Freud's Oedipus Complex Can IMPROVE Your Sex Life

The Oedipus Complex is one of the strangest and most counter-intuitive concepts in psychoanalysis. However, through a certain lens it can offer us a guiding narrative about how we come, through the varied experiences of childhood, to have our own distinctive approach to sexuality.
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[@theschooloflifetv]

Does this film ring bells or are Freud's theories too remote/strange?

[@youtubecreatoro]

Love it , Thank you

[@emilychidziwo]

If he unknowingly slept with his mother, why does this theory hold weight?

[@SaturdayAfternoonTea]

It rings bells, and for many, some very painful and fearful feelings are bought to the surface. Still, kudos to you for having the temerity to open a difficult conversation; I hope with good intentions.

[@kipropcollins4220]

sounds like a bunch of really bad bullshit to me...

[@SaturdayAfternoonTea]

@@kipropcollins4220 yes - it reminds me of fundamentalism (sorry TSOL) Each to their own though… still plenty to learn from this channel

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Not too remote and not too strange. It is perfectly understandable. My brilliant therapist actually explained a scenario with my narcissistic mother and how that was Oedipus gone wrong. It was the old story that she sees me as competition - someone who could very easily take my father's attention away from her. My therapist remarked on that after my mother sent me a picture of herself in a blue dress. She hadn't worn a dress in years. But I lost weight and I bought a dress and blue shoes. Lo and behold soon enough she had to do the same. There is a constant underlying - sometimes subtle, sometimes absurdly obvious - competition and my therapist was horrified by that example and explained to me what Oedipus had to do with it and how her brothers and sisters were the same. I hope lots of people use your video to understand this important topic better.

[@PeterZeeke]

interesting, I have the same thing with my dad. sees me as competition. He's an idiot.

[@ibrahimsky]

I’m afraid I’m suffering from EatAPuss complex. I’ll see myself out, thank you!

[@user-zg3gh8xg9v]

As long its not your mothers...

[@sjbaem4448]

😂😂😂

[@micaelsvntos]

🤣🤣

[@sophiefrost]

That is an admirable complex, although bad joke. Still, kudos

[@infiniterer287]

Yeah I think a lot of us guys are struggling with that complex..

[@entropie138]

People would read the video title as some taboo hot take, but as always, you expound and educate with great clarity on the subject. Sadly, there are far too many emotionally-stunted adults that become parents and lack the brain capacity to avail themselves of your knowledge in context.

[@esterhudson5104]

Enlighten us, goofball. Because most of us on here have never heard of clickbait titles.

[@sasquatchsiosaurus]

@@rukysees3589 I wouldn't necessarily count 8.07 Million fans as "few".

[@avacadocap9591]

@@rukysees3589 This channel dives deep about life and people within a society. Are you being dishonest cause you don't agree with the video or are you mad at the previous comment? Lol. The fans may lack self awareness but this channel doesn't, even if I don't agree with what they post all the time.

[@e32b61]

What a self-congratulating comment.

[@e32b61]

@Chandler Burse "I can't really watch this video" Then don't ask questions about it.

[@Gerishnakov]

This understanding of the theory does chime with me. Both my parents were quite emotionally absent during my childhood, which has perhaps contributed to my difficulty in expressing desire for other people (the desire is definitely there, but I'm often clueless as to how to show it). Likewise, when my parents separated I can see how that blurred the boundaries of the parent/child relationship, possibly leading to me in future confusing being needed by someone with being wanted by them, with usually terrible consequences for my own self-esteem.

[@funnym0de]

You really expressed well. I feel that you described what I have difficulty on doing so.

[@khalilahd.]

This is quite interesting. I’ve heard of this theory from Freud but never delved into the actual meaning. Thanks for this 🙏🏽

[@josibc3524]

What a simple and clear way to explain a complex concept 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Thank you very much 😊

[@cyberlilute7731]

This is the best explanation of Oedipus Complex I have ever heard! And as a Psychoanalitic Pychoterapist... I've heard so many ;)

[@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine]

Adam and that tree oedipul just ate it without hesitation Adam asks what is that, examines it, studies its history

[@breadicule853]

This channel taught me about life and things more than school will ever teach me.

