Girlfriend Came Home Drunk And Lying About Her Night Out r/Relationships

[@ronbeyak9886]

You’ve got to love how when people start their story, they always start with justifying their cheating right off the bat. At that point you know the narrative is skewered. They’re both messed up and deserve each other.

[@briansmaller7443]

Yeah - two f-ed up people. Tears before bedtime in this story I imagine.

[@kathleenjemison1421]

I'm

[@Gregarious3]

Embrace the cuck or move on.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

Story 1: So we have two proven cheaters (the jury still out on whether the past cheating was on each other or not) in a relationship, casual cocaine usage, one a “recovering” alcoholic, and the other refusing to admit the truth to himself and then lashing out at those trying to help him. This is a nuclear meltdown waiting to happen.

[@Foxceptional]

I agree. It's not always the case, but a lot of the time when an OP lashes out at commenters, I get the vibe they're in denial 😬

[@destinedtogame]

Story 1. My girl has a drinking problem. Oh by the way. We do whiskey and blow every other weekend. Man that's healthy

[@jakemarie828]

Yeah I was like wtf ok yall both messy

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: Don't even care about the cheating, the drunk driving is absolutely disgusting. And yes, the parental undertones happen because they have a 10 year age gap, obviously that's going to happen 🤷

[@audraverela3663]

I know! That age gap, like the rest of the relationship, is disgusting. She needs professional help- at the very least a therapist if not outright rehabilitation. There is no excuse for drunk driving. Like they just keep minimizing every single issue in their relationship and in themselves.

[@lynnw7155]

The girlfriend is SO immature. Daddy, oops, OP, is going to get might tired of that.

[@Musiyca]

She's probably with him just for safety until she gratuates. They have the most compatible sex now, she lives in his house, he pays for everything and comforts her emotionally while she still gets to go out and drink. This outing of hers is her starting to make her exit. It's emphasized by how she "just in case" started reassuring him she's not doing anything bad that she doesn't him as lover nor partner, but a sugar daddy/parent.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@lynnw7155 it's his fault for dating someone 10 years his junior 🤷 no one is forcing him

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@Musiyca yeah, let's not use incel logic lmfao. No one is forcing him to date her, y'all act as if he's not 10 year older and much more experienced than she is. If he's in that situation, it's because he wants to

[@deifieddata4462]

Relationship in story 1 is hilariously doomed whether she cheated or not

[@whosyodaddy763]

Those 2 guys definitely ran a train on her

[@sowutsurpoint]

I found them both unlikeable. They seem self important and oblivious. Also don't fo to reddit and get bad wen reddit, reddits

[@actuallynotsteve]

34 year old lawyer with a 25 year old party student, eh. Yeah and he's a cheater with a kid? Hurt people hurt people, how do these people lack so much self awareness?

[@agentzapdos4960]

He should be obligated to disclose this Reddit post to every prospective client for his legal practice.

[@actuallynotsteve]

@@agentzapdos4960 haha that's so funny. If I saw this there's no way I'd trust his judgement on the law "Excuse me, my 25 year old girlfriend is drunk in class in college, I'll be right back." Empty office when he returns for sure.

[@Lastofthefreenames]

I love how op asked for advice and then dismissed it in the first story. Foolish man.

[@dream6562]

He didn't dismiss it though, he listened to the people actually giving advice on just the context of the story instead of those automatically assuming cheating

[@jboy804]

@@dream6562 OP specifically asked to make sense of it. The most sense in the context OP gave in the original post WAS cheating, he's just whining they think so little of a someone who would drunk drive (or drive with one). Even with the further context, I mean it's a incredibly high indication of cheating likely or at the V?ERY least incredibly poor decisions that should have been seriously considering whether or not to even continue the relationship when he has a child. I mean if she actually changes (press X to doubt) maybe they can seriously move pass this, but those are pretty bad consistent decisions on her part.

[@sallynguyen4403]

​@jboy804 This is what gets me. All he ever talked about were her bad points and he wonders why reddit is talking shit about her and wants him to dump her ass? He set himself up for failure if he really wanted relationship advice. If anything, he wrote everything out to vent and wanted validation from the internet. Then after getting sober, he felt guilty talking shit about his girlfriend and lashed out at reddit. What an idiot. They both deserve each other tbh. Edit: Holy cow, I forgot he was divorced before and has a son now. I can't imagine how his son feels about him considering his dad seems to have an alcohol problem, uses cocaine, and chooses to be with someone who also has an alcohol and drug problem. Yikes.

[@ianesgrecia8568]

Who wanna bet that OP of Story 1 will come back in about 1-2 months telling about cheating girlfriend?

[@jboy804]

@@sallynguyen4403 Yeah he is already likely a terrible dad. Those issues are not conducive to a good childhood and his future projections are not looking great either :( One day we may get a Reddit story from the son if Reddit still exists.

