FTMs TOPPING CIS GAY MEN [CC]

[@GuliversTravelocity]

I am a gay married transman and I am a vers top. My husband is cis and had only been with other cis men before me and never once has he made me feel unsafe or uncomfortable about my body. Good dudes are out there.

[@taniacanal9751]

@@renny3816 why do you have a problem with transgender people? Where is this anger in you coming from? What made you comment so negatively on something that does not affect your life in any way?

[@larkinschmiedl9673]

Same! except not married.

[@makerealitygreatagain8809]

@@MatthewMitchamGold fairytales, fantasys, you can live in them. For a limited time

[@Alexandraincognito]

@@taniacanal9751 They never care to elaborate after their initial wordvomit.🤔

[@GamingTranceSeer]

Good dudes also refuse to date and be with trans.

[@darknesseker]

For what it's worth, I'm a cis gay guy and I used to think I'd never be able to be with a trans guy, mostly cus I was afraid I wouldn't know how to pleasure him. I could see how that was prejudicial, so I decided to educate myself. It's one of the reasons I started watching videos like this. Now, even though I've never been with a trans guy, I know I wouldn't have any problems with it. Either topping or bottoming, it's all about being open to experiment and to communicate.

[@darknesseker]

sebastian. Aww... don't mention it. I just like being open and respectful about thing. And trust me, more and more we see people like me out there. I'm in a super prejudicial, homophobic and transphobic country and even here I can see people changing.

[@dimitridemeattree6895]

Felipe Lopez Lima Bless this.

[@darknesseker]

You guys are seriously making me all giddy with these comments. Even if just a little, I'm super happy that my words make people feel better about themselves. :3

[@aidenhahmann475]

You sir, are my hero! It's often discouraging and frustrating to read opinions on trans men by gay men. Seeing that there are people like you out there gives me so much hope. Thank you for your comment. :)

[@darknesseker]

Guys, you were the ones who made my day better. I've been super stressed lately, both for relationship issues (as in the lack of one) and some financial stuff. I've heard from many people that I'm stupid for thinking and acting like this. That the world is messed up and we should just let it be like that. So seeing so many people appreciate and even thank me for just stating my beliefs​, it honestly made a bit teary eyed. So...thank you, guys. :)

[@MaesyB]

Ftm top here. My fiancé is a cis gay man who is a strict bottom.

[@kylelee848]

Maeson Burnisky me too !

[@jackfix8300]

Maeson Burnisky RAD MAN! I'm ftm and my boyfriend is a bottom lol :)

[@agumon949popato]

damn thats my dream

[@Dellennickolis95]

Maeson Burnisky wow he's easily amused...

[@eatmythickie]

Maeson Burnisky I WISH

[@ConfusedGirlButSmartDude]

I want 'everybody is a squiggle' on a shirt Edit: how the fuck does this have so many likes

[@mattywolf95]

NoahLouiLife same!

[@ummmforgetnames8052]

yes chase needs to make this a thing.

[@dawu9105]

Chase please make this a thing.

[@baileyravenwick]

Yasss!!

[@samiyalioness]

I'd totally get that shirt!

[@littlesailor1533]

the last time I was this early I thought I was straight

[@haydenroth5892]

Awe, Little Sailor. I love your username it's so wonderful.

[@WolfMoon-jc1wl]

Little Sailor I love you. I’m sorry but I just love you. You are amazing.

[@delacrocs]

I find it really hard to identify as a trans guy who is gay because people ask a lot of questions like "why can't u just be a girl?" because I don't really like women That really sucks because I'm not a girl and not everyone is straight. I just think that its really hard for transguys in general to be gay or just generally not straight.

[@delacrocs]

like why does everyone have to default being straight

[@rowanleader2957]

Landon Jambor I totally get that, I always low key have to defend my sexuality even to my best friend who's a gay cis guy and other friends and family, even if my cis pansexual boyfriend knows without a doubt that we're a gay couple just... Ugh people :/

[@samjones9821]

It's shit like this that made me decide to switch therapists once I realized I was trans and brought it up to the one I was seeing at the time. He was so confused, poor thing. Kept conflating sexuality and gender left and right, even AFTER I tried explaining the difference, and I was like, "I'm having a bit of a crisis here, don't really have time to educate the person I'm basically trying to be educated by..." 😑

[@ikablahh]

people just forget that sexuality and gender are 2 VERY different things. like trans men can like men and that makes them gay. its silly.

[@shawndiaz7528]

Sam Jones Exactly! I've heard so many people having experiences like this because the psych community is full of people who think 'people are trans because-' and 'people are gay because-' and all of it falls apart when a gay trans person says hi to them for the first time and like they get so defensive about it.

