Set These 20 Personal Boundaries NOW!!! - (Episode 184 [2])

[@Questionablethings]

BIG DAY for me tomorrow. 3 years sober.............thats correct, 3 years sober. Thanks Jae for all your help, this channel and for keeping it all real

[@tracisawyer7681]

@@Questionablethings congrats and here’s to many more!

[@therichgetricher9051]

Nice one - I'm 54 and did 3 months sober last year, and have done a couple of months here and there since. Certainly cut right back and now just started a no booze until Christmas - Lets go !!!

[@caveman3669]

Congratulations on your milestone of 3 years! That's awesome!👏🥳🎉 I'm celebrating 3 years on the 6th!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Questionablethings 🥳🥳🥳THIS IS AMAZING 🥳🥳🥳 Thank you for the amazing 3 year update ♥️♥️♥️

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your long period of sobriety

[@drummin_santi]

57 days sober 😊

[@therichgetricher9051]

Keep it up -

[@FrankDeas]

@@drummin_santi CONGRATS!!! Keep it going!

[@JayThe0]

That’s amazing. Keep doing what you doing

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work

[@poetlenoir2328]

Well done! 🎉

[@rockyroad87]

Im 13 days sober. So thankful 🙏

[@jesselovesyah]

Day 2 back to sobriety. Just got married and my wife and I decided to get healthy and stay off alcohol. Ive had bouts of sobriety and I always feel much better off alcohol. So here we go!🤞🏻

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@jesselovesyah You deserve the best of each other!

[@the1LASharp]

Day 6 here! Let’s do this!

[@annabea7692]

Can we all just take a minute to appreciate Jae's hair? Just beautiful! ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

bwaaaahahahaha I'm certain I forgot to brush it before this episode lol

[@annabea7692]

@@GettingSoberAgain And yet it still looks dynamite...😄

[@gwillis01]

Jae's hair is shiny

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@randombutrelevant lol SoundCloud and mix cloud " Jae Andres" That's my old life

[@mikelobrien]

Thanks, Jae! It's a great set of boundaries to live by. I really appreciate your commonsense videos. 🙂

[@tracisawyer7681]

I’m listening to this for the third time and will probably listen to it another 30 times. When it comes to boundaries, I’m a 60-year-old woman with a 13-year-old mentality. I have to start working on this. Thanks for all you do.❤

[@derekhath380]

57 year old and also 13 year old emotionally. Making progress being sober now... yay!

[@tracisawyer7681]

@@derekhath380 that’s great. I think I’m making progress. I think..😊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@tracisawyer7681 Better to start at 60 than 70 😉

[@jackiee410]

62 and in the same boat. I love this video and will probably watch it many more times for support. I feel so uncomfortable expressing my need for personal space but I know it's soooo important and I'm chugging away until I'm confident at this! We can do it! Good luck everyone!!

[@poetlenoir2328]

As a child of 2 alcoholics I avoided alcohol until I was in my late 30's. Lost both parents and my only sibling because of drinking...so how did I deal with the pain of so much loss? Made up for lost time and hid in bottles. I'm 53 now and 19 days sober. Mourning who I could have been all those years but looking forward to finding out who I am. Onward and upward, right!? 😊

[@Joe_Joe_The_HvacMan]

Outstanding Jae! VERY helpful! “ all the magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding!” I need to hear that! It is TRUTH!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Joe_Joe_The_HvacMan I always loved that line 🤓

[@W3are1]

37 Days here! 🩵

[@poetlenoir2328]

@@W3are1 I did the math...Congratulations on 40 days! Good on you! 👏🥳

[@Tiya7980]

Wauw...gonna listen to this again and again! Thanks Jae

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Tiya7980 AND AGAIN!!! 🤣🫡

[@isisj180]

Thank you so much for this reminder. I didn’t even realize how much I needed to set boundaries until I quit drinking. The entire time I drank I realize that my boundaries were being violated. I’m so glad that I have gone back to honoring myself, my wants and my needs. It feels great 5 months sober September 6th. 🎉

[@michelebonansinga3165]

Got through my first wedding and my birthday without alcohol!!⭐️ One month sober-and these videos help so much. THANK YOU!! Ps. It’s amazing how much more time you really have when you don’t feel tired because of alcohol. It’s definitely important to have enjoyable activities to take place of poisoning yourself. 😎 I’m currently spending more time in Gods Word and getting massages whenever I can.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@michelebonansinga3165 Hallelujah holla back!

