Five Steps to Happiness After Unwanted Divorce

Are you facing a divorce you didn't anticipate and didn't want? I know that finding happiness again feels impossible. It's not. Here are five steps that you can take towards finding your happiness again. Learn more tips and get more inspiration at lessonsfromthe...

[@divorcedevilyoutubechannel3582]

I agree that letting it go is one of the hardest things you can do. But what a great ending it is. ... PRICELESS!!

[@adrip7537]

I hate that some days are so bad I can't manage to do anything. Then some days are good and I'm happy, but they don't last long. It's an emotional rollercoaster and I can't handle it anymore. If we didn't have kids together I would have moved so far away so that I could attempt to start my life over

[@respectme-t8f]

Hi 👋🏾 Men I’m in bed right now feeling like I want to drop off my boys to his house and let him raise them I want to runaway and forget my past life 15yrs old to 35 years old with three children ( no breakups -just him) My life feels alone I’m bitter angry and USED damn I hate life but why?! I didn’t do anything wrong I loved big He’s all I knew 😖😖😖

[@adrip7537]

@@respectme-t8f I'm so sorry you're going through this 😔 I know exactly how that feels. I get frustrated raising kids on my own, but as difficult as it is, your kids will also be your strength on those tough days. They will also see how strong you are facing all these emotions and difficulties that come from divorce. When the kids are not with you, take that time to hang out with friends, go shopping, get your nails done or whatever you want. Take care of yourself, you deserve to be happy too. You will get through this trust me. I will say this DON'T text him DON'T call him, unless it's about kids. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you are feeling sad and lonely. You will get there little by little.

[@respectme-t8f]

@@adrip7537 omg thank you for replying back .. i hope you’re feeling better. How are you? I care even if you’re just words I’m reading on KZbin 🥰 You got me on the DONT CALL OR TEXT PART 😏 I haven’t. Yesterday my boys opened my eyes and said they know it’s their father but they can’t stand to see me down. Today was a good day. Yesterday I cried my soul out. You know...what I don’t get. Is when he left. Why would he be mean towards me. He left me. He belittled me and all I do is show kindness. Like he’s very mean. I truly believe I showed him what true love was and how to communicate. But now he’s living life in LA. I wish him well. Sike!! I wish he constantly thinks about me. I know my daughters a constant reminder for him (we look like twins) a scent, a song, a commercial, a car that resembles mines just turns his stomach like mine. I didn’t eat for a week. I’m sorry girl 😏🙂 I’m bitter still haaaa

[@adrip7537]

@@respectme-t8f I'm doing much better:) him being mean is just his way of justifying himself. He knows he did you and your kids wrong, but he won't admit it. He's really angry at himself but taking it out on you! He will continue to find negative things about you to make himself feel better about his decision to leave you! Don't fall for it, ignore him and trust me he'll definitely miss you. Don't be surprised if he calls or texts out of the blue just to say how much he misses you and the life you guys once had. My ex did that but I was too angry to hear him out. I totally understand how you're feeling, I lost nearly 20 lbs just thinking about my husband and how he left me for another woman😥 Couldn't eat, sleep, think, or breathe. It was horrible!!! I've gone through a lot ever since. I tried to make their life a living hell, and only ended up hurting myself and my kids. It's not worth it, I decided to let go and keep moving forward. There will be good days and bad day. All I can say is allow yourself time to start healing, cry on the bad days and celebrate the good ones. Hang in there, it gets better💜

[@respectme-t8f]

@@adrip7537 thank you for you’re honesty. Thank you for telling me the real deal of this heartache and anger. I do wish you peace and happiness. I pray you’re children soar. I truly believe you’re a good person. You admitted you’re fault. That’s beautiful. 😊 thank you again. Today will be better. Today will be great. You made me smile. I didn’t feel alone. You helped someone out that you didn’t even realize. Adriana 💐 you’re a good mother and keep smiling woman. Latrina 🦋

[@TheNeeyang]

I’m going through a divorce right now & ive just been crying every day!

[@deivadeiva9002]

My process hasn’t even started and I’ve already cried a river!. I wish us the best for us both 🙏

[@TheNeeyang]

@@deivadeiva9002 same! I’m still trying and processing everything. I have to remind myself “ I will get through this “ and repeat it until it helps. I still have my moments where I’m so upset & in my emotions. It’s hard being the bigger person esp when you have a kid.

[@deivadeiva9002]

@Nkha92 we should a start a private support group for people whom are going through similar situations

[@tishachoudhuri5721]

@@deivadeiva9002 yes that will help. I am in danger of facing a divorce. Haven't been this sad ever in my life. What a strange feeling.

