Exposure Therapy: How to Overcome Any Fear

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What if I told you it was possible to overcome your biggest fear? Well, it is. I am about to break down exactly how.
In this video, I take two women who are terrified of driving and by the end, have them driving supercars, drifting on race tracks, and taking a road trip across the country.
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[@norasimon9018]

Hey everyone, this is Nora! Happy to report that I have driven on the freeway multiple times since this video was shot. 😁 🎉 Believe me: If I can overcome my fear you can too! A huge thank you to Mark and his team for showing me that my limits are much farther than I think. Also, fun fact: this was my first time meeting Angelika in person. Nothing like getting scared out of your mind with someone to solidify a friendship amirite? Angelika: you’re my ride or die!! 💜

[@TheBrendonKasa]

YAY

[@andriahastings7007]

That’s fantastic way to go conquering that you can do anything you put your mind to. Proud of you both.❤

[@mansukhsingh2596]

Well done Nora! More power to you from India!💛

[@wonderingworld119]

That was epic. One thing I am noticing from these videos is we, as humans, seem pretty good at taking a rational slight anxiety and blowing it up to the point where the fear itself affects us in irrational ways. Mark says in one of his books "just go and do something" and that phrase alone has helped me a bit. Shame self help doesn't involve looking at screens and not doing things on an ever growing list, because I am really great at doing that.

[@louisevessey3839]

Way to go! You must feel so accomplished and more free! Congratulations!

[@angelikas3629]

Hey, it’s Angelika. For a long time I didn’t even realize how deeply the accident affected me, but when I moved to the US from Europe, there is no way around it, you have to drive everywhere, I was faced with this paralyzing anxiety every time I got in the car. I honestly felt shame and judgement as “it’s just driving, everyone does it.” Starting driving when you are an adult is very different from starting when you are a teenager. Instead of focusing on the freedom and independence that the car can give, you worry about the responsibility you take on for everyone on the road, that many forget when driving. Overcoming my fear wouldn't have been possible without the support and encouragement of Mark, Nora and the amazing team. You've truly changed my life with this incredible experience. My anxiety is not gone, but now I know that I can push through it. And so can you! I hope this video will help many people start their journey like we did and show that your fears don’t have to control you. Take it one step at a time. Most importantly, I'm grateful for the friendships built on this adventure! Nora, I can’t wait to visit you in LA and drive around together again.😉

[@norasimon9018]

Angelika!!! I can’t believe we did this together and yes, we need a reunion road trip!

[@markus9541]

Well done girls! Fear is a dragon, and you have slain it. 😎

[@youtubech12345]

A dragon is mmy spirit animal and is good 😢​@@markus9541

[@youtubech12345]

Wow great job Nora and Angelika. You are héroes ❤

[@F615yo]

Good job Angelika!!

[@MarkYaman]

This is easily the best content on youtube currently, please keep doing what you doing Mark.....

[@cygnusvideo]

agreed

[@Mr.Honest247]

You couldn’t possibly know that considering you haven’t seen every single video on KZbin.

[@jpmiller03]

I know MarkYaman and he has watched every video on KZbin so you owe him an apology@@Mr.Honest247

[@nategubbins8871]

Raise your hand if you're a buzzkill 😂​@@Mr.Honest247

[@dietbajablast5790]

I like it too, but "easily the best content on youtube" is a bit hyperbolic, no?

[@cirestamey9243]

"The best things in life are on the other side of our fears." 11:23

[@allforone5955]

Dar ke aage jeet hai- Mountain dew catchphrase in India.

[@alf3071]

bro one of my biggest fears was my bike getting stolen which happened, and losing a girl I really liked, which also happened, I don't feel less fear now, what am I doing wrong? It's like it only made me more paranoid

[@bibekneupane4192]

​@@alf3071you were not ready for it, exposure only works if you're prepared

[@kennethj1956]

My greatest fear was riding my unicycle on the roof, blindfolded, jugging oranges. Sadly I dropped the oranges.

[@migojolo2933]

The best things in life are on the other side of a fart

[@flowmovementtherapy2096]

As someone who grew up taught to fear absolutely everything, and then single-handedly deciding to tackle layers of anxiety in grad school, this is a very well thought out process to address fears in a constructive way. Fantastic work!