[@m.ehsaan.]

School never teaches you the real things.

[@mks_dan]

Thank you so much! Good to have one of these videos fill my day with concepts to think about in depth

[@nopolyg9102]

very pleased Alain de botons voice overs are back

[@wendymelvins2459]

“Importantly, we did so in the form of a game. One in which we no more wanted things to become real than we would when we played pirates or jungle explorers in the kitchen have wished to join an actual Caribbean drug cartel or a trip down the Amazon.” Well said!

[@IvanWheatman]

Amazing vid as usual. Thank you for your work.

[@brucewayne7252]

What a bloody coincidence! I am watching Netflix series FREUD, and watched the episode related to this video just yesterday!

[@Fear_Therapy]

Thank you for making this! It could give a lot of realizations.

[@wigologywithvalerie1450]

I don't think it's exactly true..but I do think some of this theory is believable w the opposite sex parent..daddies girls,and mama's boys.Not anything sexual but maybe the humble beginnings of charm,flirting and being able to get the attention of the opposite sex perhaps when being socialized in society and their immediate environments..

[@sadmimikyu8807]

If I remember my psychology lessons from school correctly then the oversimplification I was taught is that with Freud it is always about sex. It is about desire, and pleasure and about what you selfishly want. It is about your Id tells you without a filter. The phase before that where babies put everything in their mouth is also about sex in a way. I cannot really explain that now anymore but I think you got the gist. But you are right yes it is not about performing sexual acts in that sense.

[@NorthernSpartan]

@@sadmimikyu8807 Sex=life hahah

[@KyriakosChri]

YES YES WE WANT MORE OF ALAIN'S COMMENTARY MAN!!!!

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Yess we doo

[@ferrandianezbrull3816]

I really like the video, it is very entertaining and interesting.

[@emilcioran8873]

I don't mean to be rude. Your female colleague voiceover is good, but Alain's voice is just on another level.

[@Destassan]

It's very true. Sexuality is such a complex psychological construct and we tend to make it way too easy. The more I discover about myself the more I see how my relationship with my mother shaped me and created a set of patterns which I'm attracted to. It's not really about how she really was. It is much more about how I perceived her back then, at the mentioned age 3-5 yo. A lot of details, small things, good and bad - everything matters. And even though I am aware of patterns (not all yet but many) it doesn't change the intensity of attraction. It feels overwhelmingly magical.

[@yonathanasefaw9001]

Currently I am reading Civilization and Its Discontents. I hope it will influence me to read more on Freud. Been studying his work since 2020.

[@Sirgeorgie.]

Informative ✅

[@Reymundodonsayo]

Very good!

[@kipropcollins4220]

I find your obsession with Freud really troubling

[@JSFGuy]

There's a salt shaker sound

[@SaturdayAfternoonTea]

Throw in a bass line and some tambourines and you’ve got “Love is in the Air” by Jean Paul Young -

[@brandondegraaf]

I dated someone who left me because she thought I didn't "feel right". She contacted me some time later, after she found a partner who did "feel right", to tell me that she finally figured out why. Something about her partner reminded her of her dad. At least she figured it out. Most don't. I let those kind of women go. I am not their daddy. Freud studied Greek mythology. His ideas may seem out there by current standards and lack empirical foundation, but many scholars took the study of mythology very seriously at that time. His use of elements of Greek mythology should be interpreted in a figurative manner to give a better insight into his understanding of the human condition, similar to how you would interpret a religious text to gain a better insight into matters of faith.

[@emperorspriggan9802]

great video as always. i have to wonder though, as someone raised in a single parent environment of the same sex, how can this discussion be relevant to my own life?

[@milagrosguerreroorlando2730]

yes it can! when we talk about the mother or the father, we are talking about roles, you have a nurturing role, and a law role, the first is the one who is "charmed" and "charms" and the other is the one that ruins the game by just existing. In a single-parent household, one parent can embody both roles, or if they had external help, be it a parent, friend, brother, whatever, or any type of close bond, those can act as whatever role. The theory in itself is more complex, but in simple terms, and not going into details, it's about quality, not quantity.

[@harshitsinghai1395]

I don't want my boys to have a crush on my wife.

