Getting Real About Asexuality | Get Real | Refinery29

[@WidthTomJones]

To all asexuals: 1. You are not alone. We are here. 2. It's okay to have a romantic attraction. You aren't a 'fake asexual' 3. Sex isn't as important as the media, other people or your own body tells you it is. It's okay if you don't want that.

[@tumado7304]

do you think i care? dude i don't care about sex neither i feel any kind of attraction, i spend my time mostly alone i feel no need for other people around , i loose interest in relationships to fast, all said in that video isn't what describes a asexual.

[@venusvox]

That’s great but asexuals have a lack of SEXUAL ATTRACTION, not romantic attraction. Asexual and Aromantic are different things

[@tumado7304]

@@venusvox true

[@sincerelysomehumaniguess7610]

@@tumado7304 why the sass tho

[@craftyalligator1969]

Will I still be able to have a relationship with someone even if I don't want to have sex? :(

[@bluBlaq33]

I'm a gay man that wants to support and learn more about this community so I can be more informed.

[@mhaiderbinamir6777]

+sush2142 lol

[@bluBlaq33]

+sush2142 I like to know about as many marginalized or unrecognized communities as possible. Understand as many forms of the human condition is key to progression. It's the refusal to understands that makes humanity shrink back instead of acquire growth. But that's just me I'm sure you have another smart ass reply to make

[@bluBlaq33]

+sush2142 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm done

[@ArielLVT]

Thank you so much, David :) I really appreciate it! I try to do the same with other queer identities!

[@Mathkinz]

That's awesome! I would suggest checking out the AVEN website if you have any questions.

[@TheMissSve]

The moment I start contemplating that I might actually be on the ace spectrum, this video pops up. Thank you universe, I get it. It is okay, I am not alone.

[@TheMissSve]

HooverBeast Wow, I hope natural selection works on you if you have the need to be nasty to random people on the internet. Asexuality was always there, people just didn't noticw it because of arranged marriages etc. What exactly makes me being a loser?

[@SrirachaPichacha]

ACES ASSEMBLE

[@kidsofyesterday17]

there's 7.4 billion people on the planet. why do you care enough to write a cruel comment that there are people not interested in intercourse? there's enough people reproducing already. calm down and enjoy what you do with your life rather than being an asshole about something that has nothing to do with you and has no impact on your life whatsoever

[@LaughOutRandom]

@@HooverBeast why is it sad?

[@onyxhuddy2373]

You are not alone and you are valid. I hope you are able to find happiness in the sexual orientation that you identify as. Don't rush yourself to labelling if you don't want to

[@mooncalfe7159]

The funniest part of being asexual was my dads reaction. Before I came out he constantly was telling me that sex is bad. I told him I was ace and repulsed by sex and he was horrified. He said, and I quote, "you have to have sex though." I replied, "I don't have to do anything, or anyone. Not five minutes ago you were telling me how bad sex is and now I'm have to have it. Grow up."

[@dukememphis2045]

@@starplatinumoraoraora Was that pun intended?

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

@@dukememphis2045 no

[@dukememphis2045]

@@starplatinumoraoraora It was a pretty hypocritical thing of him to say, but not all of them are like that. There are people who are like us, people who are against us, people who are simply confused by us, people who are indifferent to us, people who don't know about us, and people who like us. Other people could make your statement about us, and many have. We don't quite understand those other people, and they don't quite understand us. That's all there is to it. Two different types of people that don't understand each other.

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

@@dukememphis2045 the famous and so-called "not all of them are like that"

[@Federico84]

Star Platinum insulting people different from you oh yes you people are really open minded. Aren’t you?

[@lynnanne3660]

ASEXUALS ASSEMBLE

[@johnmcguirk2947]

FUCK YEA

[@WidthTomJones]

Dear Joss Wheadon, Please make that a film. Please let me have the lead.

[@teatea2113]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@wormworm580]

This is late but ACEVENGERS ASSEMBLE!

[@bknighttheemo8756]

🖤😸🖤 yes!!!

