What I Wish I Would've Known Before Trying to Get Pregnant

Some things I wish I would have known before trying to get pregnant or some things I think are worth sharing. Enjoy!
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[@IC-yz4wz]

I really appreciate this video. Everyone in my family is very fertile so I just assumed I would get pregnant first try too. Nope. No one knows we're trying so I feel alone. My husband has been very supportive and reminding me it might just take time, it's still hard not to feel sad though. Everyone keeps asking me if I'm pregnant (even though for all they know I'm still on birth control) which makes it even harder on us. Everywhere I look there's baby this and baby that. All I've ever wanted to be was a mom... I fear infertility. This is the encouragement I needed, and the reminder to keep enjoying life outside of trying to get pregnant. Going to try to take a break from baby stuff for a while, and gonna take a break from negative pregnancy tests...❤️

[@M3GPie]

My cousin took a few years to get pregnant, but after her first baby, she’s had a really easy time getting pregnant. Hopefully you’ll get pregnant soon. Sending prayers your way. 😁

[@cbau2058]

My husband and I have been trying for several months. All my friends have kids, work colleagues who married after me now are pregnant or have had a baby, and I'm always quietly (thankfully) expected by both our families to get pregnant already or very soon. It sucks. I almost just want to have a baby just to not feel left behind or to make sure I'm not infertile. And it's sad because I know that me actually wanting a child is a small portion of wanting to get pregnant. But the biological clock is ticking right. Thanks for sharing your experience on here, it feels less lonely to hear ur story 💜 I wish you all the best in ur life. I hope u and hubby stay healthy and happy.

[@emmends1122]

The google black hole is so real! I googled 'can my cat tell I'm pregnant before I can' because my cat was 'acting weird'---uhm, he always acts weird!!

[@TheSenija]

😂😂😂

[@alyssachristine9028]

Lmffffao I’ve had these thoughts

[@kassidysoliday4249]

SAME 😂 my cats are already super cuddly but I thought maybe it was because I was pregnant… nope 😂 just cuddly cats

[@ayoo264]

It took me 2 years to get pregnant with my daughter a month after we stopped trying I got pregnant. She’s now 8 months old and We have now been trying to conceive our second child for 5 months since we want our children really close in age. This video is pretty helpful so thank you!

[@caseyjohnson8010]

I think you made this video for me! Thank you so much for this! I needed to hear this. I have felt like a crazy person for the past 3 months. Sending everyone watching this positive vibes and baby dust

[@leabeauvais4550]

Thank you for this! So many videos on "ttc tips" and "how I got pregnant fast." This was really refreshing and real! My googling black hole days are now over now that I am TTC and it didn't happen right away. So easy to get caught up in it all but so stress-inducing. Much love!

[@sunaya2007]

Thank You So Very Much..These are ALL the things I needed to hear on having just started my TTC journey ! ♥️

[@alxlscn6036]

So helpful, Victoria! Saving this video for the future 😊

[@poojapatil2337]

I must say...u r d only person I came across till now who actually is speaking so logically n I am actually feeling much calmer aftr watching ur video dn b4....I too am caught up in d series of videos giving ideas which helped people to conceive in jst few tries....n I am too obsessed wid googling each symptom I gt and at d end got upset whn I gt my period....so yes...u did help me to calm down n nt to get all stressed abt it...Big Thank you...🙏

[@zionnichole]

Awesome video! Extremely informative and ON POINT!

[@Across_The_Ocean_Story]

That is what happened to me...got pregnant at our first try. I think mostly because it was spontaneous and I was not stressed out or pressuring myself to have a child. Basically, during sex, we decided this is the time! It was very in the moment and emotional but also we did think about having a baby for months so this time just felt right. I think it is important to get pregnant when your relationship is in a great place and you feel connected and loved. I got pregnant and remember the exact day it happened and pretty much right away I knew we conceived. I have 17 more weeks to go with our healthy baby girl.

[@sadikayasminnn]

So good to hear❤ I hope you and your baby are fine

[@FatimahsFiles]

Awesome tips for myself and peace of mind, thank you!

[@karinacangiarella1298]

👏🏻 Omg I appreciate this video so much I feel like this is exactly what I’ve been doing as far as obsessing over TTC . My husband and I are trying it’s been almost 3 months and I got my period today 😔. but You’re video has made me feel so Much better I love your energy - thank you so much for this, no one is alone and it does take time ❤️

[@StilettoFashion411]

Wow I needed this, thank you!