[@jameskeane2272]

Grea video, really good advice. Enjoying the tips. Avoid gossip, drama and negative influences. Face up to temporary inconvenience for the long term benfit of your own true self.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

🎯NICE SUMMARY🎯

[@rosealexander6630]

Thank you Jae for all the great information you provide. It has helped me along my journey of sobriety. It was especially hard the first two months but I made it through it with your help. I watched your videos multiple times. On September 8th it will be one year since I had a drink. I will never go back to drinking. I am physically and mentally healthier. I am much happier too!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@rosealexander6630 1 year LETS GOOOOOOOOO 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@rosealexander6630]

@@GettingSoberAgain ❤️

[@echo123.0]

Thanks Jay!❤❤❤

[@shirosai615]

I was 2 and a half days sober which I know isn't a lot but it is for me, but I was so tired and sick that I felt all I could do was sleep. I was able to get up and about in the 2nd day but ended up feeling like I was going insane. I didn't want to see any one and my anxiety was through the roof.

[@poetlenoir2328]

@@shirosai615 Because I was there so recently I know what you're describing. It's brutal the first 5 days...BUT, it does get better. One day at a time is important to remember, and each of those days brings you closer to a healthier you and a better quality of life. You're not alone. :)

[@caveman3669]

Protecting your energy is a big one! Hi Jae 👋 great video!! Still out here listening and supporting!!! Getting ready to hit 3 years on the 6th! A lot of support credit goes to you and these videos 🙏 Thank you Jae👊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@caveman3669 🥰🥰🥰 You da best!!!

[@caveman3669]

@@GettingSoberAgain nooo you are! 🫵☺️😁

[@FlowWithRobin]

Great reminder’s! Thank you 🙏🏼😊💗

[@Shellshell90]

Wow 😮 This video was so helpful and gave me some self awareness about how I may not be stepping up for myself and that sometimes having uncomfortable conversations to ensure we are prioritising our needs and not having others disregard my happiness in exchange for theirs. Keep them coming! You’re are helping me more then you know. Thank you 😃😃😃

[@patriciamurphy8957]

Thank you for this. I am new in my sobriety and had a slip up because I didn't speak up. My sister-in-law asked if it would be ok with me if she had a drink at dinner, I didn't want to make her uncomfortable so I said go for it, then I was uncomfortable the whole time and ended up ordering a drink too. Now I am starting over... again.

[@poetlenoir2328]

It was a learning experience and now you know how important that boundary is. That's the hard stuff! So far I've only met with people during the daytime so I haven't crossed that bridge yet. Sharing your experience is a help to others...I'll be sure to say no when my time comes. Thank you!

[@derekhath380]

Excellent video Jae!

[@Tahitison]

1 week back at it, thank you Jae for the banger video. Important stuff to hear 🙏

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Absolutely!

[@HoustonShutterCenter]

J Homerun content on this !! ❤️ from Houston

[@GettingSoberAgain]

He swings...AND CONNECTS!!!! TOUCH EM ALL TIME!!!! ⚾

[@selfupgradevlogs6335]

