Fat Shaming vs. Skinny Shaming

[@notevenemily]

hi everyone!! hope you enjoyed the video. and even if you don’t watch the whole thing (hopefully you do) at the end of the day, don’t make comments about people’s weight!! skinny or fat, people can be healthy and happy in either direction, and don’t need to be ridiculed for the way they look. have a good day guys!!

[@emmy1492]

yet again, another amazing video. love you!!

[@seez6963]

Oh, yes, yes.

[@ReoJustChillin]

Since u did a video shows how hard fat ppl deal with what u think of a video shows what skinny ppl deal with too? Cause The whole video is just “fat ppl have it tough but the skinny ppl? Naah they’re fine they doesn’t deal with self image like fat ppl do”.. and it’s so wrong, the video sport the image that skinny ppl doesn’t get picked on or deal with health issues and the only problem for them is the size... u might not care but I really got hurt watching my favorite KZbinr bash the things ppl like me deal with saying it’s not painful like the other people..this is not fair this is really not fair

[@notevenemily]

@@ReoJustChillin honestly i felt that i was pretty fair and mentioned both sides, i just made the point that fat shaming is more significant in our society. i don’t think that skinny shaming is NOT a problem, because it is and i mentioned that i have been through it before. been called anorexic, been told i need to gain weight and i don’t look healthy, etc. it’s made me insecure in certain ways and many other im sure, so it definitely is an issue. but we can’t disregard the inequity between the perception of skinniness vs fatness. generally being skinny is more desirable than being fat, and that is quite apparent in many ways. however at the end of the day, we generally shouldn’t be making derogatory comments about anybody no matter their size.

[@ReoJustChillin]

@@notevenemily skinny isn’t more desirable 🙃

[@shinkurasha8061]

The other body image issue that's often not talked about is muscular female/feminine bodies. I mean the jacked kind, muscle fiber popping out and being beefy kind. For some reason muscle is suddenly equal to erasing femininity when it really isn't... (Ex: that one buff lady in Encanto) Like sir, I'm not gonna start hating pink just because I want a six pack. I'm gonna love pink AND have a six pack. For my own personal reasons. Edit: I have been informed her name is Luisa! My apologies, I never got to watch it. Only saw the opinions on a news article about how they don't like how jacked she is lmao

[@It_is_Okay_to_be_Sad]

Yup... I love your comment ✨

[@namjoonie936]

so true people are weirdly rude about jacked woman dressing pretty n soft.

[@nicolnoort9623]

Agreed

[@heywhat6676]

yepp, you can buff and strong and still call it feminine as hell. I hate it when they just call it masc like, that sounds painfully limiting

[@JustJoe10]

This just reminds me of the drama about Abby from tlou

[@charlieisvibin1377]

as someone who developed an eating disorder based off of negative comments on my weight everything you said is so true. i’m now smaller due to my ed but not by any means underweight. however my family now skinny shames me and that’s just uncomfy. fat shaming made me want to die and skinny shaming just makes me uncomfy. that’s the difference and you portrayed that great. edit: i know i can’t speak on everyone’s experiences, this is just how i feel. there are a lot of people who have had the same experience as me and a lot of people who haven’t. body shaming is never a good thing and it has negative impacts on everyone. i am not trying to downplay anybody else’s experience however i do think that fat shaming has extremely harmful impacts on the physical and mental well-being of a lot of people. skinny shaming also has detrimental impacts to the mental well-being of tons of people but i have never heard of a skinny person who was skinny shamed into an eating disorder. i know plenty of people including myself who have been fat shamed into an eating disorder. i’m sorry if that upsets people, like i said body shaming is never good and this is not a competition of who has it worse.

[@yaabadabadoo88]

God I have never related to a comment so much before..I hope you're doing better now though and you're perfect just the way you are, don't listen to what anyone else tells you, you amazing human!

[@andromeda_2410]

Omg literally same and it fucking sucks that even now that I'm skinny i still feel inadequate and whenever i tell my family members that y'all are the reason why I'm the way i am they just laugh it off and say "suck it up it's not that big of a deal"

[@larsswig912]

I'm skinny and always have been. when i used to still tie my self worth to how i looked, skinny shaming did make me want to die. i hated how i looked, hated the protruding bones, hated the visible ribcage, hated the thin arms, hated the collarbones. i thought i looked disgusting. to me, i did look disgusting. my looks haven't changed much because of health issues, but my mindset sure has.

[@kawaiiblossom3117]

It was the opposite for me 💀 ( it wasn’t because I wasn’t eating food I could literally eat a entire bag of chips & gained no weight back then)

[@charlieisvibin1377]

@@larsswig912 i’m sorry you’ve had that experience. body shaming of any kind is really shitty and it always has negative effects on people. i’m glad your mindset has changed about it tho! you are perfect the way you are!

[@kovers1536]

i tried really hard to lose weight in 2020; my family skinny shamed me and told me to eat more i realized i was unhappy and couldnt live without sweets, so i started eating my favorite foods again as school started last year. ive gained weight, and now my family fat shames me for me, fat shaming hurts more, but both types are just so wrong. our society just needs to start accepting women for who they are

[@paigeyaasss]

What a horrible family

[@nayaisisisisismi]

I hope you're okay now. To be honest, its the opposite for me.. but im sure we both can sympathize that it just doesn't feel good no matter what side you are on. You got this bozz

[@OfficialButtKissers]

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I'm sorry to hear that, I hope it's gotten better

[@MrEvldreamr]

You have no backbone. Grow a backbone and these things wont be an issue.

[@hiepd1998]

Besides bringing more awareness towards body shaming for both skinny and fat people, the ACTING is phenomenal. The tears? EMOTIONAL DAMAGE. Who needs bosom and butts when your jawline can cut through these haters

[@loops8274]

You don't even need a jawline if you have knives. This movement is inclusive of soft jaws 💪lol

[@heather2701]

@@loops8274 lmaooo thank you I feel appreciated

[@thesleepydot]

the acting IS amazing! i was really impressed at how much emotion she showed

[@thesleepydot]

@@loops8274 appreciated :)

[@monsterjambrony]

I agree!

[@aurabenton4030]

I was skinny shamed from 2nd grade to age 24. The comments were so mean and degrading, but it's different from the opposite scenario. It's odd that I had skinnier girls and women tell me that I was "too skinny," especially when I had a college classmate whom had an eating disorder tell me I looked "dead." I couldn't go anywhere without feeling awkward that I was triggering others, but I had to accept that I am happy where I am, especially when I gained weight in recent years. Now I'm being told to "slow down" my eating even though I never changed my diet once. Be happy where you are in life. You are on your own journey, not theirs. My body just recently decided to gain weight so I'm happy to my new me on MY terms and conditions.

[@Jamangel]

!!!! Yess

[@katlover7]

Honestly they were probably saying that out of spite or projecting their own insecurities. I'm glad you're doing better now and I hope your confidence can grow even more from now on!

[@memecharis]

It’s difficult bc sometimes people with EDs can say things like that bc they’re worried about you and are afraid you’ll go down the same path as them. But words can hurt, no matter the intent. No one should have to feel wrong for existing in their own body, I’m sorry you’ve been made to feel that way for so long. You’re an incredibly strong person and I’m so glad you’re here. You’ve got this!

[@flowerellarts]

And people will think they're complimenting a skinny person by, for example, comparing weight or commenting on what they eat. When I was younger, girls in my class would compare waist and breast sizes with each other, and it wasn't uncommon that I got a "lucky you" whenever such a scenario occurred, because I was really skinny. I thought they were real compliments and that I was actually lucky, but I've always struggled with putting on weight. Now those comments really hit me hard. Thankfully, I've never been shamed for my body, but that also makes me fear that people will invalidate my experience because it's not "as bad" as someone elses.

[@cl-jp3uv]

@@flowerellarts ​ yeah I think skinny shaming is often ignored because “being skinny is a good thing”. I do agree with Emily in that fat shaming is worse but I think part of the reason for that is cuz being skinny isn’t seen as a bad thing or insulting. There are people who wouldn’t dare call another person fat cuz “body shaming is messed up” but have no problem talking abt how boney I am as if it’s a compliment

[@themilkman7986]

As a fat person, this is a really well put together video. The way you portrayed the media's portrayal of fat characters was really accurate. It's always bugged me how the fat character is made out to be a big joke. All in all this was another great video from you, the perfect balance of seriousness and comedy. Great video, keep up the good work! Love ya! :),

[@akasha6740]

Why dont you lose weight if you fat instead of acting like your oppressed

[@alicevicariously2396]

THANK YOU 🙌🏽 me personally ive never been fat but as a child it always frustrated/confused me when there was a fat person in movies and shows and they were just used for fat shaming jokes and only seen as “being fat” and not a real person. And i always thought to myself “how do these ppl feel being cast just to be made fun of for their body”

[@bean4435]

I was never fat growing up. but It really pissed me off when such great actors and actresses were reduced to their weight, I have so much respect and genuinely enjoy their acting. and it took them to lose weight to gain respect(Melissa McCarthy, Rebel Wilson, Jonah Hill, Adele). I have never found that type of content funny, just painful. seems like grade school humour to me. I love Melissa McCarthy tho, the best but her fat jokes nope....

[@TT35109]

Maybe the media presumes that people who are perceived to be fat have to make up for it in the form of being funny to be a “loveable character”. Most people who are sad but fat are looked down on instead of a happy one because it strikes people as an optimistic person who may have just been given a bad hand in life with a certain illness that keeps them at a heavier weight.

[@bean4435]

@@ItsMeBarnaby that can be applied to any scenario. as a victim of bullying even though I wasn't fat, just weird. it was definitely coz I didn't have any self love or stand up for myself. but that doesn't justify their actions. I can't watch any show or movie in a school setting coz it brings back traumatic memories. being nice doesn't take much effort, but it's done to put others down.