[@jtheblackowl]

After 16 years of living together and the last 7 years of marriage...I mentioned one morning I wanted to start looking at a house for us to buy...out of the blue he said, ' I'm not signing any papers with you..because I haven't loved you for the past 5 years.' That was 4 mos. ago ...we are separated...Im on anti depressants..but my life is good...getting back on the right track...all this happened at the beginning of the pandemic...I've had plenty of time to think..meditate..etc...the time off from my job helped..immensely..I'm still finding new thoughts ...new reflections..everyday...also new outlooks on life and living. ty for reading..its going to be alright.

[@chrisjohnson2246]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number [phone]

[@FightingRimbaud]

I was in a similar situation. Together 16 years married 10. We both knew it was over but we were holding on. It’s hard when you love a person still but know it could never work as a marriage. I wish you luck and here’s to a better new year approaching.

[@jtheblackowl]

@@FightingRimbaud my divorce was finalized nack in August 2020..my ex waited 2 months to sign papers...still haven't made contact..but I've moved on..Im dating getting back into the pattern of life...thanking Creator everyday!🏵🏵😄😄🌝🌠🌠

[@kimmyball4961]

Going through a divorce. Together 14 years, married 12. Completely blindsided. Caught him cheating, been going on for 3 months. Decided to try and work it out, he ended up leaving me for her. To date, this is the hardest thing I've ever been through.

[@FightingRimbaud]

@@kimmyball4961 hang in there. It gets better

[@ksmith3016]

Been a little over 8 months since my divorce. I really appreciate that there are resources and people speaking out about how to move forward. My identity was fractured. Starting over feels like you are starting with a blank sheet of paper and is very overwhelming. I had to make the decision to divorce my wife due to infidelity, but it was not wanted. I saw you on affair recovery (which is a great resource), but now trying to heal from a divorce and build a future, and looking for more books or resources. It seems like there are two issues, healing from the divorce and somehow trying to develop a vision for life.

[@songadd06]

Lisa, thank you for your kind words. Going through a break up now and dealing with lonelyness, having to struggles with money! Thanks

[@chrisjohnson2246]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number [phone]

[@trishathompson1522]

Thank you for this I have really been low 💔 really needed this

[@putaschimi2185]

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[@Madzia12560]

Going through a divorce right now...have been married for 10years but living together for almost 8. (Long story he is a foreigner that I met on vacation it was supposed to our destiny and such a beautiful love story; after he came his controlling, manipulative and abusive -(mostly mental verbal abuse)ways started to show) Right now we still live together which is very stressful for me but we have a small child that needs to build relationship with the father since he hasn’t cared to participate much during early years plus I’m just reentering workforce after 3 years of being a stay at home mom. It’s stressful, many sleepless nights over the whole divorce, finances and worries about my child...sometimes it feels like I’m losing my mind and can’t think clearly about anything, I doubt myself and my decision, I get very stressed out and anxious when being around groups of people; just want to be alone at times but I know that it isn’t healthy...I don’t want to get depressed but maybe I’m already at that stage of divorce. Lots of confusion and uncertainty in my life at this moment. Is it normal to experience what I’m feeling? I’m looking forward to getting out of our unpleasant and stressful living situation but in order for it to work he would need to move out from our joint home.

[@kimmyball4961]

Im so sorry for you! I wish I could help you but I'm kind of in the same situation as you are! I wish you all the best! We are strong women and we will thrive!!

[@kimmyball4961]

I can completely relate to feeling lost! For the last 3 years of my marriage I didnt work out of the home so my primary "work" was taking care of the household and my husband. Im realizing I may need to go back to work. I thought it would be awesome to have all this free time! But instead of doing all the things I've wanted to do with free time, im filled with anxiety. I'm in therapy and I know over time I'll get my life figured out. It just feels awful a lot of the time.

[@leahingraham5509]

It's absolutely horrible. So many losses and things to grieve. To transition and let go.. I feel like I'll never be the same sometimes.

[@safina9177]

I’ve been wandering around trying to pick myself up,I feel so alone and almost everyone knows he’s been cheating on me for the last five years. I feel so dumb for being his wife now.

[@darksharkrafa1]

This helps after 13 years...thanks..you seem like a nice,caring person...time to move on.

[@Pagan_999]

She is such a strong woman. Thank you for this video.

[@bacsterbacx4110]

Very helpful Lisa. Thanks much! Merry Christmas!.... happiness is finding purpose in life... Godbless!

[@grahamodonnell4980]

This video saved me today! Thank you :)

[@lisaarends8742]

May better days be ahead.

