First year of marriage. WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW.

::JORDAN::
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::SARA::
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Twitter: / messy_saylor

[@sharayalee3376]

I was diagnosed with cancer within the first month of being married; we grew closer and stronger. Not only did he see me without makeup (lol not that he hadn’t before), but he saw me bald with no eyebrows or lashes, throwing up and gaining 20lbs all within that first year. Even through the worst of it all he could still make me laugh. Sara is right, your marriage is truly what you make it.

[@vigilantezack]

Marriage would suck for selfish people. That's it. If you marry with the idea that you are serving each other for a better life, it will work.

[@johnreed9050]

Marriage no longer offers the benefits it once did and men are no longer seeking marriage . The rewards are so low and the risks are so high and the family courts ensure that the man will become an economic slave when the wife decides that she wants out.

[@dragoniraflameblade]

Thank you for giving me an example of "we didn't live together before we got married" that's in my peer group. Really encouraging.

[@LipSyncLover]

idk why its not more common in secular spaces compared to Christian spaces. I get that the economy is harder for younger adults than ever before...kinda pushing this normalization of living together....but the stats of it raising divorce risk don't lie so....you don't need to be Christian to have some common sense and avoid things that raise divorce risk

[@florence3448]

vanessa benoit the thing is if you don’t have the wisdom of God, you don’t have common sense

[@discoveringdance]

I love how chill you guys are about your marriage. I feel like there’s all these Christian cliches about how everything should be done and all these ideas people put into your head. I like how you guys are just genuine and honest about how you felt like your first year of marriage was while still considering those popular ideas about how it could be. I really enjoy videos like these. Thanks for all you do Jordan! I’m always excited to see what you’re going to share with us week after week! I love your funny challenge videos as well as videos like these!! Keep up the good work!! :)

[@louisacapell]

Megan's Music i guess i dont understand what christian cliches youre talking about. The crap advice they got seems to line up pretty perfectly with the world's ideas and ideals.

[@jan_777]

Louisa Capell Actually Jordan and Sara are a perfect picture of Christian "cliches", like only living together after marriage (and I'd guess the same goes with sex), being responsible, living out your faith, being "home" persons etc. Actually, that's exactly what my wife and I did and were living and are from a different continent. So, there might be patterns, which might show that you're in line with Jesus and that the Holy Spirit is leading and protecting you, especially when you're about to fall into sin.

[@louisacapell]

Jan Hauck i agree with everything you just said. They are living out a biblical example of what Christ outlined in scripture. But, No Christian cliches. The cliches come in the form of the worlds advice to live together ans have sex before marriage. That marriage is the end of fun and freedom. You will not find that advice in scripture.

[@ariannarichardson2579]

Megan's Music I'm totally agreed :)

[@MegBorr]

I think every couple is just so different. My husband and I have been married a little over a year and so far the second year has definitely been easier for us! We had never lived together, never had sex til our wedding night etc. But I moved across the state away from my family, changed jobs twice in less than a year, we had three cars break down, switched churches, and to be honest we did learn a lot about each other. It was things we knew beforehand, but living together and being with them almost 24/7 amplified it so much. Like he loves to be with people all the time. And I knew that but it never really affected my introverted self until we were married. Of course though, we were still happy then for the most part, and we're still happy now! It just presented a lot of opportunities to grow XD

[@amilisom]

you got that right, chad

[@Ooshlii]

This is very much like my husband and I. I am the extrovert and he is the introvert. Which is interesting, because I am a youth and children's pastor at a church that is VERY big on living life together, which we both like now, but at first he was MUCH less enthused.... haha!

[@chibiosaka]

I agree, it really depends on the couple! My husband and I are coming up on 3 years and our first year was definitely hard but it wasn't because of any of the things people had told us would be hard. Mostly it was just a lot of reconciling our own different expectations and communication styles (so many people in my life before our wedding gave me expectations about men that turned out to not be relevant to my husband at all) but outside circumstances were also a factor too. We got married right after college and my husband got a job right away, but my job search took a lot longer so going from both being students and doing the same thing everyday to having pretty much opposite demands in our days was a big adjustment. I think just being self aware was a huge help for both of us.

[@MegBorr]

Exactly! Just being two different people is a lot to handle sometimes XD And some couples are more alike than others which can help in the day to day grind. My husband and I are not! Which I am grateful for, but it's also ahrd.

[@Inhumantics]

Yeah my husband is very much a people person, I've learned that from him randomly telling me "Oh, _____ called us so I told her she could come over and have dinner with us." I pretty much have to mentally prepare before deciding on being social so it always throws me off, and I've had to talk to him about asking me first, even if it's my friend/family that wants to swing by!

[@mavracax]

I’m just nodding my head through the whole video. Basically relate 100%. But you’re so right, marriage is what you make it. If you don’t “know if you’re compatible, how will you make it work?” You make it work. You choose to make it work. In everything, every day. Love is a choice. So go you guys 👏 Marriage is fun! And I’m super happy for you guys, happy anniversary 💕

[@lilannegirl03]

Nia Carson Yes, yes, yes!!! Love IS a choice, one you have to make-repeatedly and despite what you might be feeling-in order for marriage to work. Also, putting your spouse and their needs before you and your needs. Most importantly, putting God before anyone/anything else 👍

[@JayVal90]

Jordan: "Sorry I'm just really paranoid about the lighting." Proceeds to set lighting to STUN.

