INFJ Depression & the Evil Ni-Ti Loop

The Ni-Ti loop is the unique aspect of INFJ depression. This is perhaps the most fun video about depression you will see today.
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[@FrankJames]

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[@YourWingmam]

Frank James do you have friends now?

[@ShadySaanz]

I consider him my friend. Friends are meant to help eachother and the amount of knowledge he has passed on has helped me to better myself. Never met him but If MA GIRL FJ needs a homie, i gottem

[@thijsjong]

Tears for Fears reference. :)

[@jerrenew.1557]

I would love to chat with you any time, your so sweet. I get in my head so very much! Thanks

[@tabithagracechristiaan2325]

Thank you for your videos about 'us'...

[@CarlosRodriguez-nu5gj]

Realizing that every INFJ is here for the same reason.... We all need to get tf out the house and do some random activities.

[@juliancraft4503]

Never agreed with anyone more.

[@Cptjonmiller]

Actually, I was barely at home all the time. It didn't really help much. Sure it helped me feel better, but the specific that I have no control over, really just gets to me.

[@joserobles4875]

Try working out and a martial art. I recommend Brazilian jiu-jitsu.

[@joserobles4875]

It’s literally the best thing ever helps me a lot when I am emotionally exhausted.

[@Gurnoor544]

It's fucking cold out there....

[@KenPotter]

Here's my LOOP: I do less than 1% of the talking. I wait to have something interesting to say... then get interrupted again. Then ponder why I even try to communicate with anyone.

[@HandleDisliker]

...And then when we do manage to get our point across there's that pause, and then they either come up with that brief counter argument or pretend we don't exist.

[@veramariecano289]

Bingo!

[@maddart4445]

Ooooooo I hate that

[@maddart4445]

Why do people feel the need to talk so much?

[@dylon8425]

Go watch Tim dillon

[@deepimpactsun4372]

Bunch of INFJ in a room together: Constant analogies

[@HandleDisliker]

Hey, just because we're like a bunch of Aesops it doesn't mean we use analogies all the time :P

[@pirjocheerio4016]

My peeps! 😂😂😂

[@MrGriff305]

I heard limited analogies and no examples. Examples would've helped.

[@axelperezmachado5008]

@@HandleDisliker I love the irony of how comparing us to Aesops is an analogy in itself

[@Stephanpar23]

Lol an endless chant of "But that's like...."

[@jeremytq]

“When I’m depressed, I just go to KZbin....” HAH, that’s exactly how I got here, and it works every time.

[@amy-louisesnelling379]

Jeremy Turnquist Yuuuup, that’s why we’re all here, right? Distract, Distract, Distract.

[@jax4652]

Whoops.

[@destielsimpala7738]

Me too. Keeping my mind occupied keeps me from taking any depressing thoughts too far, so KZbin/Netflix helps.

[@liavierra3696]

LMAO Metoo!!!! That's my type (Saweetie song)

[@JaneDoe-sz9oy]

I fall in the trap of smoking weed when I am depressed, I like it the first gew days and later regret doing it. I recognize the pattern but I still haven't concurred the weed smoking. The periods of smoking are getting shorter, so guess that is good.

[@abundantlife888]

As an INFJ, I never want to be a drain on anyone by letting them know when I am depressed. Also, do not want to be where I’m not wanted and appreciated. Any others have these feelings?

[@faznaz7455]

Absolutely and eventually i had the bravery to talk to my best friend about it and he said to open up to more people to make your experience more comfortable. It's more manageable when you talk to good listeners as well.

[@stoneghost2936]

Aye , i do

[@janey1232]

I understand that... I also never wanted to be a burden to people by talking about my problems. what I realized is that when a friend of mine is down if rather have them talk to me and "bother me" with it than suffer alone. maybe they feel the same way about me? what I told myself to finally accept help was that I always wanna help people. but if I always keep all my problems to myself and try only helping others without accepting help for myself once in a while I'll burn out. I'll come to a point where I won't be able to help anyone anymore because I'll be so burned out and broken. that doesn't help anyone in the long run. so maybe it's better to accept help and be a "burden" to others once in a while but then be okay again and be able to help them. that how I tricked myself out of thinking that when I talk about my problems I am a burden to others... maybe it helps you, too. another thing is I think with having fe we see other people's emotions and react to them. we understand what energy other people bring to a room and then adapt to make the overall vibe better. but we are people, too, we also have our own energy, and we have the same right as anyone else to bring that energy into a room. it is okay to sometimes expect other people to adapt to the energy you bring to the room

[@thatsfunny2051]

Yep! Have it right now

[@missj7262]

Absofuxkinglutely

[@Kendorable]

"I just want someone to distract me" BOOM. That's all I ever want when I'm depressed.

[@danidino1645]

Same. Why is so hard for others to understand?

[@chileanguyfleegman1908]

As an ISTP with an INFJ friend, I really like this comment. Feels like I can do something to help.

[@randallyoung96]

You're my best friend now. There's no escape.

[@hermitsunite953]

Resistance is futile

[@MissCaptainStrange]

I also volunteer as tribute

[@alice18ification]

😂😂

[@sabihahamid5714]

So relatable

[@sunnieA]

😂😂😂

[@cartermortensen1260]

I felt the "I have no friends to talk to"

[@trappedinsideafigure8]

We are here

[@thedrunkentarot5839]

I literally said that yesterday to someone offering to help me

[@kighlet9192]

😔

[@viewer8549]

We can be friends ,i am an infj too

[@honeyalmontereynoso7609]

INFJ too, and I'm here if you need someone to extrovert things. I know what to do, I'll be helpful ;)

[@lesas5483]

I’m a INFJ and the only person who I could talk to who really understood me was my Dad, who was also an INFJ. He passed away. He used to distract me by saying busy hands are happy hands and get me going on a project.

[@trappedinsideafigure8]

Aww. I'm sorry for you're loss.

[@missparadoxa3905]

I’m so very sorry for your loss.. I’m an INFJ who’s also lost her father, the only person I could talk to about some really important things, and I know that it leaves a massive hole. But we’ll be okay. I believe in us and you!

[@veramariecano289]

Start sketching, painting, anything requiring movement. It circulates the blood to nourish and heal the mind and body. Oxygen is distributed to the brain - clarity. Dopamine is released, to feel good.

