Grief and Loss After Betrayal

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@mbernert1 Ай бұрын

D day was 9 months ago for me, wife had been cheating almost 2 years. I found your videos about 2 months ago. Of anyone I have listened or talked to you Kristin seem to understand EXACTLY what I’m going through and how I feel. Thank you for your knowledge and understanding. We have 2 young children who are with me, she has been with her parents for over a month. My life feels like a roller coaster of ups and downs hourly, and nothing even needs to happen to cause it. No idea where we are headed but your videos are maybe the only validation I’ve come to find about how I feel. No one I speak to, friends or family seem to understand at all. Some of them just blame me.

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry you’ve have to endure so much pain. Wishing you healing. Thank you for sharing some of your story and for your kind words.

@MarieBender-np6vc 20 күн бұрын

I hope you now know it's not your fault. Once you accept it like really accept it it's such a relief.

@mnnew6772 Ай бұрын

Thanks for clarity of what I have felt stuck in for 6 years. Never had grief go on this long and feel like it will never goes away completely. It’s taken so long to just laugh at a joke again.

@Howielate24 Ай бұрын

I can totally relate , you are not alone. It’s been over five years for me …feel stuck

@wookietalk Ай бұрын

This helped me out so much I just wish my wife would understand and have empathy for the emotional cheating she did on me

@bushramalik9051 Ай бұрын

They don’t want to understand

@chiquitag794 Ай бұрын

She may never understand, relate, or validate what she did to you. Maybe even in her mind, in her twisted reality. She didn't do what you feel she did. And that's okay. I VALIDATE what was done to you. IT HAPPENED. IT SUCKS. IT HURTS. IT'S SAD. IT'S NOT FAIR. I had validated to myself. Because my partner will never really understand how deep his betrayals over the years had done to me. I also had to, after 13 years of no saying a word to another soul, I finally had to share with other people. I found validation from them. And it helped tremendously. I wish you a good healing journey. Be kind and gentle to yourself, my friend

@wookietalk Ай бұрын

@@chiquitag794 ty for your responses

@wookietalk Ай бұрын

@@chiquitag794 ty for sharing

@MarinaM-o6p Ай бұрын

I lost all trust in humanity after I was betrayed……I now suffer from CPTSD for my entire life ….the real truth of marriage was exposed to me …US and men taught me that loyalty and monogamy does not exist …..I was looking for just that ….at this point I am only looking to make friends . Good luck to everyone dealing with the reality of life .

@LisaSpanbauer Ай бұрын

100% accurate! I have felt all of that & it comes and go..... & it's been 2 years already. Definitely hard define people who will validate you. They don't understand. Definitely. Need counseling and/or a group Setting, which is really helpful, because you find out, you're not the only one.

@kimkaila9036 Ай бұрын

We become EXCELLENT detectives!!

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

It becomes an unfortunate but necessary skill.

@jmang5953 23 күн бұрын

🌻Thank you sooo much for your beyond empathetic videos that give us validation and peace. You are beautiful inside and out, truly can't thank you enough 🙏❣️🕊️

@CharcharBinks-h8u Ай бұрын

Theres HUGE betrayal when the ex monkey branches to another leaving you all alone. They at the very least emotionally cheated getting that next relationship secure if not full blown physical cheating. Who knows A door was slammed shut on YOU. leaving u all alone w.the grief, shame, heartbreak, trauma, abandonment, jealousy, anger etc

@brittmoore-law Ай бұрын

Kristen you're...awesome. this episode made me cry simply because I couldn’t NOT relate to a single loss on your list. I have claim all of them💔. But acknowledging it all IS helpful...deep down.

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. It’s so painful.

@PrincessBilia 9 күн бұрын

This is helping me get through my relationship crisis. I appreciate you so much. I've signed up on your website and will utilize your resources. I will also refer you to anyone I know that is having issues. You're an Angel 💓

@h7opolo Ай бұрын

i absolutely love this video. you understand this topic extremely well, better than anyone it seems. if I didn't know any better, I'd say you were centuries old based off of your wisdom.

