Responding to criticism of my “immodest” clothing

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

I want to share with you here a sweet moment from Hasidic Williamsburg - an elderly man commenting on my wearing red. It's a bit of loving teasing. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gmbZo3qqiKaEsKMsi=t_MbopBznPa-VVi_ And to those who asked, here's again the link to the post with the Belgian model: friedavizel.com/2019/05/24/a-naked-playboy-model-in-hasidic-williamsburg/

[@Zelde-M]

Love the first vid in the Red!!!

[@raizellanda8190]

The kindness and caring that you experience in Wlliamsburg is what is called CHESED. Our father Avraham Avinu was known for this trait of Chesed. Anyone who is Jewish and therefore also a descendent of Avraham Avinu, hopefully

[@raizellanda8190]

Rries this trait too.

[@hershyd3862]

​@@Zelde-M ain't nobody like Mr tiv tov 😅

[@michelleyanche1706]

So sweet!

[@JohnHarvey_UK]

The following quote by Flemming Rose comes to mind: "When I visit a mosque, I show my respect by taking off my shoes. I follow the customs, just as I do in a church, synagogue or other holy place. But if a believer demands that I, as a nonbeliever, observe his taboos in the public domain, he is not asking for my respect, but for my submission. And that is incompatible with a secular democracy."

[@joyfairclough4686]

Right; should we be expected to wear sleeves and long dresses in Brooklyn? The streets, the corner shops, are they holy places?

[@happycrabknits9109]

This is very well said and agree

[@sunbeam8161]

This video, once again, shows what a beautiful person you are Frieda❣️You showed yourself very open, honest and vunerable❤You are such a soft-spoken, respektful and kind person. You have shown that over the years in your videos... and the people you deal with on a personal level experience your respectful attitude, your deep rooted knowledge of this way of life that you used to be a part of. I also sense a deep gratitude for your family and the way you were raised. The people you meet can feel all of these qualities, that are far above and beyond the (non-offensive, non- provocative) clothing that you wear. You have such a deep understanding of your roots and your identity now. People feel that, people respect that Frieda. Everyone wants to be liked /loved for who they really are - and I applaud you for the courage of showing your true colors - to the community and to everyone watching your videos🎉

[@mountainair]

Well said- we eventually need to converge upon a set of customs and values that transcend culture and religion.

[@kristinesharp6286]

The sidewalk is not their place of worship. The sidewalk is not a holy place.

[@ladyd8800]

Hi Frieda! I'm an African American who knows nothing about the hasidic community and I have no idea how your videos popped up on my feed...I find you to be extremely respectful and professional during your videos..I've learned soon much about this rather insular religious group. I cannot even imagine how difficult it must have been leaving a lifestyle & culture you have known most of your life and commend your courage & strength Thank you! for sharing your wide breadth of knowledge and insight.. May God bless & keep you.. 🙏❤

[@extanegautham8950]

May God bless and keep you , too, @lady8800 you tube is pretty clever!

[@ladyd8800]

@extanegautham8950 Yes it is,.

[@shevalazaros4427]

amen

[@eagle-eye29]

I found your explanation very interesting. Information is a bridge to understanding. Thank you

[@pennyupson6000]

❤

[@lauranoble2256]

You do a wonderful job of treating the Hasidic community respectfully.

[@MsBougeeValentía]

As a young black woman who happens to be Jewish. Freida Never argue with fools. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Love your work ❤

[@juliegoldman411]

Good point!

[@kham6006]

That’s good!!

[@teacheschem]

Excellent!

[@vblake530530]

I’m also a Jew , who happens to be Black and male. You took the words right out of my mouth.

[@kingalfred3902]

Typical of you Black women .!...you cannot accept that other people does not agree with you !!....then you start insulting them .!!...you cannot converse in a civilised way ....!!!...Insults is the sign of a very ...very ..small mind ? brain ...let that sink in ...!!!...

[@hershyd3862]

As a chassidic jew from williamsburg i can tell you that you are very respectful and mindful of not offending anyone in the community. The sights we see on an almost daily basis have no one batting an eye lash. You dress like a rebitzin in comparison. Ignore the critics and keep up your great work! We love your videos.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

איך אפרישיעט זייער שטארק אייער קאמענט! א גרויסע דאנק

[@David99356]

Isn’t there a Yiddish word for appreciate? 😂

[@hershyd3862]

איך בין מכיר טוב. Not yiddish but commonly used

[@markdavid1208]

@@David99356 אָפּשאַצן

[@debbie9955]

@@David99356A dank

[@boropark12]

Freida, do what you do!!!! We love you like you are!!!! ❤❤❤

[@mweiss505]

As a hasidic jew I can tell you, you are very respectful, to the hasidic community!!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

I appreciate it my friend.

[@deborahknoll4880]

I'll agree!

