Girlfriend meets Korean guys during vacation? [Korea vs USA Differences Part 2]

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[@chervywong96]

Love how Jason is speaking from a female perspective, while John is that chill bf who confidently trust his gf 100% even if she is with hot guys 😂

[@KaleHello]

From a female perspective, I am a married woman, even if I was not, if I was committed to a relationship I should not be meeting other men when I have one. It is frowned upon in my culture and does not do the relationship well

[@mirroruniverse9331]

@@KaleHello Well it depends on the culture. Some girls have some guy friends too.

[@napperforlife2020]

I think it shows John is confident but Jason is insecure.

[@paddle_smith]

Sounds like you two never comfortably discussed the topic. It's fine if you have the assumption of full trust, but your partner might not be at that level.

[@KaleHello]

@@paddle_smith May I ask who you are in reference to? This was posted a few months ago. As a married woman, I do not understand why I need to meet up w/ other men? I have a husband and our commitment is for one another. This is how infidelity and temptation occurs when one meets w/ another person aside from their husband.

[@nancyv2503]

It’s nice when your partner trusts you 100%, but it’s also nice when your partner expresses a bit of concern or jealousy IMO. Like Jason said, I think everything in moderation is good as long as it’s not too extreme (I.e being too chill/not expressing any worries or being too controlling/jealous) Enjoying these dating talks!

[@lillianlouie4284]

I think there’s also an ounce of wisdom to avoid being in situations that could tempt a partner to make an unwise voice.

[@snowstar000]

John isn’t naive.. He’s just very secure about himself and the relationship.. 😊

[@victoriadiaz4507]

Honestly , I agree with both of you. Yes, as a girl I wouldn’t want for him to act in a way that would make me feel uncomfortable hanging out with other men, because like John said “it’s unattractive “ and it also demonstrates lack of trust. However, I also think that a certain level of concern is wanted, as long as it doesn’t cross over to him making me feel self conscious about my interactions and etc.

[@nuvang8684]

"People become petty when they're in love." It's like Jason was reading my mind when he said that. It's easier to stay objective when you are not invested in a person or emotional towards them. It can change when you meet someone who you are emotionally connected to. Many people become protective of their person.

[@emardy3081]

As my husband would say to me even after 30 years of marriage, “It’s not that I don’t trust you dear, I don’t trust them.” If I were to tell him that I was going to hang out with men he does not know, he would be concerned about my safety and me not being able to control all possible situations. He is concerned about me because he is unable to be there if I need him. You trusted your girlfriend but you probably should have been distrustful of her unknown companions who you did not have any reason to trust and expressed your concern in affirmative ways.

[@user-lh5uf7nz9s]

Exactly!

[@angelicac5543]

I think the qualities and traits you prefer in a partner solely depends on your personal preferences. For instance, I feel like Jason gravitates towards a “clingy” type whereas John prefers a “laid back” type of woman. Clingy is typically portrayed as a negative character trait in a relationship, but not every guy interprets clingy the same. In this instance, Jason attributes it with care and moreover sees “petty” as a positive attribute. Therefore, I think as long as you are being transparent and emotionally honest with your partner that’s all that matters. What works for one couple may not work for another one.

[@JBRODUCTION]

Angelica dayumm this is such an insightful take ! thanks for sharing the perspective

[@teethytang]

went through a pretty tough breakup 5 months ago (4.5 year relationship) and discovering J Bro shortly after was a godsend for me. just wanted to say thank you for uploading amazing content and helping me appreciate the single life again, keep it coming! 😜

[@JBRODUCTION]

U got it boss. Glad to hear that you are growing where planted !! Everything is part of the journey 🚀

[@aakankshasingh8459]

John its not about distrust but just showing your partner you care. Like in a healthy way not like obsessed !! coz then that's a problem too lol (very thin line )

[@mirroruniverse9331]

It also depends on the person. Some think of it as "concern" and some might be "annoyed".

