Grieving loss of a spouse over 70 - Part One

How I am dealing with this great loss and some tips for you that I have learned along the way.
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[@judygagnon6676]

My husband just passed January 13 2022. I dont want to be here without him. We would have been married 42 years on March 7th.

[@connienorleen]

I understand completely. It is a rough journey. Give yourself grace and time. 💕. Have you looked for a grief share group yet. It really helps! 💕

[@cathypressey1483]

I was married to my Tom for 60yrs. Going through & having the same feelings as you. Tom was everything to me. This is the worst thing I have ever gone through. I’m totally lost. The loneliness is the worst coming home to the empty house is really bad. I have never cried this way in my life. This loss hurts so deeply.

[@connienorleen]

Yes the pain is immense. When did your Tom Pass? I just passed the three year mark for mine. It still hurts but I did through this year a little better. Hang in there. I do have some suggestions for you. 💕🥰💕

[@barnabasschuler9025]

I am so sorry. I lost Jim on Christmas Eve 2021.

[@patriciawagstaff6302]

.My husband passed away on October 13th, 2021. OMG, you are just like me. I cry and fall apart wherever and whenever. ... I at times have to pull off the road to cry. We were married 47 years. We went to the same college but never knew each other until I graduated and we met at his job.. . It was love at first sight. I followed through his medical journey from ER to his ICU room. As an RN, I knew every step of the way that I was going to lose my man. My son and I were at his side, and we finally told him that if it was his wish, he could take God's hand and start his journey in Heaven.. I miss him terribly and cry every day. Nights are the worst as he is not there beside me in our marital bed. No one to kiss goodnight I love him so very much. RIP Richard

[@mariacvonloewenfeld6713]

Me too. The mornings are the worst,. Even after 9 months, the pain of the him being gone is just as intense as the day he made his transition. Like you, every where I go reminds me he is no longer next to me. This truly is the worst pain I have experienced in my life, even worse than living through WW2 .

[@connienorleen]

@@mariacvonloewenfeld6713 Yes I find nights and mornings are the hardest. Are you on FaceBook. Please come find me and send me a friend request and then please private message me and let me know we met here.

[@connienorleen]

Yes I find nights and mornings are the hardest. Are you on FaceBook. Please come find me and send me a friend request and then please private message me and let me know we met here.

[@hayleydryden8358]

Im two years in to grief.. 30 years together.. He died in my arms from a massive heart attack.. I live in limbo everyday.. X i hate life with out him.. I was very proud of my appearance now it takes me alot to run a bath and brush my hair.. Im so very lost with out him.. Blessings to all who are also going through this🙏

[@hayleydryden8358]

@@chrisjohnson2246 thankyou for your reply.. Im very much still grieving.. Time learns you to live with the situation but im afraid it doesn't heal anything for me personally.. Xx

[@africaafrican8931]

I can relate I lost my grandma/mama I even talked about it.my condolences. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXe9q6edrKuXoKM

[@izabelaswirkuzdrawianiesza545]

I lost my wife two weeks ago. I feel-so down , numb and I hate life. I dont want to be here

[@hayleydryden8358]

@@izabelaswirkuzdrawianiesza545 its a horrible thing.. I do understand its so painful.. I hope she comes to see you in your dreams xx

[@catherinejoannides2229]

My husband is in my dreams every night, but it doesn't give me any closure. Personally, I dont believe it means anything except I think of him from the time I wake up till I go to sleep. It is so hard to face another day, because its the same. Last summer and this summer, I missed barbecues and all holidays. The pandemic didnt help it either.

[@dededinah2]

You're my age and my husband died 2 weeks ago and had been on hospice for 6 months. We were married 56 years. I miss him so much and know I'm just beginning the grief journey. I'm thankful for family and church and God's comfort and peace, even though I cry alot.💔🙏❤

[@gailmargaretgarrepy8297]

I am in your exact situation. he was in Hospice, now I'm 3 weeks into my horrible grieving. Married almost 56 years. I cry every day and it is awful.

[@lorrinep1]

Cry all you want..I am crying with you. I am so frightened to lose my hubby. He is terminal and I just want things to go back to normal and it doesn't happen and I know it won't. I can't bear the thought but after listening to you maybe just maybe it will be ok. We have been married 55 years and I just don't anything else. Thanks so much for sharing...I know this is tough...hugs

[@connienorleen]

Oh Lorrine, I am so sorry for what you guys are going through. I know it hurts. Thanks so much for your kind words. If you ever want to chat you can find me on FaceBook at Connie Norleen. I am the only one. LOL It has been two plus years now and I am doing well most of the time. Please know I care and I am here anytime. ♥

[@cashainouno1035]

When my husband died, I had rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for watching and sharing. I hope you will subscribe and watch and continue to share. 💕

[@helenmiller3331]

I just lost my wonderful Husband Jim. I don’t know how I will make it without him. I am so heartbroken! I pray that God gives me the strength to get through this difficult time. 😢💔

[@connienorleen]

Hi Helen, He will give you strength. It is a journey so give yourself grace and time. Have you looked for a grief share group yet? It really helps. 💕

[@helenmiller3331]

@@connienorleen Thank you. Yes I am looking to go to Grief Share. Hoping to start one soon.💔😢🙏🏼

[@rhondaprater7361]

I just love you ma'am ❤️😘💕. !!!! I am 66 to years young !!! Never been married no kids. I thank. God for. Jesus!!! I know. Him as well!!! Take care of you!!! I'm yet listening to you in KZbin. My sister 44&half years he passed from liver cancer and she is in. Denton county. Corinth. Texas. He took his last breath at home. May. God ever bless you 🙏😇🏝️. Rhonda. Prater. Merced. Ca. May. God ever bless 🙌 you & cause. His face to shine !!!!

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Rhonda how are you doing

[@carolynwheeler8475]

Thank you for crying because it gives me permission to do so because you are genuine. We were married 53 years. Now I am one.