I am 22 years old and have been trying to get sober since 2022 after noticing some issues regarding alcohol consumption. However I wasn't fully committed as my drinking problem wasn't that bad back then. Id drink twice a week and that wasn't too bad, I was 20 years old at the time and it was exciting and fun. I hated the taste of beer but I would drink it anyway to get drunk and have fun. The warning signs were there very early on as I misbehaved sometimes. My father is an alcoholic who hasn't had a sober day for 20 years and often drinks until blackout. So when I fiest started drinking alcohol at age 18, I thought drinking is all about getting very drunk and drinking to the point where you pass out or throw up. So I conditioned myself and my mates to drink and drink. When I would drink with my father, id often to to drink as much as him to "prove myself". Id end up throwing up and passing out whilst he would be fine due to his body's experience. I would sometimes go a month without alcohol just to show to myself I don't have a drinking problem. Id look at alcoholics and wonder how they could live such a life. Then 2024 happened. I had really started enjoying the taste of beer and this new beer called Madri came out and I loved it. I started drinking in bars instead of out of cans because it tasted way better and the vibe was so much better than drinking at home with friends or my dad. I used to go to the bar twice a month but in 2024 I really got addicted to it. The drinking problem developed very fast. In January I was drinking twice a week from cans with a mate flirting with sobriety. Then in May I was drinking 5-6 times a week at bars and behaving badly. I used to only drink 6 pints of beer but now its crept up to 10 pints. Weirdly enough my tolerance to a hangover increased as at first going to work after 10 pints the night before was horrible whereas now its not even that tough. My behaviour got a lot worse as I started becoming more aggressive on the alcohol and drink driving. I have clearly become unhappy with who I have become. Also back in my earlier drinking 'career' I would spend £100 a month on alcohol. Now its about £600 a month. This is due to drinking at only bars now instead of at home aswell as a higher frequency of drink. To quit alcohol I know I have to develop positive habits and also fully understand that alcohol isn't a fun social life. To realise and associate alcohol with harm instead of pleasure. My biggest struggle is the fear of never being able to drink again and this is only around because I still associate drinking with fun. I feel like I would enjoy a few beers on a holiday or maybe that very rare weekend. I also hate how society and people pressure us to drink. I went to my local bar and ordered a non alcoholic beer and had 3 different people question why I am not drinking. Any explanation on why led to them justifying it to me. One of the most ridiculous ones was from my grandfather who said to me "Drinking problem? LOL. You u don't drink a litre of Vodka everyday. You just have some beers and enjoy yourself. Life is about having fun". The pressure is really bad. I am stuck between choosing TeeTotal or becoming a very light drinker. Ideally only drinking 3-4 times a year and having 3-4 drinks for the occasion so I don't blackout and misbehave. Unfortunately a big issue is picking the correct occasions to drink. If you say you will only drink on birthdays, well with all the people we know, those birthdays will add up to many drunken sessions. If birthdays why not add drinking with work colleagues once a month, why not add a few beers with the family etc and unfortunately you have to be very careful when to choose to drink. Being TeeTotal makes it simpler and easier when the answer is always no. However I fear going TeeTotal. These videos have been a great help to me and thank you for what you do. Everytime I watch a video of yours I get very motivated to stop drinking.

[@isisj180]

As a person who drank for 20 years I will tell you it’s 1000% better being sober. Not having a hangover after a holiday and not having to worry about saying or doing something stupid or dangerous outweighs even thinking about drinking. Jae says that alcohol is a poison and any amount alters you. I agree. I could never go back to drinking and being that person I once was. It doesn’t get better if you keep drinking. Good luck in your sobriety. You CAN DO IT!❤

[@RM-de9bh]

Great video! Cheers from Argentina, abrazos

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@RM-de9bh 😁 Greetings from 🇺🇲🖖✌️🤟

[@T.K.111]

Excellent, Jae!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@T.K.111 There you are! I was just thinking about ya 😁 Thank you for stopping by today

[@Girl-gh5gv]

313 days today. Thanks for continuing to put out content. You are the reason I started and the home I keep coming back to when I need to check in. Thanks again.

[@poetlenoir2328]

Wow...congratulations on 313 days! 🎉 So inspiring!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You're always welcome here! don't be a stranger 😁

[@dailyorangepill3338]

Always educational and informative!! 🌿

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@dailyorangepill3338 I try my best 😁

[@Sherry-t5r]

Thanks Jae! I’m new to this and find your videos so completely honest and helpful. I have set a lot of the boundaries you explained but wasn’t sure if I was being selfish so you made me feel that it isn’t and that for my own sanity I’m doing the right thing. Again thank you !! 🙏

[@sherrischwartz6844]

❤️

[@gwillis01]

If you do not express discomfort when someone insults or teases you, you are teaching that person that in the end you don't really mind the insults. Some people will treat you just as harshly and rudely as you let them.