[@KingPravum]

I lost so much i couldn't tell...i feel nothing anymore.. i am the last one of my bloodline.. i was alone from start.. my mother was taking drugs since i was a kid... and my father was away before i could start thinking.. there was only my grandmother and uncle that was there for me..and we lived in our family house all together.. the house was build from my family 120 years ago... after everyone died before i was 27 i lost the house...my dog after 15 years was dead..i lost my job because i was in not so good shape after beeing complete alone but i it was my fault because i couldn't say why i am in not so good shape... i don't know why..i hate it to say people hey my familyis dead and pls have merci with me...i lost my love for so many times i stopped counting..and something happened to me... something was changed...i stopped looking for my love. ..i stopped looking for job...i stopped looking for a house...it has all become meaningless to me...everything you build up it will be destroyed without any reason...i had enough that anything always changed.. I always had some abilities that allowed me to do what i want and when i want... i started to use my abilties to create my own world...and now i dont need to work for the rest od my life...i have all the time in the world that i want... i achieved everything after i stopped feeling... now i am 30 years old and there is nothing i could not buy... nothing i could not do .. and i just sit in my house on my couch with my dog...i don't need any more... meanwhile this world is just a big joke for me :) if there would be war directly in my town i would start laughing :) because you would must accept it.. like a mother must learn to accept to lost her child... or a young man can not use his legs any more...or youre complete family dies before youre even 30 and youre betrayed by everything... acception is about everything... it is the secret of life...

[@exozen_tytrack598]

Sorry for your loss.. but Thank you very much for sharing the advice.. I always tend to slip into my imagination... 'busy hands are happy hands' thank you😊

[@uruuuuocean]

i feel like we infjs are a family, i love you guys😔

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

💙 Feel it too. Happy and sad in same time. Thanks internet exist, to gather people interested by the same topic. We are together in the abstract web. Being understood : tears of happiness.

[@Laurenconblaine]

We love you too 🖤

[@sparklenights5421]

we love you to :(

[@adjustedlenses3507]

Love you too bro😘

[@jyotivarma123]

Love u my Infj family

[@brynleyjones2674]

Infjs are equally blessed and cursed

[@jainasolo50]

I’ve never heard somebody describe my depression so well. Like literally...

[@zayneclark3771]

Same here. I've battled depression since I was twelve, maybe younger and trying to sort out my thought process has taken me several years! Videos like this help.

[@sansnitizer]

@@zayneclark3771 I am twelve and i am an infp / infj.. idk this one maybe you can reply to this..

[@sansnitizer]

An INTP told me that..

[@zayneclark3771]

@@sansnitizer what is your question exactly? I'd be happy to answer If I knew what you were asking.

[@sansnitizer]

@@zayneclark3771 don't mind it, i already find the answer, it's inside me.

[@tiffany6173]

I just want to kiss your brain! You are amazing at explaining how complex the INFJ works. We are simple on surface but inside we are layers on layers of layers. You can talk to me! I totally get it. 😊😘

[@retrozvoc6189]

The reason the internet still has a purpose and a good sense to it is that one can say something like this without being bashed as a total weirdo. I truly wish one day we'll all be able to be fully free to express our humble joy like this without waving flags and having crusader armors but by simply being what we truly are without any sociopolitical bias such as "friendship love doesn't exist, it's all romance and sex" and "you're 'normal' or you're for the asylum" and other heresies such as "you're a gay/lesbian or have a girlfriend/boyfriend" or "what kind of a boy/girl are you who just plays with dolls/cars? you must change your gender now!". The world needs friendship love and we need to disseminate it from the extremism of puritanism and sexualization. Have a read on this article, it is super reassuring: thefederalist.com/2015/12/28/how-to-stop-sexualizing-everything/

[@Jessieklinks]

Thanks😄too.

[@baongoctran2592]

You save my life Frank James, truly thankful for that.

[@DrVein]

Layers like an onion? So Shrek was an INFJ. Everything makes sense now.

[@hypesm2379]

when I was listening to music its on peak and I had a visionand feeling about Im riding a hyper car, the weather is bit raining. someone pls enlighten me

[@hannahswann492]

INFJ: even when you have friends to talk to (which is rare), you’re still reluctant to do it because you feel like your depression and your problems are a burden. But you’re right about extraverted feeling when you’re depressed. It’s like the faucet that lets everything poor out. Find a really good understanding friend and talk it out. Even if you can’t completely articulate whats goin on in your head, even if you feel like your friend doesn’t completely understand. Just talk and release that tension into the air. 🧡

[@kimmietalks9632]

Nobody ever fully understands us unless they are INFJ too I hope non of my kids will be an INFJ it's tough growing up especially in Africa

[@SeldimSeen1]

I don't tell Co-workers about my personal life or feelings ever. Rarely with my own close friends or family.

[@claystahl7002]

Everyvidioexplanseonemoreofmyproblemssoexactlyfindingoutaboutallthishaschangedmeifeeljustright

[@mansikadel0907]

You know you sometimes try to do that, say people out everything u r feeling in the best way u can.... but nobody understands, they think we r jst stupids and causing this problem on ourselves.....and even if u dont feel like burden before, some words may make u feel like that.... and then u dont talk anymore and they still say why dont u try to communicate ? Like wtf?!?!

[@InsomniacRavyn]

I need another INFJ in my life because just hearing this makes me feel so understood. He puts it in a way that I could never explain but its so perfect, and everything is so accurate.

[@dafaazka102]

have you found one online?

[@InsomniacRavyn]

@@dafaazka102 nope

[@dafaazka102]

@@InsomniacRavyn lauren, could you guess this one's type? kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2WanXylrZqspJo

[@missparadoxa3905]

This may be really weird and out of nowhere, but honestly if you feel like it, hit me up. I’ll gladly welcome a fellow INFJ into my life!

[@InsomniacRavyn]

@@missparadoxa3905 i totally would, but i am seriously bad at the whole online friends thing. I usually end up completely forgetting about them😅

[@nmjr547]

Hardest things I've had to accept in my life so far: Not everything makes sense. Not everything will fit in my mental schemes. Some things do not have an answer. Life can be unfair. And that's okay. P.S. WE ARE YOUR FRIENDS, FRANK. Don't be stubborn.

[@johnhanigosky4085]

Nicole M. Jiménez Rosario this is the most honest insight about this phenomena I have read from an INFJ-thank you I do not think Ti serves the INFJ as a third function very well, at least naturally and relative to other types and their third function. It takes time to reach your revelation in a way that’s relevant and profound... INFJs are a big ball of Ni except Ni can be susceptible to bullshit that fills in the gaps of hunches based on weak sensory data. INFJs have to develop and rely on Ni because they have a hard time being overwhelmed with sensory reality. Then they filter this bullshit through Fe looking for socially harmonious standards of judgement. It’s like in Jurassic Park when they want dinosaurs to exist, but they’re missing a DNA sequence, so they borrow DNA from frogs and make dinosaurs thinking they’re all females, but then they can change sex, breed and kill people Yup, just like that The problem is Ti comes into play AFTERWARDS. Ti is meant to be a no bullshit extrapolation and emotional bias detector which is exactly what it follows in the INFJ. So, it ends up manifesting itself to the initiated as a form of confirmation bias. In other words, they logic out and rationalize their own bullshit and or look for evidence to support their position even when there are perfectly good explanations for what happened or what should happen instead. Or worse, no clear explanation. It’s so anti-Ti, it’s not funny. I feel for you Okay, so you might think all types have this same 3rd function dilemma: not really to the same degree. Take the INTP and ENFP for example: The INTP lives for Ti accuracy and clarity, then manipulates and modifies ideas through Ne, then looks for benchmarks with Si for a sense of confirmation. In this flow, Si will almost always improve accuracy and clarity because it is searching for details or a known corollary to abstract back to the original idea; thus, it serves the primary function appropriately. It may have some drawbacks, but the net/net is positive and fitting Now, take the ENFP and Te. Te is really only used to assert something that works and has some utility. ENFPs just want to do anything they like with Ne and Fi. Te certainly isn’t going to stop them so much, and in fact, might be more likely to embolden them to assert their zany Ne and Fi; thus, it serves the primary function appropriately. It might create other problems, but it still serves their primary purpose positively You could make the argument though that Ti could serve Fe well. They are polar opposites: Fe is about acceptance, harmony and consistency; Ti is about questioning, distrust and flaws. In order to amplify one, you have to soften the other You have to let go

