt people because that's what we know and feel comfortable with. In fact the people we jab with are the people we love the best, it's our way of showing it!

[@secretivescorpio891]

No need for capitals

[@scottjones3102]

Wow, spot on about my childhood!

[@YouveGotaType]

The enneagram is definitely scary accurate sometimes!

[@tuminkosi]

I am a type 8. And I totally agree with everything that you have said.

[@YouveGotaType]

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[@linneahasselgren]

I finally understand my mom. Can't tell you how thankful i am!!

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad the video was helpful!

[@joshw9736]

Just took the test last week and learned im an 8…. Wow does this explain a lot. These videos have been crucial.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad the vids have been helpful!

[@jkenefsky]

8'hole!? 🤣🤣 not sure anyone would dare call me that. Great video. Now, get out of my head! This all hit too close to home.

[@YouveGotaType]

Lol I hope they wouldn't! I'm glad it felt accurate, albeit eerily so :) Thanks so much for watching and leaving a great comment!

[@cmpicha2934]

I watched this to try to better understand my church choir director. I've been convinced for a while that he is a healthy 8, and I feel even more confident in that after watching this, especially your description of the greatest sign of a healthy 8. That kind of empowerment and support truly is a profound experience as you said, and I only hope one day I can adequately express to him how much of a blessing he has been to me. It's a powerful thing when a type 8 can help a type 1 fight their inner critic in a way I never thought was possible. Been anxiously awaiting the 8 & 1 relationship video btw, because I'm curious how accurately that will describe the dynamic between us! My growth in this space has not come without conflict, unfortunately.

[@YouveGotaType]

So great to hear :) Always nice to hear examples of the healthy 8ness impacting people's lives! And the 8-1 is coming up soon!

[@metamutualguruist65]

You're the best, it frustrates me that you have so few views but i'll do what i can. I'm gonna try to do a share a day on my facebook

[@YouveGotaType]

I appreciate and share the frustration! The KZbin algorithm is a tricky beezy - but I'm trying my best to overcome it... But ultimately, it's the good folks like you who watch, like, n share that help to breakthrough. So thank you!!

[@TheSungjiun]

Every video, you added 'disclaimer' ; how you accentuated that aspect in every video was so helpful when trying to understand about each different individuals in my life! Thank you!!🙇‍♀

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you found it helpful! I appreciate you watching and commenting :)

[@normalsee4447]

Thanks for one of the very best and insightful talks about the enneagram in general and #8 types in particular. I learned a lot from it and look forward to more of your videos on the other types. You are providing an important source of information for which I am very, very grateful. Namaste

[@YouveGotaType]

Thnak you so much for the kind words! I really appreciate it 🙏

[@joeschmoe2765]

I've always thought about my legacy and how I might record videos of myself speaking to my future bloodline with a message of love and why I would leave behind whatever means I can to aide them in their journey of life. With that, I would want them to know who I was before their time. Hard to fig out what I would say, yet I feel like any of your enneagram videos would precisely give them an understanding of who I am. Seriously, you do a phenomenal job at this! Thank you for showing and helping people (including myself!) understand the sensitive sides of an 8 and paint a more complete picture about the traits/intentions that are often so easily misunderstood about us 8s. I thank you with an 8 style heart felt fist to chest pound, curled lips and a watery eyes masked as allergies.😭😊

[@YouveGotaType]

Wow thank you so much for this incredible complement! I've spent years carefully crafting these videos before putting them out into the world because I care so much about the potential good the enneagram can do for people. So thank you, with a strong chest pound right back at ya, for affirming the work I've put in to it and I'm beyond grateful to be able to be a part of your personal journey in any way!

[@dwaniscool]

Thank you for this video! As a type 8, I needed an analysis and then guidance. This video did both🙏

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad it was helpful!

[@daxterzn]

I’ve watched a ton of enneagram videos - and this is the best!

