FULL STORY - My religious wife crossed the only line I set for her. So I'm considering breaking up.

[@cwtabbs1]

That, for me, would be a break-up reason. Anyone who decides to take it upon themselves WITHOUT TELLING YOU to let a person you've cut off back into your life, esp a dangerous and abusive one, does not get another chance. Idgaf what their reason happens to be. They violated a very important boundary. Trust is broken. And no - no one deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness is tbe wronged person's choice and they don't have to. Too many toxic people take forgiveness to mean they can keep being awful and wronging people over and over again. Forgiveness is for the wronged person, not for the offender.

[@DERTHIX]

If a court gives an abusive parent full custody they should beable to be sued for it... If I had to go with an abusive parent while the good parent has to walk away id be suing when i turned 18

[@AJthegold]

Well that’s the court for you Most courts are biased towards mothers having custody no matter what

[@daishaunholmes2298]

Feels like something still messing here

[@dwolf4164]

She breaks bounderies like that break up with her, she clearly has no respect for u. (and take the dog)

[@bba7625]

Update?

[@DesmoChoJo]

Op posted the update 9 days ago. Basically, he didn’t go with her to her family thanksgiving, he stayed with the dogs and visited his dad. He asked his dad for the file of his documented abuse and his mother loss of custody. He showed the file to his wife when she returned home and she was apparently pale while looking through the photos and listening to his abuse stories. He saw the FB messages his mom sent his wife where the mom was blaming everyone else for her loss of custody and manipulating his wife into getting his information. His in-laws scolded Op for showing his wife the file because she raised shelter in the church and literally had no idea that people could be cruel. Op and her parents even said she had an “innocent view of the world”. They aren’t divorcing. He insisted they go to couples therapy and she agreed. He is also going through individual therapy. Op realized he has PTSD and his wife says that explains why he would sometimes just stare off into space and give short responses. The wife is also now more conscious of the scars on OP’s face that she’s never questioned before. Op believes his relationship is salvageable and that his wife was manipulated to make an honest mistake, not understanding that things/people could actually just be bad.

[@1742Q]

If you’re religious wife is doing this, then it’s probably a signal that she is going to be that type of mother that your mother was. I don’t know if you know this but woman can act. They are very good liars. Your wife sounds like the type of toxic person Who always thinks she’s right and I just want you to know. You definitely should break up with her or divorce her depending if you’re married or not, my thing is it sounds like she’s gonna be that type of mother to you and your child who that type of wife to you and that type of mother to your child

[@rarse9164]

link? please