[@ronbeyak9886]

Story 1; OP and his girlfriend deserve each other. They’re both two rotten peas in a rotten pod.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 1: OP's girlfriend definitely cheated. That's what the smirk is about. This level of mistrust in a relationship is a deal breaker. She chose to heighten the mistrust. Leave her. Drunk is not an excuse for any of this. Dump her.

[@420jturner]

Dude smirked cuz he just busted in his gf ... poor dude

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Shut up and you don’t know that.

[@thatdellgirl14]

I don't feel bad for him after hearing the update.

[@Impostor39890]

💯

[@unknown_ing]

She also definitely not ready for a steady relationship

[@Lestaticate]

Story 1: Honestly, OP is only putting a bandaid on a gaping wound by ignoring how serious the situation he’s in. His partner is a lying (a horrible one at that), self-destructive alcoholic who needs professional intervention before she ends up on a missing persons case ... Whether or not she actually accepts the help however is her choice … and so far the future seems bleak. OP is only making her worse by thinking he could save her himself. Apparently OP is also a freaking father bringing adult “role models” like this into his life because … They have matching kinks? His girlfriend isn’t the only one in serious need of a wake up call. I just, I hope his ex wife has full custody.

[@jakemarie828]

Oh I missed the part where he was a dad. Those poor kids.

[@FlamesofRebirth3836]

I completely forgot he was a dad. He doesn’t sound like it from the post

[@Rose_Bride]

The way the *delusional* OP in the first story actually LASHED OUT at Redditers who were only trying to help him and pointing out his gf's VERY OBVIOUS CHEATING makes it INCREDIBLY hard to feel any sort of empathy for him... especially when you consider that HE was the one who posted asking for advice in the first place. He deserves what's coming to him simply for purposefully and stubbornly shoving his head in the sand and covering his ears. I never understand people like him. Why waste time coming to the internet and asking for help only to lash out when those people give you advice? In a few weeks or months, this same OP will be back online acting all surprised Pikachu face when he discovers his gf cheating. 😩

[@GLoLChibs]

He deserves what's coming to him for being dumb enough to be in his early 30s and getting with a 22y/o. That's always a recipe for disaster because those relationships are always built on superficial reasons.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

Well he straight up admitted that he’s also cheated in the past (and never made it clear whether that was on this gf or a previous one) so maybe he’s more lenient or something.

[@jackspring7709]

Yeah, when I was listening to the update I was thinking "What an odd ball".

[@jakemarie828]

The casual cocaine use was a fun nugget he slipped in there too. Clearly there are boundary, control, and substance issues.

[@jamestomlin5525]

Reddit is shit, he's right though and you know it

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 1: The way OP wrote his whole post and update totally doesn't make it seem like he and his girlfriend are blossoming into soon-to-be junkies! There is a certain level of unnecessary drama that surrounds that kind of lifestyle and based on this post OP and his lady friend are steeped in it.

[@Plaprad]

Yeah. When you describe a fun weekend as "Booze and blow", you're probably not making the best choices in life.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

Bros in his 30s doing Coca Cola? Oof

[@ponykazy3725]

Original story: guys my gf is acting sus, lying to me, hanging with a guy I dont like, she is acting like shes cheating on me AND *she has cheated before in her past.* Please help. Update: she sobered up, explained her behavior, and promised to never lie or hang with the guy I dont like. How dare you judge our relationship! 😒🙄

[@BlueSkyBS]

Story 2: Prison time, restraining order, whatever..... Once someone gets an obsessive thought into their head, like that woman has, they'll never let it go. OP, her husband, child and any other potential children, will be haunted by that addled thing in a human skin suit until her dying day.

[@delmarhi]

Yep. They need to move or be prepared to meet her head on. Drug addicts don’t learn.

[@anonymouslee2083]

True. When they're that level of crazy, they only stop being a constant threat to you when they're dead.

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Story 2: That update is terrifying, imagine what she would've done if OP, husband or (god forbid) baby was home when she did that.

[@lynnw7155]

OP was warned by Redditors after her first post. Of course hindsight is 20/20, but I'd have put in security cameras and deadbolt locks after stepmom's second visit. You don't want creepy people knowing where you live; once they know, protect yourself.

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Or her mother!

[@bennyd.1862]

Imagine being 28-year-olds and calling yourself the stepmom of a 25-year-old. That's not most creepiest thing about story two but that is just wild.

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Right?! And a filthy drug addict to boot! I REALLY hope that that poor little boy is with a family member who is safe, caring and financially stable!

[@mycupoverflows7811]

To quote Mark, " the absolute CHEEK of that woman calling you to bail her out after she destroyed your entire house!"😮

[@threeducks157]

Man that first op is so deep in denial is kind of sad.

[@Bunny_Gee]

But, it’s hard to find a kinky partner/s

[@helenlewis2510]

Story 2 sounds like op’s almost stepmom might try and snatch the baby After update: yeah she was going to attack (maybe even kill) op and take the baby

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2: OP is not the A-hole. This woman is unhinged. She is nothing to OP and her child. OP should get a restraining order.

