FENTANYL KILLS: Heidi Kettles' Story

[@Globelle]

Thank you for sharing your story about your beautiful daughter. I lost my stepson to fentanyl and now my son is fighting addiction. This is absolute torture.

[@Indiscrazyworld]

PRAYING FOR YOUR SON IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN

[@alisondawson5116]

I am sorry, your have been, and are going through this tremendous pain. I cannot even imagine. To not only lose your stepson and now to be fighting this battle through and with your son must be, what you said, absolute torture. I am so very terribly sorry for you. God bless and help you. 🇦🇺💔xoxox

[@juliekaykettles]

❤ May the Lord be with you, strengthen you and give you wisdom concerning your son...so sorry you are going through this. Pray for him and get others praying, too, is my suggestion.

[@glowinthadark]

The fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much❤

[@MariaEMora-x8x]

How sad😢😢. Addictions are Satan's work

[@kimcheek8027]

Mother-daughter relationships can be so complex, multi-layered, very emotional! 💕🙏🏻

[@juliekaykettles]

So true...glad you relate.

[@protectyourself33]

This is absolutely true. And it doesn't stay the same it evolves. But the love is always there and unconditional.

[@DJ-nk4dq]

I was thinking the same watching this mother’s flat affect as she told the story of her daughter in a matter of fact way. Yet, I know the layers and complexities involved, other factors playing into it, etc. 😢

[@len6871]

@@DJ-nk4dq flat..on the facts indeed

[@patrinajasso5689]

Money means nothing the laughter and closeness Is what is the best.

[@Badgyalchunli]

Addiction ran in my family until it ran into me❤️I pray for recovery for all

[@Indiscrazyworld]

AMEN PRAISE JESUS THANK YOU LORD

[@juliekaykettles]

If you are struggling with grief or mental health issues I just want you all to know about my KZbin channel where I upload videos on how to deal with those weekly: youtube.com/@juliekaykettles?si=QSatEWPwS9Jo4252

[@ValerieGriner]

It runs in my family, too. My beloved uncle committed suicide at a fairly young age. His own father was a raging alcoholic. I choose to remember my uncle's GOOD days...before he was addicted. I believe that God has mercy on these people. God is good.

[@TeeNicole10]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@cooperscreditconsultingint6792]

Amen!

[@alisonbeckles5191]

When one mother cries all mothers cry strength to the family during this difficult period,glad to see the family is doing something positive out of a negative to help get the message out there

[@juliekaykettles]

Thank you for your comment and I'm glad you're encouraged

[@juanadrianrobaina5763]

No more drugs is the message,too much trouble including drunk driving,loosing ones life,destroyed families 😮😢😢😢

[@scarlettmartinmd9131]

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my son at 22 as well. No matter what age or reason no parent should outlive their child.

[@Indiscrazyworld]

PRAYING FOR YOU IN JESUS NAME AMEN

[@juliekaykettles]

Thank you so much and so sorry for your loss. May you receive God's comfort and Grace and healing.

[@Kimber-san]

I’m so sorry for your loss and pain. Prayers to you 😢

[@MaryOdwyer-ur1ty]

Sorry for your loss, my 2 sons suicided, drugs! Mary from Australia

[@alisonp3398]

I’m a 50 year old woman and never wanted children. The main reason was my family history. My dad’s side suffered terribly with depression and my mom’s side with alcoholism, both with which I deal with. However; I can absolutely feel the pain of these families. I mean really coming to tears kind of shit. I’ve watched these videos from the beginning, so much that I carry Narcan in my car every day. These people all passed because of one decision and that breaks my heart. To all of you dealing with this epidemic, I truly am sorry for your losses and I hope one day you may find peace. ❤ 🙏

[@Indiscrazyworld]

GOD BLESS YOU IAM PRAYING THAT YOUR ARE THE GENERATIONAL BREAKER IN YOUR FAMILY IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN TRUST JESUS NOTHING IS TOO BIG FOR OUR LORD GOD

[@joshdance9959]

I hope you're doing ok ❤️

[@stacyjaye6350]

Man, the things we did in the seventies! And most of us lived to tell the tale. If you overdosed, it was a true overdose, not poisoning.

[@Elizabeth_PDxxx]

@@stacyjaye6350 exactly.

[@BeaIEngio]

​@@stacyjaye6350 so true, I grew up in the 80s and wonder if I'd have survived my teens if I was growing up now.

[@pam164]

A lot of these young people have kids but carry on like they have no responsibilities, taking drugs, heavily drinking and putting themselves first. They o/d and the poor children are left.

[@sciencenotsrigma]

It is sad when that happens. Respectfully, the great physician who ran therapeutic housing for people with addictions, Gabor Mate, says Substance Use Disorder is always more complex than partying. It is usually (Mate say always) rooted in deep trauma. Addiction, in itself, is rooted in the brain’s ancient survival system and it is unbelievably hard to argue with, as it shuts down nerve pathways to the prefrontal cortex. It’s a terrible disease that happens to good people. They are suffering and need love and professional help. I can tell that this mother loved her daughter, deeply and I believe that this young woman was a good person, who cared for about someone who was struggling with addiction and had hurt her, badly, in his illness. Tragically, she was poisoned, while she was trying to overcome a terrible disease. I wish to God her mother had been allowed to adopt her children. 💔

[@juliekaykettles]

I hear you... it's so important for all of those who are struggling with mental health issues to get help in a healthy way instead of turning to substances.

