How Me and My Wife Met... (It's Not What You Think)

[@MariaM-qq6kv]

1. Get out of the house 2. Eye contact 3. Proximity 4. Say something 5. Have the mindset of being open to love rather than the fear of rejection

[@tallspicy]

Yikes! What a gross misunderstanding of mirroring a man or letting a man lead concept. Healthy people don’t need to be so rigid. That comes from fear. There is a big difference between saying hi, and saying hi and throwing yourself at someone. It’s like you did not watch the video.

[@winspiff]

This comment doesn’t seem to reflect the comment before it. This person was just summarizing the video very concisely, not saying that anyone needed to throw themselves at someone?

[@Kornelia-r1r]

be famous with proper account

[@Portia620]

Fear of rejection is soooo something I’ll never understand!!! You could miss some amazing opportunities !!! Wake up America!

[@aneeznovelist2176]

this nails it perfectly Mariam!

[@preethiprez]

"I have to live in such a way that makes people around me brave." This is such a beautiful statement that can be applied to any person or encounter in our lives.

[@wandag.2073]

This definitely meant for me... Cause I'm still waiting for the love of my life to break into my home as much as I stay in😅

[@zoetsahai]

Same hahah this year I must go out more! We can do it 😅

[@IntuitivelyDriven]

😂😂

[@joyfulreflections]

😂😂😂

[@MsCrizzleG]

I felt this 😂

[@Listenlyssa]

I’m laughing so hard because I have said this exact quote before as a comment on some other video out there on KZbin. 🤣

[@juliecraig6770]

sounds like Audrey was the brave one all round! 😂😂

[@Langron]

again it's been a few years and this is the surface just like when he scammed thousands of women

[@watcharaw]

Hardly brave when she probably already knew he is a millionaire

[@wangcheng5188]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@paulinebricks3441]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

[@wangcheng5188]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?

[@wangcheng5188]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@erin2625]

Probably should've put a ring on it instead of lolligagging for 5 yrs

[@rsivkova]

@pauline how much her services cost?

[@lujeinMoh]

Summary: 1. Go out more: increase your possibility to collide more. (2-4) be approachable, make people braver around you 👇🏽 2. When you like someone, be inviting: eye contact, not only one, multiple times. Don’t be creepy though 👀. 3. Get closer. 4. Say something,,, anything, to show you’re open to talk. Tip: what can go wrong? cold moment, awkward silence, rejection…. So what 😂 On the other hand, you might actually ⚡️

[@tinyelephant77]

Thank you.

[@35pri2ish]

Hmmmm

[@Xianne027]

We seriously need to hear from Audrey about what she was thinking at that moment went she approached Mathew. I would appreciate her take on this. She won a gem of a man, so she must have some great advice for us!

[@empea3837]

Yes! And she’s a gem too!

[@meetandinspire]

Yes!

[@estherbolekia]

Definitely! If she shares any advice I’ll follow it as the ultimate truth. She surely knows more than many female dating coaches out there

[@melanalyvka6109]

No doubt at all... Would be nice to read or hear that story ❤ 🎉

[@micap1121]

I LOVE her takes and the way she discusses this topic. Would run to watch it

[@NadiaBokody]

Audrey is such a boss. She led this entire encounter!

[@calmandcozymeditationvideo6230]

I wanted to say thank you Matthew! I've read your book and listened to your content for several years, practicing being open to conversations and making myself easy to talk to (not natural for an introvert but I intentionally learned!). I'd given up on modern dating, but kept practicing in public with no goals except warm curiosity to make friends and have interesting interactions with strangers. A few months ago I was at the car dealership getting work done on my car when another customer came and sat a few seats away. I struck up a casual conversation. We talked easily an hour and by the time his car was fixed I'd slid him my phone number. Texting turned into meeting up as friends, a few months passed and we both admitted we liked each other. We've been dating steadily almost a year now. So thank you, because of practicing being open for anything I met my first ever boyfriend - at age 39. You really never know when the right atoms will bump into each other!

[@coyoter9691]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I've yet to have a boyfriend (33 yrs old), because of social anxiety and isolation. I'm not bad looking at all, just in bad circumstances. Your story gave me hope that it could still happen, I just need to put myself out there and work on being more approachable and warm to others.