[@namboy2233]

Plan to buy your book. Enjoyed your genuine advice and counsel and your smile, including the fact that you shift your head to the left every 30 sec as you speak [Ha!]. You seem to be a very good person and did not deserve the treatment you received.

[@kimmyball4961]

Shes looking at notes! Lol

[@kathywilson4077]

Thank you. I am hopeful for my life after unwanted divorce.💐

[@SunshinesSoapbox]

Thank you! I need to hear this!!

[@germanezrre8405]

I needed to hear this, thank you and God bless you

[@TheMJM]

I don't want a divorce but it's not just my choice

[@dellwalker430]

Change from a good thing is always the hardest thing.

[@Pagan_999]

My wife is divorcing me because I pushed her away emotionally. We go next Friday to sign the papers....almost 9 years of being together, last 2 years we were married stay strong everyone

[@jasminestusse8465]

Dont push her away duh! Thats exactly what my husband is doing now.. telling me he doesnt want me and doesnt want to be with me or loved by me. Hes told me to move on, fuck someone else, he hates me, he hates being here with me, he wants me to die, we literally had a fight earlier where i pushed him and he almost knocked me out in front of my daughter and newborn, he also came to me and said if i dont let him leave he is going to kill me, he grabbed me by my throat and put a knife in my face.. he is drunk and pushing me away every arguement but loves me when wr dont argur idk what to do and im so emotionally hurt by him pushing me away and pulling me back in 😔 i love him and want to be with him for the rest of my life.. help 😔

[@BinaryTechnique]

@@jasminestusse8465 Stay strong, and love your husband. The knife incident is kind of scary considering it takes a great amount of hatred and anger to threaten your loved one with it. Might want to separate for a few days to give him a taste of life without you. If he's sober, it'll hurt. If he's intoxicated then he'll be nunb to what's going on

[@glenhanley9918]

Thank you for your video it really helped me. I just can't get her with the other guy out of my mind.

[@rlhunter6200]

Thank you posting this.

[@inserter400]

I am absolutely heart broken 💔 2 years on from her discarding me

[@Fegga1955]

very helpful.thank you

[@grant2149]

You are to remain "unmarried or reconcile to husband. The covenent remains till death. If you sleep with someone after divorce it is adultery.

[@pauldmuerto1378]

I never wanted divorce but i ended up divorced

[@donnarakitzis2719]

Thanks

[@Editzsneaky]

This gives me hope, I’ll try it!!! Verify

[@Santu1939]

I'm going through a divorce right now, and it is awful. But I can only blame myself for it. I didn't give her the love, affection, and stability that she much needed. Now, that she is gone, I realized what is actually important and my focuses were in the wrong places. Now it is just too little too late for me try to save the marriage, I'm totally devastated and completely heart broken. Today is Valentine's day, and I know she also has a date... All I can do at this point is keep moving on and improve myself. Losing her is my biggest regret in life.

[@aceholloway8511]

So sorry for you. Your story is a carbon copy of mine. All I can say is to make sure you learn from this experience and to take that into your next relationship. You needed to learn a life lesson and as difficult as it is, you will become a better person for it and your next partner will be lucky for it! Hang on bro. Walk proud and hold your head up. Work on yourself. Improve yourself continuously and light up the next woman's life who comes into yours.

[@ayeshat.1914]

Its her reasoning not yours. People often find the most common reason to break up with you , what's easiest for thrm to say. You can't always take them for face value. Had u been different howd u know you'd still have her ? The whole dynamic of the relationship would have chnaged and your expectations would've been different too. It would have maybe showed how little she can contribute into the relationship. Your expectations would be different because you did more. There's no guarantee it'd been better if you did anything different. Forgive yourself and be ready for the next one. Its a lesson learnt . But don't beat yourself up for it.

[@irvingg.1437]

It takes two to fall in love and it takes two to fall out. My wife and I have been married for 10 years. In the middle of it she started pushing me away. She seemed she really didn't love me anymore. When I'm with her it felt like her skin crawled. We were so apart I didn't know what to do. I was so desperate for any love I had an affair. I've never been one to do that but I was in pain too. She said she forgives me but doesn't want to reconcile. She filed for divorce and I'm devastated. I can blame myself but a marriage takes two.

[@georgegonefishing13]

IIIIiii,me me me me me I I I I I 😂

[@travelingdiary1187]

I’m crushed

[@irvingg.1437]

My wife is leaving me and I'm lost

[@alicialingo2868]

This shit sucks. Thanks for this.

[@ratmistress7352]

LOUDER PLEASE