Top 5 ways to have BETTER SEX, according to an Attachment Specialist

Top 5 ways to have better sex! Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith has counseled hundreds of couples on improving their sex life. Many of those couples included women who had never before experienced an orgasm. And many had experienced sexual abuse or sexual assault and didn't believe sex could be enjoyable for them. The 5 tips contained in this video comprise Adam's best teachings on building more passion into your sex life. Man or woman, these top 5 practices will get your motor running.
Sex can seem confusing to some newcomers. For others, they're stuck in a rut. And many couples have no idea how to ramp up their mutual sex drives. Adam spent years counseling couples who didn't know how to boost their sex drives and improve their sexual enjoyment. If you're a woman who's never had an orgasm, a survivor of sexual abuse or assault, or if you're just looking to tune up your sexual practices to get the best enjoyment for you and your partner, this video is a must-watch guide.
This video is part of an ongoing series about attachment.
Sex can be fun. When you know what you're doing, that is. If you aren't sure how to orgasm, how to build the female sex drive, how to overcome low female sex drive, how to achieve multiple orgasms, or how to restore passion to a cold marriage bed, you need to watch this video. Attachment Specialist, Adam Lane Smith shows you how to have better sex in just 5 easy steps. You can do one for a small boost or even all five to maximize your sexual pleasure.
Stop wondering how to achieve orgasm or how to make your partner have a good time. Have better sex today. It's as easy as counting to five.
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[@oldsoul3539]

She doesn't feel as attractive as you see her to be, and that is something you can change by changing all your interactions with her, not just the ones around bedtime. Not seeming to find someone attractive all week but then suddenly finding them attractive as soon as you want sex can be percieved as "self serving transparent lying" when really you're being honest but your mind has just been worried about other things all week. Guys often feel like they need a reason before they do something, like they can't talk to you or see you unless they have an excuse. It's probably subconsciously a bit of a defense mechanism, but no, you *can* go see to someone just because you wanted to say hello, you don't have to have a question you wanted to ask or something to offer them help with. Equally you can give your partner hugs and kisses just to say you like them, and you should. Unlike regular communication though it's not something you communicate just once, you communicate it in small ways all the time forever like greetings or jokes, they're nice in small amounts at any time. If your partner initiates hugs or kisses that communicate they love you, you had better be initiating similar actions back to them at other times to communicate that you love them too. If you're doing a Han Solo, replying to "I Love you" with "I Know", you'll soon be resorting to hand solo. (sorry)

[@AttachmentAdam]

Yep, foreplay begins in the morning. Good call. Thanks for watching. 👍

[@TheAcad3mic]

It's not "probably unconsciously a defense mechanism" to want to have a reason to interact with people. I would advise you to not read men like they're stunted women. Men need reasons to interact with people because we have shit to do. We know its "OKAY" just to say hello but we don't want to. Women have the luxury of being bored and sending stupid signals people need to respond to and playing stupid games. Men have a purpose and problems to solve. Now granted it is good advice for men to put some time and attention into their woman. But it's also good advice to women for you guys to just stop being ridiculous, let your man be a god damn man and if you're lonely send a message and pick up a phone first. I can tell you're single.

[@richerDiLefto]

@@TheAcad3mic You’re probably single too, and if not, you should be.

[@MayBlake_Channel]

1. Emotional Intimacy and Communication 2. Communicate During Sex 3. Don't Rush the Foreplay 4. Pause During the Act 5. (??)

[@AttachmentAdam]

Did you miss the fifth one, or did it not make sense to you?

[@N0n750]

@@AttachmentAdam I missed the 5th one too! I watched it again but can’t figure it out. What’s the 5th one? I love your helpful videos :)

[@Pheonix1111]

5. Have more fun.

[@pwilliams4073]

Excellent video Thank You

[@nathalie5238]

Love this!!! I will definitely show this video to my man!!! Made me cry... Yes to my man sex is dictated by porn, goal (orgasm) oriented. When I try to explain him our needs / my sexual and emotional needs, how we can have better sex he shouts I me that I am not normal. Why should sex be so complicated, and tiresome he says. I am frustrated cause I don't feel bonded to him at all. So good this video is video is done by a man...