[@rowanleader2957]

I'm a trans gay guy and my boyfriend is cis and pansexual and I bottom most of the time out of preference for it, but he really really wants me to try topping 😂😂 so thank you for this video, this gives me some encouragement!

[@echolocation9689]

I'm the same except my boyfriend is 100% gay aha. I'll get to top him eventually!

[@FuzzyElf]

Rowan Nakamura - Yay!

[@valeforedark]

Rowan Leader I like it when even bisexual people accept peoples gender.

[@kauridoesit3818]

What is bottoming like as a trans guy?

[@thebreeoche]

I'm a polyamorous trans guy currently dating two cis bi men and a cis het girl, and I feel like they never questioned my maleness even if I'm pre-everything. It's great and I love them so much because they see me as just a man that happens to be trans and not a girl who wants to be a man, they let me fully explore my sexuality and I feel so safe with them (also shout-out to polyamorous trans guys) This is turning into a Tumblr post and I'm not sorry.

[@samjones9821]

As someone with ADD, I find it hard to keep my attention on ONE partner, never mind multiple partners, lmao. So like, kudos? 😂 🦉Anyhoot, it's great that you have supportive people who see you as you feel and want to be seen, and who you feel safe with. Also, I think feeling safe with people you're physically intimate with is one of the best feelings. 😊

[@setedisangue9382]

AbdonisLaChangeline Sorry, quick questions if you don't mind. You said post everything. Do you have phalo? Do you top your men with that or are you a bottom? I'm really curious because I've heard phalo can be trouble with anal? Also yay for polyamory. -gay transman

[@thebreeoche]

Oh I'm sorry, I meant "pre-everything" ! English isn't my first language so I mix up the two very often... Sorry for not being able to answer.

[@setedisangue9382]

AbdonisLaChangeline lol that's okay! I used to mix em up sometimes too.

[@Ghoulx13]

AbdonisLaChangeline ayee a poly trans guy here!

[@alexshu1794]

Bro let me tell you that right now I was having a really hard time with those "am I enough for a cis gay guy" thin ang, oh man, this video helped me a lot!

[@JensonCruz]

"Everyone's fluid, everyone's a squiggle." My new favorite phrase lol

[@carynmartin6053]

Jenson Cruz I agree

[@sanne3465]

But not everyone is fluid. Like some peeps are 100% gay or 100% straight. Like I'm bi/pan so I feel fluid as f. But for some people it's kinda offensive to say that

[@gabujita4088]

I was about to say

[@renschuon4992]

Sanne, I think he doesn’t mean that everyone isn’t 100% gay or straight but simply that no one is as simple as a straight line

[@Mylegiscaughtinashackle]

Sanne there is such a minority of truly straight or gay people that I find it strange you say that.

[@Oliver-qq7ux]

Chase's laugh is so amazing and it makes me smile.

[@mcdadulous4362]

THANK YOU FOR CLARIFYING! Omg so I'm a FtM and I am a top. I do not like bottoming that often, there's nothing wrong with it, it's just personal securities. I absolutely hate it when people are like "Oh you used to be a girl so automatically you're a bottom", no. I've always been a top. Thank you so much for being a face of this labeling prone community.

[@davidmcaulay4410]

I'm a trans guy and my boyfriend is a cis guy and I am pretty much always the top and always have been. I always thought I would have to wait until I had bottom surgery to be with a cis guy because of jealousy but it was hella empowering to have someone still see me as a man even after sex especially a cis guy. but like seriously it's worth waiting to find that person who accepts you as you are cis/trans top/bottom whatever it is there are people out there that will accept you and love you no matter what.

[@ShiruSama1]

I'm a cis girl and I can confirm that penetrating a cis guy is amazingly empowering. I know that HAHAHAHAH feeling

[@louisechristiaens1631]

ShiruSama1 I was going to say the same thing. Never actually topped though, but I'd like to try.

[@Sinsearach]

This is on my to-screw list 📃 Grats on your topping

[@SixtySecondYoga]

ShiruSama1 Y E S It’s the best thing in the world!

[@xxxx-dn7oy]

I wish my man would let me peg him :(

[@usedtiddyjuice]

ShiruSama1 I wanna but my fiance isn't into that which is fine

[@amberrobertson1547]

Skip to 4:44 real quick you'll thank me later

[@beansalad6242]

Amber Robertson my face hurts now

[@shawnmichael2894]

Amber Robertson oh my god was not expecting that omfg

[@leoqu1nn]

lmfao yes

[@letswrithe]

Wow thank you so much

[@jocoal3441]

That was an experience 😂

[@sickickick]

thank you so much for covering this topic. youre honestly a godsend to this community i love you so much

[@andreeorange1]

@RenIxion AGREED.