[@aftabhussain4036]

I literally told my friend about my fear of driving yesterday. We have created a similar strategy almost feels like you just read my mind. p.s the first step is to openly accept and talk about a fear that you have, and not be ashamed of it.

[@debrafitchette3749]

Congratulations to you both on conquering your fears! I am 60 years old tomorrow and have never learned to swim. I refuse to live with this fear any longer! Thank you so much for your inspiration! ❤

[@viperjul]

I was crying watching this video as I have anxiety of driving and could deeply relate. Working and pushing through the fear, but it’s pretty challenging.

[@tennchann]

Hello, Mark. I am just a teenager trying to discover himself and your content is always helpful. I want you to know that all of your content is helping thousands and millions of people. How you communicate with people and how you show them to be better is totally amazing. I inspire to become like you. Please keep making this kind of contents. I will do my best to become a person that could do these things like you do while learning and enjoying life including with your content. Thank you for everything, you're amazing.

[@George_Snow]

Hey Mirza... YOU are amazing too... wish I had been like you when I was a teen... keep up the good work!

[@VivianValeriena]

Damn.. That's good for you! I'm no longer a teenager but if I were I'd still wish to be exposed to Mark's content just like you I'm happy for you! Keep going 💃🏻💃🏻

[@pushpaaguptaa]

The only way to conquer your fears is to face it!

[@ricklubbers1526]

Nope.

[@Pluralofvinylisvinyls]

😮

[@d3v46]

yeh no shit pushpa

[@saisiddhartha5375]

Taggede le

[@JaysonT1]

@@ricklubbers1526 Then stay afraid

[@conniema4218]

Damn why am I all tear up watching stranger hitting 120mph 🥺 good job girl

[@the_ab101]

"Do what you fear, and the death of fear is certain."

[@nethmiyuganjana2353]

My biggest fear is being a failure and being humiliated for not being able to perform well. I'm afraid to even apply for jobs because I feel like I know nothing and will be rejected, but my friends who know nothing have jobs. I know this is a form of fear I have to overcome. I want to put myself out there and allow myself to fail, to feel dumb. Thank you for this video. If you can, please make a video on how to be more social and ask for help from people. Thanks again. Much love from Sri Lanka. ❤️

[@heronoverdose]

As someone who struggles with driving myself I really appreciated this one, the trip at the end was great.

[@ananyamurali6963]

I struggled with this exact fear for over a year and it took so many tries and fails to find the most effective way to deal with it, you have no idea the impact you have on people’s lives, I can’t wait for your next video!

[@cygnusvideo]

The content you're putting up lately is the best stuff I've seen on this platform in a very long time. Can't wait to see what you have next

[@wagenna]

Agreed, Mark is definitely on a roll of great content lately!

[@georginenov]

Word! Way to go, Mark 👏

[@منذرعبدالهادي-ف2س]

This literally made my eyes sprinkle. This is the best content on KZbin EASILY!! Keep it up mark ❤️

[@loopkill]

Thank you for everything, Mark. You are the harsh hope and brutal positivity that world desperately needs right now. Much love and respect

[@obnoxious-cackle]

Mind is blown right now. just Clicked on this because I have a fear of driving and that’s the fear that you are directly addressing 😮

[@hgg324]

Amazing. I am actually in tears watching this for the second time. I am also afraid of driving. I drove with no problems for decades, then in my 40's the fear started. Both of these women did amazing! I need to face the fear, it is so limiting.

[@giulianos.1117]

I teared up multiple times watching this video, I have a strong traumas about driving and I litterally did things much much harder and more complex than willingly drive a stupid car, ALSO because of that fear. I ended up moving abroad in a place where I don't need a car, but I know I will need to face that fear eventually and I absolutely love and agree with the breakdown you offered us in this video

[@Selsmittenxo]

Which area are you in if you don't mind? O: and do you work remote?

[@jamesgerth4471]

You inspire me so much to achieve my goals. I'm gonna overcome my social anxiety whatever it takes!

[@WTFIWFYDB]

Ask 5 random cashiers “How is your day?”

