My Supervisor Has Become EXTREMELY Flirty But I'm Happily Married r/Relationships

[@GBunnyG]

Props to that wife for being so supremely in tune with her husband. What a healthy amazing relationship. But to hell with that boss.

[@mmakoshark]

right its really surprising considering its a reddit story

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I agree with you. That boss needs to be fired. 😒

[@robertx8020]

@@thecrowuknow Someone in these post says there is an update where it was shown that she is the OWNER ..good luck trying to fire her if that is true

[@bhutehole]

for real

[@kyleanuar9090]

Right, the other stories the wives added stress by adding more dramas by accusing 'infidelity' instead of support.

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 1: "she was deeply edmbarassed, she's going through some issues" Blah blah blah. She knew she wasn't going to get anywhere with OP, so she "apoligized" to get him to keep quiet about it.

[@Iflie]

She knew he didn't want to, she even made him stay longer by citing work and got in the way of his exit. She's not ashamed, she just thought this would work the way it would have with previous guys.

[@επιθετικόακτινιδιο]

Exactly. She knew damn well he wasn't interested but predators are turned on by resistance. She isn't remorseful, she understood that it will get her nowhere and she shouldn't push it Op should still be careful and record any meetings they have

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

Oh she’s got “issues” alright!

[@gloriavaldez1560]

Yup she didn't want get in trouble with hr.

[@cathybaldry7822]

Embarrassed only because she didn't get what she wanted. She deserves no sympathy. Chances are she has done this before, and this led to the trouble she had/has with her ex husband.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Honestly, she indecently exposed herself to a colleague, she deserves to have her career ruined for that. I hope OP went to HR before she did because she could unfortunately spin it as OP having come into her room while she was changing to some BS. People like her are predators and should be treated as such.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Truer words have never been said. Such predatory people don't deserve to have a career.

[@josephedward7534]

I heard this story before. There was more info. His boss actually owns the company, and it’s a smallish company that doesn’t have an HR department. There’s a lady who kind of plays the role of the HR manager, but she and the boss are bff’s. Unfortunately there’s no one OP can really report this to.

[@pippo17173]

@@josephedward7534 Wow that is a instant bad luck there. At this point, Op should legit considered quitting as soon as possible.

[@anonmouse15]

Going to have to quit that job.

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 2… Unless she’s under a bed rest order, she can get her own food! I was cleaning house and cooking up until the day I gave birth, and I was hugely pregnant! .. I had horrible morning sickness with my first one as well ..

[@ondank]

Frankly, the comments are horrible for story 1. "Don't get sexually harassed" is not advice. "Don't jump the gun" is something that no one would EVER say to a woman in this place.

[@sorachitheeggo4440]

Can't forget about the golden "I hate when MRA hijack a women's post about SA" then proceeds to do the same "women go through this a lot"

[@tiryaclearsong421]

​@@sorachitheeggo4440I think that one was trying to appeal to women to stop assuming that just because it happens to women a lot doesn't mean we should give different advice to men.

[@soogymoogi]

​@@sorachitheeggo4440THIS, I came to the posts hoping someone else was as upset about this as I was. Yeah men are more likely to do this shit but people need to remember there's a real actual victim here and OP is making his struggles and the harassment he's dealing with all about herself and her ideologies. Fuck her.

[@ivyproductions7097]

@@tiryaclearsong421Well it certainly didn’t come off that way

[@pelgervampireduck]

I'm surprised most of the advice was basically "be careful" and not "TALK TO A SUPERIOR, DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, CALL THE POLICE AND GET A RESTRAINING ORDER".

[@AndyyWithAY]

I feel so bad for the first OP. Arousal is a biological response. You can't always control it. You CAN be aroused in an unwanted situation and/or when you're being harassed or SA'd. He did what he could. This woman needs to be fired

[@vykcryptid]

THIS - It seems like she's taking advantage of that too it's gross on multiple levels before you even bring in the fact that OP is married - like she literally imprisoned him in a room stopping him from leaving and flashed him it's weinstein level shit

[@thecrebain6760]

Him being aroused doesn't matter at all, I don't even know why OP stated this so many times. You either cheat or not, it is a decision made in the head. But I agree the woman needs to be fired.

[@nocando4037]

@@thecrebain6760 it kinda seems like he is ashamed of himself to be aroused. I've read that it isn't as uncommon for the victim of SA to feel that way, some even may think they are the reason why, which is not true

[@AndyyWithAY]

@nocando4037 That is correct. I've heard that also that's why I made a point to mention it in my comment.

[@pandytrashpanda5685]

​@thecrebain6760 With how often men get told, indirectly or directly that they're just primal beings with no self control whatsoever I understand why it worried him so much and why he mentioned it repeatedly tbh. It's obviously not true, but if you tell someone something enough times you'll make them doubt themselves, yk?

[@AndyyWithAY]

F being married. This is already gross sexual harassment and abuse of power. A boss should never behave this way. And OP shouldn't be shamed for not wanting to be frikkin harassed. Him being married makes it worse of course.

[@ScarabD]

Yeah if the sexes were reversed in this scenario, even OP would've realised how weird this is.

[@twit3537]

Unfortunately I worry about if Op did try to push the harassment to HR and brought up this incident that OP would be painted in a bad light/made it seem like he was sexuallly harassing her in private. She planned out the sexy underwear and luring him to his room in advance, so she is methodical and is good at planning. She also is a known manipulator so OP NOT saying anything would work in her favor because she could easily twist it on OP later even tho its a she said he said situation as women are more often believed. OP not accepting alcohol while on the trip for the most part was smart AF imo I think OP should, if able to, keep things between them on email as much as possible for a written record, try to always have a third person around if they discuss stuff in privaate (maybe see if they can get another team member to work with them, hell even an intern, because it sounds like they are mainly a 'duo' who work 1 on 1 a lot, so she could be more bold to do this stuff, and maybe a third person will help stop it towards OP, but Op needs to look out for the third person too lets be real!) and also no more talk about personal stuff except to counter about his loving wife if she does inappropriate things. Strictly professional talk from now on and if she does any intimate things (like the shirt thing, turn chair or body away while looking at the paper, move away if she gets too close, or just say personal space (loudly if there are others around so others can pick up on it as well)). I would not be surprised if it was a one sided emotional affair with the supervisor dumping all the stuff about her divorce on him made her catch feelings when he probably helped support her emotionally a bit (its hard not to if people are dumping emotional baggage on you without you looking like a butt). Her flirting and it working a lot probably thought she would be fine doing this to OP/he would go for it. Also if Op doesn't want to tell anyone from work, he should record incidents down, espeically when traveling or who could have been a witness, or have her admitting her wrong doings in text or email for evidence that she admitted to doing those things in case he needs to bring it up to HR. He needs proof and I hope the reason he isn't saying anything aymore isn't because his life went to hell in a handbasket but because he got a new job/doesn't have to worry about her or he forgot his password or something. (imagine if he made it on a company email tho and HR found the post/account, that would be an interesting plot twist and also explain why he wouldn't have access to it anymore (cuz its using a work email for personal stuff which is probs a no no).