[@stuff1784]

Exactly

[@poproberta]

@@LadyBoudicca that is why it is banned in Europe and is not promoted in the media. around here he is only known by those interested in his field. But the plague of fentanyl has not reached here yet.

[@mael2039]

There really need to be more rehabs for parents and children to stay at together. Where not only a mother or father can get therapy and get on substitution if needed and get clean but also have social workers supervising and supporting their parenting. The existing programs are very successful and are often the last chance for families to stay together.

[@jillhorkley9158]

Alcohol and drugs numb the spirit and soul. It is so hard to reach them when the spirit is numb. I am so sorry for your loss 🌹

[@yvonnedeboer7535]

A lot if times that's exactly why I did drink and used drugs.

[@loriannrichardson7644]

Yes. And in listening to this mother, it seems she practiced not showing her emotions/feelings. Perhaps this was passed on to her daughter who could not cope in that way. It's important to express one's emotions and to allow oneself to feel. This is how we learn to cope; it's like building emotional muscle.

[@AngelaTheCrazyDogMom]

There's usually underlying trauma that starts the need to numb ourselves. From a recovering addict who was molested as a child and SA'ed by a "friend" at 20 years old. Then at 33 I was attacked again and stabbed over 40 times, beaten in the head with a pistol, and left for dead. The trauma is what causes us to want to numb ourselves, if Even for a little bit.

[@elexis3728]

You know, I’ve never thought about it like that before but it’s so true. It’s incredibly hard to reach a person who has been turning feelings and/or emotions off.

[@eurekamreum5458]

But what about ayahuasca?

[@pdig2963]

I feel your pain .Fentanyl took my daughter on September 29th, 2023.😭 RiP Carrie Lynn 💔 08/10/1981 09/29/2023

[@KimfromMichigan-x2u]

🙏🙏RIH CARRIE LYNN🙏🙏

[@Elizabeth_PDxxx]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤❤❤❤

[@Kimber-san]

I’m so sorry for your loss of Carrie. Blessings to you.

[@juliekaykettles]

I'm so so sorry for your loss... I just encourage you to accept and embrace what you're going through and have a support system. Be kind to yourself and patient.

[@kateschroth3304]

Very Sorry For Your Loss, it is devastating to lose a family member. My condolences

[@deanawells4395]

As a parent I try my very best to always have open honest conversations with my children even the toughest subjects.

[@stacyjaye6350]

Even birth control? For instance, my son knows that a condom also needs spermicide to be effective. For women, there are like 27 different kinds of birth control. Unplanned pregnancies have ruined many lives.

[@stuff1784]

You have to ❤

[@stuff1784]

@@stacyjaye6350Yes, and you can get a free IUD at Planned Parenthood that lasts for 5-7 years!!

[@tianalee4126]

@@stacyjaye6350what are you talking about right now dude?

[@卵-n6e]

@@stacyjaye6350 Ok and? It's simple. There's different ways to take birth control. Orally, topically, implants.. they all last different time periods. Per day, per week, per month, per year.. Literally just talk about what their preferences are. If your girl can't reliably take it daily, try a patch. If they're okay getting an implant, try the arm one that lasts 3 years. This isn't complicated.

[@rainbowoflight]

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot understand how her children got adopted to people who aren't even family, but I think being the maternal grandmother, you should be able to fight to get that kids in your custody! They are your grandchildren. Sending lots of love.

[@ClaireBeatty]

There’s probably more to the story in that regard.

[@GentlRebel]

Same. I cannot fathom seeing my baby granddaughter adopted by strangers. Totally incomprehensible. My heart is broken for all of them, the children and the grandparents.

[@cherryjohnson6632]

I was just about to say this. She needs to petition the courts. But depending on how long the children have been with the adopted family, the judge may not want to disturb their placement without probable cause.

[@chimom7112]

I am in that situation. I'm trying to get my grandchild back from the person his dad gave him to. Seems like a no-brainer but it's not unfortunately. As dad has custody even tho he doesn't have him the courts still go for dad over grandma.

[@jacquelinesylvester9900]

How can you tell when some is on fentanyl

[@fritziskunterbunteschaos9173]

My husband always says: not everyone who does Marijuana will eventually do Heroin. But everyone who does H has at some point done Marijuana.

[@Novi903]

Exactly 😢

[@theandersonsfamilyfunshow862]

I am binging these and another drops. Good lord we need help. These are back to back we are loosing so many people.

[@TexasPictures]

We also have a series of addiction recovery stories with happier endings that you might find interesting. Here's a link to the playlist: From Addiction to Recovery - kzbin.info/aero/PLdCPA32W_p39Z8hi7xSIX3Fkqmhd7mRzj

[@Jay_Rock87]

Same, I am binging & just noticed it was just posted 25mins ago 🥺🥺🥺

[@kimcheek8027]

What a tragedy! Thank you so much for sharing your daughters story! 🙏🏻💕

[@juliekaykettles]

You're welcome and it was not easy to tell this much of my story in the first time I've done so.

[@lifewithdeedee3392]

I would have immediately got my grandkids as soon as I found our they were in foster care. You did a great job mom and dad. I'm so sorry this happened to you

[@angelabordack]

Mamma… you are still in pain and still very angry. I’m so sorry. I think you haven’t mourned yet, properly or accepted what has happened. I don’t know what that loss feels like. Please keep yourself safe and care about yourself ❤

[@juliekaykettles]

Humm... I have definitely worked through a lot of it, but, There's still a lot more to process. It's even harder processing living losses...