[@michellepfister1462]

This was so helpful, thank you!

[@vimby4268]

Great video, very informative and honest

[@christinakoufoudakis7657]

You are so lovely and this was such a helpful video to help me out of my rabbit hole of anxiety and fear. Thank you!

[@MargaritaDeiDeus]

Aaaaw....this moved me to tears. Seeing you so wanting the pregnancy test to be positive. Going through all those months taking tests and all that. I'm so happy for you. Your baby is very lucky to have a mom like you. A mom that tried so hard to love her/him to life. A moms love.....the greatest love on earth. It's so beautiful!! Congrats! :)

[@goldieravenouseats1056]

I really thoroughly enjoyed this video. Myself and my husband, who is also my Highschool sweetheart of 10 years, are finally planning our first. We are still 2 months out, I started taking prenatals and im so excited like giddy! Ive always wanted this and it feels right, of course i cant share it with any one so im bursting at the seams but today i found a crib and changing table FOR FREE on fb market place that im going to redo 😊

[@anabelenpita9625]

"Drink more water"... (inmediately take my water and drink it in gallons lol) .. I saw you using the strips in your Pregnancy announcement video and inmediatley ordered them in amazon! Cheapest option to test all the times you need for your own sanity lol

[@alibri8388]

I just grabbed water while watching too🤣

[@traceybell9167]

I really appreciate this video. I’m on cycle 4 of trying to get pregnant and it has really started to stress me out. It feels like everyone around me is getting pregnant or having their babies. We are going to take a break this month (Jan 2020) and just focus on us, our health, and enjoying our time. I will probably keep coming back to this video to help me feel sane. Thank you so much 💕

[@user-ug9hc6lt4s]

I'm on cycle 2, just got my period today. I'm watching this video because I was so so certain i was pregnant this month! I was 2 days late on my period, had what I beleived was every symptom but big fat negative pregnancy tests. I was so set back.. I just presumed it was easy to get pregnant cause this is what we were told from very young!

[@revannomor2891]

It's probably going to happen when you stop trying.

[@megancovington2719]

Im on cycle 3 🥺 cross my fingers for this month

[@Blankphotograph5799]

I just find it super wild how hard it is for people who want kids to get pregnant but people get accidentally pregnant all the time

[@dontaskdonttell_]

Infertility isn’t THAT common🤨🧐 Also, most forms of modern birth control are highly effective if used correctly as per the instructions. However, there’s a reason they list two different %’s of effectiveness on those charts at Planned Parenthood. Missed birth control pills, unintended patch removal, torn condoms, drunk/high sex, etc. Look into reproductive coercion as well. So many factors as to why so many unplanned pregnancies occur. It’s not just due to unprotected sex.

[@phanterleo]

This is so true, thanks for sharing! We’re ttc month 4. I do little videos on my phone where I just talk to myself about what’s going on when I need to- just like you said: you need a space to brain vomit. I started charting in the third month and upgraded my cycle app to a premium version and it’s really helped me understand my own body and I’ve found it helps me rationalise my expectations. However I have seen a lot of women on that app who seem to be increasingly „crazy“ about symptom spotting ect just like your example and it’s definitely not healthy:/ hope everyone whose ttc gets their healthy baby. I just keep telling myself that it will happen when it’s time :)

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[@briemound]

Happy Mother’s Day Victoria!!!

[@tonibraden9390]

So happy for you. And a huge thank you for everything you do ❤💯

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[@earthlingathlete1943]

My hubs and I made a solid attempt at making a baby. I took an early pregnancy test after my 1 day late period on our anniversary. It was negative, so I said yes to a glass of wine. Several days later, I was feeling “odd” and still no period. Next test said pregnant..... next time I will skip the wine until my cycle, but luckily kids are pretty sturdy and my baby came out fine.

[@FemmeHead]

I've heard countless stories of gals going out for a night and then finding out they were pregnant. Definitely not the end of the world if you accidentally do drink before you find out you're pregnant.

[@kimberlystutter5967]

Very good info I’m glad you don’t ramble on like some KZbinrs

[@ArtelaA]

loved your video. practical and on point!

