Ghosting: The Silent Killer of Society👻⚠️

What started as an inquiry into what constitutes ghosting, evolved into a rabbit's hole into the motivations behind ghosting and into the surprising (and concerning) research surrounding the modern day practice.
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Attachment Styles & Ghosting:
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“Something Would’ve Been Better Than Nothing”: An Analysis of Young Adults’ Stories of Being Ghosted by Katherine Holmes:
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[@aroundy7171]

Agree! Ghosting or treating each other as we are invisible and don’t matter is a way of causing emotional and psychological harm. There’s no way to deny that it’s bad for society. And everyone is so unsafe to openly share what they believe for fear of being rejected, or verbally attacked….it’s all related. We need to be kind. We need to show love. We need to stop thinking only of ourselves.

[@adil0028]

Question, what if the person you're politely ghosting is someone who's not self aware of how annoying they are? Do we directly tell them that and tell them to screw off to their face?

[@zecchinoroni]

@@adil0028Of course you tell them. That’s the mature thing to do. I can’t even believe you would think it’s “polite” to ghost someone. Why can’t people speak to each other anymore? What a weird generation.

[@LucyKelly-of6cu]

You need to ghost because the bad people need to be avoided! Thank God that you got away from them!

[@ellebourgjoly5942]

Ghosting is a synonym of cowardice. No need to sugarcoat anything. It hurts and is uncalled for humiliation.

[@aroundtheworldin15minutes75]

Its much more complex and nuanced than that. As someone who has suffered from severe anxiety disorder I have ghosted 2 of my best friends after I moved away from the cities they were in. I have regretted doing it everyday. I ghosted one person because I was in a terrible place I didn't want him to know about it. I ghosted the other person because he was in a terrible place and stopped replying to me. I stopped trying to reach him. I could have contacted his family. But I didn't. I didn't want to find out how bad he was doing nor did I have the courage to face his family with whom I was really close with. Yes sometimes it cowardice but often it is much more layered and complex than that.

[@EricJeng]

Yes Elle I’m inclined to agree. And around the world thank you for sharing. Your situation is special, perhaps your friends understand. I hope you can learn to forgive yourself and move on. (Or maybe even shoot them a message if that feels right)

[@xnoodzx839]

​@@aroundtheworldin15minutes75 Definitely agree with u..... I often feel like a coward because I've done the same, but then I think mby its for a reason I do these things... A deeper reason thats over taking my life at this point :/

[@ZachFish-]

Honestly think it’s still a cowardice act, doesn’t matter why you did it or what you were feeling in the moment. Of course we can be empathetic towards each other, but there’s no place for calling bad things okay when they stem from someone that’s hurt.

[@natashadickson4819]

Ghosting has its purpose and its place. If someone is abusive, malicious, deceptive...I see no problem with ghosting them to protect my physical and mental health. There's no need to warn them because they know how evil they are and they know what they are doing so they know why I detached.

[@McSnezzly]

Thanks for this. I was ghosting someone but now I'll give them closure. You're right, it's totally avoidance

[@EricJeng]

It happens, glad you became aware of it!

[@thebidendotwin2926]

Eric jeng is mentally abusive towards children

[@user-yt4pl3ez9s]

Why do you have only 2k followers? I was watching this video like it's some sort of popular media until the middle, where you said you dont have sponsors yet, i thought this was a huge channel. Great quality and production, I can see how much work you put in, it will definetely pay back bro, good luck

[@BlackPrimeMinister]

March 2024: 98,000.

[@montvilleo]

There are times, plenty of times, that one is obliged to ghost someone. Specifically, in the case of toxic/sociopathic individuals. This has been my experience a number of times.

[@BlackPrimeMinister]

I knew it. Multiple offender.

[@montvilleo]

@@BlackPrimeMinister I rest my case !!!

[@jonathancampbell1792]

Personally I don't think not trying to stay in touch is a sign of a psychopathic mind-set. At least not for everyone. For example I use to be the one who invites my friends to a place to eat or hang out in occasion. However I stopped reaching out because they never made an effort to stay in contact with me. I chalked it up to the fact that everyone is busy trying to get their lives together. When we do meet it's like we never left.

