DICHOTOMY OF CONTROL - Shaolin Masters Shi Heng Yi talks Epictetus

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[@MindfulExplorations-op7bg]

For anyone watching and growing in your spirituality. I wish you peace, love, and light, may your journey prove fruitful and enjoyable..😁🤗❤

[@marisadallavalle393]

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[@mushedits]

Thank you 💚

[@3rayur]

[@NINTY-LGND]

People and situations are powerless with out your reaction. Namaste

[@BlackPaulPhoenix]

That little sip of the tea he did before starting was so cool to me 😂😂😂😂

[@mugen8studios]

Its so bruce leewish

[@franchescaar7065]

A muchacho describing q soy bueno congas manos si quierecomi qiropractia

[@tonytokablunt]

That was a nice touch for the director / editor to leave that in. Made me take a sip of my Tea as well!

[@rudirolle2317]

I just knew he was gone say some wisdomish stuff when he took that at sip 😂😭

[@cmath6454]

He's not a cult of personality. You miss the point

[@mhunt25]

I like how even the dog is chill

[@EricaShady10171972]

By letting go, we control our lives.

[@vantagepoynt8375]

By giving up, we never surrender, to the need to not give up. 🤔✨

[@pilesthedonkey]

I gather everything everyone let's go, because they will want to lose it again oneday and I'll be able to sell it back to the losers.

[@pilesthedonkey]

You get this day for free if you bye these 4 other shitdays 😁

[@pilesthedonkey]

5 for the price of 4

[@nissa111]

😫😫😫

[@Theordinary_luv]

I always listen to him while I’m falling asleep, ever since I started, I always sleep better and wake up so Much happier, I am only 11 and I am already loving these videos

[@abdoomar-jx9pm]

even the dog was relaxed, I bet he is a stoic as well.

[@Gerald_Frenulum]

“Lord, grant me serenity for the things I cannot change, courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

[@Sanguinarius9999]

Universe, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

[@gregorypeepeetch-by3mn]

Amen

[@uriamudeltoro5075]

Axé

[@briansakurada2823]

@@Sanguinarius9999 thanks for correcting that misguided and misplaced quote.

[@briansakurada2823]

That puts all of the control and responsibility of action on something outside yourself, this quote has no place here.

[@amandaparon5687]

I could listen to his voice all day... His presence is so soothing & gentle, yet so strong & powerful! So much wisdom✨️

[@rivenchau7166]

Be like water my friend ~Bruce Lee

[@mugen8studios]

Ta querendo!

[@alexandraschuster488]

Breathwork, daily meditation and physical exercises helped me a lot to go through panic attacks and reconnect myself. I learned to understand that I'm the only one who can adjust what is going on inside me. Thank you guys for all the great Videos and thanks to Master Shi Heng Yi 🙏🏻 I appreciate everything he shared with us.

[@Alex-m8515]

100% I’m the same. Never felt this good before

[@bravoxyz6710]

you are not alone

[@Kerrviii]

Taking 5 seconds to breathe in, HOLD IT 5 seconds out 5 seconds has been a game changer - “deep breaths” advice didn’t work for me. I needed a tangible goal. 5.5.5

[@udayshankar9438]

Same here , never knew depression would be so real in my life , it will take some time to be myself again , but healing slowly.

[@hoovesandpawsanimalrescue]

Very happy for your growth!

[@bradleycollins2858]

He looks exactly like what you would think a Shaolin master would look like lol. This was awesome. Wish I could meet that guy.

[@thedevinenetwork]

The short interaction between the master and the dog was a showcase of Peace✌🏾and Love❤......irl. Such grace and beauty.

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

I agree brother! I felt that his energy changed when his dog came over to lay with him. ❤ nothing like the love of a dog to bring peace to the atmosphere.