[@zariballard]

I would be in pain and angry for the rest of my life.

[@jessJBIRD1981]

I have had a friend (27) die from Alcohol. We are Native American. Our livers cannot handle booze. Honestly our culture can't. She had beautiful long gorgeous dark hair. She was tiny. When she was dying she got jaundiced and swelled. Horrible. I pray for all those addicts in active addiction, in recovery and those who have never even had an inkling to pick up and use.

[@Creep4EverMV588]

Last year I had my best friend die at 28 years old from alcohol... She was Chinese and also tiny but before she met me, she drank way too much alcohol everyday for almost 4 years apparently. Horrible to see her go like that also, her previous "friends" apparently saw her drinking too much face to face for all this time but didn't do anything to stop her because they thought that it was fine... Liver transplant couldn't save her, it sucks since she was a sweet person and regained control of her life but the damage was already done

[@nicolemariee7940]

Damn I'm small I love to drink and this hitzz

[@Patriots1262]

​@@nicolemariee7940me too

[@ahwell9984]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@eyeswideopen7777]

Why did she drink ​@@Creep4EverMV588

[@nangel270]

It’s not always trauma that drives people to use drugs. Some people are born with addictive personalities. Nothing you can do about it.

[@juliekaykettles]

I agree. Mental health, including grief, often helps drive those like that to substances.

[@oldwomanranting]

They have the propensity but often the person doesn’t find out until they start using. Then the war begins.

[@melsmith3662]

Addiction runs in my family. But there absolutely is tons you can do about it. Don't try drugs or alcohol period and you won't become addicted.

[@fritziskunterbunteschaos9173]

That's no excuse. You fight it. Just like every other addict. You fight the addiction, not the root cause. Most people don't get that deep.

[@brooklynrules6117]

That’s my story! Sober date 12/31/92

[@SkippySkippy-oy4eo]

We have to keep reminding our children…”It takes more courage to say NO, then it does to say YES!” Be courageous!😢🙏🏻❤

[@victorlopez-eq3yl]

Prayers for all who suffered from any addictions and for their friends and family

[@eppityrrell8236]

My son uses cannabis he has changed we don't really talk much anymore he's trying to deal with a disability that interferes with every area of his life it's so soul destroying I can see this mother's anger disappointment and frustration I wish you peace and happier days ahead ✨

[@angp931]

God Bless you sweetheart. You are so right about "moving through" the grief and I thank you for that. I lost my brother to fentanyl and recently my dad to a brief illness and the grief is truly overwhelming at times. I thank you for that insight it will help my family

[@stacyjaye6350]

My mom passed unexpectedly, even though she was 88. I did the best I could, my sister spent eight years buried in grief. My mom used to say, life is for the living. Carry on, soldier.

[@Elizabeth_PDxxx]

@@stacyjaye6350my mum said the same thing ❤

[@juliekaykettles]

Thank you so much for your comment and your heart... I'm so sorry for your losses... I'm so glad that something I said was helpful.

[@milena7043]

Not only did she lost her daughter but also her grandkids 😢. Texas Pictures Documentaries, thank you for sharing, God bless you 🙏.

[@TexasPictures]

We always appreciate your comments 🤗

[@XoxoMakeupLove]

That part broke me. Initially, I thought, “Well, at least they can adopt the 4 grandkids, so they’ll always have small bits of Heidi surrounding them.” Once she said that they weren’t able to adopt them, let alone see them, my heart shattered.

[@juliekaykettles]

❤ yes I did and it has been heart-wrenching. I'm very glad for God's peace and healing power in my heart that is helping me to heal.

[@juliekaykettles]

😢

[@amyalbernaz8687]

I wonder why so odd not to go to the grandparents of parents are no longer here unfortunately RIH prayers for the mom and family no mom no parent at any should hav to bury their own child. I lost a son and the pain is unimaginable and a pain like no other

[@SummerSong.17]

My heart breaks for you both. There are many judgmental people who have no idea what it feels like to lose a child. My prayers for you and thank you for disclosing this tragic time as I believe you'll help many. Heidi will be remembered.

[@jennifermcdaniel-therocket6757]

Thank you for sharing your story and hers. Mom of an addict. 100 days clean.

[@TexasPictures]

We also have a series of Recovery stories in our playlists that you might find interesting.

[@virgo7956]

Keep fighting!! One day at a time!! You got this!!!

[@virgo7956]

​@@TexasPictures Thank you for all you do!!!

[@FriscoLexusBabe415]

You can see this mama is crushed for not only her daughter’s death, but also mourning a mother-daughter relationship she never had but obviously wants. I’m sorry mama.

[@juliekaykettles]

You're very discerning

[@Slindo_M]

I’m the most open minded person I know but I’m so judgemental when it comes to children, I wish people didn’t have them until their situation is stable enough to have them. Children deserve so much better. Stories like these pain me so much 😢

[@jen2954]

Me too. Can't understand.

[@fritziskunterbunteschaos9173]

I rarely see eye to eye with the religious principles of no premarital sex. I've seen too many marriages fail or turn bad because they began for the wrong reasons. But with the ignorance of young people these days concerning sex and conception (total responsibility of parents and school curriculums) these days I've become a strong voice for don't do it if you can't face the consequences.