[@N4SHV1LL3]

I’m only 20 and getting married this Wednesday! We also did not live together before getting married. We have been hearing all of the same negative stuff y’all did and this video was super encouraging and refreshing! Love you guys, keep it up!

[@juniperberry4004]

Nash Jasper congrats!

[@ABeautifulHorizonTV]

I got married at 17. 😆 Next month will be 12 years! 🙌🙌🙌

[@alexismisselyn3916]

Omg that’s beautiful! I hope I can get married soon too, I don’t want a big age difference with my kids

[@MrDarkwolf1995]

This may sound ignorant, but I thought you had to be at least 18 to get married.

[@megalopolis2015]

Awesome, BH! Congratulations on your amazing, blessed life.

[@ainmon5875]

It's 16 in a lot of states

[@duaaalsayed2178]

Congratulations!

[@lookslikeiwin]

I’ve been married for five years. It’s not a nightmare if you both want a Godly marriage. I think it is easier if you don’t ever live alone. I missed having more privacy when we got married. But we are super open with each other and we talk about things we try our best to be understanding of each other. We have had troubles but if I didn’t have my husband around I might not have been alive to write this. Literally.

[@JordanTaylorVideos]

IF YOU'RE INTERESTED. Here's a video of our wedding that my friend made for us: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6ScfqV8itqEr6M

[@lancemac71]

There should be a Sara version of Messyges.

[@thatkeren]

Lance Macormic YESSSSS!!!! THIS HAS TO HAPPEN!!

[@souliloquy5077]

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[@JS-lb2sh]

Lance Macormic yes, there totally should be! She would take them more seriously 😂

[@audrawelsh8467]

Please do!

[@eleanorsanon2356]

YES!!

[@vbetta8979]

2 people who serve each other and are patient and kind will enjoy marriage. 2 people who are rude, selfish, and unforgiving will struggle. I agree, living together to see if the other person can MAKE YOU happy is flawed. Marriage is about putting the other first. When both have that mindset the marriage will be beautiful. Even disagreements are alright as long as respect is shown. Problems come when 1 or both people have to be right, or DEMAND their way like a tyrant. It sounds like you both are genuinely kind to each other and want the best for the other person and not simply looking out for self.

[@katieakin1091]

Sara is gorgeous 😊 I just started watching you less than a week ago (some of your food videos were the first ones I watched), and I already love your videos. I think this one is my favorite one so far ❤️

[@jayaom4946]

I love your attitude about marriage. It's nice to hear about a marriage beginning this way!

[@hmatson3127]

My husband and I are also coming up on our 1 year anniversary and we have said the EXACT same thing you guys did! We were almost worried that we were doing something wrong because it's been so easy. We didn't live together or have sex before getting married and honestly, this first year has been amazing. You two said the same things my husband and I have been thinking. It's all about having the same mind-set and life goals. The little things don't matter! God has been so good to us and with His help, our married life will only get better!

[@ABeautifulHorizonTV]

Now "they" are gonna say "just wait til you have kids". Don't believe that one either. 😄💖 Loved this video.

[@hadassah6563]

A Beautiful Horizon haha thats one you should believe

[@jennifergreaney6339]

A Beautiful Horizon I know right? Why is there such a negative outlook on kids? ☹️

[@jeanniecollins3332]

Our daughter has in general benefited my husband and my relationship by bringing us together. We don't get as much time alone together, but she is a super blessing.

[@kingchickenwing4887]

Jennifer Greaney While kids can bring lots of joy to many people, they can also do the opposite to many others, and here is why (since you asked why people have negative outlooks on kids): 1. Kids cost a LOT of money, often leading to both parents having to work full time jobs, and if the family was already not doing the best financially, struggling heavily to support their children. 2. They are a full-time commitment job that you have to deal with for at least the next 18 years after they are born. So, if the kid is a nasty person (which, of course, some people just are, no matter how they are raised), then you have to deal with them for a LONG time. 3. Kids mean less time spent together for the parents, especially if the parents have long working hours. If that is the case, then most of their free time will be spent with their children. 4. In this day and age, it is much more common than it ever has been for children to be born with mental disorders. Many people may be afraid of their child being born with a mental disorder, as well as the extra cost and work needed to care for them. So, yeah. Kids can be great for some, but for others, they can be nightmares that last for a large portion of a person's life.

[@jennifergreaney6339]

KingChickenwing Yeah, I definitely understand that. I guess I’m just mainly annoyed by the people who don’t want kids for purely selfish reasons. I just feel like in our society a lot of people just want to take care of themselves and aren’t willing to have kids because they will have to sacrifice certain self pleasures. But I completely understand people not wanting to have kids for the reasons you stated.

[@MustardSeedish]

I've been married for 24 years. You're right that selfishness is the killer. You two seem like you do our vow,: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Eph 4:32 Keep up the good work.