[@girlygirl1890]

@calmandcozy OMG! Such a cute story. And yes, you were brave, which worked out wonderfully for you! Love your story and wishing you lots of good luck and great vibes for your relationship. 🙏🙂💕

[@alanikeiser]

I have been rejected so many times over the past 14 years of being single. But I am still putting myself out there.

[@sergiolopez2440]

My respect to you!!!! I admire your attitude

[@elizabethdalton-jandreau5588]

Right on. Keep going! Been there, too, and it WILL happen, friend.🙌

[@giannishen]

Ever since I got to know you, I feel that your wife is the luckiest person in the world! You did a super great job, thanks a lot for sharing! 👍😄👏

[@marinakio3471]

How many chances are there to go to party and meet a handsome intelligent and available man like Matthew? The answer is : None. That is like winning the lottery.

[@4EverGr8ful1]

Pretty much! But as scripture states: *"With God ALL things are possible!"* We gotta have Hope, right?? 🙏❤️✝️

[@AndiAlexander1]

All you need is one

[@marinakio3471]

@@Cocoisagordonsetter You are lucky.

[@meerkat783]

SMILE. If you see someone without one, give them one of yours. A smile says a thousands words.

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Great advice!😃

[@Karina_Engr]

This is a cute saying

[@SagittariusBabe87]

I love your comment so much! It's true! Smile 😃 As soon as you do, you will see someone's demeanor change & they will smile back! Most of the time... I always been told I have a great smile 😁 and I try to be happy and smile at others. Hopefully, that can work more with finding my person...😌

[@LoveeeeelyM]

I love hearing “my wife” 😍🥰😍🥰 sooooo happy for you!

[@Scarlethara100]

So Audrey did practically the most effort 😅

[@4EverGr8ful1]

Looks like it paid off, eh?? 💍😁

[@theempire00]

Whos audrey

[@Scarlethara100]

@@theempire00 his wife ☺️

[@Som.Suwadee]

Sounds like my life when I see what I wanted lol 😅

[@jceejcee5495]

Matthew Hussey got married?!! Where have I been? So glad you found your person! Seems like I went thru your journey, beginning of COVID, etc, and this fellow Gemini was grateful for the company, but my heart ached for both of us. Doing so much better also! Cheers! 🧡

[@forensicbadassprofiling]

Matthew, I'm curious if you met your wife before the quarantine? Because clearly the world has changed. The values of people and social media has played a big role in why there is such a declination on the dating scene, let alone monogamy. I also want to ask you, are you willing to do any videos about we women who are over 50 years old? That's the market you'll make the most money in guiding us because we're the ones nobody ever talks about.

[@juliafisher5844]

Nah he always does

[@bindicat9070]

Hi Matthew 😊 I keep missing the atoms I say yes and go out! Most people are already with someone! Still being hopeful 🤞🙏 I’m watching this sitting outside a coffee shop 😂 Time to put phone down !

[@kristalynncreates]

Even if people are in a couple, you can still talk to them. Not flirt with them, but you can still talk to people. They might know someone.

[@ryancelsley]

Love will find you 😊

[@bindicat9070]

@@kristalynncreates I am talkative and do talk to most people You never know they may know someone that’s also looking!

[@GuliranoGuli-pf4kk]

Yeeeaaa it was time😂

[@djann531]

Wonderful love story! I’ve ditched the dating apps in 2024. Focusing on projects instead of endless disappointments and distractions. I want to meet someone the old fashioned way like you and Audrey did. Thank you for sharing and I will use your advice. Be brave woman and don’t hold back on approaching someone we are interested in! If anything it will build confidence and flatter nice men.

[@4EverGr8ful1]

Absolutely 💯 percent! 😁👍

[@meetandinspire]

👏

[@tuffybuf]

I'm so happy for you, Matthew! You're like my brother that I've never met! Such a cool story. Many blessings.