[@yee8332]

Skinny shaming is a part of toxic masculinity amongst men, with the whole big strong tough man complex. As thinness is expected for women, it's seen as feminine or weak for a man to be thin. In misogynistic groups the skinny shaming is worse than fat shaming for men.

[@pauldesert2541]

I agree. The skinny level in women is equal to being muscular in men. it fucking sucks.

[@BrozBeforeHoez]

I respectfully disagree, skinny shaming has zero correlation with masculinity. In the body positivity movement, fat women put down skinny women to make themselves feel better. Example: Meghan Trainor's song All About That Bass calls them "stick-figure silicone Barbie dolls" and "skinny bitches." Feminists need to hold these women accountable, instead of blaming men and toxic masculinity.

[@pauldesert2541]

@@BrozBeforeHoez i think they're talking specifically about skinny shaming in men. and as a skinny guy, I think skinny-shaming towards men has equal gravity with fat-shaming because if you're a skinny guy, you're perceived as weak and unattractive compared to more muscular counterparts. so this could still be seen as a purely macho standard which is not straying far to levels of toxic masculinity. meanwhile, body shaming in women could still be attributed to misogyny because we put so much pressure in women to look like this and like that.

[@MerVolteR]

Its nice that someone mentioned it. I would also add that, as a skinny guy, its even worse hearing it from the opposite gender, hell, I've been told some stuff that wasn't supposed to be mocking from the girls i liked, and i wish i could forget that forever

[@ketokeko]

@@BrozBeforeHoez why do ppl always think we're blaming men for everything, and want to put women against each other? wouldn't it best to blame both? lmfao

[@itsmyliahbb12]

"why be rude when you can just be quiet." -Emily 2022 such wise words

[@OnyinyeOfunwa]

If only my classmates could hear this😪🙄 they skinny shame me all the time btw and it’s so annoying at this point-

[@twinq7362]

as a guy with a very curvy body, I noticed I tended to get comments implying I'm not a "real man" quite often. For years my body image messed with my masculinity and my confidence in my identity until I finally realized that my body didn't have to reflect who I was the way society suggests bodies do. Everyone's bodies are beautiful and unique, but they are not the most important part of people's identity and character.

[@Made_on_marzzz]

Felt this

[@nivedhprem]

I completely agree with you,... also btw love ur username lol

[@txtmoa6136]

Curvy body? Damn I’m jealous I’m a stick :(.

[@donpax8959]

​@@txtmoa6136 I'm a guy who's been a stick his whole life and I disliked it a bit in the past, but I completely embraced the beauty of my body recently after I saw Timothée Chalamet :)

[@aqvanii]

Im a short, curvy guy Its like hell for me HAHAHA so i just chose to crossdress to piss other people off

[@GigiGeez]

Honestly body shaming is just fucked in general. I definitely don't think skinny shaming has the same effect, but I hate when men especially try to put skinny girls down just to boost a chubby girl's confidence, like? Pitting women against each ain't cute boo.

[@themilkman7986]

Exactly! As a fat person who is afab and looks like it at the moment, if I were to experience that I would be infuriated, not feeling complimented.

[@kikilapoop4278]

I've had that happen but in reverse, it was appalling

[@Jamangel]

!!

[@shinemuziya]

I agree with you but at the same time I feel as society as people we find it hard to “believe” when a man “prefers” a “chubby” woman over a “skinny” woman

[@greynotchristian]

of course someone had to go iNgENeRaL

[@Tito_Silva]

Watching Emily is like talking to a good friend: we could talk about anything, deep or not and we could still learn from each other

[@sadwasdead5065]

A stock character that furthers the "fat people are stupid" stereotype Is the stupid dad, for example: Peter Griffin, Homer Simpson, daddy Pig. Their weight is often the punchline of the jokes.

[@kawaiiamarii2240]

Also Richard, from The Amazing World of Gumball

[@zaddyfaye6880]

@@kawaiiamarii2240 id say richard is a little-more complex - more often-than-not his stupidity is the punchline, and his stupidity is mostly-disconnected from his weight. a big factor as to why he is the weight he is (and why he's so emotionally and intellectually-stunted) is due to the intense-coddling and fear-mongering he dealt w as a child. both his stupidity, and his weight, are more a-result-of his upbringing; richard is a subversion of the "stupid, overweight father" trope, but (when analysing his character) he isnt the greatest-example of it

[@boomerangswingsbothways]

Daddy pig isn’t stupid though. I HATE that most of the jokes on daddy pig is just,”haha, my daddy is *obese* !!!” like he is an awesome dad. He participates in his kids’ school projects and even ran to fund the charity for a new roof after the school’s roof got messed up. He even teaches his kids about his job as a structural engineer. The man even enthusiastically talks about cement and is respected by a king because of his work ! When I used to watch the show he was my favorite character. But sure, Peppa your daddy has a big tummy. Like there was a Father’s Day episode and it immediately starts off with mommy pig saying that it wasn’t a real day. Most of the jokes in the show on him is just how he overestimates his abilities and seems incompetent but luckily he completes the task. I literally don’t know anything about mommy pig but there’s sooo much daddy bashing :/

[@rosesrose4364]

daddy pig is not stupid he is literally a software engineer and a architect

[@Chronicle_MV]

He's not a dad but Patrick Star maybe?

[@chrism2081]

I think the difference really is systemic. People who deal with skinny shaming generally have stories about being made fun of by family/friends, while with fat people suddenly every stranger on the street could potentially make your health their business. I was super overweight in high school, and I had too many instances to count where I went out to the mall with friends, ordered the same meal as them, and got stared at in disgust by strangers at the tables next to me, or when I picked up my order. I would also occasionally get unsolicited "advice" from strangers at restaurants, school, even the gym. At first I just stopped eating in public to mitigate the stares, and I'd go hungry after school for hours while watching my friends eat. Then I stopped going out in general and mostly tried to stay home, hid in baggy clothing, etc, to try and make myself less approachable. Not to mention, as others have said, medical discrimination is a huge issue for fat people. I picked up that I had been severely depressed for years, went to the doctor about it. Gave all the symptoms of depression that I'd had for 8 years untreated, and I also had undiagnosed/untreated asthma that no one ever bothered checking me for. Two different doctors in a row told me I was just out of shape, to exercise more, lose weight and that would fix it. Something I literally couldn't do with depression psychomotor impairment and (unbeknownst to me at the time) asthma. The doctors didn't do any checks, didn't look into my case at all, just wrote me off because of my weight. Luckily I found a good doctor the third time around and gave me antidepressants, and later I researched the symptoms myself and went to a lung doctor for asthma, got everything taken care of and lost weight. When you're fat, you basically have to become your own doctor, because doctors are suddenly extremely inept and won't offer any advice beyond lose weight. Won't look at root causes for anything. I basically had to diagnose myself, and go to doctors until someone believed me enough to do tests. All because I was fat. All body shaming is terrible. But, there is a certain kind of way society looks at you when you're fat, that makes you feel like your existence is worthless, like you're a disgusting thing to have around and a waste of space, that skinny people just don't have to deal with. Fat people also, as you said, get stereotyped as lazy, stupid, smelly-- fat becomes a synonym for all those things in our media and permeates every aspect of society.

[@MrEvldreamr]

“Medical discrimination”? You mean when a doctor tells you to lose weight bc its healthy? You probably have depression due to your weight. Get exercise and youll feel better

[@itscc2004]

In a way this does resonate with me! I’m chronically ill and all of my pain is blamed on my spinal fusion that happened two years ago. I don’t get taken seriously by medical professionals because I look healthy. They didn’t bother to do ultrasounds or anything else besides a urinalysis and blood test, when a lot of things don’t even appear on those tests. I was told to get physical therapy and the pain would go away, but I don’t have the time or money or transportation to even do physical therapy. I’m rapidly losing weight when I try to gain it and I feel awful about myself and my situation since my illnesses keep me from attending my college classes. I’m always told “you’re perfectly fine” or “the pain is because of your back” when in reality, it might actually be something worse. My family has a long history of kidney issues and cancer yet they won’t check or do an ultrasound to actually figure out what’s going on. Last night I had very sharp pain radiating from my kidney area on both sides and I genuinely couldn’t move. I also have asthma and when I put in for an inhaler, the request is never filled, so I have to rely on the inhaler I had when I got walking pneumonia. When that runs out, I will be screwed. I’m anorexic and have been dealing with body dysmorphia lately because of it. I hate the idea that being skinny is healthy when I’m literally struggling to stay alive because my relationship with food is so bad. Not to mention the POTS and Ehlers-Danlos that keep getting worse and worse but I’m ignored because the urinalysis and blood tests came back normal. I wish medical professionals would take people seriously no matter what weight they are. It’s literally their job to care for people no matter what and I hate that they think weight is the tell all and don’t look further into what’s causing the pain. It sucks that it’s “oh it’s just the extra weight” and “oh you’re skinny so you’re healthy” is always thrown around. Why can’t medical professionals just care for us no matter what weight we are? Skinny doesn’t always equal healthy and more weight doesn’t always mean someone is unhealthy. I hate people who blame someone’s size for the way they are. I completely resonate with your post as someone whose anorexia is getting worse day by day along with my other conditions. It also pisses me off when medical professionals say it’s just one of my other illnesses, as if that’s the tell all. Like no, I know something is wrong with my body, why does it matter if I’m chronically ill? I’m sorry for being a yapologist for a second and I hope my comment appears cause I’ve been having issues lately with KZbin not showing my comments even though nothing I say is against TOS. I wish you all the luck in the world and don’t let people shame you for the way you are or how much you weigh. At the end of the day, we’re all flesh sacks with consciousness and shouldn’t be judging someone based off of their weight, medical conditions, or anything!

[@FromThanatosToSol]

I think the problem is that the comparison is lopsided from the get go. Skinny shaming is somthing that happens mostly on a personal level. Fat shaming is something that often happens on a systematic level as well, from cultural norms of beauty / notions of aesthetics to medical discrimination.