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

Thank you. I’m so glad you find it helpful

@cajuncrackerranch7990 Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏 Kristin. Still processing… after 20 year marriage unknowingly to a clinically diagnosed ex-wife with FULL Spectrum Cluster B Personality Disorder. She destroyed everything including the lives of our 4 children. What these people do should be a criminal offense with capital punishment but no… the legal system supports these sick phucks and takes everything away from the man… even when you have the receipts. And women wonder why some once good men turn into monsters.

@richardosburn6152 Ай бұрын

My wife cheated all 28 years of my time with her. I stayed to absorb the narcissistic trauma she dealt to me and our 2 children. Now that I helped both my children get started in their own lives, which I spent my entire last 29 years on this Earth. Now that she left, stole our savings, and continued her smear campaign against me. It was so toxic the last time she abused me by almost killing us by driving off the road at full speed. I asked the police for help, and they charged her with attempted murder. I chose to leave the state and try to start over. My life has been changed for the rest of my life. My children love me. But have little or zero contact with her. She blames me for this. She is so messed up and does not live in reality.

@joanebel5207 23 күн бұрын

Yes! Thank you!

@MeMyselfandEye127 16 күн бұрын

A year later.. still can’t watch movies, listen to music anything that has intimacy involved just makes it hard to watch… every song on the radio has something to do with what happened in my relationship.. I can’t move on bcus how it ended, I was left, ghosted, lied to, no explanation except she wasn’t happy and it was somehow my fault but we never talked about any of that while we were together, everything seemed ok til it wasn’t… I’m sick this hurts more than someone dying

@adriennearterbury7841 Ай бұрын

I want to thank you so much for your videos. You've helped me so very much since I found you a month ago. I have been researching and learning from so many therapists and learning to understand what I've been going through and the trauma that has caused me to be in dysregulation for far to long. I consider your contribution in all of my work to be some of the most significant! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've ordered Life Annonymous and look forward to starting it. I would like to join a group sometime soon.

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing and for your kind words. It makes me so happy to know my content is helping others.

@dianelewis9458 Ай бұрын

Do your principles for healing also work for the betrayal that can happen with family estrangement?

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

@dianelewis9458 potentially? I’m considering starting a family/friend betrayal trauma group because so many people have been coming forward asking for support on this. So join my mailing list if you’re interested. I email it out.

@Howielate24 Ай бұрын

@@KristinSnowdenyou should!!

@keithachrem2872 Ай бұрын

Kristen your videos are great especially the one on Signs your partner is cheating. Thanks

@KristinSnowden Ай бұрын

Thank you. It’s a painful topic but it’s also confusing so I work hard to help everyone develop a language and understanding for what might be happening.

@keithachrem2872 Ай бұрын

@@KristinSnowden it happened 20 years ago but your video finally put order and understanding in my mind of all that happened. It’s remarkable how similar experience that so many people shared. The rewriting history thing had always baffled me, I was like what ? I didn’t remember it that way at all. lol. I can laugh now. But then it was gut wrenching. We made it by the way. I still harbor some resentment not for the betrayal as much as the mean things she said during that time. I try to say well that wasn’t her true self…. But was it ? Hmm.

@h7opolo Ай бұрын

pertinent topic for me.

@lindavincent678 Ай бұрын

So you’re saying it’s OK for them to walk away this sounds more like premeditated murder on the brain. It is a highly infectious thing to go through. I’m telling you I’m going through it right at this minute and it’s more debilitating than anything I’ve ever been through in my entire life.

@lindavincent678 Ай бұрын

I’ve known this person for 50 years. We got together in 1999 and the first few years or five years were awesome. I mean I thought I had my partner for life, but there was so much that was missing still and I didn’t know what it was I am an impact I should’ve known earlier, maybe I just didn’t want to have too much fun. I didn’t realize.