Get Off Your Freaking Ladder!

Stop Judging everyone already! Including yourself. ;)

[@TheGaryDaniel]

Here after watching Shay’s video saying you are separated. We all love you both and wish the best for your whole family.

[@01colter]

They are still married, but she just moved out.

[@blossomibudeh2204]

Ava Horie that’s separation my dear...

[@blossomibudeh2204]

Peach not so sure. they probaly got a job or getting old money(money from they’re family)

[@blossomibudeh2204]

Peach oh yea that’s true

[@mattheww797]

its selfish to get a divorce when there are kids involved.

[@MirelMagurele]

You told me "I will see you next week", but you never did. I'm still waiting for you.

[@tryptamind6839]

That's because she is back on the Shaytards channel.

[@katievanderpot5781]

@@tryptamind6839 they havent posted in 3 months

[@moodyfan4ever]

@@katievanderpot5781 , Is Colette out of the house?????

[@mariahrivera712]

Albertus Jansen she is

[@moodyfan4ever]

@@mariahrivera712 , it s knowing why she left??????< Shay is on Porno again or drinking??

[@neogigo]

Sounds like she Practiced what she preached. Here’s to new beginnings 🥂

[@averdeanepowers3235]

“See you next week” we’ve been wait for a year & 4 Months. I’ve come back to this bc of shay recent video & all this just smacks me in the forehead

[@aleenawolfeyy7673]

I know I want to know if everything's okay like?

[@CraigBG]

Collette, I’m sensing what’s going on. I do hope you’re ok.

[@DreamTeamBieber96]

You're the greatest, sweetest and "free-est" Colette I've ever seen, you're inspiring!

[@ChanelleLockhart]

My struggle is letting go of judgement of myself! I'm my worst critic sometimes... Working to get better! That you for this!! It was a great reminder!

[@QueenOfTheConsole]

Same here. I tend to make jokes at my own expense often to hide my insecurities and weaknesses.

[@ChanelleLockhart]

Console Queen been there done that... And then I think why the heck did I just do that? I've been practicing saying 3 positive things with every one negative I say or joke about myself.... Reprogramming my brain!

[@QueenOfTheConsole]

Love this idea! I will try it out. ♥

[@elfstitch]

I've run across these people many times. Love your message, keep up the positive energy and remember to uplift others whenever possible!

[@h0ul1n]

Colette, I’m so sad to hear the bad news about you and Shay. I am a long time fan of the Shaytards and your family has got me through some tough years. I want to say thank you to you and your kids for sharing your lives and making us laugh. Hopefully, everything will work out for the best. In the meantime, take care of yourself and your family.

[@TheAlmostblack]

Thanks for sharing! This is sound advice. I have found I truly am the most judgmental when I am not loving something about my own life. Love the new Trixin hat!

[@annakatie7347]

I'm so proud of you for leaving Shay. You are an incredibly strong woman & so inspiring. My heart filled with hope when I heard the news.

[@MrFallior]

She didn't leave him completely, just septated

[@jenoshajackson6700]

Listen u Don’t know nun about they relationship like u don’t rlly know what does on wen the cameras r off like focus on u get tf off they channel like y’all be really making me mad talking about she proud of her like g he want her bk I’m pretty sure if she give him a chance they will be good so stfu like I can tell u a follower u just saying that cause u just see what ppl say u have no proof like a person can tell u trump died and u would listen to them so just stfu cause y’all ppl need to mind yours like I’ll be proud of u wen u be in your own business

[@Ana-fm4op]

@@kimmysplayhouse if being perfect means not being a disgusting fucking cheater then bitch I'm perfect

[@Ana-fm4op]

@Vino I'm double that number and even a 12 year old such as yourself shouldn't excuse cheating.

[@Pinkclouds512]

Leah Opalewski THATS the best thing for children! Seeing an unhappy relationship and being taught that women should stay with men no matter the circumstances. You have no idea how their life is and you also have a pretty skewed view of what children need

[@kylesmith1325]

You’re positive spirit has been missed!

[@kiwifruitofyourlife]

Missing your motherly advice!

[@kimberlygrace961]

I love this message!! For the past few months my mental health hasn’t been great and one thing I constantly do is compare myself to others not only in achievements but in other aspects like looks. It’s always hard to stop comparing yourself to others , but learning to love yourself and stop “competing” with everyone else is such a big goal of mine 🤞💗

[@illwasteyourtime]

Love the ladder metaphor, I use it all the time. I have MANY flaws but thankfully have never looked down on nor been infatuated with anyone; just live and let live (I think it's a lesson you learn young here in NY).. On an unrelated note you ROCK that hat and look gorgeous in it :D

[@TheEndeavoringFamily]

Interesting idea. I also like the one from Simon and Martina where she talks about building a ladder to help you get out of the depression hole. Each rung is another positive thing you can find to help you get up and out.