[@HPTFan]

Great video! I agree with Sara that marriage is what you make of it. I have been single all of my life. No relationships, no sex, staying a virgin until I am married. I am learning to enjoy my single life. I do admit, it does get tiring, but God will help me to see it as a gift. I must be patient when I meet my future wife. If she doesn't wear makeup, she is still going to be the most beautiful woman in my eyes. I can't wait to meet her. There will be trials, but God is with me. Thank you for recording this. Congratulations on your first year anniversary of marriage. I hope you will have a great Memorial Day. God bless. Stay strong. :)

[@calebmartin547]

Amen brother!

[@aleksitjvladica.]

...Okay...

[@HPTFan]

I don’t understand your comment, but I wish you well. Peace. 😌

[@aleksitjvladica.]

Hmm, I wonder you living like that because of religion of just your decisions.

[@HPTFan]

Can you explain of what you mean by that?

[@kieradl]

This advice is such a shocking contrast to Jordan's Messyges and the sort of relationship advice I usually expect from Jordan...

[@Musicalowl12]

"why do you hang out with these people?"

[@ericamaehenningisreal]

Autumn Johnson always the typical response.😂

[@ameliaporter98]

Hahahaha soo true 😂

[@sarah52292]

I’m 26 and have been single for most of my life, so I’m nervous about marriage. Thanks for making this video!! I believe if you find the right one, then there’s nothing to worry about.

[@Grid21]

You should do an updated video after 5 years of marriage because I'd love to know more about what you learned! :D

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

clicked so fast. love seeing you and sara together.

[@remylexington4893]

This is so awesome to see. I am Christian too, so i won't sleep with anyone till i am married or live with them. It is awesome to have you guys as an example. Thank you so much for this video. Could you guys write a book like a Christian guide to marriage or something? I would buy that. That would be awesome to read and it would help me out

[@reginabug9988]

Hey RemyLexington, You might try Theology of His Body / Theology of Her Body by Jason Evert. If I had to give it a super short summary I'd say that it puts our love and sexuality into perspective by explaining God's design for both. Theology of the Body, or TOB, changed my life, and really prepared both me and my fiance for marriage. It's an easy read for both teens and adults - about 100 pages give or take a few. Another invaluable read is "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. By developing an understanding of the 5 love languages, I was better able to understand both myself and those around me, and I was also able to learn how to better show others that I love them in their own language. Hope you enjoy them if you get the chance to crack them open! :)

[@remylexington4893]

Oh wow thank you so much!!! You are an amazing person to take time to tell me this. THANK YOU!!!!

[@dan.1433]

RemyLexington I know this is quite a late reply, but just in case you were still interested in things to read, I’d definitely recommend ‘the meaning of marriage’ by Tim and Kathy Keller ☺️

[@AtticWit]

Why am I even watching this? lol I'm not even dating

[@kurimsonkitsune4408]

Because their relationship is beautiful.

[@MostHighDwelling]

Hahaha same

[@gavinb5396]

Same

[@ladykatherynede-burg8409]

I'm only 11

[@NAME-yg8sl]

@@ladykatherynede-burg8409 I'm 14

[@ShadowBrook17]

You guys are such an inspiration for those needing that actual real life advice and I love it. My husband and I are approaching our 1st month of being married and we feel the same. People said how hard it would be, but we feel like ourselves near each other and each other's happiness is what we want most. You and your families are amazing and so glad you guys decided all those years ago to take to KZbin. Keep up being you :)

[@simonerobledo8198]

I remember watching your proposal video! One year flew byyyyyyy! God bless you both!

[@mbahmarijan789]

How old is he?

[@AprilCGriffith]

You two are SO refreshing! My husband and I are about to celebrate 11 years of marriage and I still love being married to my best friend. The first year was so easy for us too. We didn’t live together until we got married and that was part of what made the first year so fun, not hard. Happy Anniversary y’all!

[@natemack5212]

It's amazing the negativity that people have toward marriage and their spouse. My wife and I got married a couple months after you guys (she was 21, I was 20) and we got so many comments and warnings on how hard it would be for us. I can honestly say that this was the easiest, most fun year of my life! We have had so much fun and it saddens me hearing all the expectations some people have had for us in that they expected it to be difficult. I feel like so many people don't understand that it's no longer my wife and me, but that it's US now, it's us together and not us individually, which I think is a huge part of it.

[@SavannahLewie]

Congratulations, guys!!!! ❤️

[@joshuafritz9437]

I often forgot this was unedited, because you guys speak so clearly and are so down to earth

[@Crucis119]

Thanks for making this guys. We're four months in and I feel myself anxiously awaiting "the moment" that everyone keeps saying makes marriage hard, and a chore. And it's not happening! For those who are thinking about marriage, I cannot stress this enough: strong communication is key. Being able to openly and honestly share how you're feeling, how your partner made you feel, etc. is so, so important. But it also does take time and work to learn how to effectively communicate with your partner, both speaking and listening. I've had to learn how to listen to how my husband speaks, almost like putting on a different pair of ears, when we have arguments or disagreements over something. And he has to speak in a way that I can hear. Marriage is an incredible and beautiful blessing. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[@hifce]

You guys are a good example to humanity especially considering all the drama and betrayal and myths in the world of videos. Thank you for posting this. Please stay as this calm, sweet, warm-hearted, humble family. This is exactly what the world needs.