[@tommyp467]

i'm ace why am i watching this oh right bc chase is entertaining af

[@rosacosta4091]

just a snail you're not alone, same here, I'm just curious, plus Chase is a very sweet and funny person

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

I'm aroace

[@calonstanni]

I'm ace too. and you're right. he's fun.

[@AsimoTan]

same XD

[@bambabi15]

Don’t get mad, just tried to google what ace is. I couldn’t find it... what does ace mean Searched the word aroace, I thought it was a typo! Never mind thank you

[@cocoanutaddict]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Thank you!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 on these gay dating apps apparently unless you put it out there(and even though you may, none of them know how to read😒), they assume a transguy always bottoms number 1, wants to bottom from the front hole number 2, is submissive number 3, assumes that you're okay with calling your parts female words number 4, or is still completely ignorant to what a transguy is at all. The worst part is not being accepted as a man, and even worse being turned down when you mention you will be topping essentially with a "toy". I also don't like how cis straight mtf chasers put themselves in the trans tag cause im trying to find other transguys as well. You're lucky you've gotten those chances to top and with guys who seem to accept you and be okay with everything. I have met guys who accept me, but it hasn't gotten passed talking. What's so hard is trying to find someone to date or be in a relationship with cause male culture is just sex sex sex, and gay culture is dick and sex first, then maybe kiss and date.

[@kat21353]

More gay transman things please!!!!!

[@elyranch1902]

I found your channel yeeears ago, when I was 14, sitting in the library at school, ditching class because I was so fucking depressed and had no idea why. I just remember bursting into tears, sobbing silently in the corner because I realised, "This is what I am..." when you explained what being trans was, and I did NOT want that. It has been a long long journey, and now having been on testosterone for 3 years, and on the waiting list for top surgery, I've come full circle back to your channel. Honestly, I don't think I would still be alive if it weren't for this channel. I'm back here now, because I was really sick throughout October, and basically asleep or in bed for the majority of the month. So I, uh-- had a lot of time, *ahem* with my body 😆😅 and I had a kind of breakthrough epiphany type moment. It's too much to explain, but basically I've a newfound love and appreciation for my body, and a feeling that maybe I actually *could* be in a relationship with someone. So glad to find your videos helping me through another part of this life journey 😊

[@uppercaseCHASE1]

Wow I’m so glad you’re feeling good with yourself and I’m sooooo glad I was able to help you out :)))))

[@shablie]

I love this video so much. Thank you so much for answering so many questions for me! I really appreciate people being so open and honest. We need people like you :)

[@lunchedmeat]

last time i was this early i thought i was cis and straight

[@Kaya4114]

o/ Trans dude who tops cis guys here. Yeah, we exist. :P

[@Dellennickolis95]

Kaya4114 Want a cookie?

[@jayc7171]

Hellz ya

[@jayc7171]

Jay Preis why come here just to hate. Just ignore if you don't like something it isn't that hard

Jayden Zev I don't come here to hate, nor do I come here to be a transgender cheerleader. I'm merely expressing my views, same as everyone else.

[@kropotkinnie]

Jay Preis Yes, and your views are hateful. Not that hard to understand. Welcome to 2018, where you and your backwards views can fuck right the hell off.

[@olioxinfree3779]

#femaletopowerbottom

[@sophiecathryn3505]

Oli Oxinfree I'm dying

[@trashcannottrashcant3887]

Oli Oxinfree h o n e s t l y t h o

[@amandajones4090]

Oli Oxinfree mo

[@lee-gt2cc]

i want the confidence to talk for 10 minutes about my sex life

[@liarbyyourside]

Chase, you literally made my day. Not only because this is exactly what I've been struggling with for the past couple of weeks now, but also because I've had a shitty day today and you made me laugh, gave me really good advice and made me feel a lot better, as you always do. Thank you for that. I hope your day is going well! Stay you

[@slavbarbie]

People have a right to sexually reject someone for whatever reason.

[@seanronayne3654]

Your content is very informative in a helpful way to a man trying to understand several things that aren't open topics in their own environment.

[@connormurphy2387]

New life motto: everyone's a squiggle 😂 Also a a bi cis guy if anyone has sex with me I could really care less about anything like... Seriously. Plus toys sound fun 🙄

[@Alexandraincognito]

That is so hot! Have fun experimenting. 😘

[@BodyBruiser]

I don't mind topping or bottoming as a trans guy I'm very open to sexual stuff. It's great when you can find someone who is also open to trying things and accepting. Sad we are made to believe cis guys wont like us. :C

[@SteveA25414]

I'm a CIS guy who is in a wonderful relationship with a transman. Mostly a top with him. but that is an emotional/sexual connection and not necessarily ridged. ( pardon the pun) We do it that way because we both like to do it that way and it takes less prep.. A beautiful thing about human sexuality is that it can be so fluid.