[@ColetteKati]

Yes that is good!

[@tymikesell]

"How do you get off that latter?" LEAVE the Mormon CULT. I did and it is SOOO worth it!

[@JBaads]

You're still alive, which means it wasn't a cult. You left the LDS church, but you can't leave it alone.

[@KittyMax97]

Every religion has the eccentrics who take it out of context and use it for their own purposes Catholics and Mormons have cults, Muslims have isis etc, etc. That includes the people who use religion as a reason to spread fear and hate. It doesn't mean everyone of that religion is part of the those toxic groups.

[@danahummer765]

Ladder

[@barbaragermain3713]

Freedom of Religion is ALIVE and WELL in America.

[@christelwoesthoff1227]

Best for you, does not mean for everyone else.

[@danahummer765]

Just saw shays vlog oct 19th 2019 he told us u left a year ago i hope u ok and let u no find ur self keep head up

[@elliecollis2588]

Loved waking up to this beautiful message! X

[@jaelleerica]

Amen Colette! Ive never heard this analogy ....but I love it and will be writing it in my journal and teaching it to my children! This is something ive been working really hard on! I thought I was a really humble, loving of everyone person- until my daughters young women president began putting them down and the guirls began ignoring them etc. And we still aren't sure why. I realized that I definitely thought I was " higher on the ladder " from her because even though she has lots of money and a big house ands a thrilling career etc- I actually thought I was better because I didn't treat people the way she treats .everyone and I didn't have the bad attitude she has...... aand then I realized wow look at what im doing by thinking that- im literally thinking I'm better than her when her whole attitude is she is better than everyone ands I was so saddened by her behavior etc and then I realized I was having the same attitude towards her .by thinking I was better because I didn't act like that- yet I was pretty much acting like that in my head lol! It opened up a whole new lesson I needed to study about and learn about and change! Now im in the process of learning ti just let go and love her. Pray for her ands show love through my actions and behaviors aand also in my own thoughts etc. I was believing that she was on top of the ladder ands so proud of it.... aand I truly thought that I was basically in my thoughts- pushing her down from the top ands climbing over her to that next rung because I didn't behave like that and I was a nicer more loving and forgiving person that she was- yet I wasn't loving and forgiving her. It's pretty crazy the lessons we learn and the better versions of ourselves we become even we have to learn to forgive even when it hurts so much. Thank you so much for sharing this Colette! - jl

[@KtRosemary]

Thank you for your important and uplifting messages!! Sometimes they’re just what I need to hear ☺️❤️

[@angelicaoso]

I haven't see you for a really long time and it's so nice to hear you and hear all your thoughts and know that u change for the better. I admire you , ur a incredible woman.

[@nins7457]

I get so happy to see your vids again! Loved the latest! And awesome advice! Your so down to earth and so amazing! Keep up the amazing work!😊💜😄👍

[@Bamafootball4life]

You are such a beautiful person

[@AmandaNunweiler]

Hope you feel better soon. 🙏🏻

[@chloetaylor9187]

You are so pure of heart and live your family so much it’s inspirational !!! In fact for years you have neglected your happiness in the pursuit of keeping everyone else “happy” but you are worthy of being loved and appreciated! Also what a positive message to sent to your girls ..You are worth more than the the price a man puts on n you! If you are treated badly and they refuse to change it is not good enough and as women you must find happiness in life and a partner who truly appreciates and lives you 🙏 It also teaches your boys that women are not the property or their husband and as a man you must love and respect your partner. Especially important in the strict religious beliefs of the LDS where men are seen as more powerful and calif than women . It shows us all that preaching about it ..going to church ..buying nice expensive things is not what life is about and self serving ...abusive actions and a belief of “I am better than everyone” destroys your life and that of your lives ones

[@Hooliigann]

I struggle a lot with loving myself. I’m not really sure where to start. Starting with letting go of comparing myself and judgement I think is my first step!

[@alexandrahill-whilton1331]

I just got engaged. And I think planning this wedding has really made me realize I might be on a ladder; comparing my wedding to my cousins and others. But you are so right. I need to get off my ladder! Thank you 😘 I needed this

[@ColetteKati]

I understand, it’s just nice to be aware of so that you can get to a place of peace instead of stress. Congrats btw! I’m sure your wedding will be amazing!

[@kaylasworld4785]

I have had a rough time lately thanks for always lifting me up when I am down

[@meganrands]

I needed something to tie my thoughts together for RS!!! Thank you so much!!! Love you and the whole fam 💜💜💜

[@ashmoonz]

Oh how I love your videos! They give me such a great perspective and make me see things that I can improve upon!