[@emmadawn]

Thanks so much for this video! Im 19 and engaged and hear these types of myths all the time. So ridiculous. Its all about the mindset, I agree. And God! That's also a huge part.

[@nickbitle8852]

How is that going? I'm 20 trying to figure out if I could/should get married

[@zephyr834]

Not married but have heard from other friends with similar stories of enjoying the first years of marriage. I really think a key to any relationship (romantic or not) is good communication, holding equal value for each other in opinions and desires, and gratitude. Many people don't know how to communicate needs or hurts so they fall into what they learned growing up which might be "my needs are not as important" or "my needs are more important so I will intimidate you to get them". As for gratitude, it's common to criticize or complain than it is to take responsibility or be thankful. Good stuff and thanks for sharing.

[@noahaikens2862]

My parents were told that it was going to be horrible. After 25 years my dad says that it was one of the easiest years of his marriage.

[@Roescoe]

My parents say the first few years flew by. It wasn't until kids and jobs and moving happened that things got trickier.

[@MrsJFJ]

Yes, kids add new stresses. A lot of men say their wives change after children. 😕

[@thatdapperpotato6160]

This is such an encouraging video for Christian marriage. So many people at my church are already pressuring me about marriage (and I’m 16???), but it’s nice to see that it’s way more chill than they make it out to be.

[@kendrathompson6402]

We just hit the "6 months married" mark and I totally agree! We had a similar situation going into marriage where we hadn't lived together and I can honestly say the transition has been awesome. Marriage is fun, and the first year has been much less tension-filled than many people suggested it would be. Yes we did things differently - how to store cheese properly was a discussion - but they have all been things that are easily discussed and compromised on. I love that I get to do life with my best friend and marriage has been the biggest blessing!

[@catherineensminger5768]

Wow, thank you for sharing that, especially the part about people’s expectations of a bad first year, and that each marriage is its own. Most people have tried to tell me that there’s something wrong because (in our first year of marriage) everything’s not like living on a cloud. We’ve always been pretty even-keel, but for people to worry that we’re not “normal” or something is wrong made me consider that maybe there was. It’s comforting to hear that other people expect the first year to be less than good even; I guess there are different extremes. Anyways, thanks for sharing. Each relationship and marriage is its own. Thank you for reminding me of that!!

[@sarahschroeder4739]

Sacred marriage by Gary Thomas gave me a realistic mindset of marriage. My mom told me it was going to be terrible and hard. The book put all my fears to rest.

[@BenGKaiser]

Amen and Amen! I have been married almost three years now and there have been some things to work through, but there is even a reward in that. It is all about Team work. I married my best friend...this is KEY. Thanks y'all. I appreciate the video. Just gotta live out the Gospel, it is really that simple.

[@louannsmit2123]

You are definitely not alone. My husband and I got married last year on June 3, and we can agree with everything you guys are saying. Marriage has been so natural and easy for us. Yes, we went through hard life experiences this last year, but it wasn't hard on our marriage. If anything, we have been so thankful that we were married during the hard experiences. It has brought us closer together. The "tough love" speech that we heard the most was that the "Honeymoon Phase" would end anywhere between a couple of weeks and by the end of the first year. I remember worrying about it like something was out to get us, but that was such a dumb thing to worry about. If it happens, it happens. Our love is based more than on our own happiness, and our commitment is found in our Rock. It has been fun growing with you guys this last year. Congratulations! May you continue to grow in your love for one another and in your relationship with your Savior.

[@grangermontag1824]

A lot of people struggle because of baggage from past relationships and poor choices. Also, destructive parents or bad friends can interject problems into your relationship. If you don't have those things, then you have a massive advantage. Great video! #MarriageIsGoodForYou #Dating

[@treelover9781]

I thought you were like... my age, 17. my whole world has been destroyed. I've been taking advice from an adult.

[@hannahelizabeth7562]

*Mr. Burnham*

[@mikagami69]

DUNNN DUNN DUUUUUUUUNNNNNN!

[@bkang]

Heck to the YES!! 😁🙌🏻 We too were told, over and over again, even in our church marriage prep sessions, that the first year would be HARD, and honestly it was the best year of both of our lives up to that point!! We are now almost three years in, and it just keeps on getting better and better ☺️💕 We didn’t live together before we got married either, and we were together for.....well we got engaged on our two year anniversary, and then got married 7.5months later, and we were long distance for about half that time. BUT!! We spent a lot of time together, with one another’s families and churches as well as alone....we video chatted every night and kept in touch by text etc during the days.....weekends were ours to spend actual time together, with a few longer stretches in there too. All in all we really spent the time getting to know each other WELL.....and we’re both pretty laid back; we were also extremely excited to start our lives together!! So I guess our fantastic first year was down to realistic AND love-filled expectations, good communication, and as Sarah said, not being selfish. We decided long before we even got engaged that our outlook on our relationship would be this: he takes care of me, I take care of him, we are both always honest, faithful, compassionate and loving towards one another, and we keep Jesus in the middle. It hasn’t failed us yet and we’re still having lots of fun ☺️ Wishing you a happy anniversary in advance Jordan and Sarah; the best is yet to come!! ☺️😘💕 xxxx

[@WesleyHiggins]

Congrats on your anniversary! I really appreciate that you talk about how you didn't live together before marriage. I think it is important to have that level of commitment to hold true to your morals before marriage, speaks to how you are more likely to hold true to commitments during marriage.

