Golden Rules for LGBTA Representation (Glass of Water)

[@NotPuffal]

I never realized that Ruby and Sapphire never say to each other “I love you”, like I don’t know why that point of all others really got to me, but the fact that they can’t even say that to each other, even after all of the allegory hidden shit that happens, is so awful

[@randomness5986]

The term for this is "gross." It's not just awful, it's gross.

[@GoblinLord]

I think what they were trying to do is the whole "Love so powerful it doesn't need spoken" But again, like most things in SU, it doesn't work

[@NoctrixVingast]

Honestly, Lily's videos are incredibly helpful to me. Sometimes you need to have somebody smack you on the head with a newspaper repeatedly, telling you that you're wrong and why you're wrong. So many glass over water episodes have gotten me to sit down, think, and realise that "wow, I'm kind of a piece of shit, I should stop that." I've changed opinions I've held my whole-ass life cause her arguments are just fucking solid. Keep up the good work, we need more people to actually have the balls to tell you that you're wrong and not being all "But that's just my opinion!" about it. The episodes about story writing are especially helpful to me as a writer. Like I thought I was doing fine, that I was a decent writer with decent plotlines and a decent cast, but yeah nope I was wrong lol. It was a bit hard to admit it to myself, but honestly I'm way better for it, so thank you Lily for telling me I'm wrong, I needed that.

[@cynicsittinginhisroomwithn970]

420 like's LoL

[@leaftiger12]

When I watched multiple glass of water videos, I noticed some things I did right, and some things I did wrong. The toughest but more rewarding thing you can do for yourself is to admit that you were wrong. I am so proud of you! Continue to learn and be open to new concepts!

[@PixieStarr439]

I consider my myself asexual and there is one bit of dialogue from my favourite book series that I love. “I’m not gay, I’m not straight, I’m not interested.” “Your sexuality is not interested?” “That’s right.” Don’t think this is relevant at all but I agree with every point and you’re amazing Lily okay thanks bye 😂

[@bloodfiredrake7259]

“I’m not gay, I’m not straight, I’m not interested.” I've had to say those exact words in three languages.multiple times each.

[@someguynamedluden1090]

That’s brilliant

[@castangred7713]

What is this book series called I need to read it

[@PixieStarr439]

CastangRed It’s the Shadowhunters series by Cassandra Clare! There’s a lot of books, I can’t remember which book this line is from, but I would definitely recommend you check them out!

[@noonebossesthegarnet2890]

Oh I gEt It, YoU’rE bI

[@gabrielbruce1977]

JD as the avatar for homophobes is too perfect. Also, as a nonbinary person having to listen to their friends cheer about Stevonnie? Thank you.

[@Ojo10]

He does strike you as the person, who feels entitled to look down on others who are different solely because he's bullied himself. I guess that was the whole point, that he was just a hypocrite.

[@pockystyx4087]

I really hope we can get more relationships like Sam and Luna have in our cartoons. Representation and killing off old tropes. Two birds with one stone. A very gay stone.

[@Nakoiter]

That is one good and strange way to explain it

[@kaleidoscope1588]

In Steven Universe when Ruby said "I want to be me, but with you, from now on being Garnet will be our choice" and they decided on a wedding, I literally thought that meant Ruby and Sapphire were going to be separate characters from then on, but in a lesbian marriage., only turning into Garnet when they chose to. But nope, the wedding was just to commemorate their 'fusion' something we've seen other gems who aren't in relationships do plenty of times over. Too vague, just let them be wives!

[@davidegaruti2582]

also like , do we ever see ruby and sapphire separated afther that point ?

[@nd_4726]

@@davidegaruti2582 well, other than the movie, for plot-related reasons and, and a few episodes in future, then no, they don't really unfuse after their marriage

[@Ojo10]

Yeah, when I heard that, my guess was that, because they first fused on accident, purely out of a desire to not see one perish, they felt like they always had to stay fused for both of their survival. It seemed to implicate that they had never been unfused after that point until jailbreak, and when re-united they immediately fused back in order to protect everyone. I can't even remember now the reason why they were unfused after one of them had gotten angry after the jailbreak episode, the one where ruby, steven, and Greg went on a vacation. In that case I would think it made sense, but yeah I think it might have been a stronger choice to only have them fuse when they needed to fight, though they seemed to be the only gems, who thoroughly enjoyed being fused, and being one, hence her pep talk she gave Stevonnie.