[@aladyknight1314]

John, please don't let Jason change the way you think. It's actually quite refreshing to see a man who is super secure in his relationships. It's not about pettiness, it's all about security in the relationship. John is full on correct with this. Trust is trust. I've been "burnt" in that situation but that doesn't stop me from trusting again when I'm in a new relationship. Trust is one of the most important steeples in a relationship. If my partner has not given me any reasons to every suspect them, then why shouldn't I trust them? If they are going to do something bad, then that is on them, not on me. I am only in charge of my choices, not my partners.

[@pattyelizee]

😎👍 Agree

[@TheEugdel]

Thank you for your comment, it feels really good to (finally) read one like that. I absolutly agree about your last two sentences !! (And your whole comment !) A lot of them were saying that "Jason undestands women's point of view", but I absolutly disagree. We are just being taught that we should think like that... (worry when our partner is with persons from the other sex). We are taught that being jealous to a certain extent is ok, when it isn't. (Men can also use the excuse "I trust you, but I don't trust others", when it has nothing to do with the "situation"). We really need to realize that being in a relationship means trusting the other one, at 100%. But also that we are free to live our life without having to report it to anyone. (We are not the other's belonging, never, and they have no rights on us to decide who we can hang out with for example). Being in a relationship just means that we are commiting to one person and will not cheat on them (but respect them). It doesn't involve what the other person does outside of this (their friends or with who they spend their time). I hope people would realize that when they are dating, they don't belong to the other one. We can be independant and make our relationship work. Trust and respect are the key to a healthy couple, not jealousy or thinking that when a woman says yes it means no...

[@pattyelizee]

@@TheEugdel Thanks for sharing your profound thoughts! ABS🎯LUTELY agree with your comment too & well said when stating: "We are taught that being jealous to a certain extent is okay when it isn't." 💯 ⚠️ (PACK A LUNCH! It's about to get DEEP-UP-IN-HERE!) 🤣 Society & Culture has taught us to accept "Conditional L❤VE" behavior, which means...I'll love you "IF"... (fill in the blank with your conditions). Enjoyed seeing Jason demonstrate examples of this kind of POV mindset versus an emotional intelligence POV in understanding "How To" love "Unconditionally" which means...I love you because "I value & appreciate you" in supporting your happiness & healing. At the start of the video, John gave an evolved emotional intelligence response: "I just want her to be happy!" 😊👍KUDDOS! Please note I respect both of their POV as their "JBROmance Friendship" is a EXCELLENT & ADMIRABLE example of what "Unconditional LOVE" is all about. ✊😊💜 A Healthy L❤VING relationship is about "Appreciation NOT "POSSESSION", it's about "Supporting eachother's happiness NOT Being Responsible for it." It's about "Pouring into one another" from what over flows of our own fulfilled cup (like a fountain), for continued mutual personal growth. It is NOT about "SUCKING the life & energy force" out of one another (like a drain), for personal neediness satisfaction. With that said: When it comes to deciding to be in a healthy committed relationship, asking the questions: "What value(s)" does each partner bring into eachother's world?" Can Trust, Honesty and Respect be cultivated and sustained? Sharing similar standards & understanding each others love language compatibility is essential. Giving up your own personal happiness for the fear of appearing alone, feeling lonely or having to prove something in the eyes of society's high expectations is NOT a good reason to get into a relationship in the first place. It's N🚫T ABOUT....You complete me!"....It's ALL ABOUT.... "We compliment eachother's completeness." Would 💜 to hear "Dr. John & Dr. Jason's" feedback & reactions to some of the 🤔 thought provoking comments in their next "Follow Up" video. 😎👉 How about you?

[@8thousevirgin]

Agree.. I hope John never changes his innocent, trustful outlook on relationships. He is not being naive at all. He is secure, mature and self-responsible. The women who think that he should care are going for drama. It's a red flag. If I were the girlfriend, I don't need to inform him to get his permission, but I would if I wanted to just to let him know that I'm hanging out with new friends who happened to be guys, but not to solicit his consent. It's because I 'm free to decide for myself and I'm self- responsible enough not to make "mistakes" with the other guys. And if he goes out with a bunch of girls, he need not ask my permission. When you trust each other controlling each other is not an issue. The questioner was great in digging through the nitty-gritty complex situation of this relationship dynamics.