[@YouveGotaType]

Love to hear that! So glad you enjoyed it.

[@adsmodshop]

It's actually scary how accurate this is. It's absolutely mindblowing. I've had tons of my friends take the tests and watch the video on their Enneagram Type, and it hasnt been wrong about a single point on any of the videos. Every single thing he said was spot on. It just shows how predictable human beings are. Never thought about it before. This is some 3rd eye level stuff. 🤯 🤯

[@YouveGotaType]

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[@DavidSummers-wt1hz]

GREAT COMMUNICATOR & DEMEANOR for your delivery objectives. I'll be back!

[@YouveGotaType]

THANK YOU! Welcome back anytime ;)

[@nooneneedstoknowmyname]

I thought I had 8 in my tritype as the least likely one, now this is making me re-think things, especially what was said about 8s disintegrating into 5s. When I'm stressed or annoyed at people, I do tend to hoard things, and I don't like people getting in my personal space, or taking up my time. When I'm not stressed out, I actually like helping people, like it was mentioned, type 8s will integrate into 2s. I was on the fence with 8, 5, and 3, which can all be part of a tritype, but I wasn't sure which one was my dominant one. After watching this video and the one about type 5s, type 8 seems way more likely.

[@remoteworkpixie]

Great explanation, I like your delivery. Thank you. 8W7 here.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@AmandaS_1026]

I'm a INFJ 2w1. I believe both my parents are ESTJ type 8s. With both of them it can really like talking to a brick wall at times. They always have this need to win, and it is exhausting. What you described, I do think they're an 8w7. Just recently have come across your videos. Love how informative and straight forward they are.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you're enjoying the content! And wow, two 8s as parents would be... intense haha to say the least. Also a pretty rare romantic pairing... wonder if one of them could be more of a counterphobic 6 (aggressive) or 1 (need to be right)?

[@AmandaS_1026]

@@YouveGotaType You hit the nail on the head! Ya they butt heads a lot. My dad isn't afraid of confrontation, actually think he enjoys it half the time, and my mother always has to have her way. They both don't like to agree to disagree at all. It is very intense to say the least lol

[@the-first-of-her-name]

I am an 8w7 and a lot of what you said here was spot on. What does need more discussing is how gender roles, stereotypes, and fucking stupid descriptions discourage women from identifying with this type.

[@YouveGotaType]

I basically started this channel to combat those things you mentioned, especially stupid/cliche descriptions that only create confusion and spread misinformation. After this relationship series is done, my next series will be about common mistypes and will cover those exact topics. Wont be soon, but it's coming!

[@the-first-of-her-name]

@@YouveGotaType I'm looking forward to it.

[@kurtis-m]

Your opening tripped me right out! You read my mail! 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha the enneagram can do that! Also great youtube handle for an 8

[@rubabr.j3990]

Bingeing on your videos! So good and so well done! You deserve all the likes and subscribes you will get in the coming years! Sharing this stuff with all my enneagram loving friends and engaging with your content so others can benefit. Please keep going. Please do more on how different types deal with one another!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much! I appreciate the support and love that you're sharing the content around. Much more to come soon!

[@meriemmerzougui747]

As a type 8, i say thank you for this video, and even as an 8w7, we'll really aren't just a bunch of 8holes 😭 We're just very selctive when it comes to showing emotions and "goodness" because of the constant fear of being taken advantage of :)

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you enjoyed it 🙌 And agreed, some truly loving 8s out there with a hard shell, but a soft ole center ;)

[@holycannoli64]

Very slick delivery. Great content.

[@YouveGotaType]

I like "slick" as a descriptive 🙌much appreciated.