[@pedrocoimbra5977]

So have a girl. 😂

[@beachboardfan9544]

This one seems pretty out there to me, tho the more I learn about freud the more he seemed like he needed a therapist rather than b one...

[@aie_aie_]

The French philosopher Yves Bonnardel has demonstrated how the Oedipus complex as described by Freud is a typical narcissist inversion ("inversion perverse"). He also wrote an article analysing the damage of Boris Cyrulnik's concept of resilience, and on his astonishing statements about childhood, school, discipline... 🤢 Very very interesting.

[@theschooloflifetv]

Yes, much of the critical writing around Freud's theories are just as illuminating as the theories themselves (though to have prompted such an enduring discourse is another sign of Freud's genius)

[@coreycox2345]

@@theschooloflifetv He did have at least a few stupid ideas, brilliant as he was.

[@mamutakada]

@@coreycox2345 indeed, in 1938 (i believe) he wrote a letter of adoration to Mussolini :D

[@GermanGameAdviser]

@@mamutakada what was in that latter, maybe underlying ironic stuff? :D :D (i believe)

[@mamutakada]

@@GermanGameAdviser can't paste the link but google freud to m.

[@FreeWifi1984]

I’m going to act like I understood whatever the fuck was said . .

[@WhiteSpatula]

Suddenly the phrase “well said” sounds downright dismissive. Well shared, SoL. Thank you.

[@MrAdamo]

I’ve never done any of this

[@siobhanmcgregor2557]

😀 Nice one i'm suited to a Michael Mosely lookalike then , this certainly helps 👓🍏

[@nizasiamehenry]

The complex tends to give a range of responses!

[@krishnayedage4209]

thanks

[@daltonvargas15]

This is one of the most controversial sexual dilemmas out there. Why do some people have such a mixed bag of negative feelings about sex while others practice it as if it were an enjoyable sport? Maybe Freud is right, but even so, it doesn't help, what to do for a child to have a healthy sexual life in the future? No one thinks about it, sexual health in childhood, it really doesn't make any sense.

[@paulshortall6734]

Excellent 😅

[@userccvv]

So what's happens to the complex if parents are divorced and there is no parent of the opposite sex?

[@innerlocus]

My dad came home from work carring anger, my mother notice I was watching the clock at 4:30, I was 5 at the time.

[@socrateswithinabrownbear]

what?

[@rahul_bali]

What a topic man !

[@damirshaltaev65]

Sorry if I missed it, but is there an answer to “so what to do next”? Video was about “this is how it should be like” as far as I am concerned

[@auroraborealis13579]

Sometimes we need the answers in bits. It’s a lot to upload….. if you watched this and felt like your childhood didn’t provide the kind of healthy environment you’d need to develop fully…. Maybe just sit with that for a beat. Rewriting your brain is going to be a task!! It can be done, though! ❤ the answers you want are out there!! And, they will start to trickle in. Stay ready to hear the whispers of wisdom. 😊

[@Assasimon]

You should make a video about questions to ask at speeddating :))

[@theschooloflifetv]

Hi Nadast. You might find this video on the subject useful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5DTeKKknJ1gbJo

[@Assasimon]

@@theschooloflifetv thanks!

[@BuckBreaker]

I love speed dating. I smoke meth, then run around the local boardwalk and grab ho's by the pussy.

[@derhamcohomology]

@@theschooloflifetv Wow, great idea. Talking about deep emotions and desires has always been an unfamiliar sphere to me. Now I undergo psychotherapy and this is something I need to try :)

[@josemaanmieli7821]

Have you considered, like Freud, that the complex and the seduction might originate in the parent and be directed toward the child? What kind of relationships do we normally become parents within, ones in which we tolerate that our partners desire others?

[@drrMonManon]

Alan ❤️

[@lynnhummer7307]

Me an aro-ace watching this video…. Nice 👀

[@TheGinglymus]

The comments here show that you can take a horse to water but... all nuance will be lost.

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Hear hear!

[@wisdon]

never tried to "charm" my parents

[@slimeinabox]

he was totally NOT projecting, Freud would NEVER do that.