[@extanegautham8950]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn i agree also!!! this is so much more interesting and informative than the midwestern gentile videos showing a fake insiders view....i love the Gottleib's episode!

[@moshkhal2637]

Absolutely!!!! Extremely disrespectful!!

[@theresapalmer-s8p]

Once again, Frieda, your eloquence overwhelms me. Such a hard subject matter, for you, but handled exceptionally well and no, my dear Frieda, you are NOT disrespectful. Your ability to so clearly explain your position and your sincerity touch my heart so very much. Continue just as you are----no acts, no pretense. Just Frieda. xoxoxo

[@EvinMA]

Oh my gosh Frieda! There is NO reason for you to explain. I totally learn SO much watching what you offer. Thank you for everything you share with us.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you! For a long time I felt there was no reason to explain. I still feel that I shouldn't have to justify such a complicated and personal decision. But thought perhaps to those who won't judge, it will be illuminating.

[@VioletACordy]

🌳🩵💙😊🩵💙💜❤🌳🌳🌲🌳FRIEDA ~ G-D LOVES YOU VERY MUCH🩵💙🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳💕💕💕💕💕@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn 🌈🌈🌈🔆🔆

[@Jverburgh]

I believe that the only person who is allowed to judge is God, himself@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn .

[@roxalavista4917]

Dear Frieda, I am a person with very little former knowledge of the Hasidic community and no exposure whatsoever. I have learned so much from you, and this includes developing a respect for the customs and culture of the community. I can only imagine the nuanced path you traveI as you work to educate your viewers. I appreciate your honesty. Though you are under no obligation whatsoever to provide any explanations, you have helped me to further my understanding, and I thank you and appreciate your work and wisdom.

[@cattymajiv]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn It was! Very much so! This is the first of your videos I've seen, so I'm not familiar with any of the issues, but my impression is that you are are a VERY caring, very intelligent, and very respectful person who cares enough to have chosen to try to explain the Hasidic community to others. That's a wonderful thing! And my first impression is that you do a wonderful job. Your words were so very well thought out. That alone shows a great deal of respect to the community. I've travelled a little, so of course I've entered churches, synagogues, and mosques, and I did try to dress respectfully there and in public places, but I hadn't thought the issue through in depth. What you said about how the need to be respectful doesn't mean you need to dress the same as them really struck me. Of course it doesn't. I'm sure most of them understand it. The might prefer it if we all did dress as they do all of the time, but they probably are realistic enough to know it won't happen, so are probably reasonably content to see that a person has made an effort to avoid being really offensive to them. I think That's how most reasonable people are, and there's no reason to think they are any different. Thank you for going further and explaining how your situation is different than mine as a gentle. I admit that as an atheist I do have some prejudices against all organized religions, but they don't extend to the people who I see as being caught up in them. I believe nearly all people of all backgrounds are good. I like people in general, and I'm interested in what makes them tick. That naturally includes the Jewish faith, and the people in it who have endured so much, and still continue to do so. I will watch more of your videos, and hopefully learn more about them. You have sparked a stronger interest in me. So many things compete for our time, but I will gladly spend some of it with you. Thank you very much for your amazing insight!

[@melvinsmum2012]

I've loved your videos. Im not Jewish, Im a 75yr old grandmother here in the UK. Ignore the critics, you are obviously a very sensitive kind soul, and if they cant see that, its their loss. Carry on just as you are. You're a lovely young woman - Id be proud if you were mine.

[@debbiestarks4975]

You are so far from disrespectful. Your videos never disrespect anyone. Keep sharing with us and try not to let the haters get to you.

[@francearchambault4218]

Dear Frieda - you do a wonderful job opening up a window for non-Jewish people understand the values of orthodox Hasidic faith. Thank you. 🙏

[@TheNostalgicKitchen]

My goodness, I’m so sorry you get those kinds or reactions Frieda! As someone who has also left a faith (not the Jewish faith but Islam) I find that you are INCREDIBLY respectful. Especially the first couple of years after I left my faith I really couldn’t muster up the strength to be respectful of that faith that had hurt me so much. The fact that you show us all facets of Hasidism with such enthusiasm and respect amazes me. I’ve never felt you were disrespectful at all.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you so much! I appreciate that you can understand. ❤️

[@jasminescloset2021]

@philomenaSK I feel like its often the ppl in the religions that create issues as opposed to the religion itself. Those that discriminate against us often are far from perfect themselves and try to project their negativity on to others to hurt them. This is not a religious issue its a community issue withon the religion.

[@TheNostalgicKitchen]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn❤

[@TheNostalgicKitchen]

@@jasminescloset2021I think it might be both, either way it’s so sad!

[@VioletACordy]

🌳🩵💙😊🌈🔆😊@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn

[@laurameisenhelter9186]

This is one of your best videos ever. Thank you for sharing your truth. Thank you for calling out true disrespect and teaching what real respect is. You are a gift, Frieda.