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

awww 😍 i love hearing how people meet each other. it's like an episode of ted moseby talking about meeting the mother 😄 lol Matthew i just have to say... i have followed this channel on and off for YEEEARS. and i have always liked your stuff and your advice have been great and all.. but, since you've met Audrey, the change in you, and therefore also your advice and how you go about things, it is felt. you are calmer, answer differently, focus on other things, and it is just lovely to watch... and to grow with this channel. i found you when i was in my early twenties, and now i am 32. so to bear witness to how you have changed, is just awesome to see and i just wanted to tell you that. 🌺

[@jessicam3707]

Yes, I agree! I’m 34 and discovered him in 2016 I think. I also like that him ending up with Audrey validates so many things that he always said - that a woman showing up as authentic and kind is more important than so many other superficial things. I feel like I relate to Audrey somewhat. Matthew didn’t end up marrying some flashy celebrity like he dated for a while, he values true connection, and that’s what he preaches.

[@RatnaDewiWithin]

I agree with your observation how Matthew positively has changed ever since he met Audrey. So beautiful to witness.

[@CamilaRubioG]

Wait… she did everything!

[@4EverGr8ful1]

Looks like it paid off, eh?! 💍😍

[@alisons9740]

She chose him. Confident people finding magic. Classic!

[@user-vn9sh6hv8r]

Oh but he was *there* 😏😆 Seriously tho, that is half of the battle, just showing up. Also, i think these two were made for each other and would have met some where or some other time if it weren't for this one! I mean, they are in the same industry, probably have a number of friends in common and wide social networks, and are in the same town. It just happened to be that night, and that boxing match that brought them together...😜But it's still a good story 🥰

[@michaelaskarbova223]

Completely, she did everything!!! 😮

[@tundevirag755]

​@michaelaskarbova223 but then they talked for 8 hours! Not anyone can do that with anyone.

[@rthrizzle]

It’s so wild we have to be taught basic social skills again due to the phones and technology of the world, it’s like we forgot ! You have helped me so much throughout the years, Matt. Thank you ! I’m appreciative for the grounding simplicity you bring in your messages.

[@Dmo12618]

So happy for you and the missus! 🎉🎉🎉 I have to say my dating training wheels are still on but I missed an opportunity to say hi and I regret this so much. I was standing outside a hotel looking at the map on my phone. I had been sick for a couple of days and was still sniffy, not feeling too human. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed an attractive gentlemen locking up his bike. My glance gave me enough info that he was visually my type, and he was smiling at me. In my SHOCK, I gave him a wispy smile and went on my way. I still think about this missed moment. I could have been brave enough to say “hi”, “gorgeous morning”….not expecting much more, but at least to respond to his smile. He deserved that. Such a simple moment that remains with me. Could have, should have, didn’t. I sabotaged myself! learning, trying to be more open.

[@sharersale6480]

I have to say I have a number of these moments and I don't know what's wrong with me. It usually occurs to me later on that that person was interested in me.

[@jasminealexia]

Beloved, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could’ve very well waved or spoke to you as well and that is the frustrating reality is that the good guys are excessively shy 🙈 which I guess is a good thing. Just keep that moment in your back pocket and next time have a business card on hand to give to the next handsome Prince that comes around 😍

[@emyf9197]

aww... well the way to move on is to think that if it was meant to be then he would've walked up or fate would make it happen

[@anaissolotraveler]

Thank you to share your story with Audrey & you😇The animate scene is so cute🥰I never been a fan of dating app... I feel like 007 being on a mission to find Love 🤣 It's been 8 years I am single and I am 30 and I want to find love naturally in a very simple way 😇 And I can't be more excited when the day will come 😃 Take care and can't wait to read your book 😊

[@CJRelationshipConsulting]

Stop waiting!

[@meetandinspire]

🙂

[@Myglowtips]

I am smiling so much, picturing in my mind‘s eyes (yes, I have more than one eye in my mind. What ya going to do about it?😜), beautiful, feminine, gentle Audrey, approaching Mr Hussey. So much courage and confidence all in one.

[@empea3837]

I’m a fan of Audrey, too! Learning from her. She’s beautiful, feminine, gentle and strong! All in one 🙃

[@alchemyofcolorandstyle]

I wonder if she knew who he was! That would change the context😅

[@Voltechs]

Profoundly simple. Easy? Maybe not the easiest, but certainly achievable, realistic, and wholesome.

[@CJRelationshipConsulting]

Wholesome!

[@bumblebee_ms]

As a Gen X-er I refuse to go on any dating app, even though I have been single for many years. I'd rather be single than torture myself looking for someone digitally in desperation.