[@glennjammin]

I wouldn't say there is one "correct" way to think on this, it just depends on each person's own experiences. I personally haven't had much dating experience but knowing myself, I'm kind of a pessimistic dude and always think about the what-ifs. I don't think Jason was necessarily trying to mold John's way of thinking into his, he's just talking about reasonable and legitimate possibilities. To let the possibilities affect their relationships, that's on them. You could have as much trust in your partner as you could but I feel like most people have had thoughts of that trust being broken in the back of their heads at least once. Yes, you trust and love your partner but it's not IMPOSSIBLE that one of you could be unfaithful, John just doesn't let that get to his head. John has said he's never had his trust in his relationships broken, so he doesn't think that way. Jason clearly has had some issues with trust if he thinks differently, and there isn't anything incorrect about that.

[@liveforyouonly]

Jason is right. John: it's about giving the girl a sense of security, so she feels safe and protected because you expressed your concern

[@Lilian19951]

yes, exactly

[@Grace-xu7mv]

100%

[@cindycindy660]

Totally agree 💯💯💯

[@koul3709]

Lol, not necessarily at all. It depends on the type of girl. This is a difference of morality judgments, and the girl herself could fall in on either end. I'm more of a "John" girl, where I value giving one another utmost trust and autonomy.

[@giada7609]

Absolutely

[@danafelipe4527]

Really enjoyed listening to this. I love how Jason and John both had different opinions and coming together to formulate something new for themselves. I personally think that being confident and trusting your partner and their whereabouts is healthy but having those little check ins like Jason was saying is super attractive and positive too. 😊

[@skygreen9988]

I see relationships as there’s expectations set by each partner and if the opposite partner meet those expectations or not is each individual own responsibility. You’re adults making the choice to commit to being in a relationship and you both need to be accountable. I can’t force someone to do anything and I don’t want to. I expect my partner to know their limits and value our relationship enough to not push them. I don’t want to have to nag or worry every time they leave the house. One of my main priority’s in a relationship is to be able to have complete trust.

[@victorialing3111]

these videos are pure therapy (currently trying to stay sane in college) I wish you guys would start a podcast🤧

[@jazzupyourlife.official]

I can understand both sides.. like someone could feel you don't really care about them if you don't show any concern that they're with other potential suitors. But I feel like that situation comes from a relationship where there's insecurity about oneself and/or your partner. Like John is saying, he doesn't perceive them as 'potential suitors' because he just trusts whoever he is dating. Meanwhile, if you're the kind of person to ask questions, that also comes from a place of insecurity (again, about oneself and/or your partner). Because like.. why should anyone feel the need to report their whereabouts or ask for permission to do something? We're autonomous beings. So John is really talking about a healthy, secure relationship with mutual trust. And Jason's talking about manyyyy relationships that fall short of that. Also, lol that I said 'suitors.' Am I a HS English teacher? 😂 I was initially going to say 'mates' but that's the science nerd in me speaking and implies something wayyyy too serious 😂

[@wendhyrodriguez1472]

I like y'alls honesty, perspectives and this editing haha! Thanks for the video :)

[@EliBananie]

I think it depends on your relationship dynamic. If your partner is good at making you feel secure in the relationship, trusting them completely isn’t hard to do. But at the same time, if you’re the anxious one in the relationship and your partner doesn’t help reassure you and build trust to that level, you might have that concern when they go out with other people.

[@lovadrn]

I have similar thoughts like John but Jason got a great point too. But either way both should have trust and boundaries hehe. It's always fun to listen to both of you guys talking with different perspective as I understand both side. Please do longer talk next time! I really love this kind of content :D

[@LAdyLAq]

This was a funny conversation! I completely agree with John on this one. In my 20s I was Petty AF....but that wasn't love, that was immaturity. In my 30s, I now see that being petty and being concerned are 2 different things. And there's definitely a fine line between being concerned and distrust.