[@twilight751]

Today I am no longer questioning my sexuality because today I found out that I am asexual and I'm happy that I now know

[@WidthTomJones]

Welcome to the community! We may not have sex but we have food.

[@gidco6044]

Same

[@Braidedheart]

Slytherin to the TARDIS I ❤️this comment!!

[@katedawnclark125]

Venecia G Today I actually found out I am also asexual. I never felt like I fit in but now I feel really happy, I’m really glad people feel the same way.

[@tybooskie]

The most difficult part of being asexual is people constantly telling you that you have no reason to live. It's hard enough to build a life outside of traditional family values. Even LGBT+ people have said that there is something wrong with me and that my life is not worth living without sex and/or romance. Even though we know we can find happiness in other things and in other types of relationships, we are not made of titanium. Those words and attitudes sink in and can be so overwhelming and hurtful. It's down right devastating sometimes and those negative thoughts tend to creep in when you are constantly reminded through real life interactions and the media that others don't think you are valuable to society.

[@anaysayersyes]

I totally understand you. But that's also the beauty of it all. We are at the grassroots of what could be a widely-recognized sexuality in the future. Isn't it amazing, you, me, all of us--we are contributing something albeit minimal simply by existing and being a part of the community. :) C'mon cheer up, before he made history Elvis Presley's music was branded as animalism, you may find my optimism annoying, but with the dawning of ace awareness what could be worse than what our closeted predecessors had been through? :)

[@sugarcane1234]

I do not understand why people can be so cruel. People can be cruel over things that do not make any sense. People have been cruel to me too, but over different things. All I can say that is just ignore those kinds of people. You are human & you have a soul & being kind to others is more important than what you do or don’t or what you desire or don’t desire to do in the bedroom.

[@tumado7304]

i live my life in my own way

[@radiationshepherd]

I relate intensely

[@Jadieeeee]

Yes, asexual exposure!! We exist and we are normal.

[@chess4727]

Jadé Elizabeth yes we are...

[@ryanhall7033]

You are delusional I give you that

[@LaughOutRandom]

@@ryanhall7033 why?

[@smokeystudios1694]

@@ryanhall7033 you are delusional

[@Mia-yx5gf]

Ryan Hall Can you not?

[@hallowedcat9107]

Finally put all the pieces together that I’m ace. The first sign was that my mental projections for my future didn’t contain the hopes of marriage or having a partner but just myself and a kid. The next was having crushes but then once I considered the idea of having sex with them, all attraction I had to them vanished. Finally someone on a dating app wanted to hook up with me and the sheer idea of it was so uncomfortable and aversive to me that I stopped talking to them. Kinda figured it out after that.

[@ruth540]

It took me till I was 17 to realise I was asexual. People who dismiss us hurts, erasure hurts so much but we're stronger because of it

[@hi24626]

Same. I'm turning 17 soon and I only found out last month that I'm an asexual. It's okay, we're here. We exist. We matter. *You matter so much.*

[@tumado7304]

some people though that i was gay, but i always feel repulsed by homosexuality, i just don't want to be in any relationship neither i care about sex

[@b.o4788]

I'm 18 and just figuring it all out. It's okay!

[@alegria1813]

@@b.o4788 I'm 18 and just found out! It explains soooo much things it's crazy

[@vailess_2]

I’m almost 20 I just figured it out I’m so happy :D #ACEANDPROUD

[@kingpotato5473]

I hate not being able to find anyone attractive I hate not falling in love I hate not having a crush I hate i cant relate to most songs and people I only love u as a freind i only love u as a family i only love u as a pet I dont have that whant or need everyone alse has of intercourse so i dont relate to ppl

[@lylako126]

king potato hey you Sounds of both asexual and a romantic I might just be guessing but I’m asexual myself and my best friend is a romantic and kind of sound like her

[@joebaumgart1146]

There's nothing to hate! As Fred Rogers used you say "You're one in a million! And I like you just the way you are! You're special because there's no one else quite like you!"

