GETTING "UN-STUCK" AS AN INFJ - 5 STEPS

[@Wenzes]

Do you feel as an INFJ once you are stuck it's super hard to get out of it?

[@HaritheRenaissanceMan]

YEEEEEESSSS!!! I’m 40 now and just barely figuring out after a lifetime of “stuckness” to finally live in and claim my inner INFJ strength. It’s so damn hard but worth the challenge.

[@kymelatejasi]

Yes. I have been stuck for a very long time and still haven't figured out how to get unstuck. I will be listening to this video a few times, though in the hopes it will help.

[@Sayuri.Falconer]

Yes, and usually it's right after I accomplish a big goal, and I get exhausted and complacent

[@riyajacob2909]

Yes,m coming out of unstuck spiral 🌸🙏🏼💜

[@francisjudge]

I've been writing a novel for 8 years, and am working on the final draft now---the last of dozens, dozens of dozens, and am so enthused to be this close to finishing, final finishing--and what a personal accomplishment it will be! And moreover I am very excited at the prospect of applying myself to my other creative projects as well. Life is great!

[@leafleathers9187]

Dear Wenzes..I was drowning now I am swimming thanks to you! You are a savior.and I thank you!

[@Yk-xw8lm]

Being INFJ, are we night owls? I feel more alert and productive during the night.

[@jerrimenard3092]

I am a morning person and an INFJ.

[@ihavenoidea6]

I think I can be both but I am most comfortable at night when everyone is sleeping and I have my peace of mind.

[@Dumu_Mul]

I am a night person. That’s when it’s quiet here and everyone is sleeping and I can have my personal time. Time to think and plan and solve things lol.

[@rebeccalouise81]

Infj Night person

[@lauraburdopilatespreacher6878]

Wenzes keeps getting greater and full of grace!

[@di380]

I always felt I move very slowly towards my goals. I always feel like I move very slowly towards my life goals and sometimes I think I will never reach them.

[@trannessa]

... a struggle as an INFJ, sticking around and finding it harder to unstuck from people, place or position even though its no longer aligning or just toxic/negative. We get comfortable and complacent and it takes discomfort or sickness to force us out. But once i let go and walk away... If only i could so easily and smoothly jump from this to that. For INFJs there is sense of insecurity, grief or death.

[@Dumu_Mul]

This hit home because my mother in law and daughter are living with me, neither one act like I am alive, they ignore me completely and it really sucks because I am financially and mentally supporting my whole family. I have been feeling very down and stuck, this has helped me to realize I need to get UN stuck. Tysm for your videos. I have learned a lot from you and appreciate you.

[@FSCHW]

42 years with company, same job for 20 years. Will never change. 7th manager in 20 years. None see the issues. All take advantage and move on. Very proud of what I’ve done. In a position of providing great value, told my experience and guidance I offer is invaluable, yet passed over for early retirement because VP only values field office people. Time to accept and leave. Shut the door and let them feel the value.

[@irodirod4679]

Wow…Wenzes always goes beyond skin deep and speaks right to the “bones”of the INFJ , “break the old mold”. Great video, this is a gem amongst gems Soo much relevant information is in such a short vid. Thank you!

[@OrionNoir]

While I definitely needed to see this, I'm actually afraid that things may have gone too far down the wrong road that I may not be able to save what I have. I didn't realize how stuck I allowed myself to get that my marriage has suffered to the point of divorce becoming a reality; if this happens, it will be my 2nd failed marriage. I'm guessing, at the end of the day, if we have to part ways, then so be it. I will have to do this for myself. I want to also say thank you. Up until about a year ago, I didn't think there was any real way to make sense of what it means to be an INFJ male. Your videos help me put things into a perspective that is more digestible, and more easily explained to others. So, thank you for that!

[@neilsunderland7691]

Awesome! James Clear's Atomic Habits opened me up to the idea of Motion (endless planning) versus Action. Getting out of the rabbit hole of planning and writing/ doing something small. Thank you for the reminder to practice gratitude!

[@cosmicman621]

3:00...what if it never got any better?No problem I can live with that....the real problem is atrophy..decline..illness...death of oneself and one’s loved ones...the inevitability of change-pain...to one’s detriment.Things don’t remain in a ..status quo..inferred by “....what if things never got any better.”The grass isn’t greener...a 60 year old INFJ tells you this.Be grateful for where you are and what you’ve got here and now.Things could be worse in a flash of tomorrows...

[@brendaray7437]

Thank you.I asked the question and the answer showed up immediately.

