16: Get More Love by Talking Less! Tell Him This Instead... |

[@xScarlingx]

My bf said to me this week. Babe, I really appreciate when you say “I trust you’ll figure it out!” Very very randomly. He said it makes him feel like “wow, she believes in me so I have to try” He said sometimes its not what he wants to hear but it makes him WANT to step up lol I really didnt think it helped him but he said it so out the blue that I actually feel so grateful for you. Thank you Adrienne.

[@saraiannaccone1790]

I have friends like that. Yes it’s exhausting. Knowing this, I monitor my talking. Thank you for sharing. 😊

[@andreaflynn7458]

I love this! You always give AMAZING advice for being in your feminine energy! Which by the way I struggled with a lot, but over the years of listening to you…I’ve been able to drop down into my feminine energy more & more. Many thanks 🙏🏻

[@SahraMahamed]

Adrienneeeeee, this one!!!!! 👏🏾 This video resonated with me so much! I felt like every story you shared was somehow a little message to me directly about my relationships. I could go on and on about how being silent and removing all energy from the man and being in my body has made the man hyper aware of me and come towards me. It’s so fascinating. I find your message really impacts me and has only made me into the best version of myself. I am so grateful to Allah(God) that I found you. May you be blessed.

[@sliverscreen]

Perfect timing! Just what I needed to learn. Thank you❤

[@amandaroberts6822]

It has been so helpful. I want to practice silence this week. Thank you! ❤

[@dinner-at-the-diner]

So wise! Another really useful really helpful video. thank you

[@homemakerandglamour29victo29]

First one :) been watching you for years thank you for all the helpful advice ♡ ❤️

[@ab.a683]

Thank you for the great advice you’re giving us, I am so grateful to find your channel back in 2019. Merci 😊

[@ewakowal2482]

Great episode ❤️Just like all of the rest ❤️ Thank you Adrienne

[@prettysloth]

My last partner talked my ears off. No dialogue, just him talking at me for minutes on end. I felt so uncomfortable to even contribute to the conversation. When I told him how I felt, it was clear no one had ever called him out before. I tried a lot to ask him to slow down, but he would just stare at me blankly and continue. In general he was very in tune with his femininity, which I liked at first. But I wonder if that had to do with his talking behavior?

[@totadol]

John Gray always recommends women to talk more .. he says that listening is a masculine energy .. how do we combine this with your advise Adrienne?

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Depends on what “talk more” means. I’m all for being succinct to ease up on endless chatter that clutters the male brain. Men do not process language like women do. Ask any man: honey, should I talk more? - and let him honestly answer you.

[@summermurphy69]

Actually, I find with my guy... he can get into a over talk mode often and I feel drained. I call it talky-tom. What do we do if it's reversed?

[@piulamena1088]

Love u💕

[@raerivera5676]

This is soo me!❤ thank you!

[@ninaelisabetheitrem8368]

I really learn something from you! Thank you

[@snamalungelohadebe718]

Thank you for this topic❤❤❤

[@Niush]

This was a wonderful episode, so many gems. Thank you. ❤

[@joanne5275]

Thanks!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Thank you for your support ❤️

[@lishaIsabella]

I love Silent Retreats!

[@alejandra6418]

Hi Adrienne♡ I have a question about boundaries. The thing is that every time I draw one with my boyfriend he tells me that what I'm doing is blackmail and things like that and when I explain to him that it's not, that it is how I feel, he answers me with excuses about his behaviour, what should I do? Maybe I'm not saying my boundaries in the right way? F.e. One of them was "weeell okis, but if you keep forgetting to listen to them (I was talking about the audios I sent to him via message) I'm not going to send more aldndknd I feel ignored". And I replied to his excuses with "I know but I still feel this way and that's why I'm not going to do something that makes me feel bad"

[@LA-cm9uo]

I think this he feels it's blackmail because you gave him an "if...then" statement, which is essentially trying to make a specific outcome. It's hard to communicate boundaries and have them respected, because having a boundary is literally trying to prevent certain outcomes - which are not in our control. Adrienne has talked a lot about talking from your feelings: you could try saying "When you forget to listen to my voice messages, it hurts me." And leave it at that. Obviously at first he is not going to immediately change his behavior, and neither are you. It takes a lot of practice on your end to remember to speak this way, and ultimately it's up to him if he chooses to continue to act in ways that he knows that hurt you or not.

[@alejandra6418]

@L A thank you♡ I will try it. We broke up almost two months ago, and I'm devastated, but I can practice this from now on

[@LA-cm9uo]

@@alejandra6418 ohmygosh! you'll get through it... please talk to me. we can talk anytime. i also went through several breakups. tell me everything

[@alejandra6418]

@L A thank you, you're so kind😊 and I'm sorry that you also have to go through that, it's something normal that every person will go through at least once, but it's still really painful, it literally feels like our hearts are being torn. Now, it doesn't hurt as much as the beginning of the breakup, but I still miss him and sometimes I feel hurt by thinking that he's also feeling this way

[@ashleyoverholt449]

How do men and women, handle, jealousy from other people. How to deal, with other people, spreading lies, behind your back. Because, this is happening with, me and my new boyfriend. Maybe you could, do a podcast, on this topic, as well.

[@sage9710]

Thank you for this! I was wondering if you could help me with a question: What do I do if I’m coming across as low maintenance with a guy I’m just starting to talk to? I’m afraid this might make him less likely to put in effort or take me to nicer places etc

[@AdrienneEverheart]

First what does low maintenance mean to you? Is this about being uncomfortable and not expressing needs, desires or boundaries?

[@sage9710]

@@AdrienneEverheart so when he asked for suggestions for a first date, I suggested this local mall (which happens to be dead) to grab ice cream. I don’t drive and this was a convenient location for me. In hind sight, that’s not really a place for a first date but I wasn’t taking this guy seriously. Im also in my mid 20s. Anyways, he is like let’s go somewhere with a better ambiance and we ended up going to a better cafe. He was shocked that I would suggest that. I asked my friends if I suggested an appropriate place and they were like “why would suggest that mall??” Because it may reflect on how low my expectations are. My personality is also laid back but physically, I try to look my best and dress nicely. I just don’t want this to be a lasting impression of me and I don’t want him to not try just because he thinks my expectations are low or value me any less. I know this is a small thing but these things add up and the guy ends up undervaluing me -which happened in the past. When people see me from the outside, they might expect someone high maintenance but I’m very friendly and approachable. I don’t have a problem with expressing my boundaries but I don’t want him or any guy think I’m “easy” What do you think? Thank you for your reply 💕

[@acmb6763]

I’m not adrienne, but i would let him choose the dating location (this way you will know how much he is investing)… i would have said that i trust him to pick a place for us 😊