[@delmarhi]

That is not going to help with a traumatized drug addict. They’ll be up a few nights and get the notion in their head. She’ll be back. Husband needs to prepare.

[@mbyerly9680]

She's a drug-addict leech. She wants a place to stay and money, nothing more.

[@poohbear4515]

S2: That woman sounds very creepy. Who gives a shit what the “father” said, or wanted since he was never a father to OP. Not to mention how she lost custody of her child before so lord only knows what she would do to her daughter if she ACTUALLY got a chance to see her. I get a RO on her since she sounds so unhinged that she might do something drastic, which she did!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Always press charges! Always. ALWAYS!! Over 5k in damages?? She's still potentially currently on drugs? B&E? And she has the cheek to ask to be bailed out? This audacious cow 🙄

[@paulman34340]

Being a Druggie likely explains the Audaciousness! And no need to tell her to Always Press Charges! She did that shit IMMEDIATLY. I start to wonder if she had an EPISODE when she broke in! Like her original plan was to steal from OP, but then became angry that she was living "good" while she was STRUGGLING and had her kid taken so decided "if she can't have it....." (Say this only because OP mentioned the woman was only 3 years older then her! That SOB of a Sperm Donor LITERALLY went for a girl NEAR HIS DAUGHTER'S AGE! like WTF!) I feel for OP as me and my family had YEARS of being plagued by nutjobs who came in our direction because some other asshole or another caused them to do so and had some weird sort of ENTITLEMENT (Like my EX adopted brother once had a relationship with my mother's FRIEND when he was 18, woman was in her LATE 40's! Then got violent when he told her she was just a "hook up" that Ma cut contact when she BROKE a bottle of her wine in our house trying to hit HIM...she and the rest of us only found out AFTER the fact! And then some detectives came because she filed a false rape report ON ME! A person who rarely interacted with her as I kept to myself and my video games, I might have said Hi when I pass her by, but that's it! Turns out she was trying to spite my MOTHER for the crime of "protecting her son from her crazy ass attacking him with a bottle" by trying to get me, her eldest son arrested, but what saved me from anything happening was she was an IDIOT when it came to the TIME! I was MILES away from where the "RAPE" apprantly happened, like in I was in a Movie Theater MILES away watching the Marlon Wayne movie "A Haunted House" back when that came out in Theaters, Not a great Movie and I saw it LATE that I got home at 1AM which is rare as I never stay out past that time! It's NEW YORK FUCKING CITY! That's the time the Crazies come out, Imagine the horror in my 20 year old mind on the LONG Subway and later bus ride back home! People HAVE been shot at these's times, so I will NEVER do that again! So because Cameras everywhere OBVIOUSLY verifying my location. (And the fact I had Night school in the SAME area as the Theater before that point, so they verified I WAS there too and I'd have to have been the FLASH to be in two VERY Long Distance areas, and oh yeah "NO CRIMINAL RECORD") it was dropped as fast as it was brought up. Still pissed everytime we "come across" each other where she tries to act "friendly" after what she tried to do! Seriously, she had a grudge on that asswipe ex sibling of mine, but decides to go after ME! (It's the reason I act like Keanu Reeves does with his fans, no one is getting SHIT on me!)

[@ScooterBond1970]

They really shouldn't have hung up on her when she called. They should have laughed in her face and THEN hung up.

[@CrimsonAngelWinges]

Honestly I'm still annoyed at OP for not at least getting cameras after an inter reddit post telling her this woman was probably going to show up.

[@GLoLChibs]

Story 1: It always amazes me how these men and women in their early to mid 30s get with people in their very early 20s and then are amazed there's trouble. While there's nothing wrong with age gaps, that kind of age gap they're at 2 different stages in life and aren't relationship material for each other. Youth and attractiveness aren't reasons to get in a relationship with a college aged person. Post update: Oh, so they're two toxic, unstable people in a DD/LG relationship. All makes sense now.

[@agentzapdos4960]

My hypothesis is that anyone 30+ that dates 18-25 year-olds dates them because it's illegal to go younger.

[@akoilngas1215]

She's 25. That's a fully grown woman. There is no more argument about her cerebral cortex not being fully formed. Stop infantilizing women. What I read into this story is that she's an international student, likely studying on mom and dad's dime. There are a lot of Asian students studying abroad that have never actually had a job and live on allowances from their parents. This girl fits into that box pretty neatly and reminds me of some past acquaintances who were passable students, but spent more time acting like a tourist on a pub crawl of the entire country.

[@agentzapdos4960]

@@akoilngas1215 I'm not infantilizing women. I'm saying most men are dangerous predators with pedophilic tendencies.