[@nmjr547]

@@johnhanigosky4085 Very well explained and good advice. Thank you.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

@@johnhanigosky4085 This is why I need to be with an INTJ, my thoughts and feelings don't always make any rational logical sense >

[@TheWorldsStage]

EVERYTHING is connected, EVERYTHING has an answer. We just haven't found it. Yet.

[@stevienguyen2047]

Also I would add karma doesn’t exist (imo). I’ve accepted the fact bad things will happen to good people, good things will happen to bad people. Life ain’t fire. Accept it.

[@MT-ij2mh]

Modern life is very isolating and the sense of dislocation is real and frightening. We weren't designed to be rootless in crowded cities. There is a price to pay for the excessive individualism and materialism of modern society.

[@ashamazon2262]

Yes! So true

[@LadyIarConnacht]

So true. I grew up on a country homestead, and have always felt so sad and disconnected since I left. Now I'm back living on a small homestead again, and I feel so much more connected just by being around the trees and grass, the seasons, even the neighbors.

[@MadAboutBrows]

Individuality and indivuduation can be great, but isolation is harming. I grew up as an only child in a 'big city' - and I grew up with a strong sense of self, the ability to keep myself entertained, and the pleasure of enjoying my own company. It's not all bad...

[@prometheanevent]

Melissa T - I understand the arguments for social interaction but, as an INFJ, I’m definitely not into compulsory socialization. I don’t know for sure if that’s a proclivity of INFJs in general but I really resent the assumption by some that people who are more individualistic are somehow not behaving properly or are “selfish” for not cooperating with other people’s drummer. As for materialism, we are all “materialistic” the minute we crave an article of food. We all choose what “material” suits us best. For me it’s books and art. For others it may be kitsch plastic appliances from Walmart. ...different strokes for different folks.

[@AsmaaSabiri]

I like you Melissa

[@bunnyoncloud]

As an INFJ, I discovered that i need to be my own best friend first, cause I deserve this friendship before any one else.. be your own soul mate 🙂 love your self, accept your flaws, forgive yourself, heal your childhood wounds 🤍

[@user-ef7km7lv7b]

Same, Bro.

[@mariefritzke9851]

I was 6 years in therapy with like ten different therapists. You gave me the explanation I was looking for in just ten minutes. Man, that's magic.

[@dianec1595]

everyone is in on keeping you sick, I sought out counseling too only to find out it was everyone else who is crazy and not me, today, I walk with my head high and undefeated, knowledge is power and we can never be defeated because of it

[@reveygray]

Literally soo true!!! Myers-Briggs personalities is a life saver to my life

[@mad_world4481]

INFJ: thought I'm the only one without friends and distract myself watching funny videos to break the loop ....

[@kamikabrown14]

No friends...thats our complex man .. We r loving and caring to every one else but no reciprocation ... I find it hard to make true friends anymore to share w so i dnt get stuck n that loop

[@dusanvuckovic1749]

It is hard to be INFJ, but if I would choose, I would choose again to be INFJ :) I think that it is privilegia to see world totaly cleen like we see

[@allisonkent7098]

Me too! Wouldn't change it for any other type.

[@prashant.singh.7775]

Yea!! Its been rough for me recently.... but still i totally agree on " I think that it is privilegia to see world totaly cleen like we see "

[@rokk7136]

I would change

[@malazforever8222]

I would choose to be an ESTJ

[@sam7r4833]

I'd rather be an ESTJ /ENTJ or any extrovert type it's all about networking and socializing in that world we live in

[@vixikie]

I have felt misunderstood my whole life but looking up the INFJ Ni-To Loop I finally feel understood and it is such a relief. I don't have any friends (not even one) so instead I make myself feel better and to distract myself with listening to music, writing down my feelings in a journal, reading, watching KZbin videos for hours and day dreaming about random stuff.

[@Bhlisse]

You just described my life.... hugs from France 😊

[@saoirsemaimcmahon10]

Haha same bro

[@e.e5377]

We may be complete strangers, but if youre ever having an absolutely awful time reply to me here. I may not be able to help, but at the very least ill listen. Wishing you love ❤

[@raigensumrall8028]

your casual tears for fears reference was something that would instantly make me want to be best friends with you

[@carol-ri4ms]

Exactly. I laughed way too hard and then laughed at how hard I laughed. Laughing is the secret weapon that breaks my loop.

[@klatskyn]

"Meanwhile, I'm dead inside." Yep, sounds about right :D That's like my mantra.

[@AwakenOhSleeperGaming]

Widmark ::: We should start a club. Lol

[@GOWRISHANKKAR1]

Hey. A non-infj here. But I have two depressed infj friends. And I have gone through depression myself, and I'm similar enough to INFJs (I'm an INFP) that I understand. If you want someone to talk to, please go to instagram and text @altruistic.soul . And don't worry, you guys, I'm not a serial killer. But I myself need someone to talk to, so please drop in and say hi, and we can talk.

[@justinfalzon6854]

"Why INFJs have the best barbaques while Im dead inside." hahahahah. So real.

[@jessicah3450]

Sometimes I forget that my head is connected to the rest of my body. Practicing self care and going into nature brings me out of depression cycles. Distraction is good medicine too. I can make every therapist cry. I don't mean to. I just share my inner thoughts and torturous isolation with them. To me understanding the abyss also means falling into it from time to time. It's always a learning experience in the end. We're not meant to be happy all of the time.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

The INFJ's Demonic Function, the Dark Side ESTP is terrible, I make my own parents cry... I tear apart people ~ We're frightening to people ~ Honestly, people think ESTP is bad when its broken, INFJ is out-right terrifying, we're really seriously dark and scary when we're angry and hurt ~

[@GOWRISHANKKAR1]

Hey. A non-infj here. But I have two depressed infj friends. And I have gone through depression myself, and I'm similar enough to INFJs (I'm an INFP) that I understand. If you want someone to talk to, please go to instagram and text @altruistic.soul . And don't worry, you guys, I'm not a serial killer. But I myself need someone to talk to, so please drop in and say hi, and we can talk.