[@sw33tfr0styy]

Jason sounds like a therapist 😊 I agree with Jason about loving someone and having the right balance of concerns for your partner. John will find someone who will have mutual understanding of trust. This was a very therapeutic segment guys! Please make more of these 😁

[@Jespidi]

I was literally putting the same faces as John, because I'm that "chill". There is a difference between being concerned about the other person's safety and and being concerned (yourself) about trusting the other about their actions (and viceversa). Jason has very good points, but I don't want to feel like a nanny. Thanks for sharing guys, is always nice hearing your podcasts!

[@uduakantai981]

Sameee!! I had the exact same facial expression when Jason said people become petty when they are in love.

[@upthedown1]

Jason true that. People who are in love do react alot to their significant other.

[@Odaisy27151]

John you’re so cool, I get your point and I get Jason. As a girl I would want to feel like he doesn’t trust me but also when you’re boyfriend feels concerned and ask questions to make sure you’re safe I feel love and taken care of.

[@TheGlamstar28]

This is such a great topic, and I can see both sides. I actually had this same conversation a couple days ago, and I can definitely tell John from your answer you have been in healthy relationships, and that’s amazing. Wish that was the case for the majority but I think when you have gone through heartbreak, that 100% trust goes away little by little. It isn’t until you truly go through the process of healing yourself before you get into your next relationship that you can fully trust again. Unfortunately the majority of people don’t take that time to heal those wounds. But I agree it’s funny how it should be that simple as to just trust your partner 💯 percent. I believe that too.

[@ActualEbs]

Heck yeah! Part 2!

[@rehinrehin9686]

I've just realised I am more into John's mind set 😁 but I can understand Jason's point 😁

[@ever_present5581]

i've never been in a relationship so i like to think that i am saving these lessons that i am learning for the future. 🙏 it is nice to see different perspectives. i hope i'll be able to gain more insight about relationships. Sending huuuugs! ❤️

[@semyjung3382]

I really like how you guys talk to each other on pretty similar topics but always somehow never fail to make it fun and enjoyable! Please do consider launching a podcast, where it can allow u to upload more frequently and talk free from time constraints! :) love hearing u 2 talk.

[@semyjung3382]

Regarding to pettiness - i think when u are in love with someone, she/he is not just a person, but becomes more meaningful in ur life. She becomes ‚the’ one and a scarcity and you want it all to yourself. Therefore, you are more likely to be put in a situation where u are sometimes „irrational“ though the situation seems perfectly normal. That‘s why lots of ppl feel agitated and concered i guess.

[@tj_a]

Thank you for Part 2! been learning tons of things from you guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@JBRODUCTION]

Jason the love doctor is back in town 💯💯🦗🦗🦗

[@ever_present5581]

@@JBRODUCTION yes but still waiting for the stellar 'not awkward' acting from Jason 😂😂

[@thekristineway]

i honestly need a jbro podcast, i feel like these vidsa re too short and i want more content 😭 appreciate yall 🙏🏻

[@DopeyySaeSae]

Ouuuuu keep these kinda topics coming.. It's the most magical thing when men are vulnerable & very expressive.

[@janethjanairo5969]

wooooooow #thecontinuation 😲😲 I love you JBro❤

[@SamanthaCorrie18]

Love this perspective video between the difference of culture. I have to say John is not wrong when it comes to trust in the partner. I am the same, I am not a jealous person and I do not have too much concern when it comes to my partner if he hangs out with a group of girls or his best friend that's a girl. To be honest, if I was very serious with the guy, I would make a good impression on the best friend and also the sister. PS, you guys are are awesome 😍

[@hellojennifer520]

I'm actually on John's side! As long as he tells me what they are doing and updates me what they are doing once in awhile I think I would be okay. And as long he is reachable. Tells me when he got home so I know he got home safely! The only reason I would say no is if I knew someone in the group has feelings for him then that would be a BIG NO!!