[@felix0-014]

Story 2 is some next level insanity. That stepmom is an absolute looney o_o I am sooo happy the neighbors were paying attention

[@paulman34340]

Not even Stepmom, just OP Sperm Donor's "Baby Momma" as they weren't married. But yeah, this was the likely expected result, she was desperate for money, then remembered her Baby Daddy had a daughter somewhere and became obsessed with being a leech on her (likely her own family if any have cut her off! I still remember when my Ex-Adopted brother was disowned, THREE fucking women came out of the ether and started harassing me and my mother because he had children with EACH of them before dipping out, and they acted like "we should take care of their babies" in exchange! He was disowned LONG before he got with them, so not our business! One of them even got my mother's number because my idiot adopted sister who was later disowned for letting her SECOND baby daddy who was a pedo SA my nephew and niece gave them my mother's number and she thought "blasting her" with photos of the baby would "Soften her heart" SPOILERS it didn't and my mother is a caring individual, but she knows the game, me and her are caring, but we DESPISE emotional manipulators VERY MUCH! Hell they started AMBUSHING me on my walking routes, had to use an old TACTIC I used against bullies who tried this back in school by having multiple routes to my usual locations, switching out each time to get around them as well. Finally ended once it was confirmed NONE of them child was that IDIOTS kid! Lucky he left alot of his shit with us that had his DNA on it and they weren't exactly "good girls" themselves! Not like he would have cared for the kids knowing him) and when the forceful route failed, she very likely scooped out their place and schedules and waited till they all left to try and rob them (being a druggie, she likely had the steps of breaking in and expecting something valuable lying around, Reality is very different from the movies/tv/Video Games where valuable shit isn't lying around the house to be taken, other then maybe a TV LOL) would have been funny if OP and Hubbie left alarms that blared if the house was entered in a improper fashion! Once scared a potential home invader this way, noticed a stranger who wasn't known in the area leering at our place! Then one night when we left out, I put an Alarm of sorts on the door, more meant to SURPISE one of my siblings if they came home early! Asshole chose that time to invade, ended up getting spooked and hurt himself trying to get away (it was the equalivent of that scene with the Pizza Man in the Original Home Alone Movie when Kevin put on that Gangster Movie when he arrived to get the Pizza and scare him off without him knowing there wasn't an adult in the house) got caught and we had a laugh. Ma slapped me on the back of the head though because she knew I was being a prankster and NOT because I was preparing for Home Invaders, but I later got a $20 Nintendo Eshop Card in my room when I got back from going out the next day

[@YellaBellaReno]

That last story is heartbreaking.

[@emmathereb]

Stepmother charged with Grand WhatTheFuckery

[@jaybay272]

Story 1 the reason why the girlfriend is okay with blocking that friend now is because they already did what they wanted to do. At no point was she honest with OP. He will learn one way or another that forgiving this "mistake" is gonna stab him in the back very soon.

[@Plaprad]

That, or she blocked him because she still talks to his buddy. There were two guys with her. Willing to bet she is in contact with one.

[@chinaking918]

@@PlapradI agree. Whichever one really rocked her world is the one she kept. 🥴

[@shawnbrooks5293]

Story 1 OP is in deep, deep denial.

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: "Nobody knows what the motive is yet." Malice and revenge, OP, pure and simple. This is like Story #1's GF twenty years down the road. Ouch. Hope they have insurance.

[@shannonbullock2202]

I'm in recovery 10yrs from addiction. That woman had nowhere to go and was using any excuse she could think of to get under someone's roof for a comfy bed, hot showers and regular meals. She will not ask for help bc "she's fine." Instead she thinks of any reason she can justify to get into someone's home without having to ask.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

The Stepmom story- So she told the cops that OP gave her permission to enter the house. Ok. I’m pretty sure she didn’t give SM permission to break her stuff. I laughed when she said please drop the charges and bail me out

[@KittiesofEvil]

You are never cured from being an alcoholic. She shouldn't be drinking. Let alone you know she was cheating by how many times she told you she wasn't. If there was nothing going on she wouldn't have made such a point of it. He doesn't want to believe what's going on. Their relationship seem more parental than a couple.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Wow she was just reminding him and she was drunk .

[@Vida7354]

​@@Batman-lg2zjnot an excuse

[@BruinPhD2009]

A friend of mine has FINALLY realized he can’t be a “social drinker.” This is after years of addiction counseling and a couple scary relapses, one where he woke up in a room in bed with someone and still has no idea how it happened. He seems much more committed to his sobriety than I’ve ever seen him, and I hope this continues to hold true. Otherwise, he’ll either end up killing himself or someone else, or both.

[@jennstewart3003]

For sure, she knows she has a problem and should know better.

[@angelaa7388]

Parental... or potentially controlling

[@19WolfGirl74]

The fact he’s a lawyer and does drugs stronger than pot is extremely concerning

[@browniewin4121]

1) Proof that just because people are good at education and employment does not make them good at relationships or life in general. Too much drinking, bad decisions, lacking concern for others, lack of communication, lying, cheating, and distrust. After update: They seem to suit each other. 2) OPM, this woman is insane, she is nothing to OP, and OP is nothing to her and for sure OP's baby is not her Grandbaby. The police need to be called and OP needs a restraining order. WTH?!!! She is just trying to get a place to crash and to grab money from someone she thinks she might be able to wheedle it out of. After update: About time the cops got called and this woman got arrested. OMG ... what a terrible, horrible, awful woman, she should not be loose in the world. I hope she can get a nice long jail term.

