GIRL CHAT VAULT: Instagram Won’t Solve Inequality

[@cococp5218]

Adrienne wears the prettiest, most unique outfits.

[@a.sydney5036]

Cam MP and you know what I find crazyyyyy...I’ve never seen her repeat outfits.

[@cococp5218]

@@a.sydney5036 Great point Amy. To think of it none of them have! Must have a good wardrobe team. :-)

[@wendypetulu5556]

Loni is the only one who had a solution for the woman, not judging her and calling it prostitution.

[@katabrams5566]

Damn I’m glad Loni flipped the convo and showed empathy toward that woman. I mean she has children to take care of. Maybe she’s the only one actually caring for the children, and her husband is simply the financial provider. That’s a pretty common situation. It can be really isolating and scary. Plus, you don’t know what that man might’ve done to make her feel so turned off by him. We don’t know the details.

[@demibellini6915]

👏🏼👏🏼

[@XanStephP]

Exactly!!!

[@sexyhomeowner9345]

If attractiveness is everything in a marriage none would last till old age. Plenty of them do nonetheless. There are times when ppl's looks wane and fade for good. I doubt many men find their partners sexy when they are heavily pregnant and waddling around like Donald Duck. Yet they don't necessarily walk out as a result.

[@TrishAvery]

Kat A. Yes. Thank you!

[@amethystwolf24572]

Agreed. Let's not act like the average woman is like these women. Many women are trapped. And I think its incredibly awful how nasty these women were.

[@SSBMA1994]

I know of a woman who grew up in a third world country, who married with someone from a more developed country and move to her husband country to start a family. As predicted, she was a housewife for many years, and even when she was young back in her hometown she grew up poor with not much education because her family could not afford it. As the marriage turn sour and she has kids to worry about, it aint that easy to get a divorce in a country where english is not really your mother tongue and you have zero knowledge on finances or how to work, and especially the thought for the kids like how she gonna get a roof over her head and her kids. So I guess not everything is black and white.

[@gracemorganspeaks]

Whoever feels lonely, rejected, used by people and not recognized. You are going to overcome this and a time is coming when people will look up to you. Just stay focused

[@MajesticMyronn]

Hold up hold up... let’s be REAL here... this happens in mannnnnny marriages whether we want to believe it or not... the woman didn’t specify why she fell out of love... some women are in marriages where their partner isn’t their emotionally , mentally or physically but is there financially and sometimes out of fear of not being able to take care of themselves or their kids( if they have or are about to have any ) ... it takes a lot of courage and strength for women to leave..so let’s not jump to conclusions and automatically think well they’re staying just to take advantage and that’s just not the case for every situation...

[@melinakerifan]

I totally agree!!! Loni, more often than it, brings the best perspective as recognised that its not so easy. And then that got Jeanie to think about it through her cultural lens

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@dianaelizabeth2324]

Look at Loniiiii! Can we have this Loni now? I loved what she said. She was empathic in all topics! 💖💖💖💖💖. Adrienne was judgemental, repetitive n contradictive in what she was saying. Kinda annoying. I'm glad she is better now.

[@claudinehenney4888]

Yeah 100% I was gonna say the same thing , I was so shocked how quick they were to be so judgemental to the women ! Shocked to see this kind of loni 😍💕

[@Tan87ful]

Good point

[@kianaontiveros9169]

Diana Elizabeth they switched roles lol

[@amarabooker8627]

it really wasn’t judgmental. to announce on a radio station that you want nothing to do with your husband but you’re staying with him for money instead of developing a solution is absurd. imagine if he were to hear this, which he probably did considering how much attention it got. staying is not a long term solution and we shouldn’t encourage that. we should encourage women to secure their life as an individual so you don’t have to depend on someone else and to ask for help getting there if you need to.

[@kenz-hi6rn]

@@amarabooker8627 alotta women are trapped addriene was judgemental

[@eb8555]

I agree with Adrienne. Who cares. If the kid needs clothes give the kid clothes. People who make fun of that or look down on that need to grow up.