[@hanaeelbouti5230]

omg Dr John are you the one on tiktok you re such a sweet person im glad I found you here !! I have just discovered the channel and im already learning from you both you re doing amazing thank you guys

[@anarosianu2283]

John I love your attitude! Trust is important in a relationship!

[@roseannerandoy1840]

I am really fond of this two. 😅 I am enjoying their conversations. They are just so chill. 👍

[@shadow5504]

I really learn something from this video. It's make my brain thing about it (jealousy+ concern+ trust+ love+ space) Tq JBro.. can't wait to see more from u guys..!!!

[@twelvemy]

Those sparks of thought 😂🤣💥🤯 is what keep us coming back for more...but you do you John, keep your POV, there's no right or wrong here, just compatibility.

[@MsNikkiCrucio]

I’m rocking with Jason on this one.

[@serenechang8531]

I’m totally with John on this one! If they’re going to cheat, they’re going to cheat. There’s nothing you can do. I 100% trust my partner until they give me a reason not to. What they do with my trust is up to them. It’s not my responsibility to moderate my partners behaviour and vice versa. We’re all adults in this relationship so I think each person should decide for themselves how they should behave in a situation and the other partner should trust that judgment.

[@ThatGmoney]

Cheating comes from the following. People who don’t know who they are, don’t have their own identity, who get into relationships fast do this behaviour and that is just an easy case because that comes from trauma and depending on the trauma. Get therapy find who you are and attract and accept the person who knows themselves, has self worth and boundaries. The harder cases is when we get into personality disorders, like BPD where they need validation to survive. Or, you’re. Wry unlucky and you get a narcissist where they need validation to control. Healthy relationships are based on how well you know yourself, do you have any signs of relationship addiction and how strong your boundaries are.

[@TheRafeTV]

Jason is asking the right questions, especially when he asked if isnt it more confusing if the girl is completely cool with John hanging out. Yep that’s really more concerning

[@HonourandBlessingCafe]

I agree with your conclusion, it's all about moderation 😁 I think its a fine balance of being showing that you care but also not going overboard and need to report everything you do. But of course, it ultimately depends on the person as each one has different personalities and expectations.

[@estherk.m]

The edits are too funny 😂😂

[@ActualEbs]

So I assume there will be a part 3? nice!

[@bettylee234]

JASON is 1000% right about this and John is very naive. Being madly in love involves a bit of pettiness of course, shows how much you deeply "madly" care about that person. Hence I love my man because I can tell how much he madly cares about me lol and never have to question him. If he acts too chill or indifferent then he's not madly in love with me like I am with him.

[@j6642-]

John you can have trust while showing your concern. You care about her but not trying to control her. I see your point because I met ppl that so extreme to control his partner somehow still saying that because he was madly in love. I agree with Jason too, that John maybe not in love, he will somehow learn to show his concern when he meet the girl. Love this video! Both of you are so cute 🥰

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

I could listen to you guys talk about various topics for hours ^_^ Happy to start catching up on some Jbro content ^_^ It's more the principle of the thing. If I'm ina relationship especially marriage I will not hang out with the opposite sex (unless in a group of people or family, etc that's ok) as a sign of courtesy to the person I'm in a relationship with. It's not that I don't trust the person but it's a sign of respect, love and healthy boundaries and I do trust the person Yes, it can be inconvenient however it really helps in situations to do this

[@ShayC143]

Miss these talks!!!

[@chasingrainbows9941]

Personally speaking, I love it when the person I am with can trust me if I'm hanging out with guys but at the same time I do appreciate a positive concern. I like my freedom and I don't like to be controlled, so the positive vibe that John have going is my flow. *is it just me or .... whenever Jason smile, you smile too cause I be smiling like crazy* Your smile is golden... Anywho, hope you guys are safe and healthy.