[@connienorleen]

Awe thank you. Yes it is a different world now. I used to cry a lot. Not so much anymore but always missing him. 💕

[@susanhundley1347]

Every thing you said is absolutely true I lost my husband 8 years ago and I am still grieving people still asking me why I am not married and it up sets me it hurts especially when they still have their mates God bless you for making this video sending hugs to you this video has really helped me

[@connienorleen]

Blessings to you my friend. I know what you mean. No one and mean no one can understand what losing your mate is like. It's like loosing part of your soul. I am beginning to move on with life because I know my husband would have wanted me to. But it will never be the same and there will always be a big hole there. I am on FaceBook if you ever want to chat! ♥

[@dianejens7054]

I just lost my husband to cancer 8 days ago. Married 58 yrs. So glad to find someone my age to listen to.

[@africaafrican8931]

My condolences I.lost my grandma/mama and I lost it.I even made a video about it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXe9q6edrKuXoKM

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

My deepest sympathy. I'm so sorry

[@mariepardi5851]

I found my husband of 45 years dead on the kitchen floor.....almost 4 years ago... I get lonelier every day but I Just keep moving....what else can we do?

[@connienorleen]

Oh my goodness Marie. I am so sorry. That is hard. I still look at the floor where my husband laid for 4 hours waiting for the coroner to get there. Yes it is hard but we do have to keep moving. I have many many videos here for us. I hope you watch others and can get some support through them. Blessings to you my friend. ♥

[@rabick62]

Lost my wife last year after 53 years. Men cry too, and I prove it everyday. I hope and pray that everyone finds some peace, but it is beyond belief how bad it hurts. Mr. Grief is always hanging around ready to remind me of my loss. This grieving process is new to me, I guess we crawl ahead a little at a time. May the good Lord Bless us all, and carry us for a while too.

[@barnabasschuler9025]

My husband died on Christmas Eve 2021. Gone 5 months now and I still have waves of grief pour over me and so, yeah, I am not doing much. I don't have friends anymore because Jim was antisocial and he didn't want to be social. I gave up trying to make new friends, it was too difficult to explain to them that I couldn't get out or even talk on the phone anymore. He got sick in 2010 and I took care of him as he. Got one thing after the other. I got breast cancer in 2019 and he took me to every treatment I finished in February 2021 but then we had to lockdown for Covid-19. So anyway life is strange right now. We were married for 51 years and it hurts. I don't want to replace him like a lot of seniors do, this is too long. Thanks for sharing, I really need to tell someone how I feel, that's what the shrink says to do. My dog is tired of me. 🥸

[@dorisbiggs2547]

In 3 days it will be 1 year since Kenneth went to heaven. We were married 57 years .He was my husband my friend the father of our children and my pastor. A grandfather great grandfather brother and friend to all who knew him. I miss him but I know he is healthy and happy with Jesus and I will see him again. It is a bittersweet time this week Kenneth pastored this church for 28 years and hopefully the young man that came yesterday will become the new pastor but it was hard to think someone else. It is time to move forward

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Doris how are you doing?

[@TheCraftyGrammy]

You’re like a prescription for us “in the same boat”, so to speak. You’re stronger than you think, and sharing that strength will make us stronger. My husband Ross, of nearly 53 years, passed away one day after a house fire. Talk about a total loss, truer words have never been spoken. Why God, why? The renovation of the house took nearly a year. I have now spent less than a month in it at this time. It is so quiet and so lonely, and I miss him so very much. Blessings to you and to everyone dealing with grief. Lord help us all.

[@catherinejoannides2229]

After 3 yrs. I feel t he same way. Its so quiet in the house. I still watch the TV Shows we watched together, but its not the same. I keep thinking things will get better, but they don't. I have lost faith in everything. Thank you for your kind words any any advice.

[@pattystephens5977]

My husband passed rather suddenly one early morning in our home, at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="390">6:30</a> in the morning. He was fine the night before. It was a total shock to me and everyone in my family. It’s going to be six years this coming September 21. I miss him everyday. He was such a good husband. I am 73 years old. I miss him so very much. I do not plan on re- marrying. Wishing you all the best.Sending you love and light.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Patty. Thanks for sharing your story. I think we will always miss our spouse. It doesn’t hurt as much but miss them, yes. 💕. It is a different time in our lives for sure. 💕

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Patty how are you doing?

[@melodyhernandez2482]

My daughter passed away nov 7 2020 she was only 32 then Jan 1 2022 I lost my husband he was 69. We were married 41 years. My life is so different now but I am so blessed cause I have my 2 wonderful boys. Of course I still do have my moments that I miss them so much. But what keeps me going is that I know I will see them again when we meet in heaven.

[@connienorleen]

Wow I am so sorry for your double loss. Sounds like you are moving forward. Just remember to give yourself time to grieve too. It isn’t health to stuff it. 💕🥰💕

[@roseyc.5846]

After twenty-seven years, losing him still hurts. I lost my world, so I totally understand. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️🙏

[@harrygeorge3220]

Hello Dear How are you doing today? Sorry for your loss

[@joannel2373]

Thank you for sharing about your journey. I am 2 months into this new life without my husband.

[@connienorleen]

Bless you. One day at a time? 💕

[@JayP-kd5rc]

Thank you for this video Connie. I lost my husband of 30 years this past January, so almost 3 months ago. I am having a hard time getting on. I miss him so terribly. But your words have given me hope that it will get better with time. I too am a Christian, and tho this time is so very difficult, at least we have Jesus by our side to help us through. Like you, I have no idea how anyone who doesn't know the Lord, gets through this. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I think you are a wonderfully caring person. I hope you continue to feel better. I think you are helping many others on their journey. Thank you. God bless.

[@janehavens3086]

I was so angry at God for taking him away and it was the first big crisis of fairh in my life. I cried out to God in my anger and asked him to direct the rest of my life and I have seen some blessings and everyday miracles as a result....