[@Cityweaver]

You are asking these alien characters to act like humans. Don't you think that's a bit... Unrealistic?

[@aceofclubs.]

@@Cityweaver their aliens, nothing is unrealistic with them lol

[@penn_]

I really appreciate you talking about non binary representation and the fact we shouldn't settle for the very little we've been given. When Steven Universe confirmed that all of Steven's fusions were non binary, I was that person jumping up and down saying "This is the best show! They're so progressive!". Oof. Thank you for helping me realize that I shouldn't praise that sort of thing. It hurts that I was that excited for such a tiny bit of what I wanted. Non binary characters should be recognized in show as such, and should be respected as characters, before you label it as "progressive".

[@LemonScentedSharpie]

"Surprise Mechanics" for homophobia ahh the laughter hurts

[@throwawayaccount9150]

Also I am loving the insertion of frames from a Heather's animation I recognized 😊

[@hayamihinata4135]

Me too. They were a nice touch.

[@throwawayaccount9150]

@@pindropquiet9732 Heather's is a musical

[@lpskayleigh5321]

I love Heathers!! Which one is it??

[@memoryblocks7792]

Finally someone talks about Luna/Sam in The Loud House. That relationship deserves more recognition. Surprised you didn't mention Clyde's two dads. Also, i think you should do a video on why Voltron is garbage like you did for Legend of Korra and Steven Universe. There are so many other issues with that show as well that aren't talked about enough (Them killing off Adam was only one of them). Love your content. Just subscribed!

[@mcmuffinbooper2333]

Tbf they aren't really very major characters so it makes sense they'd be ignored as that's what Lily seems to be focusing on in this. Major or at least semi-major characters

[@turkishvan2]

As an asexual, my response to people suggesting a character is gay with "I think it would be cool if they were ace," my response is this: They're not mutually exclusive! Sure, people can be ace and aro (like my sister). They can also be ace and any orientation of romantic (like me) Also, thank you for pointing out that vampires are assholes.

[@elpunpun8487]

This make me think about Todd of bojack horseman

[@aaamazing9888]

@@elpunpun8487 he’s a good ace/aro representation done right, I think.

[@jovindsouza3407]

@@aaamazing9888 he is literally perfect and the best example of ace representation in recent history.

[@amandachristen3454]

Or the reverse of your situation! I'm definitely bisexual, but I'm also pretty sure I'm aeromantic. I just... I've never felt any of the romantic 'signs', even when I can look at a total stranger and think, "yeah, I'd tap that." Maybe I'm demiromantic? But still, your point about real ace/aero rep stands.

[@EyeOfLyger]

As someone who's been indulging in lots of writing advice lately, Lily's criticisms are really on point. It's remarkable how great a message can be when you wield it with the force of a sledgehammer.

[@katieg1071]

As an ace person, thank you! We love you too, Lily! Also the three fists thing had me *wheezing* with laughter

[@thejest69]

"Your persecution complex is so bad that you don’t want things to get better for you, lest you lose that feeling of being hard done by, which is like cocaine for assholes." Damn that line hits hard.

[@NoodleNerd]

The fact that you used JD as a way to represent Sociopaths is hilarious (mainly because of the shit he's pulled in Heathers he might as well be).

[@KuruSeed]

i don't see this industry doing the bare minimum any time soon. like they have a hard time writing women unless a woman is at the helm of the endeavor.

[@samuelkremer441]

Best part. This is the second time they did this. That main character's best friend had two dads. Whom they on their appeearance simply introduced as "Mr McBride and Mr McBride" The Loud House in general simply has a spine.