[@phoenixfire8978]

Hey mark, hope Poppy is well. My kitty has had to be at the vets today and it’s been too quiet. Listening to you is helping the time go by.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oh no I send you and the kitty hugs 💜💜🤗🤗

[@zephyrguthrie624]

Hope your kitty feels better soon

[@phoenixfire8978]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Thanks. Poor thing hasn’t been pooping normally since Sunday. He went to the vet Tuesday but the treatment didn’t work. He went back today, and he was getting dehydrated and not eating so was admitted. He’s doing better with fluids but no poop yet.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@phoenixfire8978 I'm so sorry poor baby

[@jakemarie828]

​​​@@phoenixfire8978I just went through something similar with my kitty. I'm sorry you're going through this! Did they give kitty an enima? Or lactulose? Those things sort of helped temporarily for our kitty. Adding more litterboxes than necessary and using feliway plug-ins helped prevent it after he was released. Some say canned pumpkin helps. When our cat was in the emergency vet, they said "no news is good news" so I think you can assume that kitty is at least stable for now. Again, sorry this is happening!

[@LisaApril]

Story two: I agree with never posting pictures of children on Facebook. That's how this crazy lady decided to come over, she saw the post. Even more nefarious people find your location and know you have children in the house.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The voice Mark gave the SM in story 2 😭🤣🤣 I'm deceased. No is a complete sentence. OP said do not come, she still came. She's lucky she hasn't gotten these hands. Two people are high risk. That's negating the fact that she was a DRUG ADDICT WHO LOST CUSTODY OF HER CHILD! Call the popo urgently

[@Swnsasy]

ROFLOL same here! I had to chuckle on that one😂

[@jenniferfoote5442]

😂😂😂

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: She definitely cheated but it's OP's choice. I just hope OP is making the right choice. Story 2: this really sucks. I know OP and hubby are screwed out of all the property she damaged because she obviously doesn't have the money to replace any of it. And Unless she is forced to work off the debt by the courts(unlikely because court systems suck *ss) they won't see a penny. I hope she goes to prison for a long time.

[@Plaprad]

Insurance will cover it if they have it. I had over 10k of stuff stolen from my storage unit about a decade ago. Got everything together, sent to insurance, and had the money for replacements within a week. So they might not be financially screwed. Assuming they have insurance on their stuff. I'm more concerned for how they could afford the "after". She literally went halfway across the country to get to them. I don't think there's any real way for them to stay there. If she gets out of jail, even for a day, you know exactly where she's going. Op and her family hopefully went dark for a few years until she was confirmed locked up or sent somewhere else.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: I'm gonna wait for the inevitable post were OP whines that he got cheated on. Because cheating is never based on what you might lose, by rather what you might 'gain' by cheating. If it was always logical, the cheaters would have either left their partners to start dating the new guy/gal or they wouldn't cheat in the first place. Plus the girlfriend randomly breaking down into a panic attack from someone dropping an F-bomb is a serious problem to have on top of everything else.

[@bradleymartinez185]

That first comment made me mad. Sounded like they were saying that he was the one with the issue for not trusting her. She was acting SO shady it's hard not to distrust her

[@MuDkipzCHancelLOr]

In Reddit fantasyland all women are pure and innocent victims of the patriarchy and all men are oppressors. They’re the craziest and dumbest people on earth and I love every bit of that train wreck.

[@mountain342]

Using the word "trust" is the most common gaslighting method a shitty person will do, acting like it's absolute when it's not. There are levels to trust, and what you/they do will increase or decrease the trust in someone. Only delusional idiots will have complete trust in someone no matter the circumstances.

[@Vida7354]

Exactly especially is She have history of being an cheating hoe, she didn't even felt remorseful and tried to gaslightight

[@akoilngas1215]

That's because that one comment was absolutely trying to shame him for not trusting her. Remember, folks, reddit is full of absolute idiots giving free advice.

[@Bleg94]

1. Story: first of all, she cheated (her being super sketchy the whole night) and the guy wanted a reaction out of OP and wanted to make it obvious that he just had sex with OPs girlfriend (the smirk) but I stopped feeling sorry for OP after the update, he asks for advice because of her sketchy behavior and then tells the commenters HE ASKED to stfu and stop being so childish xD

[@adak5805]

Op's gf in the first story is so manipulative... And he of course is an idiot. That's what I call the perfect pair😂

[@bhart3321]

Sounds like they're both addicts & need help but this relationship was doomed from the start.

[@Godlysabi]

I’m to vanilla for this new generation

[@DragoonKnight00]

and all the sympathy i had flew through the window with the update. First asking for advice and then lashing out and acting all high and mighty when the advice was not to his liking.