[@gracetorkelson2068]

Love this video! I am getting married in August and it is encouraging to see you two doing so well.

[@audrab6546]

Grace Torkelson Congratulations! May God bless your marriage!

[@gracetorkelson2068]

Thank you for encouraging to not live together before marriage! 😊

[@lorilynntucker9555]

Loved this video! My husband and I have been married 6 years. We’ve had easier seasons and hard seasons. Our first year was incredibly difficult, but it was also filled with lots of transitions and untreated mental health issues for me. I bet the fact y’all knew each other so well and had already been doing life together for a while (without living together) heavily contributed to your peaceful first year. ❤️ Happy Anniversary!

[@val_smiling]

Yes, forgiveness, communication, and selfLESSness is what helps the most adjusting to the hard parts the first year.

[@user-hn1rw3bv1s]

THANK YOUUUUUU!!!! 🙌🙌🙌 My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary and our first year of marriage was great! We did the same exact thing. We were renting his grandmother's house and I moved in before we were married and he moved in after we got married. I did learn a lot, but the transition was so easy! It was so natural. There were little things here and there but it was just such a sweet time! And so exciting because HELLO IT'S YOUR BEST FRIEND (for us anyway)! So we had tons of fun watching movies, excited to go to bed and wake up together, making breakfast, leaving each other notes and so much more! I really had someone ask before we got married what was our biggest fight and we were like.....we...dont...really...fight??? Lol we bicker, but he thought it was so strange! I also think our pre marital counseling helped A TON. Anyway, glad I'm not crazy because I was very surprised Too! Now we have a 4 month old so it's a bit different but ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE!! 💕

[@TR-np9ch]

I just found your videos today, and have been laughing ever since. Congratulations on your first year of marriage. These days, that's a success! My husband and I got married 15 years ago, at 19. If you want a successful marriage- you'll have one.

[@ericjonsson1060]

I got married at 21, and we've been going strong for 2 years now. I think the reason we are a good couple has a lot to do with our mindset too. The difference between dating my now spouse and a couple other people I'd dated was that my romantic interest in my spouse came after a very long conversation about relationships, dreams, morals, and future goals (we were friends long before this conversation), and not just because of some immediate infatuation that was completely ungrounded in reality. This mindset that a lot of people have is that love is this magical thing that just happens, but it takes a lot of hard work and dedication to actually love someone, and building a future gets so much easier when you have the same moral and ethical foundation, paired with a strong friendship. I got married because given our personalities I can honestly say that there's no one else that would be a better match for me, or that I'd rather build a future with. The longer we're together and build our marriage, the more this statement rings true, because the better we get to know each other. Just my couple of bucks, but we also didn't have a 'hard first year', or hard any years since we started dating really (4.5 years since our first date now). I agree a lot with everything said in this video, and I'm sure you guys will have a great future together! Happy anniversary! Sorry for any grammatical errors or weird phrasing, I'm not a native speaker.

[@callinaartymko6417]

This is fantastic! I just got married and all of this is so true. I also didn't live with my husband before we got married, and it was honestly one of the best decisions of our relationship. Not only did it make getting married so much more exciting (first ever sleep over!!) but not living together allowed us to make a good decision about whether or not we worked well together. I've known so many people who lived together and ended up breaking up, and it makes it so much more difficult when you have that attachment. Thank you for your advice! I will for sure be putting it to good use :)

[@ethanslifka3904]

Hey Jordan and Sara, Can I just add something? Just to let you know for your future videos, in the Bible (which I know y'all are Christians, lol) it says that that you should not live with someone before marriage. That falls into the last question you guys asked yourselves. Many people think it's alright to live with each other before marriage, but it is ultimately a sin. Kudos to you two for not doing that!

[@FunFoodWithJakeNLuke]

So glad I came across this. My wife and I were just married about a month ago and dated for 5 years, grew up in church together, never lived together etc and this is so real. Thanks for sharing.

[@sydneyandrae5265]

super encouraging and relatable. especially the part about the people at Sarah's work. Awesome video.

[@kaylav4213]

What I really appreciate about seeing these videos together is the amount of respect and affection the two always have for one another. Sarah is always looking at Jordan when he speaks and says something insightful. Jordan is always making sure he gives her a chance to add to his thoughts, and they lean in closer a lot. Wonderful body language and clearly a great relationship!

[@rebeccacline1433]

Way to go you two! Great message and example! My husband and I have been married almost 2 years now. We are both in our 20s and echo what you've said completely! We did not live together first and are probably the happiest we've ever been.

