Female Friendships - Why is it so hard to make and keep friends?

[@novaheart7325]

This whole video is the story of my life. I find a lot of women are very insecure around other women and it’s very frustrating. No friends, no drama, no jealousy.

[@christinaloxson2420]

It's so true. Your comment, you put the nail on it.

[@julys4307]

I am very insecure and when my friend dresses sexy and I envy that and I don’t know how to stop feeling like that. I also feel envious of other women because I know I don’t have those feminine characteristics and I really wanna change that.

[@kristenrobins5260]

Totally feel the same

[@lovingjesus5184]

But it gets lonely.

[@dorisw2507]

I've been evaluating my "friendships" lately and I think I realized the problem. They are all extroverts and value extroverted things. I think introverts care more about intimacy and real trust, etc. I could be wrong, but I feel like if I were to pretend to be an extrovert I could actually have a lot of friends if I wanted to. The only thing is, I wouldn't care about them so much as having a good time, hanging out, the next big adventure, someone to just have there for something to do, etc. I actually want a friend I can talk to and open up. When I try and talk to these women and open up to them... I don't think it is personal, but they are thinking, so when are we going to have some fun??? When it comes to talking...they like stories that have a lot of excitement, or drama, or anything thrilling. I just enjoy connection... So... living in an extroverted world, it's just harder to find. That's all. Maybe there are some extroverts reading this and disagreeing. I am just guessing, so I could be wrong. It could also be a values mismatch.

[@attoooh]

I'm an extrovert and i value closeness and opening up more than the next adventure. Yet i'm in the same situation of the video. Guess what? I usually find the issue in the fact that most of my friends are introverts.

[@222beau]

Same over here, I prefer one on one friendships. I crave friendships with a deeper connection. I don't like gossiping or talking about drama etc.

[@elenizonara3307]

Same here

[@amithpai965]

I don't like breaking the trust by gossiping someone's thing to another person even though that person who has told me doesn't knows about this.it's like the person has genuinly has told me what he/she feels or about some particular matter that is hindering them, then why to break their trust(well I am Sorry for my English coz English is not my first language)

[@aminatq07]

I feel the same

[@oliviamae3281]

I can't even count them, I have no close female friends, not one. I've seen women I know kind of pair up, meet each other for lunch etc. I'm left out. I'm not unfriendly, so I'm baffled, like you.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

I'm sorry honey. I'm sure people draw unfair conclusions about others so quickly and it's really hurtful xx

[@joanclawford8964]

Same for me, Olivia ... & I'm really open & friendly ...

[@laurencastillo9741]

I know how you feel. It's really hard because if your pretty there are insecure women who aren't secure and easily jealous and it's a nightmare. Inhave yet to meet another women who is beautiful and genuinely loves and appreciates the beauty in another friend.

[@zerofuks416]

Victoria Akoms It’s too bad, because they end up losing great people.

[@Jadeswrld03]

I literally felt this in my soul. I always feel like I can’t fit in and I feel like maybe people judge me. I’m not sure why :/

[@leah8112]

I honestly think its a jealousy and competitive thing with so many girls and women. Ive always trusted a friends n got backstabbed by them. They r so easily intimidated. I realise women r soooo insecure. Its very hurtful.

[@maiii7733]

Hi…. leah….. what u said is exactly the way I think too…. When I just had a baby, I was so busy n I had health problem so I used to get tired easily n sick, so I didn’t have time to read n educate my self, but now I’m in good health like never before after heart surgery, my baby is 3 yrs old now. I’ve got time to read books n watch informative contents on youtube n do exercise n healthy diet. But, some friends that I used to hangout when I just got a baby, now they don’t talk to me anymore since I told them that I’ve just started my own business on social media, they don’t even follow my page on Instagram. That’s hurt.

[@marisolramirez6020]

I have had so many bad experiences with female friends that I am almost traumatized by it haha. Also, the females I meet all tend to be shady in some way or another and the vibe is just not there. Maybe it's something I need to work on or maybe its just something we have to deal with as women trying to make quality friends.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

It’s so tough finding true friends these days. It’s definitely a big problem for many women as I get lots of messages about it from women who feel the same way. It’s taken me years to realise and accept that I only need a few close friends, my family and husband in my life and that’s enough. Big hugs xxx

[@celygarza]

Girl same ! Lol I've had so many friendships gone wrong that to this point i think anyone who approaches me isn't genuine :(

[@31072gab]

@@sunflowers2469 Nah that doesn’t work either. I was friends with a girl at work and the minute she changed another department, she stopped talking to me. I was the one telling her to set a date for us to meet, to tell me about her new job. Nothing. Suddenly, I started talking to another girl at work (online work) and everything got better when we met at the office. We made plans to hang out and one day she ignored my message. Like! Some people are not looking for friends. I have a few friends but I always welcome new friends. Not all are like this and that’s fine I guess.

[@kolyxix]

A man, here. I thought women are better at making friends and connecting with other women than men are.

[@winning3329]

​@@kolyxix I learned that there's 2 types of people in this world. First types of people are genuine and friendly and honest and have no hidden agendas and basically are a rare unicorn and these types of people come in both genders. Second types of people are in abundance and they are extremely envious and gossipy and untrustworthy and extremely fake and dishonest, these types of people also come in both genders. This is not a gender issue, it's more of a people issue.

[@bonezbaaaby]

I think what it comes down to is there ARE healthy female friendships, but MOST women want Gossip Drama To be jealous To be controlling To be narcissistic To use you And yes, ghost and dump you for no good reason other than giving them helpful healthy advice because most haven't healed childhood trauma. And thats SO PETTY when they group up like that and leave us out !!! They need to communicate their feelings and also not be so rude.

[@LouiseT2405]

I relate so much to this. I’m 24 and feel like i have no female friends outside of work, especially my own age. I have one friend from school who i’ve known for years, we meet up a few times a year but its always me who makes the effort to organise things and often see on social media shes out or doing things with other people. I think to myself what is it about me that makes me less fun or interesting because when we’re together we have a laugh and a nice time. It makes me so sad and I can feel really lonely at times.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Hi Louise, I'm so sorry you feel so sad. Had you thought about getting closer to your work friends? I have made a lovely friend recently at work and we'll definitely be arranging to do things outside of work too. I also count my sisters and my mum as my friends along with my husband who is my best friend. They are the most important people in my life xx

[@xadanzuri6007]

In in this same struggle

[@Sunnysidestoriesandmusic]

I would stop initiating things with her.

[@patriciacifra6726]

I’ve always been struggling with this. It happens all the time and I’ve accepted it as my usual thing.

[@winning3329]

I used to have friends who would hangout and excluded me and later on I found out that they did drugs together and that's why they always hanged out with out me. Trust me, these are not good people that you want in your life.

[@ashlen8717]

I’m in my early 20’s and I’ve had this problem ever since I was a teenager.