[@levingerloff4313]

This guy is out there really changing lives. Love you content and your books.

[@roxycocksey]

I used to be really anxious about driving too so I can empathize with them. I didn’t get my drivers license till I was 19 and even then I refused to drive on the highway for about a year. So, I didn’t have the fear as extreme as them but it was definitely there. I only get anxious now when there’s someone else in the car with me because it makes me feel like I’m being judged which in turn causes me to make mistakes I normally wouldn’t make.

[@helenepro1093]

Totally agreed with the plan. I suffered from the same fear and bought myself a cute pink Fiat500 for enjoying the ride and faced so many smiles and nice comments. It really helped

[@alexy-lf]

Just amazing ! This is probably my favorite video on the entire platform ❤️. Please continue this format

[@TeddySheehan]

This is just crazy! Sometimes my heart beat so fast, yet I'm crying a little bit too because this was very heartwarming! 🙌

[@fil5657]

I was shocked when Angelika drove the ferrari. I cried for joy. I never had this experience by WATCHING A VIDEO ON KZbin I do hope i can beat my fears too, not sure how to start, but thabk you for this heartbreaking content

[@BrandonOConnell-te6dx]

Mark Manson i love how youre life and changed many other people I love whenever I see one of you're videos comeup on my feed because I know its not garbage its going to be like a self improvement video with the awesomeness of mrbeast

[@CottonCoins]

Dude I love his videos there so exiting ive only seen them for a bit now but I love these videos

[@DalleDC]

Having someone to just be there and be supportive while you face your fears is awesome.

[@ksnax]

Fear may never go away - and in many cases shouldn't, but confidence in handling the situation is critical to overcoming it's influence and anxiety. Making it fun is just a bonus.

[@carteryin-chen2411]

What you bring to this world is so awesome, Mark. The teachings you (perhaps unknowingly) gave me once upon a time eventually became the foundations of what I believe today, for that I am truly grateful. Finding myself in a pit of not quite despair, but also not what I would call a fun place that makes facing my fears easier - watching this video, hearing your voice, seeing the genuine looks of joy and relief on the faces of these girls, as if they'd just been released from a hundred years of suffering - eases the spirit and reminds me that there are some really cool human beings out there. I just thought you and the girls should know that. Really really well done Nora and Angelika, you both have my respect for what you've achieved, even more so, you have both bolstered my resolve in my own situation, thank you and take care of yourselves.

[@NaickKim]

I almost feel like you made this video specifically for me, because later today I am going volcano boarding down the slopes of a volcano in Nicaragua and I was freaking the f*** out just now because I am scared of heights and fast speeds. Opened KZbin to see this upload and man... I think you just saved me from my own brain ruining this whole experience for me :) still scared, but way less. Thanks Mark!

[@RehabScience]

Graded exposure is a strategy we use in the treatment of pain as well. Great content!

[@prakharpranav5643]

3:55 the look says it all

[@rajeshenghi7417]

I am also gonna overcome my fears! Thanks for this video, Mark ❣️

[@Jorgp314]

You got this!

[@saurabhdome]

Mark, All of your videos have “optimism” in common, one holds a lot of potential just by keeping hopes in anything and working towards achieving it. Thanks for making the videos though, it has a huge impact on my life. Do make videos on addition sometime, because I am addicted to ones which you make.

[@mlowe7245]

This was so cool!! Thank you, Mark. Congrats to Nora and Angelika. You did it!!

[@dificulttocure]

This is all nice and good, for superficial fears that are based on concrete material things, like spiders, driving or heights. But what if you have deep fears like loneliness or regret?

[@scottyrocket1490]

You and I are on the same page here: abandonment, betrayal, rejection. Fear of suffering, family, friends dying, becoming homeless, sick, losing all my money, fear of failure, life's regrets. Perhaps this type of work is not "fun video" worthy and is for the therapy sponsor he mentioned ;-)

[@The_Night_Phoenix]

This has to be one of your best truly inspiring to keep us all on the right path thank you so much 🎉 I've never had so much fun for past 3 years. I am grateful it only took me 30 to get out and have fun

[@alexrosca1988]

you are a good man, Mark, really inspiring content.