[@4EverGr8ful1]

Agree 💯 percent!! 👏👏

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@4EverGr8ful1Thanx!

[@user-vn9sh6hv8r]

Same. That comment about people looking at their phones really resonated. I see this everywhere - while i am *not* looking at my phone! It's so anti-social. I am so glad as a fellow GenXer that i grew up without this tech and learned to develop social skills, including the ability to talk to strangers, make eye contact, help people feel comfortable around me, and all these other things Matthew mentioned. I am "still" single, but it's by choice. I've never had a problem with meeting people, and i've never been on a dating app! Mostly i use these 'skills' (aka being human) in networking or work situations. It generally makes the world a better place when we are able to connect with each other - romantically or otherwise. There are a lot of lonely people out there and sometimes you can really be an asset in the world by just making a passing comment in the supermarket, or the bus stop, you know...

[@jlt001928]

I don’t think people on dating apps are desperate.

[@toyajohnson6290]

I met a guy two years ago on Hinge. My HR Director told me to ask him for coffee the first week we matched. He said yes. It didn't work out for romance, but he is one of my closest friends. We go out to eat. We go to the movies. We text almost every day. I went to Montréal & got him a gift. He gave me candles from a product shoot (he's a photographer). Be brave. Take a leap. It may or may not work out, but at least you tried

[@mamaknow8056]

Update us in 1 yr, bet you’re married…

[@toyajohnson6290]

@@mamaknow8056, I'll definitely come back here in a year with any update... relationship or not!

[@toyajohnson6290]

@@mamaknow8056, I'll definitely come back in a year and update... relationship or not!

[@truet1296]

Getting a friend out of it is pretty neat though! I don’t see that as a loss.

[@toyajohnson6290]

​, yup, it's not a loss at all. It's a great gain. Who can't use more friends!

[@maria.mobile017]

Audrey's got game 😂❤

[@MsGuitars666]

She’s such a queen

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

....and the ring!

[@ShellyBomb]

How do you meet someone in real life?!? Get OFF your computer & phone + leave your house 🏡 - smile & engage with others ... ❤

[@basshunter9018]

Yeah but you're famous matt!! - it's a whole lot easier for you - you have an array of opportunities to meet decent partners!!

[@4EverGr8ful1]

You create your own opportunities... 😊

[@prisca5]

What, if you never get an invitation to marriages or engagements, because everybody around you is already married?

[@penelopequinn1604]

Exactly. Try being an introverted 50yr old living in a place you didn't grow up in (so limited social circle)... hence dating apps for me 😔

[@FeminineLogos]

@@penelopequinn1604Try joining your local gym or similar ❤️

[@ayla8345]

Unfortunately, if that’s the case, you gotta do things alone. Which might not be a bad thing. I’ve heard a woman speak about how she never gets approached when she’s out with her friends, only when she’s alone. Which makes sense because it can be very intimidating to walk up to a group of people when there’s only one person you’re interested in. I’ve personally only ever gotten approached when I was alone. Ask yourself, if you had to approach someone, would you rather do it when they are by themselves or when they are surrounded by a group of people? (Maybe their friends or acquaintances).

[@mEE1434eva]

Support them in divorce court.

[@megankelly4342]

That’s awesome! That’s how I met my boyfriend! I put myself out there out of my comfort zone! It worked! Amen 🙏 ❤good luck 🍀 everyone

[@jasminealexia]

Where did you guys meet?

[@TerryGuzmanMartinez]

I've arrived at the conclusion that it's the momentum. A lot of times one of the partners is not in their "right" time and after that "failed" relationship he/her finds the "right" person and commites. THAT'S ALL.

[@empea3837]

I was wondering how you met, and thought I had missed the story! So glad you two met- it multiplies the quotient of wonderful people ❤

[@talesfromtheroad9530]

When you mentioned in your last livestream that Audrey opened the convo by asking about the boxing match. . . I totally thought you were at a live boxing match 😂

[@meghnalakshminarayanan578]

Very simple and very understandable. No games. But at the end, I feel that it happens when it has to. Like you were meant to meet your wife and she was meant to meet you that night, and that was why you said yes to go out and so did she. It all happens when the time is right and when the time is right, one also makes the steps right to meet their partner.