[@ashleyhenna6201]

Same thing with me, and I am also in my early 20s

[@Satan666Official]

ME TOO. I'm 22. Maybe we all 3 should team up 🤣

[@shadiamay7475]

@@Satan666Official 😂brilliant idea

[@Clairsmith123]

I Agree!!! Keeping Female Friendships IS DIFFICULT!!

[@Michael-bf1dt]

Hi Claire how are you. Greetings from Ireland. It’s nice having friends. Hope you’re safe from Covid. Have a good day and stay safe 😀😘 Michael

[@theresasarvis2751]

I’m 66 years old. And this has been a puzzle to me also. I’m very warm and giving. I open my home for meals, crafts, conversation. My entire adult life. They say I am a wonderful giving sincere person. I am one they will open up to not long after having met me. But it only goes one direction, “ out of sight out of mind” thing ...until I extend the invite again. 🤷🏼‍♀️Puzzled for life

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Bless you, you sound so lovely 😊

[@jclyntoledo]

Yeah straight women tend to prioritize romantic relationships or hot dudes they think they have a chance with. I don't see you really terrible and I wish I could find more women who de-center men and actually value friendships instead of using it as a consolation prize for when their husband or boyfriend don't want to actually to hang out and do some activity with them. I know it is once you start requiring them to actually put in effort into this like a genuine friendship then they start to back out and stop talking to you. Most of the time these women don't even put in the minimal effort needed and literally only care about their needs.

[@jclyntoledo]

I just wanted to say that you sound like a really great friend and too bad you're not near me because I would still be open to being friends with you even though I'm a bit younger than you and you might not accept 😂😭

[@matildamaher111]

You are a kind lady.

[@mundanemaddie663]

Just watching this 3 years later but you are not alone! I feel like sadly anytime people pick up on the genuine energy of a lovely soul they shut it down and want nothing to do with it! it is so hard to find real true friends who want nothing more than to share a cup of tea and the best times maybe it's just the world we live in unfortunately

[@alexiacardenas4505]

Lol at least you have a handful of friends...all I want is one. My husband says my problem is that I’m so desperate to make friends that I do too much for people, and attract people that only use me.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

I think that's very common. You feel used and cast aside. It can have a lasting effect and you can't trust people. My husband is honestly my best friend, my number one fan and my partner in everything. That matters more to me than anything xx

[@jlroussin]

Me too.

[@shannonbrown560]

@@LivinganOrganisedLife I want a husband too!! IT's even harder being single with no husband and kids!! I think about artificial insemination!

[@jclyntoledo]

​@@shannonbrown560I hope you find the love and support that you need and if that means finding a Love or a life mate then I hope that's what you find 😊

[@jclyntoledo]

If your husband really thinks that's the problem then maybe you can benefit from some therapy? Maybe perhaps you have a mother wound or a lot of people pleasing tendencies and lack of boundaries? 🤔 It would be worth exploring

[@iluvcliffrichard]

Only 5 friends? That's more than most.

[@karenkellock]

DUMPED BY FEMALE CHUMPS This was so good. This has happened to me so many times. I can't figure out women, they are so flaky in this generation. They ghost you suddenly and you think "WHAT DID I DO WRONG?"

[@matildamaher111]

This is exactly what happened to me.

[@killapriscilla]

Just think about Marylyn Monroe. You would assume she had a million friends, loyal suitors, a supportive family. Often when someone wins the genetic lottery, others assume they have never encountered struggle, loss or hardships. Teens look at pop stars and women in magazines and say ‘wow I want to be her’ totally forgetting that she is one of us. I know this will sound shallow.. but pretty girls stick together for a reason. Sometimes the best thing to do, is find more physically attractive and smarter friends, that get it and don’t hate

[@winning3329]

I don't think it's an appearance issue, I think it is more of an insecurity issue because pretty girls can be just as insecure and shady. You just need to vet friends just like you would vet a man to date

[@stottpot]

This video has helped me to feel that I am not alone with this struggle. Somehow I feel inadequate that I do not have lots of close, amazing friends. The age of social media reinforces that we are all supposed to have this. When I was in my teens and twenties I was a drinker and I had loads of friends. Since having kids and sobering up it has become harder and harder to make friends and keep them. My introvert nature has definitely got a part to play, but I'm asking myself "do I isolate myself too much?" Reading the comments has made me realise that insecurities and jealousy may also play a part in my difficulties with female friends (others and my own!). I am so sensitive to peoples body language and facial expressions, I am convinced they don't like me or think I'm weird.

[@ghazikutbi3206]

introvert take care of yourself and your family. You will feel great in life.

[@JessicaMillerNashville]

I feel exactly like you do! I know I’m a great friend because I put others first and actually care. Most of my friends now are guys because there a lot easier to deal with and understand. Girls are so complicated to figure out! A great book to read is called "Friendships Don't Just Happen" by Shasta Nelson.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks for the book recommendation xx

[@shivamdaskuldeep9711]

Hey, I don't mean it in some wrong way, but you mentioned "girls are so complicated". So even girls cant understand girls?? 🤔🤔

[@Michael-bf1dt]

Hi Jessica how are you. Greetings from Ireland. I like your comment 😊. Hope you’re safe from Covid. Have a good day and stay safe 😀😘 Michael

[@victoriagarcia1085]

@Victória Campelo A lie and misconception that comes from gender stereotypes.

[@victoriagarcia1085]

@@shivamdaskuldeep9711 Well yes, there's times when that happens but I think is more of a humans are complicated we can't understand each other sometimes. Gender doesn't matter boys don't understand some boys, girls don't understand other girls and boys and girls don't understand each other too, so you see your gender has nothing to do with it.

[@missjessicakirwan]

I find friendship hard work, especially when people have children and families. I find myself wanting to 'break up' with my friends for being rubbish at keeping in touch. But I find I can count the amount of real friends I have on one hand too. All you can do is keep trying but remember people can be fickle

[@winning3329]

This is why I want friends who are single

[@jclyntoledo]

This is also why I try not to befriend people who are on their journey to being a mom or who have kids because I just know they will only be focused on their kids and their spouse/ significant other

[@veiledviolet]

I can definitely relate to this and I’m beginning to think the way to truly be a good friend is to realize that persons needs and be a fun, positive, uplifting person to be around. Ask yourself what value are you adding to their life. Be someone who listens and encourages instead of dumping emotions and complaining. Also have your own life and hobbies that you can then invite people to do with you.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

That’s a good way of looking at it Sara. Thank you xx

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

I have sadly learned that these were the reasons for why I could not keep female friends or why I do not have any now: - I am too honest and many women hate honesty and upfrontness even AFTER they ask for your advice. I mean I have literally been told that I am too honest and too nice by female friends who were the main ones always asking me for things or for help. -Because I was a tomboy growing up and still have a little roughness to me to be an outside try anything and work out type of woman many guys like me which is a big reason for why some women who prefer being dolled up 24/7 or who are not as confident as I am, hate me. - Women are jealous of me for the skills I have, the things I have done with my life, the places I have gone to, and the type of person I am. I don't brag about the things I do or who I am but there are male friends who have told me that they have heard my female friends saying things like, "She thinks she is all that...she thinks she knows everything..." but then when they get around me they do not act like this and claim to want to be around me and hang out. My male friends tell on them because they would talk about me behind my back while they could not see why I would have trust issues with trusting women and why I preferred more male friends to eliminate the drama in my life because I have zero tolerance policy. Yes guys act like this too but not as much as women. - I hate drama and gossip which makes the women who love it, hate being around me because I cut it off quick and don't like to engage or I just leave and they think that I think I am better than them when in reality I just hate gossip and idle talk. I'm just going to stick with Jesus being my friend because that has been working out perfectly for me.