[@GOWRISHANKKAR1]

I just wanna help people...even though I don't know any of you guys, it still hurts to just read about your depression...please do talk to me. I don't wanna seem creepy. But yeah, I want someone to talk to, as well. And talking to strangers is always easier.

[@businessisboomin7252]

@@GOWRISHANKKAR1 even Ur PFP is sad....damn I'm here I guess

[@hope-sharma]

As an INFJ battling with depression, I relate to this.

[@dianec1595]

join yoga, breathing and meditation has saved me from so much evil that is happening in America

[@poppystils974]

People don't know the lack of real communication men go through. Women have other women who will listen to all their issues but men, on a subconscious level (even by our parents) are told to stop complaining, get on with it...man up! Men need to listen to other men more when it comes to emotions and stop gettng so uncomfortable with negative emotions.

[@ineffablewonder]

While I agree there's disproportionate acceptance of what men & women can talk about with their gender group, I don't think Ni-Ti loop is any worse for a male because of it. As a female, I feel just as uncomfortable expressing painful emotion/talking through anything difficult as much as - if not more than - any male. I was a very sensitive child who would cry at the drop of a hat or whose day could be ruined by the minutest of things, so "get over it" and "why are you crying?" are prominent memories from childhood LOL. And disclaimer - I don't think it's because my parents were abusive or uncaring; I believe they really didn't understand why I was so sensitive or know how to help a kid who internalized e v e r y thing.

[@suzsiz]

it's no t true. Not all women have that. I sure dont. Many women are shallow and dont want to talk about deep issues and are just as scared of feelings as men.

[@poppystils974]

I'm not saying some women don't have the same issue, but I wouldn't say a majority do. Like a woman can break down and cry with her female friend, she can go through a breakup and have a female friend help her through it. Men, we mostly just have other male friends who just clam up when confronted with that kind of emotion. It makes them seriously uncomfortable and will just try and get us drunk and laid or something. So for the most part men bottle up the trauma, we've even been taught to do it to ourselves. Many men are so detached from their own feelings because that's what's been programmed into us as children. This is how many men get mental health issues, and why the suicide epidemic for men is so high. Men need to stop rejecting their own negative emotions.

[@poppystils974]

Why is it so much easier for women to cry than men? Crying is so healthy, even doing it alone, it gets the pain out. Yet men have a hard time doing it, why? Because of a voice in our heads that says 'don't cry, pussy'. Where did that come from? More men to learn to cry. Sob. get into the fetal position and wail! Do It! It's good for you. Even doing it alone.

[@poppystils974]

Thing is, a woman being seen as vulnerable isn't half as bad as man being seen that. From a male perspective, we actually find a woman more lovable when she's vulnerable like that. But let's be real, a woman seeing a man like that is a big turn off. Big difference.

[@YeshuaEllisLamb]

We do bbq like its nobodies business.

[@Dustin1047]

Joshua Lamb Why are we so awesome at BBQ??

[@MCJOHNSON95]

Dustin Ebaugh because we make sure everyone has everything they need and make people feel comfortable

[@samhughes6125]

AHHH BBQ! I am starving!! Haha

[@DaUnaDistanza]

your comment is perfect. lol

[@revenant777x8]

Amen to that! I make my own delmonico steak burgers that are complete tastebud overdrive.

[@marianajem]

"Caught in your own head" that's absolutely how I feel, I obsess and yes in my "fantasy world" and I get myself to a dark place or if I want to NOT handle something I go to my inner world and dissociate.

[@tw06le1]

After 15 years... I'm finally learning what I am & why I'm so weird. I have no friends, I cannot connect with humans. I find them mostly annoying. My quietness is always misunderstood, even when just doom scrolling.

[@maroangel8525]

in general, depression comes when we lose our goal(including unconscious goal) or blocked by wall. so your analyzing is right too. once we get into that condition 1. we need to take a rest for our brain. it's the brain error. 2. don't think. just watch movie or sleep or exercise. 3. when you get feel better, analyse your problem. 4. set short-term goal or adjust long-term goal and go forward depression is our friend. if we can't feel depression, we would be satisfied with our current state forever.

[@FFLMrSamstar]

Wow

[@ChloeNinjaxX]

I just found your videos the other day and all I have to say is, it's so weird finally seeing my own eyes in another person. If that makes sense? I'm not sure if it terrifies me, or intrigues me, either way though thank you.

[@kimberlynorato135]

Chloe Cook I like your comment.

[@BrowardBandit]

I felt that

[@JSluzewski]

Same!!

[@prashant.singh.7775]

i was writing almost same comment but then i stopped because i thought it was weird XD

[@redburningfires]

Yeah, same for me, I didn't know that there were others like me. I almost erased this comment bc I didn't think it was significant enough as a comment!

[@anniejayy9559]

Keep in mind depression is fundamentally different from sadness. Someone who is sad can name what they are sad about, a break up, failing grade, etc. Someone who is depressed cannot name the specific cause. Both states of mind are never fun to be in 😕

[@shineeeeeeeee5622]

Thank you for this so i can tell the people who were forcing me and judging me on what exactly I'm depressed and self harm about saying" there's nothing for you to worry about than me and others who are in trouble you're just over acting and overthinking " last night

[@snoozyq9576]

Depression was my whole identity for so long. I'm still trying to figure out who i am now that I'm not just depression anymore.

[@greatestsawes9712]

"I have no friends to talk to..." I literally spent 2014 - 2018 without visiting anyone. I ain't messing you guys. I went to places, met people, but strictly for work purpose, and boom, was back home. I had no major problem with that, but from ime to time, it scared me a little that I was alone in the world with just my siblings and parents, like, was it how normal human beings lived? I would on several occasions spend over 48 hours straight in doors without stepping out of the house to see the veranda. This on so relatable James.

[@davidj5425]

I can empathize. Not having control over something or being unable to 'solve' something drives us insane. Especially if it's something that matters to us. The brain wants to circle back, even if every angle has already been examined. We all need that friend. The one that knows what we need. You know where they literally say "hey, I know what you need!" followed by something cool and fun. Do they only exist in TV shows?

[@MCJOHNSON95]

David J they are real life too

[@user-fh6sm4sb4x]

LOOOL same!! Like 'enough with your depression let's go on a roadtrip!!!"

[@theincfiles]

That's literally my dream friend 😂

[@andieisabella]

I find that most people want to do something cool and fun, that is where I politely exit. I would rather distract myself with the news or something non stressful. Then again, I am never looking for cool or fun. I am described as being a party-pooper. I like watching others, but would rather not take part in it.