[@joshuarepko-cy2xu]

Yes, he's projecting, but that simply sustains his point that the Complex is universal (in that it was found to be the case in his patients, under psychoanalysis, as well also in Freud himself). But, no - it's not as if Freud examined every single human being on the planet, which I suppose would be the only possible way to prove the Complex's universitality. Still, I find it indeed interesting that it was the conclusion he came to of everyone of his neurotic patients, and even of his own self.

[@deleted_why]

Thank you for the gender choices in the illustrations from 4:28 to 4:41 however, the adjectives "Bitter", "Lifelong", and "Tragic" might not be strong enough and the boy might have memories that go back earlier than that age...

[@georgerosebush9754]

wtf, this is some kinda projection

[@deleted_why]

@@georgerosebush9754 i was raped by my mother, George. The general discussion in that section typically covers the damage done when fathers abuse daughters. The illustrator chose to show a mother and son instead. My comment started with "thank you" because I was expressing gratitude to them for having pointed out how much havoc a sick parent can wreak and suggesting that it is more than a bitter lifelong tragedy. Why do you suggest "projection"?!

[@Gay-Icon]

@@deleted_why I'm so sorry this happened to you!

[@gregdavidson5898]

So now what? As an adult. Not remembering too much up to 5 years old? Now what to do with this theory?

[@novruznovruzov4329]

I would like to know how you can apply Odepius Complex to LGBTQ+ people's lives. Can you make a video about that @theschooloflife? I'm inquisitive)))

[@NwordOutward]

Thank you

[@almezheuz9959]

Oedipus complex is not about children expressing sexual love for the parent with opposite sex. It is sexual love of a boy to his mother. Girl's love is called electra complex, which was not agreed by Freud. It was Carl Jung's theory

[@almezheuz9959]

@R Smith oh yes

[@almezheuz9959]

@@yareyaredaze9656 got it, thank you very much

[@almezheuz9959]

@@yareyaredaze9656 I think they do, thanks again

[@kintrap5376]

Socrates and Wilde arguing about Freud in 2022. What a trip

[@willcwhite]

Isn’t the Oedipus complex specifically about sons and mothers (with the Elektra complex for daughters and fathers)?

[@theschooloflifetv]

This is correct - though Freud rejected the notion of an equivalent Electra complex, which was proposed by Carl Jung

[@nedgey]

As a counsellor with a PhD in developmental psychology, I think this one is clutching at straws. It feels similar to arguments that the bible is valid, as long as you don't take it literally. The 'echoes' of sexuality may emerge in childhood, but you could have addressed this topic without referring to Freud. Too often his invalid theories are twisted to make some kind of sense, probably due to generations of older psychologists having been schooled in them. Surely we can discuss this topic more productively using modern approaches. People have been confused enough by Freud.

[@0000song0000]

what about those who grew up without an opposite-sex parent?

[@craigmerkey8518]

Building secure attachments is very complex! What happens when you wanted to send both of your parents away?

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Hm that sounds like a different issue altogether. Did you? Might I ask why you felt that way?

[@seanwilliamson5720]

I have read his books, and I would say take his material with a grain of salt. I don't really agree with his conclusions on several things so idk how well it would be in advising anything constructive.

[@RuiHiHi]

Homosexuality also originates here, and the premise is that the child will have a unhealthy (over nurture) by one of the parents…im going to make a thesis on that, and send you

[@nias3202]

Very beautiful animation and topic! I wonder if you could talk more about gender identity and LBTQAI+ on your channel. I would also appreciate if you added some studies and sources to your videos. Thank you for the book recommendation "The body keeps the score". I really enjoyed reading it.

[@socrateswithinabrownbear]

There are three genders - Men, women and the third gender, being intersex. You're welcome.

[@notforsaletoday1895]

Remember Tom boys; girls who like “boy games” or “boys toys” or “boys clothes”? It seems now that they are told they are trans. Same for the opposite sex. It would be interesting to have to is explored deeper.

[@socrateswithinabrownbear]

@@notforsaletoday1895 You can be a man and still ike certain things that females generally tend to like - this doesn't change anything at all w.r.t. your gender. vice versa with the female gender. Take away these people's mobile phones and social media for a year and you'll see what I am talking about.