[@michelleyanche1706]

So beautifully said. Your integrity and generous spirit shine so bright in this. You brought tears to my eyes.

[@judithnicholais1492]

That's it exactly -- you put into words what I struggled to do. Thank you

[@jennyhugo7531]

Dearest Frieda, you have brought alive a culture few of us have seen and respect . Whilst in NY because of your channel, I asked my son in law to take me to Williamsburg for a bagel. My son in law, an American, was amazed. I could explain to him certain things he saw because of your channel. I’m from South Africa and going to Williamsburg was something on my bucket list. That would never have been without your channel. Btw the bagel at Williamsburg Bagel was everything I could imagine. The lox and cream cheese sublime. Please continue with the work you do. We so appreciate you and the kind, respectful way you inform us. 😊

[@Faigyfeig]

Love South Africa! I have the best memories from there.

[@alexandersasson2107]

Frieda, never compromise on your values just to please others.You have enlightened and educated the masses with your eye-opening and relevant vignettes on the Ultraorthodox Jewish community. Never complain, never explain. Much respect!

[@annai157]

I'm a Christian woman in the Deep South and I'm really enjoying your content. Getting to know one another better, even through youtube, is one of the best ways to get rid of all sorts of prejudices. My late mother used to repeat the famous quote, "I don't like that man very well, I better get to know him better!" Your content is beautiful & helping us all know & understand each other better.

[@kansashighlights624]

Interesting comment from your mother. What did she do about people who didn't like her? It's hard to get to know somebody when they don't like you.

[@kindnessmatters604]

Another great video. I so appreciate your point of view and the gentle way you approach these subjects. Thank you, Frieda.

[@Sharon181818]

Dear Frieda- once again you educate and then allow yourself to be vulnerable on camera so that your viewers can understand your personal point of view. What a Kiddush HaShem those in the community perform when they accept you as you are now and show that they care for you as a person! I agree with you that education and discussion is key to understanding the differences that people have. If the Hasidic community cannot do this from within, then it needs you- who know both sides so well- to educate. Thank you again for the wonderful work you do.

[@L83000]

Frieda you are a decent honorable woman who deserves to express yourself wearing whatever you want !

[@bkriszti]

Frieda, you are the epitome of how to treat others with respect. I also witnessed this when we joined your tour. You have nothing to feel bad about! I wish more people would be like you❤

[@michelemarie4128]

Don't let the trolls drag you down or make you second guess yourself. Haters gonna hate.

[@katecoletti4662]

Thank you for your candor. You are so lovingly honest when you approach difficult, personal subjects on your channel. I've been watching you for about a year now, and I have to say that I have so much respect for you, what you do, and the way you do it.

[@szeevster5767]

You struck a perfect balance here. And in your life. Well done, Frieda.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you friend.

[@szeevster5767]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn - I will be joining you channel. Sorry that I haven’t until now.

[@11Mgreen]

While most people leaving the community are full of hate, there is no hate in you. You are amazing. Written by an "insider" living a double life.

[@jasminescloset2021]

Frieda i love your channel, as jews we get criticism from our own community and from outside our community and you just have to disregard any negativity because only Hashem has the right to judge us ❤ if the Torah had been written in 2024 it would be very different and ppl would still have problems with it and criticise us 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Tali5899]

😂What makes you think if the Tora was written in 2024 it wld be very different? Some are still keeping the ancient laws perfectly happily and many who haven't are deciding to start doing so now and some non Jews are even converting to be Able to have the privilege of keeping those ancient laws!!

[@junjunjamore7735]

​@@Tali5899 how many people have you stoned for breaking the shabbath recently?

[@NEMO-NEMO]

@@Tali5899don’t make the laws more important than the faith in Hashem. There are only 10 laws and those are the Commandments. Everything else is commentary. What ever God creates is good, He said it himself. He gave us the 10 Commandments, He felt 10 was good. Complicating a thing doesn’t make it better. I notice more and more people, each year, walking away from strict religious communities such as; Amish Catholic Hasidic Orthodoxy of any kind And even some Protestant communities. Needing to belong is one thing but most of the time groups manipulate members into submission. If there were no one wanting to speak to Ms. Freida then she would move on, but as you can see, Ms. Pearl has lots to say.

[@madscientist5969]

"The nail that stands out, gets the hammer" This is an actual fact of life within any community or tribe. I appreciate your work and videos so much. Thank you Ms Frieda.

[@MakerBoyOldBoy]

Japanese tribal mandate.

[@AnaFernandez-jp5uh]

Frieda, you are very polite and dress for who you are. You still dress more conservative than most westerners. You should be treated with the same respect and empathy that you provide. You have helped so many understand such a secret society.