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

@@Isabella-wo9bg yea but keep being honest. Wicked people and liars hate being around the truth. In the long run you save yourself from heartache and narcissists when you remain having values and good morals.

[@adilenecapetillo6275]

was looking through comments for something that resonates with me because I too feel like it's my brutal honesty that gets me in trouble and makes me less likeable.

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

@@adilenecapetillo6275 you know what’s odd is that some of the people that have hurt me badly would still say they trusted me and my opinion. So don’t worry about others opinion of you only worry snot what God thinks of you and you will be fine. Continue being honest and genuine. There’s no honor among thieves so at least they can have their guard down enough to understand how love looks like around you.

[@ROCKGIRL164]

So so true!

[@jclyntoledo]

The being too honest and upfront part! I hate that everyone and their mom acts like they really want someone who's really honest and upfront about things until they actually have that person in their circle and then they get mad and complain. I do think that sometimes people don't actually think about what it means to have a person like that in their Circle and I like to reiterate that if I'm being honest and I'm saying something to you I'm not doing it with the intention of hurting you or being malicious. If I have a problem with you I'm going to tell you and if I think you said something or you did something that was really messed up I'm going to point it out. That also means that I actually expect us to resolve issues instead of sweeping it under the rug and pretending like nothing happened which for some reason a lot of people have a problem with. I think it's funny how there's so much emphasis on good communication and what you desire in a romantic partner but people don't even bring half that energy into friendships which usually end up lasting longer.

[@MyRedCarrot]

Be lucky you have even one close friend. Many have none... How could anyone even handle more than a handful of close friends?

[@terrykims8963]

Me have none

[@energyuniversemaxx6563]

The book: how to win friends and influence people --> old but gold

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thank you! I be got that book. Perfect opportunity to dust it off and read it again xx

[@laurencastillo9741]

I wish women would just love who they are and uphold each other.

[@laurencastillo9741]

Because women are so freaking catty. It's so annoying.

[@laurencastillo9741]

@Victoria Akomolede when we have the attitude of Christ in us we know who we belong to and we dont have to act that way because we have our identity in Him. In Jesus.

[@biblelovergirl]

Personally, my reason for having difficulty to keep/make female friendship roots from my very complicated relationship with my mother growing up

[@lexkel1976]

Wow i can totally relate to you on this subject. Im 42 now and in my teens and early twenties there wasnt a person i didnt know where i lived, i was out going and popular and had so many friends, but then i got hurt by my closest friend and got trust issues. Now apart from my husband and two eldest children (they are 22 and 19) i have absolutely no friends. I often ask myself why? What have i done? Is there something wrong with me? I just dont seem to be able to connect with people anymore, im hoping one day ill find a lifelong friend that i can connect with. From what i can see theres nothing wrong with you, your a beautiful open soul that loves her family and trys to help people in anyway you can. The friends you do have are lucky to have such a wonderful friend as you and all the others are just missing out! I wish you luck in your friendquest, keep us informed on how things go, but just remember all the advise you need is just be yourself and if people dont like you then they dont deserve a lovely friend like you xx

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

It's such an emotive subject because if you get dumped by a close friend it can be hard to be yourself and trust people again. I responded to another comment from a lady who has recently met a new friend she met on a course, they have similar interests and "clicked". Maybe that's something you could do? xx

[@MrsKre8ivetype]

This! I'm 42 yo wife and mom, zero friends 😫

[@Ziegfeld-z2x]

At 55, I wonder the same thing! what is going on? I don't understand why so many friends only communicate by texting and then not making a plan to get together. I have been through periods of deep loneliness throughout my life because of being shy and socially awkward, but now, I find it so hard to make connections with friends. Who wants to always be the one to reach out to them with no reciprocation, or feel like you are pestering them...Or weeks without hearing from anyone?!

[@matildamaher111]

Same, I make the effort but no reply from them

[@sunnykaur2555]

Going through the game thing, why are females so hard to form friendships with. I too see people getting away from me.

[@alartlart]

Love the video and your channel! I think it's pretty normal to have only a handful of 'super close friends' as an adult while all the other friends are more like satellites that orbit us, sometimes they're closer sometimes they're far. So don't be so hard on yourself. These friends will drift in and out of your life.

[@andreamuro8074]

Me too but I think I’m just bad at who I’m picking. This is just my experience but I was horribly abused and neglected as a child and the quality people that I should have been friends with weren’t aloud to hang out with me and so I was not able to make friends with anyone except the troubled kids who were usually dealing with the police or getting expelled. I so wanted to be friends with those girls on my softball team etc. I never got a chance to form many quality attachments that weren’t full of drama. I’ve just been living lonely and getting dumped by drama queens or those who want someone less troubled. I get put on the back burner and get invited as the last resort. I’m kinda used to it. I honestly decided during lonely times to be my own best friend, honoring myself, buying myself presents, trying really great restaurants,going to see a movie I like, going on vacation by myself. It felt ok but sometimes I wanted to share the fun and be able to turn my head to see a friend smiling as well. So here I am trying to figure it out. I have very little family and it stinks. I would love to build a network of friends. I have a lot of love to give to some people if I could just figure it out.

[@jlroussin]

I’m in a very similar situation.

[@anicame2]

I don’t have close girl friends but even though I think I’m very open I don’t allow myself to get close to people which sounds strange but it’s true. When people get too close it causes me anxiety. I’m afraid I’m going to be put it an uncomfortable situation where they r going to expect something from me and I’m not going to want to do it and I’m going to feel obligated to to keep them happy. I think because that’s the relationship I had with my “best friend” from H.S until my early thirties! So I am reluctant to allow anyone too close. I guess I feel people always need something from me...a ride, to use my washer, borrow clothes, stuff I never ask others for. Idk I know it’s me I just don’t like feeling taken advantage of or like it’s a relationship of convince.

[@Shaunpeters105]

Wish I knew how to help lol. I am in the same situation and I'm in my 20s.