[@jonathancampbell1792]

I will always try be there to help people emotionally and financially. However I can't help people if they don't communicate.

[@Aeoniik]

I think what you described is more a mutual falling apart of relationships, not necessarily ghosting bro, ghosting is more just dipping with the other being kinda baffled as to why.

[@saiyamoru]

This video made me think about The Banshees of Inisherin. When Padraic gets 'ghosted' as the premise of that film, everyone in the community shames Colm for it. "It's not nice" but nobody can actually stop him from doing it. Nowadays it's also common to hear 'nobody owes you anything' as a justification for ghosting. I actually got 'ghosted' this past week lol. I'm not troubled by it, because ghosting is kind of a two-way interaction. You have to want someone to invest time/feelings before you can be disappointed they didn't. Sometimes, if a date goes poorly, it feels like a relief when the other party doesn't follow up.

[@mreccentricitiesbrutallyho6338]

emotional immaturity will never fade.

[@elucified]

This was really interesting insight into why people ghost!! For me personally, after the first time I was ghosted, I immediately made a promise to myself to never ghost people because it made me feel so icky. In fact, I generally am the person who sends the message and mentioning that I hate ghosting. I found that being upfront can have a funny effect. Those who probably were never going to match well with me almost always respond defensively, as if it was my fault to call out the elephant in the room even though my goal was to avoid hurt feelings. Those who I matched well with (very commonly it didn't work due to was something else, like a dealbreaker or simply a mismatch of vibes) were very receptive and empathize with their own stories of being ghosted. Learned a lot from this video, thanks for making it!!

[@katec9893]

I always try to say 'I enjoyed meeting you but I didn't feel any romantic connection, I wish you good luck in finding the right person for you' when I'm not feeling it after a date. Mostly I get a good response from men although some flip out and get nasty so I have to block them. I've been ghosted a lot myself but one guy did send me a similar message. He said he could tell our lifestyles were different but he enjoyed talking, we had a really nice interaction and wished eachother the best. I still remember him as he was so nice. I'd love us to normalise this way of interacting with eachother, it's much more respectful and considerate.

[@lucid_747]

You're so correct. It takes Courage

[@raillemiel]

Thank you for the video! As someone who struggles with establishing intimacy as well as trust in relationships, ghosting, or the lack of communication in between is def a major contributor to the issues I suffer from. Funny enough, being ghosted by someone can in turn influence the ghostee, to succumb into conflict avoidance due to their inability of processing hurt experiences in the past - which is my case. I’ll be honest that there are countless times where I recognise the temptation to just ghost and “slip away” from others, either fuelled by my self-sabotaging notion that “they wouldn’t really care if I slipped away anyways” - which is a strong indicator of my own self-esteem issues (and is perhaps correlated to one’s avoidant/anxious-avoidant attachment behaviour) - or the notion that if I reached out and communicated about a sensitive subject such as feeling let down by a specific gesture/action by the other person, I would be perceived as “petty and dramatic” - an association that neither my ego nor myself would want. In a way, my predicament reflects a lot upon my long-terms struggles with low self-esteem, which brings me to the point that combatting the temptation to “ghost” others, and being more proactive in reaching out and having open conversations with others, require A LOT OF self-acceptance and accountability on one’s accord. Not to mention that we have to give grace to the fact that not everyone that you reach out to, is going to be positively receptive to your act of “being honest with them”. More than anything, ego plays a major role in the act of listening to sensitive topics and sometimes not every listener has a tamed ego to accept that - esp if they perceive themselves to be called out or rejected. It’s the same way our own ego interferes and hinders us from straightforwardly reaching out and being transparent about ourselves, esp in moments where we have to take accountability of the things that we might be wrong about, or the specific actions that we’ve committed wrongly that might have had hurt the other person in question. There’s this undeniably egotistical aspect within the mindset of ghosters, that they care more about their own perceived image had they reached out - which ofc, is a natural and quite a common fear among many of us (we all have an ego in us, after all). However, the abuse of such inhibitive mentality is what keeps us stuck and unsatisfied in a perpetuated cycle of inauthentic relationship and communications. Reaching out and being candid to both others as well as our own selves is def the most humbling, and also the most liberating experience one could ever get.