[@log501]

this was actually something i’d been thinking about as of lately. so rarely do we see lgbt characters say they love their boy/girlfriends. i really hadn’t noticed it until i saw a thread about the show sarazanmai which has an arc about a gay couple where the major theme is this idea that so often gay couples in animation never can say they love each other or that they’re dating. seeing it called out ESPECIALLY in an anime was surprising, and i hope that going forward we start to see more people following in it and the loud house’s footsteps because it isn’t hard

[@nariathedorklord6262]

Tbh, those scenes from Loud House are so cute.

[@zzz43344]

Agreed

[@akirarose3947]

Rebecca suger and Noel Stevenson out done by the fucking loud house! That is a level of Failure that is almost funny

[@skeletonsinscarves3965]

Can i just say for the longest time I felt like a coward for not calling myself nb anymore. I stopped trying to explain myself and it was the worst decision I ever made, i settled for calling myself a trans male because it was easier to explain to people around me. I want to get better and i will, i promise i will. Honestly, i want to thank you for being the person to get folks like me out of this pit of self degradation you're an amazing woman Lily

[@shadowpuppet8192]

Praise be to Lily for fucking saying what needed to an said about absent romance classifying a person as ace in story telling!!! Fucking gawd that it needed to be said in the first place.

[@lauradane4436]

I love that you made this and I personally really appreciate the ace rant. Just thank you.

[@skeletonwizard708]

There's something egalitarian about the idea that all you have to do is plant your flag and commit to your objective. Gives one hope that things will better.

[@aceofspades138]

Aro/Ace here, and thanks so much. it means a lot to have somebody standing up for us, since often when I bring up the issue of very little representation I get told "You already have a lot, why do you need more" I want representation that isn't afraid to have a character arc, representation that has feelings of platonic love, representation that actually uses the word aromatic or asexual either within the media, or said by the creator (bare minimum) and acts like it. I suppose if you want to see people like you in the media you need to put them there.

[@greggleblom]

Brooklyn 99. This show does everything right, and if you want real representation, this is a fantastic example.

[@randompromises1038]

YEAH, AND IT'S ALSO SO DAMN HILARIOUS TOO. LIKE, DAMN, THAT SHOW IS REALLY GOOD. IT'S FUNNY, STUPID, KNOWS WHEN TO TAKE ITSELF SERIOUSLY, AND DOESN'T SHY AWAY FROM ACTUAL REPRESENTATION.

[@spacetacos7574]

YAS QUEEN

[@Howdy_Its_Ash]

How do you get married and not say "I love you" or "wife". I just can't

[@Mars_over_seer]

I have a question, in horror movies, who’ll die first? Black guy, or gay guy?

[@jacksont9455]

Anyone else loving the Sims 1 sound effects?

[@sofee6376]

Me watching Ruby and Sapphire's wedding: 😃 "I now pronounce you Garnet" Me: 😑

[@d-v1199]

Here's an alternative: "I now pronounce you wife and wife (or wives), you may now fuse as Garnet!"

[@nuggetwings5932]

When she started talking about axe rep I thought for a second she was gonna be like "ace people shouldn't have rep" or smthn and then she was like "YOU CANT USE ACE/ARO PEOPLE AS AN E X C U S E THEY DESERVE REAL REP" i was like 🤧 FINALLY SOMEONE SAYS IT

[@MoeMoe-ft7wj]

I'm glad you said this. I remember when I heard Voltron pulled this and I was genuinely angry because of course, it's one of the main characters' ex-boyfriend who gets killed off without us even getting to know him! I remember someone actually trying to justify it by saying that their relationship didn't matter but I responded by asking why they even bothered to bring him in if they were just going to kill him, it seemed spiteful. He responded to that by saying that's just how it is and that he didn't care and that's when I as well as family members who knew this was an important and very touchy subject for me told him to shut up, because he had nothing important to say if he admitted he didn't care. That's what I've mostly encountered with LGBTQIA+ topics, people rant to me about their very thinly veiled prejudices or I'm talking to a wall of indifference.