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

Can you explain the medical desceimination to me? I don't think I've heard that. I know some medical procedures (specifically involving anesthetics) can be dangerous to perform on overweight people, and they're often advised to lose weight before they can have surgery, but I don't about it besides that

[@el972]

@@gwendolynrobinson3900 fat people are denied health care to put as simple as that, most of the times the doctor will blame whatever pain and discomfort of a fat patient in their fatness and will not even try to examine them to know if something’s wrong, also happens a lot in the regards of diagnosis of eating disorders most doctors will not believe a fat person can be anorexic or bulimic, even in anemia, which isn’t an eating disorders is just lack of vitamin which makes you don’t have enough healthy red blood cells to transport oxygen, cases they’ll refuse to believe that a fat person could have that

[@Eram93]

Break the toxic beauty standards

[@ClamdestineRendezvous]

Wdym? I've been skinny shamed constantly by cultural norms (90lb weakling trope, never finding clothes that are my size, etc.), and my doctors have always belittled and not taken my issues seriously due to my weight. I don't know where people get this idea from.

[@Ange.revolte]

​@@gwendolynrobinson3900Very often, when a fat person goes to see a doctor for a health problem, the doctor will systematically tell them to lose weight, even though their weight has no relation to the health problem in question. This has happened particularly among fat people who ended up discovering cancer.

[@georgialilly7467]

(Apologies in advance for how long this comment is probably gonna be) This is just my opinion based on my own personal experiences and witnessing the experiences of those around me.. When I was in high school, I had an overweight gf and it broke my heart to see the way she teared up looking at herself in even tge most modest of bathing suits.. I also had an anorexic best friend. I saw the horrible, debilitating psychological and physical effects fat phobia has on people in society. At the same time,, I was very skinny in hs and at the time presented as male, and was consistently mocked and bullied for how anorexic I looked. I was not, though eventually I would be after later being mocked for gaining a lot of weight from my anyi-psychotics. Both are emotionally damaging. We have a tendency to compare struggles in certain areas, as if we have to chose one or the other to care about or erroneously declare that they're both as damaging. Body shaming as a whole is gross, and we need to stop ALL of it, because everyone has the right to feel just as comfortable in their own skin as everyone else.

[@nadastic]

exactly!!

[@iamaroseXI]

I always feel like comparing the 2 is damaging to both sides. As it would possibly discourage people from talking about their experiences. As someone who's been visibly underweight my whole life, (you can see the bones in some parts of my body) I remember very well how alienated I felt as a child because the kids in my class would always point out how "skinny" I was. And it wasn't in a nice way, the looks on their faces and their words made me feel like a ugly scary monster. They made it seem as though their bodies were "normal" and mine wasn't, but the thing is this is just the way I was born. According to any doctor I've ever been to I am completely healthy. I think we should know about each others experiences, fat shaming or skinny shaming, because it proves that society will be cruel and judgemental of your body regardless of size or weight. I suffer from body dysmorhpia these days and personally it does help sometimes to realise that no matter what size I would be people would have shit to say about it. (To be clear I am not trying to say that my experience is just as bad or worse than that of those who are fat-shamed, I just don't want anyone to think that losing weight or gaining weight will fix other people's problems with your body. People will always have something to say, and you shouldn't change yourself based on those words.)

[@user-th7lu2yf7n]

@@iamaroseXI STRONGLY AGREED

[@pernoninnoobs3872]

@@iamaroseXI Thank you for sharing! That resonated with me because to this day I get triggered when someone calls another person scrawny because it upset me a lot when I got called that as a kid. Everyone deserves to feel seen and heard for their stories too. Thank you for pointing that out!

[@darksharkk]

well said, you spoke exactly what i was thinking!!

[@minnowpool5419]

since skinny shaming isn't known as much as fat shaming, the people who skinny shame don't think they're doing anything wrong

[@XxShilohxX543]

EXACTLY!!

[@cartmansfatass23]

THIS

[@MillyThe_Rat]

Exactly, whenever someone says my insecurities arent valid bc i'm skinny, they genually think i'm being stupid and shit

[@Idklol2866]

Exactly people always make fun of me for being skinny but if I tell someone else how insecure it makes me feel they laugh and say “ fat shaming is sooo much worse “ or “ you should be grateful your skinny “

[@animangle]

recently my best friend told me to develop an eating disorder cause i need curves. i told him it was wrong, my other best friend said that's an awful thing to say but this guy just stood by what he said proudly. i hate that there are other people suffering this (also i actually weigh a really healthy amount, i have muscle, i just don't have a chest)

[@fai1714]

As someone who is from South Asian culture, skinny shaming is so common from elders or 'aunties' with their constant and STUPID questions such as 'Don't you eat?' or just anything in general that is to do with skinny = not eating anything. Personally, I have experienced it little bit but not as much compared to my sisters but it most certainly feels frustrating when you can see the visible uncomfy look on their faces.

[@notevenemily]

my grandparents also always say i’m too skinny and i need to eat more!! it’s been like that for years honestly haha 😭😭

[@fai1714]

@@notevenemily YES EXACTLY THAT 😭😭 when will they ever learn

[@Thatprettygirl_01]

"When you can see the visible uncomfy look on their faces" Exactly 😭 recently I met some friends and relatives again but their look on face was so irritable and one told me that my looks got bad, not pretty like before..like how can say this in front of me:|

[@aynmwa]

same,everyone keeps telling me I’m anorexic or do I have a Ed and it’s just annoying and makes me feel weird/

[@theshermantanker7043]

That's just typical family banter, chin up, it's harmless. I also got called skinny lots of times by relatives growing up, didn't really bother me at all (Yes, I am a smallish Eurasian guy, who was born and raised in Asia as well)

[@iwannareadforever8185]

WEIGHT DOES NOT EQUAL HEALTH!!! Fat shaming is a big problem. I personal have only expirenced skinny shaming were people judged me for dieting and go “oH BuT yOuR sO SkInY” I watched my relatives lose weight. I was fine with how they looked before but ultimately i would say their lives improved because losing all that weight lead to better health and quality of life. But just because somone is skinny (like me) does not mean they are healthy. I have type 1 diabetes (and no it’s not caused by eating to many sweets and cured by pills) and I need to know the carbs in my food to control my blood glucose. I have had waitresses at restaurants when I ask for the nutritional facts for the food tell me not to worry about my weight because I am young and skinny.I have had people tell me when I am working out to lower blood glucose (cause it’s cheaper than insulin) tell me that I am so skinny that I don’t need to come in. These people don’t know my health needs and it’s none of their business. I know it’s not the worst thing to deal with and being overweight comes with a lot of health problems that are a lot more visable and people tend to judge you a lot more. I am just letting of some steam. the moral of the story a person can have fat and be healthy and somone with chronic health issues can be a skinny minnie thankyou for putting up with my rant.

[@ddjsoyenby]

health is more complex than "fat body bad skinny body good" i've lost a lot of weight from when i was overweight, but i still appear fat.

[@sophisticatedPJs]

Something a ton of people don't even consider is that the studies done on the so-called health repercussions of being "overweight" (I prefer just being called fat honestly)... Are all affected by bias. If someone goes into a study with the expectation that fat people are less healthy than skinny people, or if doctors don't bother to even check for certain issues in thin people but do so consistently with fat people, *the results will be skewed*. I'm a firm believer in science... But this is just bad science. You can't let your preconceived ideas affect your research, that's outright dangerous and a good way to spread misinformation. No one wants to acknowledge it though because the diet industry is too profitable to let go of. It's built on keeping people insecure.

[@feebzcheez]

i agree. i'm a really skinny person, but that's only because of my fast metabolism genes. i don't exactly pay a lot of attention to how healthy the food i eat is. so i'd say i'd be much bigger if it weren't for my genetics.

[@theshermantanker7043]

It does..? You have to eliminate all other potential factors first to get to the underlying cause, and being too overweight is one of those potential issues. Obviously if a doctor is always dismissing everything as a weight issue without looking further that doctor's a jackass, but as someone who has gone through a course in Biology this is 100% a part of the diagnostic process, and is not up for debate

[@staskozak8118]

not equal but correlate

[@sailersun1729]

I will say that I have been bullied before for being “too skinny” I was called names like I was called a skeleton, I was told to eat more and constantly asked why I don’t eat but I do. It crushed my self image and I hated the way I looked. I felt more suicidal and even started hurting myself. I feel like body shaming over all is bad both ways. They are both valid and should be stopped.

[@ayo3181]

I usually get fat shamed while my brother gets skinny shamed by my parents. I'd say for every 10 jokes/insults/critiques about my weight, my brother gets 1 about his.

[@Man-wolf-]

Tbh its not just insults either, its things like clothes , chairs , ect ect bein made for skinny people in mind not fat people

[@hwyeb4656]

Same tho literally

[@kaga.mine.]

@@Man-wolf- I'm so sorry that the world caters to healthy bodies. That's so tragic for you. It's not like your weight is a thing you can actively control 99.9% of the time. That would be absurd, how dare society expect you to eat the same amount of calories as you burn. Sarcasm aside, if you can't fit into a chair and are breaking people's furniture, that's a you problem. At that point you either get healthy and lose weight, or shut up and stop complaining.

[@andreabedford717]

@@kaga.mine. As a person who used to be fat (due to health issues and medicine), I absolutely agree with you. Sometimes, instead of just complaining, you have to do the hard work for something in your life.

[@Man-wolf-]

@@kaga.mine. funny of you to assume im obease when im litrealy just chubby and barly eat anything but thanks Many skinny people arent healthy either, if you truly cared about health youd mock skinny people who eat nothing but mcdonalds too yet you dont, you only want to degrade fat people so you look better

[@Kim-dl2uk]

For women, both in the case of fat shaming and skinny shaming people act like something is wrong with you, which is hurtful. However, when you're "too skinny" people act concerned, like you need help. When you're "too fat" people act like you're disgusting and completely worthless. Both are harmful but it's clear to me which one is worse.