[@lucid_747]

I relate to and agree with much of what you wrote. For my entire 58 years I've been learning how to maneuver people in American society, and it has been the most agonizing part of my life. I was trained by my original family to believe I'm not very important and that my voice sucks so shut up or my mouth will be shut for me. There was no curiosity about how I was feeling or what I was going through. I've walked around believing that ghosting people doesn't matter to them and I don't know how to speak for myself anyway so... I have taken NVC (Nonviolent communication) training and it's a Game Changer. I highy recommend

[@bessieboo5645]

Feel like this is channel will blow up

[@samanthawright9465]

Great video! So very true. Communication in any relationship regardless of newness is so important. Great insight!

[@bessieboo5645]

Never seen this channel before and it just popped up on my recommended. Good stuff and subscribed

[@EricJeng]

Thanks! And welcome.

[@unratedmedia]

This channel’s gonna blow up

[@spawnsmom9386]

Great topic. Lots of good information from your research. I'm in a situation where I have had to ghost someone who just won't listen to what I am saying and only wants me to do something that I can't in good conscience do.

[@EricJeng]

Sounds like you tried to voice your truth! It’s okay to move on

[@ghostface5559]

block them?

[@charlt7670]

For the amount of deceptive humans who exist, the only way to treat them is ghosting.

[@lucid_747]

I have ghosted people a lot and I am def not a narcissist, but I have been the doormat for narcissists. I have high morals and strong empathy. I have had weak and fearful communication skills. I've been hiding from the public and closest to my husband and children-- not because I'm psycho, but because I had to figure out how to say "no" and how to notice my own feelings and needs and take good care of myself first. Classes in Nonviolent communication has helped me a lot.

[@jenang2239]

Such a good content your building. Really really appreciate that!!

[@crimeiryrosario]

Oh my God, this was so good!😊 I am glad to see creators approaching these issues. Dating apps are distroying individuals....

[@jaughnekow]

no matter how it feels, let them know instead of ghosting.

[@thebluestgiraffe7160]

It’s great the way you take on these topics with such sincerity. I lived for many years with hearing loss and after being very solitary have been sad to sense what’s developed in wider circles of communication since I’d stepped out of it all. It’s not something we can’t grow past as societies, but it will take the courage to see it honestly and express and create new ways forward. Thanks!

[@abiotic_sloth1768]

Great topic and super important to talk about. I have been ghosted many times, so I feel like I make an effort to reach out to people, but it turns out I don't. Turns out I also tend to ghost people. Never on purpose, but just out of fear that they will ghost me first. This video was eye opening and will help me to make better decisions in cutting off or continuing relationships with people.

[@emmm_4465]

This was a really well made video, I hope this video gets more views cause the message is good ❤ keep up the work!!

[@malevolentsnow9867]

A lot of people ghost after dates because they’re legitimately scared that the other person will react poorly to them turning them down though. Ghosting isn’t just done cruelly or out of laziness to not text back, it’s fear that someone might decide harassment is a great tool to get back at someone who hurt your feelings.

[@zecchinoroni]

And they won’t react poorly to being ghosted…?

[@malevolentsnow9867]

@@zecchinoroni do you not know what being ghosted means lol? Most people block the number or at least stop answering. If the person starts freaking out that they’re not answering then they’re being blocked.

[@zecchinoroni]

@@malevolentsnow9867 I know that, I’m saying what would stop a crazy violent person from stalking/hurting you in that situation? Couldn’t the ghosting provoke them to do that?

[@rebecapinilla7887]

This video is really good! Thanks for this. Definitely it has given me more confidence/ encouragement to follow up with people and be more open and truthful rather than avoidant.

[@joshuajohnson3296]

This went way more academic, and way more cosmic, than I had imagined! Way to go on an intrepid deep-dive into this subject, and for providing practical solutions to improve our social relationships!