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@MajesticMyronn]

How does taking a picture of yourself “ take away “ from ones value of science...if a woman who happens to be in the field of handling things like experiments and stuff like that to take a selfie let her... don’t try to diminish or devalue her intelligence & tenacity as a hard working woman in a field that’s already male dominated... just because she took a selfie... it’s not that serious to overanalyze

[@naestalgic553]

Loni looks AWESOME in yellow 💛💛

[@cindyzapata1881]

I don't understand how the ladies could have so much to say about the situation with the woman who is unhappy in her marriage, without having some more context. Women all over the world stay in unhappy and sometimes unsafe marriages. Limitting the issue to a surface level analysis of how he could be having sex with someone else, calling the woman lazy as well as making an array of assumptions is disappointing. I know this is an old clip but the ladies need to be briefed properly and make informed commentary on these controversial issues. This could not have been more one sided if they tried. Just because you're loud doesn't mean you're right.

[@kgolofelolengwati3243]

Love how Loni changed the conversation from judgemental on the topic of marriage to empathy. Love the ladies of the real but Adrienne and Temera laid it on thick... it was heart breaking. Too many women go through being trapped in a loveless marriage silently for fear if such judgements. So real thanks to Loni for brainstorming solutions instead.

[@Growing_GlowingHER]

They all tried to change their tune after Loni

[@Tkayecruz]

I wasn't even married, and left a toxic relationship from being a stay at home mom. My hand could no longer be out. Independence needed... amongst other things. Haven't turned back, and my children and I are way better off! I t was scary but did it.. because as moms you know you have no other choice!

[@bayamonrican]

I feel like Jeannie is not lively like this anymore now that Amanda has joined the crew.

[@atomknight8361]

Amanda has no sense of humor, so she drags down the whole atmosphere since she started

[@bayamonrican]

@@atomknight8361 she is incredibly smart, beautiful and savvy. But yes she is also a debbie downer. Even Tamaras demeanor seems different. Adrienne and Loni seem to be the only ones that adapted to her.

[@iamsoiexist7192]

Amandas not even in the segment but but somehow shes always mentioned.... Nobody can make someone change who they are, if they changed so easily then it wasnt who they genuinely are.

[@bayamonrican]

@@iamsoiexist7192 some people shut down when uncomfortable

[@ShelbieMua]

Don't blame her just because you don't like her lol

[@noreen2611]

Love Loni on the second topic she speaks the trust and is real and her opinion is balanced

[@christinarivera3479]

She should leave but it’s not so easy to leave. Think of immigration situations where someone may not speak English or have the skills to survive. This happens more than we think. This is also why some women stay in abusive relationships. But, she does need an exit plan. Thank you Loni and Jeanie. Good advice at the end Tam and Adrienne.

[@SKYYLOVE]

*the way the set has upgraded since this is EVERYTHING* 🦋🦋🦋

[@moalatheartist4329]

As a female researcher and doctoral student (environmental engineering) I am very social media active and love to show off my work on Twitter and Instagram. The responses are always positive. If you love what you do, others will too.

[@thefrugallife-withmercedes7718]

My mother in law was in a bad marriage a few years ago. Her husband had a GF he was putting up in an apartment. She found out and didn't let on that she knew for over a year. She worked extra hours and saved up... then she left him. Make a plan to leave. It's not easy but it can be done.

[@tianasprincess5827]

Wow 15 minutes, thanks for the generosity 👏🏾

[@jeffrivera3612]

I miss when it was just the 4 of them 🥺🙁

[@ebonymay7906]

To bad

[@mjaydubbleyou]

Same!!! 🥺😔

[@rachelleon6361]

Jeannie had more a voice before Amanda, I miss this :(

[@rachelleon6361]

Jeannie had more a voice before Amanda, I miss this :(

[@ericar7565]

Amanda announced she will not be returning to the next season

[@stephanier4635]

“Kids don’t see fashion, they feel love” exactly!