[@earthgirl8917]

When depressed, I (in the order) 1. dive into science, theories or philosophy. Despite I'm a science educator as one of my professions I always love digging deeper. Since there's normally anyone physically present for me to have such conversations; I turn to one to one podcasts (love Lex Friedman) and imagine that I'm taking part in a discussion. Yes, talking in my head and talking aloud when nobody is around :D It helps me somehow to see more analogies with my present situation of depression, puzzle up solutions or causes or all of those. But paradoxically it also helps me divert and thus relax/calm down my mind. 2. dance either for getting my endorphins or improvise new choreographs. As a dancer, as my second profession, dancing helps in a similar way as long as it also involves thought processes. 3. write articles after I have my ideas being talked in my head and let the flow of words lead to a new idea, concept or meaning. 4. talk to a friend who, I'm sure, is capable of listening and understanding (probably 80% is enough) the matter.

[@lemi8928]

I have friends, I consider everyone I meet as friends. But I don't have friends that I'm close enough to tell them how I truly feel and even ii I do try to tell them about it, I'm afraid I would be a burden to them cause they also have problems. I told one of my friends one time then she didn't even let me finish my story, when I told her about my family problem (I felt really left oit that time cuz no one understood me) she would try to find a solution and say things like "that's fine" , "that's normal" or "that happens to me too".. I know she was trying to make me feel better, and I'm grateful for that but I just wanted her to listen to me for a moment.. after I hit home. I couldn't believe myself that I told her that.. I thought "what if she tells someone about what I said? now I'm a burden to her, whu did I tell her that? did I really want to talk to someone that bad? I should be the pillar to them, I should make them feel comfortable and not be worried about me" those thoughts flew into my head at that moment. I then told her when I saw her at school to forget everything that I told her and she did. I really want to open up to someone but it's hard.. I tend to keep my personal feelings bottled up or only show it when necessary..I love my friends but I don't think I can tell the. about this.

[@nayanikanath8949]

There are less people who wish to listen....but there are certainly people who Do listen. I understand how we would never open up to others and always be bottled up and don't want to feel like a burden . But speaking out to someone helps A Lot. Real friends are people who do listen....as INFJ we have many friends but very few whom we can share or feel we can share our problems.

[@ezstaples6653]

I am careful with my friends and what I want each of the to know. Maybe one knows more than all others together.

[@jenniegust9982]

Emotions can cause physical pain...❤

[@DudaBeckerG]

Now mix the INFJ depression with Atention deficit disorder.. When I have to work or study, and I stay in a 2 hours loop of thoughts .... :'/

[@cjdp238]

Ugh same

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

INTP will understand with their own OCD/ADD ~

[@ezstaples6653]

I have ADHD too. Sometimes I have five different projects going.

[@DanieMylesK]

Urghh honestly!!!... like why do things have to be so hard for us??... and the forgetting this is so freaking frustrating and depressing 😪

[@DanieMylesK]

Ez Staples so so many projects 😭

[@z1pp0m4n]

"Triggered into depression". Agreed. Certain things send me off that edge....

[@jessieessex]

I’m way too depressed to look up the word “legubrious”. Full of beans? Swampy? A swamp of beans. That’s it.

[@jessieessex]

“patteren” :) hahaha (I have no emoji keyboard)

[@kateglastic9826]

I couldnt spell it to google it🤣

[@natalie-francescawoods639]

lugubrious: looking or feeling sad and dismal

[@jessieessex]

Natalie Hope thank you

[@anushka3528]

Same lol

[@alicjaXO]

I've come to the realization that a romantic relationship with a fellow introvert (or perhaps even INFJ) would be best for me. I've only been in relationships with extroverts and I think it would make a world of difference. Simply to have a connection and understanding on a deeper level would be quite soothing to the soul I think. To be able to feel heard and understood, and then proceed to get out of the mind and blow off some steam together. That's my version of #couplegoals anyway :)

[@MelissaHurley1994]

Alicja xo ya it seems quiet hard for me with such a extro bf that loves talking so much and doesn't do silences very much and well... feels so draining .... But I love him so... I'm trying to show him this guy op videos maybe he'll understand what I go through more a lot better ....

[@jlryder97]

Alicja Sanity and inner peace await you in the land of introverts :) I never dated an extrovert. If I had, I would be writing this from a jail cell.

[@hannahw90hw]

My partner is INSP - I think, or INTP. I am INFJ - although there are some aspects of me even he can't relate to, he does understand how I feel. The deep and personal conversations between two introverts far surpass any conversations I've ever had with an extrovert. My SO has less trouble making friends than I do, but can be very anti-social and introverted, even more than me sometimes. He often tells me I'm not as weird as I think I am. There are still differences between us, and I think that's the nature of being INFJ (less than 2% of people). Being with another introvert, the best part is we both understand that the other person really NEEDS to be alone. We give each other a lot of personal space and respect our time needed alone.

[@hannahw90hw]

My sister and BFF is an extrovert, and she's the oldest. We have always been close and never had a fight or argument all our lives. As children (and even now in ways) she always did all the talking, because she understood that I wasn't able to express my wants/needs. Her extroversion brings out my creativity and imagination. I think introverts find it hard to experience real joy, without having the right people to bring that out in us. So I find I laugh a lot and have a lot of fun and joy with Extroverts. And she benefits from my calm, steady nature. When she feels restless and agitated by her need for constant movement and stimulation, my personality helps balance that out and bring her back to earth. She is the Yin to my Yang

[@jlryder97]

My mom is ENTJ. :) I actually have a couple other extroverted friends and that works well like with your sis, but for intimate relationships, I think my mom pretty much maxes me out energy-wise. It's my introverted bro that really gets over threshold when both me and my mom are emoting. He has sworn off extroverted girls. Ha!

[@TheRoarWithin]

I’m really glad I’ve found your videos.

[@Dustin1047]

The Roar Within Me too. INFJ is rare from what I’m told.

[@the.critical.introvert]

The Roar Within Me three.

[@paigeh.9208]

I’m an INFJ-T and I’ve had depression and anxiety for years and years, and I’ve been stuck in this loop suffering alone. I’ve only gone twice, but I just started seeing a therapist. I really hope some of you who have the same problems that I have can break that loop somehow, because simply being able to voice my thoughts has already been so relieving.

[@im_toro]

there’s a guitar on the bed now

[@frankmiklas6958]

I play to.thats awesome!!

[@pearlpaz3937]

"suffering is all mental" boom! you nailed it! I had been suffering depression for so long and it tormented me intensely that I suffered insomnia, depersonalization , panic attacks, vertigo, you name it. Being an emotional sponge and overly sensitive person is the main reason why I suffered from all of my problems that's why Im trying to enhance my logical thinking to help me not to worry a lot about stuff and it really works :) i also read stoicism which is a really big help as well. Also, the other thing that worries me a lot is that when I'm depressed, it feels like I have no power to get myself out from the torment and darkness and i would become so desperate trying to be understood by others so that I would get an emotional support from my family or friends but I always ended up helping my own which is a good thing as well because it helps me become a mature and independent person.