[@a.b.2850]

Whaaat?! Him being married doesn’t change a single thing in this situation! What’s wrong with you?? You’re literally saying that if the man wasn’t married it would be less bad SA?! Imagine a judge asking a victim of SA “are you married? No? Oh well, that’s less bad.. she deserves a lesser sentence”. That’s a fvcked up thing to say.

[@twit3537]

@@a.b.2850 I think rhey meant that qlong the lines of she knew he was married, 3ven knew his wife, but still choose to pursue (sexually hqrqss) him. I think they meant it showed she was even more immoral (trying to iniate an affair thru the sexual harassment), not that it was worst for the victim because he was married versus not.

[@a.b.2850]

@@ScarabDso.. what is your point exactly? Is it that men need better sex education? Need to be better educated about consent? About the rights and wrongs? And where do you think that starts? A friend of mine, that’s 42 today, told me last year about how our English teacher in high school invited him often to her place, to “correct papers” but really was about fvcking her. He was 15 (and a late, late bloomer I might add!), and she was late 30’s. He sees this as an achievement, he’s proud of it, and wears it like a medal almost. I was disgusted, he was shocked that I was that disgusted. The guy has 4 children, 3 boys 1 girl, so I confronted him about “what if it happened to one of your sons? How would feel about it and what would you do?”.. he didn’t have much of an answer 😣 incapable of dissociating himself from his “positive” experience and be a responsible father to his boys, to teach them what’s right and wrong. Imagine. Thats how it’s never resolved. That’s why men get aroused when in such situations. Because of the toxicity that is still not addressed properly in 2023. I have a solution: it starts with them, men, and THEIR education and toxic masculinity! Men need to step up and teach their SONS about this, about what’s acceptable and what isn’t. A vast, VAST majority of boys that have slept with their dreamy hot teacher in high school (:legally SA/raped) will think very positively of their experience, see it as a “high accomplishment”, they’ll even brag about it to their friends, carry this their entire lives as a badge of honour, it will even make them feel good/better about themselves, give them self confidence and will NEVER, even refuse, to see the gross illegality of what happened to them… all because she’s “hot”, it’s “hot” that HE got to fvck her, his boys will think it’s hot and he’s THA king, and for sure none of them would ever call it for what it was, openly… because it’s still in 2023 a kink, a fetish, a boy’s dream come true. That’s a terrible cultural and educational issue, that its resolution should start with providing appropriate sex Ed to boys, not teens (that’s too late!), but boys really, at home by the parents, starting as early as 3-4 yo with learning about consent, theirs and others. Consent isn’t only for sex, it’s everywhere and about everything. [The little boy at the park didn’t want to share his sand toys with you? That’s ok, he has the right to, and you have to respect that he doesn’t consent, maybe another day will, maybe next time he sees you he’ll remember that last time you respected his non-consent, politely, which can make him want to play with you, another day, or maybe it won’t, and that’s still ok! If tou were in his shoes, you’d have the same right to say no, or yes, whatever you choose, but you will appreciate being respected and not forced to say yes when you don’t want to, just like he does today. But honey, there’s nothing you can do rn other than look for another friend to play with or make your own game 😌. ] So men, step the fvck up, and educate boys better!! Mothers can do part of it, because we need to step in for your lack or “comfort” around the subject (as if it was easier for us women to teach our sons about their bodies, about puberty, wet dreams, masturbation and their responsibility in regards to contraception!) but some part of that education really needs to come from their dad, or the kid’s most significant father figure. Take responsibility and stop dumping all of the education on mothers. But are today’s men ready for the task? Some are, but most aren’t.

[@Some_Idiot_on_the_Internet]

This is harassment. This is NOT flirting, it is harassment.

[@KittenUndercover]

I am a woman and I have been sexually assaulted (not just harassed but actually assaulted) by a superior. When I called HR (it was a major company, you have definitely heard of it). I was told by HR that nobody would care or believe me. This is an ongoing problem and needs to be stopped. Im sad for OP.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I am so sorry you suffered like that. My heart hurts for you and OP. 😢 If only there was a way a victim can come forward and get the justice they need and those predators the trashing they deserve.

[@artyamy7184]

But the issue her is that he is a man. Most likely HR wouldn't take it seriously due to that nonsense belief that "men can't be assaulted or harassed, and if they are a victim they probably wanted it" 😣

[@artyamy7184]

😢hope that you are recovering well ❣️ I agree, it needs to stop

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​@@artyamy7184The gender doesn't matter. They don't believe women either, as you can see from the story above. In general there's a major problem with higher ups taking the side of the abuser and blaming/dismissing the victim. You see it everywhere. In companies, in the church, in the film industry, in government roles. Whoever has the most power/money almost always gets believed and barely ever gets punished.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

So sorry this happened to you. I hope you're doing okay

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: This woman is a predator and has done this before. He needs to go to HR. Now. It is very common for predators like this to groom you and try to make you dependent on them so you'll be hesitant to report them.

[@HobieInTheBox]

Story1:: that's not called a primal male part, that's just called regular human arousal. Which can even happen when unwanted

[@JoltaeAndwae]

Story1: It's not avoid "hurt her feelings" as the comment says - it's avoid setting off crazy and retaliation. OP already set the tone that she's the only person going to bat for him at work against opposition in his work.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

That's some awful sexual harassment in the first story. Of course it can happen to men. I'm just so glad OP's wife was such a rock, and I really sympathise with not feeling like you can find a new job immediately or just call out the bad behaviour. It would be just and fair if the world worked that way, but unfortunately there can be repercussions for speaking up. I'm glad at least that he doesn't feel in physical danger, but ick.

[@DullestStar9299]

His wife was literally no help... No advice, no support... Just "I dunno," and a hefty shrug.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​​@@DullestStar9299Because there was so much she could do being hundreds of miles away.... 🙄 She was helping by sending the nude pics and listening to the husband. She was helping by not blaming the victim, by not dismissing his feelings, by not getting angry for "seeing a naked woman." By staying by his side on the phone. Who knows what else they all talked about, other than this one "I don't know" sentence. A little weird to say the wife was useless based on 1 sentence in a whole phone conversation we haven't heard.

[@Cheri8795]

​@@Nathan_BookwurmYa I think she was great and supportive. She didn't freak out and start making demands that he do things. She didn't get jealous and let emotions get in the way. I think not knowing immediately what he should do is perfectly reasonable. So many stories have people just 'reacting' instead of calmly comforting the person, if needed, and then agreeing to wait and think about things and talk about it some more later. I think it sounds like they have a great relationship.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

@@DullestStar9299 Sometimes just being there and being supportive is what a partner needs, not immediate responses trying to "fix" everything. And yes, I think she was definitely offering support!