[@marciajones2993]

@@fritziskunterbunteschaos9173Contraception doesn’t always work. I got pregnant twice while on the pill. Once will the coil. I wanted 2 children and ended up with 5. 💙💙

[@karliann1]

Thank you for sharing your daughters story. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. ❤ This consequence is important. Matt is an example so others may think twice

[@LSTAR06]

Thank you for sharing Heidi's story. I hope that you are able to reconnect with your grandbabies one day.

[@hunnydoo7737]

These stories just get sadder and sadder, and the parents have done the best that they could, and even help their children financially in the midst of their drug use. I hope you don't beat yourself up too bad. I'm sorry for your loss

[@ssourrgummiez]

I was literally just thinking that in my head as i was listening to the story and scrolling the comments & i stopped at hours and read it and was like damn, took the words right out of my head LOL -- this has to be on or the saddest ones i have heard for a lot of reasons ( doesn't mean i don't think the rest of them aren't as sad or mean as much ) , i was just touched by this one different than the rest of them is all -- it's very clear to see this mother/daughter never had that relationship from the start ; now they never will & i think she is really torn apart by that... i feel it from her when she speaks , im even tearing up now just typing it to you... i could never even begin to imagine how any of them much feel.. Imagine not having any kind of relationship or good memories to hold onto after they're gone, i mean.... fuck-- i can only imagine those memories & relationships is what gets those parents by , remembering.... she doesn't even have that... that's fucking brutal... i think they have other children as well this couple , i'm glad they do because it they didn't idk if either one of them would be here, respectfully. All any of us can really do is just listen & pray for them all, the ones lost & the ones who get left behind ❤

[@hunnydoo7737]

@@ssourrgummiez Yes! You can see the Mom and Dad wanted the best for her, and saw so much potential in her. It's just unfortunate that once the drugs get them, they're basically gone.

[@juliekaykettles]

Thankfully I don't because I overall aim to die my best in all situations

[@EVIESECOND]

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is truly heartbreaking. 💔 🙏🏽 Thank you for sharing your story and doing what you can to make people aware.

[@Oceaneyes-eh6vs]

Thank you Mr.and Mrs. Kettles for sharing your story. As painful as it is, you are teaching others about the dangers of Fentanyl poisoning. Heidi was a beautiful young lady and mother. I hope that things will change with your grandchildren. It's tragic enough to lose your daughter and heartbreaking that you currently have to fight to have her children, your grand children back in your lives.I send my condolences to your both. God Bless you. 🙏

[@patchesblack7490]

Im so sorry you lost your beautiful Heidi. Thank you for sharing your story. These stories do help people. Im praying for your family 🙏

[@Betruetoyou30]

I am one week clean today, may God be with you all ❤ and please, anyone who is also in addiction, I hope we can learn from this video, and all the other ones on this channel, i am listening to one of these video every morning so that i don't get complacent ❤

[@TexasPictures]

Good job. We also have a series of recovery stories in our playlists that you might find interesting. Here’s a link. Journey from Addiction to Recovery Series kzbin.info/aero/PLdCPA32W_p39Z8hi7xSIX3Fkqmhd7mRzj

[@1earlebird1]

It’s so very important that you do this for these people lost. It’s heartbreaking and very necessary.

[@kianhu]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter 😢 you guys are great parents. Thank you so much for donating her organs and giving the gift of life to so many people ❤

[@juliekaykettles]

Really appreciate your condolences and encouragement. That was the most positive thing that came out of it that she elected to be a donor as I encouraged her to be and we got to put the seal on that.

[@WIPsandKits]

It is SO HORRIBLE that these grandparents aren’t allowed to have their grandchildren. I’m so sorry for your multiple losses, y’all!

[@Djamieson713]

it is funny how people are so adamant that marijuana isn't a gateway drug, but it seems like 99% of these stories start out with the kid smoking weed.

[@jasmynita]

Girl bye. Don't judge. And don't be RUDE! How insensitive. Every person is different with different circumstances so u can't compare ... I pray for you. God bless 🙏🏾✝️

[@dychui]

I shared the same sentiment - marijuana seems to be a recurring theme in these tragic stories

[@pam164]

100

[@Nigelsmom2136]

And now even weed is being laced with fentanyl. So people think they're safe by staying away from pills. Not anymore.

[@tracimanigault8713]

Definitely a gateway drug

[@misstabithasnails2314]

As a fifteen year old I used to say weed wasn’t a gateway drug. Until it was and I ended up using heroin. 🤷‍♀️

[@valerie2175]

I pray that your off the drugs now! Marajuana is absolutely a gateway drug!

[@trumpwon8064]

Weed isn't a gateway drug

[@airmacoric]

Alcohol is far greater of a gateway drug than weed. Weed doesn’t make me wanna do cocaine or stupid shit but alcohol sure does. * recovering addict myself*

[@Elizabeth_PDxxx]

Yup alcohol is more of a gateway drug however I think if you do more then you have an addictive personality. We take drugs daily (tablets etc) it doesn’t matter what it is you will go further for the high each time

[@tananario23]

That’s you. I never went past weed.

[@aprilmcgahhey522]

Praying for your continued healing. The whole grief process is harder when drugs are involved. It’s so heartbreaking. Hoping you can have reconciliation with your grandchildren. Very well done documentary - thank you.