[@absolutegarbage4582]

I'm an 8w7 and I must say.. that energy ends. It is so exhausting to feel like I need to be on top of everything all of the time just out of pure fear factor. Losing control of a situation is terrible for me. Self improvement is something I stride for but I feel like I have so many things pushing against me, and with this explanation paired with a fun little BPD dx, it honestly makes a lot of sense. enneagrams are terrifyingly accurate at times-

[@absolutegarbage4582]

The visceral reaction I had to you listing the type 8's and then you saying "I wish I could see the type 8s faces right now" Kind of scared me ngl 😭💀

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was an accurate watch 🙌 and thanks for sharing a bit of your personal experience of the typology.

[@MageBurger]

LOG 3: Type 8 START[5 4 HERE] The above is just me listing out what order I've watched these guides. I might update the former logs to make them more uniform and easier to reference between. Not much I can say on this one in terms of relatability, in fact, I'd say I'm very opposite to the assertiveness, control and intensity of group interactions. I found myself heavily relating to 5, but not 100% thus why I decided to explore all of these different types (as well as being able to write characters for a cartoon I'm making). It was interesting to listen to a Type I didn't relate to for once, though I did recently know a few people I've met who had that very dominant characteristic and the most recent of them was someone I imagined throughout some of these explanations. The closest characteristic I can sort of relate to is 8Dis5 in the part about 'strategizing to get power back in a situation', but that strategy is usually a spontaneous sense of being frozen in my logic and emotions and overcome with uncertainty that I'm almost desperate to resolve if I don't have an instant solution or if my previous common lines of thought had not worked as I hoped. That instinct is likely closer to a 3 for being motivated by achieving a win rather than having power over others, but as I said in LOG 2, Type 3 is in my schedule to clarify my need to win and achieve, which might go deeper than achievement, but I'm not sure.

[@TaratheEnchantress]

I feel that as a 8 I don’t have one wing, some days I’m a 8w7 and others I’m a 8w9. It can even just depend on my mood or what’s going on around me.

[@YouveGotaType]

Fair enough. I tend to always say we have the influence of both wings at all times, and we tend to shift to one primary wing as we get older.

[@SoulfulVeg]

The early childhood characterization was spot on. And as a VERY intense 8 wing 7, I cracked up. As I've matured, I've more balanced.

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it resonated with ya! Albeit a hard childhood to endure.

[@sophieunusual]

This video is friggn perfect 💪

[@YouveGotaType]

This Type 1 looooooves to hear that ;)

[@user-gb5xm8mt8q]

I’m an 8. I just found out but it makes sense. Not important. You have excellent translations from subject to subject. Keep it up

[@user-gb5xm8mt8q]

😤 22:48

[@YouveGotaType]

Thank you very much! Best wishes on the continued enneagram journey of 8ness.

[@YouveGotaType]

@@user-gb5xm8mt8q Haha just rewatched that time stamp. Definitely not an easy practice to embody!

[@CoachAhava-0000]

Thank you! I'm currently writing a character at both their younger and much older self. This video helped me see better. Thank you for your work. 8 holes😂

[@YouveGotaType]

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[@justiceforthemissing3690]

Why you gotta call us out like that lol! Seriously, great description!

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha well if anyone can take it, the 8s can 💪 Glad ya enjoyed it!

[@brooklynbaker3126]

You described the 8 wing 7 as if it is inherently unhealthy and bad, and as if you have had intense negative experiences with them and that is shaping your entire view. This isn’t my type, and I feel that this is a disservice and sort of shaming to individuals with that type and subtype. Even when you said one positive thing about them, you joked after and said “or just sell some shit on Shark Tank.” I have really been enjoying and learning from your videos. So thank you. I hope you will take a moment to rewatch and reflect on why you felt this was all you could share about this subtype.