[@melissamargrave11]

I lived acrss the street from a man who had 2 white doves...I remember watching them fly around his land and after a while they'd return back to their cage....I would understand later that the doves were a reminder to look for understanding in my exterior world as they flew around their property outside and then my interior world when theyd willingly go back to their cage...as an adult i feel lucky to see the fellowship of beings and that they conspire to give guidance, unbeknownst to us all. "Grace" is the word I give to the conversation...our graciousness, if we are kind and courteous to others and to ourselves we can create an enjoyable experience in both worlds. Like learning a dance the movement of thought and being in grace, perhaps we're less likely to stumble and fall. What a lovely man...I'll bet he dances beautifully.

[@raphaelfritzler8228]

This is what I've been learning daily in my recovery: Whatever change I wish to see in my life, must come from within. Thank you for sharing this with us. 🙏

[@Xenotypal]

Good luck, you've got this. God helped me get through the long-term part of my recovery and He can for you too.

[@zacparatore296]

I have 10 days today. Super anxious, can’t stop my mind from racing. Good luck to you.

[@raphaelfritzler8228]

@@zacparatore296 That's awesome! Don't give up. Easier said than done when you're going through it, man do I know it!! Stay strong brother, and stay connected. 🙏

[@ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked]

[@rktsnail]

I got sober 4 years ago by using stoicism and 12 step to have a healthy relationships with the world. My life is beautiful now

[@sethtaylorm925]

I could listen to him all day everyday.

[@jtwalkes]

Once I learned that stress was my reaction to, person, places, behaviors, issues and situations, I no longer had any stress in my life. Stress is My reaction and if it is my reaction I can control my reactions. It took me a while but I can truly say I am stress free. I believe the goal should always be peace. Once you taste true peace, you will protect your peace by any means necessary!

[@monnoo8221]

just that you still separate your reactions from yourself. It is not about controlling your own reactions. More appropriate would be to set a stage where You can develop into a connected being, connected in every thinkable direction, across any thinkable strata, and your actions are the liquid exchanged between them, your actions being inseparable from what you call today re-actions.

[@knowthetruth311]

Hahahahaha indeed once you taste on this peace of God, u have to ensure it's protected at whatever cost. I agree with you

[@aquarius5719]

Stress is connected to anxiety, and anxiety makes people feel not loved. Peace comes when we treat ourselves with love, patience and kindness.

[@Pomegranately_aha]

Absolutely true

[@David-fp2ws]

True and guru once said i you want true peace you must find it within your self because there is no real peace now a days in the world.

[@JamesHill-vs4kn]

Please continue to teach. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@donguy8413]

8.00 min wisdom for me ❤❤

[@DaStarrchild]

Its incredible that you can live this way in the modern times. What i would give to have this peace.

[@Alexander-bp2ht]

It's a fascinating how he reworded, elaborated and stretched everything Epictetus said.

[@Hekamiah112]

One of the biggest realizations I have had recently is - life revolves around being and doing. We have to find balance between work and relaxation. To have responsibility, goals, purpose and to be virtuous. That is all what it is. Everyone has their own way in reaching those truths.

[@user-ws8tt5dh7y]

Master Shi Heng Yi is nailing it on this one with his internal and external examples and such.

[@gojiberry7201]

Aww off the subject, but look how cute his doggy is with its head on the pillow

[@Bianca-sw5id]

The dog who came to sit on the couch is going to live to be older than most dogs because is not made excited , is a calm dog ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🧬

[@veronicaatkins4417]

I instantly feel calm listening to him💕

[@spotsix9243]

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.” ― Maya Angelou.25 Oct 2020

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[@tlotus3032]

Gorgeous man. What a gift of calm, beauty, and self-empowerment. 😇

[@siobhanstrauss8492]

The more you try to control other people the less control you have. That’s my final thoughts regarding being hacked and violated.

[@David-mw3sb]

So much gratitude. Thank you Buddha. Thank you Master.