[@MG-ts4er]

I disagree with Adrienne

[@whisperingwhiskerss4877]

It’s very pathetic, IF YOURE NOT ATTRACTED TO YOUR HUSBAND TO THE POINT WHERE HIS OTHER TRAITS DO NOT SHINE THROUGH, PLEASE LEAVE.

[@amethystwolf24572]

This "women who are scientists shouldn't take selfies" is sexism, pure and simple. Its telling women "we won't take you seriously if you're beautiful and you know it". Its telling women "stay in your lane". Note that no one was calling out male scientists.

[@ebonymay7906]

I wanna know where Adrienne got that shirt girl😍😍😍

[@casenace6091]

I appreciate that Loni always gives a back story and thinks about the well-being first, especially of women. She is very pro-woman. I was surprised at how judgmental Tamera was here (Ade was as well, but I was more surprised at Tam), and I know she is not the judgmental type. No one is perfect I suppose.

[@ForeverLuckyLika]

Good advice Loni 💕 Tam your mom is the MVP! Great advice.

[@kinndah2519]

#1 who says us engineers are extraordinarily smart? I'm not, I'm just interested in a science. #2 Why do we have to choose between being pretty and smart? #3 Why must we be doing our careers 24/7 just bc we have a particular career?

[@ChanelDolls]

They were so rude and judgmental and rude to the married woman ppl fall out of love all of the time she probably feels trapped cuz she’s dependent on him she’s a stay at home mom it’s hard divorce is hard. And it’s so easy for all of them to say cuz they’re privileged rich women who can leave a relationship any time. Thx to Loni for being understanding & empathetic

[@demibellini6915]

They’re acting like they didn’t all grow up poor. How many of their mothers would have survived without staying with their fathers?

[@SKYYLOVE]

*clothes are just clothes.* *colors are just colors.* *wtf...*

[@kitten101l]

Why are we so quick to defend women when it comes to these things? Truth is she put her man on blast and is using him for his money 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@achardesigns9238]

am wondering no1 is concerned about how he is in this marriage... imagine she depriving him of intimacy, what should he do coz she doesnt even want to look at him

[@brit-99]

Adrienne : she's selfish Also Adrienne after lonni talks : yeah she deserves happiness too LOL. she never takes a stance she flip flops as someone talks

[@XanStephP]

If she took a stand on calling the woman a gold digger that would be rude and would mean that she wasn't listening and acknowledging the contrasting and valid points that Loni made. That's what good listeners and conversationalists do.

[@brit-99]

@@XanStephP calling the lady selfish was her stance tho and nothing is wrong with acknowledging contrasting opinions. She 80% of the time flip flops her stance

[@ifunanya24]

Brittni Peters .. yeah i noticed that too

[@siadara8874]

She always has to speak first and go on and on and judging and self righteous then change her views after the others speak

[@EDU43215]

So glad Amanda joined. She adds more dimension to the show. Works great with the 5 of them. 👍🏾

[@robynramaboka9321]

Loni is so intellectual👏🏼

[@erinslibraryxo732]

Don’t make your man a part of your financial plan

[@Awillii]

Loni and Adrienne’s make up has come a long way!

[@jenbk2bk275]

I love this. So much better before Amanda came on the show

[@moniquealonzo6415]

jenbk2 bk2 it just seems like everyone was able to have an honest opinion without Amanda’s constant eye rolls.

[@jenbk2bk275]

@@moniquealonzo6415 exactly! They also seemed to have more fun.

[@siadara8874]

@@moniquealonzo6415 smh why would she feel it adult and respectful to constantly behave like that and have people walk on egg shells around her

[@palesabiyela]

when Jeannnie said 'rrrrum' Adrianne felt it!!!😂😂😂

[@MichelleHernandezcraftymaven]

Self worth doesn't feed you or your kids. Don't be stupid.