[@whiteheartsr]

WHY DO U Y'ALL COMPARE TRAUMA , I have been told my whole life that "oh ur so skinny u can't do anything ur pretty much useless lol" and then be like why are u so dramatic it's not like I am fat shaming u or smtg

[@kaga.mine.]

It literally depends on the person and all shaming is bad. No need to compare you're just making everyone feel worse. You make skinny people feel like their experiences are invalid because others have it worse, and you make fat people feel like they are worse than everyone else because they get more hate. Just stop?

[@Kim-dl2uk]

@@kaga.mine. I literally say they're both bad. It's meant to be a general statement

[@kaga.mine.]

@@Kim-dl2uk you also said "it's clear to me which one is worse". Even if you've experienced both yourself you don't represent everyone's feelings. Personally, nobody cared when I was overweight, but when I was at a healthy weight I got a multitude of unwelcome, rude comments, some calling me anorexic, go eat, too skinny (one kid in my school called me slenderwoman a couple years back which was kinda weird), boney, malnourished, etc. neither is more harmful, when I did get any sort of comment when I was larger it did hurt, though it was rare for someone to say something. It's just insulting to both sides to compare them so just...don't? I'm sure fat people have gotten a lot more insults than I did when I was a larger size, and I recognize that they probably have a worse experience with fat shaming than me. It doesn't mean fat shaming is universally worse, like you are implying. It just means they weren't skinny shamed and I wasn't fat shamed.

[@Kim-dl2uk]

@@kaga.mine. I still meant it in general. I think fat shaming in general is worse than skinny shaming, but I think they're both bad and I'm sorry that happened to you.

[@QueenSiv]

Controversial take: body shaming is bad

[@astryd_mur]

i totally agree with this. i would also like to mention that some may be bigger not just because of what they eat or lack of exercise, it could just genetics (which they can't handle). i don't understand body shaming at all, its such a stupid thing.

[@mlorpf]

True. Also, eating a lot or not exercising can be because of trauma, disability or mental illness (eating a lot to cope with pain or anxiety).

[@astryd_mur]

@@mlorpf yeah, that's another good point

[@ketokeko]

@@mlorpf yeah, i can tell u even looking for exercising videos w depression felt like a task (at least in my experience)

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

yeah i agree. i think my metabolism is really bad, because my brother eats a lot worse than me (no offense to him lol) but he's not overweight while I am. we're about as active as each other too. it's weird, and it makes me feel horrible knowing that he isn't overweight while i am. it makes me want to eat even less thanI already do

[@sillysnail5459]

Literally. I haven't been regularly exercising in a while because I developed a health condition, but even when I was eating healthy and exercising frequently, I was still fat

[@mckamy4711]

Fat or skinny, unless you’re a doctor other people’s bodies should not concern you regardless of what size. I don’t understand why anyone feels the need to comment at all. Compliments on your looks can be nice, but I think it’d be more beneficial to compliment each other based on personal qualities and capabilities.

[@Man-wolf-]

I agree but also doctors can be really discriminatory alot of times, alot of fat disabled people talked about how they were dissmissed because their doctors didnt bother to look past their weight

[@inplane9970]

Even most doctors can't be trusted because most of them use the BMI metric, which is literally based on the average white guy in Britain. If you're shorter/taller on average, have a different metabolic rate, and/or a different ethnicity, then doctors will not compensate for those factors when deciding your health. Heck, the BMI will say you're morbidly obese if you ever touch a weight consistently because it doesn't factor in personal health or fitness levels. If you really want health tips and guidance, look for trustworthy personal trainers. They're difficult to find, but they will give you a general gauge on how healthy you are based on flexibility, muscular endurance, bodily coordination, diet habits, etc. They're not going to prescribe you a pill and call it a day, which is what many doctors do because that's all they know how to do. Medication only lessens issues in the best cases, and destroys your body in the worse cases.

[@mckamy4711]

@@Man-wolf- yeah I'm not negating that fact either, doctors don't always make accurate or fair assessments based on body type either. I just meant it shouldn't really be a concern what someone else's body looks like unless you have reason to be concerned of their health (for example a doctor) , otherwise it shouldn't be their business

[@mckamy4711]

@@inplane9970 exactly I agree, bmi is not a good measure and doesn't even take into account fat percentage, muscle/bone density etc. I never said that their opinion of someones body is right, but rather meant that nobody should be concerned with someone's body unless they have a right to be concerned with their health (like a doctor), which entails far more than just weight anyways. Nutritionists and personal trainers are good to help you improve your overall health too and not just weight, so really someone's weight shouldn't be anyone else's concern, except for the case where it is obvious that their weight is the main factor of their health struggles.

[@QWERTY-gp8fd]

@@mckamy4711 bruh. its doctor job to help u be healthy. if u dont care about health skip the doctor. Its literally all they exist for.

[@imaperfectionist2416]

I mean I was skinny shamed A LOT when I was younger and everyone literally told me to eat more, I ate and ate and still didn’t gain weight and they always told me I look like a twig and ugly and weak. So yea skinny shaming is a big issue even if some down play it

[@tombiekoolese3916]

Yeahh😭😭😭

[@maddie-ob7wb]

That's exactly my experience!

[@jiayitan1767]

im rlly late but, when ur skinny shamed idk why people INSIST that you have an ed? like i dont have one but they just push and push like "its not healthy, thats not how youre supposed to be, you should check with a therapist for your ed" i dont have one but theyre convinced i do

[@imaperfectionist2416]

@@jiayitan1767 omg fr ! I actually have an ED, called binge eating bcs of my ADHD, like I could never get enough food. Due to having a fast metabolism tho so i always stay skinny and everyone tells me to eat MORE even tho I eat more than the average person my age and country 😭👍

[@Raman_Kumar_09]

Same it makes me sick:((

[@uhohspaghettios3801]

"Gender isn't even real. You're just annoying me and I want you to go away" As a nonbinary person this is my constant mood lmfao

[@ddjsoyenby]

same.

[@thejadedcommenter7371]

That’s a whole mood and a half

[@blrryanii_]

Samee

[@Alexis-go5cd]

Eliminate gender roles but not gender identity

[@thejadedcommenter7371]

@@Alexis-go5cd Yes

[@GA_131]

I agree that both are very harmful but as someone who is overweight, I do think think it’s personally a bit worse. It’s just really hard I feel when people are reinforces the thought that I need to loose weight to be of value. And that because I’m not actively trying to loose a lot of weight I’m severely unhealthy. Not trying to undermine skinny shaming either or say that you shouldn’t take care of your body, it’s just how I feel on the matter.

[@lesbiansforjeankirstein2026]

also fat people get discriminated by even doctors because most doctors assume any problem they have is related to their weight. fat people have it way worse than skinny people

[@trustfulplace3894]

i still remember in 1st grade seeing that my thighs were bigger than the other girls and thus my deep seated insecurity was born and lasted until middle school. i’m now skinny and i would agree with you that, at least in my experience, fat shaming can be worse. it made me hate myself people think you don’t have any worth and i wasn’t even over weight just chubby. now that i’m skinnier the comments about me having anorexia/bolima are incredibly rude and upsetting they don’t make me feel like i’m an inherently bad person.

[@GA_131]

@Florian D. Anorexia is terrible, there are so many effects it has on someone. And yes, it’s not the healthiest to be overweight, but there are overweight people who are fine. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself, but when people start policing other peoples diet who they don’t know, it hurts. I used to be skinny when I was younger, I gained weight because I developed anxiety and depression when I was 8. I have had to loose weight because I wasn’t healthy mentally, I grew up hating my body and so many times I tried to do anything to get rid of my weight but I couldn’t do it. I used to be active and happy but I could barely get out of my bed. This whole thing is just terrible.

[@hendersonca99]

@Florian D. here's the thing... we know. It's not like us overweight people don't hear that every single day of our lives. But should our value be boiled down to our health? It's just contributing to the stereotype that we overeat and don't care about our health when we do, and it's painful that people judge us no matter what we do. Also.. PCOS is something that *causes* weight gain, not the other way around.

[@painter-midge]

@Florian D. hi friend, I highly recommend the Maintenance Phase podcast :)

[@ms.rottenstrawberry1018]

I hate the whole “Skinny bitches” thing. Like sometimes it’s okay just as like a small joke, but most of the time people use it as an excuse to put skinny people down in order to make overweight people feel better about themselves. Stop commenting on peoples bodies when you aren’t welcome to. Stop pitting women against each other and saying one type of woman is better than another. All types of women should feel confident and secure in themselves no matter what (in my opinion).

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

In the same vein, women also need to stop putting men down for their looks or their assets just to lift themselves up. It's hypocritical.

[@zorro......]

@@gwendolynrobinson3900 where was this relevant in this video or to this comment? im not saying youre wrong, but it's a bit of a strawman to be like "X is a problem too, and youre hypocrites for it" when nobody was talking about X to begin with...

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

@@zorro...... I was providing another example of body shaming to lift oneself up that is seen as acceptable by many. I'm not sure if you misunderstood or if I'm misunderstanding you, but for charity's sake, when I mentioned hypocrisy, I meant it when others claim to care about body shaming and then shame other's bodies for a different reason, not that other's are hypocritical if they didn't include men's issues being body-shamed. It was only meant to broaden the discussion. If no one was talking about it, why not mention it?

[@kaga.mine.]

Skinny shaming is just so normalized that society doesn't even realize how prevalent it is. Fat shaming might feel worse for some people, but it's definitely seen as more of a problem.

[@pearfun3628]

so true .

