Fix your depression by fixing your attachment - A guide for men and women

How to fix your depression?
Retired psychotherapist turned attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith discusses his years of treating depression, how male and female depression function differently, and how you can finally end the struggles you've dealt with for so long. If you or someone you know struggles with depression, this video is a must-watch exploration about emotional pain and how to relieve it for good.
This video is part of an ongoing series related to attachment.
It can be hard to tell when someone is depressed. If you're not crying on the floor or leaving society to live in a cave, people assume you're fine. You may even assume you're fine because you're "not that bad." Men who struggle with attachment feel they have no purpose in life, or they believe it's impossible to have a life of meaning. Women who struggle with attachment often feel lonely and disconnected from others, and even if they do have relationships they feel useless and like a burden. No one wants to feel pointless, useless, or unloved.
Depression isn't going away. It's getting worse. More people are on anti-depressants than ever before, and we still aren't getting better. Alternatives are needed to stem the suicide epidemic.
People with depression don't need to live with the pain. And they don't need emotion-focused therapy where they just process feelings all day without solutions. They need answers to the depression they live with every day. That's why Adam Lane Smith created this video, to guide people who've been left behind by a mental health system which focuses on drugs and talking instead of practical solutions to fix what's really wrong. There are solutions which can work, and Adam shows you how. Through healthy attachment, you can achieve things you never imagined. It all begins with attachment.
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[@andybyer1307]

Don't know how I've found this but I'm thankful

[@AttachmentAdam]

Which part stood out to you?

[@andybyer1307]

Just very much summed up my own current struggle along with someone who I recently split with who struggled with her own stuff. And I've been trying to do things in an insular lifestyle in a cold dark city with a job where I'm not interacting with anyone in the day, sitting alone at night working and miles away from my family who although not bad people are very poor at communication and gave me no direction. But whenever I connect with friends / find success in my side hustle I feel more on an even keel. And have started to connect properly again with my mother more which has also helped , let go of my anger towards her and now trying to get her early retirement understanding how hard bringing me up must have been for her

[@AttachmentAdam]

Sounds like you’ve found the problem. That makes it easier to fix. 👍

[@killingxgesture]

Realizing I decided at a young age after a funeral "I don't want anyone to cry when I die", and began to distance myself from people, to look at them clinically while avoiding detachment(while also having horribly broken attachment issues myself, of course), and as I got older to feel that rubicon of being alone but only saying "This is the road I've chosen" without any real idea of why this is somehow *better* than leaving behind people who loved me but unable to figure out how to change course. Suffice to say I've been binge-watching this series and it has given me MUCH to think about.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad you’re thinking. Challenging our lifelong beliefs is the first step. It’s also the hardest. Convincing someone there’s a better way is the toughest part of my job. Once you accept that, the battle is already half finished.

[@ilinca5566]

Thank you for your work. I sent your book „Slaying your fear” to 20 people who are dear to me and your teachings. I hope you and your family are healthy. God bless you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Wow, thank you so much. I’m glad the book has been helpful to you. What part of it stood out so much that you wanted to share it with everyone you love?

[@ilinca5566]

@@AttachmentAdam first of all I am very grateful for your work and I hope you will share with us your experience, so I am thankful. In the book, and from your clips I learn a lot about my toxicity. I believe that I am a fearless person, and every time I saw a person that can not cope with their fear, I will be honest, I was very judgmental. But, fun fact >))) through the stories, I find that I have fears and attachment issues. So, from the book, I learn a lot about how to really connect with people. And I really want people to read your book because it helps a lot.

[@JulieKroko]

Adam, you are a real blessing. I’m so grateful that I stumbled upon your content. Your knowledge and insight is unique and has made me understand so many things about myself!

[@AttachmentAdam]

That's awesome, Julie, thanks for commenting! What are you wanting to learn next? Feel free to reach out and DM me on any of my other platforms, especially IG where it's easiest, and let me know. I've got resources to help you take your next steps.

[@maureengriffin7448]

Me too😁❤️

[@benrb287]

Love your material. Keep up the great work🤘🏻

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the encouragement, I'll keep going!

[@erikamiglioranza1559]

thank you so much for this great video, my own experience with depression is exactly what you described. I'm not depressed anymore and I'm quite happy now, but I can still very much improve my attachment eheh

[@AttachmentAdam]

It’s never too late to fix attachment. 👍

[@marik8624]

This actually makes sense to me

[@bananabread6148]

Man, your channel is a treasure trove. Glad I stumbled upon your account on twitter

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad, too.