[@ebonymay7906]

It can happen. You can enter a marriage and then loose the attraction. She isn’t the only woman to stay for financial reasons... a lot of women give up their careers to be with their husbands or to take care of their children so they depend on their husband to be the breadwinner. So what. I just say she should get a divorce because she deserves to be happy. Men leave their wives all the time when they get to fat oh well. It would be doing the man a favor as well because HE deserves to be with a woman that will love him unconditionally I hope he’s the one to file for divorce.

[@tiffdawn4428]

That woman is holding that man back from being with someone who’s actually gonna love him and it’s wrong. Girl leave and get your money up

[@cecekoe9258]

They have children it changes things

[@tiffdawn4428]

CeCe Koe she’s still holding him and herself back from being happy

[@cecekoe9258]

@@tiffdawn4428 I understand, but I just think its best not to rush out of a situation to find yourself and the children struggling financial. As long as the situation is not abusive, a planned exit is best. He's the father of the children, I don't see a problem staying until she's able to financially able support them.

[@P03ticJustice]

Cant afford clothes but can afford Disney world.....whew chile PRIORITIES

[@sandrayoung4536]

P03ticJustice poor ppl save hunnay for at least one happy experience

[@joannapilgrim]

Well said, Loni. Cameron Hamilton is another example of a beautiful scientist

[@MN-gg5qk]

I love Jeanie’s hair. Her hair colour is so pretty

[@mariad4183]

2nd hand stores, garage sales, swap meets, Churches, community centers

[@1slandqu33n]

That's straight up selfish and scandalous to be robbing someone of their money.

[@1slandqu33n]

@Jolisa I suppose that is a different perspective. We will never know the other side of the story.

[@kaylinport7581]

I wore second hand boy clothes the first four years of my life, and then my brother wore the now third hand clothes, and I don't even remember it so...

[@mrsturner8532]

I would just worry that taking a selfie at work will make you look unprofessional. You can always promote women in S.T.E.M. fields on your off time but ask your boss if you can use the facility. If you are the boss then do whatever you want.

[@rachaelkopp3792]

I agree with you but what about the women who choose to stay because they believe really old school. Where men are head of household n financials?Or because of their religious beliefs? * I also agree with Loni I have always had an escape plan n funds and I think every women should even if in a healthy relationship, cuz you never know when u two could grow apart or something may come up!

[@BATOOLESK]

that Australian mom is gangsta hahaha

[@MarMar-wn9et]

I watch this show just to see what Adrienne wears! Lol! She’s so stylish!

[@sabrinapack2135]

Y’all looking super cute

[@jaquelinen5068]

I think that lady's problem is totally being taken out of context by siding more with the gentleman. If she says shes staying in the marriage for money, shes mostly staying for the children. Shes sacrificed everything especially her happiness. id rather you didn't criticize but just give advise like Loni did.

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@P03ticJustice]

She can leave those his kids too. If he has that much money the kids will be fine but she knows she wont be. Shes selfish

[@Tan87ful]

@@P03ticJustice good point

[@P03ticJustice]

@@Tan87ful basically. It ain't like HE NEEDS HER lol lol

[@Tan87ful]

@@P03ticJustice Yeah but a woman has to do what she has to do to survive in our patriarchal society

[@tomishaharper4704]

I just love when happily married/wealthy-since-childhood/employed women judge women they can't relate to.

[@raquelcastillo5377]

TOMISHA HARPER exactly 👏🏼

[@a.n.v340]

Scientists have a life too just like all of us they are human!!! EVERYBODY SHOULD BE ABLE TO TAKE A SELFIE no matter what size or color or racist the most important thing is that you feel confident and love yourself ♡ everyone is beautiful in their own ways!!!

[@smartladylab252]

I wish we didn't put gender on clothes. When I was a kid, I had a set of sports jerseys that I loved to wear and they were actually hand me downs from my older brothers.