[@joyfairclough4686]

❤

[@Victorialmeyer]

Oh my! You are incredibly respectful! You have a beautiful heart and soul that glows! Your honest perspective and the way you tell your story builds bridges.

[@lyndaalterio1027]

How are you disrespectful??? What kind of nonsense is that!! You are such a good person and have done nothing wrong, my dear Frieda! Don't let those rude people get to you - you look great and your videos are very, very tasteful! You are not disrespectful at all! You keep doing what you do, and you do such a great job. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

😍☺️☺️☺️

[@wendystephenson407]

Disgusting!!! If the “Trolls” are unhappy please don’t watch!!! I’m not of the Jewish faith but soo enjoy watching & listening to you!!! Thankyou from the UK💕💕💕

[@kingalfred3902]

So in other words ....you know NOTHING !....of the Jewish faith !.or their traditions ....yet you want to ....butt in ...!!!You are just another ....left wing Feminist ...Karen..screaming ...!! Your vocabulary ....gives you away .....!!!

[@pedinurse1]

Frieda I accept you just the way you are. You are doing just fine. If anything I see you as being so respectful, good for you. I understand your heart. Keep up the great work😊

[@DariaAmato-wz2xg]

From what I see, you always dress in a modern, respectful yet casual manner. Many years ago I was in my hometown, I was picking my grandmother up to take her to church. She was in her 80s, always wore dresses to church, a hat or chapel veil. It was bitter cold and she had put on a nice pair of slacks , loose fit around the leg, she asked me if I thought God would be mad at her for dressing this way in church. I told her He would be happier to have her there than frozen or sick in the hospital. She had a complementary turtle neck long sleeved sweater on, and her below the knee winter wool coat, and wool hat. You are doing your job, nurses were thrilled in the 1970s when we were allowed to wear pantsuit. We didn't have to worry about what people could see if we bent over, reached above our heads etc. Bless you.

[@chayastoll1046]

Dearest Frieda, You are not disrespectful in any way at all. You are a kind , sensitive and beautiful women . Please don't let the critizizers get to you. The Bal Shemtov says when you point a figure at someone look how many fingers are pointing back at you. They need to take a lesson from that. You are a respectful Yid in so many ways❤

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you so much Chaya!!

[@karengeary9526]

You bring such joy, clarity and a marvelous perspective on life. Thank you for sharing. I have learned much applicable to my life!

[@lruss5050]

You bend over backwards to be respectful! Keep up the great work!❤❤❤🇨🇦

[@kimberlyboudrie8894]

Frida, don’t let the haters drag you into their mud pits. You are being authentically you and true to your beliefs and conscience. I have learned so much and become more respectful of this faith BECAUSE of your insights and work. Keep doing what you do as many many of us look forward to your podcasts and KZbin episodes

[@Shelley-cj9sb]

Based on all of your videos I’ve watched, ‘Disrespectful’ might be the LAST word I’d use! Keep your head up and trust your instincts.

[@summertime9224]

Your commentary/response to this criticism was PERFECT. Brilliant. Every word well placed. And as an "anybody" outsider, I applaud you as a human who is standing up for herself, and as a woman who is unafraid.

[@jeannelynskey6946]

You are not disrespectful, you are sharing the culture that most people are not familiar with.

[@articufixrubin3106]

Your kindness and respect shine through in every word you speak. Clothing is a uniform of identity that allows you to express where you would like to belong. As an orthodox Jewish woman I was told by friends in Kiryas Joel that no one would ever think I was a part of the community - no matter what I wore. Love your channel ❤

[@martythomasg]

Frieda thank you for sharing. I feel your insights may be helpful in many situations. I wish more people participated in introspection before they acted or spoke.

[@tishleigh7026]

You are the most respectful person I have encountered on KZbin and in real life ! You are very very respectful ! It is so refreshing to see and listen to you and you are very modest !!!❤ I see you as a very intelligent kind and respectful woman with dignity and class .I would be so proud of you if you were my daughter or a daughter in law. It would wonderful if people were more like you Frieda .I am sure your dear son is very proud of what a wonderful woman, person and mother you are! Your son is a wonderful young respectful gentleman. I look at you as a very godly kind, modest and virtuous woman. ❤ I am so happy to see your kindness and KZbin videos.So glad you are on here !!! We love you Frieda !!!😊💖

[@alnibodycare]

You are doing a a beautiful service educating folks about a community that is very much sheltered. Especially now with everything going on and the hatred towards Jews, this work is more important than ever; people must learn about the Jewish faith including all sects. I am lucky I have some exposure having grown up in New York, and not until I left did I realize how much less exposure the rest of the country has to Jewish heritage and traditions! I think you are very respectful. 💜

[@Derf56]

Frieda - I have learned so much from your videos and have always been impressed by how RESPECTFUL you are toward people you disagree with. Don’t stop being yourself!