[@Tigressvanah02]

I have no friends...by choice. Deeply traumatized 💔

[@TheHouseOffice]

Something I'm picking up here is that you seem so lovely, so cute and pleasant to be around, and I notice your self talk is very negative. "They dumped me" "When I open up about myself they run away" "They stopped contacting me". I find it interesting how these things can be perceived as growing apart, not being a good fit, or something unrelated - but you talk as if you blame yourself. This was very informative for me. Thank you for posting.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

That’s interesting. I hadn’t thought about it like that. I suppose I always blame myself or think people just don’t like me! Negative self-talk is so damaging, I must stop it!! Xx

[@siyanapollachi3537]

You may think that you are the alone in this in the moment in time but believe me that a lot of people are dealing with this and they just don't talk about it as they will be seen as the struggling one and as a result people will move away from them. I love my own company as well as being around others, however i have had friends that would never dare go to an event alone. They would even wait for me outside so we can go into gatherings together so that they are seen as the people with close friends. I have had friends who buy friendships, they know ppl love free things so they spend a bit of money on them for when they need a friend to go out with, or post a picture with ect. I once went into a party and arrived earlier than my friends so started interacting with people to make more friends and i was asked by a few women, do u not have any friends? And are you sure your friends are on the way. That really made me think about peoples mind sets. I found this to be the case more with females then males. We live in a very fake world where people say Happy Birthday to you on social media but in real life people don't even call you. They may write 10 lines for you on Twitter and in real life will walk right past you on the street.

[@AnnB-tf2zz]

So true! I've started going out on my own now to make new friends only to realise that having a friend already is the barrier to entry lol

[@scorpification]

I have the same problem. I don’t know the answer for sure but my theory is that most women are extremely insecure and easily see other women as threats. You’re attractive. They hate that. Any woman bigger than me automatically hates that I exist. They’ll pretend to be my friend for a few minutes but their face constantly looks like they smell something because they just hate it that I’m not bigger than them. I’m not even that great looking. It took me a long time to figure this out because I always thought THEY looked better than me. But I grew up weird and don’t feel the need to compete against them I guess. People in general have issues. Big ones. Women in general have severe issues with self, their looks, their importance, their image, etc. I guess society is making this increasingly worse as a whole. Even though I have lots of anxiety, I’ve learned to hide it and appear confident when I’m not. But insecure women are fooled by my fake confidence. And maybe even with my anxiety I still manage to have a little more confidence than they do but to me, they always seemed like the more confident ones. I don’t know. I’m rambling because I’m confused too 😂

[@kr3642]

The constant feeling that they're competing is so uncomfortable. My best friend growing up was had an objectively way more desirable body type than me ( i was skinny but normal and she had a very small waist hour glass flat stomach ). I have always admired her because I think she is nice to look at. It hasnt made me feel bad until we became adults and when we are together in public she gets a lot of attention and people dont see me with her. Its not her fault though. She always wanted my boobs and I always wanted her waist. We used to joke that we could Frankenstein the " perfect " woman.

[@lovearttherapyalways]

I can relate completely... Our society pits women against each other to begin with and I have often lost friends when i got hit on by men around them...they suddenly lose interest in any further outings with me.. it has happened over and over and over...it is sad!

[@2cut32handle]

@@lovearttherapyalways literally what I'm going through now. Sometimes I feel bad st the amount of men that approach me when I'm out w/ my friend. I can tell she feels so insecure to the point that when I'm around her I get the feeling that she secretly hates me but just pretending to be my friend

[@mariepeartree5018]

@@2cut32handle Yes I often feel that way and have often in the past. What I think is it can also serve as test of the authenticity of your friendship because a true friend will acknowledge it and realize it is not your fault. When I was pre teen I had a very beautiful friend that developped younger than I and she turned all the heads and I stayed true to our friendship and when the tables were turned about five years later she dumped me as a friend although I had proved a real and loyal friend. The tests will come in various ways to all friendships and the real ones will stick. Do not feel bad. Different people have different strenghts and attributes. We are all blessed with something so when jealousy shows up ... it is not true friendship. I have lost numerous friends throughout the years that I thought were real friends once they realized how much men liked me. It hurts, but hey... an envious friend is a dangerous enemy in the end. I am much of a loner because of it. We live in a female slave mentality to this world that has pitted women against eachother to seek male attention. It is ridiculous! A true friend will not be jealous!

[@sandy-tn7wb]

I completely agree with the females being insecure etc. Even at church, I got introduced to a married woman and just got a dirty look from her. Before I even get a chance to say something stupid or annoying, women seem to have their mind made up that they are not interested in getting to know me and be my friend. I have moved around and it's difficult to make new friends and real connections especially as a single/divorced woman in her 50's now. We all can go through some tough times feeling tired and depressed but too many women just keep flaking on you. Then that makes you feel even more sad and depressed. I hope anyone reading this will see it's not necessarily all of our own fault and hope we lonely souls will find some real friends soon! God bless you....

[@mihad2367]

So relatable- I totally understand the feeling. I am a fairly open person but as I've gotten older, my social anxiety has stopped me from not necessarily making friends but certainly creating deeper bonds with people at work, at my sons day care, etc. I'm trying to work on just accepting myself and understanding that you can't really control what another person will think of you. I lost so many friends when I had a baby - but I think that the people who I cherish, I cherish more deeply now which kind of balances out the loss.

[@LoriBothwell]

I am an empath who can feel when other people are concealing their feelings. Communicating is an ongoing skill but sometimes my female friends have been passive aggressive. They burrow their resentment silently and then it comes out of the blue with rude comment, or put down. Women desperately need to spend more time in community settings to develop trust with one another and build lasting connections.❤

[@andreeatiganciuc9622]

Spent bout 20 minutes looking for this specific video I watched several months ago. There's something special about it. More cozy, intimate and genuine. Thank you 💖

[@tgjj610]

I can totally relate! I can honestly say that I have no friends. Not one. I have been dumped by my life long friend in high school, only for her to come back into my life in my 20’s and she recently dumped me a few years ago. There’s been a couple of other women through my adult years who have done the same thing. This has resulted in me not trusting any new friendship with anyone. I have an abundance of equaintances, but none of them are rooted with me in any kind of relationship. My friends are my brothers, my sisters and thank God my sister inlaws and of course my husband. I do wish I had a circle of friends outside of family. But I’d rather not put in so much effort, only to be let down.