[@mercymoto5415]

Amanda got pure vibe

[@shannyxo0]

What time is this filmed? Cus i couldnt drink in the morning lol

[@MajesticMyronn]

shanny Medina usually around 12 or so in the afternoon

[@rachelxx6968]

That girl in the burgundy dress at 2:17 looking gorgeous

[@MajesticMyronn]

Actually back in the day... like In the 60s it was a very common thing for toddlers/ boys to be in dresses... only because you worked with what you had til they got taller and older... I feel like in today’s time it is so easy for gender stereotypes and jokes and rude comments to be made based on what someone wears and it’s ridiculous... I wish we would value what only people we care about say rather than what outsiders who judge just to say stupid stuff have to say !

[@jamesvandao-vergona3257]

Myronn Coleman it was very common for young boys to be in dresses in the 60’s? Where did you see that?

[@MajesticMyronn]

James Van Dao-Vergona as babies... if they had older sisters and the parents couldn’t afford new clothes... they would just out a dress on the boys...

[@jamesvandao-vergona3257]

Myronn Coleman have you ever seen that example? Where a boy is wearing a dress because his mother couldn’t afford clothes...

[@MajesticMyronn]

James Van Dao-Vergona he’s on several occasions especially in one of my history classes a few years ago

[@jamesvandao-vergona3257]

Myronn Coleman was he trans or a cross dresser??? This happened in America where a boy had to wear a dress because his mom or dad couldn’t wash his clothes? From the 60’s to now I bet a boy would wear dirty clothes to school over a dress...like my mom had a hard time earning money but even how can a parent not be able to buy clothes? Won’t be fancy but white tees and blue jeans will work.

[@joannapilgrim]

Why is the audience clapping for divorce?! So sad

[@acacialeaf4645]

Divorce is not a negative thing unless you make it one. Chill

[@MG-ts4er]

Love Jennie she’s goals!!

[@ForeverLuckyLika]

Just buy unisex clothes and stick with solid colors.

[@amandachatindo3954]

that melanin popping beauty at 5;29!

[@halomerric8611]

Get friends/friends together to swap clothes..have refreshments...make a thing of it.

[@ashleysolomon6265]

Their colors 😍😍😍😍😍

[@jeupshaw]

Why is the woman who can't stand her husband, telling the world about it? Does she not think her husband will divorce her? They should be in therapy, not telling the world about. That was stupid.

[@ashleysolomon6265]

Adrienne put the pink jacket on the kid lol

[@johnnynielensted]

Is it allowed to take selfies at work in US?

[@KAYELLEK]

If you can’t afford baby clothes, you can’t afford the kid... what is wrong with people

[@alagra19]

I love this look for Loni

[@sweettoothmarie7304]

Love u guys!!! ☺

[@liisk98]

Wow, the disconnect of 'the real' hosts from real world thanks to their high income has really had an effect on their world views. In an all female hosted show, you would expect there to be more awareness on gender pay gap, glass ceiling, chauvinistic discrimination of women in the workplace and how much more vulnerable women are because of their role as the mother and nurturer of children in the family. I have no words for how ignorant and stupid this show has become. Only smart one's seems to be Loni and Jeannie, I am not sure the other hosts have even graduated university. Let that sink in, you may be listening to people give you advice on all sorts of life matters who may not even be able to or have the ambition to graduate a higher education...

[@siadara8874]

Adrienne has always been too self righteous

[@gachagmoon7073]

Everytime i watch them i feel guilty...like im cheating on Tamar

[@ZolloBeauty]

Tam you are such a Goddess!!!! You keep slayin all your looks 😍😍😍😍😍♥️♥️

[@ItzsMheMesha]

Loni face to light ... I love they show

[@ArtOfTreasury111]

What is up with Loni and Adrian's makeup?