[@connienorleen]

I saw you left this message awhile ago. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you will subscribe and continue watching. I share my journey here. Also if you are on FB, come find me request we be friends. And last year I started a Widows group in FB. I would love to invite you. When you friend request me, Aldo leave me a message in the private chat that you would like to be added to the group. You will love the ladies in the group. 💕

[@JerseyGirl50]

Just at 5 months since my husband of 47 years passed. He had been ill for a while, not unexpected, but just not that day. It was right before Christmas. I was so tortured over celebrating the Holidays, but it was important for our grandkids. He wouldn’t have wanted to sit home alone so we all helped each other get through it. We all cried but shared so many memories & actually did a lot of laughing. Papa was quite a character so there were many good memories to share. My daughter’s in-laws were so supportive. Thank you for sharing your journey.

[@connienorleen]

Oh my. There is never a good time but yes right before Christmas is hard. I’m glad you have family around. 💕

[@patricianickson1349]

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, IT,S EXTREMELY HARD , I'M NOW NEARLY 5 YEARS, I'M STILL GRIEVING , YOU ARE VERY BRAVE TALKING ABOUT IT GOD BLESS YOU BIG HUGS , IT IS HARDER TO LOSE YUR PARTNER IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE LOST PART OF YOURSELF.

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Patricia how are you doing

[@bryannivens6696]

Thank you for sharring. I just lost my dad a yesterday in a very similar way. He was such a good father and husband. More than anything I want my mother to get through this process with as much support as possible. Your so strong and prey my mother be as strong as you💙

[@connienorleen]

Thank you Bryan. I’m sorry for your loss. If I can be of any help to your mom, feel free to share my video journey with her. I have several here as I journeyed through my loss. Blessings to you and your mom! 💕🙏💕

[@lightningdays4823]

Im going through the same thing with my momma 😢I don’t know how to help her. She’s aged so much since my daddy passed 😢

[@Lena-yj4il]

I "found" You today. I do understand your pain after looseing beloved person.My mother died 15 yrs ago and till now I miss her each single day. I do not know the feeling looseing a spouse, because mine husband left me while I was 34 yrs old.I was too old for him than, he found 18 yrs old girl.He left me and our daughter.I went through such a difficult time. It's so nice to hear, that there are happy marriages as You had.God bless you...Regards from Poland.

[@sheilajo5]

I am so sorry for your loss. My second husband passed away unexpectedly due to a cardiac arrest. We were anticipating discharge home Monday. I left him Saturday night at 10 pm. He had the cardiac arrest at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="760">12:40</a> am a few hours later. It took the ICU doctors 28 minutes to "bring him back". I knew he was gone and I needed make the most difficult decision in my entire life to say goodbye and turn off life support. It's been 1-1/2:years. GriefShare has been very helpful. I relate to so much of what you are sharing in this video.

[@cherlgolja5402]

Im a widow of 11 years now , your life will be forever changed, move forward and through the grief or you will never move Forward , only if you want too sweetie 🙏🏻this is your journey 🙏🏻

[@dianewilliams5271]

It has been 2 years for me. We had been married 45 years, and would have been 46 if he had lived 19 more days. I like hearing your experience. I have experienced some of the same feelings. It is good to hear from others that are going through this. I believe keeping busy has helped me a lot. My husband was a pastor and did not mind meeting people. He was my leader because I do not have the personality that he had with people. I have had to get out of my comfort zone and do things that I use to depend on him to do. I did not think I could do this, but I have learned. I thought I was over the grieving, but not long ago I went through a rough week, but got better. We were real close and did everything together. Like you say we knew each other better than any one else knew us. I think that is why it makes it so hard. Thanks for sharing your heart. It helps me to hear others talk of their experiences.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Diane, thanks for watching and sharing. I ad to learn to step up too. I totally understand. My Gar taught me how to be more outgoing and it has really helped me in getting along without him. I hope you will subscribe and continue watching. 💕 np

[@trulee663]

This is such a comfort to watch. Three weeks ago, I just lost my husband of 47 years, my best friend! He was sick and nauseous every day for 4 months and no doctor could determine what was wrong with him. They called it failure to thrive. That made me mad. That is not a diagnosis! He had 3 long hospital stays with every imaginable test. And no answers! They finally found an internal leaking tiny artery, had several blood transfusions as it got worse, but were able to fix it. Then 5 days later he had an “event” they said?? That was never explained. It appeared to be a mini stroke to me. He wasn’t able to speak but tried to form words. 2 days later he passed. I had spent every day with him all day long for 4 months, traveling with help from family to get to hospitals. Then suddenly he passed without me there during early morning hours. I had felt the entire time that he was going to get better. I feel the medical ppl let us down greatly. I had refused to give up hope. But now facing every day without him is the most devastating time of my entire life. Just hours later I was pressed to make funeral arrangements, endure a beautiful funeral, but then just days later sat in a lawyers office listening to a bunch of legal mumbo-jumbo, I just cried and cried. Why does all this have to be such a burden RIGHT after an unexpected loss? I am 76 and he was almost 80. We had hoped to get to our 50th wedding anniversary, but it wasn’t to be. Sorry this is long but perhaps it will help someone. Thanks to people like Connie and her video, it is a great help to know we are not really alone in our grief.

[@connienorleen]

Bless you my friend. You have definitely been through it!! Shock, loss, let down, and having to make final arrangements and decisions that were not even a thought. It’s not that unusual for us but you expressed it so eloquently. Thank you for that. You have more experiences and feelings to come. I encourage you to find a grief share group in your area and make sure it is for the loss of widows and widowers only. Grief of losing a parent, child or sibling although devastating are different than grief from losing your spouse. It is a 12 week program and you can go through it more that once. It is an important step we must take. If you can find one in a church that would be best. They just seem to be better to me. Reach out to me any time. In fact why don’t you find me on FB and we can connect. Just look for Connie Norleen. And leave me a private message because the friend requests seem to get lost sometimes. 💕

[@trulee663]

@@connienorleen thank you Connie! I’m having a good smile watching your stitch fix fashion show. You are so cute and lovely. Yes I’ve already gone from size 12 to 8 and hope I don’t keep losing much more. I’ve heard of Stitch Fix. Thanks for sharing 💕