[@yuliyahrybachova6473]

💯 so true

[@jasminealexia]

Totally agree. Gods timing

[@chuckie826]

Well Audrey def knows who is he, and he got attracted by her beauty that's all.

[@kapsi]

The real tactics are: be beautiful and young, be rich. How anyone can take advice from this guy is a mystery to me.

[@chuckie826]

@@kapsi the fact is he chased & dated Camila who is 15+ years younger - we know the truth beyond all his advice. The bones of men don't change even women "learn" the tactics

[@flowersafeheart]

This is also great advice for forming more friendships and community too, not just dating.❤

[@victoriaf3569]

I think this video must be dedicated to boys. Great that it worked it out for you and your wife, BUT in a world where boys don't have the courage to approach a girl because they are afraid or because they are accustomed to getting girls easy on apps, we are growing a lot of infants instead of men. First rule "get out of house" is for both, and maybe eye contact is too, or more on the girl side as to show that she is open to communicate. (just to communicate, not other things). And "proximity" and "say something" must be on men. Don't put it all on women please. I was that girl that did eye contact and "proximity". The guy liked it, but he was afraid to approach and "say something". He waited for me to do all the work. When i saw that, i withdrew back because i noticed he felt entitled. When he sensed that, he got to courage to come to me and... trash me. Saying smth like "Hi, i don't remember you" with an evil look on his face. He also showed off with other girl in front of me. And you'll be surprised, but he thought that in this way i will find him wanted by girls, meaning attractive, meaning i will approach him. He was shoked i didn't do anything at all. So, he never got the courage to approach me to talk to me when everything was positive and i gave him "open" vibes, but he suddenly got the courage to come to me and trash me when he felt i didn't want to do all the work. Careful with such advice to girls to do all the work, the guys will get entitled, they will think they must deserve it even if they haven't put their part of the work. They will think they must be kings if you behave like this around them. And will think maybe you are not a queen if you are so desperate to approach and not self-sufficient to wait for the guy to earn his way to you. In conclusion, i shouldn't have done the "proximity" part, only eye contact. I would have felt more in my energy and let the man be the man and approach.

[@mimi7914]

Ok, I have to ask - Why were you watching boxing alone at a party....? Especially when beautiful Audrey was just across the room? Why didn't you approach her??

[@jiaheung4628]

British men…. Wait for women to hit on them.

[@meetandinspire]

Yes, meeting people the old-fashioned way is fun.

[@valerie4912]

Step 1: have friends Step 2: have friends that invite you out.

[@botaasqar5416]

Or you could just go out yourself

[@valerie4912]

@@botaasqar5416 I do. Allllll the time. Dinners, movies, shows etc.. etc…

[@arigato22]

Well no offense, you're no ugly duckling so I think your options are quite vast! To start of with, if you have looks in your favour, it's already an advantage. You have multiple options. Your looks bring you more confidence etc. Now if looks are not in your favour, you gotta work a lot harder. I don't collide any atoms or if I do, they're never interested in me because I'm older and I can't have kids. This limits my options as most men in my age group are married etc and the ones who aren't will look at women 10 years younger for fertility etc. Believe me, I go to numerous networking and social events and all the men I meet are never interested because I'm not young enough or hot enough. I'm definitely attractive as I've been given feedback that I'm a generally positive and friendly person but I'm just not dateable nor partner material due to being a lot older. I'm not saying it's impossible but it's just very slim as you age!

[@Charlotte-Willow]

If you keep believing this, it will always be true.

[@unmorcipan]

You speak of men as though we're given a menu to select from, "Waiter, 10 years younger please! And a dash of extra attractiveness" It's not as if we hold all the cards in the game; we face rejection just as much as women do. It seems to me that you may have the wrong mindset and are approaching the wrong individuals. There are plenty of men out there seeking a partner with whom they can truly connect, beyond superficial criteria.

[@charlottebruce979]

I met my lovely partner at 46, I'm fairly attractive and have four children. He's over a year younger and a widow. He's not conventionally handsome, but chemistry is way more important. As you get older relationships are better, you know what you want, you don't accept toxic people, you laugh more because you don't take anything seriously as life is short and you have more appreciation of each other. I'm a big advocate of later love it's better!! Don't be afraid of never meeting your person, tons of people of all shapes sizes and ages over 40+ meet the people of their dreams. Look at love over 60 in the guardian that will give you so much hope. Good luck!!