[@DullestStar9299]

@@errantwinds-up8uu Okay. So, I'm asking rather than assuming - would you say the same thing if genders were reversed? If this was a woman being sexually harassed and all her husband could say is "I dunno" and send nudes as a pick-me-up, would you be less or more stringent with him? I'm not trying to bust your balls. I'd just hope you don't submit to double standards. P.S. I'm only keeping the same energy by holding her to the same standards that I do men. I hate double standards and I refuse to willingly participate in them.

[@Feralcottagecore]

A boss tried once with me at … cottage of pizza… he came in drunk one night and got a roll of wing stickers that said “naked” and started putting them on the front of my shirt. I was 18 and didn’t know what to do so I laughed it off and hid behind the cook. He was in his late 60s for context. It would be creepy at any age tbf

[@natnuss98]

Wow OP was sexually herassed by his boss and she had the pathetic nerve to say its 'I'm having a hard time' WTF

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

That's no excuse! ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ And that certainly wouldn't fly in court. I hope OP will be able to press charges for harassment.

[@kyleanuar9090]

The comment "it's easy to avoid"- not when you're risking your job and chances at other companies if the boss lies to HR doing background check.

[@simonO712]

THANK YOU!

[@danganryanne9499]

Thank you for seeing the common sense because some people couldn’t understand that bosses can just f you over 🤦‍♀️

[@llynxfyremusic]

A lot of the comments acting like cohesion doesn’t exist smh

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: What a toxic woman. It sounds like she uses her power to build up trust with her subordinates then intimidate them into having an affair. Makes me think her ex caught her cheating like this and that's why they are divorced. I hope OP gets a lawyer and writes everything down. Story 2: I'm glad OP sorted out what to do and communicated with his wife.

[@suehamilton269]

You have to be very careful when traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender. That means being vigilant. You did a good job meeting her in the lobby, but then you went back on that and went into her room. You need to make a clear statement that your wife and you have an agreement that you will not go into a coworkers private room on a business trip. You could have stood in the hall or gone back to the lobby. And hotels usually. Have a business center as well. Some people even stay at a separate hotel from their opposite gender colleague, when traveling for work. You did a good job of not being in the car with her by taking care of that yourself And you were wise to limit your alcohol use. You could also begin to record your interactions with your boss, so that when she crosses the line, you have concrete proof for HR.

[@cynthiagreske5957]

This was the best comment of all, reminding you to be careful as you can be, but also to record and document everything that happens, and also to do not be alone with her in your coworkers room, you can talk to her on the phone or you can meet with her in the hall and try to have other people around you when you two are meeting. You can put your phone on record without telling her what you’re doing and record every single conversation that you have and write it up as a journal entry with your date and your name and her name in a log recording what she is doing because it is blatant sexual harassment. Let’s just say that you given that you do have an affair with her, which I don’t think that you’re gonna do. Remember that movie with Demi Moore and she harassed Michael Douglas, and even snuck into his house and was trying to get him away from his wife, well, that could happen to you as well. Do not forget what you have at risk of losing. Your wife might be understanding now, but that understanding would be gone in a nanosecond. Should you get in. This needs to be reported and also I think that there’s probably a government number that you can call regarding sexual harassment cases and you can also talk to an attorney and do some preemptive strikes. If worse comes to worse, you could always leave the company. Don’t take any more work trips with her. She is a hazard and then when she mentioned that she would like to have a threesome with you and your wife, that is harassment, but I don’t think she meant really a threesome. I think she meant it to someone you’re it. You have to get a shiny spine and stand up for yourself and don’t be such a chicken because she’s perceiving that you are weak and vulnerable and she’s gonna play on that until the end comes. Also, do not keep this as a secret because the secret will kill you and your marriage. count your blessings and start documenting ASAP. Especially with a recording device and you could even put cameras in your office. I take this very very seriously. Good luck.

[@Joe-lb8qn]

You need to make a clear statement that your wife and you have an agreement that you will not go into a coworkers private room

[@Shaytan.666]

Apparently they don't have an HR in the company

[@rylashadow18]

S1) Well I can she why she's divorced. OP you need to got straight to your manager and HR with anything that's in text. You want to get ahead of this before even confronting her cause odds are she could spin it as you being the harasser. Never be alone around her again. If possible get transferred to a different team/ location. If she tries to escalate or push things you already have an documentation with HR. See what the consent for recording for is where you're at to get it recorded her behavior as well as you telling her your not interested. Also you should have stopped her the moment she started heading for that boundary. She now sees her advances as acceptable because they weren't shot down before. If you feel you'd face retaliation go above your work station and talk to an EEO representative. The most important thing is to document the harassment while your case is being made. Retaliation is illegal especially if your being harassed regardless of gender. If possible start looking for where else you can apply because they may make the workstation hostile seeing as they've had unfounded issues before hand. If you have anything that documents that be ready to hand it over to your EEO representative. See about bringing a sister or a friend along. She was so grossly over the line. OP you should've stuck to your guns. You need to document this, go to HR and file a complaint. If you need a representative there make it someone from the EEO offices. Don't just rug sweep this or transfer without making you case known. She could very well make you out to be the villian. Vile beings like her deserve to be exposed. S2) Being pregnant is never an excuse. Not sorry to say. If she wants something she's capable enough to speak it. I'm glad you two were able to work this out but you still have issues if she expects to pampered. Maybe look into PPD when this passes as well as therapy both couples and individual.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: No judgment, but wondering about the food choices. It does not seem like enough food for a pregnant woman. Milk and bread for breakfast??? Other foods mentioned by OP sound bland and light.

[@Daydream_N]

Yeah, pregnancy takes a lot of energy out of you, you need foods with more sustenance. She definitely can feed herself or tell her husband what it is she wants, but OP could offer better snacks

[@Dreamspawn1978]

"Its not just men women do it tooo" im so glad you realise it's a serious issue we need to stamp out for both men and women and how horrific it is. Watch them spin trying to get out of their own words after. Had this conversation a lot esp about rape. It's not a competition its a problem and an issue, the fact it happens to others ass to not detracts from the issues.

[@soogymoogi]

"It's not a competition" THANK YOU! There is soooo much "nuh uh i have it worse" in social justice discourse. Just ask a trans person on tumblr about "transandrophobia" and you'll open a massive can of worms lol.

[@llynxfyremusic]

​@@soogymoogithis lol. Gender wars around SA are so frustrating. I dont understand why the general consensus on it can't just be "being a victim sucks, there's always gonna be gendered excuses for any perpetrator"

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and currently in the loop of "I wanna eat" "You gotta cook" "BUt i don't wanna cook i wanna eat" "THEN COOK" "I DON'T WANNA!"

[@samalvarez8776]

Snacks

[@liabowden8526]

I just fought that battle myself! Food won. I hope u get a happy ending to your struggle as well!💚 Sometimes I grab a handful of chips to (1.) Stave off them hunger pangs for a second so that (2.) I have the energy/undistracted thinking meats to actually make the food. So maybe a lite snack can give u the pysh u need? 🤷‍♀️🤞

[@RoseKoneko]

Oh gawd I know that dance. Good luck my dude.