[@YouveGotaType]

Hey Brooklyn, I just rewatched the video and I don't think I'm unnecessarily hard on them. I didn't just say "one positive thing" about them. Rewatch it and listen to the description of their intensity, authenticity, strength, magnetic charisma, and inspiration. Before you assume some bias on my part, maybe take a second to reflect on why it stung so much. In regards to you saying this was "all I could share" - this video is a 25+ minutes about a wide array of enneagram theory around 8ness. You're not just an 8 w 7. You're an 8 in the gut group, the assertive group, the reactive group, with 3 different instincts, etc etc. And I'm sorry if the Shark Tank joke bothered you, but I actually love Shark Tank haha so it was just a quick riff. Anyway, thanks for the causing me to rewatch & reconsider my carefully crafted words from last year, and I hope you do the same with your feelings towards it.

[@rickcouldry8428]

I didn't know a thing about Enneagram and kind of randomly took the test. Your video was great, fun and I learned a lot. And I promise to try and not be an 8-hole. ;)

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha glad to hear it 🙌 best wishes on the continued enneagram journey of 8ness.

[@midnightdreams7911]

Amazing explanation. You make it so easy to understand.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much!

[@cuegod]

Thank you mate. I hung on every word. I'm on my journey to the healthy 8.

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad to hear it was an enjoyable watch and best wishes on the continued journey of health! You're the kind of person I make these vids for.

[@tripwire202]

Wonderful video! Hope this helps me write Lumin substantially better. She's a workaholic exile desperate to regain her lost status. Despite being gruff and abrasive, she's an extremely competent doctor.

[@tripwire202]

The comment you said about eights: "they fear abandonment so they push up against others to know if others have what it takes to handle them" Lumin definitely self isolates due to this reason. Despite admiring gentleness in some slight way, she mostly views others as pathetic and highly breakable, and avoids anything but shallow allyship and aquaintance. She enjoys being a doctor because she thinks this is the only way she has the capacity to help others. In all other ways, she thinks, she would simply break them. That she belongs to a species of apex predators does not help either her superiority complex or her terror of breaking other people. It's wonderful to know I made a coherent personality - as in her experiences are common enough for people to relate to. I mostly pulled her out of thin air! Okay. I know she's a haughty royal. What could drive that? Why does she seek status? Why doesn't she feel safe opening up? And the more I got to know her the better, more specific questions I could ask. I'm still learning and this is very helpful for clarifying and explaining Lumin well. I hope that despite her being a high fantasy protagonist and an aquatic apex predator species she'll resonate with people.

[@cddagr]

This is so spot on it is scary. 😱

[@YouveGotaType]

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[@GrimmFLawless]

I think Eminem is the perfect 8w7 example and Maverick is a perfect description. As a huge fan I can see him integrate to the 2 in the way he loves his daughters but disintegrate to the 5 because he has mentioned not taking full advantage of wealth and not being extravagant. Plus being a 5w4 myself noticing patterns like this come naturally for me especially considering I integrate to a type 8.

[@demarbiggins1512]

This is so on point!! Excellent work!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@benlatham5816]

Thank you for all the information sir

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@haki7811]

LOVE THIS! THANK YOU

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad ya enjoyed it!

[@tylerbaxter8016]

As an 8w9 I can definitely agree with boundless self confidence lol people sometimes think I’m just naturally gifted but it’s just… Nah I took failing in private as a personal challenge and then worked on it for hours on end until I could display effortless skill. But I’ve never been naturally good at anything. In fact, I usually start out with abysmal skill. But in the privacy of my home I put in the work because I know and believe that, if I just struggle, I can succeed.

[@tylerbaxter8016]

Also I think that 8s just can’t walk away from a challenge? If I realize I’m bad at something it’s instantly an obsession to compensate and be good at it. There is no “it is what it is” it’s just an immediate “Nah we’re gunna win this round”

[@Ruben43259]

Great job!