[@Dellennickolis95]

SteveA25414 Sexuality is only fluid for bisexuals.

[@Dellennickolis95]

Samuel Clamuel No there are many types of bisexuality if your fluid your bisexual. You can’t be mono-sexual if you can potentially eat attracted to both sexes.

[@Dellennickolis95]

Samuel Clamuel You are a degree of bisexual if you like vagina,

[@Funkyjunkyjokermonki]

you make me sooooo happy when I watch your videos!! Thank you for making me laugh and being informative and broadening all of our perspectives !

[@gabriellaruth83]

'let's do it in the description'

[@samjones9821]

Phrasing?

[@kylehill9981]

when you said bonus hole i straight up squawked this video is so quality

[@BaltimorePapiChulito]

vaginas aren't a bonus for actual homosexual men. no matter what you call them

[@kyleweaver7953]

🙄🙄🙄

[@elishasummers9517]

I disagree with the statement "everyone is fluid, everyone's a squiggle", because while it is very true that many people do experience fluid or ambiguous sexuality, many people do not. I like men for a certainty, in an unambiguous and unfluid way. I've never not been entirely gay and I don't foresee it changing in the future, (though I conceed that it might). It's perfectly true that fluidity can describe many people's sexuality, but by no means does it describe all people's sexuality.

[@Dellennickolis95]

Only sexuality that’s fluid are bisexualitys. There are many types if bi people. Not all of them see themselves even as bi.

[@mushy111]

That's exactly right.

[@wesleycarson9917]

Chase, thank u so much for openly talking about this. I'm a trans guy and have felt super conflicted about how to fit in with the gay cis male community who I relate with for some things. Being with my partner of 2 years who is gay cis (ish)...we watched this together and it help me process so much shit that I've been insecure about talking to him about...thank u for all u do, ur my intranet friend

[@jaxsonezria]

*And this video will be age restricted in 3...2...1...*

[@vincentnotprice-temporaryb6800]

lmao literally dropped everything I was doing and clicked to watch your video :D

[@samjones9821]

It's like that meme from The Office with the Steve Carell character going, "IT'S HAPPENING, STAY CALM, EVERYBODY STAY CALM, OH MY GOD, IT'S HAPPENING"

[@vincentnotprice-temporaryb6800]

Sam Jones accurate comparison. literally every time Chase uploads a video

[@BigBeautyPersonality]

Amazing book with a gay trans top and a cis man main characters. "Starting from Scratch" -Jay Northcote. It is hot AF and very well written IMO.

[@Doridantoni]

Thanks for the suggestion. A great read so far. :)

[@levijames717]

ohohoho i’m intrigued

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

Thank you for the tip, it's nice of you to keep us aware of anti-gay propaganda.

[@acidjawbreaker]

@@goawayleavemealone2880 ???what

[@namelesswolf2625]

@@goawayleavemealone2880 yeah what??? Lmao

[@thatpantransguy]

Wow, I can’t believe how open and comfortable you are talking about this stuff! It’s awesome, and very educational! Thank you so much, seriously!! I have no one to talk to about trans sex (I’m bi/queer/pan any one of those labels is fine) and I feel like there needs to be more information out there about this topic. I had no idea a trans guy could even top a cis guy (and that the cis guy would even enjoy it).

[@damienj25]

I dated a cis guy for 10 months and he said that sleeping with me made him question his sexuality. He's a gay male, and I basically cut him off from sleeping w/ me because he didn't view me fully as male. It made him super mad but like???? I'm not a girl, and neither is my body???????

[@damienj25]

And then I left his ass and realized that I really only did stuff with him because I felt pressured to, and when I wasn't in the mood, he'd get all salty. Long story short, I'm kinda ace??

[@damienj25]

Unapologetic EJ yeahh

[@damienj25]

Unapologetic EJ You can't just ask people about their genitals, were you born in a sewer? Jesus. If you're with a guy and you're a guy, no matter what parts either of you have, it's a gay relationship. People need to learn how to detach physical appearance from gender. And why are you even on Chase's videos if you're a transphobe looking for some people to annoy?

[@damienj25]

Unapologetic EJ So you'd be completely fine being with someone who didn't truly see you as male?

[@paolom.4646]

Damien Chance sorry. But his is a legitimate reason... to put things into perspective, you are a female, a masculinized female that is. It would be delusional for him to think you're otherwise. Hormones don't change everything, bones, lung size, cells, your DNA. It's not nice for him to be mad tho. Ps. Don't take this as an insult, reality... sometimes, is a bitch.