[@sabrinahinton1774]

Story 1) The op in this story is delusional if he doesn't believe she's isn't cheating. He deserves whatever he gets how you going to get mad and you asked for advice 🤷‍♀️ just keep your head in the sand.

[@coreymartin6486]

In the update, when it came time for OP to give his reason why they would stick together in a relationship....he didnt say anything about love. He didnt even say any good traits about each other aka caring. He just mentions how well they are sexually together. Frankly, that says a lot.....

[@freelance4200]

Drugs are a hell of a drug

[@evavocative6975]

Story 2: honestly I wouldn't be surprised if "Step-mom" is resentful of OP because she lost her own child and is trying to get back at OP for not adopting her son, hoping she could eventually get him back from OP, whereas OP is happy with her baby and her family. The fact that she keeps calling herself "Grandma" when she was nothing more than a stranger is disconcerting, she sounds UNHINGED and like she is trying to get OP's baby for herself. The woman is nuts and I hope OP and her family have stayed safe since then.

[@The_biggest_bear99]

He said whiskey and blow every other weekend like that’s normal

[@jasonclements9022]

Lying is a deal breaker, full stop.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Yesterday a migraine from the pits of Hades had me in a vice. Had to completely lie down, put on my sleeping mask and disengage. I'm feeling much better today. Did my morning workout, being productive at work. About to eat pancakes for breakfast. I know we're the Waffle Gang, but pancakes are good too 🤷🏾‍♀️😌

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

I'm sorry💜💜🤗🤗

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589I'm OK, baby. Thank you for the kind words. Hope you're well today 💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@andyawe13 thanks I'm alright but I gotta bathe the cat cause she got something in her paws so wish me luck lol

[@paden1865able]

​@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589I hope you heal quickly from the wounds that your kitty may possibly inflict. I say this because while my Squall is the most quiet and gentle creature that walks the world while dry, any kind of water turns her into a raging demon made of titanium and springs. 😂

[@TheIronwil]

OP had me at “came home late, drunk, and lying”. Does he really need a roadmap to make his decision?

[@carlrood4457]

It's about 1300 miles between the state capitals of New Hampshire and Iowa. New Hampshire is a small state and Des Moines is pretty much in the center of Iowa, so it's a decent estimate.

[@maggpiprime954]

That last story is chilling.

[@theseawriter]

I’m in a new timezone, so I’ve gotta keep track of the new times Mark posts.

[@stuffedninja1337]

I’m from New Hampshire, we don’t claim the deadbeat dad or insane ‘stepmom’.

[@damnmolony]

Story 1 - They deserve each other. A Manipulative KR girl & a doormat. perfect couple.

[@neonlights3739]

Story 2: OP’s neighbor is the GOAT

[@eddiekersey]

Story 1: OP deserves everything bad in his life, ALL his troubles are self made.

[@phionella7]

People who ask for help, then have an excuse for everything their partner did, really isn't ready to deal with the situation. this man is a lawyer with a son, and he's going to wish he thought more carefully when gf kills someone or is killed from her drunken stupidity.

[@kateemma22]

OP2 has a great neighbour. Owes her a nice dinner.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Yeah! I was just checking where my morning show was. Now, My morning just improved tenfold. Thank you Mark. Good morning, waffle gang!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗

[@duboisstewart8265]

I love how in story one OP posts to reddit for advice then gets mad at ppl for giving.....advice? No one will gaf when he comes to update that she left him for that same dude

[@agentzapdos4960]

Nah, she's going to stay with OP. He's a lawyer with money who is going to raise the other guy's child. The guy that smirked and refused the $40 because he nutted in her.

[@scruffylookingNerfherder5742]

My God the "stepmother" in the second story is about as nutty as a snicker's bar! Really hope we get to hear an update on that 1 sometime soon.

[@BlackIsALightShade]

whew boy, that 1st relationship sounds toxic. he cheated in the past. she’s heavily indicating that she cheated (by her weird behaviors). and she was fine with drunk driving and lied about it to her partner. partner even offered to pay for an uber. he is being pushed into a parental dynamic with her. that relationship is doomed if they don’t get professional relationship help & she doesn’t seek help for trauma and substance abuse. i pity them both. maybe they don’t deserve my sympathy, but i still feel bad for what they’re putting each other through. hope they get the help they desperately need.

[@TruthSayer2007]

Story 1: Relationships like that never last

[@ndawn90]

Wow, OP1 and his girlfriend absolutely deserve each other!! Two toxic, deeply insecure, deeply immature people who clearly get off on the soap opera high school level relationship. It's just sad that OP1 has a son. I sincerely hope the mother has primary custody because clearly OP1 only has enough room in his life for two children - him and his girlfriend.