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@notbaked452]

Wow I literally just discovered your channel, I love it keep it up I'm sure it's gonna grow really fast, especially because of the structure that is going on here. Thank you for helping me gain more knowledge. So I wanted to ask you a question: I took a test and it came out that I was an 8. (My MBTI is ENTJ btw just fyi) but one of my major problems is that I constantly feel the need to help others and put them infront of my needs, for example my classmates. I am realizing that I am doing this way too much, like I feel that it is probably beyond average, so is it still possible for me to be an 8 or does it have something to do with me still being a child? It's really confusing since I also have traits of an 8. (Hope you see this lol)

[@YouveGotaType]

So glad you're enjoying the channel! It sounds like what you're experiencing could be because you're a primarily counterphobic 6. It's one of the most common mistypes out there since counterphobic 6s go AGAINST their primary struggle with fear/anxiety by charging after problems and being overly assertive/combative at times. I would recommend watching my episode on 6s and see what you think! Type 6 Complete Guide: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJTNhItqpq2Vb7s Also since you said "classmates" I'm assuming you're a bit younger? The enneagram is really not something I'd worry about until the late 20s/30s when you've let your identity fully form. We go through so many changes as we age and our brains are literally still developing in major ways, so all these personality assessments aren't as helpful yet and can even be misleading during a pivotal time of life when you should just be experimenting with lots of different styles, experiences, decisions, etc to find what resonates. Take that as you will! ;)

[@notbaked452]

@@YouveGotaType thank you

[@8176kitten]

Dunno about other 8s, but as I see it, in the scenario of being afraid to show vulnerability, the fear is the weak part, not the vulnerability. True strength acts in spite of fear 😤

[@YouveGotaType]

Now the challenge is to get 8s to admit they're actually afraid...

[@cholkymilkmirage4984]

i was never abandoned, my father did leave for times on work trips 2 weeks, for most and sometimes a month, but i never felt abandoned, i really didnt notice it or miss him like that. I rarely ever find myself missing anyone really. I think the reason i became an 8 is because of my hyper authoritative brother who my parents especially my dad bestowed upon him that he as a child ended up thinking he needs to be a very controlling authoritative figure. He would beat me and my little brother because thats what he saw my parents (mostly my mom) do when we were bad kids. And I do remember that there was a massive fear of getting in trouble from my mom as a kid. I can remember what her footsteps would sound like and it would give me some anxiety. I would feel that same anxiety from my older brother because of how much of a snitch and authority he was growing up. There was a lot of yelling in my house growing up by the mom and older brother. Dad wasnt loud but he had his moments too. The yelling would come because of either my little brother or older brother being a menace. One time my older brother hit my little brothers butt so hard while my parents were out that it left a nasty nasty imprint on his cheek and he was around 7 at the time. Little brother is def a bit autistic and different but i always understood him when we were kids. I think older brother is autistic as well, but he's always angry. Just always prone to get mad so fast. My mom used to feel like that but she has chilled out. And as I got older it was always my older brother that was super strict and later it became my dad who starting being very authoritative to me in my life. They both were like that out of the fear that I might end up a crack head or go astray. There was a ton of shame from my mother for being a fat kid, my dad would get his punches in to about it too till i eventually did lose the weight in high school. I can say and it being based on what everyone else sees too is that my mother loved and currently loves me the most, my dad finds me to be the most normal one compared to my younger and older brother, most of the fighting would actually happen between the two of them. Everyone gets along with me fine and i make friends fine to. Both my brothers are nightmares to be around and i avoid them like the plague but them come latching onto me. I am starting to see why I am an 8 with a w9. I want nothing more than to be free and independent. Ever since high school I have been like that. Everyone in my family besides my mother is so co-dependent. My brothers and my dad yet the weird thing is all three can end up doing something that ruins the relationship and makes the person you are depending on not want to be around you. My dad with his blunt arrogance and dominance, my older brother with his anger, need to be right, controlling, and paranoia, and my little brother with his narcissism, selfishness, bratty attitude, passive aggression and germaphobia making him resent people and things. Both of my brothers have this high horse superiority complex, talk down on others, and act and talk as if they are smarter than others. Shit they both say things that literally makes them come off as "I am smarter than you and i know it" to others. My mom is super independent when working and wanting to do things on her own. I feel like I got the best traits from both my father and mother with 2-3 bad traits, while both my brothers got a handful of bad traits and only 1-2 good traits from them.