[@rerikm]

I really don't think "closure" is necessary for every "date". As a traditional manly man, I don't really feel the need to share every bit of each feeling I have. Let alone having to justify and explain myself to everyone. Maybe I am what's wrong with society but for everyone out there ready to judge me, please remember that you are always demanding "respect and understanding". Accept that people are different than you and don't try to change them.

[@nicoleancell6860]

If someone ghosts, it says more about them than you. It shows that they avoid conflict and have issues communicating. Which is probably something you don’t want to ever deal with in your life. So, consider yourself lucky….and find someone better

[@MissOpal]

Like everything in life, discernment is needed. Some people call it cowardice, others use it as last measure when boundaries have been disrespected over and over again. Sometimes, ghosting can be a good thing, especially for people who left abusive relationships and wanted to get away from the abuser or the narcisistic partner. Ghosting can be medicine or poison, that’s why context and dosage are crucial before taking the decision of ghosting:)

[@thedog5k]

3:40 if you fuckin first time you ain't a partner 304

[@xnoodzx839]

I have a very bad habit of ghosting everyone.... I think it's greately destroying and taking a control of my life at this point...

[@EricJeng]

What do you think you’re afraid of that makes you ghost?

[@xnoodzx839]

​@@EricJeng facing certain situations or overall interacting for some reason since I find it draining... Sometimes i take days and then feel like they'll think badly of me bcz i took long, which is when I ghost.

[@logbinder6330]

After a couple of weeks I ended something and I did explain to them how I feel and why I think it's best to not move forward with the relationship. It was painful however, because you know you might be hurting someone, but having been on the other end, I always appreciate clear message if it's going to not work out as I'm able to move one much faster.

[@freeminded7790]

Oh man I’ve done this to two of my friends in the past, im in no way happy about it I feel like total shit about it and only makes me hate myself more then I already do. And I’d say the reason behind that atleast for me is.. that I at times am embarrassed of myself or don’t feel good enough. It’s really just me going through many negative feelings about myself that makes me pull away from the people that I love so dearly. I wish I wasn’t like this, I truly do crave healthy long lasting friendship. I see other people have these great relationships and it tears my heart in two wishing I could have something like that. I consider myself a really genuine person, I tend to always put others before myself. I love making other people happy and feel loved and cared for but my mind gets the best of me.. I hope this makes sense to someone. I know there may be some people that do it just because but for others it’s something way more complex.

[@fadplastic]

Along with ghosting, the word "awkward" desperately needs to be eradicated. It has become overused and has lost its true meaning. It seems that in our society, we have become so reliant on medication that we can no longer handle complex emotions or differing perspectives that challenge our narrow views. For example, when someone asks, "Are you going to message them back?" and the response is, "Ewwww no. It would be so awkward." This shows a lack of willingness to engage in uncomfortable situations and a preference for avoiding any potential discomfort. I would also like to address introverts specifically. I understand the inclination to not message someone back because it feels uncomfortable, and then justifying it by ending the friendship altogether. However, it's important to recognize that by doing so, you may wake up one day at the age of 50 and find yourself lacking deep and meaningful friendships. Yes, people get sick, and tragedies happen. It's not fair to expect others to constantly bear the weight of someone else's trauma. However, when a friend is in pain, it's worth considering taking the time to listen to them instead of mindlessly binge-watching Netflix.

[@trevorschachner3014]

Enjoyed the video Eric. Appreciate your hard work on this!

[@nofreeloading7333]

Ghosting is much more than dating , I ;live in small inbred town where people clan together to get rid of people they don't find acceptable. The clergy even follows this ghosting

[@natashadickson4819]

You don't have to live there forever. And you probably don't have to move across the country either. Just move out of that circus. Even moving as little as 10 or 20 miles up the highway can put you in a much better city.

[@AdamSappenfield]

People seem to be more deceitful at this point in time than ever before. And without a foundation of truth whatever is built will come crashing down.