[@toomuchsara42]

I love your videos and I want to thank you for continuing to do what you do even though YT is making it ridiculously difficult. I'm WAAAY outside your typical demographic - cis woman in a 20+ marriage to a guy and 3 kids. I started watching you videos bc my kids have many trans friends and I wanted more understanding of what they are dealing with. Watching the way you so frankly and openly discuss sexuality, gender, etc. has really influenced the way I discuss those subjects with my kids. I've always been more comfortable than most people discussing sex with my kids, but it's even easier since watching your videos. Thanks so much for what you do. YT is lucky to have you (even if they're too dumb to realize it.)

[@andS7]

lol I am a gay cis guy and even I don’t feel enough for gay cis guys. so many have too many superficial “preferences” and I’m just an average joe 🙈needless to say I watch a lot of porn

[@andreeorange1]

Undres S7 GO PORN! Will never let us down :-P

[@samivayajd]

THANK YOU FOR DISCUSSING THIS TOPIC!!!! You sir, have my utmost respect.

[@mysticodyssey4013]

I'm a cis gay guy and I would bottom for a trans man if I thought he was cute/sexy.👍😺 (FYI: I hate having to say I am "cis" I just like saying I'm a gay guy.)

[@hellobooom]

you don't HAVE to say anything, there is not fucking language police, but srsly, if I would even consider touching the vajine, I would totally be into hot girls too.... and then be bisexual, not "cis gay" hmmmm......

[@quepidbaby]

I fucking loveeeee you chase!! Great topic! Someone really needed to talk about this topic!

[@ajaydwayne5586]

If a trans guy hollered at me I'd Holla Back

[@andreeorange1]

@Ajay Dwayne now that's an advanced brothe we got here! MY MAN!

[@ajaydwayne5586]

Andree Orange thanks my guy

[@ondenbern]

I have been waiting for this video forever yesssss

[@CharlesWarrenOnline]

As a cis man I noticed that you do A LOT of shaming homosexual men for not liking vagina and/or you.

[@paolom.4646]

Jeremy Pinkernikle cis men are people with penises, with XY chromosomes, who are born, naturally male.

[@opinionist9942]

Sexuality is a real thing, and it's not always fluid either. Not everyone is bisexual

[@victorp8689]

technically everyone IS bisexual, there's studies about it and everything

[@crwpup]

@@victorp8689 can you post links to some of those?

[@gabbycfilms]

Eli G www.ladbible.com/news/interesting-news-sexuality-study-proves-no-one-is-100-percent-straight-or-gay-20180314 broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/ypa7vk/straight-people-dont-exist-new-research-says

[@MelsRamblings]

Ray Evans studies don’t change the fact that there are countless people who identify as strictly gay/lesbian.

[@sarahritter9772]

there are many different studies with different conclusions. There are studies that say everyone is straight. There are studies that say all women are lesbians or bi and all men are straight or gay. The problem is that this issue is very emotional to a lot of people and even scientist tend to be subjective sometimes. You need a great number of studies with the same results and high levels of objectivity and reliability. There are just not any clear results yet, that suggest that everyone is bi. And in my experience it's mainly bisexuals who say that just like it is mainly gay or straight people who think bisexuality isn't real. Probably cause for a lot of people it's diffucult to imagine that someone has a different sexual orientation than they do. I'm a lesbian and I could never imagine being anything else. I believe other people though when they tell me their sexual orientation and I would never pressure anyone to change their sexuality like some trans activists do. @@victorp8689

[@elsa8525]

I wish you were my friend. You literally make me cry with laughter every video

[@DMWolFGurL]

I'm a transman that are more into men then women. For me the thought of topping a cis man is something I have yet to experience. The only time I've had sex with a dude is when I was still a cis female. I always have wanted to be a top on a man and is something I can't wait to do.

[@ariscarmichael]

Heyyy i know this is an old video but just wanted to say that this video has honestly changes my life with how encouraging and informative and comfortable this video is. Thank you for letting me know i'm not alone

[@iLOVEpicklesBRO28]

I'm dating a gay cis guy and honestly he's amazing but I totally get that feeling that I'm not enough. Talking is great though, I mentioned my insecurities with it and he comforted me and reassured me it's not true :)

[@ashleyg893]

I literally just stumbled upon your channel like a week ago, and I fucking love you. 😂😂

[@maryrooney8911]

Watching all the ads for chase daddy and chase daddy only 🙅🏻

[@samjones9821]

Additos for papito 😎

[@samjones9821]

(Additos = Addidas + Cheetos??? 😅)

[@Aiden-V2.0]

This video made my life, thank you for being you, Chase!

[@chewycat12]

“I got a bonus hole might as well use it right” that’s my trans mood

[@stephalain2555]

Definitely I love your videos and your personnality. Thank you for being who you are!