[@lindateuling7862]

On April 28th/29th of this year we had a two to three hour storm with winds up to 80 miles per hour (138.3 kilometers) where I live. That's close to hurricane strength. The following morning, we were picking up pieces of our homes - my house was hit badly and even now I'm still waiting for the protective awnings to come in from New York. (I live in Texas). It would be hard for me to explain how I've had to step through each one of these five points as I (along with all the rest of the community) have been dealing with the aftermath. But they certainly resonated with me. I've had to do a lot of facing facts, improving current situations trying to change the story around it. I have seen myself learning how to practice business assertiveness with contractors without being aggressive. It's definitely a learning experience. As a teacher who values summer vacation, I can't say it's been a restful time. But right now I am choosing to focus on positive things that can come from this. I can't always say it'll be easy to do that, but watching this video had a calming effect on me today. Thank you, Wenzes.

[@ocho8172]

You are SO informed, accurate, inspiring, and encouraging! God Bless you! I don't believe in coincidences: There may very well be something bigger than us all, that is drawing us all together, in these times. I am grateful for your guidance. Thank you! Stay safe, and be well!

[@deborahwolff5651]

Oh yes! I was friends with this woman for about 4 months who has mental.health problems. It has escalated recently and I think.it is jealousy. I am taking a break by stepping away from her.

[@dbraymore]

I was stuck in a bad marriage, got divorced. I needed a lot of therapy to get me through it then I got stuck in my head in a very existential and introspective way, during this I discovered that I am 100% INFJ. I was having a very difficult time socially because I was trying to apply all of the things that I had learned. I had a rough month at work, and it was exactly what I needed. At work I am very assertive, I know the playbook and exactly what needs to be done. I finally got a break and was surprised at myself and how I was handling social situations, now much more assertive and confident in all my interactions with people, sleep deprivation was exactly what I needed LOL. The hardest thing to do when I feel stuck is to force myself out of my routine...

[@Juliahh7]

O wow! Those were my realisations the past few months. Had struggled so much with not understanding myself and not being understood. Great to hear that I'm finally moving in the right direction. Very encouraging! Thank you ❤

[@jerome6572]

Wenze's I'm looking forward to reinventing myself however they'll wonder how I did it.Wenze's it'll be awesome!!!Thank you for your guidance.Jerome❤❤❤

[@deborahwolff5651]

I'm walking away and working on myself for my self improvement.and Independence and it feels good!!

[@kencornwell]

Yep your a doll. So helpful knowing these things and move on, which I am constantly working on. Pretty proud of how far I have come and only wish I had this information years ago. Thanks Wenzes.

[@LyranJusticeTarot]

Your videos opens up my thoughs about infj personality wich i am, big time!! Keep going becouse you makes a diffrence!!

[@aled9998]

Brilliant video again Wenzes. You are SO insightul about us INFJ's! I get a fresh aha! moment with every video you record. Blessings from Wales. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🙏

[@monlewi1976]

all this makes me extremely desptessin and stuck even more

[@focusrelentlessly8829]

So timing. I looked at my goals set at the start of the year and felt a little defeated, thank u so much for step 3. The video in general is great

[@RebelJones-wg7vz]

Ty Wenzes, definitely important to stay mindful of the progress you've made in order to avoid frustration and negative emotions. Ty!

[@createa.googleaccount713]

Super Great Video, Big Thank You!!!🎖🏅🥇🏆

[@lisadolcy9084]

Gold. Thank you Wenzes.

[@garystapel1165]

Thank you again . I think I'm better than I was last week. That's good

[@aekorfker]

Getting things on paper helped me find that balance between being honest about reality as is and acknowledging how I think it can be. (Next to watching your videos of course ;) )

[@HaleyMary]

As an INFJ, I feel like this channel is my therapy. I love the point of focus on what we are becoming. I often focus on my goals in the future, whether that is in the near future or the distant future. It gives me hope and makes me excited about living. I used to be so afraid of failure especially when I was younger in school. I never felt smart enough as far as having issues memorizing things and nowadays I feel like life is so short that I have to try. I was always good at the art classes, so I feel I'll be okay if I just stay focused on my poetry, songwriting and comedy.

[@createa.googleaccount713]

Great Hair style on you SisStar, the Best! Better than before Wit long hair, also pretty but this is a Gorgeous style!

[@opadron]

This video is so spot on! Thank you, Wenzes, for encouraging us to be better!

[@Marilag2911]

Thank you so much ❤️💕💕

[@StrugglingRat]

Thank you for making these videos, its helped me a lot.

[@jaynaa28]

Hello this is so helpful. Do you have tips for infjs recovering from ptsd?