[@joeyc7914]

U guys are funny!!! Def Lol'd! Glad u guys are back to making videos

[@jeeshriyarajan]

I personally feel as long as there is good trust, one need not constantly check on the other. I feel the relationship can nurture more naturally when you have trust. This is ofcourse different when they are in risky situation where you need to make sure they are safe. However, on a normal basis, I prefer someone who can give you the space and freedom to be your own truest self realising that you are an individual on your own yet supporting each other to evolve together both in their personal and professional life. Damn! Such a freehearted talk. You both should start Jbro podcasts soon!!

[@pandatsik453]

Honestly this topic is a really great topic, I really love how the way Jason patiently trying to explain situations to John 😊

[@aznxxazn]

Although I’ve never been in a relationship before, from a girl’s perspective I agree with Jason. Showing a level of concern if she calls or something is caring and can give them a level of security. John is the set you free type and I trust you, which works for girls too but I think most girls would think more like Jason.

[@arianneagui9354]

early squaddddd 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@diannesurya]

I think John just being very confident. Period

[@hawordlee]

I dated a Korean girl for the first time and found out that I'm definitely too far on the chill side. Which isn't a bad trait, but it's definitely something that I didn't think would affect my relationship in a negative way. I definitely think there are some cultural differences.

[@bradleyf3224]

Jason has good instincts🤗 it really is ALL about MODERATION

[@SenorJoeBiden]

Such a productive and intersting conversation

[@Jenny-lh2ir]

I like this topic! ☺️ I respect both idea 👍

[@loumellealicaya]

@John, don’t change yourself just to adhere to these worldly standards. You’re perfectly fine!!! and I actually admire your sincerity. If people think otherwise, you don’t necessarily need to please them.

[@snowy_shea]

Guess best is to be able to maintain positive middle ground with your partner where there is agreement and peace whenever possible. It’s where you share your common elements. Thanks once again for sharing both your views with us! 😊✌

[@gracehuiernwong5270]

This talk is so funny..Initially i thought Jason is sort of a nerd but he impresses me that he understands how the relationship dynamics and mentality works! Whereas Dr. John, hellooooo are you there? lols..just joking. I enjoyed this talk a lot, keep it up.

[@dafnecolares897]

I have the exact same mindset as John and it was so funny to see Jason trying to explain the other side of things lol. I would probably say “okay have fun!” because that would be what I would want my partner to say if it was the other way

[@nayoungkwon8760]

믿음 없는관계는 끝난거죠!! ㅎㅎ❤️이런영상 생각보다 재밌네요~~

[@dulcesilva1407]

Llegué tarde ☹️ pero siempre veo sus videos!😊

[@hhaannnnggg]

I could understand both of your perspectives. We have our needs and wants. The other person does too. It may also change over time. When two people are able to identify, communicate and understand their personal needs and relationship needs, then they could work on maintaining their relationship and building trust. Jealousy, being petty or needing attention could be a sign that some relationship needs were not met. Some people need someone who shows some concern and quality time together, whereas others need trust and space (i.e., attachment or love style). We should not point fingers or pick sides just because we have different needs and ways of communicating. Work on being honest about our thoughts and that would help us find those who are meant for us. Anyway, reminds me of Goblin kdrama where the female lead mentioned the 3 "Bins". Won Bin, Hyun Bin and Kim Woo Bin. 🤣 Lee Dong Wook left the chat.

[@jackhansmiles]

From personal experience, if my relationship is going really well and is healthy, I give my girl 100% trust and don’t really worry about it like John. However, I become jealous and more insecure when the relationship is not going as well. I believe that we should try to be 100% vulnerable and trusting unless your partner gives you a reason not to be!

[@dfgyd1999]

Ohh….why this episode is too short, i love the content 🥺

[@minam1000]

The Jbros editing skills improving day by day 😍 would love to know what editing platform you guys use!

[@claudescorner2806]

I'd be happy to have someone who thinks like you John.👍

[@vanessamartinez24]

I agree with John, but I'm not sure if it's pettiness or protectiveness of one's significant other. Perhaps adding "just be safe" or "take care" or a quick message that shows you care about your significant other's safety will help without being suffocating at the same time. Love this topic & can't wait to hear more from you guys!!