[@natashamcfarlane5654]

I feel like most of this didn't apply to me because I'm an eight whose greatest fear is losing control of myself. I do not care to control my environment or those around me unless they are trying to manipulate or force me into something, at which point I become the world's best immovable object. I have nearly lost control over myself on 2 separate occasions, and once it nearly ended in murder and the other in torture. The near murder happened when I was around the age of 8. Terrified me, that's the exact moment I became an eight, and I've been one ever since; the second was at 24 when there was an attempt to rape me. I was so close to destroying everything that made him what he was, and yet, even in the rage and the intense desire to peel his skin from his face and force his head into boiling water, I was screaming internally at myself and barely managed to restrain my anger. I basically told him that I couldn't stop him (he was ex-military) but that if he went through with his plan, he had better kill me when he was done and double-check because I knew if he didn't, I would hunt him done and have him begging for death for decades to come. That's why I fear losing control. I would rather die a hundred times over than give in to that evil in me. I don't challenge life, I don't challenge people except to help them achieve the goals they have laid for themselves. I challenge myself. I am the only person on this planet that I fear and the only one I worry that I will lose to. My interactions are vastly different then most 8s for it I think.

[@YouveGotaType]

Well whenever people say things like this - it's because they are indeed not that type. The whole point of having a type is that it sums up your core motivations, so if don't have those core motivations, then it's not your type. That restrained anger and self-control is the exact description of the type 1s anger, and can even be seen in the counterphobic 6 as well.

[@natashamcfarlane5654]

@@YouveGotaType huh interesting, Ill look into it

[@TheRealHelenaDeluca]

8w7 here- this was great :)

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks so much 🙌

[@nataliemosdell5919]

I'm from South Africa, and I thought we had a good shot at making the spirit country 😂 It's a wild west out here! This country seems to have a lot of 8s, and people with 8 in their tritypes; as we all grew up with a looming sense of danger. It's normal here 😂 More seriously, I can see how the childhood experience comes in. I have control issues. I know why now. My mom developed a serious problem with alcohol and drugs after the divorce, and I had to look after her, and try to shelter my younger sister from the worst of it. I was rubbish at that, of course. I alienated my sister by becoming too bossy with her. She was right. I'm not her mom. I'm only 3 years older than her, and was very much still a child at the time. I just really didn't want her to fuck up her life. I was so worried about how all the drama with mom was making her act out.

[@tnurz]

Curious if there are any other 8s who had a loving childhood with 2 supportive parents? I’m 48 and still super close with both my parents, who are still married. I can’t really figure out my 8 origin story.

[@jessicajoerndt428]

When I took the anagram test, it came back that I was a four and an eight. Is that even possible? The strong matter-of-fact imposing my will side of me definitely resonates with the humanitarian eight that I think I am but I’m definitely definitely more so a four when it comes to my ability to feel my emotions so much so that they take over me. Kind of an interesting combination. I have an eighth that can feel emotions lol.

[@АленаМороз-х6м]

trully fantastic

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks!

[@melissatavilla8794]

Nailed it on the inadequate boss. If I can't mentor a boss that is doing a poor job, I have to leave.

[@lassebauer]

Type 8/7w here and I approve of this message 😎😁

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@JuliaOstrovok]

Please explain me what means the worst traits of 5s. You said only a few about it, I need more information to get it correctly

[@imanishimwejanviere5766]

Thank you sooo much!🙏🏾

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure!

[@alexanderbialonowicz5770]

Very helpful video ! Thanks a lot !

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad to hear it!

[@TheCakeIsALie422]

So interesting, I initially thought I was a two and then figured out it’s actually eight!