[@valhenning1504]

You know better than we do, what is respectful and what is not. Thank you so much for your videos and helping us learn about this community. Especially those of us who may never get to Brooklyn. I truly believe that if all people would learn about others there would be more understanding in this world. You do a wonderful job, Thank you so much.

[@robertcoughlin4961]

You are so respectful! I am so impressed with the respect you give to the community and to all who you interview and encounter. You are a fine person. Keep up the good work. I appreciate the work you do more than words can say.

[@beverlybrown4398]

I’m sorry you have received such responses. I am so thankful that I found your channel. I’ve learned so much and I admire your ability to share your experiences in such a kind and positive way. Thank you.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

It’s been a really meaningful experience for me and I’m glad you’re here to join me for it.

[@kaynewling3455]

Frieda I have a great deal of respect and admiration for you. It takes courage to live thoughtfully and according to deeply held principles of kindness, curiosity, and good intentions. Your articulate, wise, and perceptive thoughts and videos I receive as a welcome gift. Thank you.

[@LindsayLindow]

You have every right to exist in that space, whether or not you conform to their expectations. I appreciate learning about the community and your insight is so valuable.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

I felt strongly that Tim and Leslie who I interviewed in another episode have a right to dress as is normal for their culture when they LIVE there and so many people left comments tearing them down. Tim and Leslie are teachers and they found themselves terrified that their students will see the horrible comments and it’ll have negative consequences. So there’s a big cohort on KZbin that is very judge mental and not thinking twice about sharing their judgement.

[@amym8479]

As a non Jewish person, your videos have taught me so much about a religion I knew little about. I truly believe as you stated, understanding, kindness, and respect for one another (dress, lifestyle, beliefs, etc) is fundamental and will go along way to help us all live in peace. You are a wonderful teacher and I thank you for continuing to educate me. I love your chutzpah! (I looked up the spelling and hopefully got it right!)

[@NoNameCityAmerica]

You honor this community, and give them great respect. I come here to learn and you’ve been a great teacher. Thank you ❤

[@Zelde-M]

Punkt! I applaud that your work comes from love, passion, insight, critical thinking & Integrity. The integrity to be genuine! Shkoyakh!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Zelda thanks so much. You get it. 💃💃

[@trooper190]

YOU ARE NOT DISRESPECTFUL!!!! You are still tastefully dressed and modest. I think you're amazing in showing us and sharing the ways of the Hasidic community and helping to bring understanding to all of us and love for the Jewish people. As an Afro-American, Christian woman I say, " KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING!"

[@suzimilford7921]

This was such an interesting video. I feel you’ve always been very respectful with everything you do and say. People on the community wouldn’t communicate with you if they thought you are in anyway disrespectful. I acknowledge people will think differently and I praise you for making this video to recognise these people. But it feels to me like people are being picky and trying to go out of their way to find fault. You found kindness and love as you said in this video. Hold onto that and not the ‘keyboard worriers’ who only make themselves feel good by finding flaws in others. You warm my heart with every video, and I always look forward to seeing the next edition. You are doing an amazing job and in my eyes you pull it if perfectly. So much love and respect to you, From Suzi xxxx UK

[@nathanrosen]

In my opinion, you are educational , informative, well informed, and treat the community with sincere sensitivity. I enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work. Kol Hakavod!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you so much 😊

[@adelenehaberkorn4703]

You have such a way of speaking your heart. You bring tears to.my eyes. God bless and keep you. Thank you for your insight. Loved Pearls interviews. She to has a heart for God.

[@ruchie8933]

A heart bof gold!!!

[@betheva5917]

Every religious community of every faith has broad differences in what is viewed appropriate to their life by conscience and beliefs. What you are doing is to offer insight to religious people you know a lot about since many people certainly don’t know. It’s very nice to know how other people view their own world and it’s separate from how we conduct in our own. I really enjoy your videos.

[@savi6915]

You are being yourself, you look very feminine, and modest. Love you, girl..❤

[@joycebaker3798]

Thank you for taking the time to speak openly about respect vs. imitation. You are right not to dress just like the Hasidic women. But to show respect by not violating the rules for outsiders. They are showing respect by explaining what is expected. I always explained to my children the expectations of behavior/dress for any place we went.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you for this… :)

[@pmfg875]

You are a beautiful person that is increasing understanding between various groups of people that don’t always share lived experiences. So of course there will be questions and I think the discussion is great. People can be true to themselves and their culture by speaking out about what respect means to them. Mainly I wear long skirts and long sleeves and I personally would try to be respectful by avoiding eye contact with religious guys and not hold out my hand when getting change in a shop to respect their boundaries if I’m in a location where there are a lot of people just living their lives and have made a mutual agreement to maintain a religious environment. Thank you

[@coribellanoche]

Once again, you have proven yourself to be beautifully articulate, remarkably sensitive and most of all soul-full in your reflection. Being an insider versus an outsider is seen in many aspects and dimensions in our society. You mentioned the experience of a nurse being identified by her uniform. I have recently retired as a neonatologist where people in the hospital identified me for who I was by my scrubs "uniform with a stethoscope around my neck." How very different it is now when I visit my former intensive care unit out of uniform. I appreciate your thoughtful candor and your emotion. Yes, I think we all code switch to a degree when the situation calls for it, not with maliciousness or pretensiousness rather, out of respect and dignity. Thank you again for a beautiful and meaningful video. Greetings from Rapid City, South Dakota. Kol Hakavod.