[@DearIndiaRose]

It's ALL about gratitude! Grateful that you are sharing these thoughts and inspiring others... thanks girl!

[@NessaHM29]

So true! thank you so much for sharing that beautiful thought. I needed to hear that.

[@BPDouglass]

It's hard but you have to remember what The Doctor said "hate is always foolish and love is always wise"

[@ginathejedii]

I just wrote “get off your freaking ladder!!” On a post-it and put it on my bathroom mirror, such a good reminder :)

[@yuniwengerd1559]

Thank-you for sharing that thought, Colette! It was just what I needed as I have been struggling so much the last while with not feeling like I'm good enough for my friends but maybe I've been feeling like I'm too good for them😏🤔🤨 life is hard...I always look forward to your encouraging words!! Love you!!

[@clarec3]

A huge lesson packed into a short video. Thanks so much Colette! Xoxo

[@Kristakat23]

Katilette I love and appreciate your talks, thank you. #MyIdol

[@Justmichy1]

Well said Collette!

[@tmuir2801]

Perfect!!! I love it Colette. I've chose not to take part or be a character in their play. I choose love, happiness and joy. Being in my fifties is the best and so freeing. I just wish I'd been here in my earlier years, however I'm grateful I'm here now. Thanks.

[@_ForestFae_]

Such great advice.💗 Thank you.

[@savannahmaley688]

My only queen and inspiration ♥️ Your sweet words keep me going. Keep the words of wisdom coming!

[@nataliem9315]

Thanks for sharing, really needed to hear that. Can you please expand more about this video!

[@kpope7007]

back in the day they used to say “get off your high horse” 🐎🐎🐎

[@450rmack]

I always heard this as “Get off your high horse.” 😂 Same thing right? Now I’m wondering where the term derived from. 🤔

[@lauren9547]

Colette I just want to say thank you. and I miss you/ your videos. I never had a good relationship with my mother(and for years have not had a relationship with her at all) and I have always looked up to you as a mother figure, for ten years now I've been dreaming of what my life would have looked like with a wonderful mother like you, even now as a mother myself. I feel watching you over the years has in some taught me how to be a good mother, as I was not shown by my own. your love and positive energy radiates so strong, even in dark times. you are such an inspirational woman to me. I wish I could hug you. God bless, I hope and pray that you and your beautiful family are doing well. xo

[@thebigbangtheoryfriendsgle3279]

happy 10th bday brock Vincent butler!!! you are a crazy,fun,loving,kind and lush... cant believe you've been here a decade now! ive watched you grow,and love. do what your heart tells you. life isn't always perfect and don't expect it to be either. we love u brock!! xx- Grace

[@LindseyCochranVlogs]

I loved this!!! I didn't even realize I was on a ladder until you said this. It's time to jump off it!

[@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo]

Colette I can't find the video but I remember hearing you sing 'pretty fair maid' and really want to hear you sing it again. Please start uploading videos of you singing

[@lisalynn1]

I couldn't agree more. Thank you for putting it an easy for me to me to explain to ppl. ....ladder.

[@evaderknives]

Saying you don't judge, especially yourself, is so easy to say, but when it comes to actually achieving it, can take a lifetime... The problem is, when you are in a bad spot, you know you have to do better. Then the better you get, the more you forget what got you there... It is so easy to fall into that loop. Judging others is worse, because you do it before you even realize...or you want to... Love you guys, I've watched for many years, you have really inspired me!!!! Take it easy...

[@AprylsLane]

I love your videos Colette. Very inspiring! Thank you.

[@SilasLives1]

If I break my leg getting off this ladder just because you told me to I'm going to be pissed!

[@positivevibesonlythoo7759]

Love it getting off the ladder now 👌

[@texascrystal]

Going to disneyland next month. Got any tips or must do things there. It's my first time there so excited but also nervous.

[@Rallybear]

Have fun

[@whatsupitsme6557]

You are a role model. Your videos have helped me become a better person.

[@theredpanda3709]

Thats the ladder

[@mamatofive1]

Great advice! What an important concept to learn ❤️

[@jillm871]

I think the last time I commented was when I was chewing you out about having to explain yourself to others and how your business is your business and there ain't nobody perfect and everyone has problems. I think it was under a different name, anyhow I'm glad you are back and you seem like a much stronger person I hope you stat that way. Get off your friggin ladder people we are all in this together.

[@LilyRose-zu9zv]

Stay strong and don’t settle for less than the greatness you deserve. ❤️

[@bridgetcrosby8506]

Love the hat girl! Also your out look on life and all your videos have been so inspiring and helpful since I have just been through a really tough breakup. Thank you for everything you and all your family members do. Love you all, keep it up!

[@deborahkimbel3119]

Beautifully said, you're an inspiration Colette!