[@oinkersboinkers7188]

Something I know is that while we don’t experience sexual or romantic(you might be aromantic as well) attraction, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have deep relationships. I always feel comforted by the fact I have such close friends. You might be interested in QPRs (Queer Platonic Relationship), I’d recommend looking them up. But yeah, it still sucks to miss out on those types of experiences

[@annaray5932]

#ACEANDPROUD

[@lollypop4766]

HooverBeast Wtf? Fk off hahaha spouting abuse on an ace video. #ACEANDPROUD

[@aquamentus8951]

#ACEANDPROUD #ACEARO #NOROMO

[@Mia-yx5gf]

#ACEANDPROUD

[@snakesis]

You go girl! It feels so good to see someone live their life to the fullest with freedom! I'm glad you are happy and exploring whatever you feel like.

[@abigaylemcrx6551]

Thank you! I see so little rep for asexuality (although I've been seeing more lately which is amazing) and it's so nice to see other aces! #aceandproud

[@laurenm8024]

Yeah it's so great to see more aces now c:

[@PhuongDo12]

This video is so helpful, it allows me to understand so much more about asexuality!

[@brendalee2383]

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[@giovizaff]

R29 has been steadily turning into one of my favorite youtube channels.

[@alisonlaett9625]

I love how positive this video is! a lot of other videos I've seen on asexuality tend to frame it as something depressing.

[@adp7612]

Asexuality is more about the attraction & less about the action of sex itself. Some ace are sex repulsed, some neutral about & some are actually into it. The common thing about all ace is that they don't feel the attraction that is so commonly accompanied with it. Just some information for you guys 😊

[@talya1877]

This is so amazing. I literally felt a lightbulb go off over my head when she mentioned that asexuality is a spectrum.

[@sleepybatteriezzz]

I think I'm a bi-romantic asexual. Or maybe a bi-romantic graysexual? I don't know, I'm still figuring it out. 😊

[@tumado7304]

wtf??? asexuals don't think romantic by the way ...ew

[@sincerelysomehumaniguess7610]

@@tumado7304 No, aces can be romantic with people, *aros* are the ones who don't feel romantic attraction. Don't spread falsehoods please.

[@tumado7304]

@@sincerelysomehumaniguess7610 wtf every day people make up more words?? What a confusion, I just know I'm asexual, triggered by trauma resulting in a health issue, aros aces wtf ..

[@sincerelysomehumaniguess7610]

@@tumado7304 Aro (or aromantic) is just a term used for people who aren't romantic. Aces aren't sexual. (oversimplification, but still) They make different terms so they don't lump people who are vastly different together just because the vague ideas of their identities are similar.Being ace and being aro are *not the same thing at all.* So it makes sense to create different terms for it. I'm sorry if i ever came off as rude or something, just trying to educate. If you want to understand it more, i'd suggest doing some research!🖤💜

[@tumado7304]

@@sincerelysomehumaniguess7610 then am I are ace?

[@spiderliliez]

I love how sexuality can be so fluid. Although we sway more on different sides more than the others. I'd like to say, I sway on this and bisexuality. It's great to watch sex, but I'm not that interested in real life.

[@smokeystudios1694]

Thats ok. Thats all valid. UwU

[@littlegrayfishes]

thank you so much for this video! ive been struggling a lot recently with my asexuality because at times I feel like I won't be able to have a lasting relationship ever. but this gave a some hope

[@Erudessa22]

THANK YOU! I feel like we never get represented! *internet hug*

[@LJ_adventure]

I am contemplating that I may be in the asexual spectrum, this video was very inspiring in comparison to other videos I have watched, thank you :D

[@monocamay8067]

puppypaws2012 There is no asexual spectrum, you either want sex or not, simple as that.

[@LJ_adventure]

Monoca may it's been a month since I've written this comment and I have done much research, yes there is a spectrum, it goes from asexual to demisexual, look it up. The spectrum is small but yes indeed it is a spectrum.

[@monocamay8067]

puppypaws2012 did you delete my comment? Or is KZbin messing with me?