[@Bluefangs157]

Takeout perhaps?

[@misscheesecake7282]

Sandwich. 5% prep. 95% eating...no cooking

[@jodyknapp5374]

Oh this pregnancy story brought back memories. Not that I asked my husband to make me snacks but I was very very sick in the beginning, lost 11 pounds. We tried various foods to try and figure out what was triggering my nausea and upset stomach. We finally after 4 months found dishes that would not send me running for the bathroom. Peanut butter on 1 piece bread folded over was the only way I could stand to drink milk to help the baby. Hubby found vegetables that helped with nutrients by reading best diet in the book what to be expecting or something like that. We finally gained a bit of weight 25 pounds overall. Had a healthy tiny baby. 6.5 lbs He ate constantly. Then my poor husband was trying to feed me again as I lost more weight from breast feeding. That was 22 years ago. Scary and blissful time. Hope OP and his wife have a wonderful healthy baby.

[@vlastelinprislic286]

I remember story 1 from a different channel -- and remember how nasty it was to hear commenters putting it on the OP to prevent his boss from sexualy harassing him.

[@AutumnFire1414]

Story 2: Her body might be sending her signals to replace nutrients that she missed in the early months because of her excessive vomiting. I'd go with her to a visit to her OB. Just to double-check that she's getting enough vitamins & minerals. Many women are anemic and short on protein. If she's not allergic to peanuts, a spoonful of peanut butter or something similar that's high in protein might help. Weird food cravings, even when you don't know what you want, can be a sign the body needs something it's missing in your diet. *Just heard the update: yep, she was short on protein. Glad OP found a book to help and have made changes to assure the health of his wife and their baby. Wishing you the best, OP!

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 op should have been recording the whole time.

[@mericawillis2338]

Poor OP1, some people are really acting like men can’t be victims of harassment at the workplace. It’s really disgusting and a big issue. Audio record and send the recordings to HR

[@andreacorteztasayco1642]

This IS harassment. That boss should be reported and fired ASAP. What gross, sick person.

[@iamalbertwesker2]

Pre update and from that opening: thats not a work trip she's trying to take you on a couples holiday.

[@ronhall5395]

So your boss has begun to groom you. Time to stand up and protect yourself.

[@DullestStar9299]

Yup. Adult grooming. I just recently learned it was a thing...

[@Tammohawk1]

OP needs to go to HR over his boss sexually harassing him. I don't care what her excuses are, in my opinion, there aren't any.

[@josephedward7534]

I heard this story before. There was more info. His boss actually owns the company, and it’s a smallish company that doesn’t have an HR department. There’s a lady who kind of plays the role of the HR manager, but she and the boss are bff’s. Unfortunately there’s no one OP can really report this to.

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

I'm confused - shouldn't the OB/GYN be paying attention to the wife's nutritional needs?

[@ettinakitten5047]

Probably, but they only started discussing diet with me after my diagnosis of gestational diabetes.

[@buckeyenative1365]

I've been told the amount of time spent learning about nutrition while in med school is less than a semester. It would be better if patients were directed to a nutritionist and then the nutritionist can let the doctor know of any potential issues that could be concerning as the pregnancy progresses. They would also be the one best able to assist with meal planning and nutritious snack options.

[@Daydream_N]

I'm currently pregnant and my OB has never said anything about nutrition other than the list of foods everyone knows not to eat

[@rosiecheeks.k]

Story 1: OP and wifey are a dream team! Love the open honesty, maturity and communication wow!

[@atty7697]

Story 1 - she's not going through anything and she's not new to this. Who knows how many times she's done it.

[@jacobsmith5066]

10 full seconds and no views!! Blasphemy!! Great work Mark!

[@jennaleigh6049]

Nta she's pregnant she either wants something she thinks you can't afford it she wants meat, she probably has an iron deficiency tbh. Get her steaks

[@foureyedelf6151]

Yeah there was absolutely no protein in anything he mentioned them eating, except maybe a negligible amount in the milk. No wonder she was starving and irritable. Give that lioness some MEAT. I hope their little one is doing good now. He or she would be about the same age as my son going by when this was posted. I threw up multiple times almost daily for 7 out of 9 months, so I had to force myself to eat every time I puked because I was afraid the baby would be undernourished. I had to do trial and error several times to figure out what I could keep down, and it kept changing. If I had someone feeding me it would have been a load of stress off,but my husband can't cook.

[@trout512]

20:35 I'm sorry, what? Reading makes her nervous while pregnant? What, does she think the baby'll grow up to be a librarian if she does? I was all for this to be a feel good story, but naaaahhhh, OP got played. Girl's a diva

[@julianne089]

Probably a typo from nauseous. I had that problem with my first pregnancy... especially since OP said she’s finally just getting over the frequent vomiting from the first trimester-beginning of second trimester. It’s pretty common.

[@jenniferfoote5442]

​@@julianne089totally! I had horrific morning sickness with both my babies and even reading other than quick things made it worse

[@er-ha]

As has been said, almost definitely a typo for nauseous. Kind of similar to how some people can’t read without feeling nauseous when they are in a moving vehicle, some people can’t read without feeling nauseous while pregnant.

[@AnAmurTiger]

It was a typo. He meant nauseous

[@robertx8020]

@@jenniferfoote5442 I have the same problem when riding the bus ...I'm fine but if I watch my phone or try to read I get sick! I know it's not the same but the idea is ..as I bet there are some ppl who say "how can reading on a bus make you nauseous" Well, it does! 🙂

[@Some_Idiot_on_the_Internet]

Can't imagine why this woman's marriage failed.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: Why doesn’t she feed herself? She’s a grown, capable adult, not an infant. If she’s hungry, she can either a) tell you what she wants ahead of time (super easy road!) or b) make/order something for herself. Feeding her is not your responsibility even if she is pregnant. I’m petty, but if I were OP I’d be tempted to turn it back on her. Wife, pouting: “I’m hungry and you didn’t feed me!” OP, as he walks by, “I’m hungry and you didn’t feed ME, either.” I mean, what’s with her suddenly wanting him to feed her? Does she have some kind of new, baby kink?

[@er-ha]

She probably just has cravings and doesn’t know what. Also I’m not sure you waited until the end? Seems like she prepares food for both of them quite often; as in, she did prior to the pregnancy and is doing so during.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@er-ha I watched the whole thing. He also says she’s often indecisive about what to eat and would pass it off on him to decide. Her asking him to feed her is a new thing since being pregnant. Cravings aside, I still stand by my vote: she’s a grown ass adult able to walk her happy butt to the kitchen and grab a bowl of cereal or something. Is it what she’s craving? Probably not, but neither is what he’s making since he has to play Guess The Dinner. If she just wants something to eat - she’s more than capable of getting something. Anything.

[@er-ha]

@@KE-hr4sb He literally said when she feels fine, she’s basically always on her feet and doing stuff (including cooking) to the point that he wants to tell her to sit down and relax-kind of makes it seem like when she’s asking him for food, perhaps she’s not feeling so hot.