[@eddyk2016]

Great video as usual, but I disagree with this theory. I can’t say I’ve ever thought of this growing up. I have been envious and insecure, but not in the want of mother in that light

[@soalkous2054]

While I disagree with some of Freud's work, even finding them utterly ridiculous, I must admit that they are interesting when you take them not at the surface value, but view them in a broader sense. Great video.

[@TheGinglymus]

That because none of it is supposed to be taken on surface value. The value is deep.

[@sv5gcambodia392]

Hello

[@Reymundodonsayo]

Be your own freud

[@jacobdarling1524]

The theory of the Oedipus complex was a complete misunderstanding of the original Greek story. Which was about the inescapable nature of destiny. Not everyone’s secret desire to bang their own mom. As with most of Freud’s theories, it says way more about him as an individual than it does about people as a whole.

[@bt4086]

Disappointingly literal response to a balanced and considered video.

[@gundifreitag6813]

I don't think that Freud didn't get the story or the unescapeable nature of it..he just stumbled over the Greek myth while he was working on that theory, if I remember this right, and then found the name Ödipus good enough. And it IS unescapeable destiny, the way he describes it! Not everything that Freud did or said was great, but this theory definitely is. Even if you add the much laughed at and often totally misunderstood fear of castration, which hopefully will be explained here later.

[@sebsoud]

@@bt4086 I also don't like this video, it's rewritting a theory to fit more with what we know now (For Freud, libido is not "a game" for experimenting as a child). And Oedipus complex alone cannot explain the issues which can show in sexuality, it's very limiting vision for me.

[@Aspensauce64]

Freud: the king of projection

[@manishmishraji]

Invest porn is proof of the widespread presence of this complex

[@winterramos4527]

If you Oedipus...the women will love you.

[@sajjadal-mosawi5860]

Arabic subtitle pleeeeease

[@poppiethestable1090]

Freud was another wacky WEJ

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

I love some researches of the Freudian movement but this one is a bit odd for me because how can an individual child have such a s3xual drive at such a young age? How should it know if (s)he's really an heteros3xual person? Especially nowadays in a single parents era? How can they immediately find out that then? So many questions... 🤔 Nevertheless, it's a great informative video and wonderful visualizations of yours❣️ Keep it up with your precious work❣️👏👏👏

[@theschooloflifetv]

Hi. Freud's point, we argue, is not that we are conscious of our sexuality during infancy - which would plainly be nonsense - but that our early experiences of parental love condition how our sexuality develops in adulthood.

[@BobbyJenko]

If you watched the video again, and listened closer, I think you would understand that he didn’t say that.

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

@@BobbyJenko It's not about the video itself but about Freud. That's why I wrote _Freudian movement_ NOT _School of Life_ 😉

[@IsuiGtz]

Maybe not at such a young age like 3 or 5, but somewhere between 7 and older, yes, children often experience an unconscious level of desire. They wouldn't know what to do (how to "do it") but they experience it like the urge to go to the bathroom, only they don't even know what it is exactly. So... the case presented in the video could also be interpreted literally in some cases. I wouldn't be surprised. I saw a lot of it when I was growing up. It seems really unhealthy to socially deny the existence of such feelings simply because we are uncomfortable even thinking about it. Parents especially should know this very literal possibility.

[@mathissss2023]

Let’s gooo

[@AlexS-vz7od]

Cute and cozy, but Freud is way watered down here. The Oedipus complex is a time of huge emotional distress for a child as he/she encounters sexual taboos for the first time. It's not simply a fun exploration. Plus the opposite sex parent plays a key role and the child's relationship with them is rife with conflict and aggression. None of this really comes out in the video. This looks like it could have come out of a corporate PR department - watered down and easily digestible generalities, sadly without much power or insight. The suggestions for "good enough" parenting are valid enough (not too distant, not seductive), but superficial without an understanding of the deeper logic of the Oedipus complex. I suggest looking somewhere else for a deeper explanation.