[@veggietboy5624]

I kinda get self conscious talking about it but my story is kind of more unique with how things turned out for me. I'm a trans guy (been out for awhile to like every one). But before I realized and eventually came out, I was already in a serious long relationship with my boyfriend for a couple of years (almost three years now total to present). And when I came out to him and everything, he says he loves me and accepts me and is fine with me "being a guy". But he's like still "considered straight" I guess, because I have the female anatomy. So at times I feel insecure because I'm not sure if I'm being read as or really thought of as a guy, because I haven't really changed yet physically since presenting as his "girlfriend". And that he isn't really bisexual or other or whatever and I might be the "acception"? I've told him about my dysphoria, and he's said he'll still love me and be attracted to me once I go on T and get top surgery (the only medical things I wanna do as far as I know). But I always have doubts that he might lose the connections with me once I start to change physically, because the future can be unpredictable. I don't want to force him to call himself a different sexuality, because obviously every individual has the right to label and identify with what they want. I'm just sharing my story. I love him dearly and I don't want to lose him. I don't think he will leave once I start physical changes, because I know he sincerely loves me... but I have the insecurities of being a "disappointment" or not being "enough" or not being sexually attractive to him later on. I might not have to worry so much because in middle school years before we really knew each other he's admitted he was kind of bi-curious but he's said later on he doesn't like dick (cis peen). Which I mean I don't think personally I will get any bottom surgeries in the future, because I don't have much dysphoria in that area, so technically I still have the bottom parts he's attracted to. But then that brings me right back around to not feeling like I'm taken seriously or read as a guy and his boyfriend to him (mostly because in society's eyes I'm not "really" a guy). IDK.... sorry this is so long, I'm basically just ranting about my insecurities.

[@f.s.l.2363]

Hi, I just want to say, I'm in the exact same case than you. I am ftm and dating a cis straight guy, and we are very much in love with each other. He's super accepting and aware of my dysphoria, and he does everything he can to make me feel good about myself, which is super sweet. When we started dating (we were really close friends before), I told him I thought his heterosexuality was going to be a problem. He had to think about it for like, a day, and said to me "fuck it, I love YOU and I want to be with you no matter what." The fact that he's ready to be with a guy and tell his friends and family that he has a boyfriend makes me love him even more :3

[@samjones9821]

Oh hey, I'm in a rather similar situation, as well. I'm also dating a cis straight man, and I identify as nonbinary, transmasculine, and just generally all-around queer. So we were close friends before, then we spent an entire summer basically glued at the hip because all of our friends had moved or were away for school, and we have like the same sense of humor, and yeah. One thing led to another, and at the end of the summer, right before he left for a 6 month internship in the freaking Netherlands (we live in the US so it's rather far, lol) we started dating. Which was confusing for everyone, including us, because I had identified as a gay female for years. And then we started talking more about sex stuff via skype and messaging while he was away, and through all of that he basically helped me figure out that I'm not 100% cisgender. Turns out, I was focusing wayyyy too much on my sexuality, and defining myself based on who I was with/wanted to be with, rather than focusing on myself and who I am as an individual. Anyway, it'll be 3 years this fall, and he's been super supportive, and probably my greatest motivator through all of this. While I still feel insecure sometimes (often, if I'm being honest) because he still technically identifies as straight, we've agreed to be completely honest and open about absolutely everything, which is probably why we've had such a great relationship so far. He's been honest about the fact that he isn't sure, one way or another, if he'll continue being physically attracted to me once I reach or pass (aha, *pass*) a certain point of physical transition. And I've been honest with him about the fact that I'm not sure how far I want or feel the need to physically transition. So we're both still feeling everything out, but we're making sure to do it together. I think that's the best anyone *can* do as a partner. 😊

[@setedisangue9382]

Ash Crager I understand your fear of not being attractive to him later on and that you love him very much and don't want to loose him. However, I think it is really important that you live your life authentically and that it will bring you the most happiness. Relationships can fall apart for many reasons and if it comes to a point where your maleness becomes a problem for him you guys can still continue on as friends? If you really share such a deep emotional connection that is and that's something that you'd want. Just please do not try and live your life for the sake of others it's something I did for years and am only just now trying to put behind me. It's tough but I've never been happier with myself. Also I'd worry less about society reading you as male (that will come later and you can always be stealth) and more about whether or not he reads you as male.