[@gnieying7029]

I'm totally agree about Trust in a relationship. If two persons love each other, why doubt? Conversation is a key to maintain Trust. No hiding, tell everything to your partner, it help to maintain your relationship.

[@itsmejhai]

Every time I watch your videos when it comes to relationship now I’ve realized I’m too naïve with my past relationship 🥺. Sometimes trust issue is the main reason why the relationship will not work out. In my opinion, don’t give 100% trust to your partner especially she/he is far away from you because we don’t know what your partner do. When you truly trust someone without any doubt, you finally get one of two results: a person for life or a lesson for life. GOD bless for both of you & keep safe 🙏

[@131annejo]

Jason 👏👏👏.. Very well said Love adviser. 😁

[@mitzic7353]

Can't believe I agree with Jason for the first time 😂

[@santih6506]

this is how a single friend give a counselling session to their friend

[@mimibing]

Two sides with two perspectives.... very interesting but I'm gonna go with John on this one "if it's a person you fully trust, why do you have to have that doubt?" Well said and also the culture thing may have a certain role in some countries but I think the entirety depends on each Individual Not that I disagree with Jason.... true that showing concerns and care are equally important but not to the extent where space and freedom is bounded for your other half. To end on a funny note.....the look on Jason's face on the mad chill comment 😂😂😂😂😂.... hitting the like button with my Thor 🔨.

[@Manuela.p]

I think Jason gets it! When you work hard for something YOU take CARE, protect, and you pay attention to it because you know it’s worth a lot to you. It works the same way with the person you are investing your time with. If you don’t care that your girlfriend is out with other guys ITS A PROBLEM. Obviously objective judgment applies here where you do t want to be extreme over protective BUT as a woman I would want to know that my parter cares who I’m with not just because of safety BUT because I am important to him. Just saying.

[@pattyelizee]

🤣 I'm dying laughing over here! You two are hilarious how you banter with eachother. L💜VE the "JBRO"mance! John, you actually demonstrated "High Emotional Intelligence" and are clearly an Americanize Korean Man. Jason, I admire how beautifully you helped John see thru the lenses of a Traditional, Korean couple, behavioral role expectations. So it appears, John's Korean American POV did not align with her Traditional Korean POV & expectations. It appears Jason is more Traditional. Do you agree John?

[@JBRODUCTION]

insightful anaylsis! as you mention, jason definitely offers a perspective that helped me see other via other lens . he is great at seeing through other POV!

[@pattyelizee]

@@JBRODUCTION ABSOLUTELY 💯 agree with you John! Jason definitely knows how to Yin ☯️ to your Yang! 🤣 #jbro for life! 🤔 Wondering...ever heard of "The 5 Love Languages?" That also may have played a role in the different POV experience.

[@fionathomas2264]

I'm with John, tbh. I see this subject more like a personal trait, applied to both men and women, no stereotyping. There are people who typically super chill or as John said, trust based, but there are also people who need like "real" form of careness or concern, just like Jason's opinion. Those traits are not bad or wrong, they're just different. So this is the role of understanding and communication in a relationship.

[@jenniferxhong]

As someone who had been in a relationship with someone who was on the extreme distrusting side, I’d have to agree with John that it isn’t attractive and definitely breaks a relationship. It’s very hurtful on the receiving end to be questioned so much. I say that you should trust your partner until they give you a reason not to trust them. John’s view on things is refreshing to hear. Don’t change 😊

[@erickfrago7224]

Am an out and proud half Filipino and half Filipina, and I so appreciate this kind of conversations from both of you. Nobody's pragmatic or preachy. It makes me feel at home (not because both of you are handsome ah!) I typically avoid being close friends with heterosexual males because, well, I can't and don't dig the things they enjoy. It's nice to know there are still guys like you two. (Btw, I always have in my mind that conversation you had wherein you were asked between bromance or girlfriend. Wow, I wish I have a friend who thinks like that)

[@heyandi28]

John you are not alone on this one XD I really can't imagine myself in a relationship where my partner would be acting jealous or have a lot of concern in the things that I do. After all as Cupid once said - love can't live where there's no trust. (Greek mythology yassss). But it is also probably due to the dynamics of the relationship. I think in some relationships one or both have unsettled insecurities and they tend to project on their partners.