[@MadameEster]

This warms my heart and my soul. Oh we all are in need of a Frieda in our life.

[@baxter513]

Frieda I have learned so much from you and you are always respectful to the community you share with us. Your channel has taught me to understand the community and their beliefs. God bless you.

[@janecornell4890]

I am so sorry that people can be so cruel. I enjoy your videos. You are kind and so caring, a lovely person to know. Your honesty and genuine love for what you do is outstanding. Keep on being you. I live near many Amish communities. If I were to buy something from them, I wouldn't dress immodestly. I would be respectful. But I do dress conservatively in general. We need more love, respect and understanding in this world. You are the kind of person I admire for your wisdom and loving way of being "you" ! Let those comments roll off you like water off a duck's back!🙂

[@RachG]

Thank you for sharing this. You’re so right about the importance and freedom of being your authentic self, as much as possible. I’m so glad that you have been able to build relationships and be accepted and appreciated as YOU. How much more special and meaningful that is. I also like how you turned around people somewhat negative comments into a positive story of the goodness of people. ❤

[@shellygauvreau399]

I live in Canada and am trying to think of a logical enough reason for me to come to NYC so that I can take one of your tours. You seem to have such a beautiful relationship with many many members of the community that you visit. You have obviously made a huge impact on others that you may have been unaware of but that silent impact is so much more authentic than the impact that is made by the biggest explosion. I love your story telling whether it be with Pearl or the shop keeper selling his wares to you.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Aww, thank you. Come down sometime. NYC is a wonderful place to visit, well worth it. I’m biased maybe.

[@aggieglitter]

Lol I'm the same. When they have run out of the Eskal pickles here in Sydney which are kosher and from Israel I'm always thinking "if I just catch a flight to Brooklyn I bet they'll have some". You don't need a logical reason. If I was childless, and didn't have responsibilities, the pickles would be good enough reason for me to go .

[@katmother]

Your vulnerable way is refreshing. You didn’t have to share that and yet you did. I think it’s wonderful and am sure it will help many people.

[@tamarfischer283]

Seeing your thumbnail, my first reaction was " she's not disrespectful. She knows EXACTLY how to dress so as to not offend while identifying as an irreligious person." I think a frum person seeing a lovely person like you with your refined upbringing on your face, it is somewhat upsetting to see you on the outside. And yes- we want you back. But you explained your position so well, and I think your love reflects and people can really relate to you and your position, and perhaps you can eventually show people how to understand people from the community who have no bad intentions, but who are not made for this environment and who may want to find another way to G-d.

[@ruthcouch1233]

Respect, kindness, menschlichkeit, hesed, ..... Deserving of respect. These are things i see Frieda Vizel encouraging and even embodying. On a level we can all learn from. Most of this comment by t.fischer... is lovely but one problem or actually two - {"irreligious" and "not made for this environment"} Not having the same dress code as members of some parts of the Jewish community (such as not continuing to abide by all of Satmar dress customs) does not make a person an "irreligious person". Nor have i heard anything on this channel to make me think F.V. is "irreligious" - although it's not for me to say. (That is defined in many ways and worth questioning: Who, if anyone, should have a monopoly on how that is defined? And if it were ok why is it mostly customs and "fence laws" not Torah obligations [and also total misunderstandings] that seem to get debated with the most fierce turf battles?) During the weeks of consolation following Tisha B'av the Torah passages read in the synagogues this season include the messages (commandments actually) : not to add , nor subtract, from the laws given on Sinai. The detailed customs of clothing of various communities - altho i am not saying they don't have meaning or purpose in the minhagim of each - but they are not miSinai directly by any means! (Not de'Oraita). It seems - and this is definitely not only in Satmar neighborhoods, that often The shell has become more guarded that what is inside - the fence getting more attention than that which it is supposed to guard - this is not just a problem among the ultra-orthodox, we see it worldwide and in many American political debates, in both Jewish communities and beyond. This is not a small problem. Nothing wrong with trying to learn how to "mend fences" but... more caring what is within them could make a bigger difference! (Let's thank Frieda Vizel for caring and teaching those of various backgrounds more about that!) There is another issue not discussed here and that might be: Who is in a particular neighborhood , with differing customs and why, (other than those on tours or there to specifically work for Satmar people). Some may not know all the customs of their Satmar neighbors, - or they may be working outside in near 100 degree heat, and they may live there, and some even their families may have lived there since before their Satmar neighbors reached their neighborhood.... whose environment is it is a reasonable question. [It might be reasonable to consider that at least in some sense: Both - as G-d has put both there. Can there be mutual understanding asked and found?] I like she [t.f.] wrote: "Yes, we want you back" , yet also (and I don't think it is a contradiction) i imagine Fieda Vizel is already very close to HaShem were she is already!!