[@bunnyslippers191]

Yeah, their relationship is built entirely on having the same sexual kinks and drugs. It's not going to end well and I just hope they don't bring the son down with them. What a clusterfuck.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

That step mom is like a homeless dude you try to avoid eye contact with on the street: some people, if you’re on their radar, at all, you’re going to have a problem.

[@onurkneezb]

Story 1: Yeah, this guy deserves everything his GF is doing/going to do to him...

[@jackwatt8988]

1: I would have been calling 999 immediately when it was confirmed the guy was drunk, then I would break up with the person I'm dating.

[@sarahlyon157]

Story 1: I see a pharaoh there... king of denial.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 2: OMG, you must get cameras installed, restraining order or not. Sue her for every single dime of damages, including the door and lock. Double, and even triple, check to make sure that she did not steal anything at all.

[@shadesofjade]

10:58 op, you can’t describe her like a alcoholic party girl in one post, and then get mad that people are “telling you to dump her cheating alcoholic party girl ass” when you literally were telling us you thought she cheated and was lying about it. You can’t have it both ways and it makes both a unreliable narrator and an all around door mat at the same time. You shot yourself in the foot there, Barney Fife!

[@Marion-sb9gs]

Story 2--the neighbour who called the police is a great person

[@justaperson4656]

Strange compliment incoming: You are really fun to listen to while peeling oats! I grow salvia oats for my kitty, and its around harvest time for them now, so I have to peel them to store the seeds for next year in a little bag. I'm also trying new ways to grow them organically, like including clover with it, and testing those waters.

[@elkhair7]

Story 1: OP is defiantly lost on the river of denial.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

OP’s in Story 1 is a fool and is going to end up with a broken heart.

[@jackwatt8988]

2: wow, she's going to prison.

[@shojunx]

Story 1: op is completely delusional

[@sdragonfly5549]

Story 1. The OP set up a narrative, asked for advice, was big mad that the advice matched his narrative (because that's how he primed his audience), and doesn't see anything wrong with drunk driving? This OP is duplicitous in the way he told this story, paranoid that the gf is being shady, but he's also shady af. They are made for each other.

[@kitarrah1422]

Story 2: OMG! Can you imagine what could have happened to OP and her baby if the neighbor had not called the cops? OP would have walked into the house with her baby! That crazy woman could have attacked them! I mean, if she's willing to break in and destroy their stuff, she is fully capable of harming them! 😱

[@mayamorabito1669]

The smirk meant: I've already been paid.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 2: "Stepmom" 100% was looking to leech off OP, she wanted to cuddle up and then ask for a place to stay or money, and got angry when she was turned away. When she broke into the house she was probably either thinking she'd barricade herself in the guest room or steal stuff, but when she saw all the nice things OP owned, I bet something in her snapped, like 'how dare OP have so many nice things and not give me what I want?!' and just started destroying everything.

[@LordBison98]

Story 2: The way Mark's voice faltered at 12:17 lmao same, man.

[@nairbvel]

In the case of "stepmom," the answer is easy: zero forgiveness. Easy.

[@paden1865able]

Just by the offering of information that you didn't ask for, she's guilty of doing something that she shouldn't have. Shady as a primeval forest, that one is.

[@rekslegiune6004]

Story 1. OP and his ex are two chapters made for each other..

[@coreymartin6486]

Story 2....I'm paranoid to think that stepmom is seeking human bonding since OP's dad died.....and could potentially kidnap OP's kid to try and replace the baby that was miscarried.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

I don’t like when people put the worst part of their partner on the internet and then get defensive when people perceive their partner poorly.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark

[@Tammohawk1]

2. I bet "step mom" was planning on not leaving. She's probably out of money and thinks she can squat in OP's house. Meth I bet is what she is on. That's what it sounds like to me. Makes people act crazy.

[@ultimatefree8637]

For everyone wondering it would take 19 hr 50 min (1,258.8 mi) to drive to New Hampshire from Iowa if you stop for food, gas, sleep. So it probably took her two or three days to get there. P.S: You would be driving across five or six states.

[@Impostor39890]

If she can lie to you, she can cheat on you.

[@cambriaofthevastoceans6721]

Story 1: OP has major blinders on

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: This is why age gap relationships are a bad idea 90% of the time! She’s still in her partying phase, and you spend all your time trying to make sure she’s home safe like she’s your teenaged daughter instead of your gf. You say you know she’s lying. She’s also drinking as an alcoholic? Why do you encourage her to go out drinking? There is no cure for alcoholism, no amount of time or limit of drinks that will mean she’s ok to drink, ever. Ultimately, she’s a legal adult and can choose to do what she wants and you can’t *force* her to make smart choices (especially when smashed) or come home at a decent time/not let someone drive her drunk, no matter how much money you offer to throw at her. It sounds like you already suspect she’s cheating, and you know what to look for. It’s your decision what to do going forward. Well, Reddit warned you, but there are none so blind as those who refuse to see. I wouldn’t recommend coming back here crying when she lies again; Reddit doesn’t tend to be a forgiving community at the best of times.