[@alananope1285]

As someone who's always been thin, and has always been in and out of various types of EDs, I can say that skinny shaming is a problem... However, it really is not in problematic in the same way that fat shaming is. I think they're two different issues that honestly can't really be compared just because of how different of an impact they create. I think the bigger issue is genuinely the idealisation of being skinny- and building on that with skinny shaming, more so the fact that I personally have always been made to feel guilty by my (healthy) friends for being so small, because they've placed me on a pedestal for being- as much as I hate to phrase it in this way because it makes me feel gross- "slim-thick", having more of a figure while being so thin. But in public and online, I've never been discriminated or judged for being skinny in the same way you often see fat people be treated.

[@quinhoprimeiro1049]

I don't know if I'm stupid, but shouldn't we stop ALL BODY SHAMING? Can't we live without talking about sombody else's body?

[@mmcii4]

Facts

[@Jamangel]

!!

[@zorro......]

the point of this video wasnt that body shaming in any direction is good, though. the point is that acting as if fat and skinny shaming are equally detrimental is genuinely kind of insensitive to people who are fat because in this society's beauty standards, it usually isn't really comparable. it's okay to feel upset at your own struggles. it's also insensitive to not be aware that there society meets a certain type of person (on in this case, a certain body type) with more stigma and discrimination than the others. that doesnt mean it doesnt hurt people who are skinny-shamed, and that impact may feel a lot more severe than someone else who has a high self-esteem being fat-shamed. everyones allowed to feel their pain. you just also have to be aware that it's not going to fly over as well if you're going to publicly complain about something that has, in recent history, been an ideal. supermodels are still more often than not, skinny. being average weight and slightly underweight is still seen as more attractive and desirable overall than being overweight. obese people are laughing stocks for simply existing.

[@michellefishhead]

@@zorro...... compare murder victims while you're at it

[@quinncyisqueer]

@@zorro...... but even if we acknowledge that being thin is ideal and yes i agree that we don’t deal with that amount of stigma that bigger people have, how do we move from there. i understand that i don’t have it as bad and yes i feel what i feel for being thin shamed but what’s the end goal? (i fully do my best to recognize what bigger people go through as a skinny person, but i’m not gonna just roll with the punches everytime some puts me down for my weight. i understand others have it worse but it doesn’t make it okay across the board)

[@NanaIsMyNickname]

yeah I agree with emily it seems like for women you just can't win

[@BrozBeforeHoez]

I like Emily's videos, but doesn't body shaming affect both genders? Idk how this is a women's issue

[@MerVolteR]

@@BrozBeforeHoez yes but people dont really care or talk about body shaming of men 😞

[@nivedhprem]

@@MerVolteR Yeah and becoz of that gender equality aint developing anytime soon cuz we rlly need to acknowledge the sturggles of all groups and show empathy and compassion for all in order to get into a better mental space.

[@sienh]

@@BrozBeforeHoez tbf i think shes talking about her own experiences but yes body shaming for men should be talked about mote too

[@aqvanii]

@@BrozBeforeHoez probably cause body shaming is more common in women but as a guy i completely agree with u This isnt only a women's issue, all genders suffer from this

[@ToadOnTheToadStool]

My belief is that body shaming is body shaming

[@tandysaysyoucandoanything6758]

As a skinny person who suffered from depression, peoples past comments really made it worse. I’m not suffering from depression anymore but it taught me to be kind. You don’t know what people are going through so it’s best to always watch your words

[@jesscka9087]

I feel like when comparing which one is seen as more desirable, it really shows when you ask those who are not underweight or overweight about which they would prefer to be. I've lived in an overweight body most of my life and have heard so many mid weight people talk about starting diets to lose fat and so on, but have never heard them trying to gain fat. I've seen thinspo and pro ana content on their timelines and not the opposite, Ive seen thinness be glamorized disproportionately to its opposite but that's just my experience as an overweight person who grew up overweight. i am in no way discounting your experience if yours differs, just saying mine.

[@VanRocCarMor]

Emily at Midnight? Yes, please!

[@outsider1305]

lmao very similar timezones, 11pm for me rn

[@PlainRain64]

Yep same 🤣

[@Lynxnd]

12 noon here 💀

[@alukardio6991]

@@Lynxnd 5:30 am... I should sleep 😵

[@rugma1696]

@@Lynxnd same

[@collectorok]

I suffer from an ed and I’m literally on the verge of death because of how skinny I am, and all the people surrounding me telling me “you’re not even trying.” “Look in the mirror, you look like a twig.” Is making everything worse if they think I’m gonna snap out of it, it boils my blood when I see people body shaming anyone whether they’re fat or skinny because I know people are NEVER happy with anything. body shaming could effect everyone cause u never know what could be happening in their lives and all those comments are sometimes what causes them to starve themselves, get worse, and etc. I know because I went through it. Any type of body shaming shouldn’t be compared as it’s already horrible but this should obvious.

[@collectorok]

Sorry for the rant when it comes to this topic I start writing so much help

[@star-pp1ub]

i love how you put a sort of story to examplify what skinny/fat shaming would look like because it helped me understand ur video more taking that I'm actually a kid in which this video amplified my knowledge of this topic (idk how to make this sentence make sense so I said it like this)

[@Cecil1213]

I have gotten skinny shamed before and I feel like it takes an effect on your health just as much as fat shaming does, (Hear me out, I'm just speaking from experience) I literally got harassed for this in late elementary/middle school for being skinny and people literally used to say how I'm anorexic and it got to a point where I started wearing long sleeves even in hot weather and I now still struggle with my body image, I have a fast metabolism and I used to eat a lot to try an gain weight (It didn't work obviously) but I was really insecure about it since then but nowadays I think I'm getting better now but at the end of the day maybe just don't bully people for being the way they are (Like race, sexuality, size) it's all discrimination at the end of the day. There is like this mindset that if you're too skinny, you're immediately anorexic, "don't eat enough" and unhealthy, and if you're bigger basically the same thing besides the anorexia bit and what she mentioned in this vid about being lazy and unhealthy, both are just as bad and can trigger eds, so I feel like we shouldn't compare the two cause both have negative effects especially on younger people

[@Cecil1213]

I said this on TikTok but had to delete because I was just mostly being called soft and then people proceeded to body shame me, so maybe I'm the one that's wrong ig but I do think it really affected me and that's why I feel they are equal

[@starrr3760]

I don’t even know why we would need to start saying that one type of body shaming is worse than another in the first place. I do find it quite strange when people start trying to act like your experience of going through skinny shaming was either non existent or that being told to “eat a burger” isn’t even a bad thing, when in my experience it was so much worse than that. Maybe that was your experience but it absolutely wasn’t mine, I wish that all I was being told was to eat a burger. People would go into detail about how disgusting my body looked how no one would ever want me and it even became physical bullying at multiple points. When I tried to seek help from teachers they’d tell me it was “a compliment” when it was straight physical and emotional bullying. I would order weird weight gain drvgs online that eventually made me sick to try and change how I looked. I still have issues with my body image today because of what I went through and it’s wrong for people to act like skinny shaming isn’t an issue at all, NO ONE should be body shamed for any reason it’s so detrimental to your mental health. I do understand that systematically fat shaming is worse but like I said I don’t even know why people would start comparing them in the first place when body shaming period is so wrong. I still believe that every type of body shaming deserves to be acknowledged in body positivity or how can you call it that? I dont think skinny shaming should be at the forefront but it deserves to be acknowledged as every type of body shaming does.

[@iamaroseXI]

It bothers me so much how people see skinny-shaming as just being "concerned". My expierences were also much worse than that. Ofcourse sometimes people are just concerned but i dont think thats the case when your so-called friends are telling you how unnatractive you are and making nasty faces when you change clothes before gymclass. Or people telling you that you are less of a woman because of your breast size or your hips being very bone-y etc. I can say for certain that my childhood + teenager expierences of "skinny-shaming" have contributed to my body dysmorphia today. I dont want to claim that what i expierenced is worse or even at the same level as fat-shaming, but i wish people would stop assuming that it isnt also very harmful and often traumatising. I hope you're doing better these days ♡

[@kiwi4159]

exactly !! its insensitive to everyone to compare the two at all, they can be equally detrimental, (depending on the person of course.) im only speaking from experience but they both can have the same harmful effects, i dont believe that one 'worse' than the other. in the end though, body shaming is wrong no matter what and shouldnt happen :/

[@starrr3760]

@@iamaroseXI I really appreciate that I am doing much better now and I hope you are too!! I feel you, it’s really one of the worst feelings in the world when people make you feel bad about the way your body looks because unless you’re born super rich there’s nothing any of us can do about it!! Women will get ridiculed if there big small tall or short ect. They’ll find something that makes you different and do everything in their power to make sure you feel terrible about yourself. Even other women!! We all need to work together to dismantle that or we’ll never get anywhere!!

[@jamievasilias3606]

Yeah fat shaming = bad because on a bigger scale, there's a lot of issues like denial of medical services. But why are we even comparing fat shaming and skinny shaming? Comparing will only hurt EVERYONE and won't give people the assistance/help they require. Instead of comparing two bad things, maybe we should just work on fixing the issues instead????

[@prnkkkemamilol]

ii wish that all the people in the comments would see this

[@trigganasty]

I really love how well put together the skits in-between are, real good acting

[@ninjaxstickman9721]

As a male I can definitely say that body shaming is a thing for males as well. But it is a bit different for men and I think the body shaming is probably worse for women. The body ideal for men is to look muscular and strong. Or if you are not muscular you should at least have some meat on your bones to make it appear like you do. If you have to much though, you are seen as lazy and fat. And are often treated like the comedic sidekick or villain in movies. However if you are seen as skinny you are looked at as a nerd, fragile and unmanly. So you definitely want to hit the middle ground. I have been skinny all my life and have been told so everytime i meet family members. I have been told to eat more or go to the gym to gain some muscle. And people look at you as a push over because you're not manly enough. I remember not wanting to take my shirt off at the beach or at public ever because I felt so insecure.