[@pranitmane]

Love your videos Mark.. I am struggling with social interactions, and i think i need more Exposure..

[@jennykin9721]

Same😖

[@evanm.jacobson1514]

This was worth watching! I learned a lot about facing fear. Thank you, Mark!

[@secondstar101]

I've been in therapy on and off since 2017, so no shade, but this was the first time I DIDN'T skip a better help sponsorship xD LOVED this content.

[@17Ezra]

Linkin Park always goes hard

[@AnujGupta-10]

I have a fear of talking, its the one of the hardest task for me to do. I wish I could have mentor like mark, Who would always pushes me throughout the journey ❤️

[@theotherway1639]

Thumbs up for cold showers. I love them now. They sucked at first, but they're a cool way to learn resilience while doing something anxiety producing. I try to do mindfulness while taking them. The after effect is usually a lot of good energy. Books like 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels and the Tao Te Ching are also helpful.

[@francisbaranski]

I am afraid that I will never make such a great self-development video as this one!

[@tuams]

I like this series. Not only you're helping people get over fears, you're also doing it in a way that is fun for you. Great combination!

[@Van00766]

Oh .❤I found my favorite person, mentor and favorite KZbinr ❤🎉🎉Thank you so much Mark

[@liamdoes8580]

This guy is the goat of self help. His books, videos etc. everything ive comsumed from this guy has helped me in some way He is a genius when it comes to self help

[@Mou._.Hamed20]

Truly this is the best video i watched for a long time ,Thanks Mark

[@taliagula]

Yooo give whoever is your video editor a serious raise. They are talented as hell! Also great content and great message. Hope to apply this in my life

[@vagabondslot-machine8832]

Angelika lost 200 pounds of fear right off her shoulders stepping out of that little prancing horse. Bravo, bravo, bravo!

[@willl5970]

Awesome! Worth a rewatch & note-taking. PS: The track car bit was the best ad in BetterHelp's entire marketing history.

[@Ali-Mhsn]

I'm so glad that I started self improvement during my teenage years than twenty years down the line. Thanks Mark! I'm also lucky to get you instead of falling into some idiot like Andrew Tate.

[@_mr.f3rnandez]

Maan, i always wanted a teacher like him

[@Patowtow]

12:42 Those reactions are so incredibly wholesome 😍

[@evilmonkgaming9825]

I need Mark Manson as my coach. He's like a Big bro we all needed once in life.😢

[@TalesOfTrillions]

It's not just about driving; it's about navigating life's challenges with a trusted co-pilot by your side. 🤝

[@davidnunez4974]

First time I don't want to skip the ad!

[@nAIT369]

What if I am scared of life?, then would dying make me fearless 😂

[@rehaansh618]

Bro i am scared of doing anything! Can't even die😂

[@JOSClaudess]

If you are scared of life your fear is to live

[@nAIT369]

@@JOSClaudess man you're right , you pointed out the stupidity of this sentence.

[@mearetom]

Educating and helping at same time! Great job Mason, you remind me to just not care.

[@frankohrabar5916]

This is so important to see. The world needs more of videos like this!

[@KiNNiK69]

This video deserves more attention 🔥🐐 I mean the structure the information the improvement of people’s lives and yet it’s entertaining One of the best videos I have seen this year

[@tanvimisale]

Hey , mark i really wanted to say thank you. From my heart thank you so much . For making this video a lot of people talk about exposure therapy but the way you showed it really amezing it really helped me and will help me in future too . So i am afraid of animal and i was so afraid of cats so i never used go near them even though i liked them . But one day we found a black cat on our door so my father kept that cat at house. I liked that cat too but i was so afraid of him when that cat was with me home alone i used lock him in another room And when that cat used come near me i used scream . Everyone also got bother because of me i used to scream so loud And that cat was so small it was baby boy cat he also got afraid because of me . so i decided i will overcome my fear of cat and two month ago i saw your video of exposure therapy just as you slowely try to overcame theire fear i tried the same . first i started sitting in one room with that cat then i got comgortable even at starting it was scary for me . Second i tried to play with that cat i started to play with cat just simply trowing ball at his side then i liked playing with him then last step i did was i stared showing affection to that cat by patting his head and showed affection by thouch honestly it took me a month to overcome my fear and that cat also bited me but still i started loving that cat i started caring for cat like a parent and that cat even started to trust me. he came and sat on my lap and slept And it was such lovely experience of petting a cat . Now just some days ago he died but he is forever a special angel for me . Thank you so much because of you i got the experience of petting a cat and over came my fear of cat.🤍

[@pradeeprajvincent]

Mark Manson has figured out KZbin! Good writing + Good Money + Good Story + Good team = Bangers! That's how you Mr.Beast the shit out of a self-help video!