[@f.s.l.2363]

Yeah, I totally agree with you. Happiness is the most important thing (both for yourself and your partner). I don't want to bring everything back to myself, but one thing I noticed since I started dating my (cis straight) boyfriend is that I surprisingly pass more often. (I mean, you would expect the contrary to happen, right?) I wouldn't know the exact reason why, but maybe because he is shorter than me, or rather masculine, or because we dress the same way... but yeah, that's pretty cool :) Since he is straight, I was kinda worried about his reaction to people reading us as a gay couple, but he couldn't care less, like we are just us and we are happy this way.

[@kallumkehoe4770]

this is what i'm going through right now. lord help me....

[@Krytow]

You give me so much hope. I currently feel like I just attract the really weird ones that just get a kick out of the fact that I'm some kind of interesting, exotic funflesh? Sometimes that hurts my Ego a little.

[@Nicole-ye4wh]

Very informative, thank you Chase! Also a cis female who has dabbled in topping cis straight males.

[@melkidrizzly7390]

Are you a gay female/male, jay? :O

[@vynrichtxr]

Jay Preis faLSE

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

What was informative about this?

[@WolfMoon-jc1wl]

Jay Preis You rusted walnut.

[@jacksonlightheart7541]

I'm dating my first partner with a penis, as a trans man. I have struggled so hard trying to understand why I've felt so inadequate about it. He reassures me I'm great and I satisfy him in more ways then even cis men. It's just a sadness of disconnect that gets me. Maybe one day he will want a "real man" again (as my brain likes to tell me). He has shown nothing but love and devotion so im learning to love myself with him, with a man. Thanks for talking about this seriously

[@kaidendrew9638]

My god mom told me that I am still having lesbian sex until I have surgery. And I was like I have a trans friend and she was like year I know Logan. But you know he's not you're "trans friend" right because he's not all the way trans because he hasn't had any surgeries. And I'm just kinda sitting there like 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@kaidendrew9638]

I'm sorry if I spelled thing bad or has some incorrect grammar. I try my best.

[@samjones9821]

Totally ridiculous! And problematic *a f*. 😤

[@daniellevanaelst499]

Kaiden Drew wow...so they misgendered and partial gendered you. How df even. I'm sorry boo

[@DollOWeen]

you identify as a man, you're a man, not all trans people get surgery either

[@JusticeForNicholeAlloway]

Reality's a bitch, ain't it.

[@rcenio5744]

Thank you for this conversation. As a gay cis man who had/have/has the mentality as the guy you dated for a few months about the female genitalia, I appreciate theses topics that are helping me to open myself up to understand trans men

[@ambertaylor3397]

I am a cis straight woman, and I forever feel like I have no place in any conversation about sexuality outside of mine because I don't know. However, Chasey-poo, you are doing and expressing something amazing. You are offering information to the public; to someone like me who is pretty frequently in the dark about things outside of my personal spectrum. I think you are an amazing person from what I've seen of you, and you are helping the world, little bits at a time. Thank you for your frankness and your experiences; You're a beautiful human being.

[@bearplushie]

thank u so much for talking about this... ive been so worried about this forever and this is extremely validating

[@cringearchive4093]

T H E C I S (tm)

[@aploticmonk7289]

Gayonnaise down with the cis-tem

[@LeonyRhaw]

honestly thank you so much for being open and confident

[@ghostofrhys]

I saw the title and clicked right away lmao cus I'm gayyyyyyyy

[@tenorprimo]

Your a nut. I love you. I really enjoy your videos and the way you express yourself. Thanks for making these videos. I have loved watching.

[@gracecarpenter8928]

'he left literally when I said I was trans' like...... I'm sorry thats a legitimate reason to reject someone. Yeah it's obviously upsetting but that person is still allowed to say no and have that be a reason.

[@Scruffy_Talks]

i just think everyone should be up front and tell ppl right out the get.....if ur bamboozeled half way in like o btw im trans..and ur not ready for it. sometimes things like what u said happen.... and come off mean...i wrote something above read it , id like ur thoughts...

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

@Pix - So don't have sex on the first few dates and if feels like it's going to turn into a sex date, then gender up and have the difficult convo. No sympathy here...

[@connorchavez5584]

yall whats wrong with you lmao

[@pirategirl102]

Pld dont conflate 'this thing hurts' with 'you arent allowed to do the thing'

[@RandomLetsPlays]

My biggest thing is, is when i say im gay its not because im gay for penis its cause im gay for men. I never cared if they had a penis or not and people get mad at me for saying that or would try and change labels which astonished me. Being that i am a cis gay guy, i found love with a trans guy and we have a very fluid...life (wink) and we just make sure eachother are happy and having fun doing whatever each of us wanna do/try. I think i started rambling, i dont normally post comments but ive been watching a lot more of your videos and my bf loves your videos and its just really just like awesome listening to you talk about all these things.