[@late8641]

I've had similar experiences. I never take my shirt off when I'm at the beach, and people tell me constantly to start eating or going to the gym. I actually have a chronic illness that's largely causing the skinniness, so it hurts even more when I'm being ridiculed and cast aside as an unmanly nerd for something I can't change, even if I wanted to. I eat more than others, but it doesn't help, and if I want to build muscle, I have to put in twice the effort to get half the results.

[@yelloneklonate8852]

I just want to tell you and all skinny men here that I LOVE skinny men. So please, don't change if you don't want to. There's always someone who will think that your body is perfect. Also, body isn't everything.

[@guilhermecruz5194]

I was looking for this comment

[@Eram93]

Break the toxic beauty standards

[@michellewu6689]

My boyfriend has also grown up skinny while I grew up bigger (I wasn’t plus size but I was bigger compared to most people my age at any point) and when he told me about this I wasn’t aware it was a thing. The funny thing is, he’s lighter than me and can lift me way more easily than I can lift him. I don’t really have a way to end this but body shaming on all ends really does suck

[@NativeNYerChicHK]

Girl, I’m naturally thin and I’ve been mocked my whole life. Sometimes in jest and sometimes with disdain and disgust. It’s not alright. But if I responded with an equally reprehensible but deserved insult about their body type I’d be in the wrong 🙄 While the worst side of me wants to respond that way sometimes, I would never mock someone for their body type. That’s because I know just how badly it feels. It’s just such toxic bullshit to body shame ANYONE. Seriously.

[@pauldesert2541]

this world constantly runs on fatphobia and it's horrible

[@ellie8784]

Exactly!!!I saw a plus sized person on TikTok make a joke, and they got treated horribly and was bodyshamed. But then a skinny couple did a different cosplay and made the same joke and got a couple million likes?? It disappoints me.

[@derboe_thebeast6869]

I dont believe the term people use fatphobia I think it was some mentality that my mom told me the reason i was skinny because i was scared of being fat? When that wasnt my intention i just had a very small stomach and couldnt eat more of what i was given.

[@kaga.mine.]

Oh noooo a fat person I'm so scared Fatphobia is fake lol, stop trying to use lgbtq+ terms and changing them up to fit your own narrative. Honestly just gross, grow up and learn that your actions have consequences (such as eating more and moving less). You can change your weight to be healthy but you can't change your sexuality or gender.

[@siervodedios5952]

Fat phobia is a myth like Atlantis or the tooth fairy. Enough of the victim mentality, grow and spine!

[@ellie8784]

@@siervodedios5952okay 💀💀 then skinny shaming isn't real too

[@cheyshonagun7746]

Another thing that was killer for me growing up fat was that doctors never believed me for anything. I would go in for pains in my legs from sports (I played 8 sports even though I was fat bc I loved them) and the doctors would just say "just lose weight and your legs will have less to carry and hurt less" instead of like... doing literally anything to see why I would be having problems. Since I have never been skinny I have no clue if skinny people have the reverse issue or anything, but that was just something I felt like was also important to note

[@ksis86]

I was skinny most of my life, and ive been fat since college. I can confidently say that skinny shaming doesnt hurt that much lol. People saying things about you being “too thin” is usually just them being jealous. People arent jealous of you being overweight, they are mean to you because they think you’re gross. Both forms of body shaming are wrong but one definitely has more malice than the other.

[@beccaf262]

personally i just don't see why it needs to be quantified. i think the "which trauma is worse" competition is a dangerous way of thinking in more than just this specific issue. just dont comment on peoples weight. whether its not enough weight or too much, body image is very personal and making it a competition of who has it worse doesnt really help it just detracts from the actual issue and turns people against each other.

[@circarmen]

exactly!!!

[@shayerahol6434]

Body shaming is shit regardless. So tired of people shaming people for their body type/shape. Body shaming reeeeaaaally messed with me. Especially because I was so skinny because I was starved. My relationship with my body was destroyed because of comments against my body. And it got worse as I got older.

[@TheAppleNinja1]

Not to mention when you're fat, doctors refuse to take your health seriously. No matter your symptoms, doctors will just suggest you lose weight. Also, as fat women bra selection is trash lol.

[@pnksheild1709]

@@ItsMeBarnaby a neurologist’s job is to help you with your brain and spinal cord. They should be questioning whether or not they are experiencing symptoms of epilepsy. That is why they went. If your arm had a bloody gash and your surgeon didn’t suture it but instead told you to go to a social media free retreat to improve your mental health you would be pretty upset.

[@Forbidden_Snacc]

as a skinny/flat woman, bra selection sucks for us too :,)

[@hwyeb4656]

@@ItsMeBarnaby fat doesn’t always mean overweight in society tbh also the doctor should do their job sometimes not blame everything on the fat of a person’s body’s (only some do but when they do it’s honestly disgusting n not helping anybody)

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

@@pnksheild1709 yes, but in general can be dangerous for some procedures to be performed on very overweight people, and any doctor that is concerned about that would advice you to lose weight. Especially when it has to do with anesthetics.

[@annita4212]

@@ItsMeBarnaby they refuse to take your health seriously that’s what you don’t understand a lot of time even after you lose weight you have the same problem because they refused to diagnose you properly because for them your weight is your only problem when it’s not

[@tripshoes]

Given my own personal experiences, I'll say that throughout the past five years of my life I've lost about 100 pounds. When I was at my heaviest, people treated me differently than they do now. When I was overweight, people did not extend the same level of kindness that they do to me now as a lighter weight person. It was one of the biggest sort of "wake up calls" that I had after I'd lost all of the weight. It genuinely upsets me to know that people treated me differently simply because I was overweight.

[@sarahsugersarah]

it shows a lot to think beyond yourself and support other types of women.

[@LostBear.]

I'm a dude who was skinny all his life, except for like 1-2 years (when I was 15) in which I was a bit overweight and short. During my time as an overweight kid I got made fun of, so I wanted to change and ate less. I also got quite depressed which led me to not eat for days or sometimes even more than a week. By then I had lost a lot of weight that I was very underweight. I'm 23 now and been skinny/underweight for years and I can't get to a "normal" weight anymore. Been trying a lot but I'd always lose the extra weight I had gained, which sucks. I got so many stupid comments or jokes by family and friends, at work or even total strangers, that I need to eat more and I'm as thin as a stick or even anorexic. This felt really bad everytime and made me question my masculinity. I personally don't hate on anyone for their body-weight, looks or whatever. It's just so weird that currently fat-shaming is shunned and discouraged, while skinny-shaming is somehow okay. I don't let these comments get to me nowadays but I still wonder why these people feel like commenting on me being skinny and potentionally try to make me feel bad, even if they say "I didn't mean it that way"...

[@makaylahayward1055]

My friend is very skinny, and is extremely insecure about it. She often wears sweaters to cover it up. Other people call her a skeleton and. One time, (when she wasn't wearing a sweater) some person was so disgusted by her, that he felt the need to scream "ew, why are your arms so skinny!" She never knows how to respond and often freezes up.

[@XxShilohxX543]

I’m sorry that happens to your friend, I also where sweaters because I’m so insecure.

[@animangle]

@@XxShilohxX543 me too :c

[@TheGG98]

Why be rude when you can just be quiet? So true

[@DrDolan2000]

Okay, off topic, but I want to see this movie where a woman finds out her boyfriend killed her mother. And you should just play everybody - every single character Back on topic, it's important to consider the feelings of others. It's different when you're a comedian who will spare no one from an epic roast, but you shouldn't shame someone for their physical appearance. When someone is overweight and they want to change that, you give them encouragement/motivation

[@jesselee2331]

thank you for adding in the caveat of “they want to change that”. all too often, people give encouragement and advice about losing weight to people they don’t even know. while it can come from a well meaning place, assuming that other people WANT to lose weight is fat phobic and gross, and it can make others who are content where they’re at feel like they aren’t valid or valued and that they should change something about themselves. people often forget that so i appreciate your comment!! also yes emily make that movie 😏

[@soupspoondevil]

man, i was skinny my whole life but when i was 19 i gained 25 lbs and went up a few clothing sizes. all of the women in my immediate family are very thin, and gaining weight took an extreme toll on me. it was very jarring going from being told "lol u should eat more" by some random assholes to "if you dont lose weight you'll just keep getting fatter and uglier" by my own family. I never cried over being skinny shamed, but i've cried so many times over being fat shamed. it really tears you down and makes you feel undesirable. another thing, having bigger boobs and butt made me feel like i looked "too sexual" and that i had to hide my body to respect myself. i'm not even chubby, I'm midsize, but because of the crazy standards my family has, they made me believe i was "too big" this video really comforts me because it really hit the nail on the head. like really, thank you for making this.

[@Ch1cken_m4n]

i feel like the main issue is that fat shaming is way more normalized than skinny shaming. you hear terms like big back and fatty being thrown around casually (often when someone is just eating food or even just for fun) and nobody bats an eye while if you were to say something that could be taken as skinny shaming you're more likely to be called out for it. but at the end of the day body shaming isn't okay in any way shape or form and we should all just accept that people have different body types and it doesn't amount to their worth.

[@picklerick9106]

dude i really needed to hear this omg. im sort of chubby and at school they were serving pizza, and i got a big piece and told my friend ‘damn, this is a big, chonky one!’ and a girl at our table told me ‘like you!’. i instantly felt like crying bc im so fucking insecure about my body and that really fucking hurt. it makes me genuinely so happy to see people say stuff similar to that in this video

[@Marleigh-tm3eg]

“I mean why be rude when you could just be quiet” oh my gosh I love it, gonna be using that from now on, also love your content 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@Thunder-00]

As someone who has been fat shamed even as young as around the age of 6 and has severe body insecurity/low self esteem because of the prevalence of body shaming, both in my personal life and in society as a whole, I really appreciate you talking about these issues. Hopefully the world becomes a better place for people of all body types soon❤ Feeling like you’re not good enough or like you have to overcompensate or that you’re not worthy of someone’s love or attention because your body doesn’t fit with the societal norm of what’s ‘attractive’ or ‘desirable’ is something no one should have to experience, no matter who they are or what they look like.