[@lakitacovington7677]

Same here I've always had many of friends until about 5 years ago. I'm in my 40's now and I feel like I can't make and keep a friend to save my life. I'm always wondering what I've done to cause so many people to walk out of my life. I have not a clue...😒

[@nataliesadler5902]

Me too.😔

[@kerryasquith1867]

I'm with you on this one. I have no one that I can actually, hand on heart, call a friend. I had a few acquaintances that would call themselves my friends but only actually want to know me when it was their birthday/Christmas and they wanted a gift. The rest of the time I'd just see them all going out and having fun. Even going on holiday together and I'd be sat here, really hurt because no one had asked me. So I "dumped" them. They realised, oddly enough, just before Christmas and did a really good job of making me feel utterly rubbish for it. In hindsight I hate that I have no one to socialise with, but I'm glad I got rid of them. I feel more free now, I don't have to care who is going to use me now. I'd love to make new friends, but I'm pretty shy and everyone just assumed I'm stuck up (or so I've been told) so for now, I just trundle along! Maybe friends will come later. Honestly though, you seem really approachable and you obviously care very much for your family. If they have an issue with you, it's their issue. Don't sweat it, if they don't care how their actions hurt you then they clearly don't deserve your friendship in return x

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Well done you for doing that, it sounds like you were being completely taken for granted. I hope you can meet some new and genuine friends. People often tell me that I come across as being aloof which is the furthest from the truth xx

[@kerryasquith1867]

Living an Organised Life I agree completely. So many confuse shyness or reserved people with aloof and snooty personalities. Most of the time I'm pulling apart every word I say and analysing it to check myself. Most of the time I feel I've put my foot in my mouth, so I just don't speak that much. Those who know me well, know that I am quite chatty, but it takes a good, long while and plenty of patience to get to that stage. Most can't be bothered.

[@sassyfraseats]

This is me also

[@moonlightandstaryeyesbestr6061]

@@LivinganOrganisedLife tell me about it. i can relate. i want more female friends my age the few female friends i have are older and they are from work n church. i am very shy but yet i am friendly and likes to talk once i feel comfortable around you after i realise you like me or gravitate towards me.

[@ellenceddia1871]

I always feel like I'm the only one who has this problem. Seems everywhere you go, there are groups of women hanging out together. My very closest friend of 25 years ghosted me. I never did get an explanation. She would write on my birthday cards,"we'll be friends till we're little old ladies." This hit me harder than my divorce. Too bad you live in England, I think we would get along well. Nice to know there are other women out there who have had similar experiences.

[@jammyjay917]

I'm finding it hard work now to maintain friendships... I feel like I'm the one reaching out all the time, and if I don't get in touch, I never hear anything from them. Last week I sent texts to 3 friends, got nothing back from any of them.. I only have a handful now of good friends, that's it. It's sad when friends don't seem to be there for us, I don't get it or understand it....

[@MsKangaroo214]

I befriended a coworker and she would text me all the time asking how I was doing or if we could hangout and it was so nice. I have really bad social anxiety so this was exciting and I was trying my best to continue texting her and going out... but it was also extremely scary. All I could think about was that eventually she would "dump" me because I'm not all that interesting and have very low energy. And sure enough there was a point in time when she stopped reaching out and we only saw each other at work. Sometimes we meet up but its so different now and it breaks my heart. I've expressed my feelings and she understands but I'm still so scared. I feel like I'll never be able to make new friends. I'm 22 years old.

[@Pancakes4dindin]

❤️🤗

[@Satan666Official]

I'm 22 and a female too 😭 I don't have female friends, also have terrible social anxiety. At least through a screen it's mostly safe. I would be your friend, because right now it's just me and my cat 😭😢😆

[@jessicamerced9116]

A few moments ago I felt abandoned by new friends I thought I had made. Then I realized, I don't need these people and there is a fair age difference (8-10 years). I will wait patiently for friendships out here, because like you mentioned I have about 5 friends that don't live in state that I can confide in and trust 🧡 I had to return my focus on those people and be grateful for them. When the time is right, the compatible people for me will make there way over 😊

[@cerchocolate]

You just need to be yourself. You have a lovely personality and you should just stick to your close circle. Often the lack of contact by other people has nothing to with oneself but with what is going on in their lives. People tend to be very wrapped up in their own dilemmas and when much time has passed are often too embarrassed to rekindle a friendship. Other times it is right to let people go from your life. Your children become your closest friends as you get older like me but just keep working at relationships you value. True friends will stick by you even when you put your foot in it...like me! Good luck and best wishes. Claire in Nottinghamshire.xx

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

So true. I think people move on from friendships from all sorts of reasons. I feel blessed to have the friends I have and you're absolutely right about working at relationships. I think I need to work on that! xxx

[@starlightsky655]

Ok I think you’re an honest person and others don’t like honest and straight people, you seem really nice. I’ve moved around in the past and had to keep making friends so I know how hard it is. I’m now an older woman, I’ve been there and done that from both angles, been dumped as a friend and dumped friends as now I’m choosey who i invest my time with, would rather have less friends and have quality friends that I feel real joy when I’m with them, as for those two women that left you on your own, they’re rude people and probably needed to sit alone to gossip anyway and who needs people like that. I used to take something to read when i used to have to wait for my kids, you don’t need people to talk to all the time and sometimes it’s draining anyway. All best lovely lady 😊😉x

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Good points. I agree it’s so important to be choosy about who you become (and stay) friends with. Hope you’re having a good day 😊xx

[@starlightsky655]

@@LivinganOrganisedLife I am thank you 😊 hope you’re good too 😊x

[@louwee1000]

Wow! It was like listening to myself talking in my head. I feel for you. I struggle too. When I was at school I was popular and had loads of friends. Then in my final year at school I was bullied. And it seemed to really change me. I made amazing friends as an adult, but struggled to stay friends. My trust in people is so tenuous, it only takes a small comment for me to run for for the hills! But lately I have been finding out truths about myself I never saw before. One is I have expectations on other humans that I cannot myself live up to. My capacity to forgive, tolerate or even be kind to other people imperfections means I am equally hard on myself. I am working on it. There is nothing 'wrong' with you. You are only human. Sending love and hugs.🙂

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thank you for your lovely comment. I'm equally hard on myself and my friends and I think I get offended too easily. It's definitely a work in progress for me. Sending lots of love to you xx

[@Shambo44]

I resonate with what your saying...I think its common in women maybe

[@Chill-mm4pn]

My wife is a sweet and fun person but the female friends she's had, have taken her for granted. They stop talking to her. A lot of two faced behavior on their part. I can tell it hurts her and I don't understand why they treat her like that. As a guy I have a few guy friends and female friends but we come from the same subculture whereas my wife has people at work she tries to be friends with. I don't really talk to people at work like that.

[@yvonnerolle3205]

Lord may I have at least two close friends. In Jesus name amen

[@amyhudson316]

I agree in Jesus name amen!

[@lindagithaiga1974]

AMEN 🙏

[@wayNAY87]

Amen

[@matildamaher111]

Amen

[@yvonnerolle3205]

God answers prayer. In fact I now have more.