[@er-ha]

@@KE-hr4sb He also said they both usually try to “pass it off” to the other to decide what is being eaten. As I said, almost certainly she doesn’t know what she’s craving and during pregnancy when your hormones are out of whack, that can be stressful. If her response to that is simply not eating because she’s indecisive (definitely how some people react; common among people with ADHD for example), surely he would he thinking (more clearly) of the baby? Either way, seems like they’re a good couple who seeks to understand each other so alls well that ends well.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@er-ha Again, I did watch the whole thing. I don’t think it’s that she’s not feeling good, because she’s not saying “you didn’t tuck me in” or “you didn’t bathe me;” it’s only the food thing. It sounds like she has this weird new thing about being fed, specifically, but the way she says it almost makes it sound like she’s reverting into a child. Regardless, I’ve had three full term pregnancies. My morning sickness was so severe I had to be put on meds to keep me from losing too much weight. I had a few other issues that put me in the high-risk category, and I still didn’t demand to be hand fed. In fact, during my third, my husband was working out of state, and I had to take care of two toddlers and myself, while pregnant, on my own. Pregnancy takes a huge toll on your body, absolutely. Were there days I didn’t want to get out of bed? Yes, but I had little ones depending on me (as OP’s wife is going to soon). Was I so exhausted I had to set alarms to wake me up so I wouldn’t sleep through feeding the baby? Yes. But I took care of it, and myself, because I’m an adult, not a child. Is it ok to take care of your spouse when they are sick or pregnant? Absolutely. But if she didn’t feel good, she should have used her words. Ugh I don’t know why it just really bugged me the way she handled it. It felt childish and almost passive aggressive.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: I feel for OP. If he brings it up with HR, they'll take her side (as she's a woman), and then he'll be out of the job.

[@madarawijerathne276]

1st story poor op he's harassed and boss walking free made my blood boiling.

[@amadddd0]

HR is ALWAYS historically bad at actually addressing sexual assault. HR is meant to protect the company, not the employees.

[@karak5643]

200th like ! These videos are the only way I can get through my shifts❤ i’ve been listening for about 2 months straight so thank you !

[@Cjaj2]

That one comment pretty much said "I hate when woman sexually harass men because then we have to include male victims in the conversation"

[@froggymug7157]

YEAH, when I heard that comment I was like, “huh???” (The MRA (Men’s Rights Activists) bit low-key raised my hackles in that context; people like that tend to dismiss valid concerns raised regarding men’s issues and it’s just… big sigh. As you said, it’s almost like they begrudge including male victims in the convo. :/)

[@hausofphid3966]

Yeah, kind of a weird, out of left field take. Men who are victimized deserve to be heard and validated, too.

[@simonO712]

Yup, that made me do a double take.

[@danganryanne9499]

Yeah, and it’s sad that some people are like that :(

[@hothotheat3000]

Story one: dude, you knew she wanted you and you still went to her hotel room? My dude, come on.

[@akl2k7]

Yeah. He should have said "I'll just wait in the lobby." or "I'll just wait outside your room while you get the papers." Instead, he got the sight of boobs and unwanted arousal.

[@llynxfyremusic]

Standing up to a superior can be scary. I dont blame him.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

Really, OP with the pregnant princess for a wife? Cook 2 meals a day and make more than usual so that she can warm up her own damn leftovers when she gets an urge. Keep prepared snacks on hand to eat cold or warm up. When all else fails, eggs and grains are usually quick to cook. Make a bento box or 7. Stop asking her what she wants to eat, just present the meal and the snack/left-over options she can fetch herself.

[@jillimi]

I remembered a Reddit story that I hear last year, about a man who said his wife wanted a second kid but with the first pregnancy she became horrible abusive with him so he didn’t want another pregnancy. 🫣

[@MaryTheresa1986]

​@@jillimiSo you remember how that story was resolved?

[@jillimi]

@@MaryTheresa1986 I think when he told his family what was happening, they told him that they noticed she was abusive since a long time ago, apparently there where red flags that he wasn’t getting. I’m not sure if I’m mixing stories, but I think she told him that the first kid was for him (baby looked like him) and she wanted a baby girl that looks like her, I’m pretty sure they separated and I think he got the kid’s custody. 🤔

[@bajablast7175]

Never been this early! Refreshed youtube and suddenly a new Mark video.

[@gemma6515]

I find the responses to op1 fascinating. If the roles were revered and this was a male boss behaving like a skanky scumbag, people would be like, call the police, call the President, HR, get ‘em and ruin his life. But because it’s a female boss everyone’s like, don’t flirt with her!! WTF!!!!

[@vt4880]

He should’ve record her being inappropriate and took it up with HR. These guys act like they don’t have brain sometimes 🤦

[@paulastephenson1862]

Biggest mistake was going to supervisor's room. You gave her motive. If the roles were reversed and a friend's boss dropped his pants, I'm certain you'd encourage her to contact HR and I would suggest that you do the same or at least have your attorney write your supervisor to cease and desist any unprofessional behavior. That way, if there is any retaliation for not sleeping with her, you have a record to give to HR.

[@TheIronwil]

Last Story: I’d quickly lose my mind if my wife acted like this… and I love to pamper my wife. But to have someone being endlessly critical and negative, and expecting you to somehow magically know what they want when they want it… that’s the reasoning of a child, not an adult. I get pregnancy hormones, but there’s also a limit to how much unreasonable treatment anyone can tolerate before losing their cool.

[@Phatse]

I am trying so hard to explain this without sounding like I'm defending her and probably myself 🙈 I'm pregnant and 90% of the time, I don't know what to eat and it annoys my man because I am not the kind of girl who doesn't know what she wants to eat. He's resorted to constantly having cookies, simba fruit chips, apples and bananas. I never blam him but I cry when I don't know what I want to eat

[@Kal_57]

Story 1 : I think OP should continue actively looking for another job and leave as soon as he find it. Because I don't think reporting it to HR will bring anything good to him. He's in the company since only one year and a half, she's his superior and seems very efficient in her work, so if the company has to pick a side we all know who's side they'll pick. Especially in these MeToo times.

[@ceeshnia]

Eating some dinner before ordering a tool that will hopefully help with woodworking; I hope everyone is well!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Thats cool

[@FredRated1967]

That second story, just tell her "Wench, God gave you a mouth. Tell me what the hell you want. Or go make it yourself. I'm done reading your mind."

[@er-ha]

Hope you weren’t actually born in 67

[@Lestaticate]

Story 2: My mom told me she had a sudden craving for bacon during her pregnancy … and I guess she got on my dad’s last nerve because he cooked an entire freaking pound of bacon strips to hush her up - He gawked when she ate the whole damn thing. My mom was just as shocked. Couldn’t even get mad, lol. Pregnancy hormones and cravings are crazy, yo. I’m glad OP and his partner buckled down to plan out some proper nutrient dense munchies.