[@arielgalles2107]

I think I'd be funny if there was a show where all of the main characters are non-white, non-gender conforming, or all gay except for one character who is straight, cis, and white with blond hair and blue eyes. Then, the token cis white person is the only character to die.

[@WillowEpp]

Huh, I've never even _heard_ of Loud House. Cool. So what's this about you writing a... book? Comic? Where do I find out more?

[@thatoneemokid9030]

GLASS OF WATER IS B A C K!! YES LILY MY GODDESS💞💗💗💘💕💕💝💖💕💝💗💝💞💝💗💗💕💖💖💝💘💗💞💖💝💝💗💝💕💝💕💘💝

[@IcemanGame90]

Lily is the queen off KZbin!!

[@bedrockgemsonfire4127]

RLDovah Hear ye, Hear ye, All Hail The Queen!

[@nanoff815]

No, she isn't.

[@quiondasjj9293]

Lily I swear to my Gay God you are amazing. You’re an actual advocate for REAL representation that everyone in the LGBT+ community deserves. I feel a deep appreciation for good creators like you that care enough about your audience to educate us properly and make us think, unlike many of people who claim to be more thoughtful than you despite them making opinions based on their own prejudices and not actual evidence. You not only deserve a bigger platform, you deserve a supportive fan base and the respect that is given to weird people like Rebecca but bigger. Please don’t stop being such an amazing person. P.s. thank you for protecting us non-binary babies

[@eiffapearson4628]

Thank you for supporting us aces! And nb’s we need the help

[@akirarose3947]

I love your work lily everything you said in this video was 100% true i just got out of a toxic relationship where my boyfriend expected me to bend over backward and clean up after him (like his mother) and be open to having sex (which i told him up front i wasnt comfortable with) or at the vary least let him fondle all over me and when i asked him to help me with the dishes it was such a chore and he was to tired from working all day (yes he works doubles so we could live and eat) but he still betrayed my trust saying that i was the one with mental issues and needed to seek help when he wouldnt even take the time to wash a pot or pick up his boots and somehow i was suppose to be open with him touching my body

[@LilianOrchard]

I know the feeling, I got out of an abusive relationship just a few months ago with someone who callously dismissed the fact that I was raped in October and preferred to whine about how much of a burden I was in a post-assault state.

[@WingedRose96]

as an ace i appreciate the love and support 🖤💜🖤💜 and holy fuck thank you for harping on all this, these tropes are so fucking frustrating!!!

[@zeemaster374]

Ooooh, I’ve been waiting for the next glass of water. And now I have been blessed. *Let’s begin, shall we?*

[@your_SecondShadow]

I love how this still holds up as one of my favourite videos on youtube, still need to practice my relationship writing though for my stories though thanks for the reminder

[@Itsant33]

Also thank you for mentioning alabama

[@gayatriraghu9411]

Never before has a Lily vid made me want to hit the like button SO MANY EFFIN TIMES

[@bacchiguu86]

Amazing rant, someone finally said it, thank you. Also I need to tell everyone that in the Loud House comics, Luna and Sam continue to be cute girlfriends and I love those dorks.

[@firemaster9293]

I’m not into The Loud House as a whole but I do respect it a lot for giving us a great representation on LGPT+ and that episode where Luna goes on a date with Sam is just adorable ^^

[@TubeTAG]

"Writing gay relationships is not fucking difficult." I mean, not any more difficult than writing straight relationships. Writing relationships *at all* seems kind of hard to me. Then again, I'm a pretty shit writer.

[@fennwenn3317]

Google autofilled in "Voltron Partners Not Responsible" after the word "partners" when I went to look up the article at the end of the video. Thanks for directing me to an article about the Voltron flub that tackles the issue in a non wishy-washy manner!

[@arisymphony]

You sound more Canadian than usual today, Lily.

[@Spectralgamer135]

I gotta admit that I squeed a little when the loud house bit came up. That scene was so fucking adorable.