[@flufwix]

I don’t understand why the grandparents didn’t get custody and were cut out. That seems very wrong

[@terriekurney6548]

I am guardian of my 2 grandkids (9&10). Mother and my son getting themselves together. Son 2 years in residential recovery program doing amazing. Trosco

[@kimberlymccarty6407]

I agree, something does seem very wrong.

[@lauriep6831]

This is a part of the story that was left out. Often CPS will consider placing the children with a family member if that person is able to adequately parent them. I'm curious about why these grandparents didn't get the kids. I think there's a lot of stuff underlying the situation here that we don't know - I guess that's true with everyone.

[@stacyjaye6350]

Thank you, I was thinking the exact same thing! Why oh why would you put kids in foster, when they have a grandparent willing and able to care for them. I swear, our system...😢

[@sheralynfeeney-smith4451]

Because the court systems are a mess. What's right doesn't always win

[@OrangeCopperTop]

Thank you so much for sharing your daughter's story, and I'm glad you're getting out and taking it all out there to kids, if it reaches and saves only 1, then it was worth it. This affects me personally, as I'm a mum with her kids (older now), and I was addicted to opiates before I had them, but addiction still impacts me in every other way you could think of.

[@capybaralvr]

this was a change, and was very interesting to watch from a different perspective. I know an addict who behaves similarly to this, and how drugs/alcohol completely ruined them, their personality and our relationship. It is bad decision after bad decision with them. While most stories from you guys are terribly sad, this was the one I connected to the most. Great work guys as usual

[@lindaheath779]

Such a brutally honest interview. I am so sorry this was your story with your daughter. You were amazing parents. I hooe you get some peace.

[@TradWifeyxo]

Watching these videos helps me to be more aware of the signs and behaviors of young people getting into drugs like this. I have 2 small children and although their teenage years arent for a while i am sick with worry my son or daughter will find themselves in this dangerous situation and i pray to god to help me be the best mommy i can be to stray them away from the curiosity of drugs.

[@juiicylin]

I'm sending positive vibes and hugs to you and your husband.I pray for your peace and for better days. God bless you.

[@00KMB00]

Her mom kept referring to her daughter’s bad behaviour as being “independent”. It’s not “independence” that she was displaying. It was DISOBEDIENCE.

[@CDN1975]

I think it is mom's way of coping.

[@sistatiph2308]

Sometimes we have to use words to make ourselves feel better about what happened

[@elvisbz]

when you become a teen and a youth in your 20's you want to know more about yourself, what are you are capable of w/o the influence or help of your parents...you will make a lot of mistakes and get into trouble and you most figure out to get out of that learning something...BUT when you get related with the wrong people and you are somewhat weak and immature, you can cross a HUBE LINE...the one that gets you to dangerous paths...Some of us as adults can talk about being miracously saved by circumstances..by someone who happened to be there and helped us..or by LUCK...& we got REALLY scared by this or these experiences and we tried to not be with this people, or this places or this situations anymore..We learnt from this scary or dangerous situation and we got more experience and got more mature..BUT not all people are capable of that. I'm deeply sorry for all of this kids,teens, youth or adults that are getting trapped in this leathal drugs by people that sell them and dont care.

[@SummerSong.17]

You know, as a woman who lost my baby daughter, I know what grief is. How about not talking about the disobedience of a girl that died and the judgmental remarks. Why? Bc it is just the right thing to do. Let this mom tell her own story, and if you don't like it, then just shut up! There was NO compassion to be found in your comment. I'm sure Jesus would agree.

[@robynlee5436]

I get it, mine were off the map with disobedience. It may be that there is an unspoken cultural thing that you don't speak evil of the dead, or that her kids might see this some day. Who knows?

[@camiflo1578]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@loriannrichardson7644]

Something isn't adding up. I've worked in CPS; how is it that the grandparents weren't allowed to get the grandchildren? Was there something in the grandparent's history that made them ineligible?

[@ilovegoodsax]

But can't CPS laws differ in each state? Maybe in TN the next of kin don't automatically get custody once a child(ren) becomes a ward of the state.

[@missg300]

yeah,i was wondering that too

[@melanieredfield9736]

It seems like the kids were in foster care for quite a some time, then later, adopted. It's hurtful for the grandparents to have lost their daughter AND grandchildren; but it's also important for the children to have stability, security and a sense of grounding. Maybe they are well established & thriving in their adoptive home(s), and being uprooted/readjusting to life in another state, with "new" and grieving adults (even their own blood relatives) just wouldn't be in their best interests. I do hope that these grandparents can maintain contact, though, because as the children get older they will want to know about their parents and their family history. It's still possible they can develop a close relationship, and reconcile when the time is right! I am so sorry for their loss and pain, but hope they will one day see this come full circle.

[@SisterSunshineTV]

There is much more to the story I am sure.

[@ssourrgummiez]

@@ilovegoodsaxthey do differ from state to state , so it's not uncommon , if that person worked for CPS you would think they would've known that 😏

[@BlackkOnyxx]

There’s something strange about the fact that those children were not with their grandparents initially. Kinship placement is so much easier than foster…..praying for comfort for your family….