[@MeloVampire]

I've just watched a video of you on Meg's Channel, I'm from Spain, and it was about what NYC people thinks about Spaniards, and it was so fun and it was really Interesting about the differences between us, but we are more similars than we think. I've just suscribed to your channel to learn more about NYC people. I've been there in 2018 and I really loved the city, I thought that the people were more interested on their self and the films doesn't show the much great people that NYC has. I felt like I was on my own city in Madrid when I was there...so, my congratulations cuz I felt like i was in home. Congrats for the yt channel! And regarding about ghosting. I think it's something relative new... Here in Spain is not to much usual, but, I know someone that have done that. I've never did those things cuz I take value of the time that the other person take to a date. Relative to the dating apps, in spain is becoming more usuals but, I think the most of the new couples are friends of a friends, I mean, you meet your partner cuz she/he is a friend of your friend, that's why here is not really usualy to do ghosting, finaly someone in the other side will know that you are not serious doing that. see ya!

[@ManassehBB]

For the sponsor of your video, thank you 😄

[@madtheghost337]

How does one CONFIRM they've been ghosted?! Could it possibly be as simple as the notion that we just ghost each other out of fear of being the first to fold?? Love this channel. Amazing video as per usual.

[@JuliaBhansali]

So good and insightful!!!🙌🏼

[@DynamicVlogs69]

I've ghosted a therapist but it was because the abuse i was getting from an ex. I later sent an email apologizing. I didn't get a response back but I'm ok with that. I hate ghosting and being ghosted. Give people closure, sometimes people don't move on without closure.

[@liukang85]

It is unnecessary to reject someone outright after meeting up unless you hugged romantically or more... but if she asks me to meet again or something to that effect I would at least tell her no and if she asked why I would try to explain without hurting her

[@lucid_747]

Now make a video about the people who never ghost because they LOVE rejecting people and reveling in their sorrow

[@raofutv]

Love the topics u cover and the production !🎉

[@Unitehumanity786]

Our fellow women seek guidance. It's wise not to rush into intimacy with a man, as they may lose interest quickly. This is a common scenario, so it's important to take your time and truly get to know them before letting them into your life.

[@gtwhome]

Ghosting is an act of active self-elimination of the ghoster from the ghostee's domain. There are no positives for the ghostee in being ghosted - and it's important for the ghostee to get closure from the ghoster by holding them accountable ... because let's face it, if someone's ghosted you, it ain't goin' nowhere anyway - so, you might aswell extract whatever you can from a sh*tty situation and give yourself the satisfaction of giving the ghoster a piece of your mind - which if nothing else, will let them know your opinion of them - rather than letting them get off Scot-free with their disrespect.

[@tinkalinks]

It is not rude to reject someone. How you do it can be rude. People like keeping their options open so is we don't end it we can make up some lame excuse why we lost touch and start things up again. That is selfish. If I don't want you, I want you to go be with someone that you can be happy with. I don't block anyone either. We're adults, control yourself.

[@CoachCee]

I definitely think you're onto something with your videos. Keep it up!

[@kayt5284]

Wow!! Thank for that topic first time hearing this topic!!

[@Rapha_blinds]

Nice talk, I'll try to be better myself now

[@charliespleen]

Got ghosted by a girl on a dating app that I'd gone on a date with recently, then she messages me a week later...."no hard feelings right?".....uh yes hard feelings, we're both 30 years old!

[@logankue9627]

You actually replied? I wouldn’t have. Not worth it.

[@charliespleen]

@@logankue9627 I didn't reply lol

[@wxieqdsiwevbks]

Uhmmm yeah it was my first dirtbag ex bf. Never saw him in the flesh again until about 15 years later and he acted like nothing happened. I ghosted him by not even acknowledging him ;) that felt so gooood!!

[@anemone9081]

Thank you so much for this video.

[@tb8573]

Publishing movies on KZbin where you are acting a noble and generous person must be the best evidence of personality disorder.

[@JJ174000000]

you have earned my Sub. I really liked this video.

[@hozic9929]

was ghosted once in person... never again.