[@Sarasari3]

I'm sorry, but how do you exercise your logical thinking? I know it sounds silly, but I've been wanting to be more racional and logical for so long. And I also have anxiety, vertigo, panic attacks... Therapy is helping just BC i get to talk to someone without them telling they don't understand me. Thank you

[@Sarasari3]

@Karrie Dee thank you :) I'll try it :) have a good day

[@SAKhan-ui1ox]

Yes he nailed it.....i was going thru a loop here ....and lol....he just helped me out..

[@astronomercat4685]

I was in this loop so I searched up videos to understand it...I literally started crying because of how understood I felt. Thank you.

[@chandraa5333]

I say things and people look at me like I'm crazy, i've learned to stop talking. I like knowing the reasons for things I need to know why. And I hate being out if control and feeling powerless in a situation.

[@suzsiz]

Damn I need to find INFJ or INFP friends [o: (as an INFP myself, it's so hard to relate to other people) To me, writing, has been my way of "extroverting" my feelings [o:

[@andrielisilien]

You should join my family... we've got four INFJs and one INFP accounted for 😉

[@SmittenKitten.]

Girl, I'm here for you! I'm an INFJ and we can totally be best friends!

[@laurabarber6697]

Yeah I wish I had friends too! Yeah journaling is just saved me. It's too bad we don't come with stickers on our foreheads so we'll know each other when we passed each other when we leave the house!

[@marystruttman7755]

@@andrielisilien I feel like its impossible to find other people like us(infj) i know what we are like! Not easy to take down that wall

[@lordsesshoumaru8596]

not to be that guy but seriously, sex is a great way to extrovert Fi and it is such a healing gift. I'm not very experienced, but the fumbling aside ppl can feel the genuine desire that you want to touch and pleasure them. I get confused as to if I'm that terrible or it's too good and they want to stop, because although women are known to fake the oos and aahs, they can't fake the fluids nor the involuntary spastic gripping that happens, 1 partner after sex would quiver sharply from my caressing her belly side or shoulders, I wasn't sure if that was climaxing but the 1 time I innocently giggled at her she seemed embarrassed and no I don't have it twisted that I'm God's gift to women but that women are God's gift to man, seriously Fe is overrated and Fi is so powerful by touch, just saying....

[@michaelzamora2831]

"Suffering is all mental..." I appreciate that phrase.

[@AwakenOhSleeperGaming]

Michael Zamora ::: It gave me a warm feeling. Lol

[@AlunaCoco]

I never understood the loop in my head until now, thank you♥️

[@tinaperez7393]

I read a book about ways to solve a certain addiction and one of the things I'll always remember from it was "you can't think your way out if a bad mood - you can only act your way out" (take action toward solving your problems). Thought I'd throw that out here. Also, journaling can be a way to "get it it all out" - get out your thoughts and emotions to process them, be aware of them, get them out of your head in a way, etc.

[@KimberlyStrike]

Thank you so much for this. My best friend is an INFJ and she's struggled with this kind of depression for her entire life. This really helps me to see it from her perspective and to see how I can help her with that. Thank you so much! 💜

[@astavas8341]

Wow, you're so kind & caring. Best hope for you & your friendship! Somehow this little things like this, that motivate INFJ to go through this hopeless world.

[@ayeshaameermaliha]

Your friend is so lucky to have you. Never change!❤️❤️❤️

[@najairasedano9068]

Awww 🥰 Thank you so much for putting effort to understand your friend!

[@syrollesse]

I feel like for the first time someone gets me. I was happy when I found the infj personality because I always felt like an alien and like no one ever understood me

[@Nikki-fx6yy]

After years of suffering I came to a conclusion that the only way out was talking about it. It was hard at first but then I met my husband. I literally talked to him like he was in my head. It was scary and intimidating at first but seeing and feeling how much he understood me was absolutely amazing. Thanks to that I’m now feeling way better with my depression and whenever I get depressed I don’t wait and instantly talk to him about it. Don’t keep it all in my friends ❤

[@esmeray120s]

It's amazing how you can express my exact thoughts whenever I am depressed. I am watching this video while laughing because of how accurate it is. It actually feels good to be understood. Thank you so much for making this channel ❤

[@missparadoxa3905]

Akantha Petrova I adore you and your profile picture!

[@koraljkamiletic620]

I am not as young as you and have only recently started watching youtube videos to lift up my mood I guess, your videos are pretty uplifting☺. This is the first comment I ever wrote.

[@halimazahir2310]

Tbh when I’m depressed I don’t like it when people try to distract me and I get pretty mad when they do . If I’m depressed and I share my depression with someone I want solutions to my problems not sweet words or distraction and often I never get my solutions from the people I share with so I need to think about it and find a solution myself and it varies sometimes it happens fast sometimes it takes forever and other times I never find the solution so what I’m saying is that for me I’m forced to stay in that loop

[@wwltrig3108]

halima zahir I feel the same. I know he isn't talking Socionics but this seems like a difference between the Se seeking function and the Te seeking function...

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

You want an INTJ, they love fixing problems and finding solutions, they're always in trouble when people don't want a solution, and only want a distraction/sweet words of comfort. INTJ hears this all the time, go find an INTJ, they'll gladly fix anything! ~ It is why they love INFJs! ~ People are constantly angry at INTJs, because they don't want their help.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

As an INFJ this book helped me a lot. 'Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy' by David D. Burns. It's a guide to cognitive therapy, also known as talking back to the distortions in our thoughts that lead us into depression. There's a great chart in the book that lists the top ten crazy things we tell us that leads us into these loops. Examples would be 1. All or nothing thinking (If I don't get THIS job I'll never find a good job, ever), over- generalizations (this ALWAYS happens to me), fortune telling (I know she'll say no if I ask her), etc.

[@iamme3160]

I watch these kind of videos to break the loop. They help me make sense of what is killing me, and why I feel a thousand times worse when people say the opposite of what I need to hear

[@sandradale5409]

My depression can start with a feeling first just as I have woken or a thought will pop up and I will recognise the bad feeling and say to myself mentally oh that's the feeling that sends me to that bad place bang I am there struggling fighting the thought feeling the bad feeling . I can go out to friends feel it's left me no sooner back home it grips me again . Sometimes it feels like an entity in my body has taken me over x

[@Nowkith_]

I'm INFJ and these videos have helped me so much. I've spent the last 11 months battling on and off with myself so you shedding light with your videos has definitely helped me understand and working with myself rather than get stuck in it. THANK YOU!

[@gabrielleb2239]

I still can’t believe how accurate I’m finding this to be.