[@randomness5986]

I'm Catholic for God's sake (literally) and I do not understand why terms like boyfriend, girlfriend, husband and wife are so freaking difficult for some people to say or write out when it comes to gay characters. I wrote a lesbian OC for a fanfiction and had zero problem typing out the word "wife" and "married" when the topic of her spouse came up. It's not that hard, people! Terms like wife, spouse, married, etcetera do not have to be, nor should they be actively avoided just because the couple in question isn't a pair of cis-gendered heteros.

[@artisticcannibalism1350]

When RWBY handles a Married nonfetishized lesbian couple better than literally everyone else... Just wow.

[@vividBloodsucker]

From the same show, might I add, that decided to retcon a blatantly straight, and a probably straight pair of characters, into full-blown lesbians because some unhinged fans on tumblr made threats to hurt themselves or harass RT if it didn't happen... So RT Caved-In for the "representaiton" brownie points... It's good to know they've tried better with LGBT representation going forwards though, shame I'm not interested in the show much anymore after they killed 2 of the best characters in season 3 and then proceeded to tell Ruby "You're not special because of all the hard work and your natural talents that you've shown. You're actually special because you were born with magic god-powers!" which distinctly reminds me of Steven being Pink Diamond too... It's like they wanted to make them like Aang but totally forgot that Aang's growth works in tandem with him through the series and wasn't a last-second plot twist that undermines his own growth.

[@profanearcana]

In My Hero Academia there's a hero called Thirteen whose gender wasn't revealed upon the first introduction. I was so excited to be getting a nonbinary superhero! Thirteen is amazing, with a deadly superpower that they decided to use for actually rescuing people whose only real crime seems to be "being background character" which is honestly fine given the nature of the show... and then the creator had to come out and say "Oh, Thirteen is a girl!" Can't we just have this one little thing please... 😔

[@dorsab8627]

9:23 OOF on sugar and stevenson.i dont even watch loud house but that few seconds you showed was better than the entire catradora plot of she ra . I respect you lily❤❤

[@unityedits3722]

Todd from Bojack Horseman was the best Ace representation I've seen so far. Not being ace myself, it was the first time that it really clicked for me that asexual doesn't necessarily mean aromantic. I don't know why I didn't make the connection before, but poor representation probably did play a hand in it

[@papkinn]

It's fine i guess but as ace person it's not 100% accurate, asexual doesn't mean we hate sex and we're avoiding having it like we're phobic, this part with building sex machine to avoid any intimate contact by Todd was so... wrong same as final conclusion that we should date only other ace people because straights and gays are "too horny" for us. Asexual people do have sex and we can even enjoy it because we still have same human bodies that can be stimulated, we just don't feel need to have it but like i like to explain it: you can drink water without being thirsty and find it refreshing and same goes with sex.

[@unityedits3722]

@@papkinn oh yeah I got you, I realize some aspects were still poorly handled (to be fair, I'm sure some of that was just Todd being Todd) , but in comparison to other portrayals in media it seemed to be one of the better ones. No discredit to your input of course! It is nice to have perspective from an actual Ace person

[@papkinn]

@@unityedits3722 I'm just saying it sure makes people aware that asexuality exists but at the same time gives them bad idea of it so at the end we're still on starting point, Todd did really little to represent ace people outside saying "oh look asexuality... is a thing" and instead gave us "we're freaks who are scared of sex" badge we will be associated with from now on and to be fair i would prefer to not have any and be able to explain how i feel with free account. Sorry but after i came out and i heard "oh so like Todd from Bojack" and i had to spend literal weeks explaining i'm not afraid of sex avoiding all "haha just buy him a sex doll" jokes i can't say it represented me well.

[@unityedits3722]

@@papkinn fair enough. And at the end of the day, how you feel about Ace representation matters more than how I feel, since I'm not actually Ace myself

[@Cheese-Slime-Sheriff]

When I saw the wedding episode, I thought ruby and sapphire would finally be mostly unfused and be there own characters most of the time but NOPE! SUGAR HAD TO CRUSH MY DREAMS AGAIN!