[@lucifer_333_bones7]

@@monocamay8067 there is an asexual spectrum. Look it up

[@rachelebono2683]

I'm so jealous of their relationship... idk if I'm Ace/aro or grey but I really really want a relationship just like that with one or two other people. I hope there are others out there who want that too...

[@linkcell]

touché! this lady appears on another incredible video explaining the 4 dimensions of sexual attraction. a must see for anyone interested. I'm a fan of her work.

[@DavyDave]

#AceandProud It's so cool for us to share our stories. So that everybody that's confused and wants to know, "What's up with me?", can learn and know they aren't alone. Thank you. You get all the cake :D

[@cryptoboy2]

Davy Dave damn you got a sick ass beard dude!

[@mberg8119]

IS THAT THE ACE RING I SEE

[@toaster400_]

wow her hair is fucking amazing

[@Adelynoir]

I remember the exact moment I realized I was different than other kids my age all the way back in middle school. It took me until college, however, to meet people similar to me who also understood how I felt and showed me what asexuality was. It took me two years even after that time to identify because I just kept on believing ' well, I've never met the right person.' Ace and proud!

[@dancegreen333]

Her story about her realization that she was asexual is hauntingly similar to mine... literally down to the year in high school that she started questioning her sexuality. O.o

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

My friend freshman year of high school joked that I reproduced through mitosis, I don't even remember exactly why, I think because I didn't have sex fantasies about people. I figured I was just very conservative from growing up in purity culture. That was partly true then, but now since exploring my sexuality more I discovered I'm a-spec. It just clears things up a lot for me and comforts me that I'm not repressed to the point I can't even see it.

[@remington8617]

What is it with asexuals and dyed hair? I've been wanting purple hair way before I realised I realised I was asexual

[@Canemikat]

I knew about asexuality for two years before I started identifying as ace and man is it ever so helpful! I've always imagined my life a certain way but I was terrified that if it didn't include sex that that meant I was unhealthy mentally. But now I know its not a requirement and I can have a fulfilling life without sex!

[@he.quetzal4]

Omg I just watch one of your videos 😄😄

[@Obsessedandstuff]

this is such a great video ! i personally think im aromantic which is quiet close to asexual :)

[@Coco-pr3rz]

can you explain that more? ^^

[@Obsessedandstuff]

Aromantic means that i don't feel a romantic attraction but i can feel a sexual attraction towards someone. just like you can feel a romantic attraction only towards men but feel a sexual attraction towards man and woman... i hope that makes sense... :D

[@iMandyHere]

Same here! I used to feel so bad about not wanting to date people that I "liked", i just don't like romantic relationships at all!

[@Coco-pr3rz]

obsessedandstuff oh ok, but don't you think it's possible one day you'll feel romantic attraction to someone but for the moment you never did just because you never found "the good"person?

[@Obsessedandstuff]

weird of course there is still that chance ! i kinda hope for it to happen but right now i think this is the best label for me.. :)

[@aclem8246]

I felt largely unloved as a child and different, less than, and rejected from everyone around me because of my same sex attraction. When I came out I found that the gay community was all about sex and I was still trying to deal with the need to be loved. I felt less than and sex to me was traumatic because what was really on my mind was being loved and accepted for who I am. Today I am a loner who does not trust others. I feel that the majority of people are just deluded and selfish.

[@manderson4817]

This video made this channel officially my favorite!

[@veskathe3710]

Thank you, R29, for all your videos!♥

[@marshdrinker]

Really informative video! I'm pan and had a hard time understanding the ace spectrum.

[@monocamay8067]

kick sy there is none, you don't want to have sex with anyone or you do.

[@j.schuette2575]

kick sy Great you are still here (well were here three years ago) and trying to learn!

[@thecattoldmetodoit4329]

I wish I could find my people. I’m 30 and just realising this is why I am always alone...

[@siennap7854]

I'm so glad that I came across with this video and learnt about this concept. It took some time to register what it means in my brain but it totally makes sense! I'd like to learn more about this

[@athenadarwin3761]

We need more stuff like this

[@ashkay2512]

i remember years ago you were the first video i saw about asexuality. What started a spark in my mind that i might be... I'm glad i found this video again

[@justmelthewriter8107]

#AceAndProud

[@alexandrakemp-weeber40]

She's wearing the black ace band ring toooooooo!