[@connienorleen]

LOL. Thank you. I have another one ready to publish as soon as I finish my thumbnail. And then I have a couple of videos I want to share some thoughts that are on my mind that I hope will be helpful. 💕

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

Awww I'm so sorry dear. Please mat God hold you close and comfort you. I just lost my husband too unexpectedly. I'm so very sorry

[@deborahrice4583]

Prayers for you starting a new life may your days be blessed

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much 💕

[@user-il4bc6ss9m]

Well done you for being so brave to talk to us about the sad loss of your darling husband. You are right in saying that the loss of your husband is far worse than losing parents. Your heart aches - it's heart-breaking. The grief goes on until the day you die. I'm longing to see my husband again in Heaven, eternally.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It is a hard journey that’s for sure. Thank you for watching. I hope you will subscribe join me in my journey! 💕

[@cumberlandquiltchic1]

I just came upon your channel. I lost my husband in April if 2013 I am 55 now. I don’t think I will ever be able to move on and replace thst.

[@cumberlandquiltchic1]

I tell ya what’s worse is you have to give up your home in 90days. Everything you want to keep needs to be arranged by a barge and a uhaul. You loose your spouse, you loose your home, you loose everhing.

[@shotpusher]

My husband passed 5/17/2022. He was 66 years old and so very handsome. We were together 36 years. It was as unexpected and he was at home with me. I’m heart sick. Just miss him so bad.

[@veenapulton1689]

Losing my husband is losing a part of me. It’s so painful. I have published a book titled Mon Gyneco Mon Guide. It’s in french. It’s all his work and the book is dedicated to women as my husband was a Gynaecologist. We studied in France. We returned to work in Mauritius. The book helped me to heal …. Thank you. Your video helps me a lot.

[@connienorleen]

Wow. That is awesome. What a tribute to your husband. 💕🥰💕

[@stayinpresent]

I am sorry for your loss. You had 57 years together! I am glad that you are in a group & sharing it out to people. I hope you are doing well. I searched for a video to share with a friend who is going through a similar situation. I hope your video helps her. God bless! Take care & stay safe.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Nima, thank you for your kind words. And thanks for sharing my video. I did these videos for two reasons. One for my own healing and also that I might also be able to bless another so thank you for sharing. ♥

[@pamwilliams7462]

I am going through the same experience! My husband passed on Jan.12 of this year from covid. I'm 70 and we were married 52 years. My problem is that I haven't grieved.

[@connienorleen]

Pam, please try to find a grief share group in your area and make sure it is for widows and widowers only. 💕

[@susandemarest1676]

Thank you Coleen, my husband died 8 weeks ago. He went into cardiac arrest in our driveway while attempting to take him to the ER. I performed CPR and called 911. But to no avail, so sudden, so unexpected.

[@connienorleen]

Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry. I know it hurts and you probably have a lot of questions for yourself and med staff. Sounds like you definitely did all you could. Prayers my friend. 💕🙏🏻💕. Come back here any time. I have a lot of my journey here. 🥰

[@catherinejoannides2229]

I guess it's something you never get past.

[@michellemolloy9365]

You're right about losing a piece of yourself. I'm feeling everything you are and I don't really have anyone that feels this way. My heart aches after two months.

[@harrygeorge3220]

Hello Michelle How are you doing today?

[@gailmargaretgarrepy8297]

Thank you for this video. You are helping us all out here who are going through it. You put into words what we are feeling and it's a good thing. It's been three weeks and it is awful. We are the same age. Thank you so much.

[@vernelllevingston1800]

God is with you God is your strength in your Refuge he is carrying you through this grieving process you have to take one day at a time one moment at a time you are just coming in to your New Normal when everybody's left and went back to their destination that is when you need someone at 3 in the morning nobody's available everybody is sleep cry out to the Lord he is your confidant and you can be a little upset at God in the situation just don't stay there ask God to show you signs why it was time for your loved one to go be present with him one thing I want to tell you God picks his good flowers to and don't let no one tell you how to grieve he'll scream do whatever you have to do be blessed be safe watch your surroundings when you go out for the first 3 months make sure someone is with you

[@Rubiastraify]

Thank you for posting. What a lovely love story. You're doing fine - all that you're feeling and going through is normal. Heal at your own pace, and yes - lean heavily on our Lord. He sees every tear.

[@freidafree810]

It's been a year and a half. 47 years together. I was with him and it was so peaceful. He was in the hospital in kidney failure. I honestly don't remember too much of the first month. So many things to take care of. I had been his caregiver. Gone is gone. Both of deep faith and that is a comfort that's almost unexplainable...however, I miss my very best friend. The man I could just lean into, and with no words be engulfed in love and understanding. Just be. I'm better, but I'm forever changed. I'm older, so no plans of anyone else in my life. He was my life. Each day is new and different. I just keep going forward. I have a needy cat that follows me around and I garden. Oh, how I miss his voice, his laugh, the sound of him breathing. Oh how I miss him taking my hand and gently squeezing it three times, which was a silent 'I love you'. I am so blessed to have known him and to have had him with me for most of my life. Until we meet again, my love.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Freida, I know your loss hurts. Congratulations on 47 years. And oh my gosh you were also his caretaker. So you really have a double loss, your spouse of 47 years and your job of taking care of him. 💕 So what now!! He sounds like he was a wonderful man. What are you finding to do now. Have you thought about replacing that job (responsibility)? Have you got any outside interests? I always recommend two things after our loss of our spouse. One is to join a grief share group, preferably in a church and preferably for the loss of a spouse only and not other family losses. The second thing is to buy the book titled “Widow to Widow”. This was so helpful to me. A friend sent me this after my husband passed. If you are on Facebook, come find me there so we can get to know each other better. Just look for Connie Norleen, I’m the only one. 😄.

[@freidafree810]

@@connienorleen I loved what you shared on your post. I'm a bit of an introvert...so I kept myself inside alot...then a year, same month, after he died I was in hospital with covid a PE in lung. Seems to be taking longer than I had hoped to get back to par, but trying. I will look you up. Obviously, Freida is not my name. Thank you for posting. We're very close in age, so it meant alot to hear from a peer. Thankful we have the Lord.