[@OpticalArxenal]

Sue that boss, she knew what she did and abused her position of power, trying to play the sympathy card is BS. She'd be fleeced if it was a man.

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

Realistically speaking sue her for what? if he tried to sue her he would likely lose. Most of the people on reddit barely took him seriously. Mainly putting the owness on him to not get sexually harasses. Most of what he mentioned could be up for interpretation in a court of law. "Oh she sat in a suggestive way to 'make' you look down her shirt?" "She hovered over you to look at your screen, she was just checking your work," and the hotel room moment is a he said she said at best. Or she'd straight up deny it happened. Op doesn't really have any good options here imo. Even if the genders were reversed these situations rarely go well for the victims.

[@OpticalArxenal]

@@ItachiUchiha-sh6of You can sue for workplace harassment. Ofc, requires evidence, but you can.

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

@@OpticalArxenal Yeah, I know you 'can.' I was being a bit facetious. But he would have a very hard time doing so. And the hard honest question would be is it even worth it.

[@OpticalArxenal]

@@ItachiUchiha-sh6of Getting an employer, at the very least, on record for sexual harassment isn't worth it? K.

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

@@OpticalArxenal @OpticalArxenal No, that's not what I mean and you know it. Think for a 2 seconds. There is a reason why many people do not come forward. Especially in cases like this. This is a real choice people have to make. Do you come forward and potentially destroy your career, likely for no real result? HR does not care about you. They are there to keep the company out of trouble. Which often means not helping the victims or straight up screwing them over. And if he took it to court he'd have a hell of a time. I'm not saying op shouldn't sue or go to court. Op should do whatever they feel is best for them. But the likelihood of them wining is low imo. These are all things that should be considered.

[@jackspring7709]

If it had been the other way around OP would have been fired and probably charged with serious SH.

[@pinklemonade8320]

She can't be fired because she owns the company sadly

[@angelaa7388]

This boss is a predator. She obviously knows just how to toe the line between friendly and flirty in a way that gives her plausible deniability. This guy says he does not respond to her flirting, yet she persists and escalates her behavior. And with a married man, no less.

[@AndyyWithAY]

My Korean fried chicken sandwich turned out amazing. The chicken and sauce were perfect. I even impressed myself. Made a small bit of ooey gooey bars that also looked and tasted great. I should by a lotto ticket. I'm killing it today 🙌🏾🙌🏾😌 Done with work until Monday woo-hoo. Hope everyone is well. I was trying not to say too much because I sometimes do then y'all make me create the longest comment in the history of KZbin WTF 🤣🤣 I'm kidding. I love giving the people what they want. If you ever want the recipe just ask I edited a recipe from Christie at home. I eyeballed the ingredients, used less for the batter because I made less chicken. Marinate 10 minutes to overnight. I marinated from about 8 a.m. to 2p.m. I don't math in public, so not sure how long that is. Chicken marinade: pinch of rice vinegar and mirin ¼ teaspoon black pepper 1.5 teaspoon regular soy sauce 1 tablespoon garlic minced ½ teaspoon salt Korean fried chicken batter: 2.5 cups tapioca starch aka Tapioca Flour depending on the brand. You can also sub with potato starch or cornstarch. I used cornstarch. 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 teaspoon garlic powder 3 teaspoon curry powder 1 teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon black pepper 2 teaspoon baking powder 1 ¼ cups water cold Sauce ▢1 tablespoon soy sauce ▢3 tablespoons rice wine or mirin. I used mirin ▢2 tablespoons apple cider vinegar or rice wine vinegar. I used rice vinegar ▢1 tablespoon gochujang, 고추장 (Korean red chili pepper paste) Omit for a mild version and add 1 more tablespoon soy sauce (Also see note) ▢3 tablespoons honey or corn or rice syrup (use 4 tablespoons) ▢2 teaspoons sesame oil ▢2 tablespoons brown sugar ▢1 teaspoon minced garlic ▢1 teaspoon grated ginger ▢pinch pepper I added a little bit of gotchu Korean hot sauce as well. Ooey gooey bars You can use any variation of yellow or butter cake mix, but I've been using homemade recently. I like the texture more. If you're using box just use the mix, 1 egg, 1 stick of butter. I made a small portion so used about half these ingredients. I eyeballed it. You really can't mess this up. DRY INGREDIENTS FOR CAKE MIX 2 1/2 cups (325g) all purpose flour 2 cups (414g) sugar 3 tsp baking powder 1 tsp salt To the dry mix above add 1 egg and 1 stick of butter, half if you want a smaller portion. Put the crust into a pan lined with parchment paper. 1 stick cream cheese, 2 eggs, powdered sugar to taste, probably 3-4 cups, pinch of vanilla. Half the portion if making half. I mix with a handmixer and pour over the crust. Bake on 350 the full portion will take at least 40 minutes, but check on it. Can take closer to 60. A half portion will be about 30 minutes, but check it. You want it to be slightly congealed in the center, if it's still liquid it'll never set. Know from experience. Still delicious, but sooo messy. Check it with a toothpick.

[@amazinglynn]

Recipe? 👀

[@RoseKoneko]

Oh no, I found myself envious of how delicious that sammich sounds.

[@isabellathomas1314]

Cmon, you can’t do us like that! Share the recipe if you’re gonna talk about food you made!!! 🙏 🥺

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@isabellathomas1314 Ask and ye shall receive haha. I updated with the recipe

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@amazinglynn I updated my comment with the recipe

[@hananahbananah]

Story 1 The whole time I’m just chanting in my head “Go to HR. Go to HR. Go to HR.” Unless HR is useless or worse, but OP never said anything about them either way so I gotta bring it up. I really hope he goes to HR and is taken serious.

[@mindyschocolate]

S1: that’s straight up sexual harassment

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark

[@tinapetrovicz9741]

Story 2 - I never get the I don't know what to eat people. My husband and I for years have done a weekly plan for suppers and included brunch on occassion. We did it to keep us organised when we had a little one and both worked full time. We could make sure we were eating a good variety of food. When money was tight we didnt waste food and used flyers to plan around what was on sale. I still buy meat on sale and but in the freezer to eat the fo!lowing weeks. The biggest thing is we don't just end up eating whatever and certainly not just boiled potatoes.

[@chamab.6800]

Story 1: HR doesn’t protect victims. For the Vegas trip would have kept a recorder on me anytime we were together. You have to protect yourself in these situations. He really should’ve started looking for another job. Nobody needs that shit. ETA: since he can’t leave yet. Start documenting everything. He’s going to need amo for when this eventually blows up.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

So the problem in story 2 is her not talking enough, and her hissy fit solution is to talk even less? Bro has allowed this kind of behavior and is now reaping what he sowed. Also. Boild potatoes? Bread and milk? Where do these two live? Soviet Russia?

[@marlieshilgersom]

The last comment got me. No wonder she wants food, she barely gets any real nutritions

[@caronavamoro]

@@marlieshilgersom yeah, and a handful of nuts? what?? who does that fill up, especially a pregnant woman, 2 meals and some nuts wont hold her over the whole day.