[@katiereed7007]

I am two weeks away from my wedding and this is hugely encouraging. Also coming from a workplace where people completely don't understand why my fiance and I don't live together (he has a house), or why we are getting married and not just moving in together and waiting for marriage... this is extremely applicable. It's been really disappointing and discouraging hearing people's perspective on it. It has definitely made me feel nervous at times. I'm really glad to hear a fresh and positive perspective

[@hazeldecker622]

It's actually encouraging to know that not every marriage is stupidly hard. I'm glad you made this video!

[@Megalizabeth9]

Thank youuuu! People thought we were crazy people for not living together before we got married and you guys are so accurate! Living together does not equal the depths of your relationship. If you are questioning if you can handling being with that person forever because you're afraid it wont work out when you're in the same house, the harsh truth is...you're very right, it will never work out simply based on the fact you are not coming from a place of love. There's this strange society view on the test of living with someone to make sure you can stand each other and it just boggles my mind. You guys are adorable. Sarah is completely right in that your marriage is what you make it. I love this video :]

[@BushMaid]

Has it been a year all ready? The heck, man... time flies. Happy anniversary to you guys! I love that it’s been such a great first year for y’all. Keep honouring God and each other and the good times will keep rolling. Here’s to many more years to come.

[@gurdygroan]

Hi Guys, it's great to hear another couple saying exactly what we've been saying since we got married too. It'll be four years for us this September and it keeps on getting better as we go. Admittedly since our daughter arrived 10 months back it's got rather more tiring, but it's still utterly amazing. Keep on going and enjoy the adventure.

[@Cynthia-cd7su]

It’s crazy how similar we are. We can definitely relate. My fiancé lives in our house by himself and people are so confused how we don’t live together. We both lived with our parents before buying our first home as well. We been been dating for 4 years and we are excited about our future! Thanks for the great video and advise about first year of being married

[@AmeliaGwen]

been watching since Jordan was 17 😍

[@Alex-qq6wk]

Amelia Gwen well how old are you now hmmmm...? ;) jk but rly hw old r u

[@npiontek]

I think he is 26...?

[@nukebuster]

been watching Jordan since i was 13...

[@novaturient4404]

Been watching since Jordan was a sperm. I saw when he got shot out.

[@onelittleafrofriend]

My husband and I lived at home before we got married 10 months ago, we were also told the first year would be hard and I was very prepared for that but I was surprised how fun living with my favourite person can be and living without siblings feels like a holiday half the time. Thanks for the video! I enjoyed your engagement video a week after our own, I appreciate watching your journey as we go on ours

[@legolaslotrmcufan9002]

Wow! It's been a year already?!?!? Congratulations!!! ❤️❤️You guys are a big inspiration to me, I used to feel super alone when I was younger because I didn't have any friends who believed what I believed in such areas as relationships and marriage. Thank you! Hope you guys have a great second year of marriage as well!!

[@eclecticem4728]

This is so encouraging! My boyfriend and I just started courting (we have been good friends for years), and want to get married in the next two years. My parents weren't saved when they got married and his parents had their own troubles. Everyone around us is telling us how hard it is going to be. We know it will be hard, but it's totally worth it! ☺️

[@jennifergreaney6339]

Aww, Sarah is so cute and sweet! 😊❤️ This was another great video Jordan! 🙂 I really just love how genuine you guys are. And ya’ll are so cute together! 😊 I’m happy to hear everything is working out with you guys! Oh, and happy Anniversary!! 💍

[@ewright81912]

Praise God for a wonderful first year! Praying for you all when God sets you on my heart. Continue to keep your "mind set"! ♥️

[@chrisjeemusic]

love this! I've only been married for a little over 5 and half months now and my wife and I carry the same mindset as both of you. I had so many people (including my own parents) who told me it's the hardest thing i'll ever do in my life. I strongly disagree with that statement. Sure there will be challenging times but isn't that part of life in general? Like both of you, i'm a devout follower of Christ and one of the things I tell people is that I didn't hold any unrealistic expectations going into marriage; I put all the expectations on God to fulfill in my now marriage. So much better when you take the pressure off your spouse!

[@esther-shahnpedersen9215]

I've been married for 4 months with a similar experience. We never lived together before marriage, and we had our first kiss at our wedding. I think the points brought up in this video about communication and forgiveness are key. Yes, we've been discovering how each does things differently, but it's important to let go of the small things and talk through things that bother you. Be solution-oriented! So far for us, marriage is bliss, and I'm so thankful for the journey that led me here.

[@daniellem8790]

My husband and i are almost at our two year anniversary and I still don’t understand the people who express how difficult a new marriage can be. I think the bottom line is, majority of the world is selfish and take that into their relationships. If both of you are honest and communicate everything and both are working towards a happy marriage, it will last and be successful. Happy anniversary to you both and cheers to many more years of happiness!

[@cnb2828]

LOL I didnt learn much either tbh... literally nothing people said applied to me and my husband and we are coming up on a year. We were dating over 5 years and had travelled and backpacked together so, hes seen my without make up plenty of times. We also didn't live together until after we were married and its been a breeze. Hubby lived alone and I lived at home. Was almost 30 when I moved out... My only adjustment was our move across the country and knowing NO ONE in my new home state but that wasnt really an impact on our marriage. Other than that...been so easy. Sara, I have the same perspective as you and agree 100%. Congrats you two! God Bless.