[@MrDestroys]

This video is really entertaining, you know what else is entertaining. Lyrics to how deep is your love I know your eyes in the morning sun I feel you touch me in the pouring rain And the moment that you wander far from me I wanna feel you in my arms again And you come to me on a summer breeze Keep me warm in your love, then you softly leave And it's me you need to show How deep is your love? How deep is your love? How deep is your love? I really mean to learn 'Cause we're living in a world of fools Breaking us down when they all should let us be We belong to you and me I believe in you You know the door to my very soul You're the light in my deepest, darkest hour You're my savior when I fall And you may not think I care for you When you know down inside that I really do And it's me you need to show How deep is your love? How deep is your love? How deep is your love? I really mean to learn 'Cause we're living in a world of fools Breaking us down when they all should let us be We belong to you and me Na-na-na-na-na Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na Na-na-na-na-na-na-na And you come to me on a summer breeze Keep me warm in your love, then you softly leave And it's me you need to show How deep is your love? How deep is your love? How deep is your love? I really mean to learn 'Cause we're living in a world of fools Breaking us down when they all should let us be We belong to you and me (na-na-na-na-na) How deep is your love? How deep is your love? I really mean to learn 'Cause we're living in a world of fools Breaking us down when they all should let us be We belong to you and me (na-na-na-na-na) How deep is your love? How deep is your love? I really mean to learn 'Cause we're living in a world of fools Breaking us down when they all should let us be We belong to you and me

[@kshitijjagtap356]

its never easy with the homo sapiens ,is it?

[@NickDaskalopoulos]

Yes... Controversial... Yes... Let's play some more theatre...

[@acepangan2752]

this helps my sex life

[@Cruelcoil]

I think Freud used the Oedipus Complex as a cover because he didn't want to be attacked for pointing out child abuse. Deep dive on Odysee: The Horrors of Freud - Stefan Molyneux Livestream AMA

[@Pk-wu9tl]

Now what about the gays

[@chriss780]

looks at title narrows eyes suspiciously

[@hhaahhhhaahh8069]

hello, i don't often wirite comments but this time i have to. First of all i would like to say , that i am gay. I actually have a very clear image of the time where i was in that phase. Of course I was attracted to my dad. it went completely wrong ( rejection)and ever since that i am burnt marked . As an adult (21 years) i have major problems in relationships. Always feel like i get abandoned the minute i do something wrong. Can't allow sexuality. very shamefull for me. I never really said that to anyone not even my therapist. but i am still really struggling internely with this topic. maybe someone has some insight regarding that topic. ps: it was not easy to say this .please don't write something hateful i allredy feel ashamed

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Hey there I can see why this was an experience that you cannot shake off but might I ask.. why have you not told your therapist yet? Do you not trust them? Are you scared they might reject you? I ask this because in therapy I struggled with things as well. I thought she would laugh at me or ridicule me. I just reply to tell you that a therapist is not there to pass judgement and I have this feeling that you would really benefit from talking about this because this event has in all likehood created a pattern you are working on. Maybe your therapist already knows or suspects. Again without judgement.

[@sophiafakevirus-ro8cc]

This guy is too scared to admit to the genuine lust involved

[@Mo-or3so]

I thought that’s maybe why you see so much daddies girls, like little girls who are super defensive and seem to despise their mums existence when around their dad. But if that was the case I haven’t seen that level of behaviour in boys, it’s baffling when you think of it.

[@GeorgeFromBG]

Baffling for sure

[@john92415]

He was all hoped up on the devils dandruff that's why he was so horney.

[@marcpadilla1094]

And the stigma of mental illness continues. Its environmental. An audience is necessary for affectual triggers.

[@marcpadilla1094]

@@SaturdayAfternoonTea Cultural. Cultural PTSD. Replace the Complex wirh Culture. Insecurities lead to abuse, trauma,. Can also be a catalyst for Narcissism, and BPD. You need people to damage,and heal, people. A stage and an audience . Circular causation doesn't happen in isolation. Symptoms,vulnerabilities, attract predators. Your weaknesses are someone else's strengths. Take the " look" the existential idea of object vs subject or as will to power. Its a power dynamic from. the get go. Its only transcendent in the sense that its not limited to immutable characteristics. I fact familiarity breeds the most comfortable of all contempt. Ideally, we'll smittingly engage ourselves in all sorts of sappy positive virtue signals to get us back to a negative state. To improve upon of course until thw next narrative bogeyman challenges us. The essence of it all is power and Supremacy. Progress is a race back to the primal bottom. This is why history's most impressive success stories are also the most harrowing.