[@RosarioTwn]

You are incredible 👌✨

[@mlbullbooks]

Great video, Wenzes. 💯👍I love journaling because it's another safe place to express my epiphanies, thoughts, feelings, and prayers. I also can look back at my recordings and see how much personal development I've actually made whether people think so or not. I have mentally, emotionally, and spiritually grown A LOT. Sometimes I get confirmation while at church of things that I wrote or just spoke to GOD about. Other times I get deep thoughts about things or life concepts that others don't understand or may take out of context. Hence, why I mostly keep them to myself, but journaling really helps a lot and can track your progress in life. "You cannot change the whole world, but you can change your world." In other words, you cannot change what happens in life or others' perceptions of you, but you can change how you see yourself and your worldview or approach toward life.

[@amrutak4945]

Beautiful video. Thank you so much Wenzes 🙏🙏

[@aquariusstar7248]

Love you much, Wenzes!😘😘🤩🤩

[@mariaharias]

This so powerful Wenzes. They way to explain it, it’s mind blowing how helpful this is to me. Thank you.

[@SofiaMariaVona]

thank you Wenzes you are amazing💚

[@Chercheure_Indépendante]

Early childhood traumas that I must consider in the picture of "being stuck". Not that I do not sit on this but on the other hand, it is not good to compare myself with others but only to compare myself with my previous self. Thank you for your videos.

[@rachaelsummers7686]

Thank you Wenzes you have helped me so much with questions I've always had about myself and it's life changing, I'm truly grateful ❤

[@CreativeSoul333]

Thank you ❤

[@hershelwatson5903]

Keep up the great work ❤❤

[@Giovanni-o3h]

Thank you

[@hurtjonnegut]

I did a lot of stand up and improv comedy. I’m very comfortable w failing. 😋

[@Who_hack_here]

Actual my situation makes it even harder due to allergy to life with multiple chemical sensitivity disorder that escalated to Toxicant induced loss of tolerance. Somebody wants me dead only if you knew the whole story

[@kymelatejasi]

As an INFJ with ADHD, it has been even more difficult to get unstuck and while some ADHD help has worked for me, a lot of it hasn't and maybe this is why!

[@rebeccalouise81]

I’ve been sleeping in my car for nearly two years and feel stuck, how do I become unstuck and find a home because I have tried over and over? I have lost hope

[@AnyaAnnika67]

ISFPs with their convergent Fi-Ni can be extraordinary good at dissociating from reality & beyond the Se stereotypes can, if they're not careful live their life vicariously through others. The impetus for the ISFP to become unstuck as you say is to think about what would happen if it didn't get any better; Se-Te needs to cement itself into concrete reality. I had an ISFP ex, who sought to decompartmentalise himself from reality through fiction & fantasy whilst living a miserable life working in a call centre which he hated; he clearly hadn't developed his divergent pairing like yourself. As you aptly pointed out, ISFPs can change this dynamic by looking at how they're co creators in that reality & Se-Te focusing upon what they can change. As you say Se-Te implementation of the Ni agency vision is very much the ISFPs North Star; it can be the archilles heal & the secret sauce of this type. I'd add one caveat that ISFPs need to work with other people, the right people, on their destinations (as they experience multiple of the course of their lives as Se agency types). I think this is really good content for ISFPs; I'm not knocking your content only the INFJ over arching aspect as the relative cognition doesn't fit that of the Jungian INFJ.

[@CristopherCal]

thank you❤

[@cinderling5472]

Whoa 💖👀

[@MeryemMerry-ls1gp]

Hey wenzes ... Thank u sooo much because of your amazing work about our personality , I have a problem that I can't solve it , my family doesn't care about my space necessity at all , it is addicted to me in way I can't recharge to do my activities correctly .I need help pleaaaase .(my family member personalities : ESFG,ISTP )

[@flynneart1111]

I cook at night and clean

[@alistairreed3514]

can we go 4 coffee

[@robertklopfstein2896]

❤❤❤❤❤thank u 💓 💖 💗 😘 💛 beautiful gorgeous fetching creature ❤ 💖 😍 ♥ 💕 I really appreciate your time ⏲ ❤ 😊 😀 💕 ♥ ⏲ take u 4 helping to unlock me ....... with out u classes I would still 🐝 🐝 🐝 🐝 🐝 🐝 a lost individual......... 😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@jessmason2112]

💯✌️😎

[@juliusmuhumuza3018]

Am stuck 😢

[@SamsonPavlov]

Fantastic message! 🪄💪❤️

[@KuldeepSingh-gg5kq]

Thank you ❤