[@Anna-rk1eb]

My husband and I will be married four years on May 30th! Our first year of marriage was not hard like everyone said it would be either. However, 4 months into our first year my husband lost his job-which was our primary source of income. That was a time of stress and tears but with prayer and trust in God, he got a new and even better job! I actually have found our 3rd and 4th years to be the most difficult. I find the key to making it through is communication, patience, forgiveness, and most of all-God at the center of your marriage ❤️

[@LaneysPalette]

My husband and I got married in 2014 and I agree with this video 110%. Our situation was very similar, we did not live together and we dated for almost 5 years before getting married. My best advice is communication is key. If you are getting married make sure you guys are super real with each other! So far marriage is such a blessing, it's not "horrible." We have now started our family and everyone has started saying "Oh everything will be super hard with kids" so far it's not. Don't listen to negative comments pray through everything and communicate through everything. Trusting in and a good foundation in God, your attitude, and communication will make things work! It's not all sunshine and roses, but it's a beautiful gift.

[@helpmetosleep]

Having been together for five years, you had a lot of foundational work done. Namely conversations and expectations. "We knew what we were getting into." The more work people can do ahead of time on themselves and the relationship, (then to be selfless, forgiving etc) the more fun the first year will be!

[@roymeyer6837]

My wife and I have a pretty similar story. We dated for over 4 years, got to really know each other pretty much unfiltered in that amount of time, and didn't live together before getting married. Our first year of marriage was fun! Next month will be our 8th anniversary and we're still best friends and don't find it hard to be married at all. We can count on one hand the number of "arguments" we've had, and those were basically just disagreements and misunderstandings that we talked through, no yelling or saying hurtful things, etc. I think what you guys said about not being selfish in marriage is HUGE. If I'm in this to be the best husband I can because I love my wife, and she's in it to be the best wife she can because she loves me, it works so much better. Really comes down to practicing Ephesians 5 on a daily basis. I agree that 4-5 years is too long to date, but on the other end of the spectrum, I think many people don't date long enough. As a result, they marry a stranger, thinking they actually know that person. That's when the first year becomes difficult.

[@madladiesscientists6894]

You guys should make more videos like these where you give advice for married couple for their first year. I also think that if you date someone for five years and have known them even longer it isn't something you just decided solely based off of emotion, but off of genuine love! I think you guys being great friends is what helps, and I think it's what helps most marriages! My mom and dad are a lot like you two and they've been married forever, in a way people might think they aren't still in love cause they aren't always around each other all the time, and they have their own things they do, but when we have had meals together or just going out somewhere as a family, I can always hear them talking about things to each other, and they listen deeply to one another, they watch one tv show a night together and they still hold each others arms or hand when no one is around except for me and my sister, they are a testament to what loves is. I use to think when I was a teen that they weren't the greatest example of love, but now I can say, aside from my Grand parents; I long and hope for a similar partner ship like my parents have...they are in love, it's just different then people realize, it's not showy. I remember when I use to wake up in the morning to fix breakfast, and my dad would get up for work, before he even realized I was awake, and I kid you not, I've learned that every morning he will tell my mother, "Goodbye honey, I love you." Abd it's just such a tender sweet moment that I can't help but love hear it. It really encourages me seeing my mom and dads love for each other, they've been married 27 years so far...You two honestly remind me a lot of them! Congrats guys on your first year and soon to be second year!

[@samanthah6873]

I completely agree!! I've been married for two years and it's been a super easy transition and the best time of my life so far! I never understood why people always said it would be so hard.

[@toristeunebrink5705]

Dude thank you so much for posting this I needed it!! I’m engaged and I’ve had so many people tell me how horrible the first year of marriage is going to be. I never really believed them all but it’s just a bit of a downer

[@jessiet8304]

Totally get what you're saying - it's been six months since I got married and it's been a fun journey. You're right that the transition between living with parents to living with your spouse makes it pretty easy to share a house, we both had that experience too. I'm surprised people told you that the first year would be so hard - nobody warned us of such things! :D But that's great you've got along so well and relaxed into marriage.

[@torilinncwanek1096]

You guys are so chill. I appreciate that you can just talk about this on the internet. It's so cool to me that you're so open about it.

[@kaylacallender161]

This is a very important platform to speak about and if you guys are Christians there is a ton more wisdom to share about these things. So many many godly resources to check out too! Blessings!

[@rosemaryn.145]

You guys make dating for five years and waiting to live together look like a great life choice!!!! A lot of things can make the first year of marriage hard, you guys seemed to have a stunning absence of them. Things like: either one struggling with mental health and/or trauma, unwise business decisions, not knowing each other well, etc, etc.

[@madisonweideman5688]

I'm getting married in two months and this is exactly what I've been telling people! Marriage is all what you make of it. But they look at me like I'm crazy because I'm not ACTUALLY married yet. But I've known my fiance for 4 years. We know what we're getting into and we are so excited to start our life together. We aren't worried. It was encouraging to hear a couple that is ACTUALLY married 😉 confirm the things my fiance and I have been thinking!

[@Sycady]

This was encouraging for me. I think sometimes I worry too much about marriage and this helped me.