[@Prashubhau-l1j]

How can you manage I mean that you read comments taking care an accountable person and most important that researching ❤

[@thibaultwalter4889]

Awesome video, self improvement in action backed up with theory 👌🏻 love it thanks mark !

[@KobeyBlock]

Best ad read ever

[@packerweeb2611]

Greatest ad read I’ve ever seen

[@rail7646]

very fun video to watch, I was genuinely happy for them with a few takeaways for myself as well

[@flavioptferreira]

12:43 Best ad placement ever!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@TheChannelofOrange]

You keep quoting Will Smith. You should coach him on relationships….

[@Tsunamimiko]

My fear of becoming a failure to my family has made college so hard for me. I’m too scared to even try and see what’s on the other side even though everyone believes in me.

[@darrylday30]

Absolutely Mark’s best video yet.

[@yfreestyle2179]

this video is actually 100/10 for real 💯🔥

[@SophiaAphrodite]

This is inspiring for me too. I LOVE going fast in a car. My son has a Tesla and that was neck breaking acceleration and was intoxicating.

[@quendelf]

As someone with agoraphobia… the thing is we need support from other people to help face our fears. And sadly, many of us don’t have access to that.

[@fourthdinner]

Quite simply the best sponsor segment on KZbin ever

[@lakshana642]

Woah, I think I now know to fight all of my fears. Thanks Mark.

[@MonikaDaddarwal]

Thank you for existing, Mark. You are SUCH A gift!(saying that in general) :))) ❤ Yet to watch this one!) I know I'm gonna get my answers coz it's your video!)

[@dreworatory1927]

My mirror neurons and I are balling our eyes out watching this 😂😭 new favorite video!!

[@sb4386]

I just want this man in my life for my fear exploser journey,

[@auntyshakira747]

I have a friend who had never got her driver's license. In her early forties she finally did it and now over a decade later drives all over the place, goes on regular road trips. I could of got my license at 15 years old, but mucked around and got it at 17 years old, when I had to because I got a job and my mum got annoyed at having to take me to work😊

[@phillipduplessis6425]

Mark you and your team produce such good videos. Way better than those big brand productions!!!

[@ЛюбовьКим-с1т]

The quality of your videos is becoming better❤

[@livestock9722]

I had the fear I would waste my time watching this. I found the joy on the other side.

[@pushkarjadhav9585]

Now I am scared of Mark 💀😂

[@stefano.angeloni]

Friendship and fun are the key. Thank you Mark for these amazing movies!

[@russvanderwiel8945]

Great video. I think this is why creating "safe spaces", while possibly well intentioned, can be destructive to mental health and resiliency. We are teaching people that if anything makes them uncomfortable, the problem is external to them.

[@jakobe234]

Currently trying to re-learn how to swim being very anxious in the water and i could definitely relate to the anxiety that these women were feeling but im also already noticing how good i feel about myself after every session Love this content!

[@mohammadvafakish7963]

the part where you started talking about the sponser was so funny 😂

[@shadowsnake5034]

This is very insightful and fun to watch content...Thank you Mark ❤️

[@kriamt27]

Great video! It was nice to see everyone face their fears through fun activities

[@norasimon9018]

And you will definitely beat me! 😂

[@johncstory]

I needed this at the exact time right now

[@tudorpavel4681]

This is amazing! This is the type of content that is gonna help us change in a positive way, keep it up!

[@ivynightfall6543]

Genius integration, I've watched it 5 times already

[@JaysonT1]

You had me up to number 6...which is my fear. Lol

[@EstudioLatinoMX]

I even took notes.