[@belindacimino6583]

I can't believe I've only just found your videos, love them

[@librateen632]

Been in a loop for about 1.5 years. Can't believe I let it get to this point. Part of the reason is that I'm in a town away from my friends and family, alone 90% of the time so it's easy for me to get in one. Thanks for this and putting things into perspective. Time to get out and live. I actually might create a YT channel, you inspire me to put myself out there more. Talking on camera about personal stuff sounds like a nightmare, but I know it can be part of my release. Much love!

[@FrankJames]

Grace, I am glad I could inspire you. Doing a YT channel is definitely scary and can be disappointing at first when you realize how difficult it is to make something watchable, ha ha. You become suddenly acquainted with all your facial ticks and bizarre speech patterns. But I think it is definitely worth it. Don't ignore those little tugs of creativity telling you to try out something!

[@librateen632]

You made my day. Thank you!

[@monicasojka2738]

Great video! I do this all the time! I have an amazing best friend of 20yrs who I can say anything to and have. She is like 600 miles away so I don't see her much. I knew then first time I her that we would be friends like that. That's it though. Just need someone to listen some times.

[@Al3xM3dina]

“Shout, shout ... let it all out!” I’m in love 😍.

[@senrabetrollin]

Tobymac music right here

[@anormalguy511]

Oh no...

[@lightbornadventures]

I love this so much, finally someone putting to words the things I have also felt and experienced. I have ptsd and depression and can relate to a lot of what you said in this video, I will be checking out the rest of your channel. I have subscribed, thanks for uploading this and sharing with us. I can't explain how much this helps better understand my own mind and why it does what it does. There's so much we don't know about the human brain its amazing. Just today I'm learning about these personality types and learning more about mine (understanding its traits, strengths, and potential weaknesses). Always learning and improving!

[@alivc2458]

Frank James your channel has been far more therapeutic for me than any therapist I've ever seen. I cannot thank you enough for these videos, I'm not alone after all :)

[@shannonlogue5585]

@ 6:43 Hmm? I think that's what you're doing here with this video. You're expressing yourself here (FE). Not only that, but giving us a good example of how to do it ourselves. I have lots of friends, but very few physically around that I can talk out my feelings. So, it's funny. Because I don't have many friends that I can go to regularly with my feelings or thoughts while I'm still figuring them out, my mom usually gets the brunt of it. Unfortunately, I think she's an INFP and doesn't know what to do with my thoughts sometimes, I believe this is because my deep "thoughts" come across to her as intense "feelings" when - in reality - I haven't even decided whether the thought is even true yet to me or not. I think I need more INFJ friends who can relate and be that sounding board during these times. Thank you for being my (virtual) friend, Frank. 😘 Your videos really do help people.

[@shannonlogue5585]

I replied before I finished watching the video or watched Part 2. You ended up saying the same thing. Cool.

[@EmmyKhan]

Oh looord sameeeee! My mom is an infp as well and talking to her can be so difficult because she doesn't get what point or question I'm exactly trying to figure out and she focuses on her personal feelings towards my life issues and not really helping me with them

[@ashamazon2262]

This was really helpful! Sometimes there are those people who offer to listen and perhaps mean well but don’t really understand. Then when you share something meaningful and they say the wrong thing you feel regret for sharing.

[@paulaneary3662]

Ash- the thing I find is when I share something people have THE SAME CLICHES OVER AND OVER AND OVER- like, "you can't control other people" or, "there's nothing you can do about it" or "Well, ya gotta take care of yourself!" And yes, I am at the point I don't talk to people bc I don't want to get mad at them for REPEATING the same MEANINGLESS CLICHES the last 3 people spouted off to me. I know people are trying to help, but it's like they are not even listening to me when I am talking. I have hardly anyone to talk to now, which sounds like it may be a common problem for INFJ's?

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

@Karrie Dee try also meditation. It teaches you techniques to break out of this loop by building self confidence and resilience. There's a technique called noting which helps tremendously in these situations of breakdown. Headspace has been working fine for me, I highly recommend it.

[@marshfilm]

I'm at the point where if I interact with people and talk much at all I will later feel stupid or guilty about revealing myself in our interaction or something. Like I've opened up and gave them something they can pervert and use against me. It's gotten so I don't talk to anyone now if I can help it. And I'm starting to think everyone thinks I'm mad at them because I don't interact with them so much anymore (friends and family).

[@Crustdaddii]

You put my feelings into words and this, I applaud you.

[@ashaojha1079]

I am so overwhelmed of my thoughts most of the time.Your videos give clarity to why i feel this way and helping me in a way to know who i truly am. Thanks for such deep and meaningful videos😊

[@Marvin_Alain]

Thank you, Frank for making these videos. I thought I was alone and just wanted to disappear. I thought I was having BPD (I might be, don't want to self diagnose, though) as mania and depression keeps playing in the loop alternately. I felt like a lone fish inside an aquarium watching people go about their lives; understanding their nature-- the way they think, their dreams, their fears, etc. but not a soul understands mine. I am 34 and haven't been in a relationship. I am not the type who depends on another to feel complete, but at this age it makes me question myself. You are giving me the feeling of freedom. Like I have finally escaped the aquarium and joined the other fishes in the ocean hahaha! Thanks for making us feel we are not alone.

[@runah9780]

This is a beautiful metaphor thanks for sharing it. I‘ve never been in a relation either. I have 2 friends who I can talk to about my problems, and I love them from my heart, but when I think about it, there are still a lot of things I think about that I don‘t even bring up in coversations and have never told anyone about.

[@mariamel-nazer9456]

I just stumbled upon this, you made me tear up, I'm not INFJ (probably INFP), I sort of watch your videos because 1) You explain functions in a relatable way 2) To make a solid distinction between INFP & INFJ 3) Your subtle sense of humor So I get stuck in this obsessive internalized sort of depressive loop and I can't bring myself to vent for fear of being ridiculed, I binge watch KZbin videos and such and this just resonated so much within me, hope you're doing well now and hopefully you've learned to escape those loops/turn them for your favor!

[@charlottesmith891]

Your conclusions are like a mirror of my own!! Well done on communicating these to everyone who needs them

[@angyzm92]

Thank you so much. I definitely feel you on that, feeling like you need someone to talk to but not wanting to be a burden to someone. I realized I wanted to be super social lately to not re-enter that loop but all my plans got cancelled and I got bailed on. So the loop was killing me today. Just watching this I think has helped me. :) Thanks!

[@claty2897]

Dear Frank, You're a life changer. I know all of this way too well. I hope you are doing well. Stay strong. Stay you. Stay alive.

[@SaravanjaSteele]

And that's why INTJs are the best friends for INFJs.

[@kristelhonrado9765]

Where on earth can I find intjs.

[@outlaw6429]

@@kristelhonrado9765 , I am INTJ

[@nadya2001144]

INTJ and their painful straigthforward style 😅 they understand.