[@razzirae5536]

It's ok to not wanna have sexual relations with trans ppl some ppl just aren't down with that and some ppl are and it's ok either way it's all about personal preference which isn't wrong to have

[@calonstanni]

Gosh it's fun watching you be so happy and goofy about your sex-capades! Also.... very informative!

[@Missteree87]

Saying that sexuality doesn't exist is quite offensive

[@Dellennickolis95]

love that profile

[@fridgehorror4502]

because this is a straight woman

[@rains5]

It doesn't. It is just used to help describe and categorise. It doesn't shape reality. Reality came first. Nothing is 100% one way and define tel won't apply to everyone, no matter the word.

[@iLettercast]

YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING HOLY SHIT. It's like you're in my head and you're speaking my mind.

[@kyleisimmortal8590]

I met my current boyfriend on Tinder and hes completely okay with me being trans. Hope is out there 😊

[@alexandergorrell4560]

I've struggled with identifying as a Gay man for as long as I have been out and transitioning because from day one I've been told by everyone that 'being gay really limits the people who will be interested in you'. 'you don't have the junk they want', even 'you're going to be alone forever if you go through with this' and every time I've passed as a man enough to someone I was interested in, the moment I mentioned being trans (cause I'm really open about it) they'd flee. And I even had one guy ask me out and then the next day say 'I can't do this, you have the wrong parts and I don't think I can handle that, ever.' I've never found anyone who would accept me for me through and through, well, who wasn't using me at least. And it's been very difficult for me. It had me question going through with transitioning a couple of times in the first couple of years. Even now I feel like it's a lost cause. But watching this video made me feel a little bit better about the idea. Thank you for making videos like this about problems a lot of guys have and what knowledge you have on the subject.

[@mablepugh4459]

i just turned 18 so now i can watch ur videos 😂

[@visionoflovelyness]

This was awesome!!! So much info your channel is awesome and you are addictive xxx

[@everettdoyle6154]

Hey Chase, could you make a video on how to be with cis women as a trans guy? I'm attracted to women but have very little experience being with any, and zero experience topping anyone at all. ;A; Help? Also, loved the video. :D

[@bubblegumplastic]

i love your personality and humour and vibrancy so much ;-;

[@larco2012]

I'd love to have a trans man top me. I never really understood why some cis gay men would feel differently, trans men are men and all men are beautiful.

[@diosdehuecomundo]

I haven't laughed this much in AGES! This actually answers questions I wanted to ask you but was afraid of them being too inappropriate... So thank you for this video :D

[@roborovyskihamster]

coming from a 100% top trans guy, thank you for this vid!

[@bigell91]

Well this has helped me out a lot! Thanks for your video!!

[@lilarain8211]

homophobia

[@SarahJones-wy5us]

You are a great down to earth character ,love your honesty and presentation good job!.

[@bryceericson1096]

as a cis gay man , the last 3 guys i have hooked up with/fallen for are trans men and not once was there a moment of questioning my sexuality. btw you are adorable

[@Dellennickolis95]

You bi.

[@Rin_Evans]

Honestly I love this video because I honestly wondered how that worked and it just isn't a topic many people seem to want to talk about

[@trillmcavoy2566]

As a cis guy dating a trans guy this was a great video to take in.

[@ModelinBoy]

Your laugh is so obnoxious and infectious! I LOVE IT!!!! I am now a subbie!

[@cainfisher3951]

I haven't been with a cis guy since coming out as trans but this gives me some hope :)

[@joeharris4936]

Cain Fisher hello im a cis guy and im interested

[@jj.7291]

Power bottom is someone who takes charge whilst bottoming, yes:) also I love this video. Thanks!

[@MatthewMitchamGold]

As a cis man/child, I also am here to tell you you are enough. And also that you're probably very handsome.

[@ikablahh]

can i just say that this video is amazing, and im absolutely in love with it, i watched it twice.

[@megnemo6403]

people that are straight do need to show respect but conversely the lgbtq community needs to recognize that not everybody is sexually fluid. i am wired to only engage in intimate activities with men. i was curious at one point, but then i experinced lesbian sexuality and couldnt do it i am just not wired that way. it would be easier if i could be more fluid because all the men i have been with have been bad news but i am who i am.

[@megnemo6403]

Jeremy nelson them that smelt it delt it

[@Zandorv]

You can accept that not everyone is sexually fluid and that not everyone is into trans people while still acknowledging that it's hard and can hurt one's feelings when they're rejected specifically for being trans. I don't think Chase said anything here condemning people for not being into trans men; he just talked about how it was hard for him to be rejected in that way.

[@leonardo899]

I'm a gay man, and I would not bottom for Chase. I like my men manly.i would top for Ty Turner.

[@ShaunArcanine]

omg that face when you said when having sex with chase ross omfg i cant breathe