[@annamwikali7516]

It's such a relief to know I'm not alone. I stumbled upon your video after crying over a lost friendship with a friend I valued so much. She just stopped talking to me when she had a family some years ago. Our friendship started being based on me reaching out to her but not the same effort from her. So today I cried over her outright hate for me and not wanting anything to do with me when I asked if I could visit her this holiday season. I do cherish the few genuine female friends I have but it's become increasingly difficult for me to make new female friends lately since I work remotely. But I've made a goal to change my social setting every once in a while so that I can meet new people and possibly make a few more female friends ☺️ Thank you so much for this video.

[@attoooh]

I find it easy to make connections wherever i go. I kinda struggle at maintaining them? Like it must be me the first to reach outwith basically everyone, i feel abmormally overjoyed when the opposite happens. And it's draining! I've been dumped by my best friend of highschool too at the end of highschool and i suffered tremendously and got sth that looks a lot like ptsd. Sometimes i just want to disappear and see who reaches out to me first... like "hey it's been a while are you ok?" Or even just "we're going to shop, wanna come?"

[@lovearttherapyalways]

I am at the point where I am wondering what is wrong with me. All of my life I have had great difficulty even making any friends...men no problem... but women shun me very easily... I am so nervous with them that it must show or they feel it so they immediately shun me right off...when I do start a friendship I have found that they criticize the smallest things about me while I tolerat and overlook lots of things they would find offensive.. so honestly I do not know anymore and have given up. I recently went on a trip with a work friend and I made the mistake of saying she snored loudly, (not accusatory but so she would know I had not slept barely and would be tired) well, she got very insulted so I explained i did not want to offend her and I knew she did not snore intentionally... after that I suggested a different restaurant for breakfeast one morning when I went along with every single choice of hers all week and this disturbed her and she took offense to it even though I complied with her choice anyhow... so is it me? Or do people have zero tolerance for any differences.. maybe when they do not like you to begin with? Anyhow this was my last try and it really hurts to feel like a reject. Men never reject me so what is it?????? I am truly perplexed.

[@sybn2771]

Again I love your honestly and willingness to open up on this tough subject. I think this video will help a lot of people. I think with friendships are often based on luck, meeting some one you get on with really well is a bit like dating, you have to meet a lot of acquaintances first. Also some friendships take time, not every relationship is an instant click, which is hard in adult life as you only have limited time to spend together to allow this to happen. Good luck with everything x

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks honey. I have recently met a friend that I clicked with - I agree it is down to luck and whether you've got time to invest in making a friend xxx

[@jennifersmith8714]

I’ve been through this many times. Even now it’s happening and it’s brought on terrible depression and self loathing. Tears even at this moment. Thank you for bringing this up.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

I'm so sorry Jennifer. It is so hard isn't it. I'm sending you so much love xx

[@jennifersmith8714]

@@LivinganOrganisedLife ❤️❤️🙏

[@salstanbury7497]

I can also relate to this, so rest assured it’s not just you! I did have loads of friends because we lived in a street where everyone knew everyone and our kids went to the school round the corner. Actually I found it a bit much at times to be honest! Now we live in a village and my life is quieter. I haven’t kept in touch with the women I knew from when my daughter was little. It was me who cut the ties - mainly because I felt little in common apart from having kids the same age which ultimately wasn’t really enough anymore. Like you, I have a small handful of good friends but none of them live close by. I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t need loads of friends, just a few who are local. I started a part time college course last Sept and met a lovely lady who has become a new friend. She was easy going and we have similar interests and it’s given me such a boost. On the plus side, since moving here I’ve learnt to be happy with my own company and don’t generally feel down at all. I can get anxiety though at social events and often make excuses not to go; not something I did when I was younger! I think I need to push my boundaries a little. There’s a yoga class and a photography course that I would like to join too. So don’t feel like it’s your fault because it isn’t! I like to treat myself, find a way to relax or take myself off to my favourite cafe or go for a walk. Maybe these things would help you too! Sending positive vibes your way..let us know how you’re doing!

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thank you Sal. Maybe I need to stop caring quite so much but it's tough not to take it personally. I'm glad you've met a new friend - the challenge now is not to screw it up! Good luck! xx

[@AmadRaven]

Uhhhh. Yes, it's more challenging as you get older. Trust is a factor, as well as consistency. Contributing, working at the friendship, and not just having friendships of convenience. A true friend is so hard to find. I'm open to penpals. Who else is open to penpals? (that was so much fun back in the day). Let's never give up on finding good friends.

[@conniepatterson5142]

I'm so there with you babe. I don't know what it is, but I make acquaintances not friends. I meet some ladies, as one example, but they show they are a gossip about others straight from the git-go and I stay away because if they don't even know me and are so confortable divulging opinions about others, people like that will do it to you as well. Toxic talk, no thanks.

[@elizarodriguez2876]

This subject's been on my mind lately too. I heard that if you've had any recent bad experiences with betrayal you might be afraid and I think that's my case. I'd love to make friends with you. I think I'm ready to try again🌷

[@diarts4458]

When I was younger I always worried what people thought of me and was desperate for people to like me, but as I've got older I've realised that quality is much better than quantity. It's ok to have a handful of close friends and not be the most popular one in the crowd. True friends, love you just the way you are (flaws and all) and those are the ones to stick with. The rest, well, I really wouldn't worry about, you are definitely worth much more :)

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks for your lovely comment Diana xx

[@alwaysyouramanda]

One gf I really looked up to made a pretty big mistake (I kind of got hurt over) and I’ve pretty much given up since. Not her fault at all- it’s slowly compounded.. experiences. It’s such a let down when you realize “nope, not the friend for me.” 😢

[@alwaysyouramanda]

We need to protect ourselves. It really is hard to find someone you fully click with. There always seems to be SOMEthing. Ugh.

[@alwaysyouramanda]

Prior to that, I was attacked and my entire friend group just wanted to see me go off into the dark with the girl before she jumped me. They just wanted to see a fight, and when I was down (with a broken leg) they planned another beat down behind my back. They tried really hard to get me out again but I was warned.

[@arifgurcay7316]

When you find a friend, you don't lose it but win her heart

[@DebbieHarriman-dd1qg]

People are evil nowadays that's why I stay alone 24/7 and love it.

[@kellyl1457]

My gosh, you have FIVE friends?! I have NONE. You are doing very well at having friends, even though a few have fallen away.

[@fortminorproject]

I keep having bad luck keeping friends. I know I suck at keeping conversations but I hate when I tall to someone it never last longer than a week or two and things go silent. Others we will chat here and there but I never fully had a true friend to talk to more often .