[@yvettehindle3766]

I wish you and your family happiness! May your dear late daughter's soul rest in peace.😢

[@tlc0963]

I agree. It was Covid but why weren’t her parents allowed to have them? They would keep their momma’s memory alive. There is an entirely different love for a grandchild that I would be lost without them. That is wrong on so many levels.

[@Ventingthetruth777]

I hope everything works out for this mother and her grandchildren 💞

[@fernandosillas1]

There's a lot that are dying of overdosing on fentanyl in spokane washington, homeless people and regular people too

[@vahgeuvje10]

Sadly it's all over America now. They are poisoning our youth. 😢

[@someonesprincess3]

Fentanyl is being bought into the USA to purposefully kill off the younger generation. Our younger generation is fading and it’s sad what the world has become. May God help us all. 😢

[@stacyjaye6350]

Love Washington state, Love Spokane. Heartbreaking to see what's happening. Sending you strength, courage, and love, from Tulsa.

[@mtnshelby7059]

Mama did not sign up for this hell but how heroically she has risen to the challenge it brought. Amazing soul. ❤

[@juliekaykettles]

I appreciate your empathy and encouragement.

[@ValerieGriner]

She has a strong testimony. God will use this tragedy for good.

[@chico5817]

Thank you for sharing Mom

[@pam9231]

This mother is right. If your children refuse to live a normal productive life it is impossible to turn them around. Hard to accept or understand.

[@Amar1338]

Mom , You went above and beyond ...

[@juliekaykettles]

Thank you for discerning that... That was certainly my heart and aim

[@staceyloeffler6795]

Mom your courage in sharing your daughters story wil save many more lives, including mine. 35 days clean because of the heartache I hear grom parents like you. Thank you for speaking out.

[@Forever_yours44]

I didn’t know you could donate organs with drugs in them. I learned something new.

[@juliekaykettles]

I can't say I still understand all of it. they definitely prepare the body before they give the organs away. The young lady that got my daughter's kidney is doing very well.

[@investigacaoeleitv]

At the end of the day was her decision to take the drug knowing or not, but the environment facilitates the interactions we will have for life .We can’t always control the outcomes but definitely environment shape us.It’s so sad the number of people losing their lives because of drugs.We can see that her life was going downhill since she was a teenager .May God comforts her family .

[@karenhenderson5476]

Thank you for sharing your story. May your daughter's Spirit be near you and all the family members always especially the children. Heartbreaking beyond words what is happening with this crisis. Please keep getting the message out there to the children/parents.

[@principecaprincipeca2243]

She is such a strong woman 😮 She has gone through a lot. No blaming games, just the blunt truth. This was effective. Thank you, ma'ma for sharing your story 🌹 I know the movement her dad saw. My mother in law did the same, but it was movements, she made it constantly for a while, but that's just a reflex. Her brain was gone, we knew it. But yes, it was like trying to get up. She had a severe brain bleed. And I think it's wrong they cut out the maternal grandparents and gave the kids to adoption outside of the family is wrong! What happened to keeping families together?? They even send kids back to parents who can't take care of them to keep families together and they end up de@d! That decision was bs! Hugs to you both. ❤

[@flufwix]

Same for me with my mother. I still question whether it was just a reaction even though the doctors assured me it was. 😢

[@sciencenotsrigma]

I agree 100%!

[@juliekaykettles]

I really appreciate your comment. It's all messed up and all we can do is to try to turn it to the good and keep moving forward. God bless you.

[@davide.b8027]

This mom tells this story so beautifully

[@commonsense2680]

I am sorry for your loss, but unlike several of the Fentanyl stories she sounded like a bit of a narcissist with a chip on her shoulder. She seemed to lack humility, most addicts apologize all the time when sober, but the mother and the daughter clearly had problems. She was a drug addict who had so many children and abandoned them for drugs, it really is terrible, the kids had no parents essentially.

[@rumham7466]

It’s crazy how fast and furious this drug has come along and changed things. This wasn’t an issue a decade or even less, ago. I dabbled and experimented with different things. Luckily by some grace of the universe I never developed an addiction or problem. But we didn’t have to worry about weed or Ccaine or a pill being deadly because of fentanyl. I’m so glad those days are well in the past. I hope they talk about this in schools. And in younger grades. Another crazy thing is kids seem to be doing everything far earlier and younger than we ever did. And I grew up in the 90s, was in my 20’s in the 2000’s. So it wasn’t THAT long ago. But things are so darn different.

[@wishingyoupeace]

Thank you for sharing Heidi's story. Prayers for healing and comfort through your grief.

[@rachelcarrillo687]

Unfortunately you can come from a great home have thee BEST parents god fearing at that and still drugs don’t discriminate thank you for sharing her story

[@juliekaykettles]

I appreciate you're inside and your comment as I believe that's true. We can all say about where we went wrong, and yet we all need to realize it wasn't all our fault and to blame ourselves is not productive.

[@crystal227]

Thank you for sharing your grief. Thank you SO much for spreading the knowledge. 🫶 bless you

[@gn7743]

Such a sad sad story....so much parents have to go through to help their children.

[@malcolmandrews4942]

Addiction to drugs almost always begins with an addiction to the approval of one’s peers.

[@dorothymcguire737]

Thank you for sharing Heidi's story. I would think you would be able to see your grandchildren. I think it's wonderful that you talk at schools and try to find the positive in your tragedy. If everyone could just save one, what an impact that would be. God Bless you,& your family.❤

[@KirstySully]

Been smoking marijuana for over 20 years and my grandpa 35 years nothing else. It depends on the person’s mental state.