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am so sorry your partner doesn't understand what you need. I hope this video helps open his eyes about your needs and that you're normal. If not, this will help you understand that his pushing back is based on not wanting to connect rather than not believing you. Leave me a comment and let me know how this goes, I hope you get the love you deserve.

[@plamenaivanova9897]

Emotional intimacy is huge!!! Thank you

[@AttachmentAdam]

Definitely. 👍

[@gordonbecker1456]

How true is this. There are more than enough women who don't need this to have sex. All the woman needs is the guy to be hot and have a horse d and the majority of things women say they want or care about go right out the window for that guy

[@linwelch9307]

Adam: WOW, a wondrfully wise, down-to-earth, amazing sharing. Thank you. I loved it.

[@emileejones-pritchard2079]

Thank you, you have made me realise so many things about my relationship- what we’re not doing, what we’re doing wrong, why we don’t do these things and what happens when we don’t do these things…. And it’s made me really emotional, because I love him so much and he has problems with depression, anxiety and depression that I’m scared how his addiction will affect him and our relationship in the long-run, and how he will feel when he stops being dependent on the drugs… I am tired of always being the first one to put my right foot forward in the relationship, but if it’s for the sake of his health and well-being, I now know, thanks to you, that communication is vital to a long-term relationship. Again, thank you 🙏

[@emileejones-pritchard2079]

Well, I always knew communication is vital… but sometimes I just need a good reminder to put my head back into gear!

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad to be useful to you. Now you can start fixing what you don’t like. 👍

[@kashhshez6570]

Amazing video. Thanks a lot❤

[@greywolf4784]

great videos, man. not like most of the videos that focus on techniques that dont give genuine fulfillment. thanks. 💯

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am always here for real fulfillment. Glad this was helpful!

[@purplesquirreltarot744]

Now, I'm looking up "What is foreplay!"

[@Darkempress45]

😅

[@Leahrloo]

Great info! Thank you for sharing

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@inyoureyes25]

So helpful!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful!

[@jodiesinclair8528]

Thank you so much for your open and helpful video. I found you online via Mikahlia Peterson and loved that interview. I have just purchased your book and will read it tonight. I truly hope my husband of 35 years, and I can get on the same page about this. :-) I am excited to try.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for coming over from the podcast, and for buying the book! Learning about attachment is a strong first step to fixing your marriage. Come back once you've finished the book and bring me your questions about how to apply what you've learned.

[@chrisbrownlov1]

Gosh, Im so grateful to have access to the videos you put out. It feels ridiculous to say, I think partly because it's ridiculous that society is at where it's at.. Like really,..we needed to wait till our youths mental/emotional health issues worsened to suggest that divorce might mess up their kids, etc? We can be so smart yet such dumbasses. We need God. Anyways, random rant, don't know how to smoothly transition so I'll end with what I started which was gratitude. Thank you for what you share.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your support. By teaching common sense again we can build a better world.

[@kelseyweiser3067]

I really like your delivery man thank you a lot for this message.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching. This part hit you the best?

[@ekatrinya]

I think you might be a wizard? What a well of information, thank you for the content.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I haven’t got the beard for it.

[@gebronthomasson6960]

Very good info.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you think so!

[@MRodriguez25]

Thumbs up for you sir, thank you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you very much!

[@marcuskelly5768]

You so right

[@jolantakolder9373]

I just found you today. We need more men like you. Thank you ❣️

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching. 👍

[@mylougi3]

Thank you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching.

[@KICLEI_CANADA]

Such a genius.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Just basic sense when you think about it.

[@UserID_Hidden]

Are these applicable to LGBTQ+ dynamics as well?

[@wabbelqualleTV]

Hey Adam, I am really interested in that video about your perspective about porn. This video allready was really interesting! Thank you

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the suggestion. 👍

[@dianekoenig9819]

Like music and dance 💃🏿 🕺

[@Solsister]

Hi so I have watched all your videos and I was wondering how do I make up for the lack of presence of my cocreator father. And mother. There has been times where I felt like she has hated me. How do I heal this attachment if these were my examples growing up!?