[@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique]

Women are envious by nature

[@Tanaconasaperson]

You're lucky to have a close little group x

[@marthab2283]

Hi, I sincerely love your videos as you are one of only few natural, sincere and genuine youtubers I've ever seen. You've inspired me to be more organized, to take more responsibility for my family's budget and that's what I'm really thankful for. You are not the only one with handful of friends out there. The fact that there is only few of them makes you even more genuine, gives you more every day time to cherish and delevop those relationships instead of having thousand options of spending time with people you won't be seeing more than 10 times in your life. I have one best friend and I deeply believe that she is the one for life , of course it would be nice to get to know new people sometimes but I don't force things, if it sparks with topics it sparks if not that's ok I can always come home and spend hours on the phone to my BFF

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thank you lovely, your comment made me smile! xx

[@lovingjesus5184]

My whole life has been spent asking myself what the heck is wrong with you. I can make friends but they're typically not the ones I really want and when I finally make a friend with someone that I want to, I can't keep them. A lot of it does have to do with wanting to be transparent and I find that many women these days do not want to be transparent. Superficiality seems to be the way to go. It's safe. Plus I'm quite a tomboy if I can use that term and I love sports and outdoor activities and most women I know just want to go shopping LOL

[@coffeytnmilk7]

It started for me in college. I’ve found that planning and intentionality have helped me. Just like anything else it’s hard work. It’s helped me to plan coffee or lunch dates regularly with various people. I think we sometimes think it should be natural and just fall into place with the right people but I haven’t found this to be the case. Also, for people who are extremely outgoing it might be more natural or someone who is gifted in “schmoozing.” 😂 But, I’m not that:)

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

I agree, I definitely think you have to work at friendships. I think you can 'click' with some people better than others and then it isn't an effort to meet up and be yourself. I hope you've found your tribe Sherrie xxx

[@maryhannah9685]

It's not completely you. Most friendships stem due to motives, you often have something they don't and so they crave your space, time and attention because they either want that quality or want to emulate it. If you don't have that thing, there's no incentive for them to become your friend.

[@JaneDoe-rj3is]

Teenager here, just had a best friend just dump me for someone else about 3 months ago. I was so shocked and honestly still am. I thought we would last. This honestly seems to be happening ever since I was a little girl. It sucks. I don’t have any close friends anymore. It causes such self doubt. Am I clingy, am I too open, am I mean, am I toxic??? I don’t know anymore!

[@saramari1957]

Thanks for your honesty... friendship is so confusing

[@OtterLakeFlutes]

Tina, the Mrs. here - It's very expensive to have too many friends, especially ones that always have to be spending money whether it's going to restaurants, shopping, or what have you. I'm also very picky who my friends are. Some women do not want friendships - they want someone to make them feel good about themselves and they put you down in subtle ways. I'd rather not have any friends than ones that are always putting me down. Women can also be very nit picky and competitive. I pray to God in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ to bring me just one sincere female friend and that will make me happy. But if it does not happen, so be it. I'm content. I recently tried making friends with this one lady not long ago but she turned out to be extremely codependent and it was scary! That's one way to kill a friendship real quick is to be too desperate for it. Just like any relationship, we must be content with ourselves first. But just think! At least everyone now has a way to communicate to others because of this beast called the internet. I remember what it was like to be lonely and not even having the internet to reach out to other people. Imagine that for a moment - to all you youngens that were born into the internet world. You'll never have any idea what it TRULY means to feel lonely. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic.

[@dympnac3871]

You’re not alone!

[@Saki611]

Hello there! I think it's not your fault. People become more selfcentert and they lack of empathy. They don't want deal with problems of others, when they have there own. Keep people close who are there for you in good and bad moments. The rest, they can't give you nothing, if they expect something back.

[@SoraFan23]

I cut ties with my best friend when he gave me unsolicited advice when I was through a really rough time and only seemed to care about himself playing his favorite game rather than how I'm feeling.

[@sandy-tn7wb]

If you can say that you do have a handful of good, close friends then that is a blessing. But, if those dear friends aren't close by like my situation, then that can be sad and upsetting. It might be helpful to reach out to someone who stops talking to you all of sudden and ask why they did that. Hopefully they will give you an honest answer. People can be flaky and will move on to someone to be their new friend for different reasons. It could be for their own selfish reasons, convenience, insecurities or they just don't have much time, energy or ambition. People may have good intentions but can't follow through, sadly.

[@Love4Luna9]

It has happened to me throughout my whole life. When I had no boundaries… and now that I have boundaries. I don’t know what the answer is.

[@watchmeeatfatbellydancer5864]

Im glad l stumbled upon your video. Im struggling between being authentic about issues lm having or keeping the friendship when its the only one l might have. With you l dont think your doing anything wrong. Being open is always a good thing unless its about mental health or things that would scare ppl away. Sticking your foot in your mouth might be the problem. I have no filter and thats always been a problem for me

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Me too, I think nerves stops my filter from working sometimes. I'm so busy wanting to be liked that I stop being me. Unfortunately, mental health has been a part of my life for some years and that might be the reason why friends have walked away in the past. It's sad as the most important thing to do is talk and not judge. Take care xx

[@angieshand454]

Hi, just found your channel and love it, binge watching as we speak 😁. I found this really interesting and I’m the same, I find like I don’t think I am interesting enough for others to want to hear what I have to say,you look at the others who have so many people around them, but then again I’d rather have 5 very close reliable, positive people in my life than 100 just people. You seem lovely. xx

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thank you Angie. My close friends and family are the most important to me but it's lovely to make friends through my channel with people who are like minded. Thanks for commenting and subscribing! xx

[@yasminhanif1435]

25, nearly 26. No female friends. Had the problem my whole life. Breaks my inside. Makes me feel like a terrible terrible person

[@2cut32handle]

Your not a terrible person & ur not the only one. I am 26 with no real friends, just have a bunch of different associates for the sake of going out. Sometimes there are seasons into life where u will be alone. You will be fine dear. It's vetter to be alone than to be surrounded with toxic people

[@kierawalkergoodlife9718]

I make friends really easy, I'm one of those people who will have no problem running after a woman with a toddler (Never met), the same age as mine and ask if they would like to come for a play date. It takes time though and a lot of effort. Months of play-dates later, I know I can call upon them to look after my dogs, bring my bins in when I go away or even babysit my kids! Some I get the hint, and some has been worth the effort. It was important to me to make friends with people who's local to me, cuss I love seeing groups of women hanging out together still giggling like children over glasses of wine when they're in their 80s. Be your lovely self and you'd find friends who's just as lovely!

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks Kiera. Perhaps that's it, I need to try harder. How do you do it though?? I expect people are attracted to you like a magnet but I'm just not like that. Did you 'learn' how to make friends somehow? I would like a book/manual to tell me what to do!! xx

[@kierawalkergoodlife9718]

It's so much harder making friends as grown ups, if you look at the kids, it's not complicated they just see someone they want to play with and they just connect really easily. It does take time and even harder if you're in work full time, I think it did become easier for me since I worked from home and was able to attend activities on a more regular basis, so the short conversation becomes longer everytime we meet up. I do a lot of playdates it's fun for the kids and that's the best time to connect with like minded mums like myself. If you were close to me I'd have no problems with inviting you and the kids round, I'm sure we'd have lots to talk about and hey, we have KZbin in common, where most of my friends just don't get it! xx

[@bridgetcarter6929]

I've just bought a book The Power of Misfits...been feeling like you and the people in the comments...I just don't get it, but will read this book when it arrives and if I have any clarity, I'll share. Big hugs. xx

[@ibnatali406]

I’ve had friends in college who didn’t last more than 3-4 years. Talking to one I had a dreadful feeling she wasn’t going to keep in touch with me anymore. I think mainly because of interests that she expected I shared but instead I had my own interests that I had a preference for. Despite how long I’ve hung out with her, she didn’t stay around. She didn’t share the same mindset I had either. I felt that she had a more positive mindset on things, and I was struggling. Although I found myself hanging out with people below 2 years my age and they vibe with me a lot better.