[@nevehevangelista8692]

Guess what everyone in a later episode of The Loud House Luna actually says the word girlfriend! Isn’t the amazing? It’s almost like writing relationships isn’t that hard:)

[@Sleepy-Shortcake]

4:23 Ace enby (Demi girl) here idk why but hearing the two words in the same sentence made me tear up thank you lily

[@kevinshepard8783]

"admirable violent gusto" congrats, you eared my like, lily. (i'm both aro and ace. so.)

[@Talonistrying]

In one of the stories I'm writing, my main character is a vampire and she's also pan. Her girlfriend is a human lesbian. I really don't get why anyone would limit their lgbtq+ cast to non-humans.

[@HarmlessNightshade]

One "comeback" I hear whenever I criticise bad lgbt romance is "The romance isn't the focus!" Which a) doesn't actually mean anything, like what does that statement disprove? b) Just because it's not the focus doesn't mean it's free to be criticised and c) So many shows have romance as something on the side and nail it, Chandler and Monica are a particularly good example of being a great romance on a show that comedy is the forefront.

[@threestarproductions2130]

LILY LOVES ME! #acepride 💜

[@Cloversclues]

Three Star Productions SAME!!! 💜🖤

[@yumekoslefttoenail6746]

You’re so valid!!

[@corycorn8669]

#acepride

[@MFTQ]

Yesss

[@Tatsuya2014]

I cannot like this video enough. Say it louder for those in the back!!! I think some of these shows just need to hire you Lil y

[@hinakiba777]

I love watching your videos about LGBT+ stuff, because it gives me ideas on what not to do when I'm writing. Also, I'm happy I finally learned you were Nova Scotian because it was bugging me trying to guess which province you're from and now I know.

[@AllyStevenSeveri]

You nailed it! Great video!

[@zoeglass]

1:03 You forgot the NB terms. Let's go over them: NB equivalent of a boyfriend/girlfriend: Joyfriend NB equivalent of a husband/wife: Thouse NB equivalent of a mother/father: Theirent Thanks for your time.

[@conarcoin]

as a nb person i dont personally like these they feel kind of objectifying to me but thats just me

[@painslut]

If you want more classic terms ; Lover, spouse, parent. Also other terms coined by nb for nb Enbyfriend, ???, baba

[@Strikerkong]

If I make an LGBT character I'm either going to go all the way and mention it in show or I just won't do it at all.

[@Yaminoeyes]

If I, at five years old, figured gay was jsut Barbie and Barbie or Ken and Ken going the same thing as Barbie and Ken, an adult shouldn't have a problem.

[@TylireousGaming]

Yo I love the Kingdom Hearts music in the background. A very... interesting touch considering the topic of the video.

[@lalalallalallalalalla]

Absolutly amazing video, Lily, congratulations!

[@vadalee6301]

this video is so important and i am so glad you keep bringing up this issue. thank you lily!

[@lesbunnian]

YAS QUEEN BRING IN THAT TEA. SIP IT FOR THE PRIDE! No, but really. I knew I liked the loud house for a reason. Ever since I found out clyde had two dads and they aren't hated in the community for it. I was hooked! It was already a good show. Fun characters, good morals. Good animation, etc. But I just love how its ACTUALLY putting the fucking effort in and even now making a major MAIN CHARACTER a bisexual?? 10/10 great job loud house. And you too Lily! Great job calling out all of those homophobic assholes scared of committing to being a full homophobe because of the obvious loss of money. You deserve all the love, queen!

[@alix6767]

go off sis

[@Snailias]

One of the better things I’ve seen was in Schitts creek, the wine scene between Stevie and David. He just explains, “I like the wine, not the label”. It’s not over done, they don’t brush over it either and give him plenty of different gendered love interests in the show. I’ve always liked it

[@さくら-l8t]

This is something that Disney is guilty of a lot too. In the movie Ownwards, they constantly preached about having their first LGBT+ character when in the actual movie, she only made a few brief cameos. Same thing the live-action Beauty and The Beast movie. They constantly talked about how Lafoo (Gaston’s goofy sidekick) was gay but they never really explored that in the movie and just used it as a joke or to make him into another cliche gay guy stereotype. And when they showed him dancing with another man in one scene, it only lasted for four or five seconds! Seriously?! A lot of these big companies are all just talk and no action. They treat LGBT+ characters like a new cool toy to show off instead of as an actual character or person.