[@tehamill1]

Thanks Matthew, six months into a great relationship, I feel I learned a lot from you that helped me get here

[@Mollexi]

I became very reliant on dating apps. I met 2 of my ex’s on them. I felt comfortable on dating apps because I was able to find people who have things in common with me and I felt more confident. But now I want to try something different and meet someone in the real world. I have had opportunities where someone would make the contact with me but that’s as far as it would go 🤣 mainly because I’d feel too nervous to approach them.

[@sethbellinger]

Great video! Being near someone and even a simple “Hello” can lead to a great conversation with the right person.

[@deborahwalker1208]

Dating apps--I'd like my money back. Horrible. Will try what you recommend.

[@keyawnaparks5983]

man if I could meet someone like matthew id be the luckiest woman in the world!

[@gemmagrant6979]

“I say Yes to leaving the house” 😂😂😂 Dying!! Seriously though thank you Matthew for always posting lots of content consistently. You don’t stop trying to deliver us knowledge all the time 🙏

[@AngelissimaASMR]

I'm married but have been wanting to make more friends for years and I find that the main reason it's so hard is that everyone is looking down on their phones at any event or in any situation. I see the opportunities to strike up a conversation all the time via things in common, giving a compliment, etc but it's so much more difficult when no one will look up from their phones. I still think being on my phone in public is rude and never developed the habit but I also am low-tech in my personal life. I'll just have to keep looking, keep leaving the house and keep trying! 💛

[@geoffreytester3815]

Men don’t have the monopoly on staring its true - Though when a women gives poker question mark face devoid context it’s hard to calibrate - I’m not saying lick your lips and wink at a guy - but I quick smile is really helpful There is lots of focus on being “intesting and high value “ Saw a video saying NOT to make small talk asking what there job is - which I feel falls under the umbrella of “say anything “ then they wonder why you overthink it 🤦🤦

[@melissamilne230]

I am literally home and in my blankets now. But I've been thinking of a list of new activities and events I can start going to, for this exact reason

[@Mahaloshell]

Thanks for sharing, Matt. I'm interested in hearing more about how said before that you were broken when you met Audrey. I think it would help a lot of us who think that we have to be fully healed, full of joy and on a higher vibration in order to find love again.

[@MsGuitars666]

Matthew this is my favourite video of yours 💛 love this. Also just for meeting new friends and business partners, amazing

[@MsGaella]

How my wife and I met …not my wife and me..Thanks

[@timikoma]

I was thinking about the same when I saw the title 😉

[@graceclement5922]

You were always approachable in your podcasts. Compassionate and kind. Now, since getting married, you exude an expansiveness that invites us in even more and that is lovely! Thank you and thank you, Audrey!!

[@princess_maya_]

So in other words, she chased you even though you told us not to? How interesting lol

[@huangyanjean2570]

So true, I’m kinda of shy in the first place one eye contact then I’ll be shy to look back again, maybe I should be more brave 😅

[@CJRelationshipConsulting]

Yes you should!

[@GodHelpMe369]

to my dear former so-called best friend, I miss you. SO MUCH!! it's almost unbearable, to watch you, discreetly, from the sidelines, as you are ALWAYS with her * my replacement * out making all of your wildest dreams come true, together, and I've been left to suffer the loss of you, and the trauma of what you both did to me... *it is truly a most bizarre characteristic of humans, that we smile when we are in pain.*

[@EdelweisSusie]

This is all well and good, but: 1. Your 'success rate' is totally dependent on where you live. If you live in a concrete jungle like I do where there's no social scene whatsoever (and I'd never walk into a pub/music event solo) there's nowhere to even have eye contact, get close proximity etc etc 2. My problem with Matthew's advice (genuine though it is) is that he always speaks to the younger individual: trying doing all this when you're 55+ because (a) NO-ONE invites you to BBQ's, engagement parties, weddings etc where there's any chance of social interaction and (b) most of one's close friends are deceased! Hey ho........

[@zehnja7988]

Tbh it is not so much about fearing rejection it rather is about the fear what people closeby are thinking when you start talking to a person on the bus all of the sudden for instance

[@DaisyPeel]

This is great advice! But you miss the chance to point out that Audrey had the courage to talk to you, and encouraging women to crate and then take advantage of proximity to talk to guys. Your past videos talk about this. Ladies, don't be shy!