[@Artoniz88]

"The key to a good day, is low expectations!"✌️

[@shinji5967]

The dog!❤he’s taking nap now. Master Yi voice.💕

[@thehappyvulcan]

Breathing is both something you do, and something that happens to you. "Be strict with yourself and tolerant with others." "Logic grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference"

[@mysticchords]

A rare window of sanity you open through these videos.. An opportunity to attune with the Presence of a Master, and that's a priceless reflection and transmission amidst a materialistic culture which has lost touch with the essence.. Thank you.

[@aucapuig9043]

My compliments to the sound engineer/s, the way this has been produced is amazing, conveys the feeling and atmosphere so well. Almost feels like my room is heated by fire. Genius

[@nicolasachee9765]

The term "control" can always be more accurately replaced with "harmony." Imagine two kung fu masters having a battle. Though to the observer still locked in the paradigm of force and will, the victor seems to be in control, it is really the one most in harmony with his environment, the universe, his opponent, and himself, constructively interfering with and being supported and amplified by those energies who remains upright. The irony of letting go of control to the larger natural forces at play granting the effect and lasting peace of mind to the relinquisher that which is sought by one who seeks control.

[@d.christopher479]

The importance of Master Shi Heng Yi's words cannot be overstated - so real, grounded, human, insightful, thoughtful and true. This discussion is one of the best! Great message pertaining to personal accountability, rational sensibility, and overall well-being. Thank you for making a difference and for adding to the quality of my life.

[@bigred8438]

I think one of the very first epiphanies I had was about lowering my expectations about things in life, such that my response would not involve as much disappointment when expectations I had were not met. This was an emotional self preservation strategy. I must have had high expectations because I was constantly disappointed. So that direct connection between lowered expectations and less disappointment was applied everywhere, including in my marriage eventually. This internal management of disappointment through lowering expectations freed me from stress and allowed me to be less controlling of situations and people, and offered me the chance to focus on other things I did have control over....artistic expression for example. So, mastering my responses to external stimulus and events had to begin with me letting go of unreasonable expectations I had being tuned into the needs of the world and turning my focus inward to see what made me who I was and why I did certain things, had certain beliefs and certain responses and behaviors.

[@ArchibaldRobinson]

love to hear it, helpful story thank you

[@frodoggbooboo]

A good technique to use

[@michaelanthony5509]

He had me at the initial tea sip. I just knew the drop was en route.

[@connorstar164]

Thank you Master Shi sheng, the most important thing he said was about the internal and external world, there is only one world, you cannot be just internal, they are one, you cannot separate yourself from yourself. David says this in psalms, who says I hate the double minded person, unstable in all his ways. He was not internal and external, he was one, this is why wholesome, is a great virtue, because you are whole, not partial. This is the difference between a cocky person and a confident, a cocky person will constantly retract his words to come up with witty responses while a confident person stick with not being above or below someone, he doesn’t think he’s better, he just knows the other person is not better, he doesn’t think the other is below him, he knows he isn’t higher. This is a man of humility and humble. Sadguruh also said that when you are always trying to admit self care, or having self help, or take care of your self, you are creating two people in one, we are only one. Which aligns with Confucius who says we all have two lives, and the first begins when we realize we only have one. You have to be a realist. This is not easy, as Gautama Buddha teaches that Mara and nibbana is a ying and Yang power struggle with temptation and control, we have to practice disciplines, habits, and have diligence over negligence, prudence over simplicity, wisdom over folly, righteousness over wickedness. I can assure you this is not so easy, Gautamas dharma chakra wheel, and the 4 noble truths is a fine tuning your mind with your spirit and body in unison. Everything effects everything else, if you skip work outs, that would effect your minds confidence, if you skip journaling, or calling your friends and or acolytes, this will diminish your spiritual connection, if one part falls the others happen like a micro dominos effect. I can assure you that the simple life is not so easy. But it’s so lively and fruitful, instead of just reading and working out I have to also have more collaborating, conversing in person, whether if it’s at church with the fellowship and pastor, or instead of just reading the Dhammapada and meditating actually go to a Buddhist temple and talking with the gurus and monks as Gautama did as well, we are not just animal but are spiritual beings. Thank you daily stoic and Master Shi.