[@deboraluz27]

Anyone else replayed that "give me money" intro at least 3 times? Edit: alsow, "christians" who use "iTs aGaIntS tHe wIIl oF gOd" as an excuse for homophobia are moronic hypocrits, if same-sex relationships realy is againts "the will of god" then this means that god wants humans to procriate and survive, yet several churches despise and condem intercourse again because of "the will of god" and "purity" só are we making sense here? I know i'm just a dumb kid but i got more than 4 braincells and this dosen't make sense to me

[@straigtupjorkinit]

"You're implying that we are not allowed to be happy" This literally happened once in the Simpsons, ala The Burns Cage. The entire plot is based on how Smithers will always be sad as long as he's hung up on Burns, how he "comes out" (which he doesn't, by the way, the "coming out" scene was literally just: "You really like me, don't you?" "Maybe, a little bit, still") and it's praized as an example as something done right. The episode itself only says the word "gay" once.

[@krzysztofbyrtek7848]

I sat down to this video full of stress, ready to be judged as homophobic, insensitive straight man, despite trying my best with portraying homosexual men and women in my book... "You shall be judged by The Council of Gay..." *brings out the checklist* "No cloak and dagger hiding, openly in relationships, check. People die... after years of happy marriage, so it's a check... check, check... hmm, pretty good! Check! "The Council of Gay declares you an ally!" But without sill jokes now, I guess treating other human beings like, y'know... human beings, is all it takes to write a good character.

[@LilianOrchard]

You know, being judged isn't going to kill you

[@khloeraguindin6878]

It is a joke but I think you don’t like the joke do . I am not trying to be rude ok

[@Carbon_cat_foot_print]

Lily I’m so glad you exist

[@StoneKittyOfficial]

I saw loud house n was like noo I love this show n then boom you confirmed it thank you I was legit worried XD

[@AdrienAtua]

The only thing Kevin had that Sugar and others didnt is BALLS to do this

[@ThatGirl.Emilyyyy]

I don't hate Steven Universe, but I agree with your points about Garnet. I kinda wished you talked about Lapis and Peridotthough.

[@BexxiM]

An amazing video as always Lily, thank you for the inspiring content!

[@keondramcintyre3444]

Arthur did a better gay wedding.😶

[@casperchristiansen2458]

My favourite Maritime Canadian has returned. Also, CORONATION STREET DID FUCKING WHAAAT!!!!

[@skipatahl5365]

I get very happy everytime you talk about Noelle not having enough and then I remember season 5 of she ra...JSJXJKC I LOVED THE FINALE SO MUCH

[@jasmineeev.4386]

Now I'd love to see a follow up video to this now that we have The Owl House (and btw, if lily and mikaila do have a video like that, please just reply the link, thank you!)

[@hiya022]

Currently I'm watching an animated series on KZbin and what brought me immeasurable joy is that they actually have a nonbinary character! Like, they said "I'm nonbinary" and they're refered to as they/them! It brings me so much joy when a character is canonically called nonbinary, and not just confirmed on Twitter. Unfortunately, to find this on TV would be a Sisyphean task.

[@West_Coast_Mainline]

The loud house really confused me when i was younger, i didn’t know gay people existed. 4:52 ok

[@sonicspeedkaleb134]

So if I'm not mistaken, will we see more videos where Loud House is spoken about, or at least mentioned, in the future? You seem quite proud of what the show did with Luna and Sam.

[@bryonmurphy7049]

Your part on ace and enby people got me thinking. I’m writing a story where one of the female characters is a closeted ace aro, but one of the straight males has a crush on her, and I’m just struggling to find a way for her to come out without it being a “oh she just doesn’t like him” type thing when in reality her identification of asexuality for her personally is not having any kind of attraction to anyone whatsoever (whether it be romantic, sexual, aesthetic, etc).