[@nalanan]

Thanks for this informative video! It was really good!

[@zoeeallyyson]

Thank god this video exists

[@prageruwu69]

hell yeah, asexuals UNITE!

[@caribaez5711]

Makes sense why I enjoy being alone.. :v But I also wish I could have a best friend someday who is patient and has a sense of humor.

[@clairebattersby6340]

This is inspiring and well done! Thank you Refinery29

[@Mikapikapies]

I'm asexual/biromantic! Definitely don't want sex, but all the romantic shit I'm all about!

[@crochetwithmat2610]

Ton vidéo me parle beaucoup! Il est très inspirant. Moi je veux percé dans le domaine des arts dans ma province, (Québec) and truly believe I could change people's perspectives on asexuality. thanks a lot! I will probably create a asexual community in my part of the world too! (if they aren't any of course!)

[@crispsaturday]

what a nice video, thanks

[@brendalee2383]

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[@Mistyrious]

Nice video! I totally relate as an ace as well

[@kylehill9981]

this is a great video and the content about asexuality is great but im swooning over how cute they are w their partners look at em!!!! cute as hell

[@dianemariemichelle3141]

Career: Jackson, Mississippi, in early 1985, he performs in night club as Live in Japan in Tokyo.

[@holypicklesmofo]

I fit really well into the "asexual" criteria, but I was wondering if there's a way you can change it? I really don't like being this way and wish I had a normal sex drive. If anyone has any info on this I would love to talk to you!

[@polkuio]

holypicklesmofo I mean there's not really, but there's not a problem with having a lack of sexual attraction. It does in fact help more than hurt

[@SweetasSugar42]

I know this isn't the best platform for questions, but can you be ace and still harbour extreme crushes? I develop deep crushes for people, not often but when I do its extreme. They're completely emotional rather than physical but can I be asexual and still be like this? I think I'm ace but I can't figure it out.

[@kikyo4815]

Yes you can. Crushes do not have to be sexual in nature. You can desire a romantic relationship with someone and still be asexual.

[@HooverBeast]

no you fucking morons. that crushing is raw animal desire that made your grandpa over 100,000 generations ago. asexuality is not fucking real, its a fucking excuse to cope with never getting laid.

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

HooverBeast more like you are personally frustrated because you can't get any

[@polkuio]

SweetasSugar42 that's either a friendship crush or a romantic crush!!! Many ace people develop romantic attraction but not sexual attraction

[@blueblaze9862]

She looks like a young Madonna in the eyes..quite pretty

[@caribaez5711]

I google asexuality and now I am getting a lot of videos about asexuality.

[@tafadzwagandidzanwa3763]

I take the piss out of my asexuality😂😂 ace and proud

[@voronz4161]

I love her hair though

[@sierrafoster6700]

I think I'm aromantic but not asexual. Anyone else?

[@dionengome9002]

Boi I need asexual best friends, I believe it's great to find people like me! By the way, we aces have great hair!

[@fatimxh]

IDK if I'm on the asexual spectrum...I just know I don't want or need anyone to make me happy right now and for a looooong time, if he comes- cool💖 if not, cool👌🏽🤗🌟 xoxoxo❄️🐋 (sorry if u don't care 😅 just wanted to let my feelings out somewhere safe xoxo)

[@monocamay8067]

Little Earthling There is no asexual spectrum, you either want sex or not.

[@fatimxh]

Monoca may i see i see, but the thing is, right now in this present moment I don't think I'll ever want sex but that doesn't mean in the future I won't change my mind u know? Which will mean I was never asexual. Sending hugs xoxoxo

[@spicybiscuit88]

loco wanderer Its ok to label yourself asexual if you want to, you can always change it if you decide youre not! Also Monoca May is very wrong, there IS an asexual spectrum. You might be interested in looking up the terms 'demi-sexual' and especially 'grey ace'. hugs xx

[@mooncalfe7159]

Do you identify as asexual?