[@ninashelley5044]

I was happily married for 47 years. It's coming on 5 years this September. Thank you for sharing.

[@connienorleen]

Wow! Sorry for your loss. You are a little further along than some of us. Perhaps you can share some wisdom with some others here. I have continued to make new videos and if you want to suggest something I could share I am open to that as well. ♥

[@lizfernandez9292]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your videos are helping me so much. I lost my husband, my son's father, on August 19th at 7am. My son turned five this month. You made me cry so much. I just wanted to give you a hug. My Chuckie would have loved you. I'm 35 years old. Death isn't new. I struggle with substance abuse. It's so embarrassing. Especially because I'm a mother. My momma was just perfect, lol. She really was though. My dad and her fought every night. There was alot of abuse and toxicity in my development. Ive learned meeting Chucky just how blessed I was. Chucky had grown up in an orphanage. He got out before he became a teenager, but then that high og life just followed with probably the most traumatic incident in his life. Him and his dad got in a horrific car accident, and little 12 year old Chucky saw his daddy, who really he just met, take his last and final breath. I just feel like he never had a chance. It makes me so sad. I regret being such a bitch to him when I was just too much. I know I showed him what love truly was. The guilt will just not stop. After eight years I had broken up with him. We got back together. I loved him so much. We just weren't living together. I got so mad at him the last time that we saw each other. He had brought some stuff around me, and I told him never to come back. I never meant what I said. I did get to tell him I loved him in a phone call before he left us, my son and I. I've been doing the best I can with explaining it to my son in a way he may understand, obviously not too much details... Thank you again for your video/videos. I will pray for you. Please pray for me and my son. God Bless!

[@connienorleen]

Hi Liz, oh my, that is a lot. Praying for you. In your situation I do recommend counseling. You need to get through some things that will be much better with a counselor. You are strong and you can do this. That growth will benefit your son too. Blessings to you my friend. 💕🥰💕🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@teresauntalan6828]

I came across your video today (April 28, 2021). I too lost my husband in January of 2019. We were married for 52 years. The hardest part of my grieving is on our anniversary since we got married on Christmas Eve. Thank you for your video. I personally have been too proud to seek a grief group, but my Lord God has been with me. I'm moving on with the help of our Lord grace.

[@teresauntalan6828]

@@joeclement737 Thank you for your concern. I am doing well now. Still difficult at times but I have wonderful children and my Christian faith all who keep me up beat..

[@teresauntalan6828]

@Morgan Chase I am doing well and adjusting to a new life.

[@aliciafeaster6800]

Thank you for posting this.. I just happened to find it as I am sitting at home trying to grapple with the death of my husband. He died a little over 2 months ago of young onset dementia. I was widowed before 20 years ago but it was not a good marriage. Steve, the husband who just passed was the love of my life.. I can really relate to the things you said and as a Believer, I know that I would never make it without the Lord.. This is all so devastating and overwhelming even though I knew it was coming.. I just miss him so much. Thanks for your honesty and for caring enough to do this video.. I hope you are doing well now.. Blessings, Alicia

[@connienorleen]

Hi Alicia, thanks so much for sharing this. I am so glad you were blessed to find the love of your life! The loss is never easy no matter how much we know it is coming. It is so final. I am doing better now. Feel free to find me on FB. I am under Connie Norleen. We can chat. Have you checked out Christian grief support groups? There are some good ones out there. Visit more than one to find a good fit for you. I will be praying for you! ♥

[@cheryljune1603]

Mine passed suddenly from covid

[@martinfaber8565]

@@cheryljune1603 am sorry time will heal darling. May God give you comfort

[@gaydensikes]

You are saying exactly what I am feeling. I lost my husband four months ago. I cry all the time. I think I’m going to grieve myself to death.

[@connienorleen]

Oh my friend. I totally understand how you feel. Give yourself Grace. I didn’t even peek my head out till six months. The first year is not easy. I would recommend looking for a grief share group to join. See if you can find one in a church and make sure it is for losing a spouse and losses of any kind. The best ones are the ones that are specific. I also recommend going to Amazon and getting the book widow to widow. There are other great books out there but a friend shared that one with me and it helped me. Also subscribe to my channel and just go through them. I share my journey as I experienced it. 💕. If you are on FB, look for me there and request to be friends. Also I started a FB Group for widows. I would be happy to add you to that group. Just friend me and then leave me a private message that you want to join the group. You will love everyone in there. Awesome group of ladies. 💕 Great support. Praying for you my friend. 💕🙏🏻💕

[@1nancyisaacs]

That book also touched me so much after my Bob passed away. Thank you for sharing your journey. Blessings,

[@connienorleen]

Hi Nancy, Is good to hear that someone else enjoyed this book too. I’m sorry for your loss. It is a difficult time! 🥰

[@1nancyisaacs]

@@connienorleen One day at a time. I’m sorry for your loss, as well, Connie. Sending you hugs...

[@conniehaley772]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I lost my husband of 55 years, and I feel so lost and alone. I am struggling these days with doing anything at all, with the exception of playing with my sweet elderly dog I rescued three weeks before John passed. You have confirmed to me that I am not going mad after all, with the waves of anxiety and depression I am feeling. Just hearing you speak about your grief and feeling your grief with you has helped so much. God Bless. I know I will be okay, but it is going to be a long, long time.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Connie, I didn’t realized I had missed your share. I hope you are keeping up with my videos. I do share some tips and ideas and growth along the way. 💕

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Connie how are you doing

[@susiewelchman8658]

Hi Darling! Thank you so much for sharing your story on loss and grief of Gar 🌈 you are such a blessing! So appreciate your testimony and it is a journey i loved how you shared a little on how important your faith is in Our Saviour,as He is always near to the broken hearted 🥰 Thank you again for sharing your journey! Lots of love Susie 🌈💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@connienorleen]

Hi Susie, Thank you for your kind words. Yes Jesus is so important. I don't know how anyone gets through this without Him. ♥

[@paulinkawira6114]

I lost the love of my life three months ago and since then i have been in total darkenss, not knowing what next. My heart aches ,i miss him so much.