[@macy5060]

thank you for your comment, very insightful 🙏❤

[@andrewivarson7891]

I learned recently that my problems are internal not external and that I must adjust to fit life. I can't adjust life to fit me. This has brought me me much peace.

[@zeidrichthorene]

Is internal and external that different? Where does the one stop and the other really begin? Get drunk and try to walk a straight line. When you can't, is that external or internal? Is it possible to just internally ignore the drunkenness? Try to survive without eating or breathing. Without that external contribution there's nothing internal that you can shape to change things. This isn't to say there's nothing internal, but anything that can change can't be that. When we think about internal experience most of the time, I think we talk about things that are closely perceived and identified with. I might feel stress, this is because of patterns in my brain, these patterns might be caused by the release of adrenaline near my kidneys into my blood. If I do something to suppress the ability or increase my body's release of adrenaline or noradrenaline does this change my internal state or external state? The feeling of stress feels internal, but a kind of manipulation like that feels external. This is because we identify with the feeling in our brain in a way we don't identify with taking a pill or surgery. If I'm noticing a sensation in my hand, is that external or internal? Now what if that sensation is from the pressure that the carrot we're cutting puts on the knife and transfers to us? See what I mean? All of these internal sensations are from identification. We don't identify as the carrot, we might identify as the hand, we probably identify as the brain. If we have brain trauma and it causes us to feel depressed or feel incredible, is that an internal or external sensation? We will probably feel it's internal, but once it's identified that it's caused by something physical we might change our mind. This doesn't change the source of the feeling, it just changes which box we put it in, whether we take responsibility, identify, feel ownership over it.

[@nwpv7170]

It's so clear the way the Shaolin Master explains different challenges and situations! I appreciate this videos. Thank you!

[@RainRemnant]

Can't help but being brought to tears, how this hit home hard. So much has happened the past years and now struggling to find some balance and myself again, always tried to change someone else or to escape painful situations but the answer isn't out there... thank you for the lightbulb moments and a good lesson to practice and take with me.

[@payableondeath9091]

😇Spend some time alone to reflect

[@RainRemnant]

@@payableondeath9091 too much time and completely alone, but trying, thank you!

[@martendewind]

@@RainRemnant Well the point seems to be that you are not alone but in continuous co-existence with everything. A very real co-existence. For instance by breath. But in many other ways too. One couldn't even exist without all that other stuff.

[@RainRemnant]

@@martendewind That's very well explained and I think I understand what you mean, I have lived in close connection with everything around me, we're all connected too the same way, just now with turmoil and loss that connection feels gone. It just takes time but thank you. Btw your name sounds Dutch! I'm from Holland. Sorry if I'm wrong!

[@martendewind]

@@RainRemnant You're welcome en je hebt het goed ingeschat!

[@hon.desireealemansocorro1118]

It is very good topic. Thanks to Master Shi Heng Yi.

[@mephisto212]

The point he makes leading up to 16:00 is probably the most enlightening thing I've ever heard. 'Where you place the mind' ie how you're getting 'triggered' happens when you place the 'blame' on the outside and ignore the inside. The flipside of that is spending too much time internal ruminating and you end up losing track of what is happening outside (or your impact on the outside in relationships etc). Find that balance, and let the inside mirror the outside. Accept, then adjust.

[@ElmoSaint]

Thank you. I realize I must also build my body and energy

[@songbirdjess854]

He is very wise 🦉 thank you for sharing this

[@Marta-zm8oe]

I like that athough Shi Heng Yi prioritises adjusting oneself internal world/repsonse to the external world, he also acknowledges that changing the external world is important, something that stoic philosophy doesn't delve much in

[@sarahwxp]

This was an amazing video. As a counsellor I see how helping people with implementing stoicism and philosophy , and spiritual practices, can help them have an increasingly better quality of life.

[@carolspencer6915]

No expectations no disappointments. Well to a degree, I live by this wee philosophy. Thankyou again.💜

[@marianatequiero28]

Ya right are you single

[@beyondreamtime420]

Disappointment will help you grow to a better endurance person . There is alway a ying and Yang in philosophy, it will alway come to how we look at it .