[@hayleymyles6823]

Listen to Mel Robbins...she does some really good realistic chats on female friendships. ..and yes they really change as we get older ..I've many stories but I won't bore u...lol just very grateful I have 2 sisters and we 2 yrs apart and are close and a son and daughter...now young adults x

[@HeatherBrie21]

I know this video is a couple years old now, but I am happy? to find that I am not the only one struggling. I "know" that I'm not the only one, but it has felt that way for a long time. I'm 29 now and had only one real friend growing up. Our friendship had ups and downs, but lasted nearly 2 decades. She then quite literally dumped me as a friend because apparently my sinful lifestyle no longer aligned with her, slowly forming and finally climaxed, religious views. I confided in her about an abortion I had a couple years prior, due to unpleasant circumstances, and was really struggling mentally. I also partied a lot and was just generally unhappy. I needed to vent. She didn't seem happy about it, but tried to half ass comfort me I suppose. Later on she had me as a bridesmaid in her wedding and then after that dumped me. It's been nearly 5 years now I believe and I still haven't recovered from that. I have never been able to get that close to anyone else as far as friendships go. Romantically, I am just fine (I think) I have no issues. But I have given up trying to form friendships with other women.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

I'm sad to hear your story Heather. It's so hard to be dumped by someone who has been such an important part of your life. Remember your husband/partner is your friend and so are your family, they are the most important friends after all. Even if I don't have many close friends, I know my husband and my close family are my close friends that I can be myself with. That's enough for me. Sending you lots of love xxx

[@indianocean7271]

Refreshingly honest of you and helpful. We do worry don't we. I love self help books too! I prefer to have 3-5 closer female friends (individual not a group that know each other) than 30 or more. I'm reading Michelle Obama's Becoming and she seems able to keep in touch with friends and work colleagues from her whole life. She is more gifted at connecting than me. Did you see that Nadiya (bake off winner) said she has no friends - but she comes across as a lot of fun.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks Indian Ocean. I think I'll try to find her book in the library, it might help me! xx

[@LesleyanneSPARKLE]

I’m finding it difficult at the moment, one of my best friends moved away to Canada so I don’t get to see her often at all. My best friend in the UK has pancreatic cancer which has now spread to her liver, so I will be loosing her which sucks as we are so close. I think this is such an important subject, thank you for covering it. I think I may also cover this subject on my channel. You come across as a lovely lady, it’s their loss darling x

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Thanks for commenting. That's such a tough way to lose close friends. I had a lovely friend who moved to London and it became impossible to keep in touch properly so we drifted apart. I just don't seem to 'click' so easily with people these days... xx

[@LesleyanneSPARKLE]

Living an Organised Life so true my lovely so true xx

[@kresivarivkah612]

Oddly, I have had girlfrirnds flirt shamelessly with past male partners. I have had one friend sleep eith a past boyfriend. I am married now. I am thankful to have good women friends that I can call sisters. But-some women are very thirsty for men( sad to say). I am an introvert, though.

[@kresivarivkah612]

@Sta Sea Exactly. 🤗

[@violetsforroses888]

Names of the girls who hurt me deeply in the past 1.skylar😢 2.danielle 3.danika 4.izzy.

[@lovingjesus5184]

Ps... I can really relate to The Dumping and it attaching to you. 10 years old best friend for 3 years, never had sisters so it was the first close relationship I have with a female and she dumped me overnight for another girl that mood new into the neighborhood. I was never the same after that. Even to this day when you put me around two or more females I cringe and feel like I want to run.

[@rosannacastillo7903]

I know how you feel. I do feel in female friendships there is a real hierarchy. Often people who are not the nicest but are bossy are popular. I also think if you are a gentle, easygoing person, women see this as weakness and don't respect you.

[@nginawright55]

On this year you made this video I was entertained what I didn't know was a upsetting friendship loss.

[@cedar85t1]

😂 You have described my life! How come people like us don’t find each other in daily life? I think we just retreat to the safety of our homes and solitary hobbies and own our awkwardness. I am almost 55 years old and don’t understand either, although I have tried.

[@sallylebrun8054]

I know what you mean, I have actually been the one who dumps too. I think it's normal for friends to come and go and if circumstances mean it becomes more of an effort to meet up people drift apart too. The two ladies probably either didnt think anything of you standing there, maybe they assumed you were meeting someone or maybe they wanted to talk to eachother in private about something going on with one of the two of them. My best friends I met on netmums and we talk on watsapp mostly and meet up every now and then. That works better as a support system we talk daily day and night about everything. It's because there's no pressure to physically be somewhere but the support is always there. We would drive over in an emergency etc. It is better than having school run friends etc that become relied upon to fill our day, school runs are better acquaintances and never last in my experience. Seeing the no. Of subscriber's creeping up. Well done x

[@JaneDoe-rj3is]

Teenager here, just had a best friend just dump me for someone else about 3 months ago. I was so shocked and honestly still am. I thought we would last. This honestly seems to be happening ever since I was a little girl. It sucks. I don’t have any close friends anymore. It causes such self doubt. Am I clingy, am I too open, am I mean, am I toxic??? I don’t know anymore.

[@winning3329]

Sounds like they were never your real friends in the first place. Don't give up and keep searching and vet and vet and vet people before trusting them.

[@sophiemarie7125]

I think other women are scared of women who don’t fit a “ type” if you’re boisterous one moment and quiet the next and if you’re confident enough to talk to anyone I find women get confused and don’t trust you. I have a very harsh way of speech , I don’t piss about and I swear like a sailor , I certainly don’t play the whole social game and high pitch girl talk so maybe that’s why.

[@perikaratas6547]

İ normaly do not comment but could not let this pass,problem is not you its the society nowadays want a Friend that they can materialisticly benefit from, maybe because you are very strong willed and self sufficient it makes them feel crap and useless next to you and just don’t want to face that.

[@LivinganOrganisedLife]

Mmm now that's an interesting idea. It's so hard to know how you come across to other people. Perhaps I'll carry out some quiet market research of my friends and see what they think. You've certainly got me thinking!

[@Maremare680]

Peri Karatas 👍🏽