[@connienorleen]

Paulin, I am so sorry for your deep loss. There is no right answer for what to do now. I totally understand your feelings. I want to encourage you to 1) watch my other videos here specifically on widowhood, 2) find a grief group specifically for widows, there is more information about that in my videos, and 3) purchase the book I take about in my most recent video on regrets. And stay connected here and if you want to find me on FB just look for my name, Connie Norleen. I am the only one! Friend me and PM me and we can stay connected. It is a journey my friend. Not an easy one but one we must take. They want us go through our grief but not stay stuck in it. And no one knows how long that grief is. It really never ends but it gets easier. If you need to seek out counseling there is absolutely no shame in that. Please hang on and stay connected! ♥

[@normagiard3414]

Thank you so much! I lost my husband of 70 years, in August,2020 , so it is seven months now and I can relate to so many things that you said in your vidio. We were high school sweethearts also. I am a Christain and depending on God, as you are. So glad I found you.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much my friend. Wow you guys were together longer than us. ♥ I know it is hard and it is a journey and with God's help and direction we get through each day. I am on FaceBook if you want to chat or just be friends.

[@marynemedez3738]

I love your videos. I lost my Husband , of 73 years, on November 5 of 2023. Not a moment goes by that I don't think of him. You make me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for that. God Bless You and Keep You!

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for your sweet words. I’m sorry for your loss. And yes you will always think of him I hope! You are in my prayers. Are you on Facebook? If so I would like to invite you to our widows fb group. Just find me on fb, friend request me and send me a private message that you want to join the widows group and I’ll add you right away!

[@marynemedez3738]

@connienorleen I'm sorry we weren't together for 73 years. We were together 43 years, he passed a month prior to turning 77

[@heatherfling7820]

I am so sorry for your loss. I feel how you’re feeling I loss my husband 6 years ago on February 17th. Love and hugs. I know how your feel. My husband was my rock. Just know the loss has no time limit. My heart breaks for you. I’m still grieving and forever I will.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you! 💕

[@WannabeBalanced]

I loved this so much Connie. Thank you for your beautiful words.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Crystal. It has been very healing for me.

[@Willowgrey31]

Shed a tear or to listening to your story. My husband had a heart attack in 2006 and died and now my beautiful partner collapsed walking to his car in Brooklyn, New York a month ago and he’s gone. I’m not thrilled about doing this all over again but there is no choice. I am ready to push on now. Sending strength and love to you all.

[@connienorleen]

Wow!! That is hard. I have thought about that a lot. I have met someone I am enjoying the company of. But that same thought has crossed my mine. But then it is a price maybe for the companionship and not being alone. Praying for you my friend. 💕🙏💕

[@lvnnlvnlife3290]

Connie, you said it all so well. I just found this video, just popped up. My wonderful husband passed last October. We were married 49 years and also were together since we were 15. I am feeling all the feelings you would expect. I have not found a group of people yet. I know I need to do this. I also have lost both parents and you are so right about each loss being different. Thank you for doing this video I am going to watch more of your videos when I feel I can. I am 68 but sweetie was 66 when he passed. Just not ready for him to go.

[@connienorleen]

Wow. I hear you pain. Sounds like you are taking steps to take care of yourself. It does take time for sure! Thank you for watching this video and others. ❤

[@cathyparker8565]

Thank you for sharing

[@pamklus2061]

So sorry for your loss..God bless..🙏

[@dragonfly3517]

Thankyou.You are very much appreciated.God bless you.

[@debbiejohnson2789]

Such a sweet lady. God bless you. My situation is very much the same.

[@connienorleen]

Wow. So I went back to the doctor and said my surgery eye is 20/20. He thinks the problem is because of my other eye. It has not been operated on yet and I had mono vision before but I had two unhealthy eyes so now my brain is confused because one is healthy and one is not. I go back on Sept. 30th. He will recheck and set appt to operate on the other eye. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ I’m sorry you are going through something similar. 💕

[@davidscott6785]

Hello Debbie how are you doing

[@lc2296]

Thank you for sharing.

[@G-wk4gt]

You’re a beautiful caring woman and so helpful in expressing the complexities of grief. Your sharing is I’m sure helping tons of others, thank you 🙏

[@connienorleen]

Wow. Thank you! 💕🥰💕

[@G-wk4gt]

@@connienorleen Awww 🥰 You’re welcome and thank you ♥️

[@UmbrielliaMedia]

You're amazing, thanks so much for your outpouring and wisdom.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Albert. Thanks for watching.

[@nualanolan6271]

Thank you ❤️

[@evamaggard]

I lost my husband in 2016 .. I am over 70 years old and alone... I miss him and I hate the city I live in... This is 2021 and I feel lost and down...

[@connienorleen]

I'm sorry for your loss and I totally understand missing him and not liking where you live. And this last couple of years has not made it any easier on us. I really encourage you to find a grief support group for widows. The ones held in the churches are the best. There a more videos here that I have done. Check them out. They might bless you. This is a journey and every day is different. ♥

[@evamaggard]

@@richardbradshaw7830 I am 72 years old and I lost my husband in 2016 .. I am learning to take one day at a time and believe God is in control and Jesus loves me..

[@terryrouch3367]

Thanks for a very precious video Connie and sharing your heart. I lost my husband 6 yrs ago and can relate to just about everything you said. You did a great job explaining this journey. I’m so glad it’s beginning to get easier for you. Take good care!