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[@betweenworkandlife5466]

Couldn't have agreed with you more.. thanks for sharing such.. youtube is full of 9 dpo test crap . Much needed such right information

[@saifullahialhassan1298]

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[@dandinicole]

I am sooo happy you made this video right now. My partner and I just started ttc a little over a month ago. I have been charting for a long time so naively thought ‘I know my body so if I have sex on these days I’ll for sure get pregnant right away’. I was pretty bummed and thinking the worst when my period came along, but watching this made me realize I just need to chill out haha

[@FemmeHead]

Charting gives you such valuable information about your body and cycle, but I 100% thought I would get pregnant right away because I charted. But that's not the case. You know what you need to do, take a deep breath and try and enjoy the process ❤️

[@jolie08]

did you get p?

[@dandinicole]

@@jolie08 Yes :) I was pregnant and didn’t know it yet when I wrote that comment! Have a 17 month old baby boy now 😁

[@jessabeauty917]

Not on this video, but please share a remedy for menstration related overheating. I’ve taken your course.

[@StephD4207]

Cervical fluid is everything, yes

[@e.m.c8023]

I really e joyed your video... Very natural and down to earth... Good advice... Some videos women put on a fake sweet voice or annoying video voice... So refreshing to hear your thoughts related to alot and made me laugh 👍

[@erikaguevara9070]

Thank you so much. ❤

[@michaelonyekachi5966]

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[@faithkfarris]

This is the video I needed today. Thank you for helping me feel a little less alone.

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[@brilliantlightphoto]

This is the most helpful video I have watched on this. Thank you!

[@autahassan143]

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[@andrearichard1583]

Victoria, thank you for the video. I was feeling Obsessed, sad seeing negative after negative. I stopped after finding endometriosis. I could not take the pressure anymore. I am still trying but I have relaxed a lot and calm myself. Even thought it has been over a year, I feel much better. Using OPK did not help me at all because I knew I was ovulating and that was just a confirmation but also pressure for timing intercourse. So I quit the opk.

[@gemmaartner2780]

I honestly don't know if this was just a coincidence or not but when we started trying two months ago, the first month I stopped drinking coffee and that month my cycle was crazy weird. My body set itself up to ovulate and then didn't untill 5 days later than usual. Then the next cycle I had my morning cup of coffee each day and my cycle got back to normal 🤷‍♀️ since then I'm going a lot easier on myself with what I can and can't do.

[@maayans.181]

You mentioned weed, do you know if it's ok when it's vaping, not smoking (medical)?...

[@amandanaranjo7813]

wow this was really helpful for me thank you so much for making this

[@autahassan143]

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[@TheSenija]

Great tips, very helpful! Could you please share what primrose oil you used to boost your cervical fluid?

[@FemmeHead]

This is the Primrose Oil (before ovulation): amzn.to/2HaBcC6 and this is the Flaxseed oil (after I ovulated): amzn.to/2LABwyn

[@TheSenija]

@@FemmeHead Great, thanks! :)

[@brittanymurray2582]

This is crazy I'm 35 and have no idea what she's talking about! I really wish my mother or anyone would have taught me something about my period and body. I still feel I must hide everything and not talk about it

[@sadikayasminnn]

Oh thats so sad... but honestly I too didn't get taught about so much about my body from my closed one's... internet has been a blessing, thanks to all the ladies who share stuff like this . This is so important.

[@Bratincevicsb]

What do you think actually helped you get pregnant finally? When there doesn't seem to be anything wrong and you time intercorse perfectly, with good cervical fluid, why does it not necessarily work?!

[@aliesefitch1099]

Maybe research a little about what has to happen in your body to get pregnant! It was my very favorite thing to study in college (I studied child development) because SO many tiny details go into conceiving. It's a miracle every single time.

[@tashaneville3326]

This video is so informative! Thank you! This is my first month trying and I’m so nervous but also so hopeful and excited Keeping all this information in mind

[@blazinfiyahmanentertainmen2917]

Do you think working at nights can mess up ovulation?

[@moleighful]

My weird brain is super happy that there’s a Jodi Piccoult book on each of your sides! 😂

[@goddessflower4018]

I spotted 3!!