[@Robert_Lindsay]

This guy knows what he's talking about from his practices and disciplines. I like how you are integrating his insights with what he can relate to from Stoic philosophy. As I am living in Taiwan, and have a bit of a background in reading Taoist philosophy and practising Chi gong, this is an interesting angle to hear discussed.

[@NewDayDawning1111]

This talk came along at precisely the right time! Much gratitude 🙏 🙏🙏

[@jamescox8875]

He was better than expected I will say

[@Jumpoable]

What were you expecting/ projecting? ;)

[@Nicoladen1]

"It is wiser to walk alone than it is to walk with a fool". A saying I still have to embed into my lifestyle. I find myself again and again talking to friends about these topics and although they always agree at first, they quickly snap back to their subjective bias and not understanding my point. And here I am, being biased about their subjective bias. Ah yes, at last I realize that I'm neither walking alone nor am I walking with fools. But it is me who is the fool. I am attached to my girlfriend, and yet if I get over the attachment out of the belief that that would set me free, would I not merely be attaching myself to an abstract idea as an alternative. Ah yes, a fool at last. Time to wake up

[@cheri238]

🙏❤️ Those with dementia or serious illness we have to have empathy and compassion ❤️ When my papa got me a tricycle and then a bike, no training wheels, I was placed on my bicycle and my balance of energy was flying.

[@Czantorjev]

I've just watched a short youtube video. Then I realized it had 30 minutes. Listening to that guy explaining things is time-bending!

[@ZenInsights-vp8nb]

This is fantastic. Loved the accompanying music also. Not too loud not too soft and not too busy. Much appreciated.

[@fayethelightworker2975]

Sending positive vibes, healing, light and love to all,, God speed 😍💖✌️🙏

[@sf3486]

Excellent. Thank you. This ties in with everything I'm working on inner work wise and being still and quiet and out of fear and into Love and Grace. Love the message and the messenger. Such great wisdom and information. Look within. Know thy true present eternal self.

[@AntiHolyChrist]

I've net a lot of orphans who turn to this type of internal training to feel whole. Myself included. Love it.

[@melissaparody9258]

❤ so wise, I needed to hear these words of wisdom this morning, thankyou master Yi 🙏 💜❤

[@carloshacer4440]

Thank you, Shi Heng Yi. I needed council tonight. I will move my question from one of self-control to one of self-adjustment. The question of what self is then might become more approachable.

[@elisabethmcallister3989]

I love your videos! I’m so thankful for there not being background music and you are such a great listener! You just allow the Master to express his brilliance without distraction.

[@OtaBengaBabalanga]

he eats the dogs

[@DrTurt-uq3kc]

I love these conversations. I just couldn't go without mentioning that when I see all this traditional attire, decoration, and tea set, and then see the man bring out your standard electronic kettle in a conversation about dichotomy, I couldn't help but start chuckling :D

[@PBTexasBoy]

Right… Also those sleeves would stress me out if I had to wear that

[@playinsanity5133]

In another video, he started talking about the Jedi and Darth Vader haha

[@AntiHolyChrist]

That's a whole other method of internal acceptance. Practicing this in a 2022 modern technology world.

[@artandculture5262]

You like appearances.

[@elizabethgraham1313]

I thought the same thing! 😂

[@kulpreetkaursangha8297]

Aawwhh. Love the blacky! So clam! ❤

[@nicholaskoenig3106]

Thank you for this reminder. I need it on the daily. So thankful for this breath...and this one.

[@agapaw3721]

If you want to experience this life - learn how to breathe💛 love this Guy!!! Such an amazing tips to finally live the life we want🥰

[@sahaibasumatary8076]

I feel Understanding the similarities between the behaviours of Universal things with ourselves is very important to explore much more. Love this Video.❣️

[@dannycassinellibarac9993]

Total acceptence of one self. Make it one. Then circumstances are. No problema!