[@agentzapdos4960]

I can see the update already: Wife and I had a fight, she told me none of our children are mine. Well Reddit, you warned me. My wife and I have three kids, but today she told me they're all actually from this dude from her college class that she's been getting wasted and raw-dogging every day while I was at work and every weekend while she was "with the girls".

[@akoilngas1215]

Nothing wrong with age gap relationships between normal, mature people. This woman is 25. Like you said, she's a legal adult, and beyond that, she should be acting right. There is no more excuse about a partially formed cerebral cortex when you're 25.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@akoilngas1215 Agree to disagree. Both in personal experience (people I’ve known) and what I’ve seen on Reddit. Either people are at two different places in life (like OP and his wife), one ends up being more of a parental figure and the other a dependent, or, there’s a power imbalance and one uses it as a means of controlling the other and purposely marries much younger spouses. A lot of the time they have nothing in common, because for example she’s fresh out of college and he’s been climbing the career ladder for decades, she’s into partying and hasn’t figured out what she wants yet and wants to stay out with her friends at all hours of the night and he wants a housewife to host his work parties and raise his kids, not someone he (literally) has to remind to brush her teeth before bed. Once in a blue moon they’re both mature and compatible and it just works, but that’s few and far between.

[@akoilngas1215]

@@KE-hr4sb This woman is 25. She's not fresh out of college. She's not a child. She is an immature 25 year old hooking up with a guy that conveniently overlooks that immaturity. The statistics show that age gap dating has a higher failure rate than people of equal age. That said, it works when you have two mature people who share a connection beyond their pelvises. There is no need to eliminate people out of your dating pool simply because they are 9 years older or younger as long as you're getting together for the right reasons.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@akoilngas1215 She’s acting like she’s fresh out of college (still drinking and partying). “Statistics show age gap dating has a higher failure rate” Yeah, kinda what I was saying. I did not say they never work out, but, most age gap relationships are older men wanting a younger woman that they then realize they have nothing in common with/spend all their time parenting. Or that specifically look for a power imbalance because they’re controlling. Most age gap relationships aren’t healthy, which is why such a small percentage succeed. “There is no need to eliminate people out of your dating pool as long as you’re getting together for the right reasons.” Unfortunately, many that go for age gap relationships AREN’T in it for the right reasons, which is why a lot of them fail.

[@armink9686]

OP in story 1 is really the archetype of the nice guy. Wants to give 40$ to a guy who most likely just banged his girl. Having some self-respect doesn't make you a toxic asshole.

[@YellaBellaReno]

A nice guy who has a kid and does coke every weekend. No worries though, because he’s getting a bike! Lol

[@Yatolc]

That's not what a "nice guy" is.

[@armink9686]

@@Yatolc bro is literally trying to find excuses for her being a horrible person, she's the she ''settled''with

[@Yatolc]

@@armink9686 again, thats not what a nice guy is. A nice guy is a guy who entitles himself to sex/relationship because he's a "nice guy". The proper term would be "doormat"

[@armink9686]

@@Yatolc you're on twitter a lot. Nice Guys become adults, and yeah I guess doormats in the process

[@speiga]

She got split roasted. That is why the guy smirked

[@gojewla]

I am surprised she didn’t steal stuff.

[@wheelsndealz]

So basically we just can not trust OP in story one. this idea of flirting is the guy saying he's weak for getting drunk off a couple whiskeys? that's a very common (though admittedly unhealthy) things drinkers would say regardless of who they said it to/about. it does not indicate the guy wants to fuck her just because he said that. HE seems more insecure about his drinking and wants to read into things. and it's pretty much confirmed with his update.

[@MsBELLE7]

Story 1; am I the only person upset about the fact that a LAWYER just said he regularly does Blow on the weekends? Wtf....I'm sure he's put people away for that kind of thing yet he does it recreationally?....

[@agentzapdos4960]

Prosecutors aren't the only kinds of lawyers. Most of the big-money lawyers work for multinational corporations. You'd be surprised how much drugs there are at the highest levels of society.

[@spikesgirl9371]

He's not a prosecutor obviously because DAs do random UA. There are a hundred different lawyers from divorce to small claims to corporate to family law.

[@MsBELLE7]

@@spikesgirl9371 they all are supposed to uphold the law though. It's like cops smoking weed on the weekend but arresting someone for the same shit on Tuesday. It's bullshit. Either fight to change the laws or follow them....seems pretty simple.

[@spikesgirl9371]

@MsBELLE7 but that's not what your comment said. You stated he put people people away from drugs, and the only lawyer that can do that is a prosecutor. Way to change course.

[@MsBELLE7]

@@spikesgirl9371 they still uphold the law no matter what section of law they work in? And he never specified so he could very well be a prosecutor. Either way my point stands. It's s bullshit.

[@dandotvid]

S1: GF is sketchy as fuck and I would jump out of that relationship in a second. S2: How did "stepmom" even know where OP lived?