[@sarah2853]

The problem with my case is whenever i dont this, i find out theyre married 😅

[@hadiza1]

I think about it as atoms colliding too! 🥰♥️

[@melanalyvka6109]

Your wise wife! ❤ By the way, "hAllo" from Germany. Yes, "hallo" is the German for "hello", whereas "Guten Tag" rather stands for "Good day". I was happy to learn all those hello-s in different languages, esp. the Greek and Swedish ones were not yet so well known to me (thank you!). If you like to expand the line, you might ask your participants to write that in the languages they are native in 😊. The Ukrainian "hello" is "pryvit", the Russian "privet", the polish one "cesc". Let me say, now I am "armoured" to go to the local karaoke bar. Sorry for my "two cents", it seems like I am learning economy hard way. Sometimes other people's thoughts inspire to find our own perspectives - consciously or not...Ciao.

[@meesh1002]

I gotta work on this. I’ve always got the “you’re not approachable and intimidating” lolol

[@SDsc0rch]

women... this man gets it!

[@happygolucky9004]

I naturally have RBF and look like a vampire. No matter how nice or friendly I am my presence makes people unlikely to talk to me. The ones who bother getting to know me say I'm one of the nicest people they've met. When I ask for feedback most of them can't pinpoint why they can't that way. Some of them say it was an insecurity they have. Not everyone can look approachable but ooh well at least I have good friends 😂

[@dmrd222]

When you get to be my age, you realize you have nothing to lose by going after what you want... which I would gladly do, except I haven't been able to find anyone I'm remotely attracted to. :(

[@ECMKAD]

Great advice. I, too, met my husband at a party I was thiiiiiiis close to declining the invitation for. And I was 16 so thank goodness my parents were also out of town because they wouldn't have let me go. 😂

[@frangipani.19]

Do men really (truly) want love? Or just want to play women and settle down later so that they have someone to take care of them? Do men really have the ability to not be selfish? Not sarcasm not making fun just genuine honest questions

[@victorremdt8520]

The problem with me is I do go out frequently but there are never any ladies that are free where and when I go out.

[@tanziha]

Aaahh I can't belive he's married now!! I haven't been following him for the last 4 years, but before that I was so hooked on MH videos ahahha. 😅

[@danielamondschein]

I don't want to be approached, I want to pick someone and have them be compatible and mutually interested.

[@user-vn9sh6hv8r]

Yep. Olives, no anchovies. Ready in 15mins? Great! ✅

[@mamaknow8056]

N here I thought you were gay 😂 she never heard of you?? ..that’s gotta be impossible

[@acoolpianist]

Aww! Thank you for sharing. I hope to find someone like that myself someday. ❤

[@brightpage1020]

You're married!?!?! 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉 ✨ 👍 🌟 awesome! Since when? Amazing! What a refreshing change of pace. Congratulations!!!! 🎉 Welcome in to a whole new level of life's challenges, priviledges, and rewards! Cheers 🍾 🥂 🎉 to celebrating the love 💕 May it sustain 🔋 you both for decades if not generations of greatness to come!!

[@gabrielaibarra6938]

When you look beautiful like Audrey it is easier to confidently approach to someone you like because the probabilitues to ve rejected are low but I've been rejected many times I don't want to feel that again it feels ashamed of myself

[@yuliyahrybachova6473]

I was thinking the same thing

[@kcd7836]

Audrey is very attractive, grounded...would be hard not to be attracted!! All the best to both of you❤

[@cherie9898]

Problem I have is I lack confidence in myself. If I make eye-contact with a guy, and he does as well, I don’t look again because i doubt an attractive man would be interested in me. Hence I’ve been single for several years. I wish I were as confident as Audrey was that night 😉

[@denisesmith8657]

And it’s hard to make eye contact with anyone when everyone has their faces in their phones!!!! No one’s looking up long enough to make eye contact.

[@4EverGr8ful1]

​@@denisesmith8657 I agree! I've noticed that A LOT of men appear have poor social skills and use staring at their phone an excuse to not engage, or even make eye contact... with anyone out in public! 😬

[@Pentoute45]

You always do 80% of the work just by showing up...