[@mirrorsofreality]

Becoming aware of your own thoughts and actions gives you the ability to adjust, change, that aspect of your life. Through practice, visualization, and awareness you can bring this change into your life. This process takes time and discipline to achieve. The science behind the way the brain works. It takes two months for the neurons, in your brain, to grow new connections. New thoughts and actions bring about new connections. Mastery comes after a year. The only thing in life that we can control, adjust, is our own thoughts and feelings. Our actions. Shi Heng Yi, touches on our inner world becoming our outer world. This principle of life is the driving force behind how each individual lives. Our thoughts and feelings directly affect the state of our energy. In turn our energy directly affects our outer world. You will bring into your life that which you put out into the world. I very much enjoy listening to him speak about what he's learned in his life

[@QuashaJackson-go2ml]

Thank you for this message ❤

[@DeusExNihilo]

Such an interesting metaphysics. Aligns pretty well with our experience of reality

[@clearvision4233]

Thank You Shi. Believe it or not, you’ve been of much help to me. Thank you.

[@agapaw3721]

I would change the title to THE TRUE MEANING OF QIGONG AND BREATH IN THIS LIFETIME

[@drimbesatsyed]

The dog is gaining the conversation

[@ahouseal7]

God bless all. Thank you for helping others when a physcologist is incapable of helping others. You have helped me to be at peace.

[@jeanclaudevierin9176]

this means very very much to me. The balance between inisde and outside is a real challenge. It requires lots of energies, that are devoured, and leave myself into an inertial-like state. Nothing has happened, nothing changed, I have the control over nothing. BUT, if I choose the challenge relating myself to my past experience, I nearly automatically choose a way into a pattern. It iso NOT my aim, it's a simple, direct flowing. Perhaps, this is what he means. I have understood that.

[@bbrtryhard]

within yourself you are pure, outside of yourself you only shape the image of yourself.

[@dr.vandanajerin9864]

Excellent message, thanks from India 🙏

[@Princess_Rosabella]

Thank you 🙏 master… your energy is powerful Your spirit is light to people 🥰

[@slambangwallop]

I think I met this man before! If I'm right, he was helping a local business to adjust to their new premises. What an honour that I met him, or even a similar looking calming person! Helping workers to stress less in their work is surely a great idea. Also, the Shaolin Masters clearly know how to buy a quality kettle- I have one of those and they really help to make good, healthy, tea.

[@Jumpoable]

His German accent is too cute. LOL. Thank you for interviewing Master Shi.

[@1sanremy]

BRIEF is also the bridge between CONSCIOUS and UNCONSCIOUS

[@arelyvasquez5984]

Estoy en el momento correcto! Estoy aprendiendo amarme y no ser victima de mi vida bendito dios ❤

[@luismello1158]

Shi Heng Yi has been a important tutor for me during my development. Thank you for sharing your knowlodge with us in a calm way

[@annap9441]

Loved it😊 I wish it would have spanish subtitles though, so I could share it more. I love Shi Heng Yi teachings ❤

[@candydelaney2129]

Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏

[@dr.dmitry.sokolov]

Great stuff! Thank you!

[@Archangel77799]

Hell yea bro. Keep doing this.

[@MirajMirajMiraj]

This is one of the most useful videos I've seen lately. Thank you ❤

[@Jameseditorofficial]

Thank you!

[@metres_imammou]

Well said indeed!💐

[@Kokorikovaati]

That man ain't never lied!

[@Eternalflowtrading]

Great conversation!

[@karlshipley5142]

Wu Wei. The nature of flow.

[@dropclutch1]

Thank you making this and thank you Master Shi.

[@dannycassinellibarac9993]

The eye is in yourself, not the other.

[@patriciapereira5697]

Amazing video. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼

[@sf8006]

Thank you so much for this.

[@songbirdjess854]

I pray for more soft spoken men 🙏

[@012345678933729]

Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

[@lionheartklaric3729]

Such beautiful, helpful wise words