[@jagel5809]

I absolutely appreciate, admire, and respect you in every way. You are a very brave, articulate, and wonderful human. Keep doing you. You are great!

[@lakesq2056]

you are such a brave, thoughtful, and articulate teacher of the importance of truth.

[@sarahbasse3211]

I believe in honesty too!! And Frieda, you have more than a little chutzpah thank G.od. 😂 This is one of my favorite videos of yours so far. The deep impact of how we dress and what it means to us and our communities is something I’ve become more sensitive to over recent years. Your points really resonate with me! Thank you for everything you do, I can’t wait to see what’s coming next❤

[@SignalHillHiker]

Fascinating, as always. I love how thoughtfully you speak and the elegant choice of words. You've definitely shown the beauty of the Hasidic community through your videos over the past couple of years. I understand you're just being your authentic self, and showing respect to the level that is expected and appreciated of outsiders. But it still reminds me a little of one of the things my grandmother used to complain about. She was a devout Roman Catholic, and always hated when the priest would face the congregation during mass as she thought that symbolized the priest was representing God to the people. She preferred the old style where the priest would face the altar, the same direction as the congregation, because she thought that symbolized the priest was representing the people before God. There's something similar there with your modern clothing, a sort of visual demonstration of the fact that you're not trying to portray yourself as a representative of the Hasidic community when you guide tours in the neighbourhood. You're there to work, and although you come from the community and have a wealth of insider knowledge, you're there as a representative of the outsiders in your tour group - and you go above and beyond to try to ensure they're able to respectfully visit and gain a small insight into what makes the community so interesting.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Yes very interesting analogy. And I can see why people like your grandma would have a problem with the “priest” not be “one of”, as in, my own being a step apart from the “congregation”. However, that distance gives me a kind of intellectual liberty that I wouldn’t otherwise have, so you win some and lose some.

[@MsHannahFlower]

Freida, you are an absolute shining soul. I identify with you, coming from a Yeshivish family and figuring out my path and values. You have never once seemed disrespectful to me, in fact quite the opposite. You foster kindness and understanding in a thoughtful, gentle way. What a role model you are! Keep being you, and the fruits will continue to blossom.

[@peterdalyy3542]

Dear frieda even though I live in a very closed hasdic sect ,I think as I have told you many times that your channel is fantastic, and you are a very open and honest person I love your videos my wife and I enjoy your content very much you most certainly are not disrespectful in anyway, keep up your good work koll tov

[@catsun90805]

Omg you are the MOST respectful person posting videos like this! Which is why I started following your channel. All the best

[@gaetane-dianeforget1252]

You are awesome. Please continue to be yourself. You make is friendly and easy to appreciate and understand this community

[@dloveofgod8269]

Thank you Frieda. I started watching your videos a year ago & enjoy them as they are every informative and educational. I grew up in Brooklyn as a teen was very aware of Hasidic community though did not understand it until later in life having Jewish friends & family. I was raised Catholic & also wasib all girls classes when young. Clothing does speak volumes about the person. It's a shame that many don't have respect for others. I truly think the companies of bus tours are in error not informing those who visit as a 'tourist ' how to dress in being respectful to the community. Tourism obviously helps the community financially & there's the downside. I wish you well in your journey. May you stay safe & blessings to you and your wonderful son.

[@LongevityBound]

I only recently found your channel and this is an old video, but I feel that you dress, by secular standards, tastefully, and even slightly conservatively. Very respectful.

[@GerardPerry]

Even demure, you could say.

[@gj6209]

Miss Frieda, you be YOU. You worded this video so beautifully. I have seen many, many videos you’ve made and I have never seen you be disrespectful….actually, you are more respectful because YOU KNOW what that community will tolerate. It’s your career! Why would you jeopardize your work to wear a single garment they won’t accept! Please be you…..it’s exactly why you left that world! We love you, respect you and your work here is exceptional! 👍❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kathleentierney9496]

I appreciate your very thoughtful explanation. And I’m grateful that YT put you in my path. I’ve learned a lot from your channel and always look forward to new videos. Keep doing what you’re doing and focus on the people with big, kind hearts and not the haters!!

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Amen thank you.

[@tanya2660]

What a well reasoned argument. Thank you.