[@Eevcee]

This might sound weird, but this has inspired me to come out to my parents 😂 (And also reply to a friend I left on read)

[@Shrewd_Steward]

I respect/appreciate a lot of what you had to share, Eric. You managed to take your experience as well as research data and come up with some original education/instruction that isn't overstated or preachy. Nicely done. I was disappointed that you closed with "don't ghost anybody". In my opinion, that all-inclusive, declarative statement was not in keeping with the careful attention of the rest of your video. By your definition "Ghosting" is precisely the thing someone SHOULD do if they are dealing with a person who is significantly affected by narcissism or borderline personality disorder. It is the WRONG thing to do to engage with empathetic and understanding communication. It is the RIGHT thing to do to disengage and resist efforts by them to get you to explain why you are doing what you are doing. I applaud your effort to speak to something of a ghosting epidemic among us. Unfortunately there's a fairly big narcissiistic/borderline epidemic going on as well. Your encouragement to not ghost anyone doesn't serve well those of us who have put off "just walking away" for far too long and adds to the guilt/shame we feel for doing so. Have you ever looked into how to deal with a borderline? I'd love to hear your conclusions if you have (or if you do)

[@EricJeng]

Yes 100%, I do make a disclaimer at around 14:26, there are definitely situations where ghosting IS the right move... if one's safety is involved, if the other person just isn't getting it, if responding would only make things worse...etc etc. Thanks for your thoughtful comment! And support.

[@janineshideler4051]

Wrong! It is important to give people closing, even if it's hard for you to do it!

[@williamglane]

Having watched this through, I still don't know what ghosting is. If *neither* party follows up with a message after a date, are they both ghosting each other? If someone decreases the cadence of their replies without explicitly saying they don't want to hang out again, is that ghosting? Eric cites the Merriam-Webster definition but then later acts like it's something other than what he just read.

[@esaiah3344]

You'd be a great therapist

[@lucid_747]

I feel misunderstood

[@v-22]

Your thumbnail to me read, "We need a Chang." I thought your name was Chang and you were running for something. lmao

[@joylynch5204]

I don’t think closure is necessary for a single date. If I don’t hear back, I have my answer. It is immature but I think it’s acceptable at the same time for just a single day. Two dates I would say then it’s getting into more like OK it would be much better to say something.

[@briansalazar7397]

Just scored by this page!!🎰🙌

[@alexdavila1356]

Time is short and we have busy lives. Why should you need to explain yourself to anyone, especially if you've only seen them once or twice? How could ghosting possibly be comparable to the worst things destroying society like "hook up culture" and technology destroying the human identity? Ghosting can be argued to have been WORSE before social media because you could slip away in a large city and not leave a single trace at all (no social media presence, no profiles to snoop, nothing) so the argument that it's killing society is weak.

[@EricJeng]

The killing society point is a bit of theatrical aggrandizement, and I do agree with your points on hook up culture and technology, but I do think they are all related with ghosting as well. (ie: share the same root causes of a weak sense of self and weak connectedness with others… which stronger communication can help with) As for getting back to someone after a first or second date, understand stakes are low in that situation but I would imagine that someone who is ghosting in late stage dating is also doing it in early stages as well. So to me, it’s a sort of precaution.

[@alexdavila1356]

@@EricJeng , true. I understand your points

[@brokeboy87]

If this person didn't ghost me I probably wouldn't have lost my temper. All did some of the harsh things I did the ghoster. The whole event could have been avoided with some honest communication.

[@lelamaciolek1166]

We all get treated bad. We don’t have to join in and start treating people bad as well. Don’t lose the goal of treating people the way you’d like to be treated. How would you like to be treated when you are kind, selfish, or mistaken.

[@logankue9627]

I had the same experience. I'm older and wiser now. Live and learn.

[@Chris-ui4rg]

Great channel 👍

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

I would think the jump in the statistic is just because people now know what the word means and are more aware of it. Even before the internet was in everyones pocket employers and employees ghosted each other regularly, because it is an impossibly uncomfortable conversation to have. And then there is the joke about the Dad that "went out to get cigarettes" and never got back. It might also be an answer to people being more open to communication and with their emotions. If you look at earlier generations, not only did people stick with people of their own culture and therefore assume most things, they also talked about their feelings much less and communication had many taboos and limits.