[@embercapriii]

Let's not forget how hard it is to get medical help as a fat person. For years I was told my chronic pain was just bc I was fat! But the issue was I was having a hard time exercising bc of the pain which was why I was putting on weight. Found out it was fibromyalgia! That I had had since I was 12!!!

[@aurabenton4030]

This is a separate comment from the one I just posted about how people won't be happy with you regardless and these are the types of people to avoid period. My ex bf met me when I was real thin in high school. After college we dated and he said that I would look "better" if I gained a few pounds. When I was "transitioning into [my] womanly body" (his words not mine) and gained weight, he told me as I was getting up from the couch, "OMG you are getting fat! Are you sure you're not pregnant, because if you are, it is definitely not mine!" I feel like my first ever fat shaming comment was way worse than the skinny shaming comments I have gotten summarized into it's own autobiography. So again, if they're not happy with where you are now, they won't be happy if you changed for them anyway.

[@Keresechetty]

Glad you said ex!

[@sy_duck]

Hi Emily!!! Loved this video, but I was really hoping you would touch on the rampant under-diagnosing of fat patients due to blame being put on their weight. Many times, fat people are turned away and told that if they just lose weight their medical issues will vanish, even when the problem at hand has nothing to do with their weight. This results in widespread medical discrimination and can have severe consequences. I thought maybe you would also discuss the inaccuracies of the BMI scale and the consequences of that in the medical field. It would be interesting to hear anything you’ve personally witnessed/been taught in having gone through nursing school and working as a nurse! No hate at all of course 💙💙 But this is a huge topic which differentiates fat and skinny shaming that I think more people should hear about! Keep up the good work!

[@notevenemily]

a few people mentioned that! that’s a very good point and it’s definitely relevant. if i make another video surrounding this topic i would definitely include that!

[@sy_duck]

@@notevenemily you’re amazing girl ugh 🥰

[@T_RyanRain]

Skinny shaming is much worse when you are male. I feel like fatshaming is worse when you are female on the other hand, but being skinny as a guy, especially in school, is hell.

[@AirAnimeAngel]

I`ve been both skinny shamed(growing up especially,they`d often tell me I looked emaciated,like a twig and my mother would often force feed me,even when I didn`t want to eat). Then,around middle school,due to stress and trauma,I gained over 30 kgs(60 pounds) in a matter of months and I`ve been that way since,sitting at around 170 pounds and 5`1. I`ve been...through it all. From constant bullying,both physical and mental,to doctors misdiagnosing me,to being rejected explicitly due to my size(I`m a size 14/16) at both work and my love life,to barely finding clothes that fit etc. I should specify I`m from Eastern Europe,where if you`re not model thin,you basically aren`t even considered,in my experience. While body shaming is UNANIMOUSLY wrong and terrible,as someone who`s been through both...yeah,fat shaming is just devastating in every way.

[@lessonlearner9788]

I feel like I’m in a unique position to say that I’ve been overweight most of my life and in the last few years I’ve been skinny having lost 100lbs, so I’ve been both fat shamed and skinny shamed, let me tell ya skinny is waaaay better. Being overweight you can’t use your body, can be put into embarrassing situations, and lack overall confidence. Now there are people who have confidence regardless of what they look like and good for them, but I never got any confidence until I started to lose the weight, show yourself that you are actually doing something right and that you must love your body and accept but never accept that you don’t hold the power to change it

[@haydenbench3095]

In my limited experience (as a skinny guy), I feel that skinny shaming has more of a negative effect on men than women. With women, being skinny is sort of publicly viewed as 'ideal' (obviously not true), while with men the 'ideal' body type is muscular and fit. Not saying women don't struggle with being called skinny, or men don't struggle with being called fat. Everyone has to deal with people telling them to "just exercise and eat less/more," and though that is usually the way to go, it can be difficult. Anyway just my take on it, I have a very limited view of the situation so idk :)

[@epicninja952]

I've been underweight for a long time, and I've tried to gain weight for years but it doesn't work. The biggest issue socially about it, is the total lack of validation that it's a real issue. Actually might be the only issue socially. Whereas overweight is socially detrimental. Weighing them against each other isn't fair.

[@neptxnetips]

skinny shaming isn't just being flat though

[@Lampey22]

I’ve been skinny shamed my entire life. “Don’t your parents feed you?” “Stick fingers” “Women have curves”. I have a fast metabolism, it is a good thing in most, but it makes gaining weight hard

[@punkithecat]

Same here, I was bullied all elementary school bc of that, I was called anorexic by classmates a lot, everyone would wrap their hands around my wrists and laugh at how small they were, teachers would always call my mom to tell her I needed a doctor and blood testing bc I was too skinny, a dentist once told me I needed to eat more solid food bc my throat was apparently too small (and sort of made a comment on my weight), bc of this I had trouble eating for some time bc I was too sad to eat. For a long time, I had body image issues bc pretty much everywhere I went people would comment on how I looked.. In the end I just have trouble gaining weight too, bc of the fast metabolism thing. And still, despite all of this I can admit that fat shaming is worse, for example: one of my bullies was a little overweight and the people who would defend me would compare our bodies as saying "who does she think she is to bully you for that if she's fat?" Which I honestly always disliked, even tho she bullied me for various reasons I never understood why people reacted that way, the reason she was bad was bc of her actions, so why comment on her appearance?? It's a really weird dynamic bc despite the comment and bullying bc of my weight people still thought being skinny was better than being fat... and it's so sad how even little children have to go through to all that shaming

[@Lampey22]

@@punkithecat i feel you, and i am saying this from my heart. Kids can be so evil

[@silent-hills]

Same, and I also have problems with nausea which makes me eat even less than usual. Literally almost landed myself in the hospital countless of times because of it : //

[@Audiomaker49]

Same here it affected me really badly to the point where I attempted suicide

[@Lannnulolaa-vm7mo]

I wish I could be skinny shamed instead of fat shamed. I don't get fat shamed that much anymore but ye

[@chatterbones5614]

I've been really thin my whole life, to the point where I was accused of being anorexic when I was a child. That being said, the fat shaming that I have witnessed aimed at other people is always so vicious compared to the passive aggressive comments/faux concern that I've dealt with. The skinny shaming is mean, yeah, but the fat shaming always has an undercurrent of genuine hate and it's so scary to witness, so I can't imagine what it's like to be on the receiving end.

[@deezno3666]

I agree, I’ve been skinny shamed AND fat shamed and when I was fat shamed, it hurt more. I honestly don’t think that one is MUCH worse than the other, but yes, one is worse. (Just not a lot lol)

[@jackssillygirl]

It all depends on the person, one cant be described as worse than the other. I personally have experienced both, and ive felt worse about being skinny shamed

[@narwhxlian]

I have been skinny my whole life but for the past year I could not eat, so I am currently severely underweight. I have been called many names but the one that really effects me is just when other girls call me flat or a stick. It is not as bad as fat shaming but it's still bad and it really hurts me. DON'T BODY SHAME.

[@yessica5231]

as someone who's been on both sides due to ed's the people around you defenitely affect how you look at yourself. like 6-10 year old me was told by my own family to do all these things to not look fat but 11-16 year old me who had an ed where I was literally a walking corpse was complimented. I'm working on a size that I'm ok with but it's mostly because of my health and a bit for aesthetic reasons (I'll be honest!). also what you said about skinny girls eating a whole pizza and being praised about it while a fat person will get shamed. it's not just food but for everything. like I can't be all cute and soft because I'm fat. that's why I hate eating in public!!

[@HeadRedShot]

i love this take on it! im so tired of all the people saying "skinny shaming isnt bad, dying from diabetes is bad!!"

[@AE-ld9ck]

I’ve been publicly humiliated multiple times before because of having a slim build and something that has always stood out to me is how usually “skinny shaming” is done in a traditionally shaming way, instead of “fat shaming” which is usually more discriminatory/exclusive in nature, people judging habits with food or exercise, or passive aggressive comments and straightforward name calling. “Skinny shaming” seems much more shame/guilt based, not just from my own experience but others as well. So “fat” is mocked and joked about, and “skinny” is shamed as the scapegoat for said “fat” people getting mocked, instead of society’s obsession with bodies being blamed for this general body dysmorphia/shaming amongst the whole spectrum… people just blame the perceived opposite. It’s so messed up. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@stunninglll]

As someone who has been both skinny shamed and fat shamed I personally believe fat shaming affected me more. I have always been skinny my grandma used to feed me so much that I would throw up because I was so full of food. When I turned around 10 years old my doctor gave me medication for anxiety. The medication ha side effect that side affect to it though. The side affect was gaining weight. My doctor didn’t worry about it too much because I was underweight and thought the side affect wouldn’t be to big. I took the medication for a year and the effect it had on me was huge. I was around twice my size and I had barely any the time to notice. Untill the day I was called “Fat”. After that I was viewed as annoying and ugly nobody cared if I was nice they all just viewed me because of my size. I got off the medication as soon as the doctor saw the effect it had on me but that doesn’t mean I suddenly lost weight. I was still “fat” all throughout the rest of primary school and had a heard time looking at myself in the mirror. Before the school holidays came I started exercising and eating healthy. When it came time for high school I was around an average weight and was starting fresh. I made some friends and it was all going smoothly until something happened. I stoped eating at school and would weigh myself every time I saw a scale. I would force myself to throw up and wouldn’t consume any food. I quite often fainted and overworked myself it was at the point I weighed as much as a kid and thats when I got help. I am doing much better now though I sometimes still struggle with myself worth. If you feel alone sometimes know that your not there are people out there you can talk to!❤

[@Dragolitron]

That last statement though, who exactly do I talk too?