[@10BE11]

As a satmar chusid, who grew up in Bklyn and who's currently living in the 10950 zip code... I appreciated your videos. I relate so much to your vidoes. I love my life and my community. And it's so fun to watch it thru your eyes! I don't see disrespect at all. Coming to the community dressed appropriately modest doesn't mean wearing the full chassidish style. Showing extensive cleavage and shorts w tank is inappropriate imo. But you always look very appropriate in your videos. Keep up the work. My friends and I REALLY enjoy it.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you thank you thank you. Especially appreciate hearing from the one and only 10950 zip code.

[@maril1379]

Hello I think this is Monroe. Question I see you are Satmar. I an guessing you access the internet in private? I have been in Williamsburg and met Satmar in upstate NY Just curious because of my reading of and interaction with Satmar women who generally avoid the internet. Thank you

[@Tali5899]

​@@maril1379And you are G-ds policeman?

[@panno16]

You are so respectful to those you encounter that it is quite clear these messages were simply out of hatred for all. I have especially been blessed by your interactions with the elder Hasidic community. You would make an excellent teacher of the young. God bless you.

[@jasminescloset2021]

sorry frieda had to add another comment, just to say THANK YOU to you❤ i did mention it previously under another video but it's in part because of your channel that I returned to Judaism because I started to see the beauty in our culture / religion. This is thanks to you and your channel, and im sure there are also other jews who have felt a feeling of joy and reconnected to judaism through your channel ❤Hashem always leads us where we need to be ☺️

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you so much for sharing this, I am so moved. Much love on your journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@RebbeClips]

Frieda has a powerful soul that has the power to affect many.

[@jasminescloset2021]

@@RebbeClips ☺️🙌🏽

[@chasidance]

@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn And for that my dear you deserve a special gan eden. A gan eden for women in pants...

[@kaecatalano6113]

This was very well done, Freida! To those who would point a finger to accuse, they simply don't understand that you have thoughtfully addressed your stance or perhaps they are just judgmental. When hearing you speak about your visits after covid, it speaks volumes that people have not 'disowned" you. They care about you and yours! I so enjoy each of your videos. To those who would like to criticize you or your choice in clothing (or presentations) I am reminded of one of my mother's favorite sayings. "It's their problem, not yours!"

[@cathycarney6450]

I've taken your tour a few times with friends bc you taught us so many lessons. You are a beautiful kind strong woman we need at this divisive time in the world. Thank you Frieda.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you so much for coming.

[@MountainMitch]

Sending you good vibrations! Love the 'Am yisrael chai'

[@stefaniesteinberg3789]

Your reflection was so interesting, I simply loved it…

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

Thank you!

[@osterreich100]

Frieda, you are kind, respectful, and beautiful..Your videos are always enlightening. I love watching your videos.

[@joyciejd9673]

I love your channel and I appreciate your honesty and candor in all of your videos. You're a strong, sensitive and lovely young woman. Just be you.

[@theodorapriska9860]

Frida, I have been watching you for several years now, and I absolutely adore you. Your kindness touches me deeply.

[@sarahgraves7860]

This is an example of the very thoughtful and sensitive vlogs that bring so many to your channel.

[@brendadalton4706]

What an amazingly inspirational woman you are, you treat your videos with such respect. You have shown amazing strength of character with this you tube video and I want to say thankyou for it

[@karenkingrey6142]

I find you are very respectful & still informative which i appreciate. How will we ever learn anything about different communities/beliefs if not for people like you!

[@navamorris3478]

When I watch your videos, I am struck by your honesty, integrity, awareness, and sensitivity. I have yet to see or hear anything that I would say is a chutzpa. I have wondered about your wearing pants when in the community, but only because it seems incongruent in light of your having grown up there. I am Chareidi in Israel (not Chassidish), and I have three girls "on their own path". In the beginning, when my oldest started dressing immodestly, I wondered how she could feel comfortable exposing herself as much as she did. Doesn't it feel strange? But I guess it feels liberating, both figuratively and physically. Wow, there is so much to each person's story and the story of each family, and really, everyone is doing their best, whether or not it looks like it.

[@FriedaVizelBrooklyn]

I appreciate you sharing a bit of yourself. I know as a parent that it’s not easy always letting kids take their own paths. Kudos to you. I think some people are more comfortable baring skin than others, for whatever reason.

[@RhonaDavis-lz3qp]

I have never found you disrespectful You have never pulled anyone down. Keep up your good work.

[@amberhassan1606]

I admire you for leaving a community yet you continuously speak very lovingly about the community, sharing with us a wide spectrum of subjects regarding the community and in my opinion very respectfully. You always dress lovely and again in my opinion respectfully. Thank you for your content, thank you for sharing 🌻

[@RScesium]

Respect is in the heart, not over the skin.

[@marnie8930]

Or what we wear

[@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv]

Not quite