[@betteflentje7697]

Great work Adam.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks

[@elisabethimmler8584]

Thank you Adm, you make a lot of sense.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear this was helpful! Is there a depressed man in your life?

[@elisabethimmler8584]

@@AttachmentAdam yes, I think my ASD boyfriend is depressed, even though he is in denial.

[@1kingmitdemding]

This is incredibly powerful for me right now…,explaining complicated things so simple shows the mastery you have in your profession. Could you please explain or give an overview where things like trauma therapy (SE e.g.) fit into the realm of therapy? Thank you so much Sir, I’m very grateful for the work you do. How is it possible to work with you btw? Greetings from Germany

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching. I’m glad this has been useful. I’ll cover trauma in future videos.

[@mario8694]

You're a cool guy! You speak well! 👍

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks. What stood out to you?

[@mario8694]

@@AttachmentAdam You are honest. Are you alive. You are giving the right advice.

[@AttachmentAdam]

That is nice of you to say, and thank you for watching my content. I hope you enjoy the videos. Many more to come.

[@sabrinacoolest]

Just got your book yesterday and started reading

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your support. Which one did you choose?

[@sabrinacoolest]

@@AttachmentAdam slaying fear

[@sabrinacoolest]

@@AttachmentAdam have u written more?

[@AttachmentAdam]

I have. Exhausted Wives is like Slaying Your Fear but for couples. I’m also writing another bigger attachment guide right now.

[@emilyb5557]

​@@AttachmentAdamwould exhausted wife's be good for those who's male partner is depressed??

[@katelandsmith3760]

Is that a miraculous medal(the shield)

[@AttachmentAdam]

St Michael

[@Nico-rl4bo]

15:34 this concept made me not kms in 2016

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it. Do you still focus on it?

[@Nico-rl4bo]

@@AttachmentAdam No that is the amazing thing. Because people always tell you to 'focus' on something good etc.. but you cant its almost like you re just able to have negative feelings and only want to have negative feelings when you are in that mental state. This concept 'solved' that. After realizing that it lifted alot of weight/struggle (not saying I m not strugelling no more but now it is not 'hopless') I dont know if you get what I m trying to say xD I m not a native english speaker

[@brennen9872]

What do you recommend to identify our attachment issues specifically? What do we do exactly to work on these ? I would also recommend looking into hormonal issues/testing and doing neuro adrenal testing as well before jumping into meds. Also consider other things like meditation and working out before meds as well.

[@AttachmentAdam]

For attachment issues, check out my book Slaying Your Fear on Amazon. It’s $5 right now and is used by clinicians across the US to treat attachment.

[@faisal-kr2jy]

Did you change the name of this video? I can’t find the male depression video but this seems familiar.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Try this one: What causes male depression, and how to fix it? Adam Lane Smith kzbin.info/www/bejne/m6TRZaB-nMpqn7M

[@faisal-kr2jy]

@@AttachmentAdam how do I book you as a therapist?

[@thinking-ape6483]

When all you have is a hammer....everything looks like a nail.

[@AttachmentAdam]

That’s why it’s useful to learn new solutions from experienced men.

[@jessicahasthelam9252]

When I add a guy in the social media I keep annoying him every day every minute and the person ignore me the whole time although he knows I'm interested in him. I started doing this when I was 13 now I'm 21 and I still suffer from this issue. Although the person is ugly 😭🤣 Some say I have OCD idk I'm afraid I'll marry a toxic man because this is what I attach to. Also I wasn't loved by my own parents

[@AttachmentAdam]

Have you checked out my book on fixing attachment issues? It’s $5 on Amazon. Slaying Your Fear.

[@The_Matrix_I_Am]

Why do we not see your formal training listed anywhere? I can't seem to find it. DO you have a PhD in Psychology?, MA in Social Work? MA in Psychology? Retired psychotherapist? Why? Personal choice, or did you lose your credentials.

[@AttachmentAdam]

MA in Psychology. 3 years of licensure apprenticing under 5 clinicians with 4 different license types. Fully licensed for years. Published 2 books on my specialty which clinicians across the US use for building treatment plans with patients. Gave seminars to healthcare professionals on my specialty. Voluntarily terminated psychotherapist license because a license bars you from practicing outside your state and I got so many international requests I couldn’t refuse anymore. Thanks for asking. 👍

[@The_Matrix_I_Am]

@@AttachmentAdam Thanks for the quick reply.

[@hamishorbell1431]

Fixing your attachment isn't going to help if you remain single though eh and you can't force anyone into a relationship or to stay in one

[@AttachmentAdam]

A person does not have to be in a romantic relationship to find meaning in their life. But fixing attachment does make it far easier to find a loving partner.