[@kirstentugade7107]

my auntie just sent me a video of “how to gain weight”.I ended up crying all night and still can’t move on

[@chiba09]

tbh i live in a middle eastern/north african society where they value fat/curvier women, and as for me a skinny girl I've always been told that no one will marry me/I'm ugly/i should eat more, literally strangers on the street would stop me and give me these weird ass recipes or scold me or my mom for the fact that I'm skinny, btw i love being skinny but I'm tired of the presumption that i don't like it or people sticking their noses in my lifestyle and my body

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

That awkward moment when you don't even plan to get married in the first place....

[@plumenommershpadoinkle7575]

As somebody whos been fat and skinny, the fat shaming was definitely worse. It also came with a lot of unspoken contempt and disdain from people, even if they didnt comment on my weight people were generally much ruder and dismissive to me when i was heavier. When i was skinny my experience was completely different but it upset me because it felt fake, or like people were only going to be nice to me on the condition that i looked the way they wanted. So after gaining a lot of the weight back in quarantine im now working on building muscle & becoming a beefcake, because that may not be the beauty standard but you know nobody’s gonna say SHIT to me if i look like i could tear them in half lmao

[@maggotlord7934]

it would be an epic bruh moment if people just suddenly all stopped being rude about others bodies- alas, we live in reality.

[@yesbutalsono1016]

Coming from the male side, I was bullied relentlessly from middle to high school for how skinny I was. It got to the point where I would wear pants and long sleeves in 95+ degree weather to cover my body as much as possible.

[@mely260]

"why be rude when u can just be quiet" Lol love that, iconic ‼️‼️

[@microphone2409]

Okay but can we talk how AMAZING Emily's acting is? Like the numb expression + crying was just for a skit for an imaginary scenario but jesus it felt so real!!! Love ur work Emily!!

[@kiwimiwi5452]

skinny shaming had an impact on my behavior towards food, but fat shaming had a similar impact on my friends eating habits. The difference is that I don't get ridiculed for existing. Skinny shaming happens, but it's by far not comparable.

[@pinkdragon4830]

Holy shit can we talk about how good her acting is??

[@brídeann]

As a child, i had a shit personality. Not that i was mean, i was just weird, a smartass and naive. My “friends” (i knew they didn’t like me, but we were 10, so we weren’t very mature) pointed out how a girl had “twig legs” and was built like a twig. I’m sad to say i joined in, and i wish i could say sorry without making it awkward. I know this is very serious for a thing that happened when i was 10, but I’m starting to think i have social anxiety as i think about how i sit, if anyone’s laughing at me atm, etc

[@cinnamoroll]

as a skinny girl i also believe that the comments i get on my appearance will never be as bad as people who've experienced fat shaming comments. Plus skinny girls will always find cute clothing while for plus sized people, it's always a struggle.

[@yoohoo4075]

very agreeable video. as someone who is overweight and always fatshamed, it has affected me mentally horribly. i have struggled with eating disorders left and right, ive cut because of my weight, ive tried committing because of my weight and im so afraid to leave my house in fear people will just stare at me, take photos of me, laugh at me, make comments about me and all of that. sometimes ill even be like "wow i wish i was skinny" then get told "well you dont want to be skinny, i get told im too skinny or that i should eat a burger" when literally im told to starve myself just for my weight.

[@A_Diva-i7z]

I used to be skinny shamed in elementary school and even sometimes now. Last summer I went through a really tough time, I wasn’t being skinny shamed but society was getting into my head more like the whole “keep your tight gap!” Etc, which caused me to only eat one meal a day and get down to 107 pounds which was 7 less then I was the previous summer. After fighting a tough battle im now a healthy weight of 124 and I still look mostly the same as last year, just healthier. Fat shaming is by far worse, even though I’ve never been fat shamed, skinny shaming just feels awkward not like horrible yk? If you are struggling with confidence in your weight, just know you’ve got this and as long as your healthy and happy YOU are enough ❤

[@Cierraritchey6969]

BRO I don't agree because I've been skinny and fat shamed and they affected me equally

[@mannnitsann]

ive been skinny my whole life and i only really wear things with sleeves/jackets bc im so used to people wrapping their fingers around my wrist to point out ‘how i could literally snap your hand!!’ i completely understand that the effect is not the same as fatshaming but its pretty shitty nonetheless. i have a really warped view of myself now and i hate to say it but i am so so so scared to change my weight, gain or lose, because people point out even the slightest change in my body and its so damaging, at literally 14.

[@amanesmoonrock]

WHY ARE YOU SUCH A GOOD ACTOR THOUGH

[@Bilge-wk3et]

this couldn’t have been described better

[@dreamie3742]

I understand that skinny shaming happens, but it almost never happens to the majority of people that complain about it. There are people who are legitimately skinny shamed for having no boobs/ butt/ curves, but it’s frustrating that most of the tiktoks about skinny shaming are just girls that aren’t *that* skinny. Like humble bragging about how ‘ew I’m so skinny and people make fun of meeee’ when they aren’t even remotely flat/ have curves and are just showing off without saying it.

[@DeadPegasus]

I mean...you weren't there to witness these experiences of skinny shaming, why automatically decide they're not 'skinny enough' to experience it? The same could be said for chubby(not quite fat but not quite skinny) women who complain of fat shaming. Maybe instead of focusing on whether or not it actually happened, you focus on the fact that body shaming is bad no matter who it's aimed at?

[@silent-hills]

Yeah, I agree. As someone who struggled with maintaining my weight nearly all my life up until the start of high school (I’m a senior in HS right now), it sucks. I was legitimately so skinny that I would get such comments (along with “you’re basically a skeleton/twig/walking corpse/etc) EXTREMELY often, from a young age. It really messed with my self esteem, and I am barely on the cusp of having healthy weight. It’s awful. When I say that I was CLEARLY really underweight up until maybe 13-14 years old, I MEAN it. I still struggle to keep my weight at a healthy level, and it doesn’t help when family members say “ohh you look so healthy haha!! We thought you would get hospitalized any day now!” and just… ugh. Sorry, I didn’t mean to turn this into a rant, I guess I just needed to get some of my feelings out. It also just sucks because I am basically legitimately flat rn. Sorry guys I just… it just sucks, had to get my thoughts out, and I’m really sleep deprived lol

[@idkmynametbh416]

The only person that I know that actually is a subject of skinny shaming is Clara Dao. She talks about it on her channel. Check her out!

[@beth-bi9yv]

Yeah, fat shaming defn worse (from someone who has had both). Mainly because being 'fat' is much more associated with so many negative attributes, where as thinness is almost always seen as aspirational.

[@annem4655]

No matter which size we are, fat shaming haunts us the most. We've seen the social media and tabloid keep on fat shaming celebrities for getting a bit chubbier than they were, or basically insulting fat people for their mere existence. Under such influence, we sometimes look into the mirror and just wish those little bits of ourselves to go away, so that we can be molded into some artificial standards.

[@zorro......]

another thing is how being fat for women has been synonymous with being unattractive, undesirable and has been an excuse for men to be misogynistic and degrading towards women (i.e. those rejected men on tinder messages that go along the lines of "youre fat, i didnt really want to go out with you anyways" or "youre fat, you should be thankful id want to go out with you"). fatness is women has also been a reason for a lot of people, especially men, to dehumanize these women: calling them beached whales and referring to them as "it"s in a way being skinny will never be met with. at worst, being skinny might desexualize you as a woman (which also happens when youre fat) but it wont dehumanize you into a whale, a cow, or a disgusting object not worthy of being met with humanity.

[@epicninja952]

At worst, being skinny is unhealthy and can lead to fragility, weakness (to the point one can't move) and even fainting. For the most part I agree with what you said, but there are more issues to being skinny than simply being "desexuallized"

[@adeolaoyewale6527]

@@epicninja952 umm being skinny doesn't equal being unhealthy some people have fast metabolism. Stop spewing nonsense thanks 😊

[@zorro......]

@@epicninja952 i dont mean in terms of health. both extremes of weight tend to be unhealthy in different ways. i feel like it's a rather unfaithful reading of my comment for you to assume i meant health concerns because that isnt brought up at all. nonetheless, for clarity: what i was referring to was the kind of social judgment one faces. being skinny often leads to being desexualized (the way emily portrayed: being compared to a teen boy for not being as busty). however, fat people are desexualized too (often referred to as 'unfuckable' by others). being skinny also doesnt usually lead to people comparing you to animals in the way that fat people are. and even with the desexualizing of skinny people in the above example, runway models were all incredibly skinny for a large portion of this millennium, so its still largely the social standard for attractiveness.

[@idkmynametbh416]

@@epicninja952 I feel like you can have those symptoms when you are severely underweight.

[@xmoreno3366]

@@zorro...... shut up bro

[@jordyn_c888]

This is so refreshing to watch. I hear people say all the time “skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming you know” after I said something about my (skinny) SISTER being weak or something and they’re the same people that tell me (not skinny) that I need to play more sports and that I’m super lazy when I literally am just a normal person

[@kaveew]

Also depends in which society you live in, when i was in America being a skinny all my life its not something i can really control but i didnt experience any prejudice or bullying but when i was in india i was on the verge of a mental breakdown due to the taunts and bullying done by not only others but my own family telling me I am a stick or a clothes hanger and shit so it really depends on where you are too

[@markigirl2757]

I’m America I would say ur most likely get skinny shamed compare to Japan or Korea u be praised. However I did notice certain races are more prone to skinny shaming then others in America that is

[@kaveew]

@@markigirl2757 bro iam an Indian i had gone to the states for 4 years i didn't get bullied for my weight there at all but when i came back to India not only the people but my own relatives would be like "only if you had some more weight you'd look more pretty" because the beauty standard here is curvy girls etc

[@swathymani9562]

@@kaveew Indian here 🙋