[@christinatoler]

My dad use to always say get off your high horse....same concept. Smart advice

[@bigbassjonz]

Nice metaphor. I've thought about it in a similar way. For me though that ladder represents another rung to climb. Always. For me I'm always looking and searching for that next thing, never satisfied with what's in front of me. I try to make a conscious effort to think about this and be satisfied with what I have.

[@HouseofJulsVlog]

Very cool advice!

[@BouncyBounceKids]

Great advice

[@Purpleboba.]

When she said next week and ya actually been a year😓

[@MirandaLeacock]

I absolutely love these videos and the motivation behind it. :)

[@Cindermellie2]

Great message!

[@ChelseaADUB207]

We learned this technique in psychology! We also were taught another way of looking at “getting off your ladder” which was analyzing someone’s behavior. For instance, if someone was being rude or mean to you, instead of immediately thinking “Wow, this person is a jerk”, you can “climb down the ladder” and think of what may have influenced their behavior, such as personal issues that they are dealing with that day/week/etc. This technique definitely has helped me become more open minded and less judgemental towards others! I love the way you were taught this metaphor and your viewpoint of it! Thanks for being so positive Colette 💕

[@karenkeller3056]

I hope you post more videos soon! Always love them. It'd be great if you made more comedy videos again, too!!

[@kaseypb]

Loooveee!!! Agree 1000%

[@Sunwolfff]

I love you so much, my friend! You are always so strong and beautiful!! You are also very inspiring! Thank you so much. I hope to hear from you asap!! 💜💜💜

[@sophieabott]

I love these little short sweet knowledge bomb soulful videos 🤘🏼💕

[@paulucas57]

We all love you and all your family, Please try to stay together. All the best .

[@EricMVlogs]

Happy Birthday Colette. I pray that whatever you do on this day your birthday that it is filled with love, laughter, family, friends and fun. I hope that someday i can meet your whole family meaning; shay, gavin, avia, emmi, brock, daxton and maybe callie at vidcon or playlist-live and become the best of friends.

[@peachygurl4172]

I REALLY needed to hear that Colette! That's something good to remind myself of everyday.

[@HowToVideos]

*I'm at work, on a ladder watching this !!!* 👍😀

[@daynalie748]

How To Videos 😂😂

[@nataliedreha73]

Absolutely so true. Love from Oz

[@rosmariecate7859]

im so sad that you didn't upload more videos , but also understand it. hope you are fine and your family

[@ChristinaWoods726]

Don't stop your videos Colettte. You are an inspiring woman

[@chrissyrhone524]

Awesome message

[@themodelmama2569]

YES! This is so true! It's so hard to do but so so worth it.

[@siennarose9189]

I love you so much! I met you at Disneyland the other day after watching you guys for almost 8 years and it was the best day ever!

[@kimmyjeans2]

Wish you would come back to us miss you and kids

[@leannaoxo]

You shine so bright Colette, you continuously inspire me :) xx

[@chyhall]

Love you!! Thinking about you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@barbaragermain3713]

Collette, I use to watch ALL your dad's video's when he was onmKZbin. He seems like a very upstanding man. Makes me always wonder what he thinks of Shay now. Wish you would do more video's with him and your sister. I almost wore out my computer watching you guys singing together.

[@SParkerAustralia]

I needed this thank you 😘

[@audreynewsom6464]

I named my daughter after Avia after I heard what happened my family loves you and we love your family this is your life and you have to protect your kids and yourself from the wrong beings in this world I’m not taking sides I know how sorry he is but he made his bed and now he has to lye in it

[@EricMVlogs]

Happy Birthday Colette. I hope that your birthday is special and that you have the best birthday you can in these difficult times we live in.

[@vanessawhite6786]

Your so pure Collete

[@spideybob77]

Thank you for this!

[@dottidal]

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best Colette! Hope you are doing well. 😊❤️

[@tangerinesforlife7696]

I love your advice Collette your advice is nice and what you said was amazing 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👍👍👍👍💕💕💕💕💞💞💞💞💞💟💟💟💟❤💙💚💛💛💜💓❤💙💜💓💕💖💗💞💟👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏for Collette

[@sebaidoria]

She sooooo awesome i love her soooooo very much!!!

[@barbaragermain3713]

Don't don't believe most think they are better! I think people are just trying the best they can, to be the best they can be!! If one believes this Ladder saying....they need to pick their friends a little better!!!

[@Migxp03]

Happy birthday Colette, GOD BLESS You Amen

[@amjed123456325632561]

She has always been very wise ❤

[@danyellamartin2158]

i love colette shes so inspirational and bright!!❤️

[@jacquimueller2128]

Thank you Katilette ❤

[@ItsBrittanyyBeach]

this was just what i needed to hear