[@mercurialmelody]

I wondered the same thing.

[@bunnyslippers191]

If she wants more than that handful she can just get herself more. After lunch she had some "dry snacks" then some watermelon and when he asked her to please tell him what she would be wanting for her next snack so he could have it ready for her she got pissed and basically told him to read her mind. Y'all are talking as if she isn't a full grown woman who is *not* on bed rest and is fully frigging capable of walking into the kitchen and getting or even cooking her own food. You're talking as if he has her chained in the basement and is starving her to death instead of being given the run around by a woman who's acting like a spoiled 7 year old. She's getting breakfast, snacks, lunch, more snacks, dinner, and more snacks. They save the leftovers from dinner for lunch the next day. She's just playing him like a violin refusing to tell him what she wants, you know, taking responsibility for communicating what she wants instead of playing, um, no, I don't want, no, not that either, no, don't want that to all his suggestions and getting pissed at him for not being able to magically come up with something that will make her happy.,

[@caronavamoro]

@bunnyslippers191 something I've learned from love is that you have more patience than that for these types of things, when you really love someone, not to mention have your son/ daughter grow inside of them, nuturing them and creating your legacy, you learn to do more. I know it seems unreasonable to ask for things when you are a grownup and can do it yourself, but this is his wife who is creating his family. She is worth more than a few nuts for lunch, lol. Yes, she can do it herself, but she's already doing a lot growing a baby in her. It would be kind if he could offer a bit more food something truly filling. It's not that you have to 100% rely on someone to feed you. It's the act of love they offer to you. That's what is important. He is the protector and provider of the family (anyone can be, but in this case, keep an open mind). He can give love and patience to her, and that's something you simply have to have when you start a family.

[@pinklemonade8320]

Story 2: "My wife is not a pampered princess... it has taken me a while to get used to her high-level pampering expectations" 🙄😬

[@NemFX]

Story one: You should have drove home that night. Let her pick up the pieces alone in the morning. Or, you should have taken her up on the three way.

[@Write662]

Story 1: The SIL did what she did purposely, but the mom I have no words. As that other Redditor said, “Just elope.” Have a nice wedding without those albatrosses.

[@silverstarmoon5802]

The first story, as an woman, im angry on op's behalf. That woman deserves to be fire and never work in higher position. Op need to report this behavior and find another job because not every places aren't catching up the society progress. Because some believe women will never do heinous actions like men did in the past or women can't be predator or r@pist. Well, women can do everything like men do, in either good or bad way. Op, still need to report this but need to get out, just in case if she used the old female fake victim card and make the work environment unbearable for op.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@hvymax]

Hopefully she found a few volunteers. She seems to have seen the error of her ways and hopefully they can continue to be productive at work.

[@rebeccawray4602]

Omg 2nd story I didn't even hear the end before I was thinking OK. Protein. Different meals cooked and frozen if she dosnt want them rn But baby was obviously craving more than fruit

[@STB-jh7od]

1. STOP having lunch with her. 2. Find way out of trip. 3. DON'T BE ALONE WITH HER! ( Scary part is if he turns her down, she can reverse the accusations against OP, and he's guilty til proven innocent.

[@cpaul9269]

S1 - Bring your wife to the trade show.:)

[@Ars-Nova258]

I love how one commenter temporarily derailed the conversation about sexual harassment to go on about MRAs derailing conversations via stating that women can be harassers too… to then insult the female boss committing sexual harassment because she gives MRAs reason to state what they do. So you’re angry that a woman is harassing a man NOT because that’s wrong but because she proves men right about their claims?

[@danganryanne9499]

Yeah, I have no idea what was up with that comment

[@DullestStar9299]

That commenter probably experienced some things that prompted it; we don't know. But they didn't disregard what OP was saying - not at all. I think there was a lot of emotional baggage with her comment, and they may have known or know a man or young man who faced SA from a female supervisor. It sounds to me like they're in the middle of figuring out how to rearrange their new beliefs based on new experiences. I reckon she was probably a hardcore feminist at one point, but one view-opposing experience was enough to shatter that "patriarchy" perception. I say this as someone who has had a similar experience, except with politics. Needless to say, after finding out the dems were a bunch of nut balls and the GOP were... still reprehensible goofballs. Yeah, the transition is usually horribly awkward. Always evolve!

[@danganryanne9499]

@@DullestStar9299 That’s probably it but the entire comment just felt weird tbh I don’t know how to properly explain it but it just felt weird hearing it

[@AdamaGeist]

@@DullestStar9299 The problem is that, if I'm going to be blunt about things, that commenter has her biases and doesn't want to have to admit that the people she hates have a point. People pointing out that men and women suffer the same problems are not 'derailing' the conversation... unless the only conversation you want to have is about one gender being unique victims of a situation. It doesn't mean that they can't take it as a learning experience, but rather that they're NOT taking it as a learning experience (yet).

[@simonO712]

I know right?

[@ronhall5395]

Story 2, welcome to the world of pregnancy. Hormones are making her crazy with cravings. She has no idea what she wants, but it is not what your making for her. Just ignore her manipulations, and try to get her something tasty ready to munch.

[@deborahyoung1873]

When I got cravings while pregnant, I did something novel. I got off my ass and fixed what I wanted or went to the store and got it.

[@pinklemonade8320]

Ah yes the old "just put up with her manipulation"

[@Argendriel]

I hate hate HATE all the comments going "Oh but you can just refuse" - which damn part of "she is his supervisor and is in a much higher position/has more power" is so bloody hard to understand?

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Afternoon Mark 😊

[@frozenheart7133]

She says she’s really hungry and you offered her watermelon?

[@marlieshilgersom]

Ahh yes a watery fruit to fill you up for twenty minutes:). Has maybe one gram of fiber

[@adelag396]

First story: if the roles were reverse the supervisor would be fired or in jail at least here in Spain

[@lina9535]

I find it funny how people are so different with pregnancy. Two friends of mine were scatterbrained (we called it "pregnancy brain" and it was contaigous lol), while my sister on the other hand, might as well have been her normal calm self for both her pregnancies.

[@LordBison98]

Story 1: That's borderline sexual harrassment-

[@akl2k7]

Not borderline. Imagine if the sexes were reversed and a guy had a female coworker come to his room for papers and went to the bathroom. Then he came out wearing a bathrobe and wouldn't let her leave. While she's trying to escape, his bathrobe opens up, exposing his schlong. Nothing borderline about it.