[@zoepermenter1213]

THANK YOU for the Amazon test strip recommendation.. my husband has been stressing about how much 2 tests cost at the grocery store. He keeps telling me I'm going to spend all of our money on pregnancy tests LOL

[@FemmeHead]

For sure! They add up so quickly. And having the bulk pack takes the stress out of spending so much money on tests.

[@laurielo7800]

please share your TTC affirmations

[@FemmeHead]

Just posted them to my blog! (femmehead.com)

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[@MyWhiteCoatJourneyMD]

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[@theblackunicorn1045]

Hey! I just quit the pill and am about to start my ttc journey! Do you have a video on how to get your period back after being on hormonal birth control? xoxo 💕

[@susanb5234]

All of the ob/gyns I have seen have told me it's possible to come off the pill today and get pregnant almost immediately, like within the 1st month. The older you are and longer you've been on the pill it can take a little longer, a couple of months or so. It all depends on you and your body since everyone is different. But it is possible to conceive right away.

[@MaayanLovesUnicorns1]

The only issue I’m having at the moment is a friend of my husbands and I keeps telling me it’s perfectly ok to have some alcohol when I’m pregnant....? I’m refuse because first off, I’ve never even really cared for drinking, and second off, I’m pregnant. She tells me all the time “I would smoke and drink sometimes while pregnant and he’s fine”. It BLOWS my mind that someone would do that knowing they are pregnant. But as soon as I color the ends of my hair, she tells me husband “she should not be doing that”. There are some crazy people in this world and I don’t want to be rude to her or her husband but sometimes I just want to say “I am not risking my pregnancy like you decided to do”. Did/does anyone else have an crazy stories like this?

[@FemmeHead]

How interesting! I know people who didn't know they were pregnant and drank/smoke, and their kid turned out healthy and fine. And I've heard that a little alcohol is fine, but I'm just not interested. I've already made it 7 months, I can handle a few more. But I wouldn't smoke (normally either) and it's always crazy to see pregnant people smoking on reality TV shows (I'm thinking of one about young moms in England). I had a lady at the airport critiquing me about drinking coffee, and I was like "Listen here, I get one cup of coffee a day, this is that cup, my baby is fine."

[@MaayanLovesUnicorns1]

FemmeHead exactly! I have coffee once in a while and my OB has said that is totally fine. And I’ve also heard of women who didn’t know they were pregnant have some alcohol and their baby was fine. I think it just bothers me so much because they continue to offer me alcohol when I’m not interested and I continue to say that it’s probably not the best idea to be taking shots and having hard liquor during pregnancy, and I’ve already had some issues (which have been resolved) with the baby (he is 100% healthy 🙏🏽). I guess everyone runs into some crazies once in a while 😆 but the same people judge me for coloring my hair and say that it will harm the baby 🤷🏻‍♀️ to each their own I guess!

[@elisworld341]

I’ve done everything to increase my CM. Water, EPR, grapefruit, mucinex; chia seeds and never have I seen the fertile cm 🥺

[@Holly-wm5gm]

I’ve heard (sorry TMI) to wipe BEFORE you go to the bathroom and you should see cervical fluids. I’ve realized that I see (sorry again) globs my cervical fluids at the bottom of the toilet so I started wiping before. I hope this helps!

[@elisworld341]

@@Holly-wm5gm thanks!!

[@michaelonyekachi5966]

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[@KayForbey]

I am not currently pregnant nor am I trying, but why should you stop smoking weed when you are TRYING to conceive? I thought it was okay to partake, but stop once you are pregnant. I’m curious!

[@MA__]

It's just not well studied, so people think why risk it?

[@BalconySofa]

I just did a search, seems like there are a few studies showing that marijuana use may delay ovulation, possibly by affecting LH production amongst other hormonal effects. Weed tolerance could decrease this effect, and timing probably matters.

[@user-ct7zj8ry6s]

Why should stupid people have kids?

[@beckiemua]

If u don’t get pregnant when u try for 8months are you barren?

[@adrienne4091]

No way! It takes so many women several years.

[@shyannethurman5650]

I don't understand why people are so okay with drinking But not smoking Like Weed Sorry to say but I see way more issues with drinking alcohol then smoking a blunt

[@harrietisrael8351]

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[@catsforever3999]

You were worried about poisoning your baby but your not worried about poisoning your own body with the alcohol lol