[@YouveGotaType]

That can definitely happen, especially in certain age ranges or with women that are influenced by traditional gender roles/stereotypes who think they "should" be a two.

[@raina4732]

Really interesting! My husband is an 8, I call him the conductor. When he gets stressed he starts conducting everyone around him. I say conducting and not controlling, because it feels more like he is trying to organize and harmonize things by conducting an orchestra of people in his life, and it doesn’t feel manipulative. (He’s also a musician and when playing in an orchestra, he will literally stand up and interrupt the conductor- a big no no!- and put his opinion on why a certain thing isn’t working, and he’ll turn to other musicians and start conducting them! He cannot just sit back and keep things to himself 🤦‍♀️. Very annoying, and too intense with everything, but he has a good heart and good intentions! His perceptions are usually always correct.)

[@Saffron-sugar]

I don’t know if I believe in this stuff, but I certainly find it interesting

[@YouveGotaType]

Fair. Thanks for keeping an open mind as you investigate further.

[@renazillakill221]

Spot on 👍🔥

[@littlelaurwashere]

Wow, accurate.

[@YouveGotaType]

Thanks, Lauren!

[@bravezamogogo]

spent most of my twenties thinking i was a 2, but retyped myself an 8 a few years back. how is that possible?

[@YouveGotaType]

I believe self-awareness is a long and complicated journey 🤷‍♂️ I also think most of us aren't that self-aware in our 20's (especially early 20s). Partially why I don't believe in teaching this to kids as their ego/identity is still forming and it's not helpful to pick away at something still so sunken into our subconscious.

[@petrahorcicova6641]

That's meee!!!! I need something intense!!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

😅

[@drawnbysean1624]

I am an 8 and a lot of my worst nightmares are about being forced to do things or being controlled

[@YouveGotaType]

Makes sense

[@drawnbysean1624]

Hi, I was wondering something. I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I think I’m an 8. However, I’m a lot more interested in people’s emotions than other 8’s. I also contain my anger when I’m in certain situations, but in others I can’t help but let it out. Another important piece of information here is that I am INFJ, and the descriptions of INFJ 8w9 particularly resonated with me. Despite this, I still have some doubts and think I could be a 4, since 8w9 is so rare. What do think?

[@novasmommy104]

I appreciate you and this video so much, but recognizing myself is ridiculously hard

[@YouveGotaType]

Glad it was enjoyable, albeit a difficult journey.

[@tommazec13]

Thank you so much for your work and dedication ..great to listen to easy comprehensive complete love it ..Mi partner its 8w9 helpful to understand her better. (i am 1 w9 :)

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure! Very happy to hear how much you enjoyed it, and I really appreciate the kind words.

[@whitnit4148]

What type of camera is this? I love it😅 and I'm for real, please send the details ❤

[@YouveGotaType]

Just the ole iphone 11! I've switched to the Sony ZV-1 since, but the iphone is still so reliable for this kind of content (especially if you're a newbie like me).

[@lafia3713]

Me: "Yeah, I don't think any of the enneagrams really fit me." *reaches the Type 8 video* Me: "Oh."

[@YouveGotaType]

haha well thanks for keeping an open mind till ya found your type!

[@aprilangel.channel]

I’m a single mother 4w5 to an 8 year old 8 and a 15 year old 9. My 9 daughter wants nothing to do with my 8 daughter. My 8 daughter has been diagnosed with adhd and odd. I guess it’s really just extreme 8 behavior. These videos are helpful because as a 4 OF COURSE I want to understand her but my ability to help her sit with her emotions is wasted because she wants nothing to do with that. 😩 Shakespeare has written lesser tragedies. lol I really love scrolling the comment section to hear how adult 8’s are doing and how I might yet help her. She tries to boss the whole house and it’s a constant power struggle for me. Of course she wants a dog and loves them more than anything! And she manhandles our car who HATES IT. Lol help

[@cmbenke]

I’m an 8 and my therapist constantly refers back to Brene Brown. I’ve read all of her books. 😂 Applies to ladies to. We’ve done a lot of work on shame and reacting with anger.