[@ronbeyak9886]

Story 1; Hopefully OP does not give her an opening, unlike the opening his boss wants to give him🤪

[@ChangedWinds]

Story 1: That one comment said it all. Why is it, as a society, for us to come together online and bash on male sexual harassment but we're told we should tip toe and be understanding to female sexual harassment? This topic came up during a really messed up photo-op during the premier of Twilight movie three where the entire crowd was nothing but 40+ year old men screaming and fawning over a 24 year old female actor. Why do we celebrate girl boss when if we changed the sexes, we're grossed out and horrified by a similar photo-op of nothing but 40+ year old men screaming and fawning over a 24 year old female actor? The point: Sexual harassment is sexual harassment. Even when it's male on male and they're both gay, even if it's female on female and they're both lesbian. Fuck that disgusting woman and the power privilege she had over someone subordinate to her. Heck, get rid of the sex labels and read the story from there! If it's disgusting and pro-harrasser for one, the other is also pro-harrasser. Edit: Story 2: So OP and his spouse (after hearing their meals) are vegetarians who never tried to meal prep before?

[@cheskydivision]

I would have fired off a letter to HR right away.

[@heathercontois4501]

Story 1- i was going to say bring the wife, but shes working. After the update, file with HR.

[@emerald6182]

S1) that's all kinds of messed up, and that supervisor needs to lose her job, and probably find another career. I feel so bad for op there. He should absolutely report her. S2) while pregnancy is not an excuse to be pampered, it is absolutely, as one commenter said, a hormonal minefield. You sometimes have no idea what you want, but you want -something-. Protein is big. Consuming things like yogurt, cheese etc goes a long way in helping that constant hunger. When I was pregnant, it was all of the dairy, and I was lucky enough to have a partner who braved a snowstorm or two for my pistachio ice cream or queso dip cravings.

[@hvymax]

OP should casually bring up boundaries. That if he wasn't happily married he'd be on her like a horny teenager but he is.

[@mbyerly9680]

OP with the randy boss should have started recording on his phone the moment she walked out in the bathrobe.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@minavelez2009]

Story 1: That's just awful! I feel so badly for OP. I'm glad he communicated to his wife throughout the entire ordeal. I really really wish he would have reported his manager, but I know it would be hard to prove and he would probably wind up just losing his job and that's disgusting all around. Why do people keep doing this to subordinates? It's disgusting! And why do people put the burden on the one getting harassed to prevent their own harassment. That is disgusting, too! Story 2: Glad they realized their nutrition was awful. It is difficult to be your normal self with those horrible hormones effing with your head. And if you don't eat right during pregnancy, you will pay for it afterward in the loss of hair, teeth, nails, etc. Your organs will also suffer. I was fortunate, though, because my husband was on top of nutrition for both my pregnancies. He was some kind of food crusader, borderline nuts lol. I visibly lost weight my first pregnancy during the first trimester because I was so sick. When I was finally able to eat again, he lost his mind coming home with every kind of food trying to get me to eat constantly lol. He'd make me these mini-meals of every kind of food group in the hopes I could eat 80% of it. I didn't realize that not everyone gets this treatment from their spouse.

[@LisaApril]

Story one: do they have hr at this company? He should keep his phone on record and then go to HR with the sexual harassment complaint. If they don't believe him, he could play the recording. This is a trick sometimes used in court, Where a non-consensual recording can be used to expose a lie the other person is making. But this guy didn't get a spy cam for his office or anything, just shows how not proactive he is about the situation. He's not angry, just scared. Story about the pregnant wife: don't forget this diet after the baby is born because a nursing mother needs a lot more food than a Non-nursing mother. Also, you have a child in the house now and you need to set a very good example. Keep your healthy diet for the future and so your child is fed nutritionally complete meals and learns to cook those meals for themselves. It starts early if you want to launch your child into adulthood with success.

[@ReanetseMokhejane]

Story #1:OP has an amazing wife🥰 but I hope he went to HR before his boss Story #2: I know OP has to help with the pregnancy and all that but She doesn't have to be treated like she's bedridden 🤷 but at least they're working things out

[@MrBizteck]

Story 2 ..... Feed her ? Shes pregnant not bloody crippled! Ifvyour hungry then make yourself dinner !

[@FanFicnic]

My advice for story two is to make like 3 different casseroles, divide them in halfs, and freeze half. Clearly pregnant lady has got pregnant food brain. Haha sounds like she’s craving hot food with savory flavors. Having casserole she can just microwave and eat a big portion of until dinner is ready would hopefully help.

[@AwkwrdPrtMskrt]

If anyone needs an update, OP said in the comments that he talked to the super and she apologised to him and felt embarassed because she was going through issues.

[@browniewin4121]

1) I hope OP has documented all the inappropriate actions and comments on her part, and he needs to speak up about how some of her comments are inappropriateness and unprofessional and how it could cause a problem for her professionally. I think if the dinner she set up really was not for more than herself and OP, if he shows up and it's just the two of them, he should act like this was just a surprise and say, since they did not sho up he is glad to excuse himself and go call his wife. After update: This is terrible and I do hope OP finds another job and reports her to the company, her sexual harassment is so out of line. Get an attorney. 2) NTA, not a mindreader and it is reasonable to ask what she wants, and she is not incapable of feeding herself or giving specifics. Being pregnant can really mess with a person physically and emotionally, just give options and let her choose to make it easier on both. After update: It's so good OP has looked into how to eat better for supporting pregnancy and had figured out how to make this situation work better for them both and the baby.

[@Mischa21xo]

It really is infuriating the absolute cowardice of the guy who is getting harassed at work. He goes on a trip and his intuition is just literally screaming to not go back to her room but he ignores it like he has ignored it every other time, and what he was trying to avoid ends up happening... just like he knew it was, but tried to brush it off and still went to the room anyhow. Then when she is standing there without any clothing on instead of saying how uncomfortable he is and pushing her out of the way to leave, he just stands around looking the opposite direction like a total fool... when he should have left when she came out in a bathrobe like he said he was going to. So many chances to not go up to the room or to leave before that even happened, but he was such a coward. Sometimes you really just need to be direct and upfront with these people and stand up for your damn self like an adult should instead of trying to avoid confrontation like so many cowards tend to do nowadays. That will never lead to anything good whatsoever. Stop being a cowardly fool and be an adult. This is life, you will have to deal with confrontations, so get over it and handle it like a grown adult instead of trying to avoid it like a total coward and then having a total meltdown when the situation actually happens like an idiot. Just shameful and embarrassing that guy is. FFS! COWARD! GROW A PAIR DUDE!

[@cynicalminion]

There's a lot to talk about, but even considering waffles, daddy needs lovin'

[@Jessidafennecfox]

Yay listening while reading webcomics

[@rabies3297]

Which webcomics do u read? 👀 I'm looking for recommendations lol

[@amazinglynn]

Listening to a story while reading a different story? Talk about multitasking 😂

[@standinthegsp6858]

Look into the recording laws in your area. If you don’t need second party consent, record & document EVERYTHING. Male several copies. I’d say to eat garlic. Lots of it. But that might cause issues with clients. Never drop your guard. Don’t take any food or drink if she’s anywhere near it & never leave anything unattended around her. You probably should have a simple code you can text your wife so she can call you “urgently”. IE: you can text “9” to her. Then your wife will know to immediately call you with some minor “emergency”. Get an attorney & ask if, when you get your job, if you can/should let HR know what she did... you may save someone else from being se*ually harassed.