[@BecomingaQueen]

I always believed in love and I know love will find me 🌺💐🌸

[@somayehkhatibi2060]

Great points. But it would be really hard to keep being brave when you keep being rejected unfortunately.

[@elainegeber4604]

It is so inspiring to listen to the excitement in your voice. ☺️🇨🇦

[@CJRelationshipConsulting]

👍

[@roxanabusuioc5957]

Watching this as a physicist... Interesting comparison with atoms hahaha

[@ISing4Jesus6353]

But I feel like this is so much easier for younger people. I’m 61,a widow and I don’t get invited to parties or celebrations that include people I don’t know. And if there is someone there I don’t know and I find them attractive, they’re most likely married. How do I meet people my age who are available without going on a dating app?

[@yuliyahrybachova6473]

61?? You’re stunning! I’m sure you’ll have lots of success on the dating apps. People are finding love there all the time still 😌

[@ElleDaily]

Aww, I love this! Great story and good job Audrey giving the green light! You both have some bravery in you🚦❤💍

[@mochahoney7377]

So Audrey did everything? 😅

[@brendarudman8806]

"I have burnout from being on the apps" 😂 Matthew always throws humour in there

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Great advice! Wish I’d seen this many years ago! Enjoyed hearing about how you and your wife met.💐

[@JourneyByChris]

One other thing I think is tremendously important: working on yourself and becoming the person you want to attract. Just showing up and following these steps won't produce the results you want unless you have a pretty clear idea of who you are and who you are trying to become - living by that, and only then will the chemistry be there when following these steps. Otherwise, you may find yourself having lots of conversations, but not a lot of chemistry. It's something I've been working on lately - being clear on my values and what I want to be doing with my life, and then knowing it'll inevitably lead me to collide with another person who is holding the other half of my brain.

[@melanalyvka6109]

P.S.: I have a question for Mathew. In creative thinking+writing there is such a wonderful approach (kids love it, because they are totally open for imagination): "create alternative outcome for this story" (anticipate, phantasize, develop etc.) Have you ever thought, if your wife would not have done this with proximity approach and first step/hint/braveness-moment, how would your hero-story have developed? Just imagine: she throws that meaningful mysterious glance at you and is in a certain moment out the door. And then you have to go through tests of life and grow to be able to meet her again later on (if/ or...). Or is it not possible with atoms, molecules etc.? Or is it not possible, if those atoms are very much advanced, grown etc.? I would be very much grateful for your opinion in any shape or form. Thank you very much, I appreciate.

[@amyli092]

I feel like this kind of advice really just targets anyone who's not a naturally sociable person... plenty of people, including myself to an extent, could easily find someone to strike up a conversation with. Getting to know someone and having an interest in ther life is another... some people will just make it known based on body language or facial features that they have no interest in you. I feel like it's more important to gauge a person's interest and just ask questions in a way that doesn't overwhelm the person. Most people just like to talk about themselves.

[@sumbodyzwatchin1]

I doubt you’ll see this. But I found this video so valuable. I’m halfway through watching your suggested video and I want to thank you for your empathy and kindness in the way you talk. Honestly. You’ve quelled so much fear in me just by what you’ve said that I feel calm for the first time in years. Thank you Matthew. You are a gem. Thank you.

[@kristalynncreates]

Without fear, there can be no courage.

[@00calimon]

He has made this grammatical error in his speech on more than one occasion.

[@jiaheung4628]

Lives in america where grammar doesn’t matter

[@airida.bekeryte]

Seems so simple, but yet we forget these things or just don't do them and hope for the best, hehe. There is one thing though, that i am thinking about. You have said in some conversation, that Audrey was the girl who all the guys were in love with. So I am thinking two things. First, she probably has more self confidence, since all the guys like her. And of course, she is just really naturally beautiful, which makes it easier for her to approach guys, because the chance of rejection is low. But what to do for we, the other girls, who are just normal looking, if all the guys are attracted to one girl in the room? And second, I assume, that it's not only the looks, that the guys are attracted to? What is it about Audrey that guys like so much?

[@mEE1434eva]

I can feel the insecurity through this comment. Stop comparing yourself. You probably are gorgeous. Own it and be humble and be positive. Nobody likes a sad sap.

[@888hereandnow]

Atom & Eve 🥰