[@Solsister]

I feel like I know the answer and I got so much knowledge from a lot of different people. Id just like your take on it personally.

[@Solsister]

Thank you for putting yourself out there. Grateful I found ya

[@AttachmentAdam]

Learn about attachment, fix it, then build healthy relationships with 3 people. The brain seems to need 3 from my experience. My book Slaying Your Fear is $5 on Amazon and shows you exactly how in a step by step program. It’s simple.

[@eladbari]

12:03 - Unprotected..? What's the factor of that..?

[@ymichelle34]

What's your opinion about porn in relationships? If one does and the other isnt ok with it?

[@AttachmentAdam]

If one person is NOT okay with it and the other ignores their desires, that person is prioritizing pleasure and dopamine over the actual relationship. Huge breach of the bond.

[@JaelH7]

Porn is infidelity and betrayal. Period.

[@david9920]

I just have one politically incorrect question is it possible for a man to have these feelings for2 ladies at the same time. I love the contact I and feelings I have for the women in my life not just their sweetness beauty and the amazing minds I come in contact with.I know that the subconscious mind drives us from what ever got their first in our lives as children. And can make you behave differently. I know that the Alfa bit super of cemetery in the brane Can change society for good or ill .love your thoughts I have to work on some things in myself when it comes to attachment. Anthropology since bran since philosophy come down to one thing I love you beautiful ladies don't over thank have fun and let's injoy this journey of life together no matter what comes .I think I will give some ladies in my life a necklace with a oxeytosen malicious in it for what we have shared mind body and sole .......thank you Adam smith

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hi David, right now it does not sound like your goal is to settle down and build a family, and that’s usually what leads men to monogamy. Do you have kids in mind or are you more wanting to experience life?

[@Leahrloo]

How can my spouse and I build more emotional intimacy when He works shift work and is away a lot because of it?

[@AttachmentAdam]

I work with a lot of couples in my coaching to face this issue. The key is to schedule the good parts that help you feel closer as a couple. Make sure you don't just wait for them to happen.

[@oambitiousone7100]

I prefer a professional, non erotic massage: feels amazing the whole time. No pressure to “give back” .

[@AttachmentAdam]

Do you expect pressure to give back otherwise?

[@oambitiousone7100]

@@AttachmentAdam Hard to really relax and receive when you know it’s going to be your turn to do for the other.

[@AngelWingzzz]

I hope you get the courage to deal with this for your sake. You are missing out hugely.

[@oambitiousone7100]

@@AngelWingzzz What am I missing? 90 min massage vs a 9 second orgasm?

[@audreybiloon]

Foreplay starts in the morning and goes through all day long…without EMOTIONAL foreplay sex drives (especially for women from men) will die….

[@janarhorton686]

He just up and quit one day and said Nothing but that was the last day we ever had sex 12 YEARS AGO! SO WHAT IS SEX?

[@diontaylibert9234]

What about better at sex in hookup culture?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Read Cosmo.

[@TheAcad3mic]

forget hookup culture, be a good human.

[@Foxie770]

@@AttachmentAdam 😂😂👌🏻

[@alexryan43244]

@@AttachmentAdam that's GOD comment

[@careybowden4864]

What about the woman being exhausted and feeling overtouched by the children all day?

[@lynettejohnson9051]

Emotional intamacy = female viagra! Plus Safety, security, partnership.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Absolutely. I was just in a podcast interview with a psychotherapist and women's wellness expert who explained the importance of security and safety for women BEFORE physical intimacy. In your experience, what makes you feel safe and secure in a relationship?

[@whynot1548]

What good is all that when u cant even get a friggin coffee date, let alone a girl willing to say "yes" to one?

[@latoxica1500]

But what if he finishes first before he even gets to achieve what I want in bed 😩🤦🏽‍♀️

[@AttachmentAdam]

Sounds like a good conversation to have together.