[@muaoribia4140]

I have several INTJ friends and acquaintances, mostly females (two are my besties, actually!). I think it's a miracle they can stand me half the time, but I think it's mostly bc we both own our weird, ranty sides. You should've seen said INTJ besties when I emotionally told them a guy was trashing me for standing up for another friend (who politely gave him constructive criticism to make hus book better)... I told him to lay off her, he called me... well, not a very nice term for a woman. I summed what the convo to one INTJ bestie, and not only did she call it low, but she went on this whole logically beautiful insult argument against him, stating that no "self-respecting female would go near his acorn-sized package." ROFL 😂😂 I love INTJs! Just wish I knew a male one... but would probably drive him bonkers xD

[@muaoribia4140]

@@kristelhonrado9765 college or higher ed programs. Usually anywhere knowledge or high-brow intellectuals can be found. Or at home, curled up with a stack of books, door deadbolted. XD

[@danaangel100]

I really needed this. I was in my loop and I came onto KZbin and this was the first video recommended to me. Thankyou for this.

[@Karen-mx2fp]

This was an incredible video and I feel like you were totally speaking to me. The what to do portion resonated with me for sure - the desire to not “burden” others, who to talk to, what I really need from them. I feel I should watch this video on a loop to get out of my loop at times. Thank you.

[@welcomethankyoucongratsgoodbye]

You continue to surprise me with how timely and accurate these are. :-)

[@spleenog]

Yes! This is why getting out of the mind and getting into your body and feelings is important for INFJs. It's the way out of the INFJ depression and the way into knowledge of self and actual real happiness...eventually...over time. That's when things actually come out...expression. I've learned that I've suppressed SO much. Anger and sadness and shit. Once it actually comes out..I feel so much better. All this suppressed stuff causes our depression. Get out of mind, get into feelings and let it all out! By the way, there actually are people who get joy from listening to other people's stuff and uplifting them! ✋ Holy crap. I reassured my nephew when he got upset the other day and to see the tension release from his little face, it felt like I had fulfilled my life's purpose. There are people. Loved the Easter egg idea btw.

[@brideystar]

Yes definitely! I think we get stuck in the mental Ti and actually need to tune into our emotions and attend to them. We need to listen to our emotions too and give them the validation and release they need.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

@@brideystar I get upset because I want hugs and cuddles ~ If I could just get sensual intimacy, I'd be great ~

[@Gavin-ss5xm]

Thanks holme slice. Struggling and hearing you randomly sing the whole damn shout verse warmed my damn feelers 🤗🤗🤗

[@travisbritnor1409]

It's nice to know I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing this with such good detail! Please keep posting

[@amandagrey6341]

“Or a patter-yn, if you’re from somewhere weird.” Made my day.

[@immortalserito774]

Kicking the t.v. analogy priceless, also dates you and me a bit.

[@FrankJames]

Yeah, ain't nobody kicking a 4K TV

[@anthonybogart5224]

Let alone a flat TV. Your foot will go right through it

[@THEJustLucy]

I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but we used to smack the top of the tv.

[@douglasblackwolf8015]

The older sets would sometimes kick back, but yeah it was a real world fix.

[@AnaGarcia-uy2bs]

It’s amazing how good you are at explaining people like us it’s just WOW ,makes me not feel alone with it

[@gabrielle9563]

We INFJ needs to found meaning in everything think in our lives and what depresse me most , is when you give you self , all you have, all your love, all yor best and it is not enough , you feel like a worst garbage in the whole world....Also we do not want to be where we are not wanted and appreciated....And when we feel that it maybe can happen, we choose be alone. I have suffering of depression during my whole life. I understand you!😢 In a very intuitive way I always had knowed what I need to do to get out of it. Thank you for this vídeo. I feel that for the first time someone understand what happens inside of me....Sorry for my bad english. I am from Brazil.

[@naturevolve3140]

It's scary how I feel like you must know me X-D never felt able to talk to anyone about these things.. I find that meditation really helps break the loop cycle, even going for a walk, singing, push ups, anything to break the vicious cycle peeps!

[@FrankJames]

Break that loop!

[@andieisabella]

I wish those things worked for me. My problems have no viable solution, sometimes it will keep me up for days. I have to resort to completely useless things to distract me. Things that have no negative real-life consequences.

[@Mina-rm1nu]

I love to hear from my INFJ community :') It's like listening to my self complaining but it's someone else :) No one understands me because my thoughts always tell me that I am not good enough...And it's like how you said, it's only myself who is telling me that...So no one understands me And I feel trapped, because my family always thinks I am weird because I am so mature and cold...While outsiders think I am positive and weird and that I have nothing to worry about I always talk to my only best friend that also faces basically the same thing but because I can't talk to her face to face all the time, I don't feel that much better... (Just to say, my personality was like the exact opposite when I was younger, until I moved from one country to another...I got bullied multiple times, no one could understand my feelings, and no one helped me...So my personality changed from that to INFJ...I got mature, thought deeply about things(Like why should I live, why is the world like this), and changed from an extravert to introvert...)

[@dafaazka102]

no girl, personality is a built-in life processing capabilities, there are some indications of your type, for infj they tend to be quiet and just watching other kids play for instance. Also i like you say that you're mature and cold, i think we will be always fine whatever the timeline is, idk.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

You might be an unhealthy Extrovert, it is still possible, that you are actually meant to be an ENFJ, but that you're just suffering from social disorder anxiety from being bullied ~

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

The Dark Side of ESTP is a flipped over Reversal to INFJ, so you could be a seriously broken Extrovert, or ESTP as well, trauma will cause someone to clam up. Truth is, if you're a real INFJ, we turn into Demonic Scary Psychopathic ESTPs, we lose all ability to have feelings, and we're just sociopathic numb and insane genocidal maniacs ~ We turn completely cold and apathetic entirely, and we're very scary people, because we use our minds to tear people apart without any shred of a conscience/compassion ~

[@danielaread4911]

It’s crazy how I can relate to your videos!! It’s like you’re inside my head. Thanks for the insight and the comfort of feeling like there’s someone else like me 🧡

[@augdaicyflame5d4]

I remember watching this video for the 1st time and not thinking much of it except just a piece of info for depression i didn't have though a few months later I found myself extremely depressed and I had no clue why, I kept trying to use my Ni to figure it out though there was no use until I found your video and it made total sense why it was so important to make, everything you said I related to on deep level so thanks for getting me out of that mind set.

[@Jessikins777]

Tears for fears reference! ❤❤❤ Always a joy to watch you :) even with a serious topic

[@evelinaorsi4559]

Omg we think the same... it’s almost creepy

[@thedrunkentarot5839]

Very glad to have found your channel, thank you 🙏🏻

[@amy-louisesnelling379]

Thank you for making videos. Feeling like you’re spiraling and fighting for control continuously, searching for clarity and finding so little of it out in world. It can be so exhausting. Your insights are giving me hope that I don’t have to follow the same patterns if I understand better how I keep myself trapped in these unhealthy rhythms.