[@sethboeckx9773]

Trust me, my sex life is non-helpable

[@maymoreshet2954]

ugh. Stop twisting yourself into pretzels trying to pretend Freud was a legitimate anything. None of his crap is salvageable.

[@userjames2009]

Yes, if you're going to change a theory so much away from Freud, don't call the theory Freud's. Call it something else. Twisting themselves into knots calling what they're talking about something of Freud's.

[@estherlamb4459]

I remember

[@elinope4745]

Same, and I have met others who remember as well but it seems that we are only five to ten percent of the population.

[@estherlamb4459]

I remember having sexual urges at 5 and 7 ...seems like 3 would be pushing it. But I recently opened up about it to a sibling.

[@elinope4745]

@@estherlamb4459 I was doing stuff with the neighbors daughter when I was four. She's the one who made the games, but I sure liked playing them.

[@skatesatgod-fusion2619]

@@estherlamb4459 I remember having general urges towards girls older than myself, but not towards my own mother or anyone of her age. Though I would suggest keeping this sort of thing a secret and not revealing it to anyone in real life unless you know with reasonable certainty that they would be mature about it. Theres a lot of potential for misinterpretation and misunderstanding, and its just not worth the risk.

[@estherlamb4459]

I said what I said..I don't really care what others think.. 💯 🤷 😴

[@nancydickson7699]

*I will forever be indebted to you, you have changed my entire life and I will continue to preach on your name for the world to hear that you save me from huge financial debt with little investment thank you very much Expert Mrs........Blossom Jefferson*

[@jamescandason6954]

Talking about being successful! I know am blessed because if not I wouldn't have met someone who is as spectacular as expert Mrs Blossom Jefferson

[@scottbonovan6521]

The greatest regret is not trying and failing but it is not to trying at allFunny enough people aspire to emulate great investors and entrepreneurs, of our time but they only see their wins and achievements and they careless about their challenges and failures during multiple trials and the lesson it teaches

[@rosanicole5643]

I wouldn't agree less but a times we are influenced based on result of what will see and experience, failure at first try doesn't mean it is over but unfortunately people seems to back off when they have experiences some obstacle or failure along the way

[@markjahson475]

You have to recognize you need an expert that understands how to read the market so you can avoid winning today and losing tomorrow. There's reason why experts like Mrs Blossom wins all the time,I was a bit skeptical but she Kept encouraging me to invest and it turn out very successful

[@jeffmatt7086]

Who doesn't know Mrs blossom? It's been a year since i met her and I'm still making great profits under her guidance.

[@biga4442]

What sex life? Lol

[@purplemonsoon8376]

Children and parents repulse me.

[@tarantulasareterfs]

All the hets in the comment section relating to this bullshit are insane

[@shyguy85]

Hets? Bro they're the normal ones

[@memekingdom8973]

UH NO?!

[@adolphsanchez1429]

Nah. I am not a believer in much of Freud's work although I realize he pushed the burgeoning science of psychology forward. I might find the occasional older woman attractive due to her style and sexuality, but I would bever date an older woman (sex would be fine but I would never date anyone more than a couple years older than I am).

[@theschooloflifetv]

Freud wasn't suggesting that the Oedipal phase in our development corresponds exactly with our preferences in adulthood. Rather, he was highlighting how much of our thinking around love and sex is moulded by the conditions of our childhood.

[@GanzcastGermany]

you should maybe watch die video agin with more care if that's your takeaway 😅

[@anthonyherring6636]

That's just your pref.! Every man has prefs. On who they f**k, date or marry!