[@shweyashweya]

Lol. Yeah, keep lying.

[@Heidi-zr5wb]

Im so sorry 💔 I used to smoke a lot of weed , for decades. ..never ever did I want to try hard drugs ....or pills...but that's not everyone...now a lot is laced and people are dying...my sincere condolences....I'm a Heidi also...🙏♥️

[@gerijaquett388]

That's my story also, I was a teenager in the 70's

[@justme8837]

God bless this family....

[@CM-wf2uo]

These babies don’t deserve this start to life…already having drugs in their little bodies. 😔💔

[@Elizabeth_PDxxx]

My little one he’s 3, was born addicted to a drug I was (and I still do) take, coming off codiene I got help and wasn’t planning another baby, I was on a reduction plan and BAM I was pregnant with my husband’s baby (we have a 15 yr old who was 12 at the time) The doctors told me it’s easier for the baby to withdraw after birth as I could lose him if he was still in the womb. He had to stay in hospital for 2 weeks coming off this drug, he was shaking, it’s awful. He is 3 now and had autism and I blame myself daily. I let him down 😢

[@DebraGorman-j9q]

​@Elizabeth_PDxxx please don't blame yourself everyday! You did the right thing 100%! I was addicted to drugs I was prescribed which then I went onto buprenorphine and whilst on that I fell pregnant. They told me the same which is to stay on the meds as it was safer for my baby which resulted in us being in hospital for 2 weeks also after her birth. They won't ever remember how it felt and was the safest route for you and your baby at that time! Nobody in this planet wants that for their babies but these things happen and there's help and resources out there to help. I had horrendous guilt in the hospital but with the daily support from the drs and nurses made me realise that I done everything I could to make sure my baby was safe. not one of us who suffer from this woke up one morning deciding to be addicted to these drugs. It's a disease and should always be treated as such! Keep you head up mama, I guarantee your baby will never judge anything you had to do to keep them safe ❤

[@juliekaykettles]

I appreciate you sharing your story and I agree guilt should not be a part of you anymore. We can only live and learn and forgive ourselves. may you know the Lord's forgiveness too, as He is quick to forgive.

[@sarahd8093]

Thank you for sharing Heidi and her story with us! As parents, we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. Sometimes there's never a right answer and we try our best. I hope her family finds peace and comfort.

[@Elizabeth77536]

What a mess …. I’m so sorry ❤

[@katherinebragg9166]

Thank you for sharing this tough story, I cant even imagine losing a child, y'all are very brave. i'm glad you''re going into the schools. that's important.

[@kimcheek8027]

God bless all of you! So sad and difficult!🙏🏻❤️

[@Ohheyitsyou]

I’m so sickened at the fact that the children were adopted instead of being with their natural family. 😡😡 I’m so sorry that you can’t grieve with your grandchildren. Those adoptive parents should be ashamed of themselves. Ugh!!! Our foster care system needs a huge overhaul. These people who can’t have kids start fostering just to steal children. I’m over it

[@QueenMabx]

yeah i found that incredibly upsetting... maybe one day when the children are older they can choose to seek out their grandparents. that broke me 😢

[@meganmary92]

I feel like there has to be a reason, financial maybe..? Because grandparents have rights..

[@kitchenskills5427]

@@meganmary92 I agree. I know someone whose sister OD'd in TN and he was able to adopt his nephew from out of state.

[@Anna-bo5dk]

I am sure there are things left out in the story.

[@chanel58style70]

You are a very strong person. Even though you have been through so much by way of losing your daughter and grandchildren. It’s so hard to lose anyone you love, but losing your child for any reason is something that no parent should have to endure. God Bless you. 🙏

[@beaburt1996]

I am truly sorry for your loss.

[@Jenniferamu]

I am so very sorry💔 It is absolutely tragic that the grandchildren did not end up with their grandparents. The CPS system is a VERY messy one with so many issues. I can't stress enough that just because the grandchildren were adopted out does NOT mean something in the grandparents' history was wrong. CPS is a very complex system that fails families ALL the time. This is heartbreaking. I hope the grandparents are allowed to see their grandchildren. They all deserve to know one another. Please do the DNA through one of the genealogy sites so they have a way to find you when they're older. Just in case.💔

[@shelleyhershberger1242]

Appreciate your fight!!! Keep sharing and fighting❤

[@jesseccadockery5382]

There needs to be more Education in schools, recreation Centers, Everywhere about Fentanyl this stuff is killing our kids family and loved ones something HAS to be done NOW! this has to stop it's not right.