[@zerozeroren]

Wow. Makes me realize just how much I love Honey/Mags

[@ysabellarivera8166]

Man, you can tell when a video was made pre-TOH season 2 part 2.

[@LilianOrchard]

Yeah the publication date's a real giveaway

[@hinata1ize]

My guy is so salty in this and it's so deserved and I love it! Edit: Idk if calling you "guy" is offensive. I just call everyone that, but if it is offensive please let me know so that I don't do it again. I've never had anyone tell me it was offensive until my friend of 7 years told me she thought it was offensive that I called her "dude" so let me know.

[@FrozenxDeath]

Everyone needs to see this. Like. LITERALLY. EVERYONE. Somebody for the love of fuck, send this video to the creators of all the shows Lily's calling out here. It needs to be heard.

[@eldritchone1319]

The only way I could see the "othering" stuff work is if the story actually unpacks that shit. However, that requires rebuilding the monsters from the ground up (like making them not monstrous and only assumed to be by the fearful), which most people don't do. And if they're not the only LGBT characters. And if being LGBT and being those monster/alien/etc. groups are considered separate demographics entirely and treated as such by the story.

[@justarandomfanner7164]

I feel the jab at the Dragon Prince for killing off two lesbians was a bit unfair considering they do have two lesbians later who do get a happy ending(as of season three). I am not saying the writing staff is without sin, I simply like the show and feel that jab towards it is a bit unwarranted.

[@faithowen4222]

JustaRandom Fanner they don’t say that the two are actually in a relationship though. Neither Amaya or Janai refer to each other as ‘girlfriend’ and most of their dialogue can be written off as ‘just friends’. Hopefully with the later seasons they will do these things but as of right now their ‘relationship’ is very strange, especially considering that Amaya was essentially given to Janai as a pet.

[@justarandomfanner7164]

@@faithowen4222 Ok fair point but, Runaan and Ethari. Yes, Runaan is trapped in a coin but he is clearly shown not to be dead and there is PLENTY of foreshadowing he is going to come back through the flower not being sunk. Also they hold hands which so fair has been a sign of a relationship in the show.

[@faithowen4222]

JustaRandom Fanner holding hands is a sign of a relationship? That’s still pretty vague and again can be written off a really good friends. And Ruunaan and Ethari only had one scene together, a good scene but still, one. As it currently stands, the show has not been very good with handling their gay relationships, and I really hope they can get their act together and start to handle these relationships better. Especially considering such a weak start with introducing a lesbian couple, who do not have names, and are killed the very episode they are introduced. I really, really hope that they can get themselves together and handle these relationships with the care and attention they deserve.

[@thechasmofalltime8312]

I'm trying to write my own story at the moment, and I'm trying to make sure I do it right. Watching these videos is helping me a lot! And it really is that easy. Writing a gay couple is as easy as writing a straight one.

[@ferenccseh4037]

I know it's obvious, but I just thought about this: You can't make an romance story about aromantic people

[@thenosieyartist6924]

Im so happy that not only do we have do we have TWO gay relationships (clyde's dads and Luna and Sam) But ALSO shows a bi character how before she met sam showed intrest in both men and women but actually STOPS AND ONLY PAYS ATTENTION TO THIER PARTNER AND STAYS WITH HER AND ISNT FAWNING OVER EVERY PERSON WHO WALKS BY!

[@conarcoin]

THE FIRST ONE IS LITERALLY MADOKA AND HOMURA FROM MADOKA MAGICA AND IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY BC ITS SO OBVIOUS THAT THEYRE IN LOVE BUT THE CREATORS JUST DONT WANT TO SAY IT AND ITS LIKE.. WHY? THERE ARE OTHER ANIME THAT ARENT AFRAID TO USE THE WORD GIRLFRIEND, SO WHY ARE YALL LIKE THIS *screams*