[@BCSchmerker]

*Fascinating.* I've always wanted a stable romantic relationship but am clueless in terms of making such a relationship happen. Asexual? I think quasisexual a more accurate term for myself - sexually attracted to females to a degree, but unable to establish intimate relations with 'em....

[@emma-kc2ik]

Hii, what is asexual?

[@steenaoommen8398]

someone who is cannot have sexual attraction..

[@AllAboutNaija]

+Steena Oommen If she can not have sexual attraction she wouldn't have a partner who she kisses and snuggles with. Then she would be alone without a partner.

[@mmaaiirrii]

+Eunice Apia kissing and snuggling is not sex.

[@AllAboutNaija]

+Mairi Mc I said sexual attraction. Where did I say having sex. You can have sexual attraction without acting on it.

[@AllAboutNaija]

+Vanessa Kilpatrick Asexual people have sex but might have a lower sex drive then other people. They can go years without sexual encounters. She's Asexual and you probably are too. Asexual does not mean you don't have sex or you don't get aroused. You're just not driven by sex and couldn't care less either way. It's probably a mental and emotional thing oppose to physical.

[@frambuesachantilly2844]

What is sexual attraction?

[@LauraMakajelaan]

It's different for everyone. here's a forum specifically on that topic www.asexuality.org/en/topic/69810-what-is-sexual-attraction/ I hope you find what you are looking for :)

[@polkuio]

Frambuesa Chantilly me tho lol

[@charleshills1408]

i'm Asexual

[@brunodrivel2487]

Whats it called when your attracted to femeninaty and conversation and itelect but hate sex and avoid it?

[@greatestaxolotl4933]

A woman who is attracted to only women romantically and not sexually is an Asexual Lesbian. :D A man who is attracted to only woman romantically and not sexually is a heteroromantic asexual :D

[@kittengrey7303]

Beautiful video!

[@christinenoel3576]

OH MY GOD THIS MIGHT BE ME

[@CloroxBleach-nu8vo]

Came out to someone they though asexuals sleep with animals...I am ashamed of who I am

[@7211_]

Clorox Bleach there’s nothing wrong with you! just because some people don’t do their research doesn’t mean that’s what you are. there’s better people out there, I promise!

[@khiahahaha]

Yup i saw this 3 years ago and what weren't through my minds was: i want that relationship she has with her partner 🙃 little did i know i was actually ace. It just hurts that people are dismissive and told me i haven't found the right person. There's no right person. Try telling that to gays. Can they be straights with the right female? Of course not. 😭

[@earthlingthings8549]

thank you for this video

[@PfEMP]

Are we just gonna ignore the fact that they're polyamorous as well?!

[@user-gw5uz4ed4s]

"It's just a phase" 😑

[@believe29ox]

I loved this

[@johnc9483]

2:06 Sweet!

[@facellina]

I think it’s very sexual, by the way!

[@xBloodXGusherx]

I'm not a plant, leave me alone..Loool!

[@BreezyLavender]

So basically you make really close relationships with your friends and can be romantic/intimate with them but not in a sexual way? How is this different from just being really close with friends and not looking for a sexual relationship/romantic one? Do asexual people ever get married so said friends?

[@Jadieeeee]

I think romantic relationships vary person to person but my BF and myself have a totally "normal" relationship. We just don't have sex. We kiss and cuddle and do normal relationshippy things just without sex.

[@BreezyLavender]

Jadé Elizabeth Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

[@SassyAsi]

+Jadé Elizabeth thank you for this! I've been fighting this for a long time and have never met someone like me. I feel attracted to people but never sexual and it's nice to hear that there are people out there like me who have been able to find relationships. This gives me hope.

[@johnmcguirk2947]

the difference is that you probably don't make out with friends

[@BreezyLavender]

.Cellabration. 击 Okay, that's a good point. I didn't think of that. But what makes this different from a "standard" straight/gay/etc. Relationship just - sex?