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Terry! Thanks for watching my video and for confirming my journey. ♥

[@carolbair2160]

My hubby passed March 10 Jim had dementia for 6 yrs and we have bee married 62 yrs 9 months. I am still in a shock mode even through we drying will come but this is a heart breaker So glad I found you

[@noname-ye7zj]

Thank you so much for sharing this video, God Bless

[@rosefata2534]

Amazing video! Loved listening to it ❤️❤️🦋

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so very much! I haven't posted in a while. Getting back on it shortly. Thanks for your loving comment.♥

[@mariadefatima6469]

My husband of 43years just died 3weeks ago suddenly in my arms u can fell how I felt it's been hard to start again

[@charlie4955]

Thank you for sharing your story. Your strength and courage are Amazing, and you are helping so many of us in different grief stages. Hugs to you 🫂 ♥️

[@janetwilson8172]

Hi my name is Janet . Thank you for sharing this story,I lost my husband 3years come 10th ofAugust,.we were married for 57years,and still can't come to terms of that awful loss of never seeing him again . Many thanks again and wish you the very best xx

[@riccialessandro5810]

Sorry about your lost

[@kimberlymcv8408]

I lost my husband July 10 th of 2018 we had been together 26 yrs , Thank you for sharing your story and I am sorry for your loss

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Kimberly. And I'm sorry for your loss too. I continue to make videos for myself and others. I found that in making these for myself I was blessing others too. So I continue to make new videos. There are many here. Let's stay connected and grow together. ♥

[@charleslacaden]

"lose a piece of yourself" so much truth to that statement.

[@davidcarter9578]

Thank you for sharing your love story and feelings with us. It takes great courage to do this. It was a blessing hearing you speak so sweetly about this greatest of losses, that of your beloved husband and soul mate..

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Megan for those kind words. 💕 It is a journey for sure! I’m growing and getting stronger every day!

[@paulacroft6460]

This video blessed my heart. I lost my husband May 2; 2021

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much Paula. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it is hard. I have many other videos here that I have made for my own healing and I found they blessed others so I continue to make them. Let's stay connected here and you can always find me on FB as Connie Norleen. I am the only one!

[@Jean-td6tg]

Thank you so much for your lovely video. I am in grief for the loss of my Wife just four months ago. I will look for your other videos. Bill W.

[@catherinejoannides2229]

Thank you for your response.

[@joanyoder5880]

Connie I am crying with you as I am your shoes only I am 20 years older, we were high school sweethearts and knew each other from ages 14 and 15. We were married 73 years and my Raymond died on the 18th of February 2022. This Christmas I lost it over a box of Sees candy.. I cry most every night.

[@connienorleen]

Oh Joan, my heart goes out to you. Prayers for you my friend. 💕. I would like to invite you to join our FB Widows group. Find me on FB, friend request me and and private message me. Tell me you friend requested me and that you want in our Widows group. I’ll add you right away. 💕

[@njcruickshank6974]

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope with the passage of time you feel less raw and can once again feel contentment. xx

[@connienorleen]

Thank you so much. It has been three and a half years so things are much better but I still have moments.

[@michellemolloy9365]

God bless you! You're so brave to do this! I lost my soulmate and husband on April 5, 2021 the day after Easter. Much love to you!

[@connienorleen]

Thank you. I started this for me because I don't journal (wish i did) so I did this instead. I found it very therapeutic for me and I have since heard from so many of you that let me know that it has helped all of you too so I continue to do my videos on this subject as things come up and other lighter videos as well.

[@margiedimaranan306]

I just lost my Husband for 9yrs three days ago, I still can’t believe it, all I do now is cry and stay in bed, I leave for my work indefinitely.. I don’t know what to do now, his not only my Husband, He’s my BEST FRIEND, my soulmate, my comforter, my supporter and most of all HE is My LIFE... So I feel I die with Him😭😭💔💔

[@connienorleen]

I am so sorry for your great loss. I totally understand every one of your feelings. When my husband passed I just wanted to lay down on top of him and sink right inside of him and go with him. I slept in my chair for at least a month. I couldn't even consider going to sleep in our bed. My family and friends were of great help and comfort but it is a journey that we all have to go through in our own way. Make sure you see out a widows support group if any of them are meeting right now. If you want to find me on FB I would be happy to have a private chat with you. You can find me at Connie Norleen. Just do a FB search for me. I am the only one! Prayers for you my friend! ♥

[@janehavens3086]

When my husband died I wanted to roll back the grass on his grave and get in there with him. I could not see a single day in my life without him. Be kind to yourself. Your journey is yours alone. I had a wonderful neighbour who would just come and sit with me as a cried a river of tears every day for more than a year. If you are a believet, I took the Grief Share program and it really helped me. I also saw a counselor for a while and she helped a lot too.

[@mabakoenasekano8183]

@@janehavens3086 I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. Even though I have not lost a husband, I lost my father 29 years ago and miss him terribly. I don't think any amount of time a person truly heals, because because I truly loved my father and every year I feel his loss when his birthday arrives and the date he passed away. When my mother since she's 85 I don't look forward to being alone after she passes away, but I always cherish her even though we're apart. I started meditation and this has helped me a lot. Good luck with your life and may you stay blessed. Mabakoena Sekano.

[@lauraghiassi]

Thank you Connie for sharing your story. I have a lot to say since I have faced this tragedy twice. You have the world around you with your children and grands. Enjoy these precious times

[@connienorleen]

Hi Laura, Thanks for watching and sharing. If you are on FaceBook please come find me and send me a friend request. Then please private message me and let me know we met here. I also have a great Widow's FB page if you would like to join us there please let me know that too. And maybe you and I can chat by FB private message.

[@cindynok]

Hello, My husband is terminally ill, and after two years I have decided to do some research. You are calming and will be watching your videos. Thank you for sharing.

[@connienorleen]

Hi and thanks for staying in touch. I saw your comment on my recent video too. Let's grow together. ♥ I'm glad you are staying connected. ♥

[@Mr.Familiaoah]

Praying for your strength

[@mightymouse2098]

Thank you for your video. I was married 42 years and my husband took his last breath as I was giving him CPR. Ambulence was slow and nothing changed the outcome. I went to sleep a married woman and woke up a widow.

[@connienorleen]

Wow, it’s crazy how quick it happens. 💕I’m so sorry. When did your husband pass??