[@romeomarks8344]

A good selfie is the best go on ladies take them selfies

[@thehonestchristian492]

Honestly, it's about time and place. While you are at work is not the time or the place. You are there to work, not be on Instagram. IDC if your a scientist, or a fast food worker. NOW if you want to Instagram on your lunch break that fine because you are not on the clock. But if your being paid to work....you need to be working.

[@MiszRicanGiee]

I agree 100%

[@umaimamazzocco7950]

I love when it’s just the 4 of them ... I just watch when Amanda is not in the round table 😅

[@tshiditr9362]

I think the woman should just leave.

[@dianagarza9801]

“Make an scape plan” 😖 what a terrible advise. Unless you are been abused. But, lady you can fall in love with your husband all over again if you try hard enough. Love is a choice. To leave a husband just because you don’t like him any more is very selfish and immature. Work on your marriage and grow old with your partner.

[@zaydankyle1]

I understand that in this case that woman should just get out of the relationship. However (ladies) I have met and helped many people in my field that when they started their families that the woman would stay home and raise their children and that in itself is a fulltime job! That could come off offensive to stay at home moms. Honestly it seems like you're addressing something close to you because most people wouldn't tell staty at home moms to get out and hustle...ijs I know someone must have pissed you off because you are usually very careful about how you address things.

[@amethystwolf24572]

This is just another way of telling women to know their place. We can ignore powerful women if they're ugly. Can't handle women who have it all.

[@nolor8397]

I wish someone would buy clothes for that little boy

[@acacialeaf4645]

That little boy will be just fine with out having anyone buying clothes there is so much he can learn from this experience. Plus just on a personal note most little boy clothes aren't that great anyway he's better off with his sister's generous donation.

[@jayleanpina7459]

Yes Loni 👏🏽

[@fridahermioneorgana9490]

I'm sorry, no offense but how can you have the money for Disney Land but not for clothes? When I grew up we couldn't even think about Disney Land because we knew to was impossible for us. So, i just can't relate to that ...

[@ninagarza1497]

Eh, I don't agree with some of these points. It's not "if you have time for the bathroom you have time for a selfie" first, one is a want another is a need. Secondly, most "regular people" jobs don't allow you to take selfies. For good reason too, people should be doing their jobs. There's a time and a place for everything and work is not the place for selfies. That doesn't mean people won't take them, it's just not professional. Now if you work in a non professional environment or the entertainment industry, that's another story. It's a different world we live in though. Things are getting "interesting "

[@jumarabdullahi8258]

A was really ignorant #yikes

[@jananmiranda6991]

Women criticizing this lady for staying in a loveless marriage because of her children obviously don't know the struggle, and don't know what it means to do absolutely anything and everything for the sake of your own children even if that includes sacrificing yourself and your happiness. in this day in age happiness and quote unquote positive Vibes is just a luxury and at this point it's unnecessary what's necessary is clothing and food and medicine. And if my child is going to be well taken care of then I don't mind staying in a marriage that I don't like to be in and no I'm not going to cheat cuz My mama taught me better than that. I'll stay. I'll cook for him I'll clean for him. I'll be faithful. I won't love you but we will still get along dammit.

[@Tan87ful]

Good point

[@nicolem2877]

Janan Miranda These young women are just so naïve. They got married after having money and opportunity so you can’t really tell them anything

[@shashineshaw6946]

Love you ladies from real going from Ashley facey

[@liisk98]

Could they stop ranting on and get actual specialists to come to the show to talk about important family, relationship and money issues instead?

[@annahhouanche2165]

Uhmmm where’s Amanda??

[@apriamiller6238]

Mojiko lets try that again

[@shazawella9781]

I Don’t like lonis makeup 💄

[@alvarovaldovinos6836]

Loni's and A's makeup are not done correctly today. I still love how they looks...but it doesn't look natural.

[@acacialeaf4645]

They would take issue with you saying not "correct". So what if these ladies don't look natural nothing about the "real" is

[@ruthkiruki7333]

Loni looks good.....I am a fan.

[@anwaaranwaar5453]

*Jeannie 🌻*