[@supersaiyanzero386]

Redacted

[@phatato]

I hope the woman's picture at 4:35 consented to her image being used in this context

[@user-kf9fp1kv9i]

آسِالُكِ بّالُلُُه الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَْع انَيَ انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء ( (آنيِ آتٍرجُآك وآتٍوسلّ آلّيِك يِآآخيِ آن تٍقرآ رسآلّتٍيِ هًذٍآ گٍآمٌلّهً وولّآتٍتٍرگٍهًآ بدون ماتقراها اخي اول گٍلّآمٌيِ آنآآقسمٌ ببآآلّلّهً علّى گٍتٍآب آلّلّهً آنيِ لّآآگٍذٍب علّيِگٍ ولّآآنصِب ولّآآحًتٍآلّ آنيِ بنتٍ يِمٌنيِهً نآدحًيِن مٌن تٍعزُ آنآوآسرتٍيِ وعلّيِنآآجُآربيِتٍ آلّشهًرب13آلّفُ يِمٌنيِ وآلّآن علّيِنآ42آلّف حًق3شهًور وصِآحًب البيتٍ مٌن آلّنآس آلّيِ مٌآتٍرحًمٌ والله يااخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلناويتكلم عليناويريد ان يطردنا من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرناندفعله الاجارومايروح إلئ بعدمانبكي ورجعوتكلموعليه الناس ومهلنالاخرهذا الاسبوع وإذامادفعناله حلف يمين بالله انه بيخرجناإلئ الشارع بدون رحمه واحنااسره ايتام فقراء مشردين من بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجدقوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سغار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنااحدفي هذاالدنيا يقف بجنبنا في هذا الضروف القاسيه ومامعي اخوان كبار اناالكبيره في اخوتي ولكن انابنت لااستطيع مثلك ان اروح اشتغل بين الرجال واصرف علئ اسرتي والله ثم والله يااخي انناقدلنايومين محرومين من لقمت العيش ومعي اخوان سغار انظركيف حالتهم اقسم بالله يااخي انهم خرجومن البيت للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو راحووقفوعندبابهم لجل يعطوهم ولوخبزه يابسه يسدوبها جوعهم والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلقو الباب وطردوهم ورجعويبكوايموتومن الجوع مااحدرحمهم وعطانهم لقمت عيش والان لومااحد ساعدنا بحق كيلو دقيق اقسم بالله اننا انموت من الجوع فيااخي انادخيله علئ الله ثم عليك واريدمنك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله وبمحمد رسول الله يامن تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو ب500ريال يمني ان تراسلي واتساب علئ هذا الرقم00967716696871 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير فيااخي انت رجال إذاشفت اسرتك جاوعين تعمل المستحيل من اجل تامن لهم الاكل ولكن انابنت عيني بصيره ويدي قصيره ليس لي اب مثلك يمسح دمعتي ويحميني من الذل والأهانات وأخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدناوأنقذناقبل ان يطردونا في ألشارع نتبهدل او نموت من الجوع انااقسم بالله الذي رفع سبع سموات بلاعمدوبسط الأرض ومهداني لاأكذب عليك بحرف من هذا ألرساله واني ماطلبتك إلئ من ضيق ومن قسوت الضروف والحال الذي احنافيه واناوسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره علئ مساعدتنا لاتتاخر عليناالله يحفضكم ويرزقكم،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،،...... .....

[@elliottjames671]

Gay

[@biosphere8488]

Almost a brilliant grooming video.

[@esterhudson5104]

Yeah. It bit much.

[@TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune]

As is with a lot of these old white men from the past with their physical or mental health models, a lot of them however do NOT account for ALL of humanity. They apply mostly to white men. Therefore this complex I argue is one of them. It’s been proven that many health models, frameworks, and scales of the past that people in the West champion do NOT apply to men and women of colour, rather they apply mostly to white men. This being a model based on an ancient Grecian myth featuring a quintessential archetype of white masculinity tells me you can and should NOT be saying that this is somehow a universal thing.

[@Purwapada]

SB wu mao

[@esterhudson5104]

That’s the “ I can’t get hired as a Gender Studies major while I have ADHD” YT channel. Why don’t you go to the YT that has the diversity answer you’re looking for.

[@TianZhaoHeavenlyFortune]

@@esterhudson5104 sensitive white fragility I sense?

[@lrob775]

What has this got to do with race? We have mother's do we not

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Is the concept of parenthood different when you have a a skin colour that is not white? Also keep tooting that horn there... people of a non-white skin colour are different.. that will definitely help strengthen the medical bias against you which many try to erase. Because a whole lot of nonsense is going around there which leads to people being treated differently such as the myth that people of colour do not feel the same pain. Also edit: You are confusing culture with human nature.