[@michelewilson592]

Thank you for sharing. I have had seven losses in the past six months. In August I lost my husband of 59 years. Like you it felt like and still does, that a part of me died too. I have joined a GriefShare group and I have the book you recommend. Blessings and Peace to you.

[@jeannebrandt4609]

I wish I could give you a big hug! Im facing widowhood some time in the next couple of years. My husband has been given a few years due to cancer. I'm trying to prepare myself for that eventuality. I also live is So Cal. Lived here all my life. Love it! and love you! I'm also a Christian! Thanks for sharing your heart.

[@pennieclinton6567]

Thank u. I just lost my father and I believe ur video will help my mom, his wife. My mom is 74 and they’ve were together 52 years

[@africaafrican8931]

My condolences,I.lost my grandma/ mama and I lost it,I even made a video about it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXe9q6edrKuXoKM

[@chadgolff6373]

Beautiful

[@patriciacly8698]

I like your videos I lost my husband two years ago and I can’t talk to no one about my loss so listening to you gives me comfort thank you

[@harrygeorge3220]

Hello Patricia Sorry about your loss mind sharing with me

[@BAWNBAWNBAWN]

You are an adorable sweetheart.. Thank you ❤️

[@connienorleen]

Hi Joniece. thank you for that. It's good to meet you. I hope you stay in touch and check out my other videos. And thanks for watching. ♥

[@sherryhamilton6374]

I loss the. love of my lifeMarch 18, going on 50 years💔 just had Covid shot two days before and think he had a blood clot and I found him in the kitchen💔

[@cruiseanthony6197]

Mmmm where are you from ??

[@terryhenson3350]

Your story is so much like mine its unbelievable. Thank you

[@connienorleen]

Wow! It seems many of us have similar stories! When did your husband pass?

[@suzierao2067]

Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. I lost my husband of 47 years and it has been so hard to cope with moving forward. I feel like my life is on hold, even though I stay very busy. I have tried the grief share group, but I found it hard to deal with. I pray that God will get me though this sadness. I have a lovely family and friends, but I find that I don’t want to talk to anyone. It is a strange feeling. I know I am a strong person, but part of me has gone with him. I do find crying is ok, get it off your chest and then wipe the tears away and get busy. I hope all that are grieving can move forward and find happiness. God bless you all.

[@connienorleen]

Suzie Rao Hi Suzie, I am so sorry for your loss. It is a process and I know some days we feel like we are sinking. There are many life rafts along our journey. God bless you for being strong. Come find me on FaceBook. I would be happy to chat with you! 💕

[@megkag1977]

Suzie I lost my wonderful husband on August 7th, we were together for 44 years. Some days, I don't want to even get out of bed. I don't want to talk to anyone, because I know that no matter what anyone says to me, is going to make me feel better. I don't know how I'm going to go on, till it's time for me to meet him in Heaven.

[@connienorleen]

@@megkag1977 Kathy, check out my thoughts with Suzie! I totally understand your thoughts and feelings. ♥

[@karenbognuda5070]

I liked listening to you. I am on a journey also. God bless.

[@cruiseanthony6197]

This life isn't that too balance... What journey? If I may ask" Greetings from the country. And you?

[@suzannewing7574]

THANK YOU for sharing your story! I am 70 and so grateful for sharing this. I worry night and day of being alone. I know I will one day and no one is there to help us. so THANK YOU from mt heart!!!

[@connienorleen]

Thank you Suzanne. There are lots of help and resources but in the end it is a transition for sure. We learn new coping skills. 💕

[@patsyabernathy600]

Connie thank you so much for sharing your loss and your faith in our Father. I too wonder how people without Jesus make it. I lost my precious husband 2 months ago. My whole world is changed and i realize I have to start over. But each day i ask God what do i do today to start anew? I have so much to be soooo grateful for. And that is my start. Thank you again for taking the time to show us how to be Jesus to each other through our loss.

[@connienorleen]

Oh Patsy, I'm sorry for your loss. Yes we do have to start over and it does take time and everyone's journey is their own. ♥ I love that we can talk to God for direction. Thank you for your kind words! Blessings to you my friend. ♥

[@Ingrid0410]

Hi darling!!! God bless you! My sister just lost her hubby yesterday 😢😢

[@connienorleen]

Hi Ingrid, please encourage her to find a support group in her area. It is a big help

[@lindalichtenstein8163]

Hi Connie, I just watched your video about losing a spouse. I lost my spouse when I was 60 unexpectedly. We were married 33 years 9 months and 8 days. It was May 21, 2022. He died on the operating table after getting anesthesia. Before the surgery, the doctor said it was a routine surgery and 99 percent that he would come out fine. So it was a total shock to me and my boys. However, 2 days before that, he said to me, I think I'm dying. You can have my car and you can give my clothes to goodwill. Until that time, he never complained about how he was feeling. I am simply amazed at how poised and in control you were on your video. The first 3 or 4 months, I was numb. Then it hit me hard. I didn't anticipate the hours of crying that happened. I had also decided to move back to New York to be closer to my family. We were living in Florida. We moved here in 2018. So I was grieving, packing, dealing with legal stuff, selling my car and moving all at the same time. I just had his celebration of life on May 18th which was very nice and well attended even after 2 years. Thanks again for making these videos. Sorry my message was so long.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Linda, Thanks for watching my video. 🩷 I’m sorry for your loss. Sounds like you went through a lot of changes in the beginning of your loss. I hope you feel your move back to NY was a good one for you. I’m so glad his celebration of life was well attended. Never apologize for sharing your story. My experience is we have to share our life changing story. 🩷. Have you attended a grief share group yet? It helps. Make sure it is for loss of a spouse only.

[@P.L.M.]

You are exactly correct. My husband died on June 19th, 2021, just last Saturday. I have never felt pain so, so deep. I am at the sick stage, I can't eat nor think.

[@africaafrican8931]

My condolences I lost my grandma/mama and the pain was unbearable I even made a video about it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXe9q6edrKuXoKM