[@YouveGotaType]

Love me some Brené Brown 🙌

[@lindseyscott3843]

I literally yelled F*CK when you said who the famous 8s are.

[@YouveGotaType]

Lol it's quite the lineup.

[@natashamcfarlane5654]

I was trying to figure out what would happen if you locked them all in a room together

[@gaetanosortino502]

Let's imagine the intensity of a 8w7 SX8. Also, I think the lion well represents Type 8, especially SP8

[@Andi-y8e]

I’m a 9w1, and I look up to 8s like crazy hehe..

[@YouveGotaType]

I'm sure they love being looked up to ;)

[@secretivescorpio891]

Damn, you seem like a nice guy but this stuff is giving me a headache. I have not tested myself to see where I am but from a very brief description of the types I identified with 8 the most. I'm currently working on cptsd from childhood trauma with a therapist who from his work with me has been building a picture of my type. I will have to ask him what conclusions he's arrived at, when I have my next session. This stuff feels kinda woo woo to me. Like horoscopes/astrology

[@mpaulis8310]

How did, what the, how is it that accurate?

[@YouveGotaType]

😅

[@icanrelate]

Which types do you think make the best mentors for 8s?

[@YouveGotaType]

Whew great question! It really depends more on finding someone that the 8 respects, either because of what the potential mentor has accomplished or trials they've endured. After that, I'd say the patient energy of a 9 (especially 9w8) is a great, soothing force for 8s. 3s can be a great mentor because of what I mentioned about earning success/prominence/material wealth, but they just need to be in a non-competitive space with each other, or else it could be fireworks... Lastly, a strong, counterphobic 6 would be a good mentor because they embody a courageous spirit that the 8 respects and 6s are very committed to their relationships, which soothes the 8s fear of abandonment.

[@icanrelate]

@@YouveGotaType thank you!!!

[@YouveGotaType]

My pleasure!

[@CaveyMoth]

The ultimate anime type 8s for me are Asuka from Evangelion and Kyoko from Madoka Magica.

[@YouveGotaType]

Funny how much anime + personality types exist in the same online communities.

[@yigitdogan27]

Bull and Bear - Stock trade animals

[@ferporras25]

I love your videos, thanks for what you do! I'm an 8! And I only disagreed with the "spirit" country because I hate that country for doing that to those innocent animals 😑just for fun? 😠 aaand I like Lions 😎 they are great and powerful but also cute 😇 that's an 8 🤗

[@iziholokahi]

The "8" Hole.... Yep! Recovering "8" Hole here!

[@YouveGotaType]

:)

[@actrealestate]

Omg that’s scary 😅 like you know me for a long time lol

[@YouveGotaType]

😉

[@dailyphotoreview]

8w9 perfectly describes carmen from the bear!

[@hadiza1]

💜📚

[@YouveGotaType]

🙌

[@catherinebullock9748]

yep you are right on I'm an 8 and sometimes an 8hole.

[@YouveGotaType]

Haha glad it felt accurate ;)

[@TheRealHelenaDeluca]

My reaction to the list of famous 8's- euuuuuuuuuuuuugh. lool

[@YouveGotaType]

hahah I feel ya. I couldn't NOT include them all tho ;)

[@AuthoritativeChadWarrior]

I'm type 8

[@YouveGotaType]

Noted...

[@AmberAyres]

I knew Tony Stark would be an 8 😂

[@YouveGotaType]

So many folks think he's a 7!

[@nddave7898]

8 here 🙋🏻‍♂️😂😭

[@YouveGotaType]

ahoy 🫡

[@kenobean]

In the marvel universe I'm pretty sure bucky barnes is an 8

[@YouveGotaType]

Interesting... I'm not as schooled in the Marvel Universe as I should be.