[@selnaish]

Petition for jbros to have longer videos pls

[@goldenclosetcover4069]

I agree so much with John on this...i never had a relationship before, but im sure i want a bf that would be chill like him when it comes to going out, i know i would be this kind of gf cause i believe that trusting is a sign of love more than worry...

[@heavenbound9157]

300% with John on this one

[@tylernguyen5586]

First!!!!! Also, beautiful hyungs!!!! ❤️❤️❤️🇰🇷🇰🇷🇰🇷

[@JBRODUCTION]

U r the most beautiful of all , bro

[@tylernguyen5586]

@@JBRODUCTION Thank you, J Bros!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@MaanasaKotha]

It depends on how you are as a person. I can get jealous with all types of relationships: Friendships, family, and SOs. I also want that level of concern back to a certain extent. But it’s because I’m not securely attached to people and it’s not something you can change sadly. It’s also about boundaries and what ur ok with.

[@nenk8750]

jason face was like loosing it 🤣🤣🤣🤣,, John really ???? 🤭🤭🤭

[@annichann]

I agree with both!😂 I think usually don't really get bothered if he hangs out with someone because I trust him. But also on the other hand, if you have experienced people who you couldn't trust, then you start to overthink. A little jealousy is a good sign I would say🥰

[@gul758]

You aren't the only one John, Im here too ✌️ you're not alone ☺️

[@counsellor_yang]

So funny and romantic conversations, i learned about dating. Thank you

[@suhyunkwon2864]

I agree with John 100%. What is better than being able to trust your significant other fully?

[@Ubiquitous_1]

Petty isn't really the word, it's that you'll kinda get jealousy or insecure because you don't want to lose that person. But I get John, he's secure in his faith and cuz no one's ever burned him like that. It's gonna be so interesting to see when he's in-love, like really in-love. Tuning in to the next episode of "John in-love", the latest most gripping kdrama with my popcorn ready. 😂

[@sushiann9469]

Omggg Johnnnn! It’s not being petty when you’re like being protective?! How are you so chill? I’d be so frustrated with you 😂😂😂

[@sapphireaqua]

I think relationship is also a work. As relationship progresses, you need to find the best balanced and compromising place that suit you both. Each couple is different. The best way to further any relationship is probably to communicate and compromise. Meanwhile, ‘understanding’ and ‘change’ should not be on an expense of other party mental too. In the end, you choose what you value more, your situation or your relationship. If you want to see the end together, change is inevitable. Be it change in both of you, or one party need to change. There is no perfect jigsaw from the beginning of relationship bc people value belief and aspect of life differently. One important key in my opinion is to be grateful, appreciate and thankful for one another if a change is made for the sake of relationship.

[@oscartang5598]

I completely understand both perspective. I have dated someone that video calls me only to prove that I’m home or not meeting anyone - that’s toxic. I have also dated some that are the chill type but still concern if it’s safe to be with them (or at least if they are good influence for me) One thing I learned from dating is, do not commit with someone that you couldn’t trust or vice versa. Take time to know someone if they deserve you trust or if they can trust you enough. There is a difference between caring and suffocating. 😊

[@arianneagui9354]

tbh, i think things and perceptions are jus different for different people and for different relationships. i think that’s why it’s important to venture out n find the person whom you can share the same thoughts and mindset with

[@lalaleah1761]

I like John's view on this. I don't think he's being naive at all. I've been in both situations and honestly the kind of person I am I like 100% trust when it comes to my relationships. I could be going out with the hottest group of guys and I'd hope my partner would know that I respect them enough to not do anything. Also it's not an aloof thing or a cool guy thing, its more of being secure in your partner. But in the society we're in a lot of people have insecure attachment styles so it's kinda normal for people to need a little bit of jealousy I guess. I really enjoy the thought provoking questions that always come from this channel 💜