[@Welpie557]

I have very narcissistic parents who hear “no” and see it as a challenge, and my dad is an alcoholic, Xmas is going to be very very difficult

[@PattiCampbell-y4i]

I am terrible at setting personal boundaries just because of having been married to a narcissist. I hate conflict! LOL But through my psychologist I am getting better and I am beyond ready to set boundaries.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@PattiCampbell-y4i boundaries are just as important as breathing... And sometimes they go hand in hand

[@Kevin64123]

I know one

[@katmom9660]

💯❤️❤️❤️

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@katmom9660 💯💯♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@AngelaPeche-l7t]

Wow this video spoke to me!! Thank you Jae 😊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@AngelaPeche-l7t 🗣️📢🫵♥️

[@CMoore8539]

It’s very difficult with some people. Around the holidays, we’re going to have to be very careful. Especially in early recovery.

[@mrmanmentum1563]

I’ve managed just over 1 year so far. Strange how all that time has gone by but a good chance to reflect on things sober.

[@RichardPassadori]

FANTASTIC JAE!! 28 days you’ve been a huge help I’ve subscribed and I’m a member. Thank you, Richard.

[@Disappointingyourdemons]

Great video Jae. You made so many good points in this video I can't possibly comment on them all. But the one that struck me most was the one about energy vampires. There are so many of those in my my life, or I should say there were so many of those in my life. I've cut them all out and I'm so much better off for it. I just celebrated 5 months sober on the 8th of September and life is steadily getting better. Thanks again for this content. ODAAT!

[@kd9692]

Excellent excellent! This channel is amazingly inspiring. I cannot thank you enough for the beautiful work you're doing.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Well reading all these back to back comments from you is really putting the jam in my donut today 🥰

[@ShadesOClarity]

Holidays have never been a trigger for me. It was always anxiety or boredom. I just put out a Holiday Tips video myself. Happy sober October, Jae. Good work.

[@GrumpyGinger]

Dear Jay, your content and delivery is high-level and the bundled insights are, mutatis mutandis, applicable on life as a whole. Keep up the great work! I will gratefully use this video in my classes, duly giving credit (and thanks!). Kind regards, Bart Nelissen

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank you for seeing the effort I put into these videos. Bart 🫂

[@derekhath380]

Thanks for this video Jae. I need to keep watching this one a lot more times until it is permanent in my brain.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I'm happy to be your bedtime story 🫂

[@oklahomajim]

Great video! Awesome!!

[@SegaPlease]

Thank you for the video

[@timburton9514]

Christmas will be one year!

[@Alfir33]

Great video, but it's not a tiny inconvenience. It might only last for so and so, but it goes on and on. Let's be honest. It's an inconvenience, period. I was completely sober 0 % for 2 years and eight months, and I thought I'd give it a try. However, I still choose to believe that there is a golden way. ✨️

[@Alfir33]

I am that uncle Joe 😂 It's not me vs. them. It's me vs. me.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Alfir33 me agree

[@Alfir33]

@@GettingSoberAgain clever ❤️

[@CMoore8539]

Nobody wants to go through disagreements with others but do Not allow anyone to run over you. Stand up ⬆️ and say No. I’ll walk away if need be.

[@gwillis01]

hello Jae

[@kd9692]

👍👍👍👍

[@GettingSoberAgain]

🫡🫡🫡🫡

[@JimmyJaxJellyStax]

Man I woke up and tossed 3 unopened IPAs in the outside garbage. First time I've ever done that and it felt great. Tired of slipping, I want binary no because no to this slipping slippery slope these past months.

[@jayelle5910]

@@JimmyJaxJellyStax Good for you. I dod the same and dumped out my last white claws. I was just done.

[@kirkbingham330]

198 days no alcohol

[@gwillis01]

You can never tell if the post you are reading online was made by a robot or a real person. Don't argue with robots. Another content creator said the best. way to stop the spread of misinformation is to let it die from LACK of attention.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

speaking of real vs fake, check out this AI video creation prompt video I just saw kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4OZmaeKjcymn6csi=xUO5gBXilKLBrk-c

[@locdloaded2378]

126 days sober 🎉