[@mychairmadeafartnois]

I

[@0000014687]

Goals

[@destinycat6227]

ACE ACE ACE WHOS HER ALSO ACE PROUD BUT I WON'T TELL ANYONE

[@imdead000]

I told my parents I was asexual My mom said "don't tell kids at school they are all Christians" My dad said "stfu no ur not" XD

[@TheZoeBig]

Wouldn’t asexuality be a lack of sexual orientation?

[@greatestaxolotl4933]

asexuality is a sexual orientation! :D

[@snapbacktothepast]

I support the concept, but why can't people just be as they want to be without needing to label themselves?

[@86thislove]

The same reason Homosexuals label themselves, to know who they are.

[@polkuio]

Angelica-Rose because labels help people understand more about themselves and allow others to understand more about themselves as well. It's just like being homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual or etc.

[@friedazlife9074]

Thank you God, I am not Asexual. Mind blown learning about this

[@MegzLife]

ace

[@yaegerboom]

#LeviAckerman XD

[@harambethegorilla75]

I'm asexual myself, but I bet this is staged, because she has the haircut and the hair color that every drawn asexual character on Tumblr has 😐

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

Yeah, always a person with blue or purple hair

[@FriendsTilZeEnd]

I'm kind of confused. She has a partner so how does that make her asexual?

[@aroace7913]

Having sex with your partner doesn´t mean you are not asexual.

[@niennav.7741]

FriendsTilZeEnd romantic attraction and sexual attraction are two different things

[@ericthepiglet6119]

perhaps checking hormone balances would yield answers to why people have no interest in sex

[@niennav.7741]

Luke Allen that has being done, nothing wrong with hormonal levels

[@polkuio]

Luke Allen nope, my horomones are already fine. I already checked with my doctor. Yet I'm still ace! Funny :))

[@Olivetree80]

I wouldn't really consider it a sexual orientation, it is simply a lack of sexual attraction. For me, it's not difficult, because I don't label myself "asexual." Labels do more harm than good, especially these days. Tumblr is the root cause of that.

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

The whole sexual orientation terminology is ridiculous anyway, people just split hair to fit themselves in a box. And the way they define orientation makes no sense. I mean yes, it's more a matter of "attraction" but behavior counts too. But no, they have decided they were completely separated.

[@spicybiscuit88]

Olivia Maloney Labels can help us feel validated and provide belonging and comfort, and help us feel that we are not alone. But I agree they should probably be taken fairly lightly and we should be able to change them whenever we want. And i think its better to label asexuality as a sexual orientation as it more validating and positive than just 'a lack' of something. ☺

[@aquamentus8951]

As someone who identifies as an asexual I agree with you.

[@polkuio]

Olivia Maloney sexual attraction is literally what an orientation is, therefore a lack of sexual attraction is an orientation, just like atheism is a religion

[@elsaluvsnutella]

....but she has a partner????

[@inkedfeathers7834]

It's most likely a romantic relationship, not a sexual one

[@elliot_rat]

Colorful hair? Oh boy. I can smell the cancer.

[@shelby2901]

"I know everything about you simply by looking at the colour of your hair because that makes sense"

[@shelby2901]

the meme lady I can't tell if this is a really unfunny joke or if you're actually that stupid

[@elliot_rat]

my name is [shelby] >that stupid well you think asexuality is real soooo...

[@shelby2901]

the meme lady sooooo I'm not ignorant? cool

[@elliot_rat]

my name is [shelby] ye m8 i mean u cant really be ignorant if u jump into a fight on the internet from a comment that i posted... 5 months ago?

[@napoleonmeowparte3874]

This is not REAL

[@greatestaxolotl4933]

how so? plz elaborate

[@lays9402]

you're arrogant

[@baddidea4820]

I am asexual my brain is wired that way . I don’t have sex don’t think about it I don’t masturbate it’s never a thought or concern. Sexuality is a spectrum Asexuality is not. It is the opposite of sex. It’s comfortably stands alone it has other things on its mind. It doesn’t care about sex gender or identity because all of that is irrelevant