[@annedodgson8677]

Actually these kids can educate parents…they know

[@janiceharris1812]

I absolutely agree. I just wish people wouldn't use any kind of drug the first place. I know this is a hard topic with many layers and its probably impossible to eradicate but a lot of people miss the biggest issue. Its drugs. Its always drugs. I only come across it second-hand from work as I'm a nurse but I have no fear of it at home. The only way fentanyl will take me out is if I help a patient with something in their belongings and I get cross contaminated or something like that. It doesn't stalk me as I go home or while I sleep at night. It won't attack my husband and take him away. We don't drink nor do drugs. I've seen so many ruined lives in my profession and a huge uptick in people under 30. I feel for seeing what drugs does to people in mind and body, but to address a bigger picture is that using drugs in and of itself is poison. It will kill you either slowly or quickly. Watching my sister die from alcoholism was hard, but alcohol is poison too and the slowest way to go. I have sympathy for all involved but I feel that the big picture is being missed. If we treated cancer like we treated fentanyl deaths we would be treating the nausea and pain but doing nothing for the cancer itself. This next part is the hardest one too tackle. Our culture celebrates mental issues and degenerate behavior. We turn to numbing pain instead of facing it. We all need to change this or the issue will prevail. We need to love each other to see the real issues and hold each other up during our struggles. We also need to stop tearing each other down and worshipping terrible life choices. We also need to be open to help from people who truely care instead of those who hand out an illicit substance to deal with it. Those people who truely want to help have hard words to swallow sometimes but its better to listen and do than taking a pill, snorting up powder, or shooting something into a vein. I see it here so much and at work from people who tried so hard to save someone else. These tears are so bitter. It just breaks my heart. God bless those people who fight to save others and those who are trying to change.

[@kristicarouth5085]

I've watched several of these episodes and OMG these parents are so strong and courageous. My daughter is 20, in the Navy, doing well in life. I still help her out financially a lot. But to lose her from something like this, would absolutely kill me. I would not be living if this happened. I'm not sure how these parents cope at all. Hats off to them and God bless

[@winifredshallow6416]

So sad. Sorry for your loss 😢

[@applejellypucci]

So sorry, what a beautiful girl. A mom, a daughter, so much loss.

[@littlemikeism]

God bless you both. May God's peace be with you as you continue your earthly journey.

[@LilaMuse-zv4vl]

Thank u ou fi r sharing your story. I'm glad you are doing your part in trying to save children.

[@DeeCM-f3v]

People can deny it all they want but most addictions start with Marijuana. So it definitely is a gateway to harder drugs.

[@mosessupposes2571]

Addictive personalities choose what’s readily available. Correlation is not causation. You can deny it all you want too.

[@amandathomas3247]

If I ask any addict either in recovery or active in addiction, they will always say they started with weed.

[@Confessions089]

Alcohol is the gateway, not Marijuana.

[@tananario23]

Nope. Smoked in my 20’s, stopped, started again when it became legal, never touched anything else but alcohol.

[@boolkaka79]

Most people who use marijuana do not go on to use other, “harder” drugs. People who use marijuana and do go on to use other drugs (including alcohol and tobacco) may have a higher risk of dependence or addiction to those drugs, especially if they started using marijuana at an early age and use it frequently.

[@dawn8288]

Absolutely Heartbreaking,My heart goes out to you.I really hope all the children stayed together.RIP Heidi.💐🕊️

[@CallmeMeljustMel]

My heart is heavy for you all over this tragic loss of not only your daughter but also, especially your grandchildren. I can only hope that those precious souls have been placed in the loving arms of dedicated, compassionate, empathetic, present, etc families.

[@lynndinovo3500]

I found this so very difficult to understand the manner in which Heidi's story was relayed.

[@summerbird4288]

Yes, she is a bit hectic.

[@kateschroth3304]

I totally agree

[@tinanaioti3214]

It's probably hard for her to talk about

[@wendymansingh7684]

Sorry for your loss. My son also died of fentanel overdose in October he was 28. Thank God he's with Jesus.

[@isabelltecaxco-yd3lw]

Everything about this story of Heidi is so sad, because so many things went wrong for Heidi especially growing up before she had kids. By the time the kids got here she was in a lot of trouble with drugs. RIP Heidi and I hope you are finally free and happy in heaven. So sorry for your loss 😢😢😢

[@kimberlygorgoglione9237]

Life is so painful and parenting is hugely the cause. I'm so touched by this story and many others as well. God bless and help us all

[@killereverb3928]

Such a sad drawn out experience the surviving mom and dad and children have endured. So much happened. I pray and hope for healing for anybody touched by this prolonged painful experience!!!!!!!!!

[@MiracleBaby1987]

My heart goes out to this family, they lost so much when Heidi tragically passed away, Heidi's Mom and Dad lost their only girl, and brothers, lost their great and wonderful special sweet sister.

[@5ShotProductions]

Wow… 🥹 Glen, that was a tough one to watch. First of all I do want to say that I‘m very sorry for their loss. This was a very tragic and sad story and I believe that especially those stories hopefully will do have a strong impact on again hopefully many people. i admire Heidi‘s parents for forgiving Matt, I honestly highly doubt that I would be able to forgive this man but this shows how strong Heidi‘s parents are and that their faith is helping them. The saddest part about Heidi‘s death was in my eyes what happened to her kids. I always thought that in cases like this the grandparents would be given custody of the kids but I assume this might be handled differently in every single state. Again, thx to Glen and Heidi‘s parents for telling the story of Heidi! All the best, Philipp

[@purplerabbit7190]

The court system is corrupt. The court system most probably blamed the grandparents for the state of the situation. It’s the evil of the NWO and the lack of understanding what covid was all about. It’s the spiritual war we are in that is our fight. 2020 election was stolen. Please world wake up. We need Jesus more than ever. Good Christian families are under attack. Clinton’s were responsible for drug running and that tells you a lot about why the swamp needs draining. All governments around the world have been complicit in harming us. I find this story heartbreaking along with all the other suffering families. Prayers and Greetings from Melbourne Australia

[@lakeshadouglas5498]

Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🙏