[@renmartin2030]

I'm liking these new, more personal videos. I think a lot of people our age have similar experiences with being told by older people that life after college, or marriage, or kids, or whatever life choice these older people have made is SO SUPER DUPER HARD...and then we younger people get scared of the future. Why do older people do this too us? Do humans just have some kind of martyrdom complex, where we feel proud that we're "suffering" more than younger, more "naive" humans? A couple years ago after I came back from a long trip, I went out for coffee with a married-with-children friend and we started talking about all the cool things I had gotten to experience on this trip. A man sitting behind us at another table felt the need to turn around and tell me, with derisive laughter, that'd I'd "better enjoy being able to do things like that while you can. Because when kids come along, your life is over and you don't get to do stuff like that ever again." Fortunately, my married-with-kids friend could balance out this terrifying statement and assured me that life does not end when you get kids and can actually even be enriched, as hers had been. We need more positive voices like that amid all the cynicism and regret. Thank you.

[@cupfulofeathers]

Wow, congrats on your first year, guys! It's so refreshing to see young people in a healthy, godly marriage; you guys are an inspiration to so many!

[@summerberkemeier2196]

My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 20. And we are going on 9 years in June! The first 3 years was the hardest, because as you grow closer and become more comfortable with each other you start having some really deep conversations, I mean really deep. And that can be where it gets hard, because your perceptions can be challenged. But we have never regretted it, and I would never discourage anyone from making that commitment if they really are in love. Don't listen to what everyone else says. You guys were totally right, your marriage is unique and it's what you make it! Just lean on God and your vows when things get tough, and you'll be great :) Congratulations on your first year!

[@-BekahJoy-]

Ok, I know you uploaded this forever ago (binge watching your videos and Blimey Cow videos) but I love what you said about marriage not being a ball and chain!! That’s the message I feel like I get from people (enjoy being single now while you’re free and can do whatever) and they make it sound like the wedding ring is a ball and chain, so thank you for saying that, that it’s NOT a ball and chain!!

[@forgoodnesssakefarm1365]

My husband and I have been married for 18yrs and have 4 kids. Our first year was bliss. Things didn't get hard until we started going through hard situations. Personally my opinion is that marriage doesn't get hard until you start dealing with hard situations. Like financial strain, or health issues, etc. Our first issues started when we lost our first pregnancy. Stress causes the strain! We ended up losing 3 babies and things were stressful and rocky for a few years, but it got better and we worked through the tough things that life threw at us. You grow a lot when you start dealing with things you've never dealt with before. Here we are 18yrs later with 4 kids and happily married. It's not always bliss, but it's worth the ups and downs.

[@kanemetal]

married at 20 years of age, August 11, 2007, still going strong, ups and downs but knowing that your spouse has your back even in the worst times and having patience, true patience, love and what love really is, best description in Scripture (starting 1st Corinthians 13:4) and keeping communication honest and open, anything is possible, abstinence makes the heart grow stronger, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 and keep God at the center of the relationship promotes accountability, sometimes it is tough to remember these things but when you communicate openly before tying the knot about these things, if they don't line up, then committing will be difficult since both parties need to be on the same page naturally, congratulations you two, God bless you and your marriage

[@crusty_forever9245]

You guys are amazing bc you don't let others tell you how to do marriage ,how it will be like, and it won't let you be put down! Keep up the amazing job!!

[@OrangeConcerto]

Your first year sounds quite similar to mine and my husband's first two years of marriage, and I think that our marriage has been a really positive experience for the same reasons the two of you shared. When we were engaged, people were more vocal about (pretty split in their opinions about) whether they thought we were "marrying young" at 22 and 25. Many people we'd gone to school with (at a Bible college) or knew from church were already married and having their first or second kid, while our coworkers thought that we were a rare case where marrying "so young" might actually work out. We just felt that it was the timing that the Lord wanted for us. 🤷

[@timeless_tardis]

You guys are so similar to me and my husband. We are committed Christians, didn't live together before marriage, dated for 5 years while I got my teaching credential and got married one month before you did. And we had the exact same experience. We knew the worst parts about each other before getting married and have honest communication. We give and take and trust each other.

[@mikagami69]

Great video! My kids and I have become fast fans of Blimey Cow, and now we're digging through this channel a bit. It's nice for the kids to see a younger couple saying the same things we do. (We're not that old, but when you're a kid every year counts, haha!) Anyway, it's like you guys know: commitment, humility, selflessness, love, a work ethic and someone who feels the same way about that stuff as you are the solid foundations to a lasting marriage. Great job on one year! That kind of attitude cuts through all the bullshit, whether religious or secular expectations that are inconsistent with reality are at the root of said bullshit. We're 12 years and five kids deep into our marriage; best decision ever. That's a feeling that is not suddenly going to change tomorrow. That's what it is all about.

[@bclegomovies2662]

I think this is the most Sarah has ever talked in a video.

[@emilysmith3681]

Happy Anniversary!!!!🎉🎉🎈🎈🎈🎉🎉🎈🎉🎈🎉🎈🎉🎈

[@priscillaahlers]

You can totally see the love for each other in your guys' eyes when you look at each other. God's gonna bless you guys and you guys are amazing