[@ghostface5559]

no they didn't

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

@@ghostface5559 They didn't what?

[@littlenewthings2662]

Very interesting insight

[@ghostface5559]

its the only thing that makes me furious

[@j.m251]

Lmao, it’s not thaaaat deep or at least not comparable to the things the people listed. Sure, it’s not in the best taste, but your question made it seem as though it was bigger than it is or destroying things in a different way than maybe you’re even getting at. Honestly, it’s not even the biggest thing that’s hurting us socially at all. I’m gonna guess this is a joke and I thought it wasn’t for a sec 😂

[@ghostface5559]

You have shoe size iq. so unless he dumbed it down you wouldn't get it.

[@j.m251]

@@ghostface5559 or or or I just disagree. I completely understand his points in all and why he believes it has harmed us, and I even agree to an extent, but I don’t think it’s on the same scale or even bigger than anything else + the question made it seem like he was going to go into something else. But, he just settled on “ghosting.” Like, if this was a video on just “hey, ghosting is mean and this is what it’s doing,” I’d be like ok. But, to make it bigger than it is…

[@indigoechos6796]

​​@@j.m251 yeah thinking deep requires effort and I mean like who actually wants to do that you know?

[@FerdinandZebua]

We ghost each other all the time in the comments sections of all these (supposedly) "social" media. Ghosting may not be healthy nor good I do agree, but on the other side is it healthy either to respond to each. and. every. troll. comment or fishing attempt? I mean, think about it...

[@joylynch5204]

I wouldn’t consider not responding to every comment a type of ghosting. All the commenters I have no idea who they are we have never met. I just see this as a place to put comments and I could watch several videos a day and I can’t track and remember every video I’ve been to or commented on to see the replies

[@bogmon]

hey girl @10:15. you crossed the "like" threshold. Too many likes to take you seriously

[@indigoechos6796]

None of these people have ever been slapped

[@benfakiri3026]

Dude I like your video and your point! But all I hear today is "like like like like like like like like like" Just, like, stop sying like, like its, like , a thing

[@EricJeng]

One day we will have AI that can edit it out seamlessly, but until that day..

[@peekaboopeekaboo1165]

​@@EricJeng Off topic ... Are you naturally "brown" ?...or you got tanned ?

[@EricJeng]

@@peekaboopeekaboo1165 mostly natural I think

[@Grannit666]

I think you're onto something with the problems that arise with ghosting culture but mentioning things like "The Dark Triad" and "Fixed and Growth Mindsets" uncritically is a problem. These are not wildly accepted concepts in psychology.

[@TheOGJeff]

What's the song played when the dark triad starts?

[@sailingwithgrace4522]

Oh to the ghosted it makes them feel quite isolated and that everything they dif meant nothing. Rather then open comunication... it's certainly given me a negative view of anyone who does ghost me...

[@janineshideler4051]

The worse enemy of society is really duality! This is believing that evil has the same or more power than God! Yet, we still say that God is omnipotent, infinite??? Society is wishy-washy! God is LOVE, and love is infinite good, in spite of how current situation looks. Once you pivot to One God, all powerful good, your wide outlook at life will change and youll begin seeing the results of Gods harmony in your human experience. All else is fake!

[@KarimaG91]

❤

[@Nomad-XA]

U throw trash away not keep it around

[@myblueheaven86]

The fact you would ghost people makes you a jerk

[@williamglane]

I hope Eric drops the dopey interstitials (e.g. 12:00). They break the flow of the video and add nothing.

[@kevinhardy8997]

I like ghosting. I don't need an essay saying what you don't like about me. Not happy, leave😁

[@erica9140]

Wouldn't explaining your want to detach come across as you being full of yourself? Like it's not a big deal in dating.

